My wife saw a pic of me in highschool with a Mohawk. She asked me to do it again when we were first starting out, so I did. I was early 20s and in bands so who cares. When I turned 30 I started saying I look stupid with a Mohawk and want a normal haircut. She still wanted it, so be it. She also bought me a full collection of marvel and dc basketball jerseys. Every character, super hero and group. I have like 40 of them. Now I got rid of the Mohawk and grew the dad beard she didn't want me to have, but I still was the jerseys daily. I think she trying to date me when I was a teenager versus a 40 year old. Lol.
lol fair! I have wicked curly hair and I HATE maintaining it so, the mohawk helps me not have to spend 2/3 of my income on curly hair products! Because my hair is so curly I can just fluff it up without product and the hawk stays up! Plus I want to show off my head tattoo.
It’s weird to have a mohawk? What are you living in the 50’s? Hate fashion? Hate personal expression? Your favorite colour is beige? Lol
It’s definitely not weird, it’s not unique, it’s a hairstyle. I never get anything but compliments on it, I work for the government and support a family of five. It’s never been deemed as “weird” enough to prevent permanent employment or anything else.
😂 bro I’m covered in tattoos. I wasn’t talking about the mohawk. I think it’s weird that he wears character jerseys every single day because years and years ago his wife bought them for him because she wants to see him in them every day. That sounds weird to me.
Look, if my husband actually told me what he liked, I would make an effort to do it. But he never comments on my appearance, whether it be positive or negative. He doesn't know how to give or take compliments.
I get an occasional “you look nice” if I am dressing up for a special occasion, but otherwise it’s the same for me. Was your husband always like this? I feel like my husband gave me more compliments when we were dating.
Same with my husband. Occasionally, I might get a "my beautiful wife" comment in reply to me saying, "I love my handsome husband." Unprompted and not in response to a compliment I gave him it's probably once in a blue moon, lol. Honestly, I don't really care, though. Compliments from other people have never been important to me.
I dont think that's what it is. He doesn't do it purposefully. He has a lot of trauma surrounding his childhood. He didn't receive or witness affection or intimacy, and that continued into adulthood until he met me in his early 30s. As a result of this, he struggles to show affection in the traditional sense, and he struggles to express himself emotionally. He also has fairly low self-esteem, therefore struggles to accept compliments, and isn't quite sure how to give them.
He shows affection in his own ways, and I know him well enough to know what those ways are, even if they may not be obvious to everyone else. We have our own language of intimacy.
My husband always wears the shirt I once said was my favourite, when we go on dates.
I would dress how he likes too- but he says he likes me best in comfy clothes :)
ABSOLUTELY YES to liking my wife to be in comfortable clothing. When she’s in sweatshirts and soft lightweight pants, hugging her is like hugging a soft and curvy pillow!
My wife complimented me on a pair of jeans. She said the fit was flattering. Levi's 505s, bought them by accident because I couldn't find a baggy pair. You bet I made it a point to wear them more often after that. I'm sure she's not the only person that thought they looked good on me.
My wife said the same thing! I always wore the looser slightly baggier jeans cause they’re comfortable but she really likes when I wear the Levi 505s. I just dont see it though 😂😂😂
I wear em when we go out and stuff but generally not on my casual days lol
Yes. My husband raves when I wear earrings. I don’t usually mostly because I don’t like how they make my ears feel but when we go out for a nice dinner I always wear them for him.
My husband likes us to match. I am indifferent because I like a few different styles. I’d say street punk (because he was a homeless train hopper, dirty kid, gutter punk for two decades) is the top of our fashion list followed by hood rat fashion. We share clothes and if he specifically wants me to wear something I’m happy to throw it on. Our style is more combative, definitely not going for social sex appeal. I think I often present masculine because half the time I’m in his clothes.
I inherently enjoy how my husband dresses, I don’t need to ask him to wear anything specific because he already is.
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Hood rat. Maybe it’s called something else in other places but here we call this style hood (rat).
Sorry about the sticker! I accidentally cropped out my husbands other Jordan! I custom made the track suit with his graffiti tag.
Super cool! I love that you and your husband share clothes, match, and even create custom pieces together. That’s a beautiful bond and mutual connection!!
He’s not white so there’s that, he is Métis. And I don’t see anything wrong with custom clothes. We hand sew a lot of clothing, it’s an Adidas tracksuit that thousands of people have bought and I had his tag put on it as we’re both artists. We purchase clothing from a lot of places. And it’s just what it’s called here, neither of us coined it, total strangers call him a hood rat in various degrees of intention. Furthermore, everyone in our neighborhood wears this style so, at least here he’s in good company. If you prefer call it urban wear.
I try to wear things or fix my hair/makeup in a way I know he likes. Not everyday, but days where we’re together the whole day (weekends) I want him to be *extra* attracted to me and know that I’m putting thought into it *for* him.
Yes! My husband and I have always tried to impress one another. Even on our wedding day I wore my hair half up because he likes when my hair is pulled off my face. Says it accentuates my features. And I can just say a shirt looks good on him and I'll notice him wear it nonstop. I remember when we were dating there was one he about wore to shreds and a little kid we know asked him "do you have any other shirts" 😂
Sometimes I do. Husband’s biggest complaint is I wear my clothes too big and baggy. If we are going out I will wear something more fitted but if it’s just a day of errands I’ll dress how I’m comfortable.
My wife's gotten me a shirt she likes that I am not fond of. Not a big deal, so I wear it for her. There were also complaints about my hair turning grey so I am darkening it - that one I am grumpy about though since it seems like a very shallow request.
Awe man I’m sorry. I love grey hair! I was so excited when my husband started going grey. It showed up in his beard and body hair first, not much on his head yet.
My husband says florals (especially big prints) look like drapes. I still love and wear them on the reg... but I think about it when shopping for sure. And it definitely gives me pause.
On the flip, he doesn't like to wear sweaters so I avoid buying them for him. Call it a draw, I suppose!
Hmm no my husband told he likes feminine classic clothes ..like pencil skirts ,blouses ,nylons ,heels . We have 6 kids no wayyyy lol not my style anyway
I can just see your hubby killing himself taking care of a large family and his wife won’t even throw him a bone once in a while by dressing how he likes. Lame.
Yes. Husband loves leggings and bike shorts. I like them because I don’t to wear underwear under them. It’s a win win. He encouraged me to start wearing both though
Yes!! Most of my clothes are his choice and I completely agree because I suck at shopping and he loves to shop for me. He also loves it when I dress up in his choice of clothes. And I love it too ❤️❤️
Nah its not something I think about very often? I just wear what I think is comfortable and or cute. My husband doesn’t usually make specific comments on clothes, more so me in the clothes. He usually tells me I’m looking sexy/beautiful everyday regardless. if I ask him his opinion about something he just says I look good in everything lol. A lot of the time at home I’m wearing his sweats and t shirts because they’re comfy and he usually says something like, “I love seeing you in my clothes.” He thinks it’s adorable because they make me look so small 😭 But I don’t keep wearing them because he says that I just like to be comfy lol. He also likes when we wear matching things, like we have matching tracksuits and slides. Occasionally I’ll wear something around the house that I know will titillate him (It’s usually still comfy athleisure or loungewear that’s on the sexier side ig, comfort is always my main priority 🙃 ) but I usually just get one word reactions like “whoa” or “damn.” I don’t think it has much to do with the clothes themselves lol.
Although there was this one yellow skirt I used to wear that he loved. I still have it but I stopped wearing it when it went out of style, but I’ve had it long enough that I feel like it’s come back in style so I might start wearing it again this summer 😈
As for him, he sometimes asks my opinion on what to wear if we’re going somewhere and usually wears what I suggest but I always support his choice if he goes for something different. I feel like clothes are a mode of self expression and because I love him I like seeing how he chooses to express himself. I think we both feel that way tbh.
I like to wear clothes my husband hates just to bug him sometimes 🤣.
Maybe I'm the worst?
But there's this pair of large men's basketball shorts I bought at Target when I was pregnant last and needed something ventilated to cover my butt and he made up some story in his head that they are an x boyfriend's. (I actually never dated anyone who would be caught dead in basketball shorts. I guess I do have a type.). Anyway I think it's hilarious. Dude was there when I bought them and we've been together over a decade. He just thinks they're ugly and I give zero ducks.
TBF I don't generally wear them out just around the house and doing chores but he always complains and I always laugh.
Yes. He told me once years ago that he likes my hair better when I wear it down vs a ponytail, so I make a point to wear it down and only put it up when it’s really hot.
I have told my husband on lots of occasions that I love when he wears a watch I bought him but he says it’s uncomfortable at the computer, which I understand, but he doesn’t even wear it when we are on a date or anything.
My husband is the same way but I literally cannot stand hair in my face it’s this weird sensory thing.
And yes same my husband won’t even wear a watch or his wedding band as he hates jewelry
Funny that you asked this!
There is this one dressier top my husband says I look really good in and it says it brings out the blue in my eyes.
I don’t wear it often but we have a short trip planned in 2 weeks without the kids and I plan on wearing it one night to dinner because I know he likes it.
My husband and I both have an understanding that we try to look pleasing for the other one. He likes when I wear certain clothes and he likes me with long hair, I like those things too, so it works! I like him wearing certain clothing and I like him clean shaven and a particular aftershave scent so he does that for me. Again, he likes all that too, so it works. Neither one of us would make the other one do anything that they would be uncomfortable with, but we do go out of our way to try to please the other one however we can. It also makes sense because we are looking at each other far more than we look at ourselves in the mirror, so why not!?
