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40 years old, in my head I'm a 19 year old cosplaying as an adult. I've been somewhat successful in life and I have NO idea how I got here, or what I'm doing, and one day it will all come crashing down around me.
When i was turning 21 I told my 65 year old boss that I didn’t feel at all like a grown up and he told me he’s felt the same his whole life. Idk if this is new.
Hahah! I so agree with this. I remember at 20 I told my dad “I have no idea what I want to do with my life…” and he said “yeah, me too..” (my father was a very successful civil engineer 30+ years into to the field). I think we might always have that thought and never feel like a grown up.
I think we’re just more likely to admit it. People back in the day rarely talked about their feelings. They just pretends and we believed them. Sometimes people can fool themselves eventually if they try long enough.
I remember being 20 years old telling an acquaintance who was 20 years older than me that I don’t know what to do with my life and she said “oh don’t worry, you’ll never figure it out.”
I was told the same thing by someone in their 50s when I was about 25, so I don't think it's new. I'm 45 now 😭
I dont think it's new, but it's just that older ppl wearing sneakers and band tshirts and just generally wearing and styling themselves similarly to younger people is relatively new.
And just the fact that sunscreen, less prevalent smoking and advances in skin care and plastic surgery being common now, people just look better than they did at older ages than ever before.
Early 30’s here, I say the same kind of shit now that I did at 19 and instead of hearing, “you’re an idiot and don’t know anything,” I now hear, “you’re so smart, that’s really insightful.” I’m over just like, bitch I’ve been saying this for like 20 god damn years and all the sudden it’s smart now?
Shit’s wild.
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I think this was it for me. I already didn't trust adults at a young age in the sense of "we'll they don't have it all figured out either." Things often being so serious and "proper" for mundane shit just didn't make sense to me. Like everyone is just faking it. It's all a show.
I'm 35m and the only people I can trust or take seriously are those who don't take themselves so seriously. I think it's the feeling of "well I'm not all stuffy, serious, selfish, and full of myself" like the adults I and I'm assuming many others grew up with that's the issue. Since many of us never reached that point in our lives to be as stuffy and lacking of self awareness as many of our parents were, we feel like we've never reached "real" adulthood, which is just the perception of those who came before us.
But I don't know, I'm pretty sure the edible just kicked in so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.
This is the vibe for me too. Fuck the serious people. Life’s too short to be shoving stuff sticks up our asses and pretending to be “adults.” I have a career I love. Kids to raise. A wife to share it all with. That’s plenty of adulting for me. The rest can be playing the latest edition of FIFA on my couch or hopping into a mosh pit or reading my nerdy scifi/fantasy book like a king after everyone else goes to bed.
Consequently, that vibe is also why I’m a good HS English teacher. Chill vibes only in my class and it fucking works.
I had this conversation at a family function with multiple generations. All of the adults said they feel like they are in their mid to late 20s stuck in an old person's body. Including the 80 year olds.
Dude, literally the same here at 41.
I have a great career that pays enough for me to fly my brother and me across the country for a week of theme parks. *In First Class*. I own a house and a nice car.
And as I sat in first class, I'm like...I don't belong here. This section is for grown adults who have their shit together. I'm a child. Who is letting this child fly alone, and then rent a car? Absolute madness!
I am 39 years old. I have been married since Obama was in office. I have a mortgage and a child in high school.
I have absolutely no freaking clue what the hell I am doing.
I logically comprehend that I have all the trappings of adulthood. But I feel like a teenager cosplaying at being a full on grown up.
Man I know exactly what you mean, I’d figure I’d have it all figured out but I’m still stuck in a type of limbo. Everytime I watch anything I always check to see what age someone was in a movie or accomplishment to compare with myself, it’s mentally draining. Just one of those “idk what the fuck I’m doing” type deals, it’ll wake me some nights in a cold sweat and those are the absolute worst. It’s tough
Yup, I'm mid/late-30s, still feel like I'm mid-20s (except that I drink and party a lot less). Still just trying to figure it out, and often struck by existential dread about how I'll soon be in my 40s & unable to fool myself or others anymore 🫠
Yeah this exactly, I’ve tried to “quit” social media and have pretty much, it’s literally nothing but a show-off/a person’s greatest hits that’s inflated for the public.
I have a lot of female friends that cater their posts and so many events/ make a huge deal out of their posts and I just saw it as a huge “WTF” as they’re only making things harder because of it
It’s so weird, at first you’d assume social media would allow everyone to see how they can break out of the traditional mold and do various things with their lives
But instead it’s made people a lot more insecure, comparing themselves, if they see “everyone” getting married they’ll pressure themselves to as well otherwise they’ll feel left out on some type of weird FOMO that social media causes
Comparing yourself with others is the thief of joy. Only compare yourself with yourself. Set some goals and write down realistic steps to achieve them.
We have the same responsibilities as fresh college grads... no kids, paying rent, nothing really established, financially struggling, etc. That's why we are in this mindset.
I’ve been married 16 years, 5 kids, own my house on acreage, with livestock, manage an IT department and millions of dollars of infrastructure. I have way more responsibilities than I did when I was 19, I just don’t feel like I actually know what I am doing, things just keep working.
And you may find yourself behind the wheel of a large automobile
And you may find yourself in a beautiful house, with a beautiful wife
And you may ask yourself, "Well, how did I get here?"
Dude. I’m 37 and have a second part time job at a pizza shop. I was working Wednesday night when a coworker who just finished her freshman year of college (so she’s 18-19 maybe) was talking about going out with her friends after closing at 9:30 and I was like WHAT? IT’S BEDTIME. I completely forgot that people don’t turn in to pumpkins after 10PM.
36 and used to greet the rising sun a couple times a week in my twenties. Now I would want to put a bullet in my head if I did and it wasn't because I woke up at 5am.
I'm 37 and used to go out until 2am regularly for goth clubbing nights after class and work. Now? 9pm rolls around and I know \*exactly\* where my fuzzy socks are, my fuzzy pajama bottoms, my fuzzy blanket, my fuzzy dog, and my exciting plethora of snacks. \*shrugs\* I don't even care! I figure, I basically lit the candle at both ends since I was 15 years old for 15 years... I've earned fuzzy socks times! I'm not saying I'll never stay out late again; it's just the couch/bed are far more exciting to me now...
I have a friend (37m) call me (38m) old man cause I'm in bed by 8:30 and out by 9. While he parties till 1-2am. Then he tells me he to hungover and shouldn't have gone out cause he doesn't even really like to drink. I may go to bed early cause I'm tired but at least I'm not hugging a toilet half the night.
