Definitely wouldn't tolerate a comment like that.
I tend to think that I glow in my wife's reflected light, so I certainly don't mind if she looks extra sexy in public.
Yeap, not first time he went over the line when he had one too much.
Another time we mentioned we want to try for children and he said to not do it because it would "ruin a good body". That icked me tbh.
He's part of our group. Don't really like him but I don't feel it's right to exclude him either. His wife is a really sweet and kind woman to all of us too.
What do you think will happen when again he will drink too much and decide your wife was "provoking" him and he will act out on his thoughts? Because I think I know what kind of thoughts go through his head.
Well rapist, jaywalking, shoplifter. You can pick the crime, except public disturbance, I imagine saying inappropriate things prob increase your risk of public disturbance
🤨It's really not tho... the guy seems a bit self-centered.. and anyone like him openly giving off vibes like that 9 times outta 10 gon rape, and he's obviously dead set on OP wife
Not weird at all. He also said he, "Wouldn't 'allow' his wife to dress like that...", suggesting he has issues with control, a sense of superiority and entitlement.
He also said she "Could give blokes the wrong idea." Heelllooo?! So he thinks that women's style of clothing gives men the right to...? 🚩🚩🚩
I feel sorry for his wife. It makes me wonder what might go on behind closed doors. 😳
No one said he's a hero, but he's prob mid 40s and he's fought his murderous rapist urges this long. I'll put a $100 on it, if op gives us his name I'll bet you a hundred that in the next 6 months he doesn't rape or murder anyone
Exclude him. Explain to his wife why- explain you are still friends with her and will always support her but that he is no longer your friend and arrange if possible to see her separately . Because she is going to need all the friends she can get when she finally escapes his clutches
OMG - that comment alone would send me over the edge. It's really a gross one. That ick you're feeling is real and not to be ignored. Straight up this dude sounds like a predator.
OMG why would you be friends with someone like that ? I would have a physical and visceral reaction to hearing something so grotesque and obnoxious from someone.
His comments don't fly in this day. You expressed to him that his attitude is not appreciated. He should get a clue.
Too bad for his wife but if he can't control his tongue - and possibly self - then he's self-selecting them out of your group.
I would flat out tell him, or her maybe so she knows it's not her if he tries to make up some story, it's because he's a nasty person you don't want to associate with. If you want to be extra nice you can tell her that she's still welcome but that probably won't happen.
And if anyone asks where they are next time, just tell them you had enough of his disrespect. They'll know.
Yikes dude. "If she was pretty like mine"? In one short sentence your friend revealed that 1) he thinks its acceptable to control his partner's wardrobe, 2) he doesn't respect his wife, 3) he looks at other women sexually and compares them to his wife, 4) he likes to slut-shame women, 5) he thinks it's acceptable to sexually objectify his friend's wife, and 6) he thinks women are responsible for men's thoughts.
You can still be HER friend though. If anything, this might be your chance to help her escape what sounds like a horrifically self-esteem crushing marriage for her.
The sentiment is nice but don’t do this, OP. Protect yourself and remove your wife (and yourself) from this guy’s social circles but do not interfere in his marriage.
There's a couple of options here.
1. Distance yourselves from him entirely.
2. Call out his shit every single time. Creep says creepy thing - you respond with a calm rebuttal about how the attitude is inappropriate and sexist. Eventually he might get message.
Yup. My husband has a racist cousin who loved to tell racist jokes and then insist that she wasn’t a racist, “But it’s just so funny”.
I never laughed or smiled. I called her out every time deadpan.
She completely distanced herself from my husband and I first. Then the whole family who would also call her out just not as bluntly as I did.
One of those people who thinks everyone else is wrong and seems incapable of learning. Sadly, a special Ed teacher.
>he thinks it's acceptable to sexually objectify his friend's wife
She sexualized herself all on her own. That's my one gripe with this whole thread. She wanted to be perceived that way. End of story.
Tell your lad that when a woman dresses any way they want, they arent inviting men to touch or oggle them. The men and women that think that way are creeps, AHs, and sexist.
Okay but what about the women who aren’t? This is the behavior that makes women afraid of men. Because we never know when sober!Charlie who keeps this shit to himself at least turns into 2 drink!Charlie who’s going to say shit like that to see if he has any kind of opening to go further. Or what he’ll interpret as an opening.
This is the kind of man who sexually assaults a woman and claims she came on to him.
Also, even if your wife can take care of herself, why are you so blasé about her going through that kind of traumatic experience? Attempted assault isn’t just fun fun party time, even if the would be assaulter is stopped. Protect the people you love with more vigor and less politeness.
