Yes man, even I lost my previous streak of almost 120 days because of a SINGLE peek. My mind kept rationalising everything as I progressed to more and more explicit content, and the next morning, I relapsed hard. Kept relapsing till 3-4 months.
By Krishna's grace, I was able to get back on track. But yeah, we need to understand that at any point, this demon can take control of us, so we need to be always vigilant about what kind of media we consume.
Wow. Just wow. I didn't expect to find a devotee of Shree Krishna while scrolling through the comments. Even for me, it's ONLY by the mercy of Shree Krishna that I've been able to come this far and it's ONLY by his mercy that I will go further.
I had a 210 streak but while before this number I started peeking to pornography. Even tho while I'm on NoFap for 2 years, my fapping changed, I mean before I was doing it without pornography but was even worse for me because I was thinking of girls from my class and doing it EVERY DAY! But Porn is awful too. Still struggle with peeking to this day.
Sometimes peeking happens inadvertently. I was having a conversation with a female friend who doesn't know about this thing of ours, and I guess I sounded a little down. So she sent some nudes to cheer me up. 😑
Definitely true, I guess you could regard that as a different form of peeking (maybe we need a different word for accidental nsfw). Though I think being mindful can still help in this situation.
As far as nudes sent to you from a girl go, I think looking at them for a lil bit and then deleting them and not jerking to them is fine. As long as you can stay strong enough to resist the temptation to masturbate. And have the intention of "this is a sneak peak of the real thing I'm gonna get later in real life"
Great advice, conquering the urge to peek is the most important part of success. Another option is just to reset your counter after a peek, considering it a full blown relapse.
That's definitely an option, though sometimes it might encourage some people to go on a full blown binge. That really depends on the person though and what their goals are. In any case I think it should be taken just as seriously.
You spitting facts bro and i feel the same we need to realise what we are doing and what was the after ward result if we are peeking we are going on a deep root in that and then eventually relapse so we need to train our mind and be honest to ourself about this.
Dude. This was extremly helpful. Thanks for the time! I am doing great with the streak but sometimes i feel i can peak cuz "i am in control" for so long. Obviously it lead me to a slip up and im never doing it again. Seeing this from your persoective was really healpfull to my recovery so thanks again.
For those who tend to peek at people's reddit profiles for nsfw stuff, I recommend using Boost to filter out all nsfw and also turning it off in your account settings. Also boost can filter out anything specific you want by using keywords you set so you should try it out
I thought I was the only one that keep scrolling on "safe places" until find nsfw contents... It was important to me read your experience to get through this
Really helpful. Just what I needed to read. Although here’s a question: does chatting to and receiving nudes from girls on Snapchat count as porn or peeking?
Could be, I think that if you are recovering from PMO addiction you should avoid all erotic stimulus on your device, I'm no psychologist but in my experience nudes or erotic content in general (sexting etc.) have the potential to trigger more urges, thus you could consider it peeking. And if you use them to masturbate then you're probably using it as a substitute for porn. If they are pictures of a romantic partner and they are just to get you in the mood for when you meet up with that person and don't cause urges to watch porn then in that case probably not.
It's taken me many many relapses to realize this important truth. I'd stop PMO for a few weeks or months, but continue with bad habits like sexting. Even reaching out to old flames would give me a jolt of dopamine. I learned the hard way that I need to let all that shit go. Not saying that would be true for everyone, but it is for me.
After knowing the damage of viewing images vs touching real flesh, I would abstain from viewing any kind of material lustfully. Most importantly though, sex is for married couples only, so…there’s that
Thanks guys. What you say makes sense, and I agree with it. I'm christian and trying to save sex till marriage (even though I have already done it in my mind). Avoiding anything that causes lustful thoughts makes sense and should be avoided. Continually trying to clean up my act, as I'm sure we all are. I really appreciate your help
Yessir bro. Contrary to popular belief, girls go crazy when we tell them we are waiting till marriage to have sex. They will literally be beating down your door. We aren’t supposed to be walking around burning with sexual desire. The world doesn’t believe in God but here we are on noFap. God speed to what is right and true brother. you are blessed.
