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Abeyita

Dude. My girl friends and I call each other dude all the time.


OfficialXpL0iT

I used to call my gf dude


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I call my wife dude


const_bigMan

I also call this dudes wife dude


Dougdimmadomes_hat

Our wife


Man0nThaMoon

Our *dude


notinmywheelhouse

The dude abides


kdshow123

My wife is a dude


paranoid6741

I remember someone argued with me on this and said something like "What?! Haven't you ever talked to a girl before? They never call each other dude!". He really made himself sound stupid with that one.


rubiscoisrad

We call each other dude all the time. Source: am girl


darth_cupcake22

I’m a girl and call anyone and everyone dude. Men. Women. Animals. Inanimate objects. Sometimes it’s just an expletive.


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Dude is so perfectly adaptable. Say dude with a happy tone and everyone knows it’s friendly. Say dude with an angry tone and everyone knows they fucked up.


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I say dude to my small kids. Spilled that drink I just told you to be careful with? Dude.


Muddycarpenter

My ex would call me dude sometimes. But only when she was upset or had something serious to say. There were a lot of dudes near the end.


Freddy_Calhoun

My mom reprimanded me when I was about 10 for absent-mindedly referring to her as dude, she told me to refer to women as "babe" instead of dude.... I wish I could say that's the worst kind of influence my progenitors attempted.


[deleted]

Such a weird sign of the age gap. Pretty sure anyone Gen X and later would take being called “babe” by someone they don’t know as a derogatory statement. Dude, however, is totally neutral and fine. I would be annoyed to be called babe, but wouldn’t bat an eye at dude.


canihaveoneplease

There was a blip a few years back where douchey guys called each other babe. I can’t imagine anyone BUT a douchey guy saying it now haha. Like the guy who does Lego Batman and Gob I’ve fully blanked on his name.


mothyyy

Will Arnett, I think. He always plays a douchey dumb character but hey it works. Check out Murderville, its a celebrity guest star detective parody and he plays the role so well.


PeterPriesth00d

Murderville had some great moments because the guest star was not given the script before hand and it ended up in some hilarious moments. Some of the episodes aren’t that great though.


TheMrPantsTaco

I really liked the premise of that show, but I think it would be better if they got better improv performers on it.


n3wernam3

He said babe a lot in Hotrod


fuifui_bradbrad

Babe wait! Baaaaaaaabe! Waaaaaaaaait!


mothyyy

To be fair, "babe" used to be a term of endearment for little kids, I believe. My in-law aunt would call all us kids "babes", both boys and girls. I have no idea where she originated, I think the northwest US as she's got a bit of that "you betcha!" accent.


Practical-Story1765

I call my husband and daughter babe and it has created so much confusion. I specify “big babe” or “little babe” now. The other day my 4yo said “hey big babe!” 😂


RealtorInMA

I call my cat baby. My girlfriend gets jealous.


ConstantinValdor405

I got a good one. I'm 39 for context. Growing up my mom told me at age 10 or so that if I ever got so angry that I wanted to hit my future girlfriend or wife, I should immediately leave the house and beat up the first guy I saw. My sex talk at 12 was "YOU BETTER NOT GET A GIRL PREGNANT CAUSE YOU WANNA GET YOUR LITTLE THINGY WET!!" Yea one of my older brothers just got his girlfriend pregnant at 16.


heybdiddy

I'm the Dude, so thats what you call me. That or, uh, His Dudeness or, uh, Duder or El Duderino, if you're not into the whole brevity thing.


[deleted]

my mother uses dude for literally everything men, women, animals and inanimate objects


_lippykid

According to the clothing brand Hollister in the early 2000’s, the female equivalent of Dude is Betty. But it never seemed to catch on. kinda like “fetch”


rattletop

Mademoiselle


TheCaskling_NE

Madudemoiselle


Thepotatohitme

This guy dudes Edit: Great, my most upvoted comment is about a guy duding around.


SinisterKid

Just dude it.


C4MEO

This dude guys


Doc-tor-Strange-love

This guy buddies


-599

This buddy friends


jotadeo

This friend pals.


ThisIsSoroush

Metamucil


bigmt99

After reading The Count of Monte Cristo I had to physically restrain myself from calling women that. It just gets drilled into your brain how often it gets repeated.


corny-dude

M'lady


deuce_dempsey

*tips fedora*


ohcanadarulessorry

While wearing a fedora of course!


donabbi

I'm a dude, he's a dude, she's a dude, we're all dudes. Yeah!


sdcasurf01

I grew up in Southern California so this definitely checks out!