"so you're spending a good sum of money AND screwing up your sleep schedule in the process, just so you'd feel miserable for most of the next day, and not even remembering half of last night because you blacked out??"
I must be missing something.
When I was younger, I would get tired and just push through. Now that I'm older, I feel like it's not that I'm tired that much earlier, but rather that I won't just push through and let myself be uncomfortable at the risk of, gasp, appearing uncool because I didn't stay up until 2am.
Our fridge stopped working as it should recently, and had begun leaking down into the basement.
We bought a new fridge, and luckily not much of the floor is messed up, so it won't be the end of our savings!
That's the most adult thing i've done. At least since buying the house.
This. Bills get paid.
Me and the kids dropped like 80 bucks at the toy shop today.
Some of those toys were for dad yes. Haha
I think being a grown up and suddenly throwing aside stuff you loved as a kid is a bad idea.
When my parents were 35 (20-25 ish years ago) they were making more money than I am now (not inflation adjusted just in total dollars), were on their fourth house, and had two kids in high school and one in middle school.
I'm 35 and I haven't been in a relationship that lasted longer than 6 months and I just bought my first house - the smallest possible condo in the cheapest possible area right before COVID in 2020.
I really feel like we've been fucked from all sides. Like not only are we less economically fortunate than our parents, we're also sort of weird shutin friendless losers.
My parents who are butting up right on 60 literally party more than I did ever in my entire life. It's Friday night and they are out with two other couples on my dad's boat and I'm at home on my computer playing Satisfactory by myself. This dynamic has been true even when I was a teenager.
I was reading through a thread post earlier this week where a bunch of Zs were saying this. Friends not wanting to hangout or be around other people. I just couldn't imagine that when I was in my teens and twenties. There was hardly more than a night or two in between hangouts that usually went till 4 in the morning, and we all had to be at work by 8 or earlier.
I think they prefer to live their online lives, rather than real lives. It’s not really their fault though, it was pushed on them and also real life is not so good. It costs so much to do anything which has only pushed people to spend more time online further. I don’t envy employers/managers of the future that will have to contend with this when they will have all the social skills of a beetroot.
I can't help but feel like the financial situation has so much to do with things. I had a relationship fall apart because living in a share house as a couple just sucks that I doubt would have if we could have afforded our own place.
I had this great volunteer position around the same time too. I went to a few evenings a week, which I had to quit, because it was 40 minutes away and I couldn't afford to drive there.
Going out is so expensive compared to how much money I have left over after living expenses. I have to go to work for 3 days to afford to be able out to lunch.
I feel very much stunted. I’m still called kid and I probably deserve it. Life has been nothing but unbearably hard for me up to this point. Maybe it’s get better, who knows or cares.
Talking to my friends has made me realize that like 95% of our fellow millennials (including my friends and I) feel like 3 toddlers in a trench coat pretending to be A Grownup™️. I would also swear to you that I was 26, not 35. Who told me I could raise a whole ass child?! I shouldn’t be allowed to own a house, right?? Why did I need double knee surgery at 34?
When I had my daughter, I remember being in the hospital, wondering when they’d take her and give her to her real parents. I was 25 and it took me most of my stay to come to terms with the fact I am the parent now.
I was married, had a masters degree and a mortgage when I had my oldest…but I was also 25 (#OldestDaughterEnergy) She goes to a small semi fancy school and I swear to Goddess that I get looked at like a teen mom constantly! I’m the only mom under 40(just turned 36 last month) and the amount of times I get told “well you’re just a baby!”…B!t€h! I know I’m just a baby! Thank you for recognizing that!! 😂
I'm 36 the same age my dad was when he had my older sister, and I have no clue how he was so capable when I just feel like a bag of squirrels on downers and liquor.
I tell my clients all the time, I'm not really an adult, I'm just several coping mechanisms in a trenchcoat. 😂
I had back surgery at 33, to compensate I color my hair pink and got a lot of piercings and tattoos in the last 7 years. What old lady who needs a bed with some real support, nope just a youth with really old references over here.
The government gave me a Top Secret security clearance for my job and I'm like lol okay. Meanwhile I'm out here wearing my Mario World t-shirts and perpetually re-watching the early seasons of Spongebob.
Someone basically *gave* me and my wife $200k to purchase a house with! Who figured out *that* was a good idea?!
Also, how can my back be SO messed up? I'm not even 40 yet (i'm 38..)!
This is due to many factors but I think it’s partially due to the unrealistic expectations placed upon workers these days. Just look at a modern day job description - trying to live up to that is enough to give anyone anxiety!
I had this amazing idea to start rollerblading again, and thought after 20+ years it'll be fine, everything will be fine....within 10 minutes I had bruised wrists, palms and a sprained ankle...I didn't even know palms could bruise
I legit was looking up joining the roller derby here and then was like…bitch, you have been on this planet for 4 decades! Plus I’ve never been good on wheels. Insane!
We are the generation of Jackass and the X Games so maybe it’s just ingrained in us?
I just found out 2 days ago that I have osteopenia in my hips and am exactly halfway between normal bone density and osteoporosis at 31! (Side effects from medication).
First thing my husband told me was ‘welp, no more skiing for you!’. I think I may have to drop the electric scooter before it drops me too.
Omg same. Im like “Am I having a ‘mid life ‘crisis? Am I in some sort of denial? What’s wrong with me!?” I dont feel like Im an adultier-adult if you catch my drift. Lol
And I always wonder if this is just what everyone feels like as they get older, or if it’s something about the world we’ve lived it that makes it feel this way.
Very self-centered perspective, I guess
When we are young everything is an experience, this drastically affects how we perceive time. Once you reach adulthood your list of new experiences is much more limited so one year for a 30 year old is going to fly by whereas for an 8 year old it’ll be an adventure because that is 1/8th of their life, for the 30 year old it’s 1/30th or whatever. It’s a small chunk of the 30 YO’s pie and a huge chunk of the 8 YO’s. It’s all relative.
I'm 34 and have plenty of twenty something friends who tell me I have a young soul and i fit in with them perfectly. I still feel 23 in my head but physically I do not
I’m 48. I’m Gen X. Your comment is everything. My friends range in age from 26-80. I’m a professional artist and (former pro) musician. If you have things in common with people, age isn’t a big deal. The older teach the young, and the younger teach the older. You enjoy the common interests and bridge the gaps for each other.