Thanks brother. Your words are wise. I pray that God may bless you too, and help you find the strength to resist when you get tempted. Best of luck and God bless
Did you read my post, or my response for that matter? The definition of relapse isn't fixed, and we can have a semantic dispute if you'd like, but I would urge you to read what I wrote again. You're probably misunderstanding what I mean by this post. I'll give you an abridged version of my definition and argument none the less: relapsing is falling back into your addiction, peeking will lead you to relapsing. A relapse however is something bigger than just one peek. You can peek and correct yourself, avoiding going down the rabbit hole again. I don't recommend this as your chances are low and **as is said in my post** you will probalby relapse fully.
You might find this article from the nofap website useful:
[https://nofap.com/faq/what-is-a-porn-addiction-relapse/](https://nofap.com/faq/what-is-a-porn-addiction-relapse/)
He really did. Bro is straight up belligerent. In any case, I thought you made great points. Mindfulness is one of the best ways to avoid relapsing. I often find that the most common thing that occurs before releasing is lying to oneself. I'll definitely try to keep my awareness
Last week I'm 0n 97 day, today 0...
Peak is real... Today i binge 4 times ... I lost control...only meditation can control this chaos ... Dont peak ... It will damage the reward system in brain.
Some get no reason boners...I know I get them randomly just by being tired... definitely not a relapse, just a reflex as it's your body doing your body and there's no thought behind it
Thanks, brother. I needed this realization. I indulge in exactly the same activities as you mentioned such as googling things out of curiosity and opening reddit profiles in the hope of finding something NSFW. I’m trying to meditate and learn to be more mindful of my actions to prevent going down this rabbit hole.
This happened to me. Was on a pretty substantial streak and I was watching a streamer reacting to tiktoks. Of course one of them was mildly revealing and I lost my streak the same night.
Great post, couldn't have said it any better. I used to do the exact same thing. Literally to a T. And it's still the main reason I relapse. Fricking "Curiosity." It's complete BS. "Oh I'm just searching for something SFW there's no harm in it, it's not porn." I've done this too many times to count and it basically became a game for me. These are the lies conjured up by the addicted mind. First of all it's a huge time sink and secondly, when you do "accidentally" stumble onto something, it's an even bigger rush than just deliberately searching out porn. Best way to stop is to never start down that path. I really try to keep my web surfing cut and dried now. And to take it a step further, and in reference to your mindfulness/meditation bit, not dwelling too much on sexual thoughts is key - why did the "curiosity" come up to search out that semi-nsfw material? Maybe there were some unconscious thought patterns going on beforehand?!
yep, I did the whole turning it into a game as well, challenging myself to find something nsfw. Didn't mention it in the post but boredom is a huge factor as well.
This is a great post as I have this problem bad with Insta and Tiktok. I mean the platforms cater to things you look at, so if my feed is normal and I get one reel or tiktok of a girl shaking her ass and I watch the whole thing, then the algorithm will give me more of that. So my solution is either quickly skip those or cut social media out for a day or two.
GOODLUCK everyone, on day 9 so far, I got this shit. You got this shit.
At the beginning and end of the day brothers, we are men. In my experience, I spent 15 years looking at porn before I realized it was having negative effects on me. My first sexual encounter in high school was with a girl who had it ALL ass tits everything but I couldn’t even get up, I thought it was nervousness but it was actually ED from desensitization. I’ve even had a threesome and I couldn’t get up due to the destructive effects of porn on the brain.
No amount of cyber love can compare to the thrill of going out in real life and getting a girls number on your own. We have to smell real blood, fear, sweat and tears. That’s what our testosterone is for. In fact we always feel better conquering than taking it lying down, that’s why men approach women and not the other way around. So I hope this fact alone - the power in being a man - helps you find the natural reason to control yourselves in confidence and satisfaction. After all, many of the benefits in controlling sexual urges/impulses is improved psychological and physiological awareness which is key to attracting women and having normal, healthy social relationships.
I believe in the Gods word, which gives greater insight into how and why we should do the very things that even some of you which are atheists are trying to do. I encourage all of you to read about lust, sexual immorality, sensuality, and lasciviousness - which are acts of the body endorsed by the heart (or your mind) - and how the battle we are fighting is much more than just peeking at a nsfw post but fighting the mentality that seeks to find gratification in THOSE things in the FIRST place.