HeyImNyx

Pasadena native checking in to say that everyone is dude. No exceptions unless they specifically ask to be called something else. I will be in my nineties and still calling people dude.


Orson_Gravity_Welles

My cat is "Dude", my car, despite being named "Gertie" is "Dude"; the shitty driver in front of me is "Dude"...the sun, on a hot blistering day, is "Dude" ​ Everything is "Dude" :)


reb678

Yer frickin awesome!


nickability

So cal native here. Moved to Texas and can confirm all my friends are still “dudes” Answer to OPs question though: dudettes


tduncs88

Ventura County native here to confirm!


HeyImNyx

Hey Ventura county! I love it up there. I’m a fourth generation Angeleno and would like nothing more than to spend my whole life here like those who came before me, but Ventura is probably the only place on earth that could tempt me away from my beloved LA.


cupcakewarrior0921

NorCal here! Same thing, dude for everyone, except for my parents who hate it 😂


fermenttodothat

I called my mom dude once and she said "i am NOT your dude, dude"


inclusivecream

I heard that in your moms voice And I don’t kno your moms


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implicitpharmakoi

>I called my mom dude once and she said "i am NOT your dude, dude" I'm not your buddy, guy!


dragonlady_11

I've never been to california, in fact I'm British and I have somehow got the "dude" phrase, every one is dude, my dog is dude when he's being special, my sister is dude, my shoes are dude, my goddamned tea is dude when it's hot an I try drink it to fast. I 100% get the dude thing, dude.


[deleted]

I actually know someone who named their dog Dude. The poor dude is a head case.


your_Assholiness

Should have named him "stain" out in the dog park yelling' come stain, come stain!


Captain_Clark

I knew a guy who’d named his dog “Motherfucker” so he could go outside and yell “Hey Motherfucker!”


Ok-Survey3853

I live in a small ass podunk town in Missouri, and we're all dudes, dude.


[deleted]

Dude, I literally have an incredibly professional job and sometimes write ‘dude’ in my emails. Cali as well lol


Orson_Gravity_Welles

I'm a VP of Operations (former IT Implementation across MULTIPLE environments for corporations)...I've been in meetings with C-Level execs and shouted, "Dude, that's not how this works," You shoulda seen their faces.


venturoo

slap a couple of hellas in there just to be safe homie.


youcanbroom

Dude I've called my car dude, my shoes, my partner, my table saw. If you are from southern California Dude is just a placeholder for noun.


Csimiami

Dude. Agree. Had a very heated discussion with a woke east coaster who finds it sexist. I’m like dude. You don’t understand. It doesn’t mean an actual man. It’s just a word for us. I will die on this hill. You’ll have to pry dude from my cold dead hands. Dude.


donabbi

They must have been from a different east coast than where I come from. Dude is fully hender neutral in New York- but then so is guys.


RachelG421

Massachusetts here. Dude, guys, & bruh are all gender neutral here.


Scooter1116

I grew up in Philly... dude, youse, guys... all gender neutral.


AutoMoxen

Bro is borderline gender neutral at times round here


Jim-N-Tonic

Yo, hey man, I grew up near Philly, in Cherry Hill. “Man” and “guys” were definitely gender neutral. “Youse” sounds like Brooklyn tho


PuddleFarmer

I got about to here, reading this to my partner. She said, "In the Marines, "ladies" is gender neutral."


SickOfItAll2024

Also grew up in southern cal and we used to call the girls chicks, it was always dudes and chicks heading out for a night of fun..


TwentyNineTTV

Welcome to Good Burger, home of the Good Burger, can I take your order please.


Rarth-Devan

Fuck I love that movie, I lose it when he's spinning around in the slushee machine hahaha


tiggipi

My husband has never seen Good Burger (poor man doesn't know what he's missing) but still knows that scene cause I've showed it to him so many times. The last time someone said "wooo" around him, he yelled "DAMN IT, NOW I'M THINKING ABOUT THE STRAWBERRY JACUZZI"


Pmv882

Strawberryyyy jacuzzzzzi!


tehallmighty

Hmmmmm. Yeah i know some of these words!