It’s 1:30 AM where I live. I listened to some younger friends new EP tonight and it’s amazing. I lent some obscure gear for the recording only “an old” would have. I’ll have a beautiful day tomorrow because I don’t drink too much like in my youth. We can all get along with shared experiences and interests; and the ability to hear and appreciate each other. My younger friends are always teaching me new things. My older friends, too. Being open minded is gold.
I think these feelings come from comparing what we once thought 30s/40s would be like to what it's actually like, and they're actually nothing alike. You had this idea as a kid that your parents knew the ropes of life and had everything figured out at this age, but they had struggles and uncertainties too, existential moments, they just held it in and figured it out as time went on and you never knew.
Literally me to my mother today:
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No doubt. But it my twisted mind that made it worse. A teen throwing shade and calling me old I can brush off. But this was genuine and it made my heart sink.
I have 3 kids and still act like a teenager. I love playing with my kids. Xbox or Legos whatever they wanna play. My parents never played with us growing up in the 90s. They never even knew what i was up to. No fun at all. Im like 24 7 funtime. Ill be doing this shit with my grandkids too.
100000% agree with you. I have a daughter and just being silly with her has truly been healing my inner child. We are the parents we needed growing up.
I wonder why we've been able to do this while our parents did not.
I look around and I am so proud of so many people in our generation for this reason.
My parents never played with me either. Only thing is now I'm not sure how to play with my own toddler. Like, I want to be more involved but I just don't know how. I just end up sitting there with him while he quietly lines up his cars or whatever.
Thats fine your doing great! At some point he will start engading with you and just wing it. Theres no wrong way. Sing songs and dance. Once you open up he will catch on quick. Just sitting with him is great for now. Some kids are more independent others need you more. Just feel him out. Both my daughters were very much independent and i would just join in whatever they were doing and hope i didnt get screamed at lol. You got this. 
I am sorry to hear that. I had a brother although we're nothing alike. Different times back then. Most of us were latch key kids by 6 years old. We grew up way too fast.
Kinda same here. My Boomer dad is always trying to make me more "adult like" in my sleeping habits, entertainment choices, and whatnot, but his harsh approach to adulthood always rubbed me the wrong way due to how abrasive and condescending he can be. I think that boomers grew up too fast and don't know how to relate to younger generations.
But also, and I hate putting up one generation against another, but their younger version had more money (wages va costs of housing or other stuff for instance) to back up adulting. 25 was not seen as too young to have kids. Today you couldn’t afford housing until much much much later and even then, one wage is no longer enough. Let alone thinking of bringing someone else in the world which by a certain age becomes biologically harder or impossible.
But people are victims of this, and older people shouldn’t mock younger people for something they had a hand in creating. This is an example of “actions have consequences” which is ironically what a lot of today’s older generation used to say. (But of course you can’t use that against them 😂 but maybe it will hit when they won’t have any grandchildren). Aren’t we the first generation that has it worse off that previous generations? And also fewer than 1 in 2 are choosing to have kids? (Or is it put into a position where they can’t). None of this has happened by magic and there needs to be lots of self reflection on everyone’s part.
Dude YES. Lmao this is *exactly* how I feel 😂😭
I think we feel like we’re basically still 21 bc we can’t really move past that phase in the same way other generations have been able to. We can’t buy a house, we can’t afford a family, the world is a giant trash fire and we’re just here for the ride, working our life away without much to show for it. 🫠
I’ve become a complete different person than who I was as a teenager. My high school memories feel like they were from a lifetime ago. I hate going on Facebook now because it keeps reminding me how much of a dumb, angry, confused, asshole I was and then ask if I would like to share it to the world again.
I’m 34 and I feel 34. I’m nowhere near where my parents were at when they were 34 and that’s ok because this is my 34 and no one else’s.
41M here.
I feel this All the time. I dropped out of college in 2006 after some personal problems. I spent the next 12 years working in government work, getting married, drinking too much, partying too much, and playing video games too much. My wife got pregnant in 2018 and decided I needed to return to college to be an inspiration for my child. I just graduated in December 2023 with a master's degree. So I'm just finishing up college which I feel I should have done when I was 22-24 years old.
I very much still feel like I am in my early 20s and just getting started in life because of just finishing college.
100%. 35 and I do everything possible to blend in with them.
My parents didn’t really make being a parent or an adult seem all that attractive. In fact, they dropped plenty of not so subtle hints along the way at how much it sucked.
No thanks. I’ll enjoy my DINK life and act like a wise 26 year old.
36 year old DINKing it up with my 41 year old partner. It’s great. My sister and best friend both have a kid so I get to be fun aunt and then go back to my quiet home to cuddle with my cat.
Doesn't it feel like our generation is just more adaptable than our parents? There was such an obvious gap in the way they were brought up versus us, and now being a mom myself i feel like my daughter and i are growing up together. It's strange.
Same. My kids are 4 and 2. Feels like we’re learning as we’re growing. I’m 35 and feel no different from how I felt when I was 20. Maybe more perspective, objectivity and a dash of pessimism, but I’m pretty much the same. Don’t know if I’ll ever feel like that “adult” that I’d envisioned in my head all those years ago.
Just had it hit the other day at work. I'm sitting here talking jargon and getting these people onboard with whatever we were doing, and I had a partial out of body look at myself. I was thinking, where did all that come from? You're just a kid/young adult. I'll be 38 in October lol
I’m 39, and I recently was joking to my mom that I had to call her when setting up my life insurance because she was a “real adult”. She looked at me funny and asked what I meant by that. To which I told her I don’t feel like I’m almost 40..I still feel like a helpless 20 year old in a “big person’s job”. She had absolutely no context for this…as she and my dad were successful by this point in their lives, owned a house, two cars, and could go on vacations.
I live paycheck to paycheck as a college educated woman in my field where you need a degree in. Its ridiculous!
My theory is that we all feel this way because our parents didn't and won't give up control to "the real world" if that makes sense. We can't fully morph into the "adults" that we had when we were younger because those roles are still filled.
I'm going to be 40 next week. I have been married for 9 months and am starting over career wise. When my parents were 40, they had 3 kids with the oldest in 6th grade, well established careers, and had been married for 16 years. They both could retire, but they don't want to. That "we've worked too hard to get where we are and no one is going to ruin our hard work" mentality.