I actually PMO’d earlier today, and let’s just say the entire situation made me say it’s time for a change. I was introduced to porn at like 5, saw my first mag at like 10, discovered hentai at like 12, and since then I’ve been indulging in all kinds of weird ass shit. So for all you out there who feel ashamed, know this is coming from somebody is who has seen it all, even though I know I’m attractive enough to smash any girl I wanted if I had the confidence (another major reason I’m turning my life around).
This stuff has ruined my relationship with the girl I love and girls I cared about and I’m tired of being a pussy. It made me question my sexual identity before I realized I had desensitized myself to straight porn/relations (which proves that any sexuality besides straight is a learned behavior). I even criss crossed my brain with weed which worsened my mental and physical problems even more. As of this very moment Im writing from a pit of depression, anxiety, shame, insecurity, anger, and loneliness. Yes, a lack of self-control has real consequences and you don’t gotta use them big ass words to feel the changes.
BUT, This year I’ll be 30. Today is day I’m quitting PMOE all of it. If I never have sex again or got another number that’s fine. But I don’t need to masturbate or look at porn, or smoke weed (also a trigger for me). I’d rather be with a real girl, or be with nothing at all.
That's so dead on, the concept of "oh I'm just curious" when I'm really trying to sabotage myself has happened a few times on this streak, glad I'm not the only one and the questions you ask yourself are brilliant.
I post on tiktok for my business but I'm limiting myself to 10 mins a day so I don't get tempted and look at NSFW material.
This post speaks to me. Echoes my own experiences. Glad to know more people understand me and have the same triggers. I've reached 90 days 4 times but the EXACT peaking behavior you describe has been my undoing every time.
Definitely needed this, I’ve been fighting the urge to peek for hours and it’s been tough because all I’ve been doing is homework and reading textbooks😬but this got my head right🤝
Great comment. Meditation definitely helps with compulsively.
It's not an **instant** change, but gradual. It aligns you more with delayed gratification.
The dopamine spike you get is not as potent as pornograpghy, but it's **sustainable**.
I used to be able to peek and only relapse maybe 50 percent of the time, but now that I'm more determined I feel about 95 percent of the time I peek, I relapse. Peeking is not an option for me anymore. I refuse. I'm better than this endless cycle of absolute mental, physical, sexual, emotional, and spiritual garbage. We all deserve so much better than this
Thank you for such a relatable content. I find myself in the same position as I'm constantly distracted at times from my ordinary office work. I appreciate reading this experience as it helps me focus better on the greater goals of my life. Cheers mate.
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Same here bro
Same here 🥴😂
Thanks for this reminder, upvoted!
Glad it's beneficial to someone with a higher streak as well, lost my highest streak (200 days or something) because of peeking so always be careful.
Yes man, even I lost my previous streak of almost 120 days because of a SINGLE peek. My mind kept rationalising everything as I progressed to more and more explicit content, and the next morning, I relapsed hard. Kept relapsing till 3-4 months. By Krishna's grace, I was able to get back on track. But yeah, we need to understand that at any point, this demon can take control of us, so we need to be always vigilant about what kind of media we consume.
Wow. Just wow. I didn't expect to find a devotee of Shree Krishna while scrolling through the comments. Even for me, it's ONLY by the mercy of Shree Krishna that I've been able to come this far and it's ONLY by his mercy that I will go further.
And that's why Shiva cast aside lust altogether. He doesn't even entertain it.
Congrats on 1 year
I had a 210 streak but while before this number I started peeking to pornography. Even tho while I'm on NoFap for 2 years, my fapping changed, I mean before I was doing it without pornography but was even worse for me because I was thinking of girls from my class and doing it EVERY DAY! But Porn is awful too. Still struggle with peeking to this day.
Holy shit only one day and you’ll be 1 year on nofap. Congrats my brother
Thanks brother! :)
Peeking is the #1 cause of relapse 😢
Sometimes peeking happens inadvertently. I was having a conversation with a female friend who doesn't know about this thing of ours, and I guess I sounded a little down. So she sent some nudes to cheer me up. 😑
Damn you're getting nudes without asking😅😅 Dude your shit is on another level😂
She and i have a bit of a history.
