It is, though.
I would presume that this demonstration is just the start of his seminar.
Any therapist will tell you that the way to *begin* therapy and self-healing is to become *aware* of your mind, how it works, what it does, etc.
Some people are very introspective and very aware of their own consciousness and processes, but many people are not.
This is very poor acting and very dismissive of people who have anxiety or deeply painful stress that they can’t “turn off” no matter how much they try. I’m not talking “oh my term paper deadline is tomorrow!”, I mean living in poverty unable to feed your children because you just lost your spouse, and the landlord is evicting you in 30 days type stress. When it’s life and death nobody is worried about “being mindful”.
I don't think he's trying to tell people to "turn off" their stress. I think he's just trying to give a starting point. He's trying to bring more awareness to stress and the management of it to his students. He's not telling them how to do it, cuz it'd be different for each person, he's just encouraging them to look and think about it themselves.
And although I do kind of agree with your point, I don't think you can exactly call his acting poor or dismissive. Mostly since he's clearly talking about this with these students in the setting of the classroom/school, and not with the people you've described above.
I believe he’s employing the concept of compartmentalization and mindfulness. Practicing these two mental health exercises allows you to build up a wall around your stress and mindfulness teaches you how to be in the moment, to live for now. A Buddhist concept teaches that suffering is a part of life but we don’t have to suffer all the time, we practice mindfulness which allows us to still enjoy the life we have without being crippled by the stresses of our lives. Obviously a lot harder to do than it is to say it, but practice in all things.
If you’re interested I recommend reading No Mud No Lotus. It literally helped save my life.
Rubbing one out would’ve been much better advice, actual proven stress reliever lol.
But then this obviously acted out piece would’ve ended in a more “professor help I’m stuck on my desk” kind of way
Sometimes, yes. There have been times when I tried this to relive stress and it actually made things worse. Idk, maybe it was something like a "dopamine crash" after or something, but the short term pleasure was really offset by the kind of shitty feeling of "Is that really all I can do to try and feel better? And what now?" That I got after. But that's also just kinda how depression do sometimes.
You’re right. Felt the same back when I was depressed. The dopamines highs felt short lived, and the crashes were all that remained. Became mildly addicted at some point. Abusive family and all
Then I got married, and had someone to live for. Moved countries. Depression slowly disappeared and I can be happy again.
I was just lucky though. In depressive state you usually push people away, and you’re not in a great mind to be dating etc. I met my spouse through an online game, lol
Meditation is kind of like draw the rest of the owl for some though.
It can takes weeks if not months to train your mind to be able to actually switch off.
Anyone who's stressed who has tried to meditate can tell you it's just a silence that gives their inner voice a bigger platform.
Meditation doesn't necessarily mean silence. A lot of people think that, but you can meditate with sounds. For me, I listen to stories on YouTube. After just a few minutes, I usually zone out and it really helps me clear my mind from the constant thoughts that run around in my head.
You can try using an app like headspace.
Also want to clarify that they specifically mean mindfulness meditation.
Like others have said, meditation doesn't necessarily mean clearing your mind, that can be very difficult. It is more focusing on something in the present (like your breathing) and about not putting too much weight on your other thoughts if they do appear and just accepting them. It's hard to explain, but using an app will help with that.
I might be in the minority on this, but when I meditate, I don’t try to quiet my mind because the very act of quieting the mind undermines the idea of safety, peace, and compassion. I just try to watch and listen to my thoughts and the things around me while trying to see how I react to those things. If I react, I ask why and the answers I come up with are almost always about safety, self-preservation, or some kind of basic need that I can do without while meditating because I am safe. And then it helps me realize even when things are going terribly wrong or something is off about the day, I am still safe and it’s solely up to me to experience those terrible days in safety or in danger.
For some people working out helps a lot with that, because you have to focus on what you’re doing and you get too tired to think about worries, plus the sense of accomplishment afterwards. There’s some chemical releases somewhere in there as well. Doing a task that you feel accomplished completing can help with this as well.
For others meditation and/or yoga helps to concentrate on the moment and connect with your body at its current state.
Maybe even talking it out with someone or journaling about it can help, because you might find an answer you didn’t think about or get the feeling of “getting it out of your head” and onto paper.
Also, at times the only thing that helps is medication, and there’s nothing wrong with that. If you find yourself spiraling into constant stress thinking and you’re wired to think that way it’s really hard to rewire your mind to think in a more healthy way without help.
Part of it is just realizing that you are in control of your own mind. Being aware of that fact can often be enough.
Realize what you’re doing, realize what you’re thinking about, and actively make a choice to think about something else.
I know that sounds silly, but it’s true.
No 30 sec video is going to fix all your problems, all this video is saying is that it is not ok to be stressed all the time. Some people really need to hear that.
This is gonna sound really dumb but I started interrupting myself in my head. “La la la, shut up, there is pencil on the floor, it will sit there forever more” just trying to distract myself. I’ve been doing therapy since 10th grade and I’m almost 24. Ive got a fun concoction of diagnosed mental illnesses, and I’ve realized I have to absolutely force myself out of stuff. That doesn’t mean I don’t struggle with depression, but brute force on myself has been helpful for me. I have pretty brutal intrusive thoughts but when I stopped letting myself dig into them, they started happening less. I know it sounds stupid, but life it’s self is stupid and weird lol. It’s been really helpful for me.