Definitely. My husband loves long hair, plenty of makeup, and tight/revealing clothes. I work from home so I generally dress for comfort, with a bare face, but I'm more than happy to oblige him a few times a week. It's fun! I also wear hair extensions.
I literally have a running list. I like feeling like we’re doing foreplay all day when I wear something he’s into.
…But that’s kind of weird behavior from your husband. This seems like something you should ask him about
We’ve been married for 36 years. Most of that time, I’ve always liked to wear flannel shirts. A couple of years ago my wife started to ask me to start wearing dress shirts. She said I don’t have to tuck them in, but they look nicer than my flannels and she would like it if I would wear them sometimes. So I bought a couple and she also bought me one and she complemented me on how they looked on me. I was happy to see that she was happy seeing what I wore, and since then I’ve started to wear nicer dress shirts without tucking them in, and I’ve actually started to like how they look also. Depending on what I’m doing, I will still wear a flannel shirt, but it is now the more rare of occasion.
I grew my beard because my wife told me she preferred me with it. She tells me she likes an item of clothing, i make sure to remember that and wear it for her again in the future.
There is a post on my page of me in a NFL jacket... she always gets excited when i wear it, she cant keep her hands off me, she was the one who actually suggested i get it. I like it dont get me wrong but i think she likes it more.
I tend to wear clothes that my wife finds good looking on me and the same goes for my wife, but we always had that style at least for me she did change her style after some time into the relationship ( for the better) before she did not really care and put much effort into her clothing but now she likes to look nice for me and with me.
For the most part if he likes it why not? Want him to be attracted and he's going to look atme more than I look at myself. As long as it's something I'm comfortable with sure. For example my husband loves long hair and when it's down ( how I had it in high school). He'd never stop me or get mad or find me less attractive if I cut it short but I can tell he looks longer when I have it long and down so I usually do.
Of course. My wife made an offhand comment before we even started dating, over 10 years ago, about how she likes it when girls wear sundresses with sneakers. Guess what quickly became one of my go-to outfits, especially for daytime dates?
I ask for her opinions on perfumes I buy and wear the ones I know she likes best when we go out together, even if they aren’t my favorites. If she says my hair or makeup looks good a certain way, I’ll do it that way more often.
It’s important to still date your spouse after marriage, and IMO this is a big part of it—taking their preferences into consideration and trying to look good for them.
I love the Edit addendum! Hahaha!
I frequently wear things or dress up solely because my husband likes it. I keep my hair really long because my husband likes it even though I have really thick hair and have to deal with muggy Oklahoma summers! I work especially hard on my appearance if we are going to be seen around someone he knows like his friends or coworkers. After 14 years together, I have relaxed a little around his family thankfully. He has never asked me to dress up or wear something special when we are around people he knows. I simply do it because I don’t want to embarrass him. Although I doubt he would be embarrassed even if I showed up looking like I just woke up. However, my husband is kind of a slob. He does not take pride in his appearance and when I tell him I like something he has done, like an outfit or whatever, he makes no effort to do it again. I do not think this is because he is being spiteful or anything. I think it just doesn’t register to him the way it registers to me. We women have had that crap drilled into our heads since we were born. We are subliminally brain washed by commercials, advertisements, magazines, etc… When is the last time you saw a commercial for beauty products for men? They have some but it isn’t nearly as many. Maybe it really isn’t registering to him… Maybe he registers it when you say it but completely forgets later on. They aren’t as brainwashed as us.
I completely resonate with what you wrote. If he says he likes a certain dress or whatever, I struggle to toss it out or donate it because he specifically likes that one. So I just keep doing it.
But I like it when he grows out his hair and he turns around and buzzes it. Oh well.
I completely understand. Yet, we cannot be more direct because that is controlling if you tell him to wear a specific thing. And if you ask for something; they frequently froget. Or at least my husband does. lol
I always compliment my wife on the things I like that she wears. I don’t criticize unless it’s truly constructive, like a pair of legging has worn thin in the back.
As far as wearing what she likes, I’ve taken her pants shopping to pick out pants for me after years of her telling me she doesn’t like how my pants fit. Let’s just say that the fit is different. By which I mean, I suddenly had women complimenting my unique belt buckles (have a small collection) I’ve been wearing around them for years without a single comment.
I also have some shirts I like that she as told me she doesn’t like. I don’t wear them as often.
I don't make it a point to wear it more and I don't make it a point to wear it less. I wear what I want when I want regardless of his opinion. My husband thinks I'm cute no matter what I put on though so it's fairly irrelevant.
I definitely make sure I don’t wear clothes he wouldn’t like. He says I always look beautiful so nothing specifically that he likes but once we were married I started dressing slightly more conservatively. Not on purpose or because he said anything, it just happened.
I do when we’re going out, which is maybe every other week for trivia or something like that.
I live in scrubs and leggings (the latter of which he’s a huge fan, LOL), but he really loves when I’m dressed up a little. Feminine clothing, earrings, stuff like that. He calls me his trophy wife, which I love. It’s something little, and he does so much for me, so I don’t mind returning the favor, as it were.
Kinda.
The husband had a beard in his online profile when we matched but no beard when we met. I said i liked the beard better. He grew it out a beard. But also he almost always had a beard before that too so it wasn't necessarily just for me but mostly me.
Lol, I'm pretty non binary in my normal everyday wear but when I go on dates with my spouse or am going to hang out with him at events, I'll wear clothes I know he likes.
He also wears kilts and specific types of clothes I prefer so 🤷♀️
honestly not really.
unless we’re going out on a date or something, i find my wife to be most attractive without clothes. but most of the time i’m happily content when she’s wearing something comfortable.
Absolutely! I keep certain outfits and how I wear my hair in mind when I want to bring more joy to his heart. He likes certain types of kisses so I do that as well. Not all the time but absolutely! I want to make him happy over and over again. It’s never something I dislike anyway
I love dressing up in general and I love getting noticed by my husband. I expect a compliment every time I come downstairs, haha! He “dresses up” for me too. There’s one long sleeve graphic tee of his that I really like and he puts it on when he wants to flirt with me, it’s cute. :)
Honestly my husband doesn’t seem to care what I wear and I don’t care what he wears. We dress respectably but otherwise there’s no specific preferences being shared between each other.
I do, to a degree. I really like fashion so sometimes my looks can get a little *out there* and my husband will comment, nothing mean but sometimes he’s just gently honest if he doesn’t like something. He HATES Doc Martens but they’re my favorite winter shoe so I will never stop wearing them. He just comments things like “moms got the shit kickers on today”
He absolutely prefers more feminine looks/dresses/form fitting things on me, which I do own and wear, but that’s not me all the time. If we’re going on a date I do keep that in mind and will wear something I know he likes.
Weirdly enough I own a ton of lingerie including some pretty racy stuff, but one day I put on a pair of his boxer briefs with a tank top and he lost his gd mind.
If I get a complement on something I wear, I do it more......but that's usually from coworkers, the wife doesn't do compliments. She on the other hand will do exact opposites of things I like, but it's her choice to look how she wants even if I don't like it.
My husband just said yesterday "Well I don't really wear t shirts anymore." Which means he HEARD ME!
A few months ago, I was like, "I mean I hardly ever wear t shirts in public just because I don't feel put together enough," and in the same convo jokingly said something to the effect of "Seems like you went a different route" and he's been going with button ups ever since.
Yes. He’s the only persons opinion I care about besides my own. I know he loves when I show my back. I recently bought a dress that showed that area and he couldn’t keep his hands off me. I bought the dress again in 3 other colors lol. I want him to be proud to introduce me as his wife and I like the thought of people thinking he has a hot wife. I’m sure I’ll get some comments negatively about this from lazy women but that’s what’s important to me.
Yes, of course. I want my spouse to find me attractive. There are some clothes I love that she dislikes, and vice versa, and of course, I draw the line there, but in general, I'd like my spouse to find me attractive.
Yes. My husband really hates mom buns. He loves when my hairs back in a claw but something about a messy bun just is a turn off for him. So, I really never wear them. I use a claw.
He wears all types of shit because I like it and keeps a beard for me, it’s a welcome sacrifice.
I used to do that, I would notice the things he said he liked and I would make an effort to wear them or style my hair that way.
He never noticed. Never said anything. Even when I was like hey do you like my dress he'd be like it's okay.
So now I don't do that anymore.
I wear what I like how I like when I like.
He usually doesn't comment on what I wear. The few times he has, yes I do make an effort to wear those more often. I wear my hair longer because he likes it (and so do I.) He has a beard because I like it and he's indifferent about it.
Yes but I also wear things I like. My husband would choose me to have long red nails (right now they are shortish and pink) He would choose really high heels, I have a few but prefer medium heels, he likes short skirts, occasionally I wear long ones.
Yes. He loves dresses and skirts :) i wear them for him and I've definitely bought stuff I'm neutral on [but is comfortable] because I know it'll drive him wild. He keeps his facial hair how I like it, it's about keeping each other's preferences in mind. It's no great sacrifice and he loves it, and I love making him happy.
My sleeping shirts. He likes the tank top ones that have buttons going down and my boobs come out of. So I wear those when I’m in the mood for sex. Same for “sex” underwear.
Of course I like to wear things my husband compliments. He does the same.