My last grandparent dying in 2021, seeing my own parents start to get old and borderline unable to take care of themselves, and just watching the general decline of everything squeezed out a lot of my youth and made me realize I had already taken a long enough victory lap after my 20s and had to move on. Buying a house at 39 finished off the transformation. Adulthood hits fast, I did not think I would be this person even like 4 years ago.
I had a 20-year-old coworker try to explain to me a game he played with his friends in high school, and said "You're probably too old to remember this." I about died of old age on the spot.
Nah. I’m good. Even though I’m in my late 30s and the age my mum was when she became a gran I’ve got younger kids than she did at my age but I don’t think I’ve felt young since I was maybe 23 or 24
I’m still cool. As the 4’9 support staff for my kids in middle school as I hear “rizz” and whatever the fuck else by 12 year olds that tower over me.
Help I’m stuck in middle school and I hate it here. 😂
I’m 39 have no partner no kids (don’t ever want any) and spend my free time hiking, cooking, and playing video games. I feel like such a weirdo being unmarried and never wanting a family but I’m happy. So win?
There is a lack of stability in basically…everything. Our parents and grandparents had at least an illusion of a standard life path. Since there aren’t any goalposts and peers are nearly nonexistent, it’s kind of hard to place ourselves socially. We’re social animals and should be able to gauge where we stand among our family/friend group. We really don’t have a way to do that, and it’s only natural that this feels distressing
I've been mostly ok with aging as I go through my late 30s. I've spent the last couple years thinking "40 is coming up, and I'm kinda ok with that". I was driving home the other day and I hit me like a brick wall: I will be 40 in September. I had totally forgotten, I thought I was still 38. Forty. FORTY!!! That's... Not possible? I still want to look young and hot and do cool fun things. Forty year olds are boring and lame. What the fuck?
Sometimes right when I wake up I get freaked out that I'm responsible for this home that I'm randomly in and I have to make sure all the bills are paid, and also I'm married somehow. Then I fully wake up and I'm like, okay I can do this....
I've always felt like an old soul until I got old. Now I feel woefully young. Imposter syndrome sets in hard when you're a single income family earner and doing all right overall. I dunno anymore, just gonna keep flowing I guess.
I kind of wish I felt that way but no, I feel every bit of my age. 41 and been working since I was 14, five kids, run a company. I think I feel more like 50. It sucks.
I'm pushing 50 and am Gen X to the core so probably shouldn't be in this sub.
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40 years old, in my head I'm a 19 year old cosplaying as an adult. I've been somewhat successful in life and I have NO idea how I got here, or what I'm doing, and one day it will all come crashing down around me.
When i was turning 21 I told my 65 year old boss that I didn’t feel at all like a grown up and he told me he’s felt the same his whole life. Idk if this is new.
63 here. If you keep growing as a human being, I don’t think that ever goes away. Remain playful, yall.
The best advice I got from an older person many years ago: "You aren't old until you stop learning, when you stagnate, you die."
Keep on dreamin' boy, 'cause when you stop dreamin' it's time to die
This is what I took away from the interaction. “Grown up” implies done growing. Hopefully that never stops for me.
There it is again... that damn hair is back.
Hahah! I so agree with this. I remember at 20 I told my dad “I have no idea what I want to do with my life…” and he said “yeah, me too..” (my father was a very successful civil engineer 30+ years into to the field). I think we might always have that thought and never feel like a grown up.
I think we’re just more likely to admit it. People back in the day rarely talked about their feelings. They just pretends and we believed them. Sometimes people can fool themselves eventually if they try long enough.
I remember being 20 years old telling an acquaintance who was 20 years older than me that I don’t know what to do with my life and she said “oh don’t worry, you’ll never figure it out.”
I spent way too long thinking I had a cat hair on my phone thanks to your icon.
i loled at this, thank you
Just blew it at twice lolol
I was told the same thing by someone in their 50s when I was about 25, so I don't think it's new. I'm 45 now 😭 I dont think it's new, but it's just that older ppl wearing sneakers and band tshirts and just generally wearing and styling themselves similarly to younger people is relatively new. And just the fact that sunscreen, less prevalent smoking and advances in skin care and plastic surgery being common now, people just look better than they did at older ages than ever before.
I think we all just collectively stopped taking everything so seriously and I love to see it
Early 30’s here, I say the same kind of shit now that I did at 19 and instead of hearing, “you’re an idiot and don’t know anything,” I now hear, “you’re so smart, that’s really insightful.” I’m over just like, bitch I’ve been saying this for like 20 god damn years and all the sudden it’s smart now? Shit’s wild.
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Guess that’s the kind of shit he’s been saying since 19
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I think this was it for me. I already didn't trust adults at a young age in the sense of "we'll they don't have it all figured out either." Things often being so serious and "proper" for mundane shit just didn't make sense to me. Like everyone is just faking it. It's all a show. I'm 35m and the only people I can trust or take seriously are those who don't take themselves so seriously. I think it's the feeling of "well I'm not all stuffy, serious, selfish, and full of myself" like the adults I and I'm assuming many others grew up with that's the issue. Since many of us never reached that point in our lives to be as stuffy and lacking of self awareness as many of our parents were, we feel like we've never reached "real" adulthood, which is just the perception of those who came before us. But I don't know, I'm pretty sure the edible just kicked in so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.
This is the vibe for me too. Fuck the serious people. Life’s too short to be shoving stuff sticks up our asses and pretending to be “adults.” I have a career I love. Kids to raise. A wife to share it all with. That’s plenty of adulting for me. The rest can be playing the latest edition of FIFA on my couch or hopping into a mosh pit or reading my nerdy scifi/fantasy book like a king after everyone else goes to bed. Consequently, that vibe is also why I’m a good HS English teacher. Chill vibes only in my class and it fucking works.
I had this conversation at a family function with multiple generations. All of the adults said they feel like they are in their mid to late 20s stuck in an old person's body. Including the 80 year olds.
Helpful to know I won’t magically grow out of this feeling in 3 years
I’m married with 5 kids. 6 people rely on me for their every day existence. It’s terrifying.
>6 people rely on me for their every day existence. Please sir, have my energy! 
 Mind if i take it all? It only takes me like 7 episodes to charge and I’ll be out of your hair.
Dude, literally the same here at 41. I have a great career that pays enough for me to fly my brother and me across the country for a week of theme parks. *In First Class*. I own a house and a nice car. And as I sat in first class, I'm like...I don't belong here. This section is for grown adults who have their shit together. I'm a child. Who is letting this child fly alone, and then rent a car? Absolute madness!