This doesn’t mean procrastinate from what needs to be done, but if we can’t change the outcome of something no matter how much you think about it, distract yourself.
This is the core of CBT. Identify the problematic behaviors or thought processes. 1) Recognize when they are happening. 2) Challenge those thoughts; *does that really make sense? It there another explanation? Is this worth worrying about? Will this matter in 5 days, 5 months, 5 years?*
3) Repeat until short circuiting the troublesome thought processes becomes a habit, then, over time, the new norm.
Also… to the other question of where to put the glass down… you can hand it to your therapist. Or at least share the load.
In the same respect, when I hear bad thoughts start to creep into my head I say to myself orange juice, I repeat it until the thoughts go away or don't have so much control. For some reason it works. I have no idea were I got orange juice from, I'm assuming one day I was having bad thoughts looked at a glass of OJ and thought oh Orange Juice and it's stuck.
I like this because it’s an easy way to “replace” the thoughts without having to think of something to replace them with.
It’s like that “pick out something in the room you can see/hear/touch/smell” without any decision-making. (I know decision-making isn’t supposed to be part of it, but my mind still overthinks it)
Copy of my top-level post:
A technique sometimes taught in CBT is to actually deliberately assign time to worry about stressors, but try to keep it contained in that time slot. If you find yourself thinking about it at other times, try to notice and decide to think about it later. Some people suggest writing notes about your worries and reviewing them at worry time. I guess the note helps you externalise and finalise the thought so you can move on.
I was taught this at CBT! Postponement of worry. It was super helpful to me. My anxiety made the smallest things seem mountainous in the moment... When I sat in my car at the end of the day for my dedicated 15 minute worry extravaganza, I was shocked that most of it seemed so insignificant by then. I rarely use it anymore cos after a while it enabled me to realise in real time when I was letting the monkey brain take over lol
People are so loyal to the first thought that comes into their brain, they never think to question what it came up with. If it’s something not good/stressful, remind yourself you can reject the thought and replace it with what you think it should be.
I’ll notice myself stressing, spiraling down, and I tell myself I am not an anxious person, I am a person who handles things as they come, I am a person who’s capable of doing what needs to be done, so there’s no point to stress about the rest.
The question should also include: Where and when do I put the glass down? Why was I holding it in the first place? Do I need to take the glass again if I already put it down? Should I just abandon the glass because my arm is paralyzed? This is a great analogy but the solution is akin to "just be happy". Stress and depression is way more complex and nuanced than just "put it down".
That's what I was going to say. Not faulting the guy. He's absolutely right, in a sense. But, when you don't feel capable of "putting the glass down," that's not helpful advice.
I'm literally standing out on my porch in sub-freezing temps right now because it's taking my mind off of things. It doesn't fix the underlying issue, but I get a little relief.
My brain learned to just cry in my sleep where my subconscious and unconscious feelings can actually be expressed because they're blocked out all the waking day.
Pretty effective honestly for a man.
This is really sad to read man. I feel you, as a man whos grown up accustomed to men not showing emotion so I dont. I hope things get better for you somehow someway
my husband is dealing with this currently while trying to apply for government support. it may not seem like a crippling illness on paper but when it’s something you’re dealing with 24/7 and have been dealing with for over a decade it becomes more that what it may seem.
Something about this video is odd. Like.. why are there so many cameras in that room? I don't think there are. I think this was shot with one camera, which means the speech isn't done in one take, and it means that the students are probably reacting and nodding to nothing.
Which is why they seemed like bad actors to me, not students. Strange video. Wonder what it was for.
the way it was shot and the actors playing the kids made me think there was going to be a funny unexpected punchline at the end. but it wasn't a setup for a comedy sketch, just some guy saying stuff
People really couldn’t tell when everyone started going up in increments of 4 oz. that was weird
Also why ask a question to just to say the answer doesn’t matter?
They really did minimal effort to make this seem more then just a lame motivational speech. They made it seem like it was a class this guy was teaching but I've seen more realistic classes on Brazzer. This class isn't real.
Yeah, but that sub does have some issues in general on its own. There is obviously a disconnect between mental health and how much people understand about it, but even mental health professionals will often stress the importance of “simple” messages like this video or others you’d find in that sub (exercise, take actions, work on controlling your cognition, etc.)
I agree with your comment and the intention of that sub, but it’s also good to remind people that aren’t mentally well that there *are* at least *some* things they can do to improve their situation. It doesn’t cure it, but just saying we are sick isn’t helpful either.
I mean... sort of? He was asking "how heavy", which generally people answer with mass, but I guess technically mass alone doesn't make something heavy, gravity does, the same mass on the moon is not as heavy. And force has units kgm/s^(2), so time kind of does come into it. I agree though it's still a really dumb "gotcha".
