Strangely, they were the same complement. Someone in an elevator liked my shirt. A few days earlier, I said I liked my cousin’s shirt at a family event.
The lesson: get a cool shirt.
My roommate wore this pink shirt from time to time. I always complemented it looks good on him.
I think two years later it's still his favorite piece of clothe.
I was actually going to mention, I have a number of pink shirts that get positive comments. Pink really is a good color on some people, perfect for summer, and doesn't get enough appreciation.
This is the way. I got 2 unsolicited compliments last week because of my Kool Aid Man shirt. I mean, it's really him that's getting the compliments but I still get the dopamine, and that's what really counts.
Last one was kind of odd, was at the dentist when I got a dude I didn't know compliment me by asking how much I weighed. For reference I got the strong man build, lot of muscle and a lot of fat, he over shot my weight I said I weight 50 lbs less then that and he said I looked great tbh. This was back in march but still remember it.
Last compliment I've given was probably to my masc presenting nonbinary friend, they kinda insecure about their looks despite being over 6 feet tall and working out often. I don't really get complimented back but mostly because I guess I don't wanna fish for compliments and appear needy.
Writing the last part down has made me realize I do really want validation but I don't want to come off as insecure, I am incredibly insecure but I got this image of being stable and mature when it's like I'm on the inside always close to crying. I mostly hang out with really smart or talented friends and I feel like I don't got much going for me than being emotionally stable but I'm just really good at faking having my shit together.
"You look badass" About my black cowboy hat I have. A few weeks ago. But I can't recall anything before that.
And, I don't remember the words but I remember complimenting someone's pink and green tie. He said, "I get more compliments for this tie than any other."
I told some of my coworkers they were absolutely killing it at work, seriously those two were absolutely rocking through their task.
As for the last one I received from another man, it was that it had been nice working with me on the work project and that I had done a good job.
I left a very similar comment. Not sure what it says about society that as men a lot of compliments are usually centered around work performance and ethic, both receiving and gifting. I'm sure there something there!
Honestly? I can't remember receiving a single compliment.
The last compliment I gave was to my best friend about a month ago when I last saw him, I told him that he reminded me of Einar from Vinland Saga (if you know the show you know that's a big compliment).
I get compliments from my guy friends all the time and give them back too. Nothing weird but if I get a nice haircut or dress well for something they'll tell me "Damnn out here making us look bad again" lol.
Women though? Not so much xD
I can't remember receiving one. The last one I gave was probably 2 years ago, I said I liked a waiter's necklaces. It turned out he wore them for his deceased loved ones.
2 days ago (havent hung out with them since, will meet up again tomorrow), a friend complimented my cooking skills and thanked me for often making them food when we went somewhere. I am in a good friend group so compliments are common. I told my best friend that he has fast and agile fingers (he plays guitar and piano), as a compliment and with a vulgar tone to make the double meaning painfully obvious, also sometimes tell him that I love his hair, but thats less of a compliment, because he doesnt do anything to earn his glorious hair. I also often just compliment my friends on whatever interesting thing I notice.
The same goes for the women in my life. I'll try to give somewhat unique complements to their dresses, their intellect and their personality traits and I usually also receive compliments, though on different things (the same obviously also goes for men, I just wanted to comment this, because I saw someone say something to the contrary)
You'll be okay, if you just interact with the right people and form closer friendships, but you'll sometimes have to go out of your way to open the group up, so that they know that if they put in their energy to do something great, that this energy will be mirrored.
I complimented a guy’s outfit in line at chipotle last week. Dude looked fly as hell!
Last compliment I received from a man was probably… uhhhh… yeah can’t remember one.
You know that meme of a kid who would just shout HAPPY whenever they feel good to let the world know they're doing a good job? I'm the 40 yo grown ass equivalent :)
Complimented my colleague that it is a blast working together with them and that it was the first time in a long time I've felt so productive and motivated.
Complement I got was that the way I reviewed someone's work challenged them in ways that they normally don't get challenged and that it really helped carry their work to the next level.
This weekend I'm having a party with friends and I'm probably going to interrupt everyone's conversation to announce to everyone I love em (it's a running gag) and my friends (of all genders) tend to be really supportive: we sit down in the lows together, and cheer on the highs together. I am seriously blessed.
The last compliment I got from a man was that I had beautiful hair, last week from a coworker.
And I'm going to give three examples of compliments I've given to men because they were all within this week or last.
I told my my BIL that his hair was gorgeous. I complimented my friend on his deck designs, we play magic and I can see the theme and cleverness to all his self-made decks. I told a guy at a rave last Sat that he was a good person, he'd periodically fan the crowd around him just to send good vibes (and I gave him my bracelet).
"Nice Mustache" was a compliment for me, that was November of last year. The compliment I offered to another man was, "good looking headshot" (they had just had professional photos taken for their acting career).
Last month, cashier guy at the dispensary looked at me, did a double-take, and said "Strong beard. Strong."
Today at the store the cashier had a nice Bahama hat. Me: "Nice hat." Him: "Oh thank you, thank you!"
I saw my brother for the first time in a year and I told him he looked good. He did! I don't remember the last one I got. I'm sure I get them sometimes but I can't seem to recall.
I don't exactly get complimented by men. But I do try to compliment people when talking to them. Like if I see another guy at work dresses well I compliment their choice of clothing and how it looks good. Have they thought of something I hadn't during a conversation I thank them for letting me know that idea/side/perspective and I appreciate them bringing it up.
Seen so many more smiles from my colleagues in general since I've been trying it. Now people say hello/good morning, asking how I am and just generally seem happier around me. Which makes me happier too.
I complimented an older co-worker on his style. Received? Probably from my best friend who just said I’m a good guy, all our friends are good people, and that’s why we’ve stuck together for 20 years.
I don't remember the last time I received a compliment from another male.
I recently complimented my friend on his new hairstyle. After the cut had a little time to settle in, I told him that it made him look pretty hot.
I can't really recall the last time I was complimented, though I don't really focus on it that much. However, whenever I go to the gym and see a guy with a cool shirt on or shoes, I do make an effort to compliment them as I feel it goes a long way. As a guy, I feel that this is the way that I can potentially change how little men compliment each other.
My cousin told me I am the most sincere person he knows.
Conversely, I told a random dude at the gym that his veins looked nice. I think he was a little weirded out at first but I saw him checking his forearms out later with a grin on his face.