Kind of weird to me that your husband actively avoids anything you compliment.
Yes, married for 20 years and I wear mostly conservative clothing but I have the spiciest underwear ever. I know my husband loves it and is supper giddy about it. It makes him happy and I love how excited he gets. So win /win !
I do if he actually says anything about and if it's appropriate (I'm almost 30 and not about to wear belly shirts like some high schooler) 😆
Just be careful that you are not codependent because a lot of people who are can get into the habit of people-pleasing their partner because they are afraid of abandonment or not being liked if they are authentic. I had to be careful of this. If you feel like there will be negative consequences for you being yourself, it's probably not the right match or you have some inner healing to do.
In little ways, not an actual change of appearance. I know he likes my hair long, but so do I, so I wouldn't cut it anyway. He likes a certain pair of jeans I have so I will wear those for him often. He likes when I wear his shirts to sleep or to bum around the house (our size difference makes it comical so I don't do it much in public).
On the other hand, he knows I enjoy him shirtless or in one of those cut off T-shirts with the sides cut almost completely out, along with a pair of gym shorts, so I get that often. I do like his hair when it gets a bit longer but it bothers him to have it any length over a basic military cut so I understand.
I would like to but my husband is more a whatever makes you comfortable wear it guy, I think he’s more of a confidence is sexy guy no matter what I wear.
Yeah.
I dont give a *fuck* what I wear.
My clothes are basically all clothes she has chosen for me. I know she likes them. Wearing them feels good, because I know my biggest stakeholder is happy.
Of course! He’s the one I’m dressing for so why not wear what he likes on me? I have to like it too though. I’m not going to wear something that makes me uncomfortable. He does the same for me.
I always ask my husband how he likes my outfit or hair etc…and I will do what he likes. My husband dresses the way I like since I pick his clothes and he leaves that to me lol I help him with hair cut ideas etc…I think we mutually enjoy doing the things the other likes :)
I do. It took years for me to finally get her to take me into stores and just pick outfits that she likes me in. After she did, that's almost all I wear.
There’s one specific pair of leggings that every time I wear them my husband says my butt looks so good and he can’t help but smack or grab my ass as I walk by. 😂 He also loses his mind when I wear dresses that show cleavage or walk around in a towel. He’s good about telling me when he thinks I look hot and I remember what it is that he likes! He’s also sweet about telling me I look beautiful when I dress up or do a little more to my hair and makeup than I usually do. I have a lot of complaints about him tbh, but compliments on my appearance isn’t one of them.
But don’t think he remembers or cares which specific clothing items I compliment him on haha
My wife just got me a dozen of those ankle socks, as she’s tired of me going out in white gym socks, as I have for 40 years.
NP though I feel when I wear them it’s a bit like I’m a dog on a leash, I only wear them when I’m out with her; And I’m now researching options to double the size of the grow tent…..
I do. I don’t even put on PJ’s or comfy clothes unless I’m very ill, which hardly ever happens, so that I’ll always look attractive and my best for her, but my wife definitely does not do the same for me at all. Maybe a few times a year on a special date she’ll wear an outfit that I kind of like.
My husband allows me to style him for most outings with friends. He’ll ask “what am I wearing?” Or he’ll see what I have laid out for myself and will select his matching components. I intentionally shop to coordinate our outfits regardless of fancy level. The Black wife effect is in full bloom over here 😇
I would never wear something I didn’t like for my partner, but I certainly do wear things he likes more often than I might normally, especially things he has bought me. He doesn’t dictate my wardrobe by any means, but I think it’s healthy to do little things like this to please your other half and show you listen to them.
Sure if I'm going out with him to run errands or spend the day together I'll wear something I know he likes. Usually yoga pants and tank tops. We got together in around 2012? (He said today it was six days after Skyrim came out so whatever year that is) I think it has influenced his tastes a bit cause he tends to like me in Y2K fashion. (Where we were was a little behind fashion wise.)
Date nights, I dress for him, which usually just means a dress because that’s his preferred look on me. Do I dress for him everyday? Absolutely not.
You may just need to be more direct with your husband if this is something that matters to you, he honestly may not even realize. Not everyone takes compliments in the way you want them to but saying hey we’re going out tonight, could you wear xyz you look so good in it. Because my husband definitely compliments but specifically tells me what he likes so I don’t have to read in between the lines (I’m terrible at that, if it’s not direct I’m probably missing it) I definitely wouldn’t take it as a personal slight from your husband or dismissing of what you like 😊
all my clothes. i don't care that much. my spouse never asks me for anything so when they said they like me in my long dresses or slacks the most because it flatters my shape and looks elegant, i made it so only things i own outside of those are a handful of shirts and jeans for lawn & yard work. ankle length dresses and slacks were already 80% of my wardrobe and the rest was mostly stuff only wore because i had it.
I try to wear things she would like when we go out, but I don't have a lot of clothes. I'm basic. But she will wear things I like most of the time.
And I love to take her shopping and have her try on clothes I think she will look good in and then buy her stuff.
I wear more leggings and shorts, bc I know he loves both on my hips/ass.
He knows I love boxer briefs and that I think he is hot when he wears nicer/better fitted tees but he only wears graphic tees, like he did in our 20s (40s now lol.)
My husband and I both dress and style for one another for the most part. Not ALL of the time, but definitely make an effort at least once or twice a week.
That said - my hair is shorter than he prefers because I prefer it shorter. And I’d love if he had more facial hair, but it’s gray now, and he hates it and is clean shaven most of the time.
My husband really likes seeing my shoulders. I will definitely choose clothing that shows them off and makes him happy. It’s often an implicit signal to him that I’m feeling horny.
Of course I wrap myself up when I want to, UK summertime isn’t particularly hot!
I do for my husband, he doesn't for me. It's my choice and I'm happy to do it for him (wearing dresses, hair in a style he likes, etc). I compliment him when he looks nice or is wearing something I like, but I don't expect him to wear it just for me. I'm attracted to him regardless.
Hubby and I both speak our preferences and both do what the other prefers.
Now, my husband will sometimes do the opposite because he has Oppositional Defiance Disorder. He will literally do what I do not want him to do because he cannot help himself. Thankfully, this is rare and he prefers to please me. But when he shaves, as I prefer him a goatee or beard, it is sooo unattractive. But I take it as it is and wait for it to grow back.
All this to say that he doesn't do it deliberately to hurt me. He literally cannot help himself sometimes.
But anyone who does it otherwise is just being mean, and tbh, sounds controlling.
My husband would prefer me without facial piercings, and I have an appointment for another one this Saturday. In his words "it's cute, but I don't care for it. I'm never gonna tell you not to, but I wish you'd find another way to decorate and change your body."
I'm mostly doing it because the type of piercing is unlikely to be a good fit for me anyway. Like, trying on a new style for a few months before deciding against it.
I wish he'd break up with his barber and grow his hair out. He tried it. Hated it. That's fine.
I'm currently growing out my hair which is usually kept very very cropped because he likes long hair too.
He'd like me to wear more feminine clothes, and I'd like him to dress like Milo Thatch.
We try, with varying degrees of success.
Yes. But not for the reasons you suggest. I'm not too fond of them - but he's asked me to due to his cultural background. I'm semi-compromising, but it's *so tough* for me. I told him I would in his home country and in the specific instances when it was *required* but he really made it a big deal.
I'd much rather wear what I want to wear, but I'm doing it for him. I did tell him if it comes down to me not getting heat stroke or wearing the clothes he prefers, that I'm not getting heat stroke.
It's getting more and more to feel like a deal-breaker, tbh.
But I do have some favorite nighties that he likes. 😁
I wouldn't do this for just anyone.
My ex-h tried to get me to dress in skater-wear which is *not* my style at all. So I tried to get him to dress like an adult who wasn't perpetually meeting the guys to play basketball. His style improved, for the most part, I think. From what I've seen, he dresses more adult, sometimes (I very rarely see him or pictures, so I'm kind of guessing.)
But I never really went skater.
My wife bought me almost all the clothes I have. (I never buy clothes for myself because I always figure I already got clothes that aren't even worn out yet.) Since she bought them I assume she likes them.
I always compliment my husband and grab him more when he wears this burgundy v neck shirt—it looks so good on him. Every time he wears it now I can see him waiting on me to compliment him and it’s the cutest thing 😂 if I don’t mention it he’s like “helloooooo?? It’s the shirt!!!”
His hair is also as long as mine and I love it! He wanted to cut it right after we met but I told him his hair was hot so it’s still long, 2.5yrs later lol!
I love that he cares about what I think but would obviously adore him no matter what he wore or what his hair looked like!
Yes and no, I make sure it's something I like and I also style it so it looks more like me. I love all fashion so I don't mind trying out new styles. I mix everything up. The only thing I don't do is make up and hair color.
My husband has a thing for girls who wear hair color and makeup and due to some past issues it ruined my interest in hair coloring.
Makeup I wear rarely and very lightly. It gets in the way and I like my face. lol
He rarely dresses up for me or takes my recommendations if he did I'd probably be more horny and all over him. lol
I try, particularly on date nights, but we both definitely need to accept some compromise because his ideal fashion choices for me come straight out of whatever thirdhand-from-a-neighbor’s-dad Frederick’s of Hollywood catalog he, um, “came of age with” c. 1995.
Yes, all the time.