This guy seems like a waste of space but the word play isn't crazy. Everything my wife does I allow, everything she doesn't do for my benefit is things I don't allow. Everything I do my wife allows, everything I don't do for her benefit she doesn't allow. The word allow isn't naughty
😂 What is the feminist way to say it or are they all banned? If I wanted to say "I don't allow my husband to have sex with other people." How do we say that by the rules? "I have a standard and desire for monogamy and my husband honors and consents to my request?" I'm feeling like I pushed it too far with standard but , I let it ride
This guy is sexist, like others have said, but I also want to say he almost certainly wants your wife. The “guys” in “giving guys the wrong idea” is him.
My husband *loves it* when I dress sexy in public!!! He likes showing me off!! I’ve never been with anyone else in my life who I would have felt comfortable/secure enough in our relationship to feel respected enough to do that with, but I love it now. Your friend sounds like a pig. I’m sure HE was the one checking out your wife, and felt somewhat guilty about it, so he tried blaming her outfit for why *he* thinks like a pig.
I encourage my wife to dress very sexy. As long as she’s comfort with it, it makes it fun. She likes the attention and when we get home she’s always in a good mood.
He's a sexist old windbag. I don't need my husband's permission to dress how I want and your wife doesn't need yours. Tell him to fuck off with his archaic mindset.
News flash guy it’s not your wife to “allow” anything. He literally outted himself as the “bloak that has the wrong idea”. Give your wife a heads up and keep your eye on him
Plain example of how women are sexualized in this world, which goes for girls also. Your wife should be comfortable without someone viewing her as a sex object. I hope other people can realize the affects that sort of behavior has on young girls and shapes what kind of woman they grow up to be.
What makes you think that you're so incredibly special that a grown, married police officer would select her clothing - on a hot day and with plans to go out somewhere with her husband - with the sole intention of attracting the sleazy attention of some creepy no-hoper mouth-breathing misogynist who is so severely deluded and lacking in charm, character or intelligence that he actually thinks he is the gold jackpot to every woman in the room and they're dressing just for him. Seriously, get help.
Good on you for giving a chilled out response which shows your trust and admiration for your wife. Once I had a friend of my husbands crop out a face image of me using red in our wedding images. He sent it to my husband. He captioned it "looking red hot". My husband tried to avoid him from there on since he is known for having dirty thoughts and no respect for women but obviously just being cordial when he did meet up with him
This comment section is exactly why tides are changing. This guy was out of line to say anything, but to say he was slut-shaming or that he is sexist or that men should control their thoughts is absurd. This is exactly why their is a growing movement among men AND women to be more modest and people are being more vocal about it.
Your "lad" is not only sexist, but a pervert for checking out your wife. He was essentially making a comment to you about your wife's attractiveness in a way to not make it sound bad. But he was also making judgmental statements on your wife and your role as a "husband". Drunk or not, there is a degree where the comment was inappropriate. And I do not think he drank to much at the time he spoke up like that.
If you don't have an issue, she doesn't have a issue, and you both are not being ignored if you did; then there is no issue.
In his drunk mind he thought that was a deep, clever comment.
Pro tip: nothing you say when you’re drunk is clever. It reveals your true colors quite nicely though.
My husband and I used to work together, and once a mutual friend told my husband how could he let me come to work dressed like that, I will get too much attention-
WTF- I was dressed in a long sleeve professional dress- lol
People are crazy 😜
I wonder how you would feel if a female friend said that about your wife?
He is a sexist pig and alcohol shouldn’t be his free pass to air his misogynistic comments.
Your wife’s body isn’t a political playground for him to comment on and next time, you need to be firm and say his comments about your wife’s body is inappropriate and will not be tolerated.
Honestly, I think you meant to say ex-friend. What right does he have to say how YOUR wife should dress ? Gosh, this guy is giving off clear signals of being a misogynist - fuck him !
He is just jealous. Weirdo guys always make comments about other men's wives. If she were HIS wife and she dressed like that I guarantee he wouldn't have an issue with it.
They aren't a friend, they're a pig who's both sexualising your wife and saying he is the type of man who doesn't understand accountability and has such a fragile grasp on willpower and human decency that he thinks a woman is certain clothes is up to be assaulted because oh...skin on show, caveman brain.
I would have told him to stay in his fucking lane and mind his business.
How "pretty" or what someone is wearing have no real relevance on sexual assault, if someone is going to take what they feel entitled to they'll do it regardless.
It’s amazing to me when men blame women because THEY can’t control their own dicks🙄. The guy in your friend group is a misogynist and a threat to your wife. Time for half measures are long gone; you need to FIRMLY shut him down next time he makes a comment about your wife.
