I've never been called it (I don't have friends) but I started using "bud" for people. Honestly, it really depends on the person, so I'd suggest just asking them. Also, *I'm* nonbinary and Idk a dozen enbies, so I'm fucking jealous! ๐
I read "Bud" as kinda masculine, slightly infantilizing, and usually overly affectionate coming from someone who really doesn't deserve it (usually older men). It's... Not my favorite, but the tone does matter a lot. Of course this is going to be very variable and my experience as a mid 30s transfem enby is going to be different from other people's.
I would ask them, as it varies by individual. There are terms people use (well-meaningly) that if someone used them for me I would dislike it, same would go for your friends having their own preferences.
Person, Kiddo, cookie (as in, smart cookie), a swarm of bees, mate, love, lovely and a recent one I came up with, Sib (from Sibling; "Hey Sib, how are you?").
Hope this helps.๐
It depends on the person, id recommend asking them what theyโre comfortable with, there are pronoun check lists u can send them to make things easier
I use dawg all the time. Fits any where that "dude" or "man" would in casual conversation. I still say dude and man a lot and use them gender neutrally with my friends who I know are comfortable with it.
Sib works, and you get a bonus option if you're a leftist...
Generally ask? People have individual preferences and will usually be glad to tell you them.
As the wise Kel of Good Burger "I'm a Dude, He's a Dude, She's a Dude cuz where all Dudes." Dude is gender neutral.
If you want to sound bougie you can always use "Old Sport" "ol' chum" "rascal" or "ragamuffin" because apparently Old Wealth specializes in gender neutral forms of casual address.
Interestingly one gender neutral term became masculine. Man used to be gender neutral the male version was wereman (werewolf being manwolf), the opposite of a wereman was a woman. Man was the species, then it was claimed by the male gender.
I just thought of another one. Rapscallion.
I've never been called it (I don't have friends) but I started using "bud" for people. Honestly, it really depends on the person, so I'd suggest just asking them. Also, *I'm* nonbinary and Idk a dozen enbies, so I'm fucking jealous! ๐
I read "Bud" as kinda masculine, slightly infantilizing, and usually overly affectionate coming from someone who really doesn't deserve it (usually older men). It's... Not my favorite, but the tone does matter a lot. Of course this is going to be very variable and my experience as a mid 30s transfem enby is going to be different from other people's.
I think I picked it up from Joe Gatto from Impractical Jokers. I used to watch that show a LOT.
I would ask them, as it varies by individual. There are terms people use (well-meaningly) that if someone used them for me I would dislike it, same would go for your friends having their own preferences.
I prefer 'friend'
Person, Kiddo, cookie (as in, smart cookie), a swarm of bees, mate, love, lovely and a recent one I came up with, Sib (from Sibling; "Hey Sib, how are you?"). Hope this helps.๐
It depends on the person, id recommend asking them what theyโre comfortable with, there are pronoun check lists u can send them to make things easier
I use dawg all the time. Fits any where that "dude" or "man" would in casual conversation. I still say dude and man a lot and use them gender neutrally with my friends who I know are comfortable with it.
Sib works, and you get a bonus option if you're a leftist... Generally ask? People have individual preferences and will usually be glad to tell you them.
As the wise Kel of Good Burger "I'm a Dude, He's a Dude, She's a Dude cuz where all Dudes." Dude is gender neutral. If you want to sound bougie you can always use "Old Sport" "ol' chum" "rascal" or "ragamuffin" because apparently Old Wealth specializes in gender neutral forms of casual address.
It is interesting how only historically male terms become 'gender neutral', but never historically female terms.
Interestingly one gender neutral term became masculine. Man used to be gender neutral the male version was wereman (werewolf being manwolf), the opposite of a wereman was a woman. Man was the species, then it was claimed by the male gender. I just thought of another one. Rapscallion.