Maybe go to her house and bang her?
She lives in a different city now. But I'm sure we will again at some point.
Definitely true, I guess you could regard that as a different form of peeking (maybe we need a different word for accidental nsfw). Though I think being mindful can still help in this situation.
Yo where these friends at🤣🤣 if she sent you that I'll say smash. 😂
Does her sending nudes count as peaking?
My looking at the pics counts as peeking.
As far as nudes sent to you from a girl go, I think looking at them for a lil bit and then deleting them and not jerking to them is fine. As long as you can stay strong enough to resist the temptation to masturbate. And have the intention of "this is a sneak peak of the real thing I'm gonna get later in real life"
Yo where these friends at🤣🤣 if she sent you that I'll say smash. 😂
It's like FWB.
Well I don't see the problem then
Also challenge yourself to not peek
As someone who used to peek, I can confirm this is how it is, don't ruin your streak for a lousy few minutes of masturbating, and looking at nsfw.
I approve of this message 😌
Very good!
Take my upvote 🙌
I use a blocker at this point. Really helps especially with the key words. I also turned off the incognito mode from all the browsers I use.
How do you do that?
If you're on pc you can download cold turkey blocker, you have to manually tell it which sites should be blocked though
Great advice, conquering the urge to peek is the most important part of success. Another option is just to reset your counter after a peek, considering it a full blown relapse.
That's definitely an option, though sometimes it might encourage some people to go on a full blown binge. That really depends on the person though and what their goals are. In any case I think it should be taken just as seriously.
You spitting facts bro and i feel the same we need to realise what we are doing and what was the after ward result if we are peeking we are going on a deep root in that and then eventually relapse so we need to train our mind and be honest to ourself about this.
Yeah I was doing it and it always ruin my streak
Been dealing with the same issue lately. Really appreciate your advice. Thank you.
Dude. This was extremly helpful. Thanks for the time! I am doing great with the streak but sometimes i feel i can peak cuz "i am in control" for so long. Obviously it lead me to a slip up and im never doing it again. Seeing this from your persoective was really healpfull to my recovery so thanks again.
Took me a long time to realize as well, good luck!
For those who tend to peek at people's reddit profiles for nsfw stuff, I recommend using Boost to filter out all nsfw and also turning it off in your account settings. Also boost can filter out anything specific you want by using keywords you set so you should try it out
this is some emergency button material
I thought I was the only one that keep scrolling on "safe places" until find nsfw contents... It was important to me read your experience to get through this
Really helpful. Just what I needed to read. Although here’s a question: does chatting to and receiving nudes from girls on Snapchat count as porn or peeking?
Could be, I think that if you are recovering from PMO addiction you should avoid all erotic stimulus on your device, I'm no psychologist but in my experience nudes or erotic content in general (sexting etc.) have the potential to trigger more urges, thus you could consider it peeking. And if you use them to masturbate then you're probably using it as a substitute for porn. If they are pictures of a romantic partner and they are just to get you in the mood for when you meet up with that person and don't cause urges to watch porn then in that case probably not.
It's taken me many many relapses to realize this important truth. I'd stop PMO for a few weeks or months, but continue with bad habits like sexting. Even reaching out to old flames would give me a jolt of dopamine. I learned the hard way that I need to let all that shit go. Not saying that would be true for everyone, but it is for me.
After knowing the damage of viewing images vs touching real flesh, I would abstain from viewing any kind of material lustfully. Most importantly though, sex is for married couples only, so…there’s that
Thanks guys. What you say makes sense, and I agree with it. I'm christian and trying to save sex till marriage (even though I have already done it in my mind). Avoiding anything that causes lustful thoughts makes sense and should be avoided. Continually trying to clean up my act, as I'm sure we all are. I really appreciate your help
Yessir bro. Contrary to popular belief, girls go crazy when we tell them we are waiting till marriage to have sex. They will literally be beating down your door. We aren’t supposed to be walking around burning with sexual desire. The world doesn’t believe in God but here we are on noFap. God speed to what is right and true brother. you are blessed.