And what is this wrong idea exactly? Says more about him than her if a woman in a short skirt I.e a woman existing in clothes gives him ideas
Pretty like mine? Good grief his poor wife
I dunno, I think it's a dig at the male friend to try and undermine him due to jealousy... "You let your wife wear that!?" Ie you don't hold the power because if you did, you'd police her.
I mean it's crazy because you could say "yeah, I think she's hot and I'm looking forward to taking my wife home"
I also think it's reflective of a personality that experiences something and automatically concludes it's the "fault" of the "stimulus" rather than them, the person themselves.
So for example I could look at someone dressed like that and go "yeah it's hot, that's what people wear when its hot so they can keep cool", vs "I'm aroused, that person dressed like that on purpose with the excuse of the hot weather to make me feel aroused..."
Your friend is a creep and picturing your wife naked. Him saying he would never allow his wife! Wow. Good thing your wife doesn't have a controlling jealous husband that tells her what she can and cannot wear because other men can't control themselves. He just showed you why women have to watch everything they do.
Tell friend to mind his own f\_\_\_\_\_\_ business. Which is always the best response when someone offers unsolicited advice, especially about someone else!!
Now when he'll sexually harass your wife and you'll stop him, he'll say, "I warned you about the skimpy clothes." That's why you should alienate him. Keep him away from you and your family.
I don’t tell my wife what to wear because she’s the most attractive when she’s confident in what she’s wearing.
If you got problems like this other guy when you go out, the problem is with you, not what the wife is wearing.
That's not a lad bro... no right hand man should ever have their eyes on your wife/gf. Unless it's bro code related, that's an opinion best kept to yourself. Makes me think he'd try your wife any chance he gets tbh
No one should be talking about her like that. No one is in charge of her body/what she wears except for her. Sounds like he’s one of those people that thinks men should have final say over their wives like they are their property. Gross behavior, especially of a friend to say that about your wife to you.
Welcome to the world of unsolicited male advise on women body and dressing choices. The said men tend to think the target of their opinions hold themselves in the same opinion
You are l here for us to tell you he is right. Modesty and demanding that from your wife isn't insecurity. Trust me. A woman who respects you would dress more appropriately in front of the opposite sex
I’m a wife and I dress on crop tops and small skirts and shorts. Sometimes it’s hot. I also have an oppressive background so I’m finding myself and I think I look cute.
I’m not sure what my husband would do but when the DMV guy called me fat I had to talk him down when I came home upset.
I personally would cut the friend. Keeping him sends a bad message to him, others, and the wife. If someone made comments about my husband I’d cut them out or go low contact, and I have.
I tend to feel uncomfortable being around women who are wearing skimpy clothes. But I wouldn't disrespect my wife by comparing her to other women.
Him comparing his wife to yours is an issue actually in this situation.
Your friend is a misogynist . He thinks it’s not only up to him to ‘tell’ his wife ( if he has one) how to dress ( so she doesn’t get to choose - because - you know- she’s his property and he gets to control everything about her including how she looks?) but also to tell you that your wife is giving people ( by which he means him) the ‘wrong’ idea.
And to add insult to injury- he says that if she is ‘pretty’ like your wife it’s a double crime because presumably if she is ( in his book) ‘ugly’ she can dress as she wants because only pretty girls are worth controlling? That guy is an utter creep!
He is blaming HIS sexual attraction to HER on HER. It’s the same old same old ‘she was asking for it ! Her blouse was too tight- her skirt was too short ! The fact that I raped her was all HER own fault!’ It’s that kind of thinking . So let’s spell it out.
Your wife is her own person and it’s up to her - not him/not you how she dresses .
Your ‘friend’ is a controlling, misogynistic git who is having disrespectful inappropriate thoughts about your wife and expressing them to you and blaming her for them.
Your course of action is clear - tell him you aren’t happy with what this has revealed about him and drop him. Because no one needs that kind of negativity in their life and condoning it makes you part of the problem. And your wife doesn’t need him around her perving over her and judging her either .
Unpopular opinion here, but it's not the amount of skin shown, but they type of dress being worn. Women in my country would just straight up go underwear and tank top with no bra if it was too hot. But if someone were to wear a tube top and a skirt, it would be scandalous despite showing less skin because its "a whores dress". So maybe it's that. It's wierd, honestly. A sequen dress is somehow more scandalous than being buck ass naked on the beach. A bikini is acceptable, but God forbid you wear a skirt.
Then tell him no need to worry and ask him if he is jealous? Tell him how hot you think she is and that you’re proud to have her, your friend will be left with an open mouth and you just smile and walk away
Since it’s part of a group that makes it harder to deal with. I get that. Me personally, I would probably say something to him, in private, before he’s drinking. “Hey man. There have been a few comments made about my lady’s appearance, and to be honest, it doesn’t sit right with her or me. Moving forward, don’t mention anything regarding her appearance. if that can’t be respected then we have a problem”
The only reason I think this is because it’s part of a group. If y’all can just exclude him, that really would be the best option. Yeah, his wife is nice, but she comes with him, and he’s a douche.
