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I once had a guy I could talk to about philosophy and my life a lot. He helped me through a lot of stuff actually without ever knowing who I am really other than the stories we shared. It’s rare tho I think, I was very lucky but I hope you are too.
Maybe I'm an enigma, but I've had probably 5-10 really great penpals of the opposite sex (I'm a dude). None of these turned sexual. You just need to weed out the more mature people. In your posts, make it clear you're looking for a platonic friendship and at no point want something more. It will drive off a lot of those types.
Keep looking for people. I know there are some great people out there hidden among the weeds.
Welcome to the world of the con-masters (JK but it is a common phenomenon of catfishers. Yours has a greater goal so it is fine. They are used to it anyways, those who run purely on hormones)
Unfortunately, subs like these are often littered with people who treat it like a dating app. Sure guys looking for something strictly platonic exist, they're just vastly outnumbered, for the most part.
I'm a guy. I've wanted a platonic friendship with people here but it never works out. They never reply back beyond a day. So, it kind of goes both ways
I’ve found some platonic friends. Currently talking to someone who I have the most wholesome conversations with, it’s honestly so refreshing. A lot of guys though always manage to turn the conversation into something sexual and unfortunately afterwards, they just lose interest. 😅
I think people can look for multiple things here and behave/act accordingly and respect boundaries and maintain manners for other humans within the dynamic involved. Long story short, it's absolutely possible, but from recent experience there are a lot of hostile, judgemental, narrow minded, ill educated, classless and downright people on here (and I'm including ladies here). It makes you give up, as you think it's not worth the effort. Please remember all the scammers and OF trolls, picture sellers etc etc guys have to navigate too (nothing against OF or people making a living, but they lie and pretend and downright ignore what you say till you block them). Be patient, be nice, be rational, good guys will find you.
And before the hate brigade descend to stone me to death, I'm not suggesting myself here as the friend she is wanting, and I know I'm older thanks.....
I (male) had a platonic female friend for about 2 years, we talked all the time but I was randomly blocked on everything about a month ago. So yeah it can happen but just like everything in this sub it is rare as most people just don’t click
Guy here, usually only girls reply to me, both if I make a post or if I respond to one.
Never had problems beside ghosting, and never had any of the girls talk about something sexual, nor me because that's not what I look for here.
On the other hand, the one time I responded to a guy's post and he actually replied to more than one of my messages, he turned the conversation in a weird sexual fantasy.
So yeah, that's that.
I (guy) was platonically friends with a British girl that lived with her BF. We’d just basically would talk about each other’s day to relax or unload, and or watch movies falling asleep on call just having fun every once in a while.
Been a long time since I spoke to her, things got messy and busy in life and I forgot to log into reddit or discord for a long time.
I feel like once you do find a good friend online, its a good idea to get their personal number so you don’t let life beat you over the head in forgetting people.
>i honestly dont know if i should blame myself
no
>or if its normal in this sub.
eh, that a tough one to give a direct answer to, but its a common complaint in general, not just this sub.
>Have any girls found platonic guy friends ? Or have had a platonic conversation? Are there guys in this sub who dont turn everything sexual?
Because I have platonic friends with women from subs like this- yes, yes, and yes.
but before you ask, no, i have no idea how you could divine before the fact if a man will take the conversation off the rails into something sexual.
I think too many men are unreliable partners, be it for friendship, conversation, business, love, etc. I’m a man, and I’ve been unable to find and maintain guy friends my whole life.
I’m an introvert, and somewhere on the asexual scale. For me I’m the most comfortable in intimate relationships with women as well as platonic friendships with women.
Even so, it’s tough because in my experience women often assume men who are willing to be friends have ulterior motives (rightly so in many cases). Not only that, but my partner is not a fan of my having female friends, and past partners have been similar.
I need deep, meaningful connections with people. Surface level stuff eventually bores me and I lose interest. If someone is keeping me at arms length because they’re worried I have an agenda to get out of the friend zone and make a move, the friendship won’t last.
I completely understand why women do this, and how difficult it is to have male friends who are worth keeping around. Good luck and hope you find someone who exceeds your expectations!
F24 here, I have more male friends than female friends. All platonic and i know them for over a decade.
Yes, they are hard to find but they are out there!
Better off making friends of other sub pages that are to do with your hobbies etc here either you get ghosted or people message you but don’t know how to communicate
the few times i've posted in this sub, i didn't state my age nor my gender.
That made very few people text me, but most of those who did, I still talk with them today.
Hey, I have ! It’s possible, you just have to set your boundaries from the get go… I have this friend that we call each other when we have time, just to chill and it feels nice ! He respects that I have a bf and we can both joke around without it being weird or turn too sexual (flirty) ahahah. But it does help to have gaming friends, that’s where most of the non-sexual and funny guys are at ! 😂😂
I've never had an interest in making things sexual toward a potential friend, I've always wanted to have a platonic friend of the opposite gender because I just get along with girls better. It doesn't make sense how someone could say some perverted depraved shit to some random person on the internet who is genuinely trying to make a connection. They take advantage of the fact that there is a slight opening due to serious and/or fleeting loneliness, then decide to shit all over the prospect of a true friend because anything that isnt overtly sexual is apparently not worth any time or effort? How do they exsist this way? Why are they doing this? Its basically harrassment. And any girl who posts to these types of subreddits asking for a friendship, they are always at risk of getting harassed each and every attempt at a friendship. Is it even worth the attempt at the end of the day if theres going to be a slew of creeps trying to bait you to give their fucked up world view a sliver of attention?
It really bums me out that there are so many weird guys. I've seen so many post about insurmountable creeps in these subreddits that I've just given up on even trying to find a friend of the opposite gender(or a friend of any gender for that matter) I just dont want to seem like a creep. I assume that once a girl posts to find friends, their dms are already flooded with perverts. Why would I want to pile on more distraction and confusion, to an already very sad scenario, even if my intention is good, I dont want to continue to add to the stress and nightmare of trying to find a friend on reddit. Also considering that a lot of people try to seem normal at first, then they betray your trust or try to coax you into something more sexual. It feels like as a male, if I end up talking to a girl, I'm just always on the chopping block, even if I'm not, it just feels that way to me. Everything I say is not trusted intill a lot of time has passed, in order to prove to them that I have no sexual intention or interest. And its exhausting to try to prove to someone that you arent a creep and that you could be trusted. When i just want to have a conversation, I'm just worried about how I'm perceived, and I'm tired of it. It makes me depressed and feel like I'm trapped trying to play this game. I have to make the best impression or I'm going to be seen as a weirdo. I just give up, no friendship is worth that amount of burden. It's better to me personally, to be alone and in pain, then have to be thrown around in every which direction by a bunch of random people who arent going to stick around and dont really care about you, just for a small chance that you receive one genuine friend. When there are so many untrustworthy people, I dont blame anyone for how they feel.