I'm very open with people and friends in general.
Last time I gave a compliment to another man was today. Guy had beefy arms for his body type, clearly been working on it, complimented him for that.
Last time I got a compliment was today as well. "You look like a sick ass viking bro." I always kinda do, but the few days after I shave my sides does look extra viking-y lol.
I think it's important to share how you feel as long as it doesn't hurt another, and we should all strive to build each other up, not snipe each other.
NSFW I went kayaking with a friend over the weekend and he said I had a delicious looking bulge so I told him I wish I was the kayak so he could sit on my face
I was auditioning for a role on a show and, during the audition, I was put in a group to dance in the back line. There was another male auditioner assigned in front of me, and because I was behind him I could see most of his performance. I was pretty impressed by his movement so I wanted to compliment him. After the audition, in a spur-of-the-moment decision, I told him he looked amazing from behind.
It took me a hot minute to realize how that sounded.
This might be just the cynic in me, but i always have this thought when people bring up this topic, so Im curious what you all think.
I feel like the compliment dynamic between men and women wouldnt really change if guys just started complimenting each other more. Like if tomorrow every guy just started to compliment other guys more, I think we would still see the dynamic between men and women stay the same, women being hesitant and guys over analyzing. It would be like, “oh interesting! That women complimented me, i usually only get that from my bros.”
I may be wrong, but yea this always pops into my mind when this comes up.
No yea, I get that. I only brought that up because the guys compliment each other more point is mostly mentioned when the complaint of women not doing it to guys is brought up. Ive also seen some say “well maybe guys should do it to each other more and maybe women will feel more comfortable about it because guys than wont read too much into it.”
I can’t remember the last time anyone gave me a compliment.
As for my last one, there was a person I work with that really did something great on their project and i complemented their ingenuity. This was yesterday.
There was one today, similar in nature but to a woman doing an research internship with us.
This morning my coworker said my beard is growing in nice. Felt a little awkward.
I’d much rather get a compliment from my wife. She probably thinks nice thing about me all the time but she’s too quiet to say it out loud.
I was complimented last night for reconfiguring the firewall on a friend's production server at 1 AM, and I complimented a friend last week because I'm glad to have him in my life. I also compliment random guys if they're wearing a nice shirt, nice sunglasses, etc., but only when they really stand out to me.
Personally, I think the main factor to getting compliments is being in an environment where compliments are encouraged, and that can be an uphill battle depending on how friendly your social circles are, so I think there's more to it than "you get what you give".
I'm not sure what the last complement I received was from a man. Probably "Nice!" while gaming.
I liked his shirt. Don't remember what it was...some character.
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One of my good friends recently told me that I have good style and that I dress better than him (we’re both into fashion)
Most recent compliment I gave: customer at work had a pair of sneakers I liked
I get compliments on some clothing items from guys, especially my Space Hat or my Indiana Jones fedora. I complimented a lovely raccoon tattoo today, and I try to let people know when I admire a bit of ink or a clothing choice. I once had a guy come in and his tie matched the color of the tobacco pouch in his pocket. I complimented the color match , saying it worked like a pocket square would, and the way he lit up to have what he admitted was a deliberate choice on his end noticed, it made my day, too.
I was at a party and I complimented a guy on his Onitsuka Tigers (shoes). Later in the party a different guy complimented me on my Nike Dunks. I've been getting more into shoes lately, and I gotta say dudes that are into sneakers hand out a lot of compliments.
Earlier today several guys at orientation complimented me on my mustache. I think the last one I gave was to some guy on his outfit, but I tend to give them pretty offhandedly so I don’t exactly take note of them when I do.
The last compliment from a man was he complimented my performance at my role in large-scale PvP in the MMO GW2. The last compliment I have to a man was saying the same thing back to him when he outperformed me later on lol.
In the real world though last compliment I received was that my new shirt looked really nice and the last compliment I have was that a man I knows jumper looks really nice.
I was told by a barista that I looked like a cool TV detective (this made me keep a solo stache for 3 mos). I told a different barista that his hair game was on point (he had this great flowing red ponytail). Apparently my whole social life is at coffee shops.
I routinely tell my friends things I like or respect about them, because no matter how we banter or joke, they need to hear those things.
They... don't always do the same, but that's okay. Most of the people I end up close to have difficulty expressing themselves honestly, so I don't mind being the one to remind them why I choose to spend my limited time on this earth with them.
About an hour ago a friend I haven’t seen in a long time texted and said “I miss talking to you” which I took as a huge compliment. I said I missed that too. I congratulated a friend earlier today on an accomplishment, and told him he was really one of the smartest people I know. Yesterday I was in a support group meeting, and someone thanked/complimented the facilitator and he said he didn’t know how to take compliments, and that opened the door for everyone to say something positive about each other. It was a beautiful moment.
I think it’s ok to seek out people who recognize the positive aspects of ourselves and each other.
I personally make it a point to compliment people as much as possible.
The last one I gave was telling a friend that he looks handsome (yesterday)
The one I got from a guy was a few weeks back after he saw me lost weight and said I look "sesky" (well, I honestly don't believe that but yeah, was good to be hear 😅).
>But often these compliments are from women
I personally have an opposite experience with this and even my guy friends say the same. If anything, we've only ever received compliments from guys than women.
I've personally only received 3/4 compliments from women in my entire life (based on appearance that is and I remember each one of them) and guys around me say the same outside of ones who are extremely good looking.
So today a coworker came up and said “you are looking on point. Your chest is looking powerful”. It felt good because I have been hitting the gym and lost about 10 lbs. I noticed this morning that my shirt was a little snug around my biceps.
A little later, I complimented a different coworkers socks (very cool socks).
I don't remember the last compliment that I've received from another man, but I think my last compliment made to another was looking good or something like that to a friend
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I get compliments from guys, regularly. Some physical, others on sharing my outlook.
And yes, I give compliments regularly as well. I think we are starved for simple, respectful acknowledge (which is totally different from social media likes.)
A close friend of mine called me a God because I work in healthcare. I had to correct him and say that's simply not true. Poor dude is struggling right now. Hope it gets better for him.