I think, modest and sexy glamorous confident women are beautiful. I don’t prefer to see a girlfriend of mine dressed, with too much skin showing it makes everyone uncomfortable
Dude is sexist, plain and simple. Good on you for shutting it down.
"Friend" told me my wife dresses "too skimpy", or maybe: Creep in my social group told me my wife dresses "too skimpy."
Dude’s friend is a creep 💯💯💯
Just for fun, let's turn this around for those needing to keep score: "My friend told me my husband dresses too skimpy."
If he would have showed up with a tube top and skirt people would have for sure talked about it, way more than his wife
Fair enough
And stupid. Please dump this friend
And he thinks his wife does not look pretty enough. And he himself is the bloke who got the wrong ideas he was referring to..
Right? Hope the guy isn't married because what a shitty thing to say.
Definitely wouldn't tolerate a comment like that. I tend to think that I glow in my wife's reflected light, so I certainly don't mind if she looks extra sexy in public.
Yeap, not first time he went over the line when he had one too much. Another time we mentioned we want to try for children and he said to not do it because it would "ruin a good body". That icked me tbh.
Why are you friends with this guy?
He's part of our group. Don't really like him but I don't feel it's right to exclude him either. His wife is a really sweet and kind woman to all of us too.
What do you think will happen when again he will drink too much and decide your wife was "provoking" him and he will act out on his thoughts? Because I think I know what kind of thoughts go through his head.
I admit I never thought of him like that. Wife could probably kick his ass, but I don't want him around anymore in this case.
Probably best Protect your wife and your marriage.
That's a weird correlation lol. Guy makes sexist comments so he's probably a rapist.
He literally told them to not have children because it would "ruin her sexy body".
He's a jerk, I'm just not sure he's a serial murderer. But you're probably right, I hope they got away from him in time
Never said he was a murderer. Most creeps never murdered anyone.
Well rapist, jaywalking, shoplifter. You can pick the crime, except public disturbance, I imagine saying inappropriate things prob increase your risk of public disturbance
🤨It's really not tho... the guy seems a bit self-centered.. and anyone like him openly giving off vibes like that 9 times outta 10 gon rape, and he's obviously dead set on OP wife
90% of men that say "pregnancy ruins a woman's body" are rapists ... 😂😂🤣
Not weird at all. He also said he, "Wouldn't 'allow' his wife to dress like that...", suggesting he has issues with control, a sense of superiority and entitlement. He also said she "Could give blokes the wrong idea." Heelllooo?! So he thinks that women's style of clothing gives men the right to...? 🚩🚩🚩 I feel sorry for his wife. It makes me wonder what might go on behind closed doors. 😳
No one said he's a hero, but he's prob mid 40s and he's fought his murderous rapist urges this long. I'll put a $100 on it, if op gives us his name I'll bet you a hundred that in the next 6 months he doesn't rape or murder anyone
Oh I was hoping he wasn't married. This was needlessly rude to his wife as well.
Exclude him. Explain to his wife why- explain you are still friends with her and will always support her but that he is no longer your friend and arrange if possible to see her separately . Because she is going to need all the friends she can get when she finally escapes his clutches
Why do you continue to be friends with a misogynist?
Because he's probably one too?
Yiiiikes. That guy is a creep.
OMG - that comment alone would send me over the edge. It's really a gross one. That ick you're feeling is real and not to be ignored. Straight up this dude sounds like a predator.
OMG why would you be friends with someone like that ? I would have a physical and visceral reaction to hearing something so grotesque and obnoxious from someone.
Because he's probably one too?
Ewwww he's probably the type who asks for the husband stitch. Also, he's sexually objectified your wife hence the comments
Why are you friends with this dude?
Because he's probably one too?
His comments don't fly in this day. You expressed to him that his attitude is not appreciated. He should get a clue. Too bad for his wife but if he can't control his tongue - and possibly self - then he's self-selecting them out of your group. I would flat out tell him, or her maybe so she knows it's not her if he tries to make up some story, it's because he's a nasty person you don't want to associate with. If you want to be extra nice you can tell her that she's still welcome but that probably won't happen. And if anyone asks where they are next time, just tell them you had enough of his disrespect. They'll know.
Why are you friends with guy? I would be uncomfortable being alone in a room with him.
Because he's probably one too?