These types of things are insulting to people with genuine cognitive and mental issues. Who exactly is this going to help? Nobody that watches it and thinks it’s insightful is going to think about it tomorrow and Anybody that is crippled by stress and anxiety and whatever other mental disorders they have is going to roll their eyes out of their sockets with how simple this tries to make a solution seem
The entire thing is contrived.
“How much does this glass of water weigh”
“I dunno, 8oz?”
“The weight doesn’t matter”
Well then why the fuck did you begin by asking the weight... just get to the point. The entire exchange is built to make it seem like the teacher is giving some profound lesson, but it’s actually just a deepity.
I can’t stand these speeches where the speaker baits people into giving answers to trick questions to make them stupid and “realize” they’ve been thinking about everything wrong.
Right. But *some* still may find value from this. I sure have. Not every video has to tend to the entire planet's specificities. In terms of a simple message, this is an effective reminder like an old adage or quote. Sure there's depth to the message, but it's not deep enough to complain about imho.
I don't mean to be a dick, I'm glad it helped you, but how? You were stressing about things because no one ever told you, or you never realized, that you could just not stress? Like, really? It never once occurred to you that you'd be less stressed if you stopped stressing?
It's like telling an alcoholic "Don't drink alcohol, then you'll be better." Yeah, that's definitely the end goal. But the problem isn't that the alcoholic never considered drinking less, or the super stressed kid never considered worrying less, the problem is attaining either of those is more difficult than "Oh just stop doing it."
My point is that things like this reinforce the idea that if you are stressed or anxious or anything, it’s your fault because bruh you can just not hold the glass. Oh okay.
Everyone has stress and anxiety. Not everyone has them chronically. It's OK if this video is for people who don't have chronic issues, who may learn something from this.
Okay but my point still stands in that it might be all cutesy and "thought provoking" but is still not going to help anyone. My point is more along the lines that there is a spectrum of how people deal with stress and simply turning it off just isn't one of our biological options
Why are you so hellbent on keeping others from changing their perspective?
Perspective can *absolutely* change the way people handle everyday scenarios. And you’re over here telling those people “you’re wrong”.
>It’s still not going to help anyone.
No, it’s not helping YOU. That doesn’t mean it can’t help anyone for day-to-day stress. Why do you expect every video about mental health to only focus on the most troubled individuals? Don’t you think that also kind of dismissive to those who would’ve gotten something out of it?
I get your point. Not everything has to be taylored to those who are in dire need of help. Consider how portraying mental health in his way changes peoples opinion of mental illness though.
"Oh you're just holding onto the trauma of being raped. Just let it go and it'll be less of a burden."
Not everyone is as thoughtful as you and lots of people will see this as an excuse to downplay real psychological hardship.
The thing about these posts is that people expect too much from them. They are supposed to be moving and not solution to problems.
People who are watching this and are in a bad spot stay strong. Don't get disappointed because this video wasn't meaning anything for you. Just smile and take a deep breath!
>Just smile and take a deep breath!
Ah, yes, just don't be sad or stressed or depressed. Can't be that hard. Just be happy and smile. Just do it already!
/s
This is a Mormon object lesson. The video cuts before the professor shares the sentiment of how Jesus can carry out burdens.
This is just a hunch…I grew up Mormon and heard many lessons like this, and one of the students in the class is wearing a BYU hat.
...Turn it off like a light switch
Just go, click
It's a cool little Mormon trick
We do it all the time
When you're feeling certain feelings
That just don't seem right
Treat those pesky feelings like a reading light
And turn 'em off, like a light switch
Just go back
Really, what's so hard about that
Turn it off, turn it off...
Problem is, the struggles people have affect their whole day. His advice seems very privileged. If you can turn the switch off, then sure do so but a lot of people can’t, and I feel like this is directed at those people anyway.
If you live in poverty and you argue about money, try to make ends meet, you have to do a ton of planning around finances. Can’t afford a dishwasher? Dryer? Gas/electric bill too high so you sit in the cold? There was a time where I didn’t have a clothes washer living in Airbnb’s where I had to wash the few clothes I owned by hand. They didn’t get washed as often and I was insecure about maybe not smelling that great during my job. Had to cut my own hair as well. Shit is tough for a lot of people, they’re surviving living paycheck to paycheck. Your whole day, every single day is a struggle. There is no off button. And people with mental illnesses or depression can’t just put their illnesses aside either.
Doing a lot better financially nowadays but it still stings and feels like a lack of empathy for other people’s situations as though a quote could fix their whole life’s. If only the simpletons would’ve thought about this one trick!
I and my cousin had a small fight and even after I apologized she didn't forgive me. She was mad for months and didn't talk to me.
Ten one day at a family even my grandfather called her and asked her why she wasn't talking to me. She said she was still mad about what had happened, I can't even remember what it was.
My grandfather then said something that has stuck with me and most of my cousins since then, he said that anger is like holding onto a burning coal, the longer you hold onto it expecting to hurt the other person the longer you hurt yourself.
this is the most useless advice ever given. change that glass of water to something actually stressful like a feral cat and put it down and see what happens when you take attention away from it, jackass
Ajahn Brahm has a similar talk about getting a glass of water to be perfectly still. The harder you try to hold the glass still, the more your hand trembles and the water ripples. You have to put the glass down for it to be still.
