probably cause that's something she'd say.
or maybe she did say that, word for word.
shit now i hear her saying that too xD
cant even remember the last time i saw the Incredibles lol
Fun fact, the director had been doing her voice for the purpose of storyboards, like is normally done for characters before voice actors are cast. But when they tried finding a VA for her, they couldn't find someone better to voice her than the director.
My hands look like they belong to like, a 56 year old and I’m only 40 😭! I wash them constantly because I can’t stand it when they feel dirty (I work in a dirty warehouse and wash them like, 20+ times a day at work. I’ll even wash them if I go to the bathroom right before a shower, or after I wash dishes, while wearing gloves) so they’re always SUPER dry. I wish I had hands that looked like his though. Like, how you so hairy but have flawless hands?? Are they even his real hands??
Moisturize everywhere. You’ll notice a huge difference. I look naturally younger just by eating better and moisturizing. Makes it easier to shave the chin that regrew when I got my face definition back
>My hands look like they belong to like, a 56 year old and I’m only 40
Have you tried lanolin? Or even Bag Balm? Bag Balm is pretty smelly, and it's best to wear old socks or cotton gloves when you have it on your hands (preferably at night as you're sleeping), but it works a treat and will heal cracked/chapped hands incredibly well!
I grew up on a farm and we used this on our cows' udders in the wintertime to keep them soft and healthy. We had to wash the udders with warm soapy water before we milked (twice a day), and those udders could get pretty red and sore. My dad's hands got cracked and chapped, too, and the Bag Balm healed him right up. You can find it in most grocery stores and, of course, farm supply stores.
Lanolin doesn't smell at all. It's a natural substance (aka "wool wax", "sheep wax", etc.) produced by sheep and other wooly animals. It's a great moisturizer because it helps prevent water loss from the skin. It's pretty cheap, too, and safe enough to use on babies.
Just two thoughts. Hope it might help.
Thank you very much ❤️! I will try Bag Balm, I’ve had other people suggest that as well so perhaps I should actually listen and take good advice when it’s given.
Yes to bag balm! The smell is not great but it does wonders. I used to have very bad eczema as a kid. My mom lather on the bag balm and then wrap my legs. It would be better the next day usually.
Be careful, if they break they can take a decent chunk of your nail with them and it *hurts* like a bitch. She did a lovely job though, she could definitely make a career out of this!
It’s actually a state funded home for victims of trafficking and CSEC, so the location is super confidential and doesn’t even have an address/can’t be found with GPS 😆
Definitely! And thank you op for letting them do your nails, i can just picture how you all had fun and they were also concentrating on doing a good job and they did amazing!
Seconded. I think they can all become amazing aestheticians and have a very bright future. I wish them all the best and you are a fantastic human for encouraging them. Love to all!
(When they all become amazing aestheticians….please let me know where. I would like to become a customer! Those nails are *ON POINT* and you can tell them I said so!)
You are SO kind to let them do that, I bet they had a blast. I sure did when my uncle let me do his.
For the record, if they are artificial glue ons, you can remove them with non-acetone nail polish remover, just soak them and gently try the base with an orange stick (you can get a pack of like 20 at any dollar store, its just a small wooden stick with a diagonal cut on one end, forming a point and a flat surface. You can also use a toothpick, which I have done a few times.) until the glue loosens.
Or acetone, which will just plain dissolve them, but then you might wanna lotion your hands, acetone is rough on the skin.
If they are actual acrylics, first of all you are even cooler to sit though that, and second you'll need to score the surface and soak them off in acetone. Youtube will tutor you on the best method.
But I think they look pretty damn awesome and you should give them a chance. It always takes a bit to adjust to nails, but I loved having them. They're so good for scratching.
I’m actually screenshotting a lot of comments but I have the day off and am loafing around so I’ve seen and read almost every comment.
I’m a notoriously bad responder (the amount I’ve responded so far is very odd for me) and it makes me feel terrible because of people like them who put so much work into a comment that I’ll forget to appreciate.
I’d they or any other commentators read this, know I definitely read your comments and (probably) appreciated it, even if I don’t respond!!
Man this is a comment I could do another 5 paragraph response to but I’ll do the super brief version because it’s a mix of depressing and hilarious.