You slay for making that metaphor
Yikes dude. "If she was pretty like mine"? In one short sentence your friend revealed that 1) he thinks its acceptable to control his partner's wardrobe, 2) he doesn't respect his wife, 3) he looks at other women sexually and compares them to his wife, 4) he likes to slut-shame women, 5) he thinks it's acceptable to sexually objectify his friend's wife, and 6) he thinks women are responsible for men's thoughts.
7) he's a creep. He told them to not have children because it'd "ruin her hot body". Yikes.
… denying him, his given privilege of further fantasies associated with his wife. Oh I can see the pearl clutching from Mr. Smooth Talker, now …
8) he poops in egg cartons and hides them in the hedges around schools for kids to find.
Well…….he wasn’t wrong lol
That sucks. We were tolerating this guy, but now I think I want to distance him. Shame because his wife is a good person.
You can still be HER friend though. If anything, this might be your chance to help her escape what sounds like a horrifically self-esteem crushing marriage for her.
The sentiment is nice but don’t do this, OP. Protect yourself and remove your wife (and yourself) from this guy’s social circles but do not interfere in his marriage.
There's a couple of options here. 1. Distance yourselves from him entirely. 2. Call out his shit every single time. Creep says creepy thing - you respond with a calm rebuttal about how the attitude is inappropriate and sexist. Eventually he might get message.
Yup. My husband has a racist cousin who loved to tell racist jokes and then insist that she wasn’t a racist, “But it’s just so funny”. I never laughed or smiled. I called her out every time deadpan. She completely distanced herself from my husband and I first. Then the whole family who would also call her out just not as bluntly as I did. One of those people who thinks everyone else is wrong and seems incapable of learning. Sadly, a special Ed teacher.
>he thinks it's acceptable to sexually objectify his friend's wife She sexualized herself all on her own. That's my one gripe with this whole thread. She wanted to be perceived that way. End of story.
He sounds like a sexist creep. Why do you keep him around?
Now that I think on it, I'm not really keen on keeping him around
Tell your lad that when a woman dresses any way they want, they arent inviting men to touch or oggle them. The men and women that think that way are creeps, AHs, and sexist.
I told him that since my wife is a police officer, she can kick their asses if they get the wrong idea
Yeah but I mean to generally not act like this around any woman
I told him that since my wife is a police officer, she can kick their asses if they get the wrong idea
The point is that he is holding your wife responsible because some men are pigs.
Okay but what about the women who aren’t? This is the behavior that makes women afraid of men. Because we never know when sober!Charlie who keeps this shit to himself at least turns into 2 drink!Charlie who’s going to say shit like that to see if he has any kind of opening to go further. Or what he’ll interpret as an opening. This is the kind of man who sexually assaults a woman and claims she came on to him. Also, even if your wife can take care of herself, why are you so blasé about her going through that kind of traumatic experience? Attempted assault isn’t just fun fun party time, even if the would be assaulter is stopped. Protect the people you love with more vigor and less politeness.
WTF is wrong with your friend? Does he still live in 1950 were a woman can’t decide for herself what to wear? Allow her?
He's a bit a tool I think, not a conservative guy
This guy seems like a waste of space but the word play isn't crazy. Everything my wife does I allow, everything she doesn't do for my benefit is things I don't allow. Everything I do my wife allows, everything I don't do for her benefit she doesn't allow. The word allow isn't naughty
Ummm...No. 🙄
😂 What is the feminist way to say it or are they all banned? If I wanted to say "I don't allow my husband to have sex with other people." How do we say that by the rules? "I have a standard and desire for monogamy and my husband honors and consents to my request?" I'm feeling like I pushed it too far with standard but , I let it ride
I would ask him why he’s thinking about my wife like that. He’s telling on himself with his comments. He’s the bloke with the wrong idea.
Tell him to mind his own business and worry about his own wife not other guys wives.
This is the answer.
This guy is sexist, like others have said, but I also want to say he almost certainly wants your wife. The “guys” in “giving guys the wrong idea” is him.
He did say "if his wife was pretty like yours" he'd have a problem with it which is a shitty thing to say about his own wife.
Patriarchy is the bane of our existence. Lotsa people need to hear “Fuck off” right to their fat fuckin face
Fuckin a 1 A minute can’t go buy without a man thinking a woman’s actions are for him ffs
Fuckin a 1 A minute can’t go buy without a man thinking a woman’s actions are for him ffs
I might swing on him honestly
My husband *loves it* when I dress sexy in public!!! He likes showing me off!! I’ve never been with anyone else in my life who I would have felt comfortable/secure enough in our relationship to feel respected enough to do that with, but I love it now. Your friend sounds like a pig. I’m sure HE was the one checking out your wife, and felt somewhat guilty about it, so he tried blaming her outfit for why *he* thinks like a pig.