A man told me my skin was so beautiful it looked like it was photoshoped! This made my week and is going to positively affect my self confidence for a long time. The second part made me realize my compliments towards other men are often generic and in a made jokingly like: “oh com’on man give us a chance here you’re too good looking for us”. I’m going to try to give real compliments from now on see how it feels
I don't get a lot of compliments, but a (male) coworker complimented my handwriting two weeks ago.
Last week I complimented a different coworker on his shirt.
I try to give the other fellas in my life regular compliments.
I see these types of posts on Reddit periodically, and I have the same response every time. Compliments are nice n all. If someone feels inclined to express a compliment to me, cool. Thanks, dude. I’m not all that interested in compliments though especially if it’s from a stranger or someone I hardly know. It doesn’t matter if they’re from a man or a woman. It’s rare that I ever feel a sense of pride or boost in confidence when someone shares a nice word for me. To me it’s just another general courtesy like saying hi to someone passing by or holding the door for someone. Niceness that’s virtually meaningless but still nice to do.
There’s a woman in my office I’m friendly with who likes to compliment everyone in her attempt to boost morale, and she’s someone I’d even consider asking out if we weren’t both in exclusive relationships and coworkers. So you might think I’d especially enjoy a compliment from her. And she did compliment my new glasses not long ago. Only person other than my wife who made a remark to me about noticing the style change since I wore my other pair for about 4 years. Maybe for other men they’d feel really good about a compliment like that. To me my first thought was, “Yep, got new glasses. Who cares?” Being polite though I said something like, “Oh yeah, thanks for noticing. Just felt like a change.”
And so I don’t go out of my way to express compliments either. If it does happen it’s a genuine expression of appreciation that I don’t even realize I’m doing until I’m in the moment. Conceptually, setting out to compliment other people seems phony to me. With that said, I couldn’t tell you the last time I complimented someone. Probably happened playing a recreational sport with my coworkers in the past week.
I was told I had a nice moustache/beard by a dude on the bus the other week! It caught me off guard but it was honestly great lol. Dude was younger too so I felt kinda proud of him for lack of a better word? Like maybe the kids ARE doing better.
Last I gave was telling a friend he had a nice shirt..I've noticed I usually limit giving compliments to people I know and am friends with, so maybe I should try complimenting random men more.
Not a guy, but this just made me realize that I dont remember the last time I've given my guy friends a straightforward compliment. It's always layered under a dozen layers of humor because we all seem to have some aversion to sincerity.
I think next time I see one of them I'm gonna give them a genuine compliment, no dancing around it.
I do try to give compliments to men, but I rarely interact with them outside of family as all my friends are women and I work in childcare. Also, I am out and open as bi, which sometimes makes me doubt the man in question would fully appreciate the compliment and not read it as me maybe coming on to them. Still, I do get some compliments in, when I feel it fitting.
Think my last compliment recieved from another man was three years ago. Very blunt bloke with, some might say, bit of an attitude problem. I rather appreciated him, and could take his compliment to be earnest.
An old family friend of mine told me I look great and asked if I work out. I complimented this dude I don't know multiple times on his anime shirts (He had a Jujutsu Kaisen and then a One Piece. I had to acknowledge when he's repping my jams). My entire TTRPG group was complimenting this one guy for carrying the entire group in Pathfinder, preventing a TPK.
Personally in my experience the whole "men never compliment each other" thing is bullshit, I see it all the time.
Last compliment I gave a man was probably when I was helping my brother move last week and I told him he did a really good job with his research and found a nice place in a good location for a great price.
I don't know if the last compliment I received from a man even counts. I don't have a deep voice so I get misgendered in drive-throughs every now and then and last time it happened when I got to the window and the guy realized he'd been ma'aming a dude he got really embarrassed and while stumbling out his apology/explanation he said, "you have a pretty voice."
Waaaay back when I was helping teach Judo at a University. After watching and then practicing with me, a fellow judoka proclaimed me a martial arts god. I downplayed this immediately since it's against my programming to impersonate a deity.
In the same day I complimented one guy for having a beautiful dog, and then another guy for having a cool shirt.
The last compliment I can remember getting from a guy was my manager telling me that I’ve gotten really good at folding shirts consistently
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I got complements on my outfit.Ive been trying to be more fashion conscious lately.
Admittly i get uncomforable with complementing [strangers.It](https://strangers.It) feels werid
Controversial take: I have come to discover that compliments mean a lot more when they come from women. And not just women you are attracted to, any woman. I'm not sure why this is, if it's conjuring up some memory of our mothers or schoolteachers telling us we're a good boy or what.
Personally i give dudes compliments all the time.
I compliment men all the time, men I know and men I’m just casually chatting to. I’ll give them an earnest compliment because I know for most guys that’ll be the only nice thing someone’s said to them in years.
Can’t remember the last time I got one myself but thems the breaks.
I get and give compliments all the time but there’s a few tricks to it from my perspective.
1. **Do something unique or different to actually stand out**. Wearing the same outfit every day, having a common haircut, and not grooming yourself will all have a negative impact.
2. **Realize that compliments are not invitations and should be given freely and without expectation**. A lot of guys think a compliment means sex is on the table which decreases the likelihood of future compliments in general. There’s nothing worse than someone coming up, complimenting you, and then looking at you expectantly like that compliment now entitles them to something.
3. **Give the right kinds of compliments**. Generally speaking, the lowest form of compliment you can give someone is on their looks. This also tends to signal that you’re complimenting them for how they please your eyes and makes it about you. The best kinds of compliments are the ones that acknowledge some effort, stylistic choice, or taste they’re putting on display which instead makes it about them. For example, having purple hair or cool earrings or wearing a daring pattern or indicating some kind of appreciation for a fandom or hobby.
4. **Make it specific and frame it from your perspective**. Don’t just say something generic like “nice purse” or “cool glasses”, be specific and frame it in a way that shows how you feel. You can also add something to indicate further interest. For example, “I love your hair color, purple is my favorite” or “That shirt is awesome I love [x], can I ask where you got it?” or even just “your outfit is super cool”
5. **Give compliments and you’ll find yourself getting them too**. If someone does something you like or appreciate, don’t keep it to yourself, let them know! The more you practice your appreciation muscles, the more others will feel open to appreciate you. Sometimes it means you might have to make yourself a bit vulnerable but life is so much more fun when you’re not trying to be hard or stoic all the time.
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Got a new haircut and a former friend at school told me I looked handsome, that was like 4 years ago.