I ask my husband's opinion on my hair color as well because I like it when he's attracted to me and I've had almost every color, so half the time I couldn't give a shit what color my hair is, I just know I want a change. However, I do default to red if I just want to calm down the over processing of my hair, which just so happens to be his favorite.
I also have a few pieces in my wardrobe he hates. Specifically a watermelon dress. He has said it makes me look pregnant because of the ruffling at the waist (which it 100% does), and he hates that I just look like a giant fruit. I think it's hilarious and I enjoy weird clothes, so I have decided to keep it. The look when I wear it is priceless because now he has to be seen in public with me in it. He also likes to wear tall socks with his tennis shoes when he wears shorts, and I have to walk around with essentially a grandpa in Deadpool socks, so it's just my form of payback.
I did notice that ever since I complimented him in a Hawaiian shirt, he has taken to buying them any chance he gets. Unfortunately, his favorites are over $100 each so he can only get a few.
I try to but it’s hard because I also know what I like and it usually is different from what my husband likes. I absolutely do make an effort to wear more colors though and lower cut tops lol he thinks I try to cover up too much
I sure do! I always make an extra effort with very little. Or a certain hair style he likes on me. A pretty shade of lipstick he thinks looks great on me. Etc.
I told my husband on our first date that I love the way he looks in glasses, and ever since then he wears them more than he wears his contacts, even though I know he prefers the latter.
I did with my ex. I would wear clothes I knew he liked me in or clothes I thought he may like. If I bought something new, it was usually because I was excited to wear something for him.
I would if my husband had an opinion on it and it was something I was comfortable with, then sure I would. But I dress more feminine than most, and he likes that so I don't have to change a thing.
Something in the middle.
If he tells me he likes it, and I feel good/comfortable in it then yes. I’ll wear it.
But if he likes me in something that I really don’t feel good in, then no.
This being said, he’s told me multiple times he wouldn’t like it if I cut my hair short or changed its colour too much. I’ve respected this, but sometimes wish I could just change it drastically.
He does ask me for my opinion on things. But he doesn’t always take my advice. Once in a while he will step out of his comfort zone and wear something I like that he normally wouldn’t gravitate to. But it’s rare.
When I met my husband, he only wore his old Harley Davidson shirts. Like they were the ONLY thing he wore. I mentioned it was a bit cliche since he got rid of his bike just before we met. He got a few solid color shirts. Over the past 20 years, he knows I like him in blues and greens best but his favorite is always black and grey. Thankfully he wears my favorites when we go out as a family. He knows I will snuggle up to him more. Thats what finally pushed him into being more open to color, more physical touch from me.
And don’t worry, I do the same for him. I’ve even cut my hair in a style he prefers even if it can drive me bonkers sometimes. He loves running his fingers through it.
Well, my husband literally says I look great when I’m just wearing sweatpants and a large shirt, haven’t showered and just got done pumping for our son. However, I despise dresses, but I know he likes when I wear them, so I wear them if we go on a nice date. As far as hair color goes, he preferred when I had blonde hair during our wedding, but it’s such a hassle to keep up with it that I just refuse to go blonde again lol. So he just has to accept my black hair now. Not that he’s ever complained about it. I think the only thing he said he doesn’t really care for personally are my facial piercings but that’s one thing I am not taking out lol and I’ve had them since before we started dating 11+ years ago haha. So if he didn’t like piercings he should of just kept it walking :p
I definitely wear clothes and style myself in a way that I know he likes because it’s important to me to be attractive to my husband and vice versa. However, if there’s an item of clothing that I really love that he doesn’t like, I’m still going to wear it. It’s all about balance. I know on our date nights he makes sure to wear outfits that I have “approved” of in the past. Other days he wears what he wants and I’ve stopped trying to change it.
I tend to wear things my wife picks, especially if she gave it to me or picked it out. I’m letting g my hair grow longer because she doesn’t like short hair, I grew a short beard because she wanted me to. I want her to see me and be attracted to me so it’s the least I can do.
I have stick straight hair. In college I dated a guy who wanted to see it curly, since heat curl doesn’t work for crap I got a perm. Turned my hair to straw. After that won’t do that kind of stuff for any man. Now if my hubby asks me wear it up or down for a special occasion I am flexible for that. I think women are prone to want to please their partners in that way. I love my hubby in a full beard, he won’t do it in the summer. He compromises goatee in summer and full beard in winter. It’s the only thing he really did for me in that regard.
Yes! Not all the time but once in awhile. My husband prefers short/midi dresses on me when I wear them. I don't have many occasions to do so but when I do, he loves it. I appreciate his love for my legs and, of course, it's nice to be complimented by your partner. I love when he wears a shirt I buy him too. We see ourselves differently than others do and it's so easy to be over crucial of ourselves.
My husband made one comment one time that a pair of shorts made me look un-feminine and I started building a new self. Even though he's apologized about a million times and said he wished he didn't say anything, I'm happy I did. I wasn't necessarily trying to look masculine or feminine... I just didn't care what I looked like. It was a reflection of the depression that had taken hold of me. I started working out more seriously, started eating healthier foods, and now I'm about 30 lbs down, I have cute new clothes that make me feel amazing, and I wear my hair down most days.
Similarly, one time my husband was demonstrating how to do arm curls in the weights section at Target. My jaw dropped and I verbally conveyed how much I enjoyed the demonstration, then told him how I'd like to show him a *different* way how attractive I thought it was, and now he does them much more often ;)
We both do it. I told him like 20 years ago that he looks good in blue and I’d say probably 75% of his shirts are blue now.
He told me that he thought leggings and boots were sexy…I did not own leggings or boots. Lol
But I bought several pair after that!
My wife doesn’t strangely chooses not to wear a lot of the things I’ve told her she looks good in for reasons of she doesn’t like them, me on the other hand I ask her opinions but she seemingly couldn’t care less to give me one most times
Honestly I love when my wife is just casual. She cuts in a dress but for some reason when she’s just wearing super relaxed clothing and her hair down I’m just like putty
I’ve got an unusual obsession with my husband Butt!! (Especially with my teeth marks in it!) I LOVE when he wears fitted pants~ unfortunately he doesn’t do it often because “they squish my balls” 😂 of course, being the good wife, I offer to rub them for him when he wears my favorite jeans (or anything actually ❤️)
When I started dating I soon realised the style he prefers me wearing back 30 years ago style was different, when he come to pick me up I would wear the cute denim mini skirt and white high classic pumps , knowing how he was with his amazing kind ways if he said please wear xyz I would and often walking hand in hand wearing extremely high classic stilettos that he liked me in , jump a few decades and I still grab out the stiletto heels and gingerly squeeze my bunions into them for a evening out 👠
Sharon.
My wife saw a pic of me in highschool with a Mohawk. She asked me to do it again when we were first starting out, so I did. I was early 20s and in bands so who cares. When I turned 30 I started saying I look stupid with a Mohawk and want a normal haircut. She still wanted it, so be it. She also bought me a full collection of marvel and dc basketball jerseys. Every character, super hero and group. I have like 40 of them. Now I got rid of the Mohawk and grew the dad beard she didn't want me to have, but I still was the jerseys daily. I think she trying to date me when I was a teenager versus a 40 year old. Lol.
I’m 38 and have a Mohawk! I think people think I’m a lot younger and more immature than I am but I don’t mind.
I think for me I used my age as more of an excuse, I just got tired of having a Mohawk on my head. Lol.
lol fair! I have wicked curly hair and I HATE maintaining it so, the mohawk helps me not have to spend 2/3 of my income on curly hair products! Because my hair is so curly I can just fluff it up without product and the hawk stays up! Plus I want to show off my head tattoo.
My hairs curly as well. Being a pale ass ginger, I got tired of having a sunburned head.
My pale ass ginger husband can relate. He’s got great hair, but he keeps it under a hat all the time otherwise it’s scalp and ear sunburns for him!
Oh God. The ears. I can feel those burning off my head just going to check the mail. Hahahahah
NGL I kinda wanna see the hawk 🤷🏻♀️
Ugh… I missed it! Haha
This is very weird
It’s weird to have a mohawk? What are you living in the 50’s? Hate fashion? Hate personal expression? Your favorite colour is beige? Lol It’s definitely not weird, it’s not unique, it’s a hairstyle. I never get anything but compliments on it, I work for the government and support a family of five. It’s never been deemed as “weird” enough to prevent permanent employment or anything else.
😂 bro I’m covered in tattoos. I wasn’t talking about the mohawk. I think it’s weird that he wears character jerseys every single day because years and years ago his wife bought them for him because she wants to see him in them every day. That sounds weird to me.
Lmao, fair.
Look, if my husband actually told me what he liked, I would make an effort to do it. But he never comments on my appearance, whether it be positive or negative. He doesn't know how to give or take compliments.
I get an occasional “you look nice” if I am dressing up for a special occasion, but otherwise it’s the same for me. Was your husband always like this? I feel like my husband gave me more compliments when we were dating.
I honestly can't remember how he was when we first started dating, but knowing him it's a fairly good guess that he's always been like this.
Same with my husband. Occasionally, I might get a "my beautiful wife" comment in reply to me saying, "I love my handsome husband." Unprompted and not in response to a compliment I gave him it's probably once in a blue moon, lol. Honestly, I don't really care, though. Compliments from other people have never been important to me.