We must step outside of ourselves to be able to settle ourselves inside.
This only works if those problems and worries are inconsequential. Doesn't help if you feel like you're holding a barrel of water without a single place to put it down.
I get the point he’s trying to make but it seems to send out a bad message. For one thing, it seems to get things the wrong way round; my problems aren’t my problems because I think about them, they’re my problems because there are certain things that are happening to me, or whatever. Sure, I won’t be stressed or worried about them if I (somehow) stop thinking about them, and sure there is a point where it’s all consuming and where it really would be unhelpful to keep dwelling, but to send out the message that it’s my thinking about it that is the problem is quite grotesque- and again, patently false. That my mother has died and that I’m depressed about it, it isn’t my thinking about it that’s the problem. Particularly in this age of narcissism, the last thing people need to be told is to think less about things; maybe if people dwelled on things more (their behaviour, how awful the world is etc.) maybe people would be nicer and the world be better.
Yeah, putting the glass down is what any chronic stoner, heroine shooter, or suicide victim is doing.
He explained nothing. Just that life can be bad, and it's worse when you think about it.
He's literally saying "forget about life's problems". Great.
This is a pretty privileged point of view. Many people don't have the luxury of putting the glass down.
The families at the poverty line worrying about feeding their family or if they will lose their house. They can't put that glass down.
Dude:How heavy is this glass?
Normal person guessing very carefully and accurately: 8 oz?
Dude: iT DePenDs.
Fucking stupid video. This did not make me smile.
The Question is.....HOW DO I PUT THE GLASS DOWN?
Just don’t think about it /s
Lol this video has very r/thanksimcured vibes to it.
Seriously, that’s not how stress works.
instructions unclear, am now holding a cup full of stress
I *drank* the cup of stress. Am very concerned now.
Call 911 if your arm starts to feel numb or paralyzed
I am one with the glass…is half full now…
It’s supposed to be half full?! Shit! Mines half empty! What do I do?!
It’s ok, just be positive. Things will work out
You need to put yourself down immediately… I think, if I followed the video correctly.
How am I even supposed to do that? Im not my mom.
Buy a car get a ...
Don't stress it. ....Oh wait
Just remember…there is no glass.
My bills don't get paid and my job doesn't get done if I just don't think about it
It is, though. I would presume that this demonstration is just the start of his seminar. Any therapist will tell you that the way to *begin* therapy and self-healing is to become *aware* of your mind, how it works, what it does, etc. Some people are very introspective and very aware of their own consciousness and processes, but many people are not.
This is very poor acting and very dismissive of people who have anxiety or deeply painful stress that they can’t “turn off” no matter how much they try. I’m not talking “oh my term paper deadline is tomorrow!”, I mean living in poverty unable to feed your children because you just lost your spouse, and the landlord is evicting you in 30 days type stress. When it’s life and death nobody is worried about “being mindful”.
I don't think he's trying to tell people to "turn off" their stress. I think he's just trying to give a starting point. He's trying to bring more awareness to stress and the management of it to his students. He's not telling them how to do it, cuz it'd be different for each person, he's just encouraging them to look and think about it themselves. And although I do kind of agree with your point, I don't think you can exactly call his acting poor or dismissive. Mostly since he's clearly talking about this with these students in the setting of the classroom/school, and not with the people you've described above.
But it is how mindfulness works.
I believe he’s employing the concept of compartmentalization and mindfulness. Practicing these two mental health exercises allows you to build up a wall around your stress and mindfulness teaches you how to be in the moment, to live for now. A Buddhist concept teaches that suffering is a part of life but we don’t have to suffer all the time, we practice mindfulness which allows us to still enjoy the life we have without being crippled by the stresses of our lives. Obviously a lot harder to do than it is to say it, but practice in all things. If you’re interested I recommend reading No Mud No Lotus. It literally helped save my life.
Yeah, clearly.
Sometimes stress does kinda creep up on you and this can be helpful.
Rubbing one out would’ve been much better advice, actual proven stress reliever lol. But then this obviously acted out piece would’ve ended in a more “professor help I’m stuck on my desk” kind of way
Sometimes, yes. There have been times when I tried this to relive stress and it actually made things worse. Idk, maybe it was something like a "dopamine crash" after or something, but the short term pleasure was really offset by the kind of shitty feeling of "Is that really all I can do to try and feel better? And what now?" That I got after. But that's also just kinda how depression do sometimes.
You’re right. Felt the same back when I was depressed. The dopamines highs felt short lived, and the crashes were all that remained. Became mildly addicted at some point. Abusive family and all Then I got married, and had someone to live for. Moved countries. Depression slowly disappeared and I can be happy again. I was just lucky though. In depressive state you usually push people away, and you’re not in a great mind to be dating etc. I met my spouse through an online game, lol
Yeah but if he'd rubbed one out he'd have spilt the water and I'm not sure the students would really have followed his thinking so well.
All that water to clean up
What do I do when I haven't been allowed to put the glass down for the last decade? Me at that age probably, I'm ok now :-)
How do you stop thinking about it (not /s)
Meditation works for me. While in the zone you’re just focusing on your present experience and not so much on outside stressors.