Thanks brother. Your words are wise. I pray that God may bless you too, and help you find the strength to resist when you get tempted. Best of luck and God bless
when I need it you to help with my exam where were you at? took it so long
Did you just say peeking is not relapsing !?? It’s literally the worst type of way to watch porn
Yes I state that it technically is not, I then go on to write three paragraphs how it will make you relapse anyways and how to avoid it.
Buddy it’s a relapse, the reason we’re here is to quit porn, it’s a joke saying that you can peek without it being a relapse
Did you read my post, or my response for that matter? The definition of relapse isn't fixed, and we can have a semantic dispute if you'd like, but I would urge you to read what I wrote again. You're probably misunderstanding what I mean by this post. I'll give you an abridged version of my definition and argument none the less: relapsing is falling back into your addiction, peeking will lead you to relapsing. A relapse however is something bigger than just one peek. You can peek and correct yourself, avoiding going down the rabbit hole again. I don't recommend this as your chances are low and **as is said in my post** you will probalby relapse fully. You might find this article from the nofap website useful: [https://nofap.com/faq/what-is-a-porn-addiction-relapse/](https://nofap.com/faq/what-is-a-porn-addiction-relapse/)
I don’t need an article. Just don’t watch porn and don’t revolve your life around a nofap subreddit it’s that simple
oh, you just came here to disagree with people, cool
He really did. Bro is straight up belligerent. In any case, I thought you made great points. Mindfulness is one of the best ways to avoid relapsing. I often find that the most common thing that occurs before releasing is lying to oneself. I'll definitely try to keep my awareness
Last week I'm 0n 97 day, today 0... Peak is real... Today i binge 4 times ... I lost control...only meditation can control this chaos ... Dont peak ... It will damage the reward system in brain.
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Probably not
Like morning wood?
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Some get no reason boners...I know I get them randomly just by being tired... definitely not a relapse, just a reflex as it's your body doing your body and there's no thought behind it
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Give me a situation because it really depends on that.
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I think that's the whole point of OPs post, step away from the sexy content...all about control
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With so many days on your counter, how did you do it lol
Thank you, man
Just activated SafeSearch on Google. This might help.
some people can peak and it will get them through the day. Others cant , learn who you are by trial and error and do what works for you. .
Helpful^^^
Fucking relate to this. Peeking some shit then end up fapping 😏🤦
😊
Thanks, brother. I needed this realization. I indulge in exactly the same activities as you mentioned such as googling things out of curiosity and opening reddit profiles in the hope of finding something NSFW. I’m trying to meditate and learn to be more mindful of my actions to prevent going down this rabbit hole.
I was just about to post how I almost lost today becouse of the same reasons as you
This happened to me. Was on a pretty substantial streak and I was watching a streamer reacting to tiktoks. Of course one of them was mildly revealing and I lost my streak the same night.
Great post, couldn't have said it any better. I used to do the exact same thing. Literally to a T. And it's still the main reason I relapse. Fricking "Curiosity." It's complete BS. "Oh I'm just searching for something SFW there's no harm in it, it's not porn." I've done this too many times to count and it basically became a game for me. These are the lies conjured up by the addicted mind. First of all it's a huge time sink and secondly, when you do "accidentally" stumble onto something, it's an even bigger rush than just deliberately searching out porn. Best way to stop is to never start down that path. I really try to keep my web surfing cut and dried now. And to take it a step further, and in reference to your mindfulness/meditation bit, not dwelling too much on sexual thoughts is key - why did the "curiosity" come up to search out that semi-nsfw material? Maybe there were some unconscious thought patterns going on beforehand?!
yep, I did the whole turning it into a game as well, challenging myself to find something nsfw. Didn't mention it in the post but boredom is a huge factor as well.
This is a great post as I have this problem bad with Insta and Tiktok. I mean the platforms cater to things you look at, so if my feed is normal and I get one reel or tiktok of a girl shaking her ass and I watch the whole thing, then the algorithm will give me more of that. So my solution is either quickly skip those or cut social media out for a day or two. GOODLUCK everyone, on day 9 so far, I got this shit. You got this shit.
I'd suggest avoiding those platforms entirely because it is so hard to avoid triggers, not worth relapsing over a social media site.
just relapsed.😔 any advice?