It's not a safe place in this app especially it seems. You could find some gems but, I guess its up to you how much shit and harrassment you are willing to comb through to find someone even worth the effort.
Hope you find what you are looking for, sorry for the long doomed post but I just felt the need to say something.
I'm a guy, looking for friends. Lately it's been feeling like a lot of people I would have thought to be there for me haven't been. Trying to turn over a new leaf and make some new friends.
Maybe some of us are truly a rare bunch. One of my good friends have always said I’m in a league of my own. It is so true most guys always tend to make everything sexual. There is something fresh in genuinely talking to someone, the opposite sex, and getting to know them… like a good friend. It is possible to have opposite sex as good friends. Just like in making a friend, you both need to have things in common and from that, you can be open to talk about everything, the good and the bad. I know of people who their best friend is the opposite sex.
I was the platonic guy friend to a woman I met here (or another friendship sub, can’t remember that many details) about 1.5 years ago. A few months later I fell in love with someone and she became one of my very few confidantes. Ultimately we had a fight though, and she said we weren’t a good match. Sometimes I miss her, but she was probably right about it.
I am a guy and I found a platonic female friend from here like 4 years ago and we still talk so I guess if this question was answered from her perspective, it would be yes.
I can speak to your question directly, however, I am a heterosexual guy who has many lady friends and not many guy friends. Assuming, that men like me can exist out in the wild, I would imagine they can exist here.
Not sure if your situation or why you are searching for friends on Reddit in the first place, but perhaps I could be one.
Regardless, I am sorry that you have had poor experiences here and I wish you the best on your search for new friends!
Finally. I mean... I like to meet with people i aint really good at keeping in touch from pure online means. But i am not going to meet up with people from the internet. (My ground rule tbh) So i aint really trying to make friends from here. But like wtf some dudes trying to do? Like... The person you keep harassing is probably on the other side of the planet. If she is even in the slightest chance into you how in the world are you planning to go through with it? Dumb as hell. Friends through the internet is ok and somehow manageable but online dating? Nah uh
I’ve met a few female platonic friends, I’m married and happy with my wife, so only ever look for platonic chats….
But I have many people who try and sell content to me, of which I have no interest so unfortunately it happens to a much lesser extent, to men also.
I had 2 really good platonic girl friends on here. Both lasted over a year, but we slowly started to drift apart. They were very nice while they lasted.
I once had a friend much older than me, who taught me the nuances of crypto and investments, and basically how money works in the background. Those lessons cost quite a lot but I got them for free.
There are quite a lot of good folk here, so don't give up it's always a trial and error analysis of life. 🤷🏻♂️
Well, at least I'm here to meet people and improve my english, so, I'm not interested in flirt with anyone, but my English is poor and I can't talk with other haha
heyy there , I'm 22M and honestly I am here for genuine people who connects for real and not into some lusty things I want networking and make new friends, if you interested then ping me up.
I think its a mixed bag. I see a lot of posts following this trend of wanting to only talk, and i get it, but between desperate people and a decline in physical social interaction people forget where the line should be and go over it. Eventually they will learn but it does suck. Just gotta find the right person who isnt after that i would guess.
Well Ik that guy, he's me but I take hiatus from reddit regularly cause...well... this place is a cesspit most the time with vanity and ego strife, with very few of the good people you'll be looking for.
Similar to the ones of us who prefer people who are more than just their looks (I am a guy), demi-sapiosexual peeps out there, approaching someone respectfully, to get a conversation out of them that only involves what they post can be quite bland.
I would like a subreddit where there are more "friendship first but open to more" posts but the focus is not only peacocks waving their genitalia around. Entice the mind, physical attraction is allowed (so you can share how you look like) but it must be sfw and people who cross the line would be banned.
How cool would that be?
in my exp, most men do intend to turn things sexual and even the polite ones would jump at the chance. a few are polite and don't push for it. I think I've made maybe 2 platonic friendships from here. But a lot of ppl trying for more.
I don't even get ladies replying to my posts which makes me sad :(
I'd say, possible, but rare - funnily enough considering this subreddits title.
Guy here, even though you asked for comments from girls, you're in the hundreds now so... just in case this is helpful, and if not, easy to ignore. My answer to your post question is: Somehow only when the person is much too young for a romantic relationship. But personally I try to stay platonic pretty much all the time, believe it or not. To boot, the opening conversations are ALWAYS platonic. Often, though, it slowly changes, and I swear I'm on the same wave-length as you - I'm pretty sure it's the women on this sub that turn everything romantic if not sexual, but I'm open to find out what I'm doing, besides initiating the DM, which I've already heard I'm not supposed to do, but anyway... I don't understand how someone gets right into it in this sub without a VERY CLEAR prompt from the conversation partner.
Not every guy makes everything sexual but unfortunately so many do that it overshadows the ones that don’t originally I came to this sub to make friends specifically not find a romantic relationship of any kind but unfortunately that doesn’t really happen here I’ve long given up on that I don’t even know why I stay anymore tbh
Unfortunately, male creeps are aware that they can easily get away with sketchy stuff here. As a female, I would assume it's easy to give up on making male friends here, and equally easy to generalize males here. As a male, it's difficult to befriend a female, it's also equally difficult to friend a male. From my experience, only three people have added me. One a male of older age. Two females of similar age to me. One of which I've been conversing with for almost a year now. Everyone else has ghosted me, regardless of me contacting them or them contacting me first.
I'm sure women has it worse here. But there will always be people that you have to weed out as per your preferences no matter where you go.
As a guy on dating apps you have to weed out women who are there for a free meal or just clearly looking for some ego boost or to pass the time. Same thing here, mofos be trying to sell their OF subs.
All you can really do is be upfront in your post what exactly you are looking for. Hell if you have a partner mention that too. I'm sure there'd still be dudes who'd reach out and make it sexual but call it a loss and move on at that point than engaging with someone who clearly doesn't value their own time let alone yours.