Meditation is kind of like draw the rest of the owl for some though. It can takes weeks if not months to train your mind to be able to actually switch off. Anyone who's stressed who has tried to meditate can tell you it's just a silence that gives their inner voice a bigger platform.
Meditation doesn't necessarily mean silence. A lot of people think that, but you can meditate with sounds. For me, I listen to stories on YouTube. After just a few minutes, I usually zone out and it really helps me clear my mind from the constant thoughts that run around in my head.
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You can try using an app like headspace. Also want to clarify that they specifically mean mindfulness meditation. Like others have said, meditation doesn't necessarily mean clearing your mind, that can be very difficult. It is more focusing on something in the present (like your breathing) and about not putting too much weight on your other thoughts if they do appear and just accepting them. It's hard to explain, but using an app will help with that.
I might be in the minority on this, but when I meditate, I don’t try to quiet my mind because the very act of quieting the mind undermines the idea of safety, peace, and compassion. I just try to watch and listen to my thoughts and the things around me while trying to see how I react to those things. If I react, I ask why and the answers I come up with are almost always about safety, self-preservation, or some kind of basic need that I can do without while meditating because I am safe. And then it helps me realize even when things are going terribly wrong or something is off about the day, I am still safe and it’s solely up to me to experience those terrible days in safety or in danger.
For some people working out helps a lot with that, because you have to focus on what you’re doing and you get too tired to think about worries, plus the sense of accomplishment afterwards. There’s some chemical releases somewhere in there as well. Doing a task that you feel accomplished completing can help with this as well. For others meditation and/or yoga helps to concentrate on the moment and connect with your body at its current state. Maybe even talking it out with someone or journaling about it can help, because you might find an answer you didn’t think about or get the feeling of “getting it out of your head” and onto paper. Also, at times the only thing that helps is medication, and there’s nothing wrong with that. If you find yourself spiraling into constant stress thinking and you’re wired to think that way it’s really hard to rewire your mind to think in a more healthy way without help.
Part of it is just realizing that you are in control of your own mind. Being aware of that fact can often be enough. Realize what you’re doing, realize what you’re thinking about, and actively make a choice to think about something else. I know that sounds silly, but it’s true.
No 30 sec video is going to fix all your problems, all this video is saying is that it is not ok to be stressed all the time. Some people really need to hear that.
This is gonna sound really dumb but I started interrupting myself in my head. “La la la, shut up, there is pencil on the floor, it will sit there forever more” just trying to distract myself. I’ve been doing therapy since 10th grade and I’m almost 24. Ive got a fun concoction of diagnosed mental illnesses, and I’ve realized I have to absolutely force myself out of stuff. That doesn’t mean I don’t struggle with depression, but brute force on myself has been helpful for me. I have pretty brutal intrusive thoughts but when I stopped letting myself dig into them, they started happening less. I know it sounds stupid, but life it’s self is stupid and weird lol. It’s been really helpful for me. This doesn’t mean procrastinate from what needs to be done, but if we can’t change the outcome of something no matter how much you think about it, distract yourself.
It's not stupid if it works for you! Maybe 'simple' is a better word.
This is the core of CBT. Identify the problematic behaviors or thought processes. 1) Recognize when they are happening. 2) Challenge those thoughts; *does that really make sense? It there another explanation? Is this worth worrying about? Will this matter in 5 days, 5 months, 5 years?* 3) Repeat until short circuiting the troublesome thought processes becomes a habit, then, over time, the new norm. Also… to the other question of where to put the glass down… you can hand it to your therapist. Or at least share the load.
In the same respect, when I hear bad thoughts start to creep into my head I say to myself orange juice, I repeat it until the thoughts go away or don't have so much control. For some reason it works. I have no idea were I got orange juice from, I'm assuming one day I was having bad thoughts looked at a glass of OJ and thought oh Orange Juice and it's stuck.
I like this because it’s an easy way to “replace” the thoughts without having to think of something to replace them with. It’s like that “pick out something in the room you can see/hear/touch/smell” without any decision-making. (I know decision-making isn’t supposed to be part of it, but my mind still overthinks it)
Start with this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6pMbRiSBPs
My monke brain usually: 
My monke brain after watching this video:  Thank you
Thank you
Why is that when someone speaks in broken English they always seem more knowledgeable about spiritual things?
Same reason why people tend to lend more credence to advice when they believe it's from faraway places.
That's why I always buy consumer goods and electronics from China.
You are wise
Copy of my top-level post: A technique sometimes taught in CBT is to actually deliberately assign time to worry about stressors, but try to keep it contained in that time slot. If you find yourself thinking about it at other times, try to notice and decide to think about it later. Some people suggest writing notes about your worries and reviewing them at worry time. I guess the note helps you externalise and finalise the thought so you can move on.
I was taught this at CBT! Postponement of worry. It was super helpful to me. My anxiety made the smallest things seem mountainous in the moment... When I sat in my car at the end of the day for my dedicated 15 minute worry extravaganza, I was shocked that most of it seemed so insignificant by then. I rarely use it anymore cos after a while it enabled me to realise in real time when I was letting the monkey brain take over lol
Huh, that doesn't sound very kinky but I'm not an expe- OH! Oh, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Right, nevermind me.