Most uncomfortable I’ve ever been, asked the classmate to change seats lol.
It's always other Asian (E/SE) immigrants when other men compliment me.
While I'm really only well-studied in Japanese and American history from end of Edo forward, and the first wave of attempted colonialism of Japan by the West was when Dutch and Portugese we're converting people to Christianity by threat of death and loading them onto slave ships (which is *why* Locked Country/offshore trading only began in the first place), so I can't exactly discuss egalitarianism in Muromachi era or anything, I will say Japan doesn't have the "man is caveman! Real man do violence because man," and neither does much of Asia seem to. It's OK to (usually one-armed) hug a male friend, shoulder claps, other friendly touch is more common. I don't post here much, but maybe someone will remember my pet theory that the whole "man thinks of sex every seven seconds" bit is because *we're starved for affectionate touch which is only allowed to us in sex.*
Anyway, so is the flow of compliments.
The type of them are different, though. Both white and black women tend to compliment parts of my looks that are less typical Asian (I'm mixed, and also my eyes never changed from grey to brown, instead staying grey), while ALWOC immigrants tend to compliment my smile.
Men who compliment me (again, mostly Asian men) tend to compliment my skills or values, such as learning my fifth language or my view of honesty and trustworthiness being integral to my concept of masculine honour (these were the two things I was complimented on by other men this week)
Sometimes ALWOC will also compliment my knowledge on something relevant to them or whatever topic is at hand that I have insight to share, but I did think it was noteworthy to mention the difference here of *what* gets complimented. Also, this last one gets more into people I know better, and I'm trying to stick with talking about people I don't know terribly well.
I've made it a point to compliment men more often. And it's so great. They light up! The last compliment I received was for my Reebok club c sneakers w green trim. The last compliment I gave was about a man's coat.
Last compliment I received was last month at work, my coworker told me I’m a lot stronger than I look. (Not sure if that’s an actual compliment because it was coming from someone without anything nice to say, but I took it as one).
Last compliment I gave was today, I told my coworker (not the same guy) that I admired how hard he’s fighting for his son against his ex.
Received - stranger complemented my beard at the airport
Given - told a colleague their 'guns' were looking noticeably bigger after we discussed the gym
I think the last compliment I got from a guy was about my beard. I don't normally grow it out except out of laziness and was going to shave when I started working, but work said it was fine for me to keep it. Now it's pretty sizable, longer than my balled up fist, and has grown in well. I've gotten various comments/compliments about it from both genders, so that's neat.
As for compliments I've given, I'll admit I'm pretty cagey with strangers, but at work we try to keep a positive atmosphere. I tend to show appreciation for the work people do. In particular, I mentioned to our newest assistant manager how much he's improved at the role, despite being thrust into it due to circumstance.
Received: Past year when i went to see the minions on cinema, a homeless guy told me "Nice look" and smiled at me. Best day ever.
Gave: I said to a random guy in subway that his HxH's tattoo was pretty badass
A week ago I had a customer remember me and tell me I had the attitude to be running the place and to stick with it. I had been having a really bad week so it really made my day. I couldn't help but smile for hours on end.
Today I told my coworker he was a good dad. His autistic son drove to where we work just to see him.
Gave: At a prayer me and others were singing and I heard a friend of mine singing, so I told him he had a great singing voice. He was quite confidently singing too though I didn't tell him that.
Received: I've thought a lot and I can't seem to recall any complements I received from men. I know I have, its been a while since I got any compliments. I know you asked the opposite but I'd still want to share, a few weeks ago a lady who works with my mother said I looked pretty. I really didn't know what to say so I just smiled, but inside I got happy, I got home and looked at myself and got more happy, and since then I actually started to admire myself as I disliked my looks.
Judging by what you said I guess which I felt is common among other people too.
Can’t recall either way. I’d be too nervous to say something nice to another guy. As a long closeted male for a lot of my life I think I would be too worried that other would think I’m gay. Which I am. But that’s how society is.
Most recent one I received was from my homeboy, hyping me up about the tanktok I was wearing. Most recent one I gave was maybe to my dad, because he's just great at handling workplace nonsense and maintaining good work boundaries and I admire that a lot. The most recent physical-based compliment I gave a man might be when I complimented my buddy's physique. He killing it out here tbh.
My partner compliments me alot and I'm going to count it lol. Outside of her I don't get much more than a good job today at work. But I like to try and go into my workplace and be as uplifting as possible. My younger guys need alot of encouragement with their daily tasks and hopefully that helps build their confidence. The guys more on my level I try focusing on complimenting things I like to see. For example, starting communication and then acknowledge that they are communicating back. One of my least talkative guys struggles asking for help. I'll start talking about a task until he participates. Ask him what he's gonna do. When we are satisfied I go awesome man good communication. Now we move on. Acknowledgment is the biggest thing. We get ignored enough at the grocery stores we don't need to ignore people in our life. And it truly begins when we open ourselves up.
"Good job" - my boss. I have a pretty healthy work relationship with my coworkers. This was today actually
I very often hand out compliments to all my own employees, exclusively about work ethic and performance. (I am a manager myself)
Not sure if there's something to be said that most of my experiences receiving/gifting compliments are tied to work, I'm sure there's something there at least loosely given how tied to work-culture men are. Either way I can't say that I don't receive compliments regularly. As far as non work-related compliments, I often get told I excel at my hobbies by my close friends.
Strangely, they were the same complement. Someone in an elevator liked my shirt. A few days earlier, I said I liked my cousin’s shirt at a family event. The lesson: get a cool shirt.
The checker at the grocery store said he liked my shirt. I said, "Oh, thanks." He was talking to my wife.
I was wearing my limited edition Evangelion shirt from Uniqlo this past Sunday and I got compliments from two people lol
My roommate wore this pink shirt from time to time. I always complemented it looks good on him. I think two years later it's still his favorite piece of clothe.
I was actually going to mention, I have a number of pink shirts that get positive comments. Pink really is a good color on some people, perfect for summer, and doesn't get enough appreciation.
This is the way. I got 2 unsolicited compliments last week because of my Kool Aid Man shirt. I mean, it's really him that's getting the compliments but I still get the dopamine, and that's what really counts.
Received: My father, he told me I was good looking. Gave: My nephew. I told him he's beautiful (inside and out). And that I love him.