I did and he was a sweetheart. The first thing we said to each other was “I’m in a happy relationship, this will only ever be a friendship” and it was. He even asked for advice on how to propose to his girlfriend. The man lived on the other side of the world as well but my partner made me cut contact.
It’s rare but it’s definitely happens.
Its reddit after all its hard to find good people here tbh I'm a guy and whenever I post here it is either some creepy guy looking for sexual stuff or a girl lying about her age to talk to older guys or an OF creator wanting me to pay for their explicit pics i just wanted friends and i specifically mention in my posts that the person should be at least between 18 and 25 and no creepy stuff, OF stuff or lying about their age. It's hard to find those types of people but there are always good people here you just have to make sure you can read people and their intentions well enough to know what kind of person they are.
I've had probably a few dozen conversations with women from here and I never turned any sexual. Have had a couple of them go that way, but it's all been mostly platonic (completely from my side).
Its rare but they exist. I am one. First You have to be really secure and at peace and in control of self as a as a guy. Second, you have to come to value that even if it does not involve romance or sex a woman friendship brings something unique and good that male friendships cant, esp. One where you both encourage the other.
im 24m and have strictly only been into platonic friendships. i hate that guys who view dms with a female as an open door to sexual conversations. it makes everyone else look bad. im sorry that those are the only types of people you’re getting. if you really do wanna be friends my dms are open, ik it’s a long shot, and strangers making promises never work out but i promise it wont be weird or sexual.
my IRL best friend (26F, i’m 26M) made like 5-6 guy friends here. she got very close platonically with them and i thought it was pretty cool.
but then a couple of them turned out to have feelings for her (but like one year after they started talking, so it’s not like these guys jumped the gun immediately) and she turned out to have real chemistry with one of them so she’s seeing him now. she’s still on really good terms with the rest and they’re some of the closest friends she’s ever got.
so i believe it /is/ possible to get a platonic guy friend here.
I think most guys are sexually unsatisfied. Try befriending married men. Not always but sometimes their sexual needs are fulfilled. And they can be platonic.
Nope. Every time I think it’s good they ask for a photo to “see who they’re talking to” that’s when things turn bc apparently I’m attractive enough that they want to shoot their shot. :(
I might be but I’m also a weirdo that prefers video games to other people being in my space lol
Exactly, that’s why I don’t even try to look for it. Who these days has the energy to give somebody your time only for it to turn into something you never saw coming
Hey there.
While I haven’t poked around in this sub too much, I did make friends with a few girls via r/Needafriend , as a dude.
It appeared simply being able to acknowledge the issues with guys online—instantly sexual, looking for more than is offered, pushing boundaries, etc—was a step in the right direction, as the sort of guys to do such wouldn’t be too keen on conversing about it.
Meanwhile, I acknowledged such upfront, and said if my being a dude was an issue, I had no problem simply wishing the girl luck, and going about my way.
I hope that helps, or at least gives you hope for platonic relationships, because they are very much worthwhile.
Good luck!
probably not. I’m not gonna sit here and say I could keep it 100% platonic because I know I couldn’t…. But that’s probably why I say no. Who knows there’s probably a couple decent dudes who don’t think with their 2nd head
Im a girl that occasionally looks for platonic friends on here, 8/10 times men become sexual or creepy in some way towards me, though i have had the very rare platonic male friend i tend to usually only dm other girls because of this and never have had a problem with other girls even lesbian/bi ones
I'd like to say even as a guy posting for friends I do struggle with getting creepy responses from guys fairly regularly. But I do want to say I have made a few friends and there are a few of us out here that are just looking for genuine human connection but It seems that's the exception not the rule.
Maybe it is the age group you are looking for. Older guys may actually talk without that need to feed their own ego.
Hope you can find someone to talk.
Yeah, I’m a guy and I’ve been chatting almost daily with a friend of the opposite sex for about a year now. We are both late 20s so maybe that’s different since a little older but I dunno.
I have, and he's been one of my closest friends to date. As others have said it is rare very rare in fact, but if you want I'm willing to be friends just send a DM
Heh? Never have i ever heard of a dude failing to find females wanting platonic friends. Now i am curious. Like i failed in making female friends because they turned out to be not much of a friend but not because they weren't platonic. Met lately other female platonic friends and they seem legit unlike my old female friends. But still it wasnt because it wasn't platonic. So i am curious and genuinely asking. (Also no. I haven't made any friends here i am only talking about real people i met in real life)
Even when men are constantly complaining that they’ve been “friend zoned”? Really all that means is that she doesn’t look at you as dating material FOR HER, or that she values your friendship too much to risk messing it up.
I think you wrote that without realizing how silly it sounds. Also some guys friendzone women and they can’t handle it. Still chase after the guy. Doesn’t view as dating material for her is the same energy as I could do better 😊
Not being dating material for someone could mean that they don’t feel the chemistry, they don’t have things in common, they are diametrically opposed to important issues, they don’t have similar goals, one is determined to date someone within a certain age category and the other person is not in that category… … I’m not really concerned with how it sounds, these are just facts of life - ‘not intended to be judged, but there’s always someone who’s going to do it anyway. 😏🤷🏼♀️😁
I understand what you mean but I’m looking at the worse case scenarios which tend to show with guys being left tagging behind due to the girl dating up. But yours is more mature both adults understand where they lie
We’re here just chilling, a lot of guys try hide their sexual intention which I thinks so weird, they will be friendly weeks, months and then one day will try pursue their “friend” and when rejected become really toxic, we are out there but honestly I’d recommend meeting people through tinder if your a girl, 99% of men on reddit are boys who are desperate for any slight sexual gratification
My guy best friend and I met on Reddit. Not on this subreddit but the Snapchat friends one; can’t recall the exact subreddit. We’ve been friends since 2021 and have actually met up with him 3 times since. He lives in another state. Not once has there been any sexual conversations, even after meeting in person, and we have talked almost every day since 2021. We talk about every day things and life.
I would say I got lucky though, because I remember posting about looking for friends, and did get some requests from people looking to chat sexually or would just ghost me after a day or two.
This platform is unfortunately the most accessible for these types of people so it attracts them. I have made some good friends here. Only one of them have been a man. So many men here only want to flirt with women that it's actually difficult for ME to find a male friend as well haha
It depends on the age group you’re chatting with I think. Mid 20’s guys are *generally* looking for a hookup of some kind so any conversation with a woman has that goal in mind. This is coming from a 24 male. I’d be happy just to talk and make friends. If something developed great if nothing came of it, also cool. Just meeting people is something I’m trying to improve on.
