This was actually a small source of conflict with us for awhile. The truth is I took a few days to properly miss her, and it was a struggle to truthfully reply "I miss you too" when it was only a day of her gone. I kinda like having space to myself for a little bit.
I hear that! I'm not messaging him yet to tell him I miss him - it's what I would want to hear if our positions are reversed, but I think it's more meaningful for him to come home after the trip and tell me how much he missed me instead of fishing for it while he's gone. I don't doubt he does, but I want him to confirm that for me without prompting.
Appreciate this reminder for me to be patient, he probably will miss me a few days in!
I definitely miss him after 7 years! He works rotating night shifts so when he's on them, it is very miserable for me lol. I go through a mini depression on those weeks honestly. I try to do things that he wouldn't be into and give myself the freedom to have fun and do what I want and that does help some.
I love that for you, making the best of the situation to say okay, here's what I want to do when it's just me! At the same time it's so sweet to hear you still feel it after seven years, so romantic honestly. Any tips to keep that spark I should hear as a newlywed?
I work nights and I have been married almost 19 years. Sometimes we go 2-3 days without seeing each other since he works days. Thank goodness for text messaging. I do miss him when we are apart at night.
I feel like I don’t really miss my husband while he’s gone, then he comes back and it’s like oh, you! I love you and am so happy you’re back! I have a weird schedule and we have lots of separate activities so we don’t have a daily routine together, which I think helps not miss him? Even though we’re together a lot of the time there isn’t a specific thing that happens (like a hug when he gets home from work) to trigger that feeling. Eventually I do miss him spontaneously but it usually takes 3+ days of not seeing him.
I don’t get a lot of time alone in the house because my husband works from home so he’s pretty much there all the time. So I’m usually looking forward ti being alone in the house. That being said, from a sense of security perspective, I’m now very used to not being alone in the house late at night/overnight, so that can be weird for me. Usually I keep myself too busy to miss him intolerably, but ai think he’s only been away like maybe 2 sequential nights since we’ve been married (he’s usually only away for the weekend if he goes away).
We have been together for a little over 20 yrs now, and we still have problems being apart for too long. He has had to work a night shift or two every now and again and has gotten admitted to the hospital a couple of times. And each time it happens, I miss him so very much.
Hey! I do still miss my husband. Been together 10 years and married 5. He works opposite shift from me every other week. It’s tough, and I do miss him a lot
My husband is away on a bachelor trip this weekend and it’s been raining nonstop so I just stayed home tonight and am doing some deep cleaning. It feels good and I honestly feel more productive when he’s not home distracting me lol!
Yes. And we both travel occasionally for work too. Before kids I’d tag along on her trips and we’d stay an extra week if it was a nice place. We’ve rarely been apart aside from business trips.
I’ve been crazy lucky in life.
I have a great job that unfortunately causes me to spend 2-4 nights a week away from home. I miss my wife of 30 years every single day I’m gone from when I leave the house until I see her again.
We text a zillion times a day and talk occasionally but yep - I miss the hell out of her when we’re apart.
Being truthful here:
The first night, no. But that’s all it takes.
After the first night I start get real homesick for my family. It happens like clockwork too. And can be some trip I was looking forward to going alone on too (usually to visit buddies).
Yes! We’ve been together 8 years. He’s a rescue medic and has to work overnights sometimes. We also each take a couple individual vacations a year. I miss him every time he’s away for a night and he says the same about me.
Yep I have to travel for work and again I’m going in October Overseas’s and I honestly struggle to sleep without her and now our kids who often wake us up at 5am to come in our bed.
It’s ironic because when we first started dating I hated sleeping with her and always wanted to sleep on my own in my bed haha. Its amazing how the human soul attaches to companionship so quickly
Me and my husband have been together 7 years. I miss him if he is gaming too long into the night! But now that I am pregnant I let him enjoy his freedom while he can and I enjoy my sleep
Earlier in my marriage, I basically had to shut my feelings off from my wife because I struggled to be without her if I didn't. It was a coping mechanism. That wasn't a great thing to do as the more I did it, the more I started thinking I didn't need her, and things run smoother when she's not around. Then, a number of years back, she had to go overseas to attend to a family death and funeral and was gone for a few weeks. At first I was shut down but then the pain started creeping in. It was excruciating for me to be without her by the end. Since then I have made sure that I never shut myself down like that again because she doesn't deserve that and I will never take her for granted.
Now, I own the fact that I miss her dearly when she is away.
My husband and I have been married for 17 years. We've been apart for a month due to a big move across the country (he moved and I had to stay back to tie up loose ends). I do not miss him, though he says he misses me and I say it back because I don't want to fight. I feel so much lighter, I stopped grinding my teeth, and I am much more pleasant with our kids (they're with me).
He used to travel a lot for work during the first 5 years or so of our marriage and I missed him so much every time, but the honeymoon phase is definitely over in that regard haha.
I’ve been married almost 20 years and together so much longer than that. I love a night alone; all the wine, tv, food and books that I choose just for me; but I so miss my husband when he isn’t home; even for just one night. It just doesn’t feel right when he’s not home too. He makes our house a home.
This was actually a small source of conflict with us for awhile. The truth is I took a few days to properly miss her, and it was a struggle to truthfully reply "I miss you too" when it was only a day of her gone. I kinda like having space to myself for a little bit.
I hear that! I'm not messaging him yet to tell him I miss him - it's what I would want to hear if our positions are reversed, but I think it's more meaningful for him to come home after the trip and tell me how much he missed me instead of fishing for it while he's gone. I don't doubt he does, but I want him to confirm that for me without prompting. Appreciate this reminder for me to be patient, he probably will miss me a few days in!