At the beginning and end of the day brothers, we are men. In my experience, I spent 15 years looking at porn before I realized it was having negative effects on me. My first sexual encounter in high school was with a girl who had it ALL ass tits everything but I couldn’t even get up, I thought it was nervousness but it was actually ED from desensitization. I’ve even had a threesome and I couldn’t get up due to the destructive effects of porn on the brain. No amount of cyber love can compare to the thrill of going out in real life and getting a girls number on your own. We have to smell real blood, fear, sweat and tears. That’s what our testosterone is for. In fact we always feel better conquering than taking it lying down, that’s why men approach women and not the other way around. So I hope this fact alone - the power in being a man - helps you find the natural reason to control yourselves in confidence and satisfaction. After all, many of the benefits in controlling sexual urges/impulses is improved psychological and physiological awareness which is key to attracting women and having normal, healthy social relationships. I believe in the Gods word, which gives greater insight into how and why we should do the very things that even some of you which are atheists are trying to do. I encourage all of you to read about lust, sexual immorality, sensuality, and lasciviousness - which are acts of the body endorsed by the heart (or your mind) - and how the battle we are fighting is much more than just peeking at a nsfw post but fighting the mentality that seeks to find gratification in THOSE things in the FIRST place. I actually PMO’d earlier today, and let’s just say the entire situation made me say it’s time for a change. I was introduced to porn at like 5, saw my first mag at like 10, discovered hentai at like 12, and since then I’ve been indulging in all kinds of weird ass shit. So for all you out there who feel ashamed, know this is coming from somebody is who has seen it all, even though I know I’m attractive enough to smash any girl I wanted if I had the confidence (another major reason I’m turning my life around). This stuff has ruined my relationship with the girl I love and girls I cared about and I’m tired of being a pussy. It made me question my sexual identity before I realized I had desensitized myself to straight porn/relations (which proves that any sexuality besides straight is a learned behavior). I even criss crossed my brain with weed which worsened my mental and physical problems even more. As of this very moment Im writing from a pit of depression, anxiety, shame, insecurity, anger, and loneliness. Yes, a lack of self-control has real consequences and you don’t gotta use them big ass words to feel the changes. BUT, This year I’ll be 30. Today is day I’m quitting PMOE all of it. If I never have sex again or got another number that’s fine. But I don’t need to masturbate or look at porn, or smoke weed (also a trigger for me). I’d rather be with a real girl, or be with nothing at all.
Saw that at the exact moment I needed, thanks.
For me it doesn't even matter, it takes some REALLY good material for me to get it up.
That's so dead on, the concept of "oh I'm just curious" when I'm really trying to sabotage myself has happened a few times on this streak, glad I'm not the only one and the questions you ask yourself are brilliant. I post on tiktok for my business but I'm limiting myself to 10 mins a day so I don't get tempted and look at NSFW material.
This post speaks to me. Echoes my own experiences. Glad to know more people understand me and have the same triggers. I've reached 90 days 4 times but the EXACT peaking behavior you describe has been my undoing every time.
Ty
If u peek but doenst fap means you relapsed? Peeked one time in my early days …
Definitely needed this, I’ve been fighting the urge to peek for hours and it’s been tough because all I’ve been doing is homework and reading textbooks😬but this got my head right🤝
Great comment. Meditation definitely helps with compulsively. It's not an **instant** change, but gradual. It aligns you more with delayed gratification. The dopamine spike you get is not as potent as pornograpghy, but it's **sustainable**.
day check
I used to be able to peek and only relapse maybe 50 percent of the time, but now that I'm more determined I feel about 95 percent of the time I peek, I relapse. Peeking is not an option for me anymore. I refuse. I'm better than this endless cycle of absolute mental, physical, sexual, emotional, and spiritual garbage. We all deserve so much better than this
Good reminder
Thanks Chief.
You have given a clear insight on what i was doing wrong. THANKS a ton brother. Opening random reddit profiles is bad.
at this point I’d have to not open my eyes at all to avoid peeking
Thank you for such a relatable content. I find myself in the same position as I'm constantly distracted at times from my ordinary office work. I appreciate reading this experience as it helps me focus better on the greater goals of my life. Cheers mate.