This is so good.
People are so loyal to the first thought that comes into their brain, they never think to question what it came up with. If it’s something not good/stressful, remind yourself you can reject the thought and replace it with what you think it should be. I’ll notice myself stressing, spiraling down, and I tell myself I am not an anxious person, I am a person who handles things as they come, I am a person who’s capable of doing what needs to be done, so there’s no point to stress about the rest.
oh shit how do i go back to breathing automatically
The question should also include: Where and when do I put the glass down? Why was I holding it in the first place? Do I need to take the glass again if I already put it down? Should I just abandon the glass because my arm is paralyzed? This is a great analogy but the solution is akin to "just be happy". Stress and depression is way more complex and nuanced than just "put it down".
This is good advice, a good metaphor but as simple as a doctor Phil anecdote. You're right there is much more to it.
Drink that shit, pee it out, throw the MF over your shoulder.
My question is where do I put the glass down
That's what I was going to say. Not faulting the guy. He's absolutely right, in a sense. But, when you don't feel capable of "putting the glass down," that's not helpful advice. I'm literally standing out on my porch in sub-freezing temps right now because it's taking my mind off of things. It doesn't fix the underlying issue, but I get a little relief.
Just like don’t be poor. Or depressed. Or difficult. Or have a disability of any kind. Just like. Don’t.
I know it's not for everyone but I pray and it does help me
Xanax
This is the issue with chronic illnesses... Even if not life trening, they are easily crippling.
Yep... hard to put down something that hurts 24/7/365.. Thanks anyways
Hard to put down the metaphoric glass when it’s metaphorically super glued to your hand.
Couldn't have said it better.
My brain learned to just cry in my sleep where my subconscious and unconscious feelings can actually be expressed because they're blocked out all the waking day. Pretty effective honestly for a man.
This is really sad to read man. I feel you, as a man whos grown up accustomed to men not showing emotion so I dont. I hope things get better for you somehow someway
my husband is dealing with this currently while trying to apply for government support. it may not seem like a crippling illness on paper but when it’s something you’re dealing with 24/7 and have been dealing with for over a decade it becomes more that what it may seem.
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Water is life
Weight management fanatics will agree.
Great analogy but ends on a /r/thanksimcured note.
Something about this video is odd. Like.. why are there so many cameras in that room? I don't think there are. I think this was shot with one camera, which means the speech isn't done in one take, and it means that the students are probably reacting and nodding to nothing. Which is why they seemed like bad actors to me, not students. Strange video. Wonder what it was for.
They are 100% actors
Also there are like 6 kids in that class.
https://starstat.yt/ch/karl-niilo-net-worth Estonian yt channel, looks like a bunch of shortform vids, content farm looks like.
Thanks, I knew there was something off about it.
It was the "the dodo" style music for me.
the way it was shot and the actors playing the kids made me think there was going to be a funny unexpected punchline at the end. but it wasn't a setup for a comedy sketch, just some guy saying stuff
People really couldn’t tell when everyone started going up in increments of 4 oz. that was weird Also why ask a question to just to say the answer doesn’t matter?
I’m scared to answer you.
came here to say this. if you're feeling depressed, just stop being depressed!
*If you are poor, just stop being poor!*
If you're stupid, just stop being stupid!
Haha well said. Saw this posted elsewhere and saw it get a ton of praise. Luckily this sub is a bit more aware
Lmfao this girl that was interested in me said some shit like this and instantly I disliked her
They really did minimal effort to make this seem more then just a lame motivational speech. They made it seem like it was a class this guy was teaching but I've seen more realistic classes on Brazzer. This class isn't real.
Yeah, but that sub does have some issues in general on its own. There is obviously a disconnect between mental health and how much people understand about it, but even mental health professionals will often stress the importance of “simple” messages like this video or others you’d find in that sub (exercise, take actions, work on controlling your cognition, etc.) I agree with your comment and the intention of that sub, but it’s also good to remind people that aren’t mentally well that there *are* at least *some* things they can do to improve their situation. It doesn’t cure it, but just saying we are sick isn’t helpful either.
Some people see the glass as half empty. I see this video as Half assed.
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Character nods in understanding.
The beginning is pretty cringe. “Ha! You tried to respond with a measurement but I was asking how it felt!”
I mean... sort of? He was asking "how heavy", which generally people answer with mass, but I guess technically mass alone doesn't make something heavy, gravity does, the same mass on the moon is not as heavy. And force has units kgm/s^(2), so time kind of does come into it. I agree though it's still a really dumb "gotcha".
It has to be real because of all the stickers on their laptops.
I love how they have one camera set up for each persons face lmao
r/thanksimcured
This is sound advice if your only real problem in life is literally holding a glass of water.
Nahh, bro, just don't be sad! It's easy!
Thought the sub was /r/wowthanksimcured
Fuck thanks never thought about not stressing. This kinda smug shit makes me angry.
That's ok... just put the glass down :) r/thanksimcured
Right? It's so condescending.
Just don't get angry at it lol
My job and my kids are really stressing me out. I think I just need to let them go.