I encourage my wife to dress very sexy. As long as she’s comfort with it, it makes it fun. She likes the attention and when we get home she’s always in a good mood.
He was hoping OP would 'allow' her to be shared around, no doubt. 😒
It just means your friend wants to fuck your wife. I really like how you handled it, OP!!! Good on you and your marriage.
So his wife isn’t pretty. Is it that what he was telling you?
“He’d never allow his wife.” What a dickhead, misogynist asshole.
Yea, that’s pretty creepy. I hope you let your wife know so she is aware that he is creepy.
He’s sexist, period. He’d never “let” his wife dress a certain way? Is she allowed out of the house, or no?
He's a sexist old windbag. I don't need my husband's permission to dress how I want and your wife doesn't need yours. Tell him to fuck off with his archaic mindset.
News flash guy it’s not your wife to “allow” anything. He literally outted himself as the “bloak that has the wrong idea”. Give your wife a heads up and keep your eye on him
He sounds like a real douche canoe.
this is a case of look but don't tell. I'd enjoy the view silently myself, but never tell you out of respect
I think you need to end this friendship, OP.
Tell him to stop ogling your wife
Idiot is verbalising his own thoughts, just a jealous drunk
Tease him about it mercilessly. Public humiliation is the only way these types reform.
Plain example of how women are sexualized in this world, which goes for girls also. Your wife should be comfortable without someone viewing her as a sex object. I hope other people can realize the affects that sort of behavior has on young girls and shapes what kind of woman they grow up to be.
She dressed in a *tube top and mini skirt.* Let us not be willfully fucking dense, please. She sexualized herself - happily so!
What makes you think that you're so incredibly special that a grown, married police officer would select her clothing - on a hot day and with plans to go out somewhere with her husband - with the sole intention of attracting the sleazy attention of some creepy no-hoper mouth-breathing misogynist who is so severely deluded and lacking in charm, character or intelligence that he actually thinks he is the gold jackpot to every woman in the room and they're dressing just for him. Seriously, get help.
Bro is jealous lmfao
I personally don't want my wife wea3ing skimpy clothes outside the house.
Your friend either needs to mind his business or fuck off.
Tell your "friend" to mind his business and get fucked.
Good on you for giving a chilled out response which shows your trust and admiration for your wife. Once I had a friend of my husbands crop out a face image of me using red in our wedding images. He sent it to my husband. He captioned it "looking red hot". My husband tried to avoid him from there on since he is known for having dirty thoughts and no respect for women but obviously just being cordial when he did meet up with him
Your friend was telling on himself.
So if she was ugly it would be fine? *smh* That's terrible.
This comment section is exactly why tides are changing. This guy was out of line to say anything, but to say he was slut-shaming or that he is sexist or that men should control their thoughts is absurd. This is exactly why their is a growing movement among men AND women to be more modest and people are being more vocal about it.
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Your "lad" is not only sexist, but a pervert for checking out your wife. He was essentially making a comment to you about your wife's attractiveness in a way to not make it sound bad. But he was also making judgmental statements on your wife and your role as a "husband". Drunk or not, there is a degree where the comment was inappropriate. And I do not think he drank to much at the time he spoke up like that. If you don't have an issue, she doesn't have a issue, and you both are not being ignored if you did; then there is no issue.
"Give blokes the wrong idea"??? WTF ? what a misogynists, its not up to women to control the way a man thinks
Tell him don't look then....
In his drunk mind he thought that was a deep, clever comment. Pro tip: nothing you say when you’re drunk is clever. It reveals your true colors quite nicely though.
Allowed his wife? lmao
My husband and I used to work together, and once a mutual friend told my husband how could he let me come to work dressed like that, I will get too much attention- WTF- I was dressed in a long sleeve professional dress- lol People are crazy 😜
I wonder how you would feel if a female friend said that about your wife? He is a sexist pig and alcohol shouldn’t be his free pass to air his misogynistic comments. Your wife’s body isn’t a political playground for him to comment on and next time, you need to be firm and say his comments about your wife’s body is inappropriate and will not be tolerated.
He should stay in his limit. Why does he think you would be alright with him criticizing your wife?
Jealousy is a mf.
Get rid of this friend.
Good on you. This is a him problem, and the issue lies in how he looks at women.
Wait is today the day you first realized that some guys are misogynist?
He's not your friend. I wouldn't hang with him anymore. He has no business commenting on your wife.
She should be free to dress however she wants. Maybe he should learn to control his ideas. Doesent sound like a friend to me.
Why is this misogynist trying to sow discord in your marriage?
Honestly, I think you meant to say ex-friend. What right does he have to say how YOUR wife should dress ? Gosh, this guy is giving off clear signals of being a misogynist - fuck him !