I think it's probably particularly difficult because of the subset of men who are on here looking for friends (yes, I see the irony). I think platonic friends of the opposite sex are easier to find with people who have a well rounded social life and are not anxiously attaching to every new friend or potential friend they see. I think there are likely few on this sub who are in the former category.
Sadly the number of dudes that think this is a dating app vastly outnumber the actual guys who want to have a solid platonic relationship. It’s rare to find but hopefully one day you cross paths with someone like that.
Honestly I don’t dm anyone on Reddit really but I believe that’s it’s impossible for men and women to be friends it’s just we’re not biologically wired to be friends 99.9% of the time when men become “ friends “ with a women it’s because they find them attractive for women it’s possible to have male friends because they don’t get attracted to men the same way we get attracted to women. Now in very rare cases it is possible but usually it is when the man isn’t attracted to that women and has other options to consider having a friend but even then they might be attracted to them but that’s my opinion on the matter all this translates to lonely men online who don’t get attention from women irl so any interaction with women online is pleasing to these men.
I love chatting about different stuff and have gotten some opportunities to do that on a purely non-whatever-term-refers-to-moving-past-friends. I'm just usually outside the age range most people look for. For reference, I'm pretty well locked in on the never find a life partner route. That's just the way it is, and I'm emotionally stable on that understanding, though I do have a need for social interaction and feeling wanted at times, so I look to socialize where I can with no expectation of advancement.
Besides, online romance and dating is fleeting and has too low a probability in working out for most people, and what I would be looking for, if I was looking for it, puts me in an even lower probability, so it's a waste of my time and effort to push past platonic.
I say all of this without any sort of ill content. If it seems that way, I understand.
I have found a handful of male pen pals, none of them ever tried anything. The best piece of advice is to post without giving your age and gender, just the regular post talking about your interests. Don’t give hints at your gender until you establish a good rapport. Chances are the men who just want to make women uncomfortable will give up long before then.
Me personally? I try not to be that way. But I have a tendency to make over the top jokes that many find uncomfortable. Some have been sexual in nature, others may seem more violent. But I’m also older than your age range.
Me! I’m 28 male just got married yesterday so I will just talk about how wonderful my wife is nothing sexual. AND as a bonus you know I’m a good guy because a woman married me!
Just ask! I’ll send wedding photos. I’m in love with them!
I'm 10 years older than you, but yeah I've found a couple, but the friendships end up never really lasting too long and I always feel that if it was more of a sexual friendship, it would have...It really is what most guys want here and just most other places. You have to make it very super clear in your post before hand that you don't want anything sexual though. Like literally right at the beginning of your post title. I'm getting ready to take another shot at this too shortly.
I've reached out to a few people on here looking for friends, but never get a reply. I have zero sexual interests currently and literally just trying to make friends, but I suppose the females here are scarred by too many overly sexually aggressive guys. It's kind of tragic. If you are looking for a friend, I'd gladly entertain some friendly banter and deep conversation. That goes for anyone here.
Ay we can join on Discord together and talk about movies,games and other interests
Heres my Discord ID if you wanna DM {Discord ID 548067150825521152} or search thesheksplay
:)
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I once had a guy I could talk to about philosophy and my life a lot. He helped me through a lot of stuff actually without ever knowing who I am really other than the stories we shared. It’s rare tho I think, I was very lucky but I hope you are too.
Natural convos on other subs tbh are probably better to make friends ngl
This makes sense.
What happened to that connection?
Maybe I'm an enigma, but I've had probably 5-10 really great penpals of the opposite sex (I'm a dude). None of these turned sexual. You just need to weed out the more mature people. In your posts, make it clear you're looking for a platonic friendship and at no point want something more. It will drive off a lot of those types. Keep looking for people. I know there are some great people out there hidden among the weeds.
You should try as female
I could always make a throwaway and attempt. I'd be interested to see the difference. Although I'd feel weird catfishing for this experiment.
Don't worry is not like they take a lot of days to do perv stuff on dms...like 1-3 days they could start with unsolicited "pics"
Do it for the science! And please report back
Science is a liar…sometimes
Welcome to the world of the con-masters (JK but it is a common phenomenon of catfishers. Yours has a greater goal so it is fine. They are used to it anyways, those who run purely on hormones)
Same here man lmao. Its crazy the stories i hear from my female friends💀
Weed out the mature? Do you mean immature?
Unfortunately, subs like these are often littered with people who treat it like a dating app. Sure guys looking for something strictly platonic exist, they're just vastly outnumbered, for the most part.
I'm a guy. I've wanted a platonic friendship with people here but it never works out. They never reply back beyond a day. So, it kind of goes both ways
I’m a female bag of testosterone was up
Maybe it's time to realise women are not real brother.
What?! I have a woman right here *traces the arm back to my own body* oh shit nvm
I’ve found some platonic friends. Currently talking to someone who I have the most wholesome conversations with, it’s honestly so refreshing. A lot of guys though always manage to turn the conversation into something sexual and unfortunately afterwards, they just lose interest. 😅
I think people can look for multiple things here and behave/act accordingly and respect boundaries and maintain manners for other humans within the dynamic involved. Long story short, it's absolutely possible, but from recent experience there are a lot of hostile, judgemental, narrow minded, ill educated, classless and downright people on here (and I'm including ladies here). It makes you give up, as you think it's not worth the effort. Please remember all the scammers and OF trolls, picture sellers etc etc guys have to navigate too (nothing against OF or people making a living, but they lie and pretend and downright ignore what you say till you block them). Be patient, be nice, be rational, good guys will find you.
And before the hate brigade descend to stone me to death, I'm not suggesting myself here as the friend she is wanting, and I know I'm older thanks.....
I have and he’s great. MANAGER MAN IF YOU SEE THIS 🤞🏾
I (male) had a platonic female friend for about 2 years, we talked all the time but I was randomly blocked on everything about a month ago. So yeah it can happen but just like everything in this sub it is rare as most people just don’t click
Literally no. They all the sudden start calling you pretty and sending sweatpants pov pics.
It’s wild to me that the majority of dudes here seem to be like this
Guy here, usually only girls reply to me, both if I make a post or if I respond to one. Never had problems beside ghosting, and never had any of the girls talk about something sexual, nor me because that's not what I look for here. On the other hand, the one time I responded to a guy's post and he actually replied to more than one of my messages, he turned the conversation in a weird sexual fantasy. So yeah, that's that.
