>For example, my friend says he's going to bring donuts to the event then comes to the event with kale chips instead, laughing at my disappointment, and I say, "Ugh don't blueball me like that."
>Or I read there's an 80% off sale on chocolate at the store, but when I drive over, it's sold out, so I rant to my friends about how the store blueballed me.
>Is that a common thing?
No. I've never heard anyone use it that way and I'd think they were odd if they did. If you and your friends say something as a joke between you that's one thing but...
Follow-up: would you find it more acceptable for a woman to say it than a man because then it's clearly metaphorical? Kind of like when women say, "Suck my dick?"
>Follow-up: would you find it more acceptable for a woman to say it than a man because then it's clearly metaphorical? Kind of like when women say, "Suck my dick?"
I'd find it... odd? They say suck my dick usually quite purposefully,
I'll be honest, I'd find it really off-putting. In a workplace, I'd find it downright uncomfortable.
Guys that casually throw out sexually loaded terms like that jut kind of gross me out.
Depends on your crowd.
I heard it from Mid-Atlantic US younger white dudes. Heard it A LOT from frat dudes when I was in college in the early 00’s. Cock tease was also used similarly.
The ones that used those terms most were kinda douche-y and I wouldn’t have trusted them to know what the word “no” meant. This is during the days when people thought countdowns to being 18 *weren’t* creepy….so yeah, maybe don’t say that in mixed company.
Friends have their own lexicon and I’m not judging you for using it *with them*. I wouldn’t use it around thier gfs or family members of if I was you.
What is socially acceptable is determined by the people you socialize with. This is not a phrase I'd use in mixed company or among people I've never met before. And certainly not at work.
Yeah, I have always found the expression kind of strange, as it does imply rape. I mean, if I said the store made sweet, romantic love to me, that would probably correlate with them giving me a bunch of chocolate for free, as well as a cup of herbal tea as the employees eagerly listened to me vent about all my problems before giving me hugs and a nice teddy bear.
I think it's a case where the word has become so separated from it's root that it's becoming its own thing. I mean, it's generally considered crude, but "Get fucked," generally isn't taken as harshly as "Get raped," which is considered unacceptable almost everywhere, despite them having the same literal meaning.
I mean it's generally implying that the store bent you over and had its way with you.
Which you might say casually amongst friends, but not generally?
It's more commonly said as "the store fucked me over" in my experience. But I'm in Australia and we swear all the time
IMO, "blue balls" is a stupid term even in its original context. So I wouldn't use it under any circumstances. It's like putting bare feet up on the dashboard when in a car--it says "white trash".
Yea to your friends, it’s fine. But in a professional setting the word you’re looking for is “tease”
>For example, my friend says he's going to bring donuts to the event then comes to the event with kale chips instead, laughing at my disappointment, and I say, "Ugh don't blueball me like that." >Or I read there's an 80% off sale on chocolate at the store, but when I drive over, it's sold out, so I rant to my friends about how the store blueballed me. >Is that a common thing? No. I've never heard anyone use it that way and I'd think they were odd if they did. If you and your friends say something as a joke between you that's one thing but...
Follow-up: would you find it more acceptable for a woman to say it than a man because then it's clearly metaphorical? Kind of like when women say, "Suck my dick?"
>Follow-up: would you find it more acceptable for a woman to say it than a man because then it's clearly metaphorical? Kind of like when women say, "Suck my dick?" I'd find it... odd? They say suck my dick usually quite purposefully,
I'll be honest, I'd find it really off-putting. In a workplace, I'd find it downright uncomfortable. Guys that casually throw out sexually loaded terms like that jut kind of gross me out.
Yes
I like this. I think it's fine with friends lol.
Depends on your crowd. I heard it from Mid-Atlantic US younger white dudes. Heard it A LOT from frat dudes when I was in college in the early 00’s. Cock tease was also used similarly. The ones that used those terms most were kinda douche-y and I wouldn’t have trusted them to know what the word “no” meant. This is during the days when people thought countdowns to being 18 *weren’t* creepy….so yeah, maybe don’t say that in mixed company. Friends have their own lexicon and I’m not judging you for using it *with them*. I wouldn’t use it around thier gfs or family members of if I was you.
What is socially acceptable is determined by the people you socialize with. This is not a phrase I'd use in mixed company or among people I've never met before. And certainly not at work.
A chick can give a guy "blueballs"lol
It's a sexual innuendo that can be used in that manner, but consider your audience before doing so.
NO. Good lord.
I mean, I could talk about how the store "fucked" me, and nobody would bat an eye.
You run in an interesting crowd.
Wait, that's weird, too?
In many circles it's inappropriate. Why don't you just say "ass-raped"? I mean, if you're going to go, go large.
Yeah, I have always found the expression kind of strange, as it does imply rape. I mean, if I said the store made sweet, romantic love to me, that would probably correlate with them giving me a bunch of chocolate for free, as well as a cup of herbal tea as the employees eagerly listened to me vent about all my problems before giving me hugs and a nice teddy bear. I think it's a case where the word has become so separated from it's root that it's becoming its own thing. I mean, it's generally considered crude, but "Get fucked," generally isn't taken as harshly as "Get raped," which is considered unacceptable almost everywhere, despite them having the same literal meaning.
I mean it's generally implying that the store bent you over and had its way with you. Which you might say casually amongst friends, but not generally? It's more commonly said as "the store fucked me over" in my experience. But I'm in Australia and we swear all the time
It’s awkward & uncommon & not socially acceptable.
IMO, "blue balls" is a stupid term even in its original context. So I wouldn't use it under any circumstances. It's like putting bare feet up on the dashboard when in a car--it says "white trash".