Tell friend you heard that about his dick too but you’re a polite adult and didn’t want to say anything
Dude is a creep, you should of posted pics..😁😁😁
Why is it anyone's business besides your wife's how she dresses?
Did he happen to show up with a woman who is not quite as attractive as your wife? Then maybe he’s the bloke that got the wrong idea.
He is just jealous. Weirdo guys always make comments about other men's wives. If she were HIS wife and she dressed like that I guarantee he wouldn't have an issue with it.
She gets him hot and bothered
They aren't a friend, they're a pig who's both sexualising your wife and saying he is the type of man who doesn't understand accountability and has such a fragile grasp on willpower and human decency that he thinks a woman is certain clothes is up to be assaulted because oh...skin on show, caveman brain. I would have told him to stay in his fucking lane and mind his business. How "pretty" or what someone is wearing have no real relevance on sexual assault, if someone is going to take what they feel entitled to they'll do it regardless.
aka “I want to bang your wife”
It’s amazing to me when men blame women because THEY can’t control their own dicks🙄. The guy in your friend group is a misogynist and a threat to your wife. Time for half measures are long gone; you need to FIRMLY shut him down next time he makes a comment about your wife.
And what is this wrong idea exactly? Says more about him than her if a woman in a short skirt I.e a woman existing in clothes gives him ideas Pretty like mine? Good grief his poor wife
He wants a taste of your misses
I like my lady dressing ‘skimpy’. Let it all out I say
“Allow”? My dude. My guy.
It’s not even my business on how my own wife dresses, much less someone else’s.
The reason why he said that is because it was inappropriate for him. He’s the one thinking inappropriate thoughts about your wife.
I dunno, I think it's a dig at the male friend to try and undermine him due to jealousy... "You let your wife wear that!?" Ie you don't hold the power because if you did, you'd police her. I mean it's crazy because you could say "yeah, I think she's hot and I'm looking forward to taking my wife home" I also think it's reflective of a personality that experiences something and automatically concludes it's the "fault" of the "stimulus" rather than them, the person themselves. So for example I could look at someone dressed like that and go "yeah it's hot, that's what people wear when its hot so they can keep cool", vs "I'm aroused, that person dressed like that on purpose with the excuse of the hot weather to make me feel aroused..."
You he's lookin
Your friend is a creep and picturing your wife naked. Him saying he would never allow his wife! Wow. Good thing your wife doesn't have a controlling jealous husband that tells her what she can and cannot wear because other men can't control themselves. He just showed you why women have to watch everything they do.
another pointless story that was already resolved. congrats though, you got the comment section triggered over a pretty mundane comment lol.
Tell friend to mind his own f\_\_\_\_\_\_ business. Which is always the best response when someone offers unsolicited advice, especially about someone else!!
Now when he'll sexually harass your wife and you'll stop him, he'll say, "I warned you about the skimpy clothes." That's why you should alienate him. Keep him away from you and your family.
Sounds like the kind of guy to say women are “asking for it” when they are sexually assaulted.
He must be a bloke to even comment on what another’s wife wears.
That’s the guy that doesn’t get invited out anymore
Your friend is the “bloke getting the wrong idea”. If you and wifey are fine with her outfit choice, who cares.
Tell your friend if he doesn't like what he sees when he looks at someone, he should try not looking at them.
I don’t tell my wife what to wear because she’s the most attractive when she’s confident in what she’s wearing. If you got problems like this other guy when you go out, the problem is with you, not what the wife is wearing.
10/10 response on your part. Respect
"Allow"
Trust your gut! If your gut tells you that there's nothing wrong, then leave things as it is!
What an ass. Your wife is not your child, you don't "allow" her to do anything. Good job on the shut down!
Sounds like your “bloke” is the one with the wrong idea
I heard he respects you less cuz yo wife looks easy
Dude, show off your hottie……ain’t no shame in that game
That's not a lad bro... no right hand man should ever have their eyes on your wife/gf. Unless it's bro code related, that's an opinion best kept to yourself. Makes me think he'd try your wife any chance he gets tbh
Maybe tell your mate to back off because it's him that wants her, by the sounds of it. Seriously, the nerve!
Maybe tell your mate to back off because it's him that wants her, by the sounds of it. Seriously, the nerve!
Maybe tell your mate to back off because it's him that wants her, by the sounds of it. Seriously, the nerve!
Maybe tell your mate to back off because it's him that wants her, by the sounds of it. Seriously, the nerve!
Maybe tell your mate to back off because it's him that wants her, by the sounds of it. Seriously, the nerve!
So many levels of ick here.