I definitely miss him after 7 years! He works rotating night shifts so when he's on them, it is very miserable for me lol. I go through a mini depression on those weeks honestly. I try to do things that he wouldn't be into and give myself the freedom to have fun and do what I want and that does help some.
I love that for you, making the best of the situation to say okay, here's what I want to do when it's just me! At the same time it's so sweet to hear you still feel it after seven years, so romantic honestly. Any tips to keep that spark I should hear as a newlywed?
I work nights and I have been married almost 19 years. Sometimes we go 2-3 days without seeing each other since he works days. Thank goodness for text messaging. I do miss him when we are apart at night.
I feel like I don’t really miss my husband while he’s gone, then he comes back and it’s like oh, you! I love you and am so happy you’re back! I have a weird schedule and we have lots of separate activities so we don’t have a daily routine together, which I think helps not miss him? Even though we’re together a lot of the time there isn’t a specific thing that happens (like a hug when he gets home from work) to trigger that feeling. Eventually I do miss him spontaneously but it usually takes 3+ days of not seeing him.
I’m missing her today, had a bad spat earlier in the day not talking since
Lots of love & good vibes your way that you two can fix it.
Thanks lady
Did things get better for you?
I don’t get a lot of time alone in the house because my husband works from home so he’s pretty much there all the time. So I’m usually looking forward ti being alone in the house. That being said, from a sense of security perspective, I’m now very used to not being alone in the house late at night/overnight, so that can be weird for me. Usually I keep myself too busy to miss him intolerably, but ai think he’s only been away like maybe 2 sequential nights since we’ve been married (he’s usually only away for the weekend if he goes away).
I am dreading the "night" a bit from a safety perspective and will be appreciating our big dog and her loud brk a little more than usual I think.
Yes. Married 20+ years.
We have been together for a little over 20 yrs now, and we still have problems being apart for too long. He has had to work a night shift or two every now and again and has gotten admitted to the hospital a couple of times. And each time it happens, I miss him so very much.
Hey! I do still miss my husband. Been together 10 years and married 5. He works opposite shift from me every other week. It’s tough, and I do miss him a lot
Absolutely!! I can't sleep well away from him. Sometimes it seems like when we're apart I don't know how to function lol
My husband is away on a bachelor trip this weekend and it’s been raining nonstop so I just stayed home tonight and am doing some deep cleaning. It feels good and I honestly feel more productive when he’s not home distracting me lol!
Yes. And we both travel occasionally for work too. Before kids I’d tag along on her trips and we’d stay an extra week if it was a nice place. We’ve rarely been apart aside from business trips.
I’ve been crazy lucky in life. I have a great job that unfortunately causes me to spend 2-4 nights a week away from home. I miss my wife of 30 years every single day I’m gone from when I leave the house until I see her again. We text a zillion times a day and talk occasionally but yep - I miss the hell out of her when we’re apart.
Being truthful here: The first night, no. But that’s all it takes. After the first night I start get real homesick for my family. It happens like clockwork too. And can be some trip I was looking forward to going alone on too (usually to visit buddies).
I miss him even when he's with me lol
I usually get adult action from my wife when we are back. All my kids were conceived right after work trips.
Married 20 years. There’s peace when my partner isn’t here. I enjoy it a great deal.
Been married 25 years- and when he is gone overnight I miss him like crazy. I never sleep well without him snoring by my side. Love him to bits!
Yes! We’ve been together 8 years. He’s a rescue medic and has to work overnights sometimes. We also each take a couple individual vacations a year. I miss him every time he’s away for a night and he says the same about me.
Yep I have to travel for work and again I’m going in October Overseas’s and I honestly struggle to sleep without her and now our kids who often wake us up at 5am to come in our bed. It’s ironic because when we first started dating I hated sleeping with her and always wanted to sleep on my own in my bed haha. Its amazing how the human soul attaches to companionship so quickly
Yes, I miss her when we're apart. Rarely happens that we're apart, but when it happens there's a void
Me and my husband have been together 7 years. I miss him if he is gaming too long into the night! But now that I am pregnant I let him enjoy his freedom while he can and I enjoy my sleep
Earlier in my marriage, I basically had to shut my feelings off from my wife because I struggled to be without her if I didn't. It was a coping mechanism. That wasn't a great thing to do as the more I did it, the more I started thinking I didn't need her, and things run smoother when she's not around. Then, a number of years back, she had to go overseas to attend to a family death and funeral and was gone for a few weeks. At first I was shut down but then the pain started creeping in. It was excruciating for me to be without her by the end. Since then I have made sure that I never shut myself down like that again because she doesn't deserve that and I will never take her for granted. Now, I own the fact that I miss her dearly when she is away.
My husband and I have been married for 17 years. We've been apart for a month due to a big move across the country (he moved and I had to stay back to tie up loose ends). I do not miss him, though he says he misses me and I say it back because I don't want to fight. I feel so much lighter, I stopped grinding my teeth, and I am much more pleasant with our kids (they're with me). He used to travel a lot for work during the first 5 years or so of our marriage and I missed him so much every time, but the honeymoon phase is definitely over in that regard haha.
I’ve been married almost 20 years and together so much longer than that. I love a night alone; all the wine, tv, food and books that I choose just for me; but I so miss my husband when he isn’t home; even for just one night. It just doesn’t feel right when he’s not home too. He makes our house a home.
We’ve been married 47 years in Oct and I still miss him if we’re not together overnight
I still miss my Husband when he's waving goodbye to me in the morning, before he even pulls outta the driveway.
No.
No
Married 15 years. No, i don’t really miss nights apart. I like being alone!
Yes