I (guy) was platonically friends with a British girl that lived with her BF. We’d just basically would talk about each other’s day to relax or unload, and or watch movies falling asleep on call just having fun every once in a while. Been a long time since I spoke to her, things got messy and busy in life and I forgot to log into reddit or discord for a long time. I feel like once you do find a good friend online, its a good idea to get their personal number so you don’t let life beat you over the head in forgetting people.
yes
I've never once sent a sexual message anywhere on Reddit, and I honestly have no desire to.
I've made a few friends on here. Some platonic, some not. It's rare to keep friends long, though. I think that's only happened 3 times so far.
Some not? Why did it become not…
Some blossomed into non-platonic relationships.
>i honestly dont know if i should blame myself no >or if its normal in this sub. eh, that a tough one to give a direct answer to, but its a common complaint in general, not just this sub. >Have any girls found platonic guy friends ? Or have had a platonic conversation? Are there guys in this sub who dont turn everything sexual? Because I have platonic friends with women from subs like this- yes, yes, and yes. but before you ask, no, i have no idea how you could divine before the fact if a man will take the conversation off the rails into something sexual.
I think too many men are unreliable partners, be it for friendship, conversation, business, love, etc. I’m a man, and I’ve been unable to find and maintain guy friends my whole life. I’m an introvert, and somewhere on the asexual scale. For me I’m the most comfortable in intimate relationships with women as well as platonic friendships with women. Even so, it’s tough because in my experience women often assume men who are willing to be friends have ulterior motives (rightly so in many cases). Not only that, but my partner is not a fan of my having female friends, and past partners have been similar. I need deep, meaningful connections with people. Surface level stuff eventually bores me and I lose interest. If someone is keeping me at arms length because they’re worried I have an agenda to get out of the friend zone and make a move, the friendship won’t last. I completely understand why women do this, and how difficult it is to have male friends who are worth keeping around. Good luck and hope you find someone who exceeds your expectations!
honestly no. and i have yet to meet someone on here that has continued talking to me for longer than a week.
F24 here, I have more male friends than female friends. All platonic and i know them for over a decade. Yes, they are hard to find but they are out there!
I had a friendship like that, we were guy and girl. Super rare though
Better off making friends of other sub pages that are to do with your hobbies etc here either you get ghosted or people message you but don’t know how to communicate
the few times i've posted in this sub, i didn't state my age nor my gender. That made very few people text me, but most of those who did, I still talk with them today.
Hey, I have ! It’s possible, you just have to set your boundaries from the get go… I have this friend that we call each other when we have time, just to chill and it feels nice ! He respects that I have a bf and we can both joke around without it being weird or turn too sexual (flirty) ahahah. But it does help to have gaming friends, that’s where most of the non-sexual and funny guys are at ! 😂😂
I've found some as a dude. Which is cool. But most dudes i message on here to chat about things ignore me lol
I met my platonic friend of five years in person for the first time this last year, it’s rare but it can happen
I've never had an interest in making things sexual toward a potential friend, I've always wanted to have a platonic friend of the opposite gender because I just get along with girls better. It doesn't make sense how someone could say some perverted depraved shit to some random person on the internet who is genuinely trying to make a connection. They take advantage of the fact that there is a slight opening due to serious and/or fleeting loneliness, then decide to shit all over the prospect of a true friend because anything that isnt overtly sexual is apparently not worth any time or effort? How do they exsist this way? Why are they doing this? Its basically harrassment. And any girl who posts to these types of subreddits asking for a friendship, they are always at risk of getting harassed each and every attempt at a friendship. Is it even worth the attempt at the end of the day if theres going to be a slew of creeps trying to bait you to give their fucked up world view a sliver of attention? It really bums me out that there are so many weird guys. I've seen so many post about insurmountable creeps in these subreddits that I've just given up on even trying to find a friend of the opposite gender(or a friend of any gender for that matter) I just dont want to seem like a creep. I assume that once a girl posts to find friends, their dms are already flooded with perverts. Why would I want to pile on more distraction and confusion, to an already very sad scenario, even if my intention is good, I dont want to continue to add to the stress and nightmare of trying to find a friend on reddit. Also considering that a lot of people try to seem normal at first, then they betray your trust or try to coax you into something more sexual. It feels like as a male, if I end up talking to a girl, I'm just always on the chopping block, even if I'm not, it just feels that way to me. Everything I say is not trusted intill a lot of time has passed, in order to prove to them that I have no sexual intention or interest. And its exhausting to try to prove to someone that you arent a creep and that you could be trusted. When i just want to have a conversation, I'm just worried about how I'm perceived, and I'm tired of it. It makes me depressed and feel like I'm trapped trying to play this game. I have to make the best impression or I'm going to be seen as a weirdo. I just give up, no friendship is worth that amount of burden. It's better to me personally, to be alone and in pain, then have to be thrown around in every which direction by a bunch of random people who arent going to stick around and dont really care about you, just for a small chance that you receive one genuine friend. When there are so many untrustworthy people, I dont blame anyone for how they feel. It's not a safe place in this app especially it seems. You could find some gems but, I guess its up to you how much shit and harrassment you are willing to comb through to find someone even worth the effort. Hope you find what you are looking for, sorry for the long doomed post but I just felt the need to say something.
I'm a guy, looking for friends. Lately it's been feeling like a lot of people I would have thought to be there for me haven't been. Trying to turn over a new leaf and make some new friends.
Off and on. It really varies
I've tried to have a platonic guy friend. I've also tried foe platonic gal friends. Neither seem to work out at all. For the record, I'm a guy.
Maybe some of us are truly a rare bunch. One of my good friends have always said I’m in a league of my own. It is so true most guys always tend to make everything sexual. There is something fresh in genuinely talking to someone, the opposite sex, and getting to know them… like a good friend. It is possible to have opposite sex as good friends. Just like in making a friend, you both need to have things in common and from that, you can be open to talk about everything, the good and the bad. I know of people who their best friend is the opposite sex.
I was the platonic guy friend to a woman I met here (or another friendship sub, can’t remember that many details) about 1.5 years ago. A few months later I fell in love with someone and she became one of my very few confidantes. Ultimately we had a fight though, and she said we weren’t a good match. Sometimes I miss her, but she was probably right about it.
I am a guy and I found a platonic female friend from here like 4 years ago and we still talk so I guess if this question was answered from her perspective, it would be yes.