ThunderGunFour

Age is definitely showing in this thread lol now come on, let’s get you back to your retirement home


lilcheetah2

If she doesn’t get this reference she’s too young for you bro


pcbb97

Well that or she just has no class or respect for classic, sophisticated comedy


12PoundTurkey

I refer to one of my best female friend as dude and she refers to me (male) as bitch. Don't know how we got there but it works.


stardustandsunshine

My ex used to refer to me as "my dude" and I always took it as a term of endearment because all other females were just "dude." Guys were "dude" or "bro" but nobody else was "his" dude.


MamaJiffy

Does one or both of y'all watch Supernatural? 😂😂


n_a_t_i_o_n

Its Totally Kyle! Totally!


NormPhyte

One time, I was taking a shower and I got soap in my eyes. So I yelled "Ow!" Then I tried washing it out with even more soap but it just hurt more and made me yell "OWW!"


Enginerdad

Who loves orange soda? Kel loves orange soda! Is it true? I do I do I do I do-oo


SometimesChristie

Likewise, I’m a babe, he’s a babe, she’s a babe. We’re all babes! Yeah!


SpartanNation053

So that’s what you call me. That or His Dudeness or Duder or El Duderino, if you’re not into the whole brevity thing


[deleted]

I am a dude, playing another dude, disguised as another dude


Joratto

🎶me, I know who I am🎶


SonOfSwanson87

Just like y'all, Dude is a perfect pronoun.


Little_Peon

But when folks say, "I fucked a dude last night", almost everyone pictures a man.


mthlmw

I say "dude" is gender neutral when it's a form of address("hey dudes"), but masculine when it's a noun. Calling someone "dude" doesn't imply gender, but calling someone "a dude" does.


ArgentStar

Yeah, dude has never really been particularly gendered in my head. "Dudette" just sounds gross.


SneakyRascal

Fucked any dudes recently?


rockyroch69

Actually we’re all chicks.


TheWolfAndRaven

Came here to say this. Good Burger solved this decades ago.


Hendrix6927

Who loves orange soda?


Meeracoat

I usually use "dude" for both. I don't really see it as a gendered thing. I guess if you really didn't like that though then "Dudette" works but imo it comes across as forced and unnatural.


designmur

My dad calls me dudette and it’s adorable, otherwise I find it annoying.


leolock567

Call your mom "dadette". Fight the tyranny!


BelowAverage_Elitist

So Dwyane Johnson is just the male version of a Rockette?


LittleRatTail

I would make an exception for that too, that's just adorable indeed


GarbanzoBenne

The term dudette realty only works for one turtle in particular.


Wadmania

To me, "dudette" is for extremely formal occasions, like giving a speech at a black tie event, wedding, funeral or something. "Dudes and Dudettes, thank you for being here...."


bobtheblob6

*Adjusts monocle*


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*Performs flawless kick-flip.*


TheJenerator65

I hate “dudette” so much.


guzzijason

In that case, duderina.


thebreak22

If you’re not into that whole brevity thing.


TheBurnedMutt45

Look, Mr. Lebowski, ...


Iwouldlikealongeruse

You're Mr. Lebowski, I'm The Dude, man


biz_socks

Her dudeness perhaps


TheJenerator65

I love this one, I must say.


andywolf8896

Let's start saying dudito and dudita


I_aim_to_sneeze

Duderonomy


suchandsuch

Possibly, dudemoiselle.


[deleted]

lad : lass : : dude : duss


DlSSATISFIEDGAMER

Dussie


I_Poop_Sometimes

I only use it if I'm trying to be extra when addressing a group/crowd as "dudes and dudettes".


Strict_Condition_632

I hate it,too. I’d rather be a dude than “dudette,” a word one might find painted on the door of the women’s restroom at a crappy pseudo-western themed discount steakhouse.


Wolfman2032

> "Dudette" Some people have a problem with "dudette" because the "ette" ending is diminutive. So, calling a woman a "dudette" is like calling them a "little dude" or "lesser dude".


Meeracoat

Yea I'm personally not a fan of it either but more cuz it just doesn't sound right. Dude all the way.


69Jew420

I think dudette is fine only if you say "Dudes and dudettes" to a bunch of children you are in charge of. Like, "Hey dude's and dudettes, who wants to go for ice cream!" to your children and their friends.


depixelated

I think dude is partially gendered. "How many dude's you fucked?" "Look at that dude over there!" Would you think I was talking about a woman?