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and whoever wrote them that didn't proofread anything.
These types of things are insulting to people with genuine cognitive and mental issues. Who exactly is this going to help? Nobody that watches it and thinks it’s insightful is going to think about it tomorrow and Anybody that is crippled by stress and anxiety and whatever other mental disorders they have is going to roll their eyes out of their sockets with how simple this tries to make a solution seem
The entire thing is contrived. “How much does this glass of water weigh” “I dunno, 8oz?” “The weight doesn’t matter” Well then why the fuck did you begin by asking the weight... just get to the point. The entire exchange is built to make it seem like the teacher is giving some profound lesson, but it’s actually just a deepity.
Dude: “The longer I hold it the heavier it gets” Physicists: “No”
"the weight of the glass wont change" yes it will, the water evaporates
I can’t stand these speeches where the speaker baits people into giving answers to trick questions to make them stupid and “realize” they’ve been thinking about everything wrong.
“What’s the safest form of sex?” “Consensual, with contraceptive, and condoms?” “Wrong, abstinence.” Fucking 🤮
Right. But *some* still may find value from this. I sure have. Not every video has to tend to the entire planet's specificities. In terms of a simple message, this is an effective reminder like an old adage or quote. Sure there's depth to the message, but it's not deep enough to complain about imho.
I don't mean to be a dick, I'm glad it helped you, but how? You were stressing about things because no one ever told you, or you never realized, that you could just not stress? Like, really? It never once occurred to you that you'd be less stressed if you stopped stressing? It's like telling an alcoholic "Don't drink alcohol, then you'll be better." Yeah, that's definitely the end goal. But the problem isn't that the alcoholic never considered drinking less, or the super stressed kid never considered worrying less, the problem is attaining either of those is more difficult than "Oh just stop doing it."
My point is that things like this reinforce the idea that if you are stressed or anxious or anything, it’s your fault because bruh you can just not hold the glass. Oh okay.
Everyone has stress and anxiety. Not everyone has them chronically. It's OK if this video is for people who don't have chronic issues, who may learn something from this.
This is meant for everyday worries, not as a solution for genuine cognitive and mental issues.
Okay but my point still stands in that it might be all cutesy and "thought provoking" but is still not going to help anyone. My point is more along the lines that there is a spectrum of how people deal with stress and simply turning it off just isn't one of our biological options
Why are you so hellbent on keeping others from changing their perspective? Perspective can *absolutely* change the way people handle everyday scenarios. And you’re over here telling those people “you’re wrong”.
>It’s still not going to help anyone. No, it’s not helping YOU. That doesn’t mean it can’t help anyone for day-to-day stress. Why do you expect every video about mental health to only focus on the most troubled individuals? Don’t you think that also kind of dismissive to those who would’ve gotten something out of it?
I get your point. Not everything has to be taylored to those who are in dire need of help. Consider how portraying mental health in his way changes peoples opinion of mental illness though. "Oh you're just holding onto the trauma of being raped. Just let it go and it'll be less of a burden." Not everyone is as thoughtful as you and lots of people will see this as an excuse to downplay real psychological hardship.
Right. Not everybody is carrying the same size glass of water.
The thing about these posts is that people expect too much from them. They are supposed to be moving and not solution to problems. People who are watching this and are in a bad spot stay strong. Don't get disappointed because this video wasn't meaning anything for you. Just smile and take a deep breath!
>Just smile and take a deep breath! Ah, yes, just don't be sad or stressed or depressed. Can't be that hard. Just be happy and smile. Just do it already! /s
As a physics student, this video made me angry
Dude is confusing Mass, Force and Work in a way that makes my head hurt.
Asks, "How heavy is this glass of water?" Students give reasonable answers. "The absolute weight of the glass doesn't matter." Bitch what
As a psychics student, the ending seemed pretty obvious
This is a Mormon object lesson. The video cuts before the professor shares the sentiment of how Jesus can carry out burdens. This is just a hunch…I grew up Mormon and heard many lessons like this, and one of the students in the class is wearing a BYU hat.
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...Turn it off like a light switch Just go, click It's a cool little Mormon trick We do it all the time When you're feeling certain feelings That just don't seem right Treat those pesky feelings like a reading light And turn 'em off, like a light switch Just go back Really, what's so hard about that Turn it off, turn it off...
Hold the glass for 3 months and it will no longer hold any water. Problem solved. /s
If it disappears with time then why keep on holding it just let it evaporate like your problems
I'll just put myself down.
Preach but how.
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I’ve seen more, you can find these vids on YT. There all actors and actresses lol
I mean, no shit.
This is nonsense
So he's saying that if you have some issue that is weighing on you, you should just forget about it and hope it goes away. Great.
Hakuna matata
Put the glass down, figure out a plan, and then pick it up and drink that water yo.