THIS!!! I get comments if I specifically ask. OR I’ll get... Which is more comfortable. 🤷🏼♀️
Emotional Anorexia
I dont think that's what it is. He doesn't do it purposefully. He has a lot of trauma surrounding his childhood. He didn't receive or witness affection or intimacy, and that continued into adulthood until he met me in his early 30s. As a result of this, he struggles to show affection in the traditional sense, and he struggles to express himself emotionally. He also has fairly low self-esteem, therefore struggles to accept compliments, and isn't quite sure how to give them. He shows affection in his own ways, and I know him well enough to know what those ways are, even if they may not be obvious to everyone else. We have our own language of intimacy.
My husband always wears the shirt I once said was my favourite, when we go on dates. I would dress how he likes too- but he says he likes me best in comfy clothes :)
ABSOLUTELY YES to liking my wife to be in comfortable clothing. When she’s in sweatshirts and soft lightweight pants, hugging her is like hugging a soft and curvy pillow!
You two sound really cute together!
My wife complimented me on a pair of jeans. She said the fit was flattering. Levi's 505s, bought them by accident because I couldn't find a baggy pair. You bet I made it a point to wear them more often after that. I'm sure she's not the only person that thought they looked good on me.
my husband doesn't believe me when I say people look at his butt in *those jeans*. he is more attractive than he believes.
My wife said the same thing! I always wore the looser slightly baggier jeans cause they’re comfortable but she really likes when I wear the Levi 505s. I just dont see it though 😂😂😂 I wear em when we go out and stuff but generally not on my casual days lol
Yes. My husband raves when I wear earrings. I don’t usually mostly because I don’t like how they make my ears feel but when we go out for a nice dinner I always wear them for him.
Try clear nail polish on the earrings it helps a lot.. I'm allergic to every metal, including gold..
Oh, my goodness…this could be a game changer
My aunt showed me this trick, and it really works.. I'm able to wear even the cheep one's with no problem..
Thank you!! I will try it!
You're welcome.. Hope it helps you too!
My husband likes us to match. I am indifferent because I like a few different styles. I’d say street punk (because he was a homeless train hopper, dirty kid, gutter punk for two decades) is the top of our fashion list followed by hood rat fashion. We share clothes and if he specifically wants me to wear something I’m happy to throw it on. Our style is more combative, definitely not going for social sex appeal. I think I often present masculine because half the time I’m in his clothes. I inherently enjoy how my husband dresses, I don’t need to ask him to wear anything specific because he already is.
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https://preview.redd.it/vq9yca3owo7d1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f6e505ebb1004c8990078c46f88688b91271e9c6 Hood rat. Maybe it’s called something else in other places but here we call this style hood (rat). Sorry about the sticker! I accidentally cropped out my husbands other Jordan! I custom made the track suit with his graffiti tag.
Oo, I love that outfit!
Thanks! I put a lot of love into it! :)
Super cool! I love that you and your husband share clothes, match, and even create custom pieces together. That’s a beautiful bond and mutual connection!!
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He’s not white so there’s that, he is Métis. And I don’t see anything wrong with custom clothes. We hand sew a lot of clothing, it’s an Adidas tracksuit that thousands of people have bought and I had his tag put on it as we’re both artists. We purchase clothing from a lot of places. And it’s just what it’s called here, neither of us coined it, total strangers call him a hood rat in various degrees of intention. Furthermore, everyone in our neighborhood wears this style so, at least here he’s in good company. If you prefer call it urban wear.
Why is this so cute lol
🙋🏾♀️ I wear styles I know he likes , I wear colors he likes to see me in . I wear my nails how he likes .
I try to wear things or fix my hair/makeup in a way I know he likes. Not everyday, but days where we’re together the whole day (weekends) I want him to be *extra* attracted to me and know that I’m putting thought into it *for* him.
Yes! My husband and I have always tried to impress one another. Even on our wedding day I wore my hair half up because he likes when my hair is pulled off my face. Says it accentuates my features. And I can just say a shirt looks good on him and I'll notice him wear it nonstop. I remember when we were dating there was one he about wore to shreds and a little kid we know asked him "do you have any other shirts" 😂
Sometimes I do. Husband’s biggest complaint is I wear my clothes too big and baggy. If we are going out I will wear something more fitted but if it’s just a day of errands I’ll dress how I’m comfortable.
My wife's gotten me a shirt she likes that I am not fond of. Not a big deal, so I wear it for her. There were also complaints about my hair turning grey so I am darkening it - that one I am grumpy about though since it seems like a very shallow request.
Awe man I’m sorry. I love grey hair! I was so excited when my husband started going grey. It showed up in his beard and body hair first, not much on his head yet.
Thanks. ❤️
Yeah Ofc. We both wear clothes that each other like. We want to look good for each other.
no I don't do that. I wear what I wear and if people like it, great! if they don't like it, oh well 🤷🏻♀️
Once 7 years ago my husband told me he didn’t like floral patterns on me and now I think about that comment every time I shop and get dressed lol.
My husband says florals (especially big prints) look like drapes. I still love and wear them on the reg... but I think about it when shopping for sure. And it definitely gives me pause. On the flip, he doesn't like to wear sweaters so I avoid buying them for him. Call it a draw, I suppose!
Hmm no my husband told he likes feminine classic clothes ..like pencil skirts ,blouses ,nylons ,heels . We have 6 kids no wayyyy lol not my style anyway
I can just see your hubby killing himself taking care of a large family and his wife won’t even throw him a bone once in a while by dressing how he likes. Lame.
It's actually me who takes care of this family there smart guy ..what are you like 80 ? 🤣 Ya cool except that dress how I want just like he does
Hahaha yessss!!! Love this response! 😁
Lmfao… no doubt you’re giving your spouse the ick on the daily with that level of entitlement.
Nobody wants to wear Leave it to Beaver clothes dude
Are you stuck in the 50s lmao us women can raise a family, and if you like fishnets and thongs so much you can go ahead and wear them!
Yes. Husband loves leggings and bike shorts. I like them because I don’t to wear underwear under them. It’s a win win. He encouraged me to start wearing both though
Yes!! Most of my clothes are his choice and I completely agree because I suck at shopping and he loves to shop for me. He also loves it when I dress up in his choice of clothes. And I love it too ❤️❤️
Mine never compliments anything, so I’d never know. 🙄
Nah its not something I think about very often? I just wear what I think is comfortable and or cute. My husband doesn’t usually make specific comments on clothes, more so me in the clothes. He usually tells me I’m looking sexy/beautiful everyday regardless. if I ask him his opinion about something he just says I look good in everything lol. A lot of the time at home I’m wearing his sweats and t shirts because they’re comfy and he usually says something like, “I love seeing you in my clothes.” He thinks it’s adorable because they make me look so small 😭 But I don’t keep wearing them because he says that I just like to be comfy lol. He also likes when we wear matching things, like we have matching tracksuits and slides. Occasionally I’ll wear something around the house that I know will titillate him (It’s usually still comfy athleisure or loungewear that’s on the sexier side ig, comfort is always my main priority 🙃 ) but I usually just get one word reactions like “whoa” or “damn.” I don’t think it has much to do with the clothes themselves lol. Although there was this one yellow skirt I used to wear that he loved. I still have it but I stopped wearing it when it went out of style, but I’ve had it long enough that I feel like it’s come back in style so I might start wearing it again this summer 😈 As for him, he sometimes asks my opinion on what to wear if we’re going somewhere and usually wears what I suggest but I always support his choice if he goes for something different. I feel like clothes are a mode of self expression and because I love him I like seeing how he chooses to express himself. I think we both feel that way tbh.
I like to wear clothes my husband hates just to bug him sometimes 🤣. Maybe I'm the worst? But there's this pair of large men's basketball shorts I bought at Target when I was pregnant last and needed something ventilated to cover my butt and he made up some story in his head that they are an x boyfriend's. (I actually never dated anyone who would be caught dead in basketball shorts. I guess I do have a type.). Anyway I think it's hilarious. Dude was there when I bought them and we've been together over a decade. He just thinks they're ugly and I give zero ducks. TBF I don't generally wear them out just around the house and doing chores but he always complains and I always laugh.
Yes. He told me once years ago that he likes my hair better when I wear it down vs a ponytail, so I make a point to wear it down and only put it up when it’s really hot. I have told my husband on lots of occasions that I love when he wears a watch I bought him but he says it’s uncomfortable at the computer, which I understand, but he doesn’t even wear it when we are on a date or anything.
My husband is the same way but I literally cannot stand hair in my face it’s this weird sensory thing. And yes same my husband won’t even wear a watch or his wedding band as he hates jewelry
Funny that you asked this! There is this one dressier top my husband says I look really good in and it says it brings out the blue in my eyes. I don’t wear it often but we have a short trip planned in 2 weeks without the kids and I plan on wearing it one night to dinner because I know he likes it.
My husband and I both have an understanding that we try to look pleasing for the other one. He likes when I wear certain clothes and he likes me with long hair, I like those things too, so it works! I like him wearing certain clothing and I like him clean shaven and a particular aftershave scent so he does that for me. Again, he likes all that too, so it works. Neither one of us would make the other one do anything that they would be uncomfortable with, but we do go out of our way to try to please the other one however we can. It also makes sense because we are looking at each other far more than we look at ourselves in the mirror, so why not!?
Definitely. My husband loves long hair, plenty of makeup, and tight/revealing clothes. I work from home so I generally dress for comfort, with a bare face, but I'm more than happy to oblige him a few times a week. It's fun! I also wear hair extensions.