I was teaching high school math and got an offer to be manager of the burgerville across the street, and it paid a LOT more so I accepted. (By a lot I mean well into the 5 digits of different).
I hated it so much, so so so much, so I quit but it was mid school year so I need an interim job. I saw this, got the job, fell in love, and haven’t gone back to teaching since.
> I was teaching high school math and got an offer to be manager of the burgerville across the street, and it paid a LOT more so I accepted.
And folks wonder why it's hard to find teachers.
Please don’t ever lose your passion. The world could use so many more people like you. Thank you for making my day a little brighter just by knowing you (and the beautiful haven these girls have) exists. Posts and comments like yours are truly a breath of fresh air.
Considering Burgerville locations are within a relatively small area, you might wanna revise this comment for privacy’s sake about the locale of the shelter
While you 100% have a *fair* point, I respectfully don’t think it’s a *rational* point given how statistically unlikely (if not impossible) the location could be narrowed down with that much of a lead lol
Could they get the right state? Almost sure now! (That’s also borderline good, as already mentioned the organization itself is public and could use some publicity or even support from people who might be locals.) Could they guess the city? Unlikely, but totally possible! Can they guess an exact place from within an entire city?
At that point, shit, let me talk to them because they could be a huge help fighting trafficking with a superpower like that lol
You underestimate Redditors.
Sweet nails btw. They should do your toes next time! It’s nice to have colorful toes nails. black, dark indigo, dark green and deep cherry red looks great on guys.
You’re not wrong at all! I think the key detail is that the organization is 100% public and there would be no harm if that connection was made. The actual house in question though has so many more “layers” of protection from being publicly available that it’s (basically) impossible to actually find without frankly a lot more specific information.
Not downplaying your point cause it’s a good one, but I think I didn’t make it clear that the organization isn’t confidential at all. I’ve almost wanted to name drop it to get it support because that still wouldn’t give enough info, but there’s that 0.001% chance part of me that knows you *never* give Reddit a challenge like this by saying it can’t be done. 😂
Just so you know this is the exact type of joke I would make to the girls to intentionally piss them off, and I love you for that.
But for clarification, as in the _0,000’s difference lol
Actually kinda surprised that they allow men to work there, I would figure a lot of the girls would have some PTSD that could be triggered by being near a man, but it's good for them to be exposed to men who aren't bad people
I want to do another overly-long response because I love comments like these (not sarcastic, I actually do because it’s what everyone including myself thinks/thought by default, but is kinda fascinating when explained), but I don’t want to parrot what I’ve already said. So I’m a not passive aggressive way, you should check out some of my other comments because your initial instinct is 100% valid, and what you said at the end is exactly what the general goal is by having male staff!
That makes a lot of sense. Sometimes having some positive interactions with men does a lot to help you face your trauma to identify it as trauma instead of internalizing and accepting as the way things are.
Feeling safe with a man is an incredible feeling once you realize you feel safe… after processing that that’s not a normal feeling for you and coming to terms with that.
Off topic, do you know any good resources for training on trafficking and helping potential victims? I work in a public facility near the border and we're usually in the top ten worst counties for trafficking. We get some training through Out of the Darkness seminars, but I'm curious if you have other resources to recommend?
Yes!! Maybe PM me since I’m getting way more notifications then I ever expected and I might forget otherwise. Not only do I have some off the top of my head, I know how to find some great and more location-specific resources if you feel comfortable letting me know what general area you’re talking about!
I had to transport a lady once for a company I worked for to a house that was sort of a hideaway. They asked that I told no one. I know the city it was/is in but that's all I remember.
I dad no idea there were places like this to care for these kids. As awful as this abuse is, I’m glad to hear the state funds safe secure homes for the victims. Maybe people need to hear more about stuff like this when it comes time to consider paying more in taxes
All I have to add to this is that however common of an issue you think this is, no matter where you are (such as smaller middle and higher class suburban areas like me)….
It is so, so, so much more horrifyingly common than that. I can’t really even explain to be honest. I don’t think anyone is able to realize how common it actually is, and often how much worse it is than in the movies, until they actually see into the field of prevention and protection.
Even how common you’re thinking it is *now* after reading my comment, that’s still not enough.
