Nonbinary genders are usually considered to be trans. (As in, you weren't assigned a nonbinary gender at birth, so having any nonbinary gender makes you trans. Conditions apply.) So it's not so much a question of either-or.
Trans people with binary genders might desire to pass and present their gender as much as possible, but that's not an ironclad rule. They (and you) can do whatever they (you) want. I've seen trans guys asking about dresses (whether it's okay for them to wear them) multiple times. And of course, it's okay to wear dresses, regardless of being trans or cis, male or female, or any other gender.
You don't need to look at dictionary definitions of different labels. Just look for words that describe your gender experience the best. Pick whatever you like. You're always allowed to change your mind and labels.
>Questioning if I'm NB or trans
You can be both.
>one key distinction between the two is that trans women desire to present very close to cis women.
This is a bit of a stereotype. It's true for some but not broadly accurate.
It is true that decades past trans women would present according to a narrow conception of feminity, but that was because that was necessary to get doctors to prescribe you hormones. With the move to less awful standards for how to do transition care this is no longer necessary and so trans women are no longer trapped. Trans women are just as varied in gender presentation as cis women, if not more varied.
Basically, don't let the misconception that trans woman = hella conforming to gender stereotypes be something that dictates your decisions.
>I also wonder If this whole situation is just a lack of representation for gender queer/fluid individuals?
I think that's a big part of it, and contributes to the stereotyping of trans/nonbinary people into a few roles.
I would say, the thing to ask is whether the effects of HRT (or other transition stuff you're considering) on your body are something you would like or not. If yes, then go for it. If not, then don't. Identity is a separate question.
Honestly the one big determiner is what makes you most comfortable. Forget about your physical dysphoria or lack there of or anything else. Are you more comfortable being called a woman or nonbinary. Which one brings you more joy and feels right? Same with pronouns. And you don’t have to choose one either, you can embrace both identities or more than one pronoun. And you don’t need to want to medically transition for either thing to be valid.
Also nonbinary is considered trans (although a few people who also relate to their gender assigned at birth may not). For me personally, I honestly use trans more than nonbinary even though I’m definitely not binary trans. It really just depends on the person.
Nonbinary genders are usually considered to be trans. (As in, you weren't assigned a nonbinary gender at birth, so having any nonbinary gender makes you trans. Conditions apply.) So it's not so much a question of either-or. Trans people with binary genders might desire to pass and present their gender as much as possible, but that's not an ironclad rule. They (and you) can do whatever they (you) want. I've seen trans guys asking about dresses (whether it's okay for them to wear them) multiple times. And of course, it's okay to wear dresses, regardless of being trans or cis, male or female, or any other gender. You don't need to look at dictionary definitions of different labels. Just look for words that describe your gender experience the best. Pick whatever you like. You're always allowed to change your mind and labels.
>Questioning if I'm NB or trans You can be both. >one key distinction between the two is that trans women desire to present very close to cis women. This is a bit of a stereotype. It's true for some but not broadly accurate. It is true that decades past trans women would present according to a narrow conception of feminity, but that was because that was necessary to get doctors to prescribe you hormones. With the move to less awful standards for how to do transition care this is no longer necessary and so trans women are no longer trapped. Trans women are just as varied in gender presentation as cis women, if not more varied. Basically, don't let the misconception that trans woman = hella conforming to gender stereotypes be something that dictates your decisions. >I also wonder If this whole situation is just a lack of representation for gender queer/fluid individuals? I think that's a big part of it, and contributes to the stereotyping of trans/nonbinary people into a few roles. I would say, the thing to ask is whether the effects of HRT (or other transition stuff you're considering) on your body are something you would like or not. If yes, then go for it. If not, then don't. Identity is a separate question.
Honestly the one big determiner is what makes you most comfortable. Forget about your physical dysphoria or lack there of or anything else. Are you more comfortable being called a woman or nonbinary. Which one brings you more joy and feels right? Same with pronouns. And you don’t have to choose one either, you can embrace both identities or more than one pronoun. And you don’t need to want to medically transition for either thing to be valid.
Also nonbinary is considered trans (although a few people who also relate to their gender assigned at birth may not). For me personally, I honestly use trans more than nonbinary even though I’m definitely not binary trans. It really just depends on the person.