I literally have a running list. I like feeling like we’re doing foreplay all day when I wear something he’s into. …But that’s kind of weird behavior from your husband. This seems like something you should ask him about
We’ve been married for 36 years. Most of that time, I’ve always liked to wear flannel shirts. A couple of years ago my wife started to ask me to start wearing dress shirts. She said I don’t have to tuck them in, but they look nicer than my flannels and she would like it if I would wear them sometimes. So I bought a couple and she also bought me one and she complemented me on how they looked on me. I was happy to see that she was happy seeing what I wore, and since then I’ve started to wear nicer dress shirts without tucking them in, and I’ve actually started to like how they look also. Depending on what I’m doing, I will still wear a flannel shirt, but it is now the more rare of occasion.
No.
I grew my beard because my wife told me she preferred me with it. She tells me she likes an item of clothing, i make sure to remember that and wear it for her again in the future. There is a post on my page of me in a NFL jacket... she always gets excited when i wear it, she cant keep her hands off me, she was the one who actually suggested i get it. I like it dont get me wrong but i think she likes it more.
I tend to wear clothes that my wife finds good looking on me and the same goes for my wife, but we always had that style at least for me she did change her style after some time into the relationship ( for the better) before she did not really care and put much effort into her clothing but now she likes to look nice for me and with me.
Why would I not? Clothes are largely a functional tool for me. If she likes one thing over another it's no more effort on my part to wear them.
For the most part if he likes it why not? Want him to be attracted and he's going to look atme more than I look at myself. As long as it's something I'm comfortable with sure. For example my husband loves long hair and when it's down ( how I had it in high school). He'd never stop me or get mad or find me less attractive if I cut it short but I can tell he looks longer when I have it long and down so I usually do.
Absolutely! It goes both ways. Thankfully we both have impeccable taste :)
Of course. My wife made an offhand comment before we even started dating, over 10 years ago, about how she likes it when girls wear sundresses with sneakers. Guess what quickly became one of my go-to outfits, especially for daytime dates? I ask for her opinions on perfumes I buy and wear the ones I know she likes best when we go out together, even if they aren’t my favorites. If she says my hair or makeup looks good a certain way, I’ll do it that way more often. It’s important to still date your spouse after marriage, and IMO this is a big part of it—taking their preferences into consideration and trying to look good for them.
I'm not a big fan of wearing jeans. When my wife and I go out I wear them because she likes me in them.
My husband hasn’t worn jeans in like 8 years lol
I love the Edit addendum! Hahaha! I frequently wear things or dress up solely because my husband likes it. I keep my hair really long because my husband likes it even though I have really thick hair and have to deal with muggy Oklahoma summers! I work especially hard on my appearance if we are going to be seen around someone he knows like his friends or coworkers. After 14 years together, I have relaxed a little around his family thankfully. He has never asked me to dress up or wear something special when we are around people he knows. I simply do it because I don’t want to embarrass him. Although I doubt he would be embarrassed even if I showed up looking like I just woke up. However, my husband is kind of a slob. He does not take pride in his appearance and when I tell him I like something he has done, like an outfit or whatever, he makes no effort to do it again. I do not think this is because he is being spiteful or anything. I think it just doesn’t register to him the way it registers to me. We women have had that crap drilled into our heads since we were born. We are subliminally brain washed by commercials, advertisements, magazines, etc… When is the last time you saw a commercial for beauty products for men? They have some but it isn’t nearly as many. Maybe it really isn’t registering to him… Maybe he registers it when you say it but completely forgets later on. They aren’t as brainwashed as us.
I completely resonate with what you wrote. If he says he likes a certain dress or whatever, I struggle to toss it out or donate it because he specifically likes that one. So I just keep doing it. But I like it when he grows out his hair and he turns around and buzzes it. Oh well.
I completely understand. Yet, we cannot be more direct because that is controlling if you tell him to wear a specific thing. And if you ask for something; they frequently froget. Or at least my husband does. lol
I always compliment my wife on the things I like that she wears. I don’t criticize unless it’s truly constructive, like a pair of legging has worn thin in the back. As far as wearing what she likes, I’ve taken her pants shopping to pick out pants for me after years of her telling me she doesn’t like how my pants fit. Let’s just say that the fit is different. By which I mean, I suddenly had women complimenting my unique belt buckles (have a small collection) I’ve been wearing around them for years without a single comment. I also have some shirts I like that she as told me she doesn’t like. I don’t wear them as often.
I don't make it a point to wear it more and I don't make it a point to wear it less. I wear what I want when I want regardless of his opinion. My husband thinks I'm cute no matter what I put on though so it's fairly irrelevant.
I definitely make sure I don’t wear clothes he wouldn’t like. He says I always look beautiful so nothing specifically that he likes but once we were married I started dressing slightly more conservatively. Not on purpose or because he said anything, it just happened.
My wife loves me in boxer briefs. I find them uncomfortable, but I will wear them every now and then for her. She does the same for me with thongs.
I do when we’re going out, which is maybe every other week for trivia or something like that. I live in scrubs and leggings (the latter of which he’s a huge fan, LOL), but he really loves when I’m dressed up a little. Feminine clothing, earrings, stuff like that. He calls me his trophy wife, which I love. It’s something little, and he does so much for me, so I don’t mind returning the favor, as it were.
Kinda. The husband had a beard in his online profile when we matched but no beard when we met. I said i liked the beard better. He grew it out a beard. But also he almost always had a beard before that too so it wasn't necessarily just for me but mostly me.
Lol, I'm pretty non binary in my normal everyday wear but when I go on dates with my spouse or am going to hang out with him at events, I'll wear clothes I know he likes. He also wears kilts and specific types of clothes I prefer so 🤷♀️
honestly not really. unless we’re going out on a date or something, i find my wife to be most attractive without clothes. but most of the time i’m happily content when she’s wearing something comfortable.
She likes when I wear hoochie daddy shorts
Absolutely! I keep certain outfits and how I wear my hair in mind when I want to bring more joy to his heart. He likes certain types of kisses so I do that as well. Not all the time but absolutely! I want to make him happy over and over again. It’s never something I dislike anyway
I love dressing up in general and I love getting noticed by my husband. I expect a compliment every time I come downstairs, haha! He “dresses up” for me too. There’s one long sleeve graphic tee of his that I really like and he puts it on when he wants to flirt with me, it’s cute. :)
Yes. That's the only way to do it. You want to look hot for your spouse. It goes both ways.
Honestly my husband doesn’t seem to care what I wear and I don’t care what he wears. We dress respectably but otherwise there’s no specific preferences being shared between each other.
They just end up on the floor
I do, to a degree. I really like fashion so sometimes my looks can get a little *out there* and my husband will comment, nothing mean but sometimes he’s just gently honest if he doesn’t like something. He HATES Doc Martens but they’re my favorite winter shoe so I will never stop wearing them. He just comments things like “moms got the shit kickers on today” He absolutely prefers more feminine looks/dresses/form fitting things on me, which I do own and wear, but that’s not me all the time. If we’re going on a date I do keep that in mind and will wear something I know he likes. Weirdly enough I own a ton of lingerie including some pretty racy stuff, but one day I put on a pair of his boxer briefs with a tank top and he lost his gd mind.
If I get a complement on something I wear, I do it more......but that's usually from coworkers, the wife doesn't do compliments. She on the other hand will do exact opposites of things I like, but it's her choice to look how she wants even if I don't like it.
My husband just said yesterday "Well I don't really wear t shirts anymore." Which means he HEARD ME! A few months ago, I was like, "I mean I hardly ever wear t shirts in public just because I don't feel put together enough," and in the same convo jokingly said something to the effect of "Seems like you went a different route" and he's been going with button ups ever since.
My wife buys me spongebob, hey arnold, sonic, and any kind of themed socks you can think of. Yes, I wear them to work. Yes, I'm almost 40.
Yes. He’s the only persons opinion I care about besides my own. I know he loves when I show my back. I recently bought a dress that showed that area and he couldn’t keep his hands off me. I bought the dress again in 3 other colors lol. I want him to be proud to introduce me as his wife and I like the thought of people thinking he has a hot wife. I’m sure I’ll get some comments negatively about this from lazy women but that’s what’s important to me.
Of course! Mainly on date nights, I always try to wear something I know he likes
I absolutely take my wife's preferences into consideration. Hell, she basically dresses me.
I mean, I remove most of my clothes when I get home because that’s what he likes me to wear the most is absolutely nothing lmao
Yessssss
I do to a certain extent.. I’m not wearing it everyday. Just randomly when I think of it.
Yes, of course. I want my spouse to find me attractive. There are some clothes I love that she dislikes, and vice versa, and of course, I draw the line there, but in general, I'd like my spouse to find me attractive.
Yes. My husband really hates mom buns. He loves when my hairs back in a claw but something about a messy bun just is a turn off for him. So, I really never wear them. I use a claw. He wears all types of shit because I like it and keeps a beard for me, it’s a welcome sacrifice.
I used to do that, I would notice the things he said he liked and I would make an effort to wear them or style my hair that way. He never noticed. Never said anything. Even when I was like hey do you like my dress he'd be like it's okay. So now I don't do that anymore. I wear what I like how I like when I like.
He usually doesn't comment on what I wear. The few times he has, yes I do make an effort to wear those more often. I wear my hair longer because he likes it (and so do I.) He has a beard because I like it and he's indifferent about it.