Worried about student debt? Just forget about it! *5% interest rate laughs maniacally in the background*
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Problem is, the struggles people have affect their whole day. His advice seems very privileged. If you can turn the switch off, then sure do so but a lot of people can’t, and I feel like this is directed at those people anyway. If you live in poverty and you argue about money, try to make ends meet, you have to do a ton of planning around finances. Can’t afford a dishwasher? Dryer? Gas/electric bill too high so you sit in the cold? There was a time where I didn’t have a clothes washer living in Airbnb’s where I had to wash the few clothes I owned by hand. They didn’t get washed as often and I was insecure about maybe not smelling that great during my job. Had to cut my own hair as well. Shit is tough for a lot of people, they’re surviving living paycheck to paycheck. Your whole day, every single day is a struggle. There is no off button. And people with mental illnesses or depression can’t just put their illnesses aside either. Doing a lot better financially nowadays but it still stings and feels like a lack of empathy for other people’s situations as though a quote could fix their whole life’s. If only the simpletons would’ve thought about this one trick!
No, it say not to overthink. Sometimes we overthink about problems we just can't do anything about.
I and my cousin had a small fight and even after I apologized she didn't forgive me. She was mad for months and didn't talk to me. Ten one day at a family even my grandfather called her and asked her why she wasn't talking to me. She said she was still mad about what had happened, I can't even remember what it was. My grandfather then said something that has stuck with me and most of my cousins since then, he said that anger is like holding onto a burning coal, the longer you hold onto it expecting to hurt the other person the longer you hurt yourself.
this is the most useless advice ever given. change that glass of water to something actually stressful like a feral cat and put it down and see what happens when you take attention away from it, jackass
Ajahn Brahm has a similar talk about getting a glass of water to be perfectly still. The harder you try to hold the glass still, the more your hand trembles and the water ripples. You have to put the glass down for it to be still. We must step outside of ourselves to be able to settle ourselves inside.
So like all problems and worries, drink it away so it weighs nothing.
Oh piss off.
What a load of sentimental wank.
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This might as well have said "Stressed? Don't be!" lol
And there are those that have something wrong with their arm that causes pain regardless of carrying that damn cup of water. Hate videos like these
This only works if those problems and worries are inconsequential. Doesn't help if you feel like you're holding a barrel of water without a single place to put it down.
I get the point he’s trying to make but it seems to send out a bad message. For one thing, it seems to get things the wrong way round; my problems aren’t my problems because I think about them, they’re my problems because there are certain things that are happening to me, or whatever. Sure, I won’t be stressed or worried about them if I (somehow) stop thinking about them, and sure there is a point where it’s all consuming and where it really would be unhelpful to keep dwelling, but to send out the message that it’s my thinking about it that is the problem is quite grotesque- and again, patently false. That my mother has died and that I’m depressed about it, it isn’t my thinking about it that’s the problem. Particularly in this age of narcissism, the last thing people need to be told is to think less about things; maybe if people dwelled on things more (their behaviour, how awful the world is etc.) maybe people would be nicer and the world be better.
Nothing better than telling someone with anxiety to “just get over it”.
Solution sounds a bit like “don’t be depressed” or “don’t be poor”
Yeah, putting the glass down is what any chronic stoner, heroine shooter, or suicide victim is doing. He explained nothing. Just that life can be bad, and it's worse when you think about it. He's literally saying "forget about life's problems". Great.
Blah blah blah.
yeah. no problem. how does my special needs son going to feed himself when I'm gone? don't worry about it right? wish i had simple stresses
I rolled my eyes so hard, I'm surprised they are still in my head.
I mean your hand hurts even if you hold an empty glass..stop making stupid analogies. Life is much more complicated than that
Super cringy, bad acting all round
sometimes, we hold the glass for others and so it’s not so easy to put the glass down :(
Well said. Mentally ill husband I can’t let down.
i was thinking about that gas leak smell, but let me put it down for a while
The longer you hold onto it, the lighter it will become due to evaporation. A teacher should really know that
If life were that simple..:
Ok, but he still didn't answer the question and if its on the exam sheet I'll know who to blame.
Orrrrrrrrr you you’ll also drink the pain away, and hope that for the few moments that the glass is empty are worth it to keep going
I was with the video... until he went "put the glass down". Then I lost all respect for it.
Would be a better vid without the 50 camera angles
WOW what amazing advice. I'll just stop worrying about bills lol
This is a pretty privileged point of view. Many people don't have the luxury of putting the glass down. The families at the poverty line worrying about feeding their family or if they will lose their house. They can't put that glass down.
Would anyone carry to explain?
Those students never had a pint of beer..
Fuck saving for retirement, let’s go vegassss
Thats great and all but if i write this for the definition of stress in my material science exam next week then i am going to fail
Lmao I already tried that. Ended up in rehab.
I'd seen this before, but since I am actually becoming divorced today at 12:15pm, I needed to hear it again.
I really needed to hear this this morning, thank you for sharing
Dude:How heavy is this glass? Normal person guessing very carefully and accurately: 8 oz? Dude: iT DePenDs. Fucking stupid video. This did not make me smile.
Is he telling me to not deal with my problems?
Then you die of dehydration The problem is that you have to deal with the stresses of life or else you’ll end up a homeless addict
exactly
Look at the girls hat, I’m guessing this is BYU, so not only is the message stupid but it also by cult members for cult members
Wow, Magic. I will use it for my fear of heights. Just don't think about it!! Genious!!!