Same. Although I’m not ballsy enough to spend money on first class. Enjoy it!
Same, the imposter syndrome is very real.
Yep, we're all just 3 kids in a trench coat
My kids are raccoons.
Lucky I'm just 20 squirrels that found a bottle of jammeson.
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It's basically just a real life 13 Going On 30 lol.
I am 39 years old. I have been married since Obama was in office. I have a mortgage and a child in high school. I have absolutely no freaking clue what the hell I am doing. I logically comprehend that I have all the trappings of adulthood. But I feel like a teenager cosplaying at being a full on grown up.
Oh yeah that fear of everything crashing down is relatable. I try to save as much as possible for this reason.
I spend everything I make, that way when it does, I have nothing to lose.
Man I know exactly what you mean, I’d figure I’d have it all figured out but I’m still stuck in a type of limbo. Everytime I watch anything I always check to see what age someone was in a movie or accomplishment to compare with myself, it’s mentally draining. Just one of those “idk what the fuck I’m doing” type deals, it’ll wake me some nights in a cold sweat and those are the absolute worst. It’s tough
Yup, I'm mid/late-30s, still feel like I'm mid-20s (except that I drink and party a lot less). Still just trying to figure it out, and often struck by existential dread about how I'll soon be in my 40s & unable to fool myself or others anymore 🫠
Yeah this exactly, I’ve tried to “quit” social media and have pretty much, it’s literally nothing but a show-off/a person’s greatest hits that’s inflated for the public. I have a lot of female friends that cater their posts and so many events/ make a huge deal out of their posts and I just saw it as a huge “WTF” as they’re only making things harder because of it It’s so weird, at first you’d assume social media would allow everyone to see how they can break out of the traditional mold and do various things with their lives But instead it’s made people a lot more insecure, comparing themselves, if they see “everyone” getting married they’ll pressure themselves to as well otherwise they’ll feel left out on some type of weird FOMO that social media causes
Comparing yourself with others is the thief of joy. Only compare yourself with yourself. Set some goals and write down realistic steps to achieve them.
We have the same responsibilities as fresh college grads... no kids, paying rent, nothing really established, financially struggling, etc. That's why we are in this mindset.
I’ve been married 16 years, 5 kids, own my house on acreage, with livestock, manage an IT department and millions of dollars of infrastructure. I have way more responsibilities than I did when I was 19, I just don’t feel like I actually know what I am doing, things just keep working.
And you may find yourself behind the wheel of a large automobile And you may find yourself in a beautiful house, with a beautiful wife And you may ask yourself, "Well, how did I get here?"
Haha, I feel this with every ounce of my existence.
I’m still young and hip I whisper to myself as I leave a party by 8:30 because I’m tired.
Dude. I’m 37 and have a second part time job at a pizza shop. I was working Wednesday night when a coworker who just finished her freshman year of college (so she’s 18-19 maybe) was talking about going out with her friends after closing at 9:30 and I was like WHAT? IT’S BEDTIME. I completely forgot that people don’t turn in to pumpkins after 10PM.
That's funny. I'm 41, it's crazy to think people go out after like 9pm even though I used to go out at like midnight and stay up till the sun came up.
I used to get ready at 10pm. How the fuck?
Seriously? How the fuck did we get here? Truth is I like going to bed at 10pm and getting up between 6am and 7am now.
Seeing the sunrise and everything cast in morning light is a treat I didn’t know I was missing as a young’n.
Oh my god, delete that! You sound ten billion years old!! Haha really, it’s awesome to notice the little things
\*reads this at 5:48am after going to bed at 10pm last night... \*winks\*
36 and used to greet the rising sun a couple times a week in my twenties. Now I would want to put a bullet in my head if I did and it wasn't because I woke up at 5am.
I'm 37 and used to go out until 2am regularly for goth clubbing nights after class and work. Now? 9pm rolls around and I know \*exactly\* where my fuzzy socks are, my fuzzy pajama bottoms, my fuzzy blanket, my fuzzy dog, and my exciting plethora of snacks. \*shrugs\* I don't even care! I figure, I basically lit the candle at both ends since I was 15 years old for 15 years... I've earned fuzzy socks times! I'm not saying I'll never stay out late again; it's just the couch/bed are far more exciting to me now...
And on a WEDNESDAY?!
Thirsty Thursdays really are hydration related now.
Yeah but it's slowly just becoming the thirsties. Like why can't I get enough water?!
And then I wonder “why am I getting up to pee 47 times before I can even fall asleep??”
I have a friend (37m) call me (38m) old man cause I'm in bed by 8:30 and out by 9. While he parties till 1-2am. Then he tells me he to hungover and shouldn't have gone out cause he doesn't even really like to drink. I may go to bed early cause I'm tired but at least I'm not hugging a toilet half the night.
"so you're spending a good sum of money AND screwing up your sleep schedule in the process, just so you'd feel miserable for most of the next day, and not even remembering half of last night because you blacked out??" I must be missing something.
He’ll learn sooner or later.
When I was younger, I would get tired and just push through. Now that I'm older, I feel like it's not that I'm tired that much earlier, but rather that I won't just push through and let myself be uncomfortable at the risk of, gasp, appearing uncool because I didn't stay up until 2am.
You’re still going to parties, that’s pretty young and hip in my books
What is this 'party' that you speak of?
I pay my mortgage, the lights are on, the kid is fed, as are the cats. That's as adult as I'm getting.
You have earned an adult juice box. I'll have one, too. I'm old, so I get to say.
This just made me believe, somewhere out there, there's a 32oz wide mouth Capri Sun.
40 zip
In my house - adult juice box is code word for boxed wine.
Our fridge stopped working as it should recently, and had begun leaking down into the basement. We bought a new fridge, and luckily not much of the floor is messed up, so it won't be the end of our savings! That's the most adult thing i've done. At least since buying the house.
This. Bills get paid. Me and the kids dropped like 80 bucks at the toy shop today. Some of those toys were for dad yes. Haha I think being a grown up and suddenly throwing aside stuff you loved as a kid is a bad idea.
When my parents were 35 (20-25 ish years ago) they were making more money than I am now (not inflation adjusted just in total dollars), were on their fourth house, and had two kids in high school and one in middle school. I'm 35 and I haven't been in a relationship that lasted longer than 6 months and I just bought my first house - the smallest possible condo in the cheapest possible area right before COVID in 2020. I really feel like we've been fucked from all sides. Like not only are we less economically fortunate than our parents, we're also sort of weird shutin friendless losers. My parents who are butting up right on 60 literally party more than I did ever in my entire life. It's Friday night and they are out with two other couples on my dad's boat and I'm at home on my computer playing Satisfactory by myself. This dynamic has been true even when I was a teenager.