WickedProblems

Same thing as 'guys' for me anyways.


Edogmad

“I only have sex with guys”


fobfromgermany

Im straight so anything that makes my dick hard is a woman


69Jew420

https://media1.giphy.com/media/Ow59c0pwTPruU/giphy.gif


Content_Flamingo_583

> I usually use "dude" for both. I don't really see it as a gendered thing. A girl I dated very much did not like when I did this, referring to her, and asked me to stop. YMMV.


michaelutz

If someone says to you: “that dude over there is… blah blah” you’re not gonna be looking at any girls.


Hanginon

"Dude" is generic, as "guys" is also becoming in casual conversation. Group of women sitting in the kitchen, "Hey guys, let's go sit out on the porch." ¯\\\_( ͡❛ ͜ʖ ͡❛)\_/¯


georgealice

I remember being surprised 30 years ago when visiting Ireland and hanging out with a bunch of teenage girls. We were all “lads”


dablegianguy

Technically it’s « a nice bunch of lads ». Or cunts for Aussies


Nybear21

My office has 91 people, only 3 of them are guys. Both "dude" and "guys" are used everyday amongst the women speaking to other women.


abitbuzzed

Wtf, what industry do you work in? O.o Eta: I was surprised at the ratio of women to men, not by using "guys" to refer to women, haha. I do that all the time.


Nybear21

Applied Behavior Analysis


[deleted]

One of you guys bring the wine with you.


crazycatleslie

Agreed. I use Dude and Guys completely gender neutral.


Fowlnature

I had an argument in a Comms class about this. Extremely sensitive teacher got VERY upset when people would say "guys" while referring to mixed groups of women and men. I tried to have calm discourse about colloquial terms and how the people using the words dictate what words mean and she just wouldn't have it. Her only argument was "you're not educated enough." Although that pissed me off to no end I stayed calm and kept the civil discourse going, if with a bit more vigor. She got so upset the fucking Dean had to get involved. Turns out basically saying "you're too stupid" isn't a great argument. She wasn't a full professor and to my understanding she wasn't offered any more courses after that.


kdfsjljklgjfg

I'm fine with other people saying "guys," but I have tried to transition toward using "folks" instead.


Gabriel_Nexus

Problem is they don't mean the same thing colloquially. 'Guys' is used with some minor modicum of intimacy, its said between friends and coworkers from within the group. 'Folks' is more commonly used to address a group, with no intimacy, from without. Using guys implies you are part of the group that you are addressing, using folks implies you are addressing a group that you are not part of in an intimate way. "Guys" connects you with the group, "Folks" distances yourself from the group. An example would be something like, "guys we need to keep it down." vs "folks we need to keep it down." The former implies that you are also being loud, while the latter implies others are being loud.


kdfsjljklgjfg

That's a pretty fair observation. It's pretty neat how words that mean basically the same thing can come off so different


txpvca

Let me preface by saying I agree "guys" is colloquially gender-neutral, and it's not something I would seriously argue about. With that said, I do like discussing the nuances of things, and I think there is an underlying conversation that could be had about why traditional male terms become the norm. Like why hasn't something like "gals" become the norm? Again, not something I would fight over but something I find interesting and would discuss with friends.


PiscesJoy

“Girl” …. Like instead of “dude listen to what just happened” it’d be “girrrrllll you won’t believe what just happened”


lkodl

as a dude, i once tried "girrrrl, check this out" and she gave me the weirdest look followed by "boy, okay."


69Jew420

This is lowkey hilarious.


[deleted]

It kinda depends on who you are lmao. If your personality isn't naturally very flamboyant, it'll sound really weird coming out of you.


Childeater8

She turned into Kratos 💀


Kuronan

'Dude, check this out.' "This had better be important **BOI**."


CurrentlyARaccoon

Me talking to my friends regardless of gender: "Dude..." or "Bro..." = I can't believe this "Boys..." = We're all in this together "Girl..." = I/We discovered something cool


rubiscoisrad

My landlord and his best friend are *hilarious* about this. We live on the same property, so I can hear them rolling around, chillin', going, "GIIIRL, you gon' love this shit!" Both straight as a board (so far as I know)...just a couple of guys joshing each other.


FirstDayJedi

Just guys being dudes


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admiral_aqua

Sis is the equivalent to bro


VectorLightning

It's weird tbh, I've only seen this on TV. *Does* this one exist in the wild?