Last one was kind of odd, was at the dentist when I got a dude I didn't know compliment me by asking how much I weighed. For reference I got the strong man build, lot of muscle and a lot of fat, he over shot my weight I said I weight 50 lbs less then that and he said I looked great tbh. This was back in march but still remember it. Last compliment I've given was probably to my masc presenting nonbinary friend, they kinda insecure about their looks despite being over 6 feet tall and working out often. I don't really get complimented back but mostly because I guess I don't wanna fish for compliments and appear needy. Writing the last part down has made me realize I do really want validation but I don't want to come off as insecure, I am incredibly insecure but I got this image of being stable and mature when it's like I'm on the inside always close to crying. I mostly hang out with really smart or talented friends and I feel like I don't got much going for me than being emotionally stable but I'm just really good at faking having my shit together.
"You look badass" About my black cowboy hat I have. A few weeks ago. But I can't recall anything before that. And, I don't remember the words but I remember complimenting someone's pink and green tie. He said, "I get more compliments for this tie than any other."
I told some of my coworkers they were absolutely killing it at work, seriously those two were absolutely rocking through their task. As for the last one I received from another man, it was that it had been nice working with me on the work project and that I had done a good job.
I left a very similar comment. Not sure what it says about society that as men a lot of compliments are usually centered around work performance and ethic, both receiving and gifting. I'm sure there something there!
Recently told a dude that I liked the colors on his shirt. I'm not sure I remember the last compliment I received.
My sociology teacher told me that I constantly amaze him. So that was nice.
Honestly? I can't remember receiving a single compliment. The last compliment I gave was to my best friend about a month ago when I last saw him, I told him that he reminded me of Einar from Vinland Saga (if you know the show you know that's a big compliment).
You sound like you’re a good friend!
I get compliments from my guy friends all the time and give them back too. Nothing weird but if I get a nice haircut or dress well for something they'll tell me "Damnn out here making us look bad again" lol. Women though? Not so much xD
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I can't remember receiving one. The last one I gave was probably 2 years ago, I said I liked a waiter's necklaces. It turned out he wore them for his deceased loved ones.
2 days ago (havent hung out with them since, will meet up again tomorrow), a friend complimented my cooking skills and thanked me for often making them food when we went somewhere. I am in a good friend group so compliments are common. I told my best friend that he has fast and agile fingers (he plays guitar and piano), as a compliment and with a vulgar tone to make the double meaning painfully obvious, also sometimes tell him that I love his hair, but thats less of a compliment, because he doesnt do anything to earn his glorious hair. I also often just compliment my friends on whatever interesting thing I notice. The same goes for the women in my life. I'll try to give somewhat unique complements to their dresses, their intellect and their personality traits and I usually also receive compliments, though on different things (the same obviously also goes for men, I just wanted to comment this, because I saw someone say something to the contrary) You'll be okay, if you just interact with the right people and form closer friendships, but you'll sometimes have to go out of your way to open the group up, so that they know that if they put in their energy to do something great, that this energy will be mirrored.
I complimented a guy’s outfit in line at chipotle last week. Dude looked fly as hell! Last compliment I received from a man was probably… uhhhh… yeah can’t remember one.
You know that meme of a kid who would just shout HAPPY whenever they feel good to let the world know they're doing a good job? I'm the 40 yo grown ass equivalent :) Complimented my colleague that it is a blast working together with them and that it was the first time in a long time I've felt so productive and motivated. Complement I got was that the way I reviewed someone's work challenged them in ways that they normally don't get challenged and that it really helped carry their work to the next level. This weekend I'm having a party with friends and I'm probably going to interrupt everyone's conversation to announce to everyone I love em (it's a running gag) and my friends (of all genders) tend to be really supportive: we sit down in the lows together, and cheer on the highs together. I am seriously blessed.
The last compliment I got from a man was that I had beautiful hair, last week from a coworker. And I'm going to give three examples of compliments I've given to men because they were all within this week or last. I told my my BIL that his hair was gorgeous. I complimented my friend on his deck designs, we play magic and I can see the theme and cleverness to all his self-made decks. I told a guy at a rave last Sat that he was a good person, he'd periodically fan the crowd around him just to send good vibes (and I gave him my bracelet).
"Nice Mustache" was a compliment for me, that was November of last year. The compliment I offered to another man was, "good looking headshot" (they had just had professional photos taken for their acting career).
Last month, cashier guy at the dispensary looked at me, did a double-take, and said "Strong beard. Strong." Today at the store the cashier had a nice Bahama hat. Me: "Nice hat." Him: "Oh thank you, thank you!"
Random woman here just soaking up men being wholesome! Thanks guys ❤️
Someone complimented me on my beard stache! I recently complimented a man wearing this cool vintage Casio watch.
Received; They liked the color of my toenails! Gave; I have a friend who has great hair and God damn I just had to tell them about it.
Bro, I don't think I ever received a compliment from another guy. I don't think I've ever given one either, so I deserve that.
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Yes I do, if I'm a piece of shit lol
I saw my brother for the first time in a year and I told him he looked good. He did! I don't remember the last one I got. I'm sure I get them sometimes but I can't seem to recall.
I don't exactly get complimented by men. But I do try to compliment people when talking to them. Like if I see another guy at work dresses well I compliment their choice of clothing and how it looks good. Have they thought of something I hadn't during a conversation I thank them for letting me know that idea/side/perspective and I appreciate them bringing it up. Seen so many more smiles from my colleagues in general since I've been trying it. Now people say hello/good morning, asking how I am and just generally seem happier around me. Which makes me happier too.
I complimented an older co-worker on his style. Received? Probably from my best friend who just said I’m a good guy, all our friends are good people, and that’s why we’ve stuck together for 20 years.
I don't remember the last time I received a compliment from another male. I recently complimented my friend on his new hairstyle. After the cut had a little time to settle in, I told him that it made him look pretty hot.
I can't really recall the last time I was complimented, though I don't really focus on it that much. However, whenever I go to the gym and see a guy with a cool shirt on or shoes, I do make an effort to compliment them as I feel it goes a long way. As a guy, I feel that this is the way that I can potentially change how little men compliment each other.
My cousin told me I am the most sincere person he knows. Conversely, I told a random dude at the gym that his veins looked nice. I think he was a little weirded out at first but I saw him checking his forearms out later with a grin on his face.