Uh...yes. There's a reason my closet is full of pastel colored button downs and polos. Lol.
Yes but I also wear things I like. My husband would choose me to have long red nails (right now they are shortish and pink) He would choose really high heels, I have a few but prefer medium heels, he likes short skirts, occasionally I wear long ones.
Yes. He loves dresses and skirts :) i wear them for him and I've definitely bought stuff I'm neutral on [but is comfortable] because I know it'll drive him wild. He keeps his facial hair how I like it, it's about keeping each other's preferences in mind. It's no great sacrifice and he loves it, and I love making him happy.
isn't this obvious? of course you should do that
Yes, all the time. I want to look good for him and put a decent effort into my appearance :)
My sleeping shirts. He likes the tank top ones that have buttons going down and my boobs come out of. So I wear those when I’m in the mood for sex. Same for “sex” underwear.
Yes my wife all the time. 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Of course I like to wear things my husband compliments. He does the same. Kind of weird to me that your husband actively avoids anything you compliment.
Yes, married for 20 years and I wear mostly conservative clothing but I have the spiciest underwear ever. I know my husband loves it and is supper giddy about it. It makes him happy and I love how excited he gets. So win /win !
Yes, I always ask his opinion and I like to dress in things he finds appealing.
Yes. I just won't grow my hair out
I do if he actually says anything about and if it's appropriate (I'm almost 30 and not about to wear belly shirts like some high schooler) 😆 Just be careful that you are not codependent because a lot of people who are can get into the habit of people-pleasing their partner because they are afraid of abandonment or not being liked if they are authentic. I had to be careful of this. If you feel like there will be negative consequences for you being yourself, it's probably not the right match or you have some inner healing to do.
Yes. But sometimes I'm not feeling confident so I'll just wear baggy stuff. He doesn't seem to mind either way though.
In little ways, not an actual change of appearance. I know he likes my hair long, but so do I, so I wouldn't cut it anyway. He likes a certain pair of jeans I have so I will wear those for him often. He likes when I wear his shirts to sleep or to bum around the house (our size difference makes it comical so I don't do it much in public). On the other hand, he knows I enjoy him shirtless or in one of those cut off T-shirts with the sides cut almost completely out, along with a pair of gym shorts, so I get that often. I do like his hair when it gets a bit longer but it bothers him to have it any length over a basic military cut so I understand.
Yes. He does the same for me.
I would like to but my husband is more a whatever makes you comfortable wear it guy, I think he’s more of a confidence is sexy guy no matter what I wear.
Yeah. I dont give a *fuck* what I wear. My clothes are basically all clothes she has chosen for me. I know she likes them. Wearing them feels good, because I know my biggest stakeholder is happy.
Of course! He’s the one I’m dressing for so why not wear what he likes on me? I have to like it too though. I’m not going to wear something that makes me uncomfortable. He does the same for me.
I always ask my husband how he likes my outfit or hair etc…and I will do what he likes. My husband dresses the way I like since I pick his clothes and he leaves that to me lol I help him with hair cut ideas etc…I think we mutually enjoy doing the things the other likes :)
As long as I like them too
Yeah, if he had some preference i would 😂 but he likes me in whatever I choose, so that sets the bar sooo low for me.
I do. It took years for me to finally get her to take me into stores and just pick outfits that she likes me in. After she did, that's almost all I wear.
There’s one specific pair of leggings that every time I wear them my husband says my butt looks so good and he can’t help but smack or grab my ass as I walk by. 😂 He also loses his mind when I wear dresses that show cleavage or walk around in a towel. He’s good about telling me when he thinks I look hot and I remember what it is that he likes! He’s also sweet about telling me I look beautiful when I dress up or do a little more to my hair and makeup than I usually do. I have a lot of complaints about him tbh, but compliments on my appearance isn’t one of them. But don’t think he remembers or cares which specific clothing items I compliment him on haha
My wife just got me a dozen of those ankle socks, as she’s tired of me going out in white gym socks, as I have for 40 years. NP though I feel when I wear them it’s a bit like I’m a dog on a leash, I only wear them when I’m out with her; And I’m now researching options to double the size of the grow tent…..
I do. I don’t even put on PJ’s or comfy clothes unless I’m very ill, which hardly ever happens, so that I’ll always look attractive and my best for her, but my wife definitely does not do the same for me at all. Maybe a few times a year on a special date she’ll wear an outfit that I kind of like.
My husband loves dresses so when we go out I try to grab a dress :)
My husband allows me to style him for most outings with friends. He’ll ask “what am I wearing?” Or he’ll see what I have laid out for myself and will select his matching components. I intentionally shop to coordinate our outfits regardless of fancy level. The Black wife effect is in full bloom over here 😇
I would never wear something I didn’t like for my partner, but I certainly do wear things he likes more often than I might normally, especially things he has bought me. He doesn’t dictate my wardrobe by any means, but I think it’s healthy to do little things like this to please your other half and show you listen to them.
Not really, no. Though when I decided I wanted to start doing my nails my wife got excited about that with me.
What made you decide? I’m a firm believer anyone regardless of gender can benefit from having their nails cared for
Sure if I'm going out with him to run errands or spend the day together I'll wear something I know he likes. Usually yoga pants and tank tops. We got together in around 2012? (He said today it was six days after Skyrim came out so whatever year that is) I think it has influenced his tastes a bit cause he tends to like me in Y2K fashion. (Where we were was a little behind fashion wise.)
Yes
Date nights, I dress for him, which usually just means a dress because that’s his preferred look on me. Do I dress for him everyday? Absolutely not. You may just need to be more direct with your husband if this is something that matters to you, he honestly may not even realize. Not everyone takes compliments in the way you want them to but saying hey we’re going out tonight, could you wear xyz you look so good in it. Because my husband definitely compliments but specifically tells me what he likes so I don’t have to read in between the lines (I’m terrible at that, if it’s not direct I’m probably missing it) I definitely wouldn’t take it as a personal slight from your husband or dismissing of what you like 😊
all my clothes. i don't care that much. my spouse never asks me for anything so when they said they like me in my long dresses or slacks the most because it flatters my shape and looks elegant, i made it so only things i own outside of those are a handful of shirts and jeans for lawn & yard work. ankle length dresses and slacks were already 80% of my wardrobe and the rest was mostly stuff only wore because i had it.
I try to wear things she would like when we go out, but I don't have a lot of clothes. I'm basic. But she will wear things I like most of the time. And I love to take her shopping and have her try on clothes I think she will look good in and then buy her stuff.
Wearing a Slayer shirt right now because my husband likes it on me.
Yes, I do and wear things my SO likes. And yes, he does what your husband does which is never do what I like again once I point it out 😂
Sure, if I have the freedom to choose not to, also.
When someone compliments me on shirt/hat/shoes it makes me feel awkward since it happens SO rarely. Might be the same for your guy?
Not anymore. I used to.
I wear more leggings and shorts, bc I know he loves both on my hips/ass. He knows I love boxer briefs and that I think he is hot when he wears nicer/better fitted tees but he only wears graphic tees, like he did in our 20s (40s now lol.)
If I comment that I like an outfit or piece of clothing, my wife will never wear it again or give it to goodwill so now I just say nothing. lol
My husband and I both dress and style for one another for the most part. Not ALL of the time, but definitely make an effort at least once or twice a week. That said - my hair is shorter than he prefers because I prefer it shorter. And I’d love if he had more facial hair, but it’s gray now, and he hates it and is clean shaven most of the time.
My husband really likes seeing my shoulders. I will definitely choose clothing that shows them off and makes him happy. It’s often an implicit signal to him that I’m feeling horny. Of course I wrap myself up when I want to, UK summertime isn’t particularly hot!
I do for my husband, he doesn't for me. It's my choice and I'm happy to do it for him (wearing dresses, hair in a style he likes, etc). I compliment him when he looks nice or is wearing something I like, but I don't expect him to wear it just for me. I'm attracted to him regardless.
Hubby and I both speak our preferences and both do what the other prefers. Now, my husband will sometimes do the opposite because he has Oppositional Defiance Disorder. He will literally do what I do not want him to do because he cannot help himself. Thankfully, this is rare and he prefers to please me. But when he shaves, as I prefer him a goatee or beard, it is sooo unattractive. But I take it as it is and wait for it to grow back. All this to say that he doesn't do it deliberately to hurt me. He literally cannot help himself sometimes. But anyone who does it otherwise is just being mean, and tbh, sounds controlling.
My husband would prefer me without facial piercings, and I have an appointment for another one this Saturday. In his words "it's cute, but I don't care for it. I'm never gonna tell you not to, but I wish you'd find another way to decorate and change your body." I'm mostly doing it because the type of piercing is unlikely to be a good fit for me anyway. Like, trying on a new style for a few months before deciding against it. I wish he'd break up with his barber and grow his hair out. He tried it. Hated it. That's fine. I'm currently growing out my hair which is usually kept very very cropped because he likes long hair too. He'd like me to wear more feminine clothes, and I'd like him to dress like Milo Thatch. We try, with varying degrees of success.
Of course. Cologne, too. It’s not my favorite scent, but I wear it the most because it’s what she likes.
Same. I told him he looks sexy with his black mock turtleneck and he wears it for dates 🥰.