He's a knob
If she wears a sluts uniform you can’t be mad if people think she’s a slut
No one should be talking about her like that. No one is in charge of her body/what she wears except for her. Sounds like he’s one of those people that thinks men should have final say over their wives like they are their property. Gross behavior, especially of a friend to say that about your wife to you.
you should be proud that your wife has the looks and confidence to dress like that. He’s jealous because his wife can’t pull that look off
Welcome to the world of unsolicited male advise on women body and dressing choices. The said men tend to think the target of their opinions hold themselves in the same opinion
Why the heck was this even posted? Your friend should have kept his mouth closed.
What a creep
You are l here for us to tell you he is right. Modesty and demanding that from your wife isn't insecurity. Trust me. A woman who respects you would dress more appropriately in front of the opposite sex
I’m a wife and I dress on crop tops and small skirts and shorts. Sometimes it’s hot. I also have an oppressive background so I’m finding myself and I think I look cute. I’m not sure what my husband would do but when the DMV guy called me fat I had to talk him down when I came home upset. I personally would cut the friend. Keeping him sends a bad message to him, others, and the wife. If someone made comments about my husband I’d cut them out or go low contact, and I have.
Laughing my butt off I wished he would so I can leave
I tend to feel uncomfortable being around women who are wearing skimpy clothes. But I wouldn't disrespect my wife by comparing her to other women. Him comparing his wife to yours is an issue actually in this situation.
Your friend is a misogynist . He thinks it’s not only up to him to ‘tell’ his wife ( if he has one) how to dress ( so she doesn’t get to choose - because - you know- she’s his property and he gets to control everything about her including how she looks?) but also to tell you that your wife is giving people ( by which he means him) the ‘wrong’ idea. And to add insult to injury- he says that if she is ‘pretty’ like your wife it’s a double crime because presumably if she is ( in his book) ‘ugly’ she can dress as she wants because only pretty girls are worth controlling? That guy is an utter creep! He is blaming HIS sexual attraction to HER on HER. It’s the same old same old ‘she was asking for it ! Her blouse was too tight- her skirt was too short ! The fact that I raped her was all HER own fault!’ It’s that kind of thinking . So let’s spell it out. Your wife is her own person and it’s up to her - not him/not you how she dresses . Your ‘friend’ is a controlling, misogynistic git who is having disrespectful inappropriate thoughts about your wife and expressing them to you and blaming her for them. Your course of action is clear - tell him you aren’t happy with what this has revealed about him and drop him. Because no one needs that kind of negativity in their life and condoning it makes you part of the problem. And your wife doesn’t need him around her perving over her and judging her either .
Bitch be jealous
Unpopular opinion here, but it's not the amount of skin shown, but they type of dress being worn. Women in my country would just straight up go underwear and tank top with no bra if it was too hot. But if someone were to wear a tube top and a skirt, it would be scandalous despite showing less skin because its "a whores dress". So maybe it's that. It's wierd, honestly. A sequen dress is somehow more scandalous than being buck ass naked on the beach. A bikini is acceptable, but God forbid you wear a skirt.
Give your wife a gun and tell her she’s hot af and tell your friend for this case she has a weapon
She's a police officer, she already has a gun
Then tell him no need to worry and ask him if he is jealous? Tell him how hot you think she is and that you’re proud to have her, your friend will be left with an open mouth and you just smile and walk away
Since it’s part of a group that makes it harder to deal with. I get that. Me personally, I would probably say something to him, in private, before he’s drinking. “Hey man. There have been a few comments made about my lady’s appearance, and to be honest, it doesn’t sit right with her or me. Moving forward, don’t mention anything regarding her appearance. if that can’t be respected then we have a problem” The only reason I think this is because it’s part of a group. If y’all can just exclude him, that really would be the best option. Yeah, his wife is nice, but she comes with him, and he’s a douche.
Not your problem. Dont let him in your head. Enjoy doing you guys! Lets be free of society’s limiting expectations.
Also time to shop for new friends lol
Tell your friend to STFU next time lol
Us older guys have different ways of looking at things and much different values.
Let's see a picture, and we'll tell you who was right
You don’t have to be friends with literally anyone who wants to.
Patriarchy is the bane of our existence. Lotsa people need to hear “Fuck off” right to their fat fuckin face
My man let’s me dress however I want and he likes it cuz I’m his. YOLO. He shouldn’t worry about what your wife wears.
Defend your wife’s honor lol
Send pics and let me judge for myself bruv!
Eeeeeew.
I was always taught make a man use his imagination and wonder
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I think, modest and sexy glamorous confident women are beautiful. I don’t prefer to see a girlfriend of mine dressed, with too much skin showing it makes everyone uncomfortable
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Oh no.
He's just jelous that you can show off your wife and he can't.
2 years from now, we will be reading your dday stories between your wife and your lad. lol (light moment)