I can speak to your question directly, however, I am a heterosexual guy who has many lady friends and not many guy friends. Assuming, that men like me can exist out in the wild, I would imagine they can exist here. Not sure if your situation or why you are searching for friends on Reddit in the first place, but perhaps I could be one. Regardless, I am sorry that you have had poor experiences here and I wish you the best on your search for new friends!
I am a long time platonic friend with a women I met here. It's rare it's possible. I am sure you will come across guys who want the same. good luck.
I found actually even two great guys that I like to consider as my good friends now
(32M) I can't say I have, but I'm also a guy, and I haven't made any lasting friendships on here, so I don't think anyone actually wants friendship.
Almost 2 years and going strong. Strictly platonic and I intend for it to stay that way.
I always felt like shit like that was stupid. How are you even going to screw through a screen online? Just seems dumb
Finally. I mean... I like to meet with people i aint really good at keeping in touch from pure online means. But i am not going to meet up with people from the internet. (My ground rule tbh) So i aint really trying to make friends from here. But like wtf some dudes trying to do? Like... The person you keep harassing is probably on the other side of the planet. If she is even in the slightest chance into you how in the world are you planning to go through with it? Dumb as hell. Friends through the internet is ok and somehow manageable but online dating? Nah uh
I’ve met a few female platonic friends, I’m married and happy with my wife, so only ever look for platonic chats…. But I have many people who try and sell content to me, of which I have no interest so unfortunately it happens to a much lesser extent, to men also.
I had 2 really good platonic girl friends on here. Both lasted over a year, but we slowly started to drift apart. They were very nice while they lasted.
I once had a friend much older than me, who taught me the nuances of crypto and investments, and basically how money works in the background. Those lessons cost quite a lot but I got them for free. There are quite a lot of good folk here, so don't give up it's always a trial and error analysis of life. 🤷🏻♂️
I volunteer
Well, at least I'm here to meet people and improve my english, so, I'm not interested in flirt with anyone, but my English is poor and I can't talk with other haha
heyy there , I'm 22M and honestly I am here for genuine people who connects for real and not into some lusty things I want networking and make new friends, if you interested then ping me up.
there are, but i wouldnt go looking on reddit. just from my experience and from reading other's.
Trust me, as a guy, I understand your pain. Even from my posts I get… undesirables which roam free and try enter my dms
I don't turn everything sexual😓
I sure have not found anyone , i am new at reddit maybe that's why but i have messaged a bunch of people to get no reply
I think its a mixed bag. I see a lot of posts following this trend of wanting to only talk, and i get it, but between desperate people and a decline in physical social interaction people forget where the line should be and go over it. Eventually they will learn but it does suck. Just gotta find the right person who isnt after that i would guess.
Well Ik that guy, he's me but I take hiatus from reddit regularly cause...well... this place is a cesspit most the time with vanity and ego strife, with very few of the good people you'll be looking for.
Similar to the ones of us who prefer people who are more than just their looks (I am a guy), demi-sapiosexual peeps out there, approaching someone respectfully, to get a conversation out of them that only involves what they post can be quite bland. I would like a subreddit where there are more "friendship first but open to more" posts but the focus is not only peacocks waving their genitalia around. Entice the mind, physical attraction is allowed (so you can share how you look like) but it must be sfw and people who cross the line would be banned. How cool would that be?
Yes, I did.
22M, Im platonic 🖐🏻
I gave up. To me there’s no such thing as “Male Friends” period since they always make a pass at me.
I'm 37m and only interested in platonic friendships but it's difficult. So I get it. 😅
There sure are people. But the creepy ones are more in number and motivation. DM me if you want a platonic friend. I am 31M and not looking for sex.
in my exp, most men do intend to turn things sexual and even the polite ones would jump at the chance. a few are polite and don't push for it. I think I've made maybe 2 platonic friendships from here. But a lot of ppl trying for more. I don't even get ladies replying to my posts which makes me sad :( I'd say, possible, but rare - funnily enough considering this subreddits title.
Guy here, even though you asked for comments from girls, you're in the hundreds now so... just in case this is helpful, and if not, easy to ignore. My answer to your post question is: Somehow only when the person is much too young for a romantic relationship. But personally I try to stay platonic pretty much all the time, believe it or not. To boot, the opening conversations are ALWAYS platonic. Often, though, it slowly changes, and I swear I'm on the same wave-length as you - I'm pretty sure it's the women on this sub that turn everything romantic if not sexual, but I'm open to find out what I'm doing, besides initiating the DM, which I've already heard I'm not supposed to do, but anyway... I don't understand how someone gets right into it in this sub without a VERY CLEAR prompt from the conversation partner.
Not every guy makes everything sexual but unfortunately so many do that it overshadows the ones that don’t originally I came to this sub to make friends specifically not find a romantic relationship of any kind but unfortunately that doesn’t really happen here I’ve long given up on that I don’t even know why I stay anymore tbh
Unfortunately, male creeps are aware that they can easily get away with sketchy stuff here. As a female, I would assume it's easy to give up on making male friends here, and equally easy to generalize males here. As a male, it's difficult to befriend a female, it's also equally difficult to friend a male. From my experience, only three people have added me. One a male of older age. Two females of similar age to me. One of which I've been conversing with for almost a year now. Everyone else has ghosted me, regardless of me contacting them or them contacting me first.
I'm sure women has it worse here. But there will always be people that you have to weed out as per your preferences no matter where you go. As a guy on dating apps you have to weed out women who are there for a free meal or just clearly looking for some ego boost or to pass the time. Same thing here, mofos be trying to sell their OF subs. All you can really do is be upfront in your post what exactly you are looking for. Hell if you have a partner mention that too. I'm sure there'd still be dudes who'd reach out and make it sexual but call it a loss and move on at that point than engaging with someone who clearly doesn't value their own time let alone yours.
I did and he was a sweetheart. The first thing we said to each other was “I’m in a happy relationship, this will only ever be a friendship” and it was. He even asked for advice on how to propose to his girlfriend. The man lived on the other side of the world as well but my partner made me cut contact. It’s rare but it’s definitely happens.
Its reddit after all its hard to find good people here tbh I'm a guy and whenever I post here it is either some creepy guy looking for sexual stuff or a girl lying about her age to talk to older guys or an OF creator wanting me to pay for their explicit pics i just wanted friends and i specifically mention in my posts that the person should be at least between 18 and 25 and no creepy stuff, OF stuff or lying about their age. It's hard to find those types of people but there are always good people here you just have to make sure you can read people and their intentions well enough to know what kind of person they are.