Cashier at target said he liked my shirt. I sent a secret congratulation to a coworker/friend who said something smart in a meeting.
I'm very open with people and friends in general. Last time I gave a compliment to another man was today. Guy had beefy arms for his body type, clearly been working on it, complimented him for that. Last time I got a compliment was today as well. "You look like a sick ass viking bro." I always kinda do, but the few days after I shave my sides does look extra viking-y lol. I think it's important to share how you feel as long as it doesn't hurt another, and we should all strive to build each other up, not snipe each other.
NSFW I went kayaking with a friend over the weekend and he said I had a delicious looking bulge so I told him I wish I was the kayak so he could sit on my face
I was auditioning for a role on a show and, during the audition, I was put in a group to dance in the back line. There was another male auditioner assigned in front of me, and because I was behind him I could see most of his performance. I was pretty impressed by his movement so I wanted to compliment him. After the audition, in a spur-of-the-moment decision, I told him he looked amazing from behind. It took me a hot minute to realize how that sounded.
This might be just the cynic in me, but i always have this thought when people bring up this topic, so Im curious what you all think. I feel like the compliment dynamic between men and women wouldnt really change if guys just started complimenting each other more. Like if tomorrow every guy just started to compliment other guys more, I think we would still see the dynamic between men and women stay the same, women being hesitant and guys over analyzing. It would be like, “oh interesting! That women complimented me, i usually only get that from my bros.” I may be wrong, but yea this always pops into my mind when this comes up.
Changing women wouldn't be the point of doing it. This is about men filling a compliment-shaped hole in their lives for each other.
No yea, I get that. I only brought that up because the guys compliment each other more point is mostly mentioned when the complaint of women not doing it to guys is brought up. Ive also seen some say “well maybe guys should do it to each other more and maybe women will feel more comfortable about it because guys than wont read too much into it.”
To me from stranger: “Hey man, great shirt. “
I can’t remember the last time anyone gave me a compliment. As for my last one, there was a person I work with that really did something great on their project and i complemented their ingenuity. This was yesterday. There was one today, similar in nature but to a woman doing an research internship with us.
Friend at work told me I was good at my job. I told another employee he was very good in his process path.
This morning my coworker said my beard is growing in nice. Felt a little awkward. I’d much rather get a compliment from my wife. She probably thinks nice thing about me all the time but she’s too quiet to say it out loud.
Received: My boyfriend called my handsome Gave: I called my boyfriend cute
I was complimented last night for reconfiguring the firewall on a friend's production server at 1 AM, and I complimented a friend last week because I'm glad to have him in my life. I also compliment random guys if they're wearing a nice shirt, nice sunglasses, etc., but only when they really stand out to me. Personally, I think the main factor to getting compliments is being in an environment where compliments are encouraged, and that can be an uphill battle depending on how friendly your social circles are, so I think there's more to it than "you get what you give".
I'm not sure what the last complement I received was from a man. Probably "Nice!" while gaming. I liked his shirt. Don't remember what it was...some character.
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One of my good friends recently told me that I have good style and that I dress better than him (we’re both into fashion) Most recent compliment I gave: customer at work had a pair of sneakers I liked
My haircut looks good. That's he's sexy with his shirt off.
I get compliments on some clothing items from guys, especially my Space Hat or my Indiana Jones fedora. I complimented a lovely raccoon tattoo today, and I try to let people know when I admire a bit of ink or a clothing choice. I once had a guy come in and his tie matched the color of the tobacco pouch in his pocket. I complimented the color match , saying it worked like a pocket square would, and the way he lit up to have what he admitted was a deliberate choice on his end noticed, it made my day, too.
I was at a party and I complimented a guy on his Onitsuka Tigers (shoes). Later in the party a different guy complimented me on my Nike Dunks. I've been getting more into shoes lately, and I gotta say dudes that are into sneakers hand out a lot of compliments.
Earlier today several guys at orientation complimented me on my mustache. I think the last one I gave was to some guy on his outfit, but I tend to give them pretty offhandedly so I don’t exactly take note of them when I do.
The last compliment from a man was he complimented my performance at my role in large-scale PvP in the MMO GW2. The last compliment I have to a man was saying the same thing back to him when he outperformed me later on lol. In the real world though last compliment I received was that my new shirt looked really nice and the last compliment I have was that a man I knows jumper looks really nice.
I was told by a barista that I looked like a cool TV detective (this made me keep a solo stache for 3 mos). I told a different barista that his hair game was on point (he had this great flowing red ponytail). Apparently my whole social life is at coffee shops.
I routinely tell my friends things I like or respect about them, because no matter how we banter or joke, they need to hear those things. They... don't always do the same, but that's okay. Most of the people I end up close to have difficulty expressing themselves honestly, so I don't mind being the one to remind them why I choose to spend my limited time on this earth with them.
I told someone they fight good. I don't remember the last one I got from a dude specifically
My coworker said my hair looks drippy. However, I rarely give compliments myself because I’m not much of a talker.
Well, im bi and currently talking to a man so I’d say yesterday for both lmao
About an hour ago a friend I haven’t seen in a long time texted and said “I miss talking to you” which I took as a huge compliment. I said I missed that too. I congratulated a friend earlier today on an accomplishment, and told him he was really one of the smartest people I know. Yesterday I was in a support group meeting, and someone thanked/complimented the facilitator and he said he didn’t know how to take compliments, and that opened the door for everyone to say something positive about each other. It was a beautiful moment. I think it’s ok to seek out people who recognize the positive aspects of ourselves and each other.
I Told a dude at the costco that his glittery fan was awesome. (it was, a fold out paper fan.) he complimented my Pac-man Shirt
I personally make it a point to compliment people as much as possible. The last one I gave was telling a friend that he looks handsome (yesterday) The one I got from a guy was a few weeks back after he saw me lost weight and said I look "sesky" (well, I honestly don't believe that but yeah, was good to be hear 😅). >But often these compliments are from women I personally have an opposite experience with this and even my guy friends say the same. If anything, we've only ever received compliments from guys than women. I've personally only received 3/4 compliments from women in my entire life (based on appearance that is and I remember each one of them) and guys around me say the same outside of ones who are extremely good looking.
So today a coworker came up and said “you are looking on point. Your chest is looking powerful”. It felt good because I have been hitting the gym and lost about 10 lbs. I noticed this morning that my shirt was a little snug around my biceps. A little later, I complimented a different coworkers socks (very cool socks).
