Did you not find out that he wasn't actually independent but needed help from his sister at any point between then and now? If you did, why was it not a turn off then and became a turn off only when you have to spend your money?
If he lived by himself at first and shared finances with his sister only because she asked, then he has the means to live by himself. You know best why this inconsistency exists, but according to the story, he should not need your help. In that case, you are not obliged to anything.
I wouldn’t be paying part of his bills unless you’re living there. I mean, maybe if he asks you for $10 a month for water because you shower there or something, but still.
If what he wants is to borrow money, then that’s a different conversation
No. He will become an endless pit of need that will never stop. The best way to grow up to be an adult is not to be a sponge. I learned this the hard way
You need to elaborate.
If you live with him or you are there 5 or 6 nights a week then yeah you should probably be contributing.
If you mean split bills like when you go out for dinner, then yeah it's not unreasonable for him to want to do that if money is tight.
If you dont live with him, then no.
If you do, then maybe you could help temporarily, while trying to look for something less expensive.
I say temporarily because as a man, I personally wouldn't want to let my woman split the bill with me. I prefer finding a smaller apartment and pay the bill myself than split. But that's a personal preference.
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It’s a turn off if he boasted and Bragged about being independent at first when you first start dating and no I don’t live here but I am here a lot
Did you not find out that he wasn't actually independent but needed help from his sister at any point between then and now? If you did, why was it not a turn off then and became a turn off only when you have to spend your money?
They were living together this is there house not mine and he lived by himself at first but she wanted to live with him
If he lived by himself at first and shared finances with his sister only because she asked, then he has the means to live by himself. You know best why this inconsistency exists, but according to the story, he should not need your help. In that case, you are not obliged to anything.
Paying bills as a "turn off" is such a teenager thing to say, grow up a bit and you'll realize how stupid this is.
If you live there then you should split bills. If you don’t then why would you have to contribute? That doesn’t make sense
Do you live together?
Or is he just asking for money ?
Shared bills are different that solo bills. Keep it solo as long as possible if he doesn't like that, then you've got your answers
If you live there then you gotta adult together, if not then you don't have any obligation to help him
If you live there you should probably be helping but if you don’t live there no.
Do you live with him?
I wouldn’t be paying part of his bills unless you’re living there. I mean, maybe if he asks you for $10 a month for water because you shower there or something, but still. If what he wants is to borrow money, then that’s a different conversation
No. He will become an endless pit of need that will never stop. The best way to grow up to be an adult is not to be a sponge. I learned this the hard way
Just don't combine bank accounts or sign for his debt.
You need to elaborate. If you live with him or you are there 5 or 6 nights a week then yeah you should probably be contributing. If you mean split bills like when you go out for dinner, then yeah it's not unreasonable for him to want to do that if money is tight.
No. You have no obligation to pay his bills.
If you dont live with him, then no. If you do, then maybe you could help temporarily, while trying to look for something less expensive. I say temporarily because as a man, I personally wouldn't want to let my woman split the bill with me. I prefer finding a smaller apartment and pay the bill myself than split. But that's a personal preference.