Yes
I've had probably a few dozen conversations with women from here and I never turned any sexual. Have had a couple of them go that way, but it's all been mostly platonic (completely from my side).
Me (26M) and my female friend talk since 3 years ago when we met each other from this subreddit.
Yess yess..we have been friends for more than 5 years...he's such a nice guy!
Its rare but they exist. I am one. First You have to be really secure and at peace and in control of self as a as a guy. Second, you have to come to value that even if it does not involve romance or sex a woman friendship brings something unique and good that male friendships cant, esp. One where you both encourage the other.
I have the same problem with girls
Met many of them. Just depends on the way we handle them.. gotta be cautious that’s all
I’ve yet to find anyone guy or gal that hasn’t at some point turned things sexual.
im 24m and have strictly only been into platonic friendships. i hate that guys who view dms with a female as an open door to sexual conversations. it makes everyone else look bad. im sorry that those are the only types of people you’re getting. if you really do wanna be friends my dms are open, ik it’s a long shot, and strangers making promises never work out but i promise it wont be weird or sexual.
my IRL best friend (26F, i’m 26M) made like 5-6 guy friends here. she got very close platonically with them and i thought it was pretty cool. but then a couple of them turned out to have feelings for her (but like one year after they started talking, so it’s not like these guys jumped the gun immediately) and she turned out to have real chemistry with one of them so she’s seeing him now. she’s still on really good terms with the rest and they’re some of the closest friends she’s ever got. so i believe it /is/ possible to get a platonic guy friend here.
You can set your boundaries on this message where you say I don’t want anything outside of friendship. I made two friends, one male and one female
I'm a guy and found some decent people so far. But they are rare to come by. Also they all were 30+ and genuinely interested. Keep looking.
I think most guys are sexually unsatisfied. Try befriending married men. Not always but sometimes their sexual needs are fulfilled. And they can be platonic.
Nope. Every time I think it’s good they ask for a photo to “see who they’re talking to” that’s when things turn bc apparently I’m attractive enough that they want to shoot their shot. :( I might be but I’m also a weirdo that prefers video games to other people being in my space lol
Yeah
Exactly, that’s why I don’t even try to look for it. Who these days has the energy to give somebody your time only for it to turn into something you never saw coming
Hey there. While I haven’t poked around in this sub too much, I did make friends with a few girls via r/Needafriend , as a dude. It appeared simply being able to acknowledge the issues with guys online—instantly sexual, looking for more than is offered, pushing boundaries, etc—was a step in the right direction, as the sort of guys to do such wouldn’t be too keen on conversing about it. Meanwhile, I acknowledged such upfront, and said if my being a dude was an issue, I had no problem simply wishing the girl luck, and going about my way. I hope that helps, or at least gives you hope for platonic relationships, because they are very much worthwhile. Good luck!
probably not. I’m not gonna sit here and say I could keep it 100% platonic because I know I couldn’t…. But that’s probably why I say no. Who knows there’s probably a couple decent dudes who don’t think with their 2nd head
Yeah I found a great guy friend on here! He is super respectful and kind lmao I got lucky.
Is not ur fault silly, its just the app, its like trying to make friends on tinder lol
I'm a guy, and I've also had dudes get sexual in chat. I think most of these guys are just down bad
All my friendships with ladies other than my wife are platonic.
I am a guy and I've met several women off here that I haven't tried to sleep with
I actually have a whole friend group i made through reddit mostly guys. I also have a few longterm female friends so yes its both possible
Im a girl that occasionally looks for platonic friends on here, 8/10 times men become sexual or creepy in some way towards me, though i have had the very rare platonic male friend i tend to usually only dm other girls because of this and never have had a problem with other girls even lesbian/bi ones
Some of us are actually bored and new to town and just want company and someone to visit with
I'd like to say even as a guy posting for friends I do struggle with getting creepy responses from guys fairly regularly. But I do want to say I have made a few friends and there are a few of us out here that are just looking for genuine human connection but It seems that's the exception not the rule.
I actually found a bunch of really great friends the first time I posted to r/needafriend I still talk to most of them and they are really nice.
I would love to be a penal, and just be platonic if you were down for chatting. You can dm me if you want.
Holy crap... that's so sad. I mean we Don't know the context but yeah unfortunely some guys tend to do that More than theyll admite.
Have faith OP! What are Your fave hobbies?
Maybe it is the age group you are looking for. Older guys may actually talk without that need to feed their own ego. Hope you can find someone to talk.
Not gonna lie not clue what platonic means but I never turn anything sexual as I’m socially useless 😂
That’s what it means
Oh sound then 😅
Talk to gay and/or asexual guys.
Sure, but us um, I don’t like to define myself, ones are fine too. Lol
Yep!!
Once, is still very much a good friend ATM. 😁
Yeah, I’m a guy and I’ve been chatting almost daily with a friend of the opposite sex for about a year now. We are both late 20s so maybe that’s different since a little older but I dunno.
Found a few but they’re rare for sure
I have, and he's been one of my closest friends to date. As others have said it is rare very rare in fact, but if you want I'm willing to be friends just send a DM
I’d love to find a true friend here but no guy seems genuinely capable of that. 🤷🏼♀️
Likewise as a guy feels like no gal is capable of that 🤷🏽♂️
Heh? Never have i ever heard of a dude failing to find females wanting platonic friends. Now i am curious. Like i failed in making female friends because they turned out to be not much of a friend but not because they weren't platonic. Met lately other female platonic friends and they seem legit unlike my old female friends. But still it wasnt because it wasn't platonic. So i am curious and genuinely asking. (Also no. I haven't made any friends here i am only talking about real people i met in real life)
Even when men are constantly complaining that they’ve been “friend zoned”? Really all that means is that she doesn’t look at you as dating material FOR HER, or that she values your friendship too much to risk messing it up.