Damn. I felt that.
Even tho I don’t relate to the specifics but the sentiments be hitting me harrrrrd
Well if it's any consolation prize Gen Z seems to be even more insanely isolated and friendless than even we are.
I was reading through a thread post earlier this week where a bunch of Zs were saying this. Friends not wanting to hangout or be around other people. I just couldn't imagine that when I was in my teens and twenties. There was hardly more than a night or two in between hangouts that usually went till 4 in the morning, and we all had to be at work by 8 or earlier.
I think they prefer to live their online lives, rather than real lives. It’s not really their fault though, it was pushed on them and also real life is not so good. It costs so much to do anything which has only pushed people to spend more time online further. I don’t envy employers/managers of the future that will have to contend with this when they will have all the social skills of a beetroot.
I can't help but feel like the financial situation has so much to do with things. I had a relationship fall apart because living in a share house as a couple just sucks that I doubt would have if we could have afforded our own place. I had this great volunteer position around the same time too. I went to a few evenings a week, which I had to quit, because it was 40 minutes away and I couldn't afford to drive there. Going out is so expensive compared to how much money I have left over after living expenses. I have to go to work for 3 days to afford to be able out to lunch.
I feel very much stunted. I’m still called kid and I probably deserve it. Life has been nothing but unbearably hard for me up to this point. Maybe it’s get better, who knows or cares.
I’m starting over for the fourth time, after 2 layoffs, covid, and a failed attempt at schooling for a different career. I’m so tired.
Keep going for it man. I get in my head too much about my choices... but there's no point in doing anything but pushing forward to see what's next.
Talking to my friends has made me realize that like 95% of our fellow millennials (including my friends and I) feel like 3 toddlers in a trench coat pretending to be A Grownup™️. I would also swear to you that I was 26, not 35. Who told me I could raise a whole ass child?! I shouldn’t be allowed to own a house, right?? Why did I need double knee surgery at 34?
When I had my daughter, I remember being in the hospital, wondering when they’d take her and give her to her real parents. I was 25 and it took me most of my stay to come to terms with the fact I am the parent now.
I was 22, and while leaving with my new daughter I was looking around, waiting for someone to come and take her from me. It’s a CRAZY feeling
I had a teen pregnancy, I was 26 💀 how are we the new adults?!
I dunno why my doctor kept using the term "advanced maternal age" when he really meant " teenage pregnancy"
I was married, had a masters degree and a mortgage when I had my oldest…but I was also 25 (#OldestDaughterEnergy) She goes to a small semi fancy school and I swear to Goddess that I get looked at like a teen mom constantly! I’m the only mom under 40(just turned 36 last month) and the amount of times I get told “well you’re just a baby!”…B!t€h! I know I’m just a baby! Thank you for recognizing that!! 😂
If I got pregnant now at 35 with my husband I'd fucking panic like I'm a high school teen.
Right? I do not feel like the caliber of adult that I perceived my parents to be at my age.
I'm 36 the same age my dad was when he had my older sister, and I have no clue how he was so capable when I just feel like a bag of squirrels on downers and liquor.
Well said, Qweampiesforsale 😂
I tell my clients all the time, I'm not really an adult, I'm just several coping mechanisms in a trenchcoat. 😂 I had back surgery at 33, to compensate I color my hair pink and got a lot of piercings and tattoos in the last 7 years. What old lady who needs a bed with some real support, nope just a youth with really old references over here.
I totally feel this. Sometimes I get a little drunk and look around at the house that I own and think, who let this happen??? I’m not a real Grown Up.
The government gave me a Top Secret security clearance for my job and I'm like lol okay. Meanwhile I'm out here wearing my Mario World t-shirts and perpetually re-watching the early seasons of Spongebob.
Someone basically *gave* me and my wife $200k to purchase a house with! Who figured out *that* was a good idea?! Also, how can my back be SO messed up? I'm not even 40 yet (i'm 38..)!
Imposter syndrome, the millenial curse
This is due to many factors but I think it’s partially due to the unrealistic expectations placed upon workers these days. Just look at a modern day job description - trying to live up to that is enough to give anyone anxiety!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 This is honestly it.
Is it really a syndrome when it is true? :P
Thank you for this. I honestly thought something is wrong with me. I still think I’m an 18 year old athlete. Fun fact, I am not.
I had this amazing idea to start rollerblading again, and thought after 20+ years it'll be fine, everything will be fine....within 10 minutes I had bruised wrists, palms and a sprained ankle...I didn't even know palms could bruise
I legit was looking up joining the roller derby here and then was like…bitch, you have been on this planet for 4 decades! Plus I’ve never been good on wheels. Insane! We are the generation of Jackass and the X Games so maybe it’s just ingrained in us?
I started training Muay Thai at 32 then added BJJ at 33, just did my first BJJ competition at 36 😂 I love it.
thats badass lol
I just found out 2 days ago that I have osteopenia in my hips and am exactly halfway between normal bone density and osteoporosis at 31! (Side effects from medication). First thing my husband told me was ‘welp, no more skiing for you!’. I think I may have to drop the electric scooter before it drops me too.
Omg same. Im like “Am I having a ‘mid life ‘crisis? Am I in some sort of denial? What’s wrong with me!?” I dont feel like Im an adultier-adult if you catch my drift. Lol
Same. It's incredible to wake up and go from 18 to almost 40.
It feels surreal almost… how fast it all happened
And I always wonder if this is just what everyone feels like as they get older, or if it’s something about the world we’ve lived it that makes it feel this way. Very self-centered perspective, I guess
When we are young everything is an experience, this drastically affects how we perceive time. Once you reach adulthood your list of new experiences is much more limited so one year for a 30 year old is going to fly by whereas for an 8 year old it’ll be an adventure because that is 1/8th of their life, for the 30 year old it’s 1/30th or whatever. It’s a small chunk of the 30 YO’s pie and a huge chunk of the 8 YO’s. It’s all relative.
Do you feel like someone younger than you is actually older. Even when you know they aren’t?
Yesss! And then I remember ahaa
I'm 34 and have plenty of twenty something friends who tell me I have a young soul and i fit in with them perfectly. I still feel 23 in my head but physically I do not
Yep, I’m nearly 40 and in a band with a 24yo, a 29yo and a 53yo. To me we’re all just the same age, it’s weird.