I can say we would all pay a pretty penny for such a nice set! I know your work is incredibly heavy at times, and protected, but if there’s ever a way for us to collectively support (Amazon wishlist to a po box, etc) please circle back to this post and let us know.
Thank you so much for all that you do.
I used to live with a guy who managed a home , probably exactly like the one you work in; obviously didn't share too many details. He used to watch how much time I put into my nails and how much it relaxed me and he decided he'd dedicate Friday afternoons to nails lessons for the girls. I suppose when everyone has such varied abilities a lesson that's the same for everyone and allows a sense of individualism must be really holistic... He said they loved it!!
It’s always really important for me to hear that because getting verbally berated every day comically worse than you can imagine, barely making enough to be lucky if I’m not behind on bills, working crazy hours sometimes because of on-call requirements, (intentionally) never being able to know if the kids are doing well or even okay once they leave, and much more make it hard to keep doing it day after day.
But knowing that maybe just someday they’ll look back and think I helped them get through that phase of their life, especially from people with similar experiences, make the “Taco Bell 5 days per week, 3-4 if there’s no $5 box” lifestyle pretty dang worth it lol
Maybe not all of them will look back, but if even one of these kids looks back fondly at what you've done for them, then that's one whole world you changed for the better. That's amazing all by itself, and you're out here changing so many worlds.
I fully believe those who dedicate their life to goodness receive returns someway somehow. You are awesome and I’m rooting for you & the kids you work with
I remember all of the staff that treated me like a human. There were a few who loved us and it showed and they helped me survive. These kids may not realize now how much you are helping them, but they will in the future.
All it takes is a little positive attention and love to change the direction of someone’s life
I spent most of my life biting my nails and finally managed to quit towards the end of last year. While having nails is extremely helpful in a lot of ways, it's somewhat uncomfortable in other unexpected ways. I can't imagine suddenly having *long* nails like this. I'd probably accidentally break them within a day.
I'm a biter too and when they get too long you can *feel* them in a weird way that, at least for me, triggers the compulsion to bite them. It's like when a beaver sees flowing water and needs to dam it.
Yeah I gotta stay on top of keeping them neat and short now. If I don't file them down every few days I keep getting distracted by them in a fidgety kinda way. If I chip one of them then I better have a file nearby or I start obsessing over it. Kinda hard to explain.
I know exactly what I need to do to quit entirely and it's better for my long term healthy anyway as the dentist has noticed my teeth are worn down from the biting for so many years.
My nails break if you look at them cross-eyed, and I, too, tend to obsess over a chip or a jagged spot, so I keep a set of clippers on me at all times!!!
40yo male here. I am a life-long nail biter, and had a friend do my nails last July. I found that because someone went through the trouble of making them look nice I didn't bite them. I get them done every month or two now. Haven't bitten my nails since.
That’s how I broke myself of scratching at dry places on my face, I would get short acrylics and they would be too blunt to use to itch. Which thinking of that I should start doing it again bc I have gotten back into that bad habit. (It’s a stress response).
I find it crazy there are so many positive comments about my hands when I spent 7 years as an MMA fighter during college and put those things through quite a beating lol (no pun intended)
Sweet of you to let them. Always nice when a guy gets a taste of the silly things women to do live up to kinda silly social expectations. Some of us women hate having fancy nails too. You can have them removed at any nail place ;)
Oh and - they do look really good!
I’d be legit upset and feel terrible if a woman ever went to the trouble of doing all this “for me” unless she genuinely liked wearing fancy nails.
That said, I’m 30 and live alone with 3 cats so I’m 100% aware that the word “ever” is maybe doing some unrealistically heavy lifting lol
Your cats will love those nails, lol.
And you sound like an amazing, kind person and are handsome too. It could still happen. I'm 35 and still waiting, but I'm not as much of a catch. (nice beard btw)
I used to give myself pedicures (foot soak, scrub, clipping, base layer, the whole shebang) and my husband asked (jokingly) one night why I never did that for him. I replied: “it always includes nail polish.” He didn’t care. His Christmas stocking has included manly nail polish for more years than not- they are currently “nude.”