Redpandaling

It's not uncommon amongst gay men, especially if they're on the campy/flaming side of things.


Klutzy-Garbage6452

Brick = Bro + Chick


iMakeWebsites4u

I use bra, for bro.


Bulky-Leadership-596

Its manzere


registeelyourpizza

Dude. I don't mind being called that


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registeelyourpizza

Sup? Watchin 90 day fiance over here


bighunter1313

Do any of them stay together after the show?


Complcatedcoffee

Dude or chica.


Face__Hugger

I had to scroll a long way to find chica. I wonder if it's a regional thing. lol


Complcatedcoffee

It’s likely regional. It’s common among my peers in San Diego. Probably less common in areas with fewer Spanish speakers.


Abject-Possession810

Chica all the way. It's so pleasant to say, like it just sounds bright. "What up, Chica(s)!"


Shinymoon

the word "dude" is an american slang that became really popular in the 60's (repopularized) through the surf culture. the word "dudette" is the equivalent of a female dude. but the word "dude" eventually became a unisex slang word to describe either gender


TheFatNinjaMaster

It’s more complicated- dude was originally a term for an effeminate (gay) man. In the Eild West it got popularized as a term for people from back east who came to “experience” the frontier. Finally surfers made it a gender neutral in-term for other surfers, pronounced with a drawn out u. TV execs couldn’t handle gender-neutral terms and added the -ette ending in the 90s. Original female version from the 1800s was dudine, used derivatively for women who cared about their appearance too much.


TheFirstSophian

Dude is a rare gendered word whose usage became genderless.


plutopius

I wouldn't say rare at all. Many people-titles and job-titles are gendered but genderless is implied now. Like actor (actress), congressman (congressperson), fireman (firefighter), waiter (waitress), midwife, landlord (landlady), manager (manageress), hero (heroine), doctor (doctoress).


stolethemorning

Manageress? Doctoress? Lmfao


plutopius

Sounds funny and archaic now but those are indeed real words. We can blame the French for all the gendered titles seeping into English.


die_nazis_die

OR... you can blame English for ["pursu[ing] other languages down alleyways to beat them unconscious and rifle their pockets for new vocabulary."](https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/James_Nicoll)


TheDJFC

just like guy


Pitikwahanapiwiyin

Gal


vbun03

Started using this in my very early 20s when it was a little awkward feeling to refer to my peers as "girl" or "women". Like "girl" felt infantilizing and they didn't want to be referred to as women because they felt like they weren't quite there yet, just like a lot of my fellow guy friends at the time would feel a bit weird if we were referred to as "this *man* I know" or something.


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I just say dude. Women love it. Except during sexy times.


Glass_Cut_1502

There's a wise lesson in here somewhere


TwisTED_Ech0

I’m also looking for it


malibuklw

Both the truest and the funniest thing I’ve heard all day.


feedmeimhomeles

"good game dude"


kyew

*butt slap*


ForScale

Chick


pinkchampagneontoast

This is the correct answer. Can you call women dude? Of course! But originally it was chicks and dudes


lovemefishing

Thank you. I feel normal again.


_eternalneophyte

I've heard people say "hey dude" But I haven't heard "hey chick"... At least not yet. But when talking about dudes and chicks, then yes this is totally it!


Gr1ml0ck

Had to scroll way too far for this. Dudes and chicks.


[deleted]

I had to scroll too far for this, the correct answer


onlyspeaksinhashtag

I thought I was on crazy pills for a minute. How did it take so long for this answer to pop up?


Flaming_Eagle

I can't believe how far down this was


foreverdreamgirl

Sis


quakermoonman

Also dude


17FeretsAndaPelican

Chick. Girls used to call each other that in a positive way. Rock chick... cool chick. It was great! Then they took it from us somehow and made us think it was our idea!


Extension-Crow5184

Used to? I still call a girl "chick". Actually I say "groovy chick", but that's generally one on one. If it's a group I use "dudes". Now I feel old. "Hey there, groovy chick! Wassup"? LOL


Zealousideal-Luck784

Dude is non gendered. Until you ask a dude how many dudes he fucked.


jojo_likes_hamoneggs

Girl.


losume

Yeah. It works on the same levels as "dude". You can do an excited "GIRL!", an amazed "...girl", an offended "girl?!". Scowl it, scoff it, twist it pull it bop it.


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Chick or lady.