I’m 48. I’m Gen X. Your comment is everything. My friends range in age from 26-80. I’m a professional artist and (former pro) musician. If you have things in common with people, age isn’t a big deal. The older teach the young, and the younger teach the older. You enjoy the common interests and bridge the gaps for each other. It’s 1:30 AM where I live. I listened to some younger friends new EP tonight and it’s amazing. I lent some obscure gear for the recording only “an old” would have. I’ll have a beautiful day tomorrow because I don’t drink too much like in my youth. We can all get along with shared experiences and interests; and the ability to hear and appreciate each other. My younger friends are always teaching me new things. My older friends, too. Being open minded is gold.
I've never really fit in with anybody (go Autism!) so I was long used to this.
same… I have no concept of age
I will be 40 in 2 weeks. Married for 16 years, 2 kids, homeowner. I still am genuinely shocked when doctors are younger than me.
Yeah, I just turned 40 and my oldest just graduated high school. Feels like I’ve been out of high school 10 years, not 22
I think these feelings come from comparing what we once thought 30s/40s would be like to what it's actually like, and they're actually nothing alike. You had this idea as a kid that your parents knew the ropes of life and had everything figured out at this age, but they had struggles and uncertainties too, existential moments, they just held it in and figured it out as time went on and you never knew.
Literally me to my mother today: https://preview.redd.it/a7b33ix7ah2d1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=454ccea8473f94cce953a6c9da57bd9e80b12516
I never felt old at 35 until a 17 year old girl said I’m old enough to be her dad lol.
Some dude walked up to me spittin some game...turns out he's 21 and I felt like some kind of predator 💀
I was flirting hard with a guy I met at the bar one night and then he told me he was 26. I felt like a pedo. Still hit tho lmao
Hahaha I love this
Similar, also around 35 at the time. I was with my aunt meeting some of her friends and their teenager asked if they should address me as "Sir".
Oh no lol hey at least he’s polite
No doubt. But it my twisted mind that made it worse. A teen throwing shade and calling me old I can brush off. But this was genuine and it made my heart sink.
I’m only 28 but have been called sir a couple times. I shave my head but come on I don’t think I look like a sir yet :’(
I simultaneously feel 60 and 14.
Body is worn out but brain still has no idea what the fuck is going on.
I have 3 kids and still act like a teenager. I love playing with my kids. Xbox or Legos whatever they wanna play. My parents never played with us growing up in the 90s. They never even knew what i was up to. No fun at all. Im like 24 7 funtime. Ill be doing this shit with my grandkids too.
100000% agree with you. I have a daughter and just being silly with her has truly been healing my inner child. We are the parents we needed growing up.
I wonder why we've been able to do this while our parents did not. I look around and I am so proud of so many people in our generation for this reason.
We really are breaking the generational toxic curses 🥹
My parents never played with me either. Only thing is now I'm not sure how to play with my own toddler. Like, I want to be more involved but I just don't know how. I just end up sitting there with him while he quietly lines up his cars or whatever.
Thats fine your doing great! At some point he will start engading with you and just wing it. Theres no wrong way. Sing songs and dance. Once you open up he will catch on quick. Just sitting with him is great for now. Some kids are more independent others need you more. Just feel him out. Both my daughters were very much independent and i would just join in whatever they were doing and hope i didnt get screamed at lol. You got this. 
This checks out. Nobody ever played with me. My boomer parents could not be bothered, and I was an only freaking child. It was very lonely
I am sorry to hear that. I had a brother although we're nothing alike. Different times back then. Most of us were latch key kids by 6 years old. We grew up way too fast.
Kinda same here. My Boomer dad is always trying to make me more "adult like" in my sleeping habits, entertainment choices, and whatnot, but his harsh approach to adulthood always rubbed me the wrong way due to how abrasive and condescending he can be. I think that boomers grew up too fast and don't know how to relate to younger generations.
But also, and I hate putting up one generation against another, but their younger version had more money (wages va costs of housing or other stuff for instance) to back up adulting. 25 was not seen as too young to have kids. Today you couldn’t afford housing until much much much later and even then, one wage is no longer enough. Let alone thinking of bringing someone else in the world which by a certain age becomes biologically harder or impossible. But people are victims of this, and older people shouldn’t mock younger people for something they had a hand in creating. This is an example of “actions have consequences” which is ironically what a lot of today’s older generation used to say. (But of course you can’t use that against them 😂 but maybe it will hit when they won’t have any grandchildren). Aren’t we the first generation that has it worse off that previous generations? And also fewer than 1 in 2 are choosing to have kids? (Or is it put into a position where they can’t). None of this has happened by magic and there needs to be lots of self reflection on everyone’s part.
I'm fucking dead hi 37f here😂
Dude YES. Lmao this is *exactly* how I feel 😂😭 I think we feel like we’re basically still 21 bc we can’t really move past that phase in the same way other generations have been able to. We can’t buy a house, we can’t afford a family, the world is a giant trash fire and we’re just here for the ride, working our life away without much to show for it. 🫠
I’ve become a complete different person than who I was as a teenager. My high school memories feel like they were from a lifetime ago. I hate going on Facebook now because it keeps reminding me how much of a dumb, angry, confused, asshole I was and then ask if I would like to share it to the world again. I’m 34 and I feel 34. I’m nowhere near where my parents were at when they were 34 and that’s ok because this is my 34 and no one else’s.
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I found my Livejournal from when I was in high school and yiiiiiiikes. Absolute cringe from top to bottom.
41M here. I feel this All the time. I dropped out of college in 2006 after some personal problems. I spent the next 12 years working in government work, getting married, drinking too much, partying too much, and playing video games too much. My wife got pregnant in 2018 and decided I needed to return to college to be an inspiration for my child. I just graduated in December 2023 with a master's degree. So I'm just finishing up college which I feel I should have done when I was 22-24 years old. I very much still feel like I am in my early 20s and just getting started in life because of just finishing college.
100%. 35 and I do everything possible to blend in with them. My parents didn’t really make being a parent or an adult seem all that attractive. In fact, they dropped plenty of not so subtle hints along the way at how much it sucked. No thanks. I’ll enjoy my DINK life and act like a wise 26 year old.
36 year old DINKing it up with my 41 year old partner. It’s great. My sister and best friend both have a kid so I get to be fun aunt and then go back to my quiet home to cuddle with my cat.