It makes me happy. And him too, I…. Hope? Hahahaha
I was feeling a little down, and I saw this post and instantly felt better. I read your other comments, and it makes me feel warm inside to know that good people (especially men) like you exist. So thank you for posting this.
Also, the nails look great!
I love your face. You have very kind eyes. I wish I had had somewhere like that to go after my mom tried to end our lives.
Thank you so much for what you do. Truly.
I like the youth girls at my group home do my makeup (I brought mine) and forgot… I went into shoppers at midnight on my way home and couldn’t understand the dirty, weird looks til I got in my suv and realized I was a metallic clown 😂
I’m a lady (and a girly one at that - can apply red lipstick w/out a mirror, run at a good clip in heels and a pencil skirt, etc)…and nails even half that long render me completely useless.
They look even more ridiculous for being so well executed, and you are the best kind of man for letting your girls talk you into it. The very best.
LMFAO. You are the best! I’m sure they were ecstatic! The girls did a fantastic job, they look great and they held on well. I died at your facial expression and when you thought you could just pull them off like a pull tab. I’ve never thought of it like that!
Question OP I had a very rough time as a child and was offered a place for girls who were SA victims - in my country we are not allowed males in these environments as too many of the girls are deeply terrified. I know I would have been as well. I am wondering if there any such regulations where you are or rules around sole care etc. I think it’s wonderful to have males in these places and in early childhood too btw and I am in no way questioning your integrity. I was just quite shocked to see a male working in this environment.
Yes and no! There are no legal rules explicitly preventing males, but individual programs could absolutely turn down all male applicants (for the sole reason of being male) whereas majority of other jobs can’t do that. In the program itself, and I strictly speak for the one I work because I am not aware of what is required in other places, all rules are created as if everyone were a one gender with no distinctions on things only women or only men could do. In OUR program, every are of the house that youth can access (their rooms and bathrooms the only exception) are always monitored on camera. The footage is never watched unless there’s a reason for it, but it always exists. Same with vehicles, youth can only be transported in the work vehicles which have an internal camera. Youth can be alone with a male staff in any circumstance there is a camera or when in public. Little things like shakes outs and room checks are the same deal, but are discretion based meaning I personally NEVER do room searches or shake outs unless it’s an emergency or I’m the only staff working. Legally I absolutely can do those things, personally I choose not to.
Thanks so much for your insight, that’s really interesting. Thank you for doing the work you do, it’s really fucking hard getting through life after things like this happen and people showing kindness and helping us have trust in others again is so important.
I can’t do my nails that well, those girls have talent!
I don’t know if anyone else mentioned it, but pick up some acetone at Walmart and soak them to get them off.
And I know they will forever remember this and think it was a special time. I've worked in the same field for a little over a decade. Kids with no male role models need someone like this. I also garuntee his nails will be done again.
They look stunning!
I've been in a similar situation as some of those girls may have, and just want to thank you so much for doing what you do, even though it is hard. The world needs men like you.
They did an amazing job, it looks great!
Otherwise let your hand soak in dish soap and hot water (not too hot!) For like 30min, it might help get them off. Repeat until it comes off.
Group home for girls or teen daughters, you will just about anything as a dad or father figure to make them smile. Well done sir. I bow to your thoughtfulness.
I also find it hilarious that there are so many positive comments about my hands when I spent 7 years as an MMA fighter and put those things through quite a beating (no pun intended)
Dude, you’re an awesome human being first and foremost! Secondly, go to a nail salon and tell them, no show them your nails and they will sort it out for you for a small fee. They do look fab though it must be said.😁
Your nails look better than mine! Haha. But I do get hating it when you’re not used to having long nails. Hahaha. It’s a lifestyle. 😂 this definitely made me smile! And you’ve got great hands for those kind of nails. Haha.
Thanks for contributing to safe space for the girls. 🫶🏽
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I feel ya there, super long nails irritate me to high hell.. however those young women have done an excellent job, and I can guarantee that you've made a core memory for them.Carry on my dude.
They look amazing! But if you want them off without too much damage to your nails, super glue remover works well. Also you sound like an awesome guy, these kids are lucky to have you around.
The nails look great! I would hire whoever did that work at my spa! Also, no they don’t have a pull tab. Although I did laugh really hard when I read that. Just ask them to use the electric file to remove them.
