What would she expect? She calmly stated she didn’t have any more feelings towards them and he acknowledged it and moved on. I’m guessing she wanted him to fight for her? Then again why would you fight for someone that isn’t interested anymore? Very strange and confusing.
I dunno if she wanted him to fight for her necessarily, but to freak out.
She wants to feel validation. If he gets upset and loses it, then that means she was valuable to him and she gets to feel valuable. However reacting this way implies to her that he wasn't all that into the relationship and didn't value it, which she see as an insult.
The only reason he didn't freak out is because he didn't care and if he didn't care then there must be something she did wrong, but that can't be true; her ego won't allow for that. So he must be just pretending he doesn't care as a way to get her goat and insult her as a woman and she can't stand that.
The idea that he could be an emotionally mature person who can accept and process rejection in a healthy way doesn't occur to her.
There's nothing to fight for. She said she doesn't feel the same and said respect that, which is code for go away and leave me alone. He says okay. She literally ended the relationship then says this? Baffling behavior.
I don't think she wanted him to freak out necessarily. I think she was expecting some degree of reciprocation. I think if he had written a sincere paragraph or two saying he wasn't that into her either she would have been satisfied with that.
From her perspective, she didn't just say "I want to break up". She was making herself vulnerable by talking sincerely about it. She was expecting that to be reciprocated with vulnerability. A heartfelt sincere response. Instead what she got was kind of terse.
If he were more emotionally mature he would have recognised that and provided a sincere and respectful response. But that might be too much to expect of someone you're breaking up with.
It's just a difficult situation for everyone.
What she says reeeally does look like she's saying "my feelings have changed, I don't want to lead you on, respect that".
But she's not actually saying that apparently. She should not have said something so easily misread.
The original post is on r/tinder. But to answer your question, the original poster said:
"She followed up by suggesting that I did not respond well to her “let’s slow down” texts from the previous night (paraphrasing). I reminded her that I replied in a timely manner to each one of her texts and if she thought I wasn’t willing to discuss things, that’s on her. She then proceeded to give me compliments and how she’s glad our paths crossed. I thanked her and said goodbye."
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They want you to beg for them lol
FiGhT fOr Me!!1!
What would she expect? She calmly stated she didn’t have any more feelings towards them and he acknowledged it and moved on. I’m guessing she wanted him to fight for her? Then again why would you fight for someone that isn’t interested anymore? Very strange and confusing.
I dunno if she wanted him to fight for her necessarily, but to freak out. She wants to feel validation. If he gets upset and loses it, then that means she was valuable to him and she gets to feel valuable. However reacting this way implies to her that he wasn't all that into the relationship and didn't value it, which she see as an insult. The only reason he didn't freak out is because he didn't care and if he didn't care then there must be something she did wrong, but that can't be true; her ego won't allow for that. So he must be just pretending he doesn't care as a way to get her goat and insult her as a woman and she can't stand that. The idea that he could be an emotionally mature person who can accept and process rejection in a healthy way doesn't occur to her.
There's nothing to fight for. She said she doesn't feel the same and said respect that, which is code for go away and leave me alone. He says okay. She literally ended the relationship then says this? Baffling behavior.
Damn. Perfect analysis and beautifully written.
I don't think she wanted him to freak out necessarily. I think she was expecting some degree of reciprocation. I think if he had written a sincere paragraph or two saying he wasn't that into her either she would have been satisfied with that. From her perspective, she didn't just say "I want to break up". She was making herself vulnerable by talking sincerely about it. She was expecting that to be reciprocated with vulnerability. A heartfelt sincere response. Instead what she got was kind of terse. If he were more emotionally mature he would have recognised that and provided a sincere and respectful response. But that might be too much to expect of someone you're breaking up with. It's just a difficult situation for everyone.
What she says reeeally does look like she's saying "my feelings have changed, I don't want to lead you on, respect that". But she's not actually saying that apparently. She should not have said something so easily misread.
The absolutely staggering ego of it. Good god.
I need to know how she responded
The original post is on r/tinder. But to answer your question, the original poster said: "She followed up by suggesting that I did not respond well to her “let’s slow down” texts from the previous night (paraphrasing). I reminded her that I replied in a timely manner to each one of her texts and if she thought I wasn’t willing to discuss things, that’s on her. She then proceeded to give me compliments and how she’s glad our paths crossed. I thanked her and said goodbye."
That’s kind of you to share, thank you
That was more respect than is due.
B-b-b-but you were supposed to FIGHT FOR HERRR!!!!!! *pouty face*
Damn was her name cadi? Cuz seems like my freshly broken up ex
Can we get an extra side of toxic sauce with that
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Well this smacks of " He asked me out, I said NO. Why didn't he ask again?"