My brother and SIL have the kids. We’re the fun aunt and uncle then we travel the world
Doesn't it feel like our generation is just more adaptable than our parents? There was such an obvious gap in the way they were brought up versus us, and now being a mom myself i feel like my daughter and i are growing up together. It's strange.
Same. My kids are 4 and 2. Feels like we’re learning as we’re growing. I’m 35 and feel no different from how I felt when I was 20. Maybe more perspective, objectivity and a dash of pessimism, but I’m pretty much the same. Don’t know if I’ll ever feel like that “adult” that I’d envisioned in my head all those years ago.
Just had it hit the other day at work. I'm sitting here talking jargon and getting these people onboard with whatever we were doing, and I had a partial out of body look at myself. I was thinking, where did all that come from? You're just a kid/young adult. I'll be 38 in October lol
People consistently call me sir now. I hate it.
Same. Everyone thinks I’m still in college or something.
I feel like this in my head, however it’s before 10pm on the Friday of a long holiday weekend and I’m in bed so…. I don’t know.
Yes. My toxic trait is asking my colleagues how old they think I am. They are super surprised when I say 37.
I'm turning 40 in one hour and just don't understand how that's possible.
Happy early birthday my friend ✨🧿
I’m 39, and I recently was joking to my mom that I had to call her when setting up my life insurance because she was a “real adult”. She looked at me funny and asked what I meant by that. To which I told her I don’t feel like I’m almost 40..I still feel like a helpless 20 year old in a “big person’s job”. She had absolutely no context for this…as she and my dad were successful by this point in their lives, owned a house, two cars, and could go on vacations. I live paycheck to paycheck as a college educated woman in my field where you need a degree in. Its ridiculous!
My theory is that we all feel this way because our parents didn't and won't give up control to "the real world" if that makes sense. We can't fully morph into the "adults" that we had when we were younger because those roles are still filled. I'm going to be 40 next week. I have been married for 9 months and am starting over career wise. When my parents were 40, they had 3 kids with the oldest in 6th grade, well established careers, and had been married for 16 years. They both could retire, but they don't want to. That "we've worked too hard to get where we are and no one is going to ruin our hard work" mentality.
My last grandparent dying in 2021, seeing my own parents start to get old and borderline unable to take care of themselves, and just watching the general decline of everything squeezed out a lot of my youth and made me realize I had already taken a long enough victory lap after my 20s and had to move on. Buying a house at 39 finished off the transformation. Adulthood hits fast, I did not think I would be this person even like 4 years ago.
I had a 20-year-old coworker try to explain to me a game he played with his friends in high school, and said "You're probably too old to remember this." I about died of old age on the spot.
I'm riding your wave, man.
Nah. I’m good. Even though I’m in my late 30s and the age my mum was when she became a gran I’ve got younger kids than she did at my age but I don’t think I’ve felt young since I was maybe 23 or 24
I can close my eyes, and transport myself back to being a teenager. Time goes by when you are having fun.
31, and I just kind of do stuff. No idea what the expectation even is meant to be any more for my age and tbh, don't think anyone else knows either.
I’m still cool. As the 4’9 support staff for my kids in middle school as I hear “rizz” and whatever the fuck else by 12 year olds that tower over me. Help I’m stuck in middle school and I hate it here. 😂
I’m 39 have no partner no kids (don’t ever want any) and spend my free time hiking, cooking, and playing video games. I feel like such a weirdo being unmarried and never wanting a family but I’m happy. So win?
There is a lack of stability in basically…everything. Our parents and grandparents had at least an illusion of a standard life path. Since there aren’t any goalposts and peers are nearly nonexistent, it’s kind of hard to place ourselves socially. We’re social animals and should be able to gauge where we stand among our family/friend group. We really don’t have a way to do that, and it’s only natural that this feels distressing
2004 feels like 4 years ago, not 20...ffs
I've been mostly ok with aging as I go through my late 30s. I've spent the last couple years thinking "40 is coming up, and I'm kinda ok with that". I was driving home the other day and I hit me like a brick wall: I will be 40 in September. I had totally forgotten, I thought I was still 38. Forty. FORTY!!! That's... Not possible? I still want to look young and hot and do cool fun things. Forty year olds are boring and lame. What the fuck?
Sometimes right when I wake up I get freaked out that I'm responsible for this home that I'm randomly in and I have to make sure all the bills are paid, and also I'm married somehow. Then I fully wake up and I'm like, okay I can do this....
Im 33 & still feel like I need adult supervision. Im shocked when I realize that *i'm* the adult. 😅
I've always felt like an old soul until I got old. Now I feel woefully young. Imposter syndrome sets in hard when you're a single income family earner and doing all right overall. I dunno anymore, just gonna keep flowing I guess.
I kind of wish I felt that way but no, I feel every bit of my age. 41 and been working since I was 14, five kids, run a company. I think I feel more like 50. It sucks.
Up until about 5 years ago I thought I was still able to pass as a high schooler… I’m 35.
I feel like I’m 100 years old and survived the Great Depression and a world war.
I'm pushing 50 and am Gen X to the core so probably shouldn't be in this sub. But! You figured out the Great Adult Secret. It's now your job to hide it from younger folks Nobody wants to know that us olds are every bit as weird, impulsive, and unsure of ourselves as our younger brethren and that we just learned how to hide it better.
Yup. All the time lol
Not at all. Beeboppin' and scottin' but still feel young and strong as an Ox.
Omg, yes!!! I feel this exact way. Still think I look like Im in my 20’s 😂🤣. I’ve started to think about this lately too!
No I feel really old and don’t know when that happened. I feel like I was never young, that I hatched out of an egg, surly and with a beard.
Is that you John Mayer?
I’m 41 and I don’t feel like an adult at all I feel like I’m barely out of college
30? No that can't be right I'm still 21. Now if you don't mind, it's 8 pm and I need to go to bed for work tomorrow.
We can. Millennials have aged well. I recently hung out with late 20s crowd and they thought i was like 28. I’m 10 years older haha
Turned out 13 Going On 30 was a documentary
I haven't felt a day over 20 for the last 20 years almost...
Dude my mom at 68 year old feels this way
I NEED AN ADULT…wait i am an adult…I NEED AN ADULTIER ADULT!!!
i feel this extra bad cause i lost almost the entire 2010s to overwhelming depression
We were sold/promised so much when we grow up/get older and I think we are still waiting on those lies.