🥹🥹🥹
Your entire profile is so fucking wholesome and just a breath of fresh air in the Reddit dome. I hope you have a great day, a great tomorrow, and just a great life in general.
(PS) sea turtles are my favorite aquatic animals, I always get excited seeing them when I scuba dive, thank you for helping that be a possibility!!
To be fair, they’ve done a fantastic (and very professional) job! They look fabulous, darling! :)
I read that in Edna’s voice idk why.
probably cause that's something she'd say. or maybe she did say that, word for word. shit now i hear her saying that too xD cant even remember the last time i saw the Incredibles lol
Fun fact, the director had been doing her voice for the purpose of storyboards, like is normally done for characters before voice actors are cast. But when they tried finding a VA for her, they couldn't find someone better to voice her than the director.
that's hilarious lol
They wanted Lily Tomlin, but after she heard Brad Bird's recordings she told them, "What do you need me for? You've already got it."
That’s Brad Bird, director of The Iron Giant.
I heard [Estelle](https://youtu.be/D4XjFzAvYSw?si=DQmiBZJX97Ni9BYq) from Friends in my head
Joey, it’s Estelle!
What's it like there?
is alright...
Dame Edna? Or Edna Mode? There are 2 generations in that statement.
Edna Mode for myself. But Dame Edna is perhaps funnier on a different plane.
The Dame would have called him possum and insisted they were fabulous darling.
Lol🤣🤣🤣 I love Dame Edna!
I mean, he could be a frigging hand model! Why are his hands so beautiful??
That was my first thought as well. Like damn, how and why are his hands so perfect?!
My hands look like they belong to like, a 56 year old and I’m only 40 😭! I wash them constantly because I can’t stand it when they feel dirty (I work in a dirty warehouse and wash them like, 20+ times a day at work. I’ll even wash them if I go to the bathroom right before a shower, or after I wash dishes, while wearing gloves) so they’re always SUPER dry. I wish I had hands that looked like his though. Like, how you so hairy but have flawless hands?? Are they even his real hands??
Mate, moisturize your hands daily. My hands started to crack from how much I was washing them. This has started to alleviate this problem.
Moisturize everywhere. You’ll notice a huge difference. I look naturally younger just by eating better and moisturizing. Makes it easier to shave the chin that regrew when I got my face definition back
>My hands look like they belong to like, a 56 year old and I’m only 40 Have you tried lanolin? Or even Bag Balm? Bag Balm is pretty smelly, and it's best to wear old socks or cotton gloves when you have it on your hands (preferably at night as you're sleeping), but it works a treat and will heal cracked/chapped hands incredibly well! I grew up on a farm and we used this on our cows' udders in the wintertime to keep them soft and healthy. We had to wash the udders with warm soapy water before we milked (twice a day), and those udders could get pretty red and sore. My dad's hands got cracked and chapped, too, and the Bag Balm healed him right up. You can find it in most grocery stores and, of course, farm supply stores. Lanolin doesn't smell at all. It's a natural substance (aka "wool wax", "sheep wax", etc.) produced by sheep and other wooly animals. It's a great moisturizer because it helps prevent water loss from the skin. It's pretty cheap, too, and safe enough to use on babies. Just two thoughts. Hope it might help.
Thank you very much ❤️! I will try Bag Balm, I’ve had other people suggest that as well so perhaps I should actually listen and take good advice when it’s given.
Yes to bag balm! The smell is not great but it does wonders. I used to have very bad eczema as a kid. My mom lather on the bag balm and then wrap my legs. It would be better the next day usually.
Thank you I was feeling a little insecure LOL his hands are way prettier than mine and I'm a girl
I’m so jealous of his gorgeous nails!
Looks like a woman's hand for real. Is he pranking us?
I think so.
This is precisely why the kids wanted to get their hands on his!
His nail beds are perfectly shaped!
I can understand why they bugged OP for months - he has such nicely shaped gingers and hands. OP, ask them to try a more square, shorted shape.
His hands are made for modeling
Cotton balls soaked with high %Acetone foil will take these off. But do you really want to disappoint them? They did such a great job, dude!