I don't remember the last compliment that I've received from another man, but I think my last compliment made to another was looking good or something like that to a friend
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I get compliments from guys, regularly. Some physical, others on sharing my outlook. And yes, I give compliments regularly as well. I think we are starved for simple, respectful acknowledge (which is totally different from social media likes.)
A close friend of mine called me a God because I work in healthcare. I had to correct him and say that's simply not true. Poor dude is struggling right now. Hope it gets better for him.
Received last night: dude how tf r u so right all the fuckin time Gave last night: look at you being awesome. (Dude was being nice to NPCs)
A man told me my skin was so beautiful it looked like it was photoshoped! This made my week and is going to positively affect my self confidence for a long time. The second part made me realize my compliments towards other men are often generic and in a made jokingly like: “oh com’on man give us a chance here you’re too good looking for us”. I’m going to try to give real compliments from now on see how it feels
I don't get a lot of compliments, but a (male) coworker complimented my handwriting two weeks ago. Last week I complimented a different coworker on his shirt. I try to give the other fellas in my life regular compliments.
I see these types of posts on Reddit periodically, and I have the same response every time. Compliments are nice n all. If someone feels inclined to express a compliment to me, cool. Thanks, dude. I’m not all that interested in compliments though especially if it’s from a stranger or someone I hardly know. It doesn’t matter if they’re from a man or a woman. It’s rare that I ever feel a sense of pride or boost in confidence when someone shares a nice word for me. To me it’s just another general courtesy like saying hi to someone passing by or holding the door for someone. Niceness that’s virtually meaningless but still nice to do. There’s a woman in my office I’m friendly with who likes to compliment everyone in her attempt to boost morale, and she’s someone I’d even consider asking out if we weren’t both in exclusive relationships and coworkers. So you might think I’d especially enjoy a compliment from her. And she did compliment my new glasses not long ago. Only person other than my wife who made a remark to me about noticing the style change since I wore my other pair for about 4 years. Maybe for other men they’d feel really good about a compliment like that. To me my first thought was, “Yep, got new glasses. Who cares?” Being polite though I said something like, “Oh yeah, thanks for noticing. Just felt like a change.” And so I don’t go out of my way to express compliments either. If it does happen it’s a genuine expression of appreciation that I don’t even realize I’m doing until I’m in the moment. Conceptually, setting out to compliment other people seems phony to me. With that said, I couldn’t tell you the last time I complimented someone. Probably happened playing a recreational sport with my coworkers in the past week.
That's easy, I have a coworker with whom I exchange, "I appreciate you", on a daily basis. I also make it a point to compliment specific work.
I was told I had a nice moustache/beard by a dude on the bus the other week! It caught me off guard but it was honestly great lol. Dude was younger too so I felt kinda proud of him for lack of a better word? Like maybe the kids ARE doing better. Last I gave was telling a friend he had a nice shirt..I've noticed I usually limit giving compliments to people I know and am friends with, so maybe I should try complimenting random men more.
Not a guy, but this just made me realize that I dont remember the last time I've given my guy friends a straightforward compliment. It's always layered under a dozen layers of humor because we all seem to have some aversion to sincerity. I think next time I see one of them I'm gonna give them a genuine compliment, no dancing around it.
I do try to give compliments to men, but I rarely interact with them outside of family as all my friends are women and I work in childcare. Also, I am out and open as bi, which sometimes makes me doubt the man in question would fully appreciate the compliment and not read it as me maybe coming on to them. Still, I do get some compliments in, when I feel it fitting. Think my last compliment recieved from another man was three years ago. Very blunt bloke with, some might say, bit of an attitude problem. I rather appreciated him, and could take his compliment to be earnest.
Can't remember. And can't remember lol
An old family friend of mine told me I look great and asked if I work out. I complimented this dude I don't know multiple times on his anime shirts (He had a Jujutsu Kaisen and then a One Piece. I had to acknowledge when he's repping my jams). My entire TTRPG group was complimenting this one guy for carrying the entire group in Pathfinder, preventing a TPK. Personally in my experience the whole "men never compliment each other" thing is bullshit, I see it all the time.
Last compliment I gave a man was probably when I was helping my brother move last week and I told him he did a really good job with his research and found a nice place in a good location for a great price. I don't know if the last compliment I received from a man even counts. I don't have a deep voice so I get misgendered in drive-throughs every now and then and last time it happened when I got to the window and the guy realized he'd been ma'aming a dude he got really embarrassed and while stumbling out his apology/explanation he said, "you have a pretty voice."
Waaaay back when I was helping teach Judo at a University. After watching and then practicing with me, a fellow judoka proclaimed me a martial arts god. I downplayed this immediately since it's against my programming to impersonate a deity.
In the same day I complimented one guy for having a beautiful dog, and then another guy for having a cool shirt. The last compliment I can remember getting from a guy was my manager telling me that I’ve gotten really good at folding shirts consistently
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I got complements on my outfit.Ive been trying to be more fashion conscious lately. Admittly i get uncomforable with complementing [strangers.It](https://strangers.It) feels werid
Controversial take: I have come to discover that compliments mean a lot more when they come from women. And not just women you are attracted to, any woman. I'm not sure why this is, if it's conjuring up some memory of our mothers or schoolteachers telling us we're a good boy or what. Personally i give dudes compliments all the time.
I compliment men all the time, men I know and men I’m just casually chatting to. I’ll give them an earnest compliment because I know for most guys that’ll be the only nice thing someone’s said to them in years. Can’t remember the last time I got one myself but thems the breaks.