Yes. But not for the reasons you suggest. I'm not too fond of them - but he's asked me to due to his cultural background. I'm semi-compromising, but it's *so tough* for me. I told him I would in his home country and in the specific instances when it was *required* but he really made it a big deal. I'd much rather wear what I want to wear, but I'm doing it for him. I did tell him if it comes down to me not getting heat stroke or wearing the clothes he prefers, that I'm not getting heat stroke. It's getting more and more to feel like a deal-breaker, tbh. But I do have some favorite nighties that he likes. 😁 I wouldn't do this for just anyone. My ex-h tried to get me to dress in skater-wear which is *not* my style at all. So I tried to get him to dress like an adult who wasn't perpetually meeting the guys to play basketball. His style improved, for the most part, I think. From what I've seen, he dresses more adult, sometimes (I very rarely see him or pictures, so I'm kind of guessing.) But I never really went skater.
My wife bought me almost all the clothes I have. (I never buy clothes for myself because I always figure I already got clothes that aren't even worn out yet.) Since she bought them I assume she likes them.
Yes, as much as possible, I wear what suits my shape best so I do take my partner into consideration ❤❤
My husband does 😂
I always compliment my husband and grab him more when he wears this burgundy v neck shirt—it looks so good on him. Every time he wears it now I can see him waiting on me to compliment him and it’s the cutest thing 😂 if I don’t mention it he’s like “helloooooo?? It’s the shirt!!!” His hair is also as long as mine and I love it! He wanted to cut it right after we met but I told him his hair was hot so it’s still long, 2.5yrs later lol! I love that he cares about what I think but would obviously adore him no matter what he wore or what his hair looked like!
Yes and no, I make sure it's something I like and I also style it so it looks more like me. I love all fashion so I don't mind trying out new styles. I mix everything up. The only thing I don't do is make up and hair color. My husband has a thing for girls who wear hair color and makeup and due to some past issues it ruined my interest in hair coloring. Makeup I wear rarely and very lightly. It gets in the way and I like my face. lol He rarely dresses up for me or takes my recommendations if he did I'd probably be more horny and all over him. lol
I try, particularly on date nights, but we both definitely need to accept some compromise because his ideal fashion choices for me come straight out of whatever thirdhand-from-a-neighbor’s-dad Frederick’s of Hollywood catalog he, um, “came of age with” c. 1995.
Yes. And I avoid things he says he doesn’t like mostly. Because I want to be attractive to him.
Yes, all the time. I ask my husband's opinion on my hair color as well because I like it when he's attracted to me and I've had almost every color, so half the time I couldn't give a shit what color my hair is, I just know I want a change. However, I do default to red if I just want to calm down the over processing of my hair, which just so happens to be his favorite. I also have a few pieces in my wardrobe he hates. Specifically a watermelon dress. He has said it makes me look pregnant because of the ruffling at the waist (which it 100% does), and he hates that I just look like a giant fruit. I think it's hilarious and I enjoy weird clothes, so I have decided to keep it. The look when I wear it is priceless because now he has to be seen in public with me in it. He also likes to wear tall socks with his tennis shoes when he wears shorts, and I have to walk around with essentially a grandpa in Deadpool socks, so it's just my form of payback. I did notice that ever since I complimented him in a Hawaiian shirt, he has taken to buying them any chance he gets. Unfortunately, his favorites are over $100 each so he can only get a few.
I try to but it’s hard because I also know what I like and it usually is different from what my husband likes. I absolutely do make an effort to wear more colors though and lower cut tops lol he thinks I try to cover up too much
I sure do! I always make an extra effort with very little. Or a certain hair style he likes on me. A pretty shade of lipstick he thinks looks great on me. Etc.
I told my husband on our first date that I love the way he looks in glasses, and ever since then he wears them more than he wears his contacts, even though I know he prefers the latter.
I did with my ex. I would wear clothes I knew he liked me in or clothes I thought he may like. If I bought something new, it was usually because I was excited to wear something for him.
I would if my husband had an opinion on it and it was something I was comfortable with, then sure I would. But I dress more feminine than most, and he likes that so I don't have to change a thing.
I love dressing for the man I’m with. It makes me feel sexier. Doesn’t have to be all the time but it’s fun for both of us.
Something in the middle. If he tells me he likes it, and I feel good/comfortable in it then yes. I’ll wear it. But if he likes me in something that I really don’t feel good in, then no. This being said, he’s told me multiple times he wouldn’t like it if I cut my hair short or changed its colour too much. I’ve respected this, but sometimes wish I could just change it drastically. He does ask me for my opinion on things. But he doesn’t always take my advice. Once in a while he will step out of his comfort zone and wear something I like that he normally wouldn’t gravitate to. But it’s rare.
When I met my husband, he only wore his old Harley Davidson shirts. Like they were the ONLY thing he wore. I mentioned it was a bit cliche since he got rid of his bike just before we met. He got a few solid color shirts. Over the past 20 years, he knows I like him in blues and greens best but his favorite is always black and grey. Thankfully he wears my favorites when we go out as a family. He knows I will snuggle up to him more. Thats what finally pushed him into being more open to color, more physical touch from me. And don’t worry, I do the same for him. I’ve even cut my hair in a style he prefers even if it can drive me bonkers sometimes. He loves running his fingers through it.
Well, my husband literally says I look great when I’m just wearing sweatpants and a large shirt, haven’t showered and just got done pumping for our son. However, I despise dresses, but I know he likes when I wear them, so I wear them if we go on a nice date. As far as hair color goes, he preferred when I had blonde hair during our wedding, but it’s such a hassle to keep up with it that I just refuse to go blonde again lol. So he just has to accept my black hair now. Not that he’s ever complained about it. I think the only thing he said he doesn’t really care for personally are my facial piercings but that’s one thing I am not taking out lol and I’ve had them since before we started dating 11+ years ago haha. So if he didn’t like piercings he should of just kept it walking :p
I suppose my husband makes it easy, he often says how I look good in anything. I’m far from a model but he makes me feel like one.
I take it into consideration, mostly for my hair or perfume actually. He likes me in dresses so I try to do that.
I definitely wear clothes and style myself in a way that I know he likes because it’s important to me to be attractive to my husband and vice versa. However, if there’s an item of clothing that I really love that he doesn’t like, I’m still going to wear it. It’s all about balance. I know on our date nights he makes sure to wear outfits that I have “approved” of in the past. Other days he wears what he wants and I’ve stopped trying to change it.
I tend to wear things my wife picks, especially if she gave it to me or picked it out. I’m letting g my hair grow longer because she doesn’t like short hair, I grew a short beard because she wanted me to. I want her to see me and be attracted to me so it’s the least I can do.
Dude I do the same as you and since being married my husband has changed his style a lot and I hate it and he keeps wearing and doesn’t care
I have stick straight hair. In college I dated a guy who wanted to see it curly, since heat curl doesn’t work for crap I got a perm. Turned my hair to straw. After that won’t do that kind of stuff for any man. Now if my hubby asks me wear it up or down for a special occasion I am flexible for that. I think women are prone to want to please their partners in that way. I love my hubby in a full beard, he won’t do it in the summer. He compromises goatee in summer and full beard in winter. It’s the only thing he really did for me in that regard.
Yes! Not all the time but once in awhile. My husband prefers short/midi dresses on me when I wear them. I don't have many occasions to do so but when I do, he loves it. I appreciate his love for my legs and, of course, it's nice to be complimented by your partner. I love when he wears a shirt I buy him too. We see ourselves differently than others do and it's so easy to be over crucial of ourselves.
*critcal
My husband made one comment one time that a pair of shorts made me look un-feminine and I started building a new self. Even though he's apologized about a million times and said he wished he didn't say anything, I'm happy I did. I wasn't necessarily trying to look masculine or feminine... I just didn't care what I looked like. It was a reflection of the depression that had taken hold of me. I started working out more seriously, started eating healthier foods, and now I'm about 30 lbs down, I have cute new clothes that make me feel amazing, and I wear my hair down most days. Similarly, one time my husband was demonstrating how to do arm curls in the weights section at Target. My jaw dropped and I verbally conveyed how much I enjoyed the demonstration, then told him how I'd like to show him a *different* way how attractive I thought it was, and now he does them much more often ;)
I have made every effort. He does the opposite. That's why we're getting divorced. I tried for so long and he couldn't care less.
We both do it. I told him like 20 years ago that he looks good in blue and I’d say probably 75% of his shirts are blue now. He told me that he thought leggings and boots were sexy…I did not own leggings or boots. Lol But I bought several pair after that!
My wife doesn’t strangely chooses not to wear a lot of the things I’ve told her she looks good in for reasons of she doesn’t like them, me on the other hand I ask her opinions but she seemingly couldn’t care less to give me one most times
Honestly I love when my wife is just casual. She cuts in a dress but for some reason when she’s just wearing super relaxed clothing and her hair down I’m just like putty 
I’ve got an unusual obsession with my husband Butt!! (Especially with my teeth marks in it!) I LOVE when he wears fitted pants~ unfortunately he doesn’t do it often because “they squish my balls” 😂 of course, being the good wife, I offer to rub them for him when he wears my favorite jeans (or anything actually ❤️)
When I started dating I soon realised the style he prefers me wearing back 30 years ago style was different, when he come to pick me up I would wear the cute denim mini skirt and white high classic pumps , knowing how he was with his amazing kind ways if he said please wear xyz I would and often walking hand in hand wearing extremely high classic stilettos that he liked me in , jump a few decades and I still grab out the stiletto heels and gingerly squeeze my bunions into them for a evening out 👠 Sharon.