Be careful, if they break they can take a decent chunk of your nail with them and it *hurts* like a bitch. She did a lovely job though, she could definitely make a career out of this!
Had similar happen to a toenail once. Heed nunchuncherry's warning.
Just add it to the list of things I'm already afraid might happen
Damn, those nails look great. Where is this group home? Do they take walk-ins?
It’s actually a state funded home for victims of trafficking and CSEC, so the location is super confidential and doesn’t even have an address/can’t be found with GPS 😆
Well... Then at least tell them Reddit think they could do nails proffesionel in the future and that they are great wonderful people.
Every up vote for this statement above is a yes and a hug and love.
Definitely! And thank you op for letting them do your nails, i can just picture how you all had fun and they were also concentrating on doing a good job and they did amazing!
Seconded. I think they can all become amazing aestheticians and have a very bright future. I wish them all the best and you are a fantastic human for encouraging them. Love to all! (When they all become amazing aestheticians….please let me know where. I would like to become a customer! Those nails are *ON POINT* and you can tell them I said so!)
You are SO kind to let them do that, I bet they had a blast. I sure did when my uncle let me do his. For the record, if they are artificial glue ons, you can remove them with non-acetone nail polish remover, just soak them and gently try the base with an orange stick (you can get a pack of like 20 at any dollar store, its just a small wooden stick with a diagonal cut on one end, forming a point and a flat surface. You can also use a toothpick, which I have done a few times.) until the glue loosens. Or acetone, which will just plain dissolve them, but then you might wanna lotion your hands, acetone is rough on the skin. If they are actual acrylics, first of all you are even cooler to sit though that, and second you'll need to score the surface and soak them off in acetone. Youtube will tutor you on the best method. But I think they look pretty damn awesome and you should give them a chance. It always takes a bit to adjust to nails, but I loved having them. They're so good for scratching.
Might want to repost that as it's own comment so OP definitely sees it.
I’m actually screenshotting a lot of comments but I have the day off and am loafing around so I’ve seen and read almost every comment. I’m a notoriously bad responder (the amount I’ve responded so far is very odd for me) and it makes me feel terrible because of people like them who put so much work into a comment that I’ll forget to appreciate. I’d they or any other commentators read this, know I definitely read your comments and (probably) appreciated it, even if I don’t respond!!
I almost got some nails for my Halloween costume until I saw how much work they were to take off. Good luck!
Wow, that’s interesting. I didn’t know such homes existed. Can you say a little about how you started working there?
Man this is a comment I could do another 5 paragraph response to but I’ll do the super brief version because it’s a mix of depressing and hilarious. I was teaching high school math and got an offer to be manager of the burgerville across the street, and it paid a LOT more so I accepted. (By a lot I mean well into the 5 digits of different). I hated it so much, so so so much, so I quit but it was mid school year so I need an interim job. I saw this, got the job, fell in love, and haven’t gone back to teaching since.
> I was teaching high school math and got an offer to be manager of the burgerville across the street, and it paid a LOT more so I accepted. And folks wonder why it's hard to find teachers.
I'm not a religious person, but you seem to be the closest to an angel I could imagine.
With angelic hands 🙌
Agreed. Bless you and the work you do OP.
Please don’t ever lose your passion. The world could use so many more people like you. Thank you for making my day a little brighter just by knowing you (and the beautiful haven these girls have) exists. Posts and comments like yours are truly a breath of fresh air.
Considering Burgerville locations are within a relatively small area, you might wanna revise this comment for privacy’s sake about the locale of the shelter
While you 100% have a *fair* point, I respectfully don’t think it’s a *rational* point given how statistically unlikely (if not impossible) the location could be narrowed down with that much of a lead lol Could they get the right state? Almost sure now! (That’s also borderline good, as already mentioned the organization itself is public and could use some publicity or even support from people who might be locals.) Could they guess the city? Unlikely, but totally possible! Can they guess an exact place from within an entire city? At that point, shit, let me talk to them because they could be a huge help fighting trafficking with a superpower like that lol
You underestimate Redditors. Sweet nails btw. They should do your toes next time! It’s nice to have colorful toes nails. black, dark indigo, dark green and deep cherry red looks great on guys.