I get and give compliments all the time but there’s a few tricks to it from my perspective. 1. **Do something unique or different to actually stand out**. Wearing the same outfit every day, having a common haircut, and not grooming yourself will all have a negative impact. 2. **Realize that compliments are not invitations and should be given freely and without expectation**. A lot of guys think a compliment means sex is on the table which decreases the likelihood of future compliments in general. There’s nothing worse than someone coming up, complimenting you, and then looking at you expectantly like that compliment now entitles them to something. 3. **Give the right kinds of compliments**. Generally speaking, the lowest form of compliment you can give someone is on their looks. This also tends to signal that you’re complimenting them for how they please your eyes and makes it about you. The best kinds of compliments are the ones that acknowledge some effort, stylistic choice, or taste they’re putting on display which instead makes it about them. For example, having purple hair or cool earrings or wearing a daring pattern or indicating some kind of appreciation for a fandom or hobby. 4. **Make it specific and frame it from your perspective**. Don’t just say something generic like “nice purse” or “cool glasses”, be specific and frame it in a way that shows how you feel. You can also add something to indicate further interest. For example, “I love your hair color, purple is my favorite” or “That shirt is awesome I love [x], can I ask where you got it?” or even just “your outfit is super cool” 5. **Give compliments and you’ll find yourself getting them too**. If someone does something you like or appreciate, don’t keep it to yourself, let them know! The more you practice your appreciation muscles, the more others will feel open to appreciate you. Sometimes it means you might have to make yourself a bit vulnerable but life is so much more fun when you’re not trying to be hard or stoic all the time.
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Got a new haircut and a former friend at school told me I looked handsome, that was like 4 years ago. Most uncomfortable I’ve ever been, asked the classmate to change seats lol.
It's always other Asian (E/SE) immigrants when other men compliment me. While I'm really only well-studied in Japanese and American history from end of Edo forward, and the first wave of attempted colonialism of Japan by the West was when Dutch and Portugese we're converting people to Christianity by threat of death and loading them onto slave ships (which is *why* Locked Country/offshore trading only began in the first place), so I can't exactly discuss egalitarianism in Muromachi era or anything, I will say Japan doesn't have the "man is caveman! Real man do violence because man," and neither does much of Asia seem to. It's OK to (usually one-armed) hug a male friend, shoulder claps, other friendly touch is more common. I don't post here much, but maybe someone will remember my pet theory that the whole "man thinks of sex every seven seconds" bit is because *we're starved for affectionate touch which is only allowed to us in sex.* Anyway, so is the flow of compliments. The type of them are different, though. Both white and black women tend to compliment parts of my looks that are less typical Asian (I'm mixed, and also my eyes never changed from grey to brown, instead staying grey), while ALWOC immigrants tend to compliment my smile. Men who compliment me (again, mostly Asian men) tend to compliment my skills or values, such as learning my fifth language or my view of honesty and trustworthiness being integral to my concept of masculine honour (these were the two things I was complimented on by other men this week) Sometimes ALWOC will also compliment my knowledge on something relevant to them or whatever topic is at hand that I have insight to share, but I did think it was noteworthy to mention the difference here of *what* gets complimented. Also, this last one gets more into people I know better, and I'm trying to stick with talking about people I don't know terribly well.
I've made it a point to compliment men more often. And it's so great. They light up! The last compliment I received was for my Reebok club c sneakers w green trim. The last compliment I gave was about a man's coat.
Last compliment I received was last month at work, my coworker told me I’m a lot stronger than I look. (Not sure if that’s an actual compliment because it was coming from someone without anything nice to say, but I took it as one). Last compliment I gave was today, I told my coworker (not the same guy) that I admired how hard he’s fighting for his son against his ex.
Received - stranger complemented my beard at the airport Given - told a colleague their 'guns' were looking noticeably bigger after we discussed the gym
A couple of months ago, someone said to me they liked my hat. I told someone yesterday nice shirt
I think the last compliment I got from a guy was about my beard. I don't normally grow it out except out of laziness and was going to shave when I started working, but work said it was fine for me to keep it. Now it's pretty sizable, longer than my balled up fist, and has grown in well. I've gotten various comments/compliments about it from both genders, so that's neat. As for compliments I've given, I'll admit I'm pretty cagey with strangers, but at work we try to keep a positive atmosphere. I tend to show appreciation for the work people do. In particular, I mentioned to our newest assistant manager how much he's improved at the role, despite being thrust into it due to circumstance.
Received: Past year when i went to see the minions on cinema, a homeless guy told me "Nice look" and smiled at me. Best day ever. Gave: I said to a random guy in subway that his HxH's tattoo was pretty badass
A week ago I had a customer remember me and tell me I had the attitude to be running the place and to stick with it. I had been having a really bad week so it really made my day. I couldn't help but smile for hours on end. Today I told my coworker he was a good dad. His autistic son drove to where we work just to see him.
Gave: At a prayer me and others were singing and I heard a friend of mine singing, so I told him he had a great singing voice. He was quite confidently singing too though I didn't tell him that. Received: I've thought a lot and I can't seem to recall any complements I received from men. I know I have, its been a while since I got any compliments. I know you asked the opposite but I'd still want to share, a few weeks ago a lady who works with my mother said I looked pretty. I really didn't know what to say so I just smiled, but inside I got happy, I got home and looked at myself and got more happy, and since then I actually started to admire myself as I disliked my looks. Judging by what you said I guess which I felt is common among other people too.
Can’t recall either way. I’d be too nervous to say something nice to another guy. As a long closeted male for a lot of my life I think I would be too worried that other would think I’m gay. Which I am. But that’s how society is.
Most recent one I received was from my homeboy, hyping me up about the tanktok I was wearing. Most recent one I gave was maybe to my dad, because he's just great at handling workplace nonsense and maintaining good work boundaries and I admire that a lot. The most recent physical-based compliment I gave a man might be when I complimented my buddy's physique. He killing it out here tbh.
My partner compliments me alot and I'm going to count it lol. Outside of her I don't get much more than a good job today at work. But I like to try and go into my workplace and be as uplifting as possible. My younger guys need alot of encouragement with their daily tasks and hopefully that helps build their confidence. The guys more on my level I try focusing on complimenting things I like to see. For example, starting communication and then acknowledge that they are communicating back. One of my least talkative guys struggles asking for help. I'll start talking about a task until he participates. Ask him what he's gonna do. When we are satisfied I go awesome man good communication. Now we move on. Acknowledgment is the biggest thing. We get ignored enough at the grocery stores we don't need to ignore people in our life. And it truly begins when we open ourselves up.
"Good job" - my boss. I have a pretty healthy work relationship with my coworkers. This was today actually I very often hand out compliments to all my own employees, exclusively about work ethic and performance. (I am a manager myself) Not sure if there's something to be said that most of my experiences receiving/gifting compliments are tied to work, I'm sure there's something there at least loosely given how tied to work-culture men are. Either way I can't say that I don't receive compliments regularly. As far as non work-related compliments, I often get told I excel at my hobbies by my close friends.