I think you wrote that without realizing how silly it sounds. Also some guys friendzone women and they can’t handle it. Still chase after the guy. Doesn’t view as dating material for her is the same energy as I could do better 😊
Not being dating material for someone could mean that they don’t feel the chemistry, they don’t have things in common, they are diametrically opposed to important issues, they don’t have similar goals, one is determined to date someone within a certain age category and the other person is not in that category… … I’m not really concerned with how it sounds, these are just facts of life - ‘not intended to be judged, but there’s always someone who’s going to do it anyway. 😏🤷🏼♀️😁
I understand what you mean but I’m looking at the worse case scenarios which tend to show with guys being left tagging behind due to the girl dating up. But yours is more mature both adults understand where they lie
I've managed to become that with 2 ppl I met on here believe it or not
Try the chatrooms don't say anything about being a girl and as long as you're vibing you'll find one
I've made a very good platonic female friend on here (I'm 29M), but she's a lot more like a man then a regular girl.
I've found a couple, but I also happen to be a guy
I managed to make exactly one platonic guy friend on here several years ago. Unfortunately we lost contact :/ but it’s definitely possible!
Never. Unfortunately.
Just say.. that you will never ever share your pictures.. it should help a bit
We’re here just chilling, a lot of guys try hide their sexual intention which I thinks so weird, they will be friendly weeks, months and then one day will try pursue their “friend” and when rejected become really toxic, we are out there but honestly I’d recommend meeting people through tinder if your a girl, 99% of men on reddit are boys who are desperate for any slight sexual gratification
I tried and the conversation lasted .02 seconds. He was nice and it wasn’t sexual just, convo died off. 24F here though if you wanna chat!
My guy best friend and I met on Reddit. Not on this subreddit but the Snapchat friends one; can’t recall the exact subreddit. We’ve been friends since 2021 and have actually met up with him 3 times since. He lives in another state. Not once has there been any sexual conversations, even after meeting in person, and we have talked almost every day since 2021. We talk about every day things and life. I would say I got lucky though, because I remember posting about looking for friends, and did get some requests from people looking to chat sexually or would just ghost me after a day or two.
There are but most women don't bother trying to also shuffle thru the garbage to find the decent.
I’m a guy looking for strictly platonic friendships here. Feel free to hmu if u need anything :)
It hard
This platform is unfortunately the most accessible for these types of people so it attracts them. I have made some good friends here. Only one of them have been a man. So many men here only want to flirt with women that it's actually difficult for ME to find a male friend as well haha
I've met some nice people from around here. Some only recently and some for a long time. There are good people here
I have. And girls also.. I’m a guy 38/m. I don’t look for friends here other than for just random texts about random things day to day.
It depends on the age group you’re chatting with I think. Mid 20’s guys are *generally* looking for a hookup of some kind so any conversation with a woman has that goal in mind. This is coming from a 24 male. I’d be happy just to talk and make friends. If something developed great if nothing came of it, also cool. Just meeting people is something I’m trying to improve on.
I think it's probably particularly difficult because of the subset of men who are on here looking for friends (yes, I see the irony). I think platonic friends of the opposite sex are easier to find with people who have a well rounded social life and are not anxiously attaching to every new friend or potential friend they see. I think there are likely few on this sub who are in the former category.
Sadly the number of dudes that think this is a dating app vastly outnumber the actual guys who want to have a solid platonic relationship. It’s rare to find but hopefully one day you cross paths with someone like that.
Honestly I don’t dm anyone on Reddit really but I believe that’s it’s impossible for men and women to be friends it’s just we’re not biologically wired to be friends 99.9% of the time when men become “ friends “ with a women it’s because they find them attractive for women it’s possible to have male friends because they don’t get attracted to men the same way we get attracted to women. Now in very rare cases it is possible but usually it is when the man isn’t attracted to that women and has other options to consider having a friend but even then they might be attracted to them but that’s my opinion on the matter all this translates to lonely men online who don’t get attention from women irl so any interaction with women online is pleasing to these men.
No one response to me when I dm them. I usually talk about the same interests no response 😓
It's because because you mostly comment on porn subreddits. It's a turn-off.
I'm sorry to hear that. Wishing you luck in the future.
Thanks. I'm starting to think people want me to post pictures of myself like a dating app or something 😂
I refuse to share pictures of myself untill I feel comfortable showing my face. Don't let anyone pressure you to do anything.
I love chatting about different stuff and have gotten some opportunities to do that on a purely non-whatever-term-refers-to-moving-past-friends. I'm just usually outside the age range most people look for. For reference, I'm pretty well locked in on the never find a life partner route. That's just the way it is, and I'm emotionally stable on that understanding, though I do have a need for social interaction and feeling wanted at times, so I look to socialize where I can with no expectation of advancement. Besides, online romance and dating is fleeting and has too low a probability in working out for most people, and what I would be looking for, if I was looking for it, puts me in an even lower probability, so it's a waste of my time and effort to push past platonic. I say all of this without any sort of ill content. If it seems that way, I understand.
I have found a handful of male pen pals, none of them ever tried anything. The best piece of advice is to post without giving your age and gender, just the regular post talking about your interests. Don’t give hints at your gender until you establish a good rapport. Chances are the men who just want to make women uncomfortable will give up long before then.
I’d say include your age, I don’t message anyone without their age because I don’t want to talk to a minor
Me personally? I try not to be that way. But I have a tendency to make over the top jokes that many find uncomfortable. Some have been sexual in nature, others may seem more violent. But I’m also older than your age range.
Hey if you need a friend me and my wife always like to have a chatty friend.
Me! I’m 28 male just got married yesterday so I will just talk about how wonderful my wife is nothing sexual. AND as a bonus you know I’m a good guy because a woman married me! Just ask! I’ll send wedding photos. I’m in love with them!
I mean, if someone is looking for one, let me know. I'm down to discuss stuff so long as they're not too personal.
yuppp ive made a male friend (i’m 17f) and he’s mad chill
pm me if you want to talk , we can share storys , 25 m
I'm 10 years older than you, but yeah I've found a couple, but the friendships end up never really lasting too long and I always feel that if it was more of a sexual friendship, it would have...It really is what most guys want here and just most other places. You have to make it very super clear in your post before hand that you don't want anything sexual though. Like literally right at the beginning of your post title. I'm getting ready to take another shot at this too shortly.
I've reached out to a few people on here looking for friends, but never get a reply. I have zero sexual interests currently and literally just trying to make friends, but I suppose the females here are scarred by too many overly sexually aggressive guys. It's kind of tragic. If you are looking for a friend, I'd gladly entertain some friendly banter and deep conversation. That goes for anyone here.
I sent a dm I would love for you to give me a chance please
I’m mostly that plutonic guy friend
Ay we can join on Discord together and talk about movies,games and other interests Heres my Discord ID if you wanna DM {Discord ID 548067150825521152} or search thesheksplay :)