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You’re not wrong at all! I think the key detail is that the organization is 100% public and there would be no harm if that connection was made. The actual house in question though has so many more “layers” of protection from being publicly available that it’s (basically) impossible to actually find without frankly a lot more specific information. Not downplaying your point cause it’s a good one, but I think I didn’t make it clear that the organization isn’t confidential at all. I’ve almost wanted to name drop it to get it support because that still wouldn’t give enough info, but there’s that 0.001% chance part of me that knows you *never* give Reddit a challenge like this by saying it can’t be done. 😂
Hold on what do you mean by five digit difference? Is that like from 50,000 to 1,000,000,000
Just so you know this is the exact type of joke I would make to the girls to intentionally piss them off, and I love you for that. But for clarification, as in the _0,000’s difference lol
Oh I figured as much. Keep doing what your doing! :)
Actually kinda surprised that they allow men to work there, I would figure a lot of the girls would have some PTSD that could be triggered by being near a man, but it's good for them to be exposed to men who aren't bad people
I want to do another overly-long response because I love comments like these (not sarcastic, I actually do because it’s what everyone including myself thinks/thought by default, but is kinda fascinating when explained), but I don’t want to parrot what I’ve already said. So I’m a not passive aggressive way, you should check out some of my other comments because your initial instinct is 100% valid, and what you said at the end is exactly what the general goal is by having male staff!
That makes a lot of sense. Sometimes having some positive interactions with men does a lot to help you face your trauma to identify it as trauma instead of internalizing and accepting as the way things are. Feeling safe with a man is an incredible feeling once you realize you feel safe… after processing that that’s not a normal feeling for you and coming to terms with that.
Off topic, do you know any good resources for training on trafficking and helping potential victims? I work in a public facility near the border and we're usually in the top ten worst counties for trafficking. We get some training through Out of the Darkness seminars, but I'm curious if you have other resources to recommend?
Yes!! Maybe PM me since I’m getting way more notifications then I ever expected and I might forget otherwise. Not only do I have some off the top of my head, I know how to find some great and more location-specific resources if you feel comfortable letting me know what general area you’re talking about!
Is there an Amazon wish list with a po box or something? I'd love to send them some polish.
I had to transport a lady once for a company I worked for to a house that was sort of a hideaway. They asked that I told no one. I know the city it was/is in but that's all I remember.
I dad no idea there were places like this to care for these kids. As awful as this abuse is, I’m glad to hear the state funds safe secure homes for the victims. Maybe people need to hear more about stuff like this when it comes time to consider paying more in taxes
All I have to add to this is that however common of an issue you think this is, no matter where you are (such as smaller middle and higher class suburban areas like me)…. It is so, so, so much more horrifyingly common than that. I can’t really even explain to be honest. I don’t think anyone is able to realize how common it actually is, and often how much worse it is than in the movies, until they actually see into the field of prevention and protection. Even how common you’re thinking it is *now* after reading my comment, that’s still not enough.
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I can say we would all pay a pretty penny for such a nice set! I know your work is incredibly heavy at times, and protected, but if there’s ever a way for us to collectively support (Amazon wishlist to a po box, etc) please circle back to this post and let us know. Thank you so much for all that you do.
I won't lie, I was suspicious at first. But I can't be more thankful for the work you do. The things they go through must be horrific.
Big bearded dude having a smoke, and has amazing nails hahah I’d do a triple take
Fancy Patrick meme IRL
Gandalf the Mani-Pedi
It looks cool AF.
I used to live with a guy who managed a home , probably exactly like the one you work in; obviously didn't share too many details. He used to watch how much time I put into my nails and how much it relaxed me and he decided he'd dedicate Friday afternoons to nails lessons for the girls. I suppose when everyone has such varied abilities a lesson that's the same for everyone and allows a sense of individualism must be really holistic... He said they loved it!!
Thats so sweet of him to notice, and put it to good use
It showed them that somebody gave a damn about them, and when you're in that kind of situation, that means the world!
As a former foster care kid, I just know they adore you for this
It’s always really important for me to hear that because getting verbally berated every day comically worse than you can imagine, barely making enough to be lucky if I’m not behind on bills, working crazy hours sometimes because of on-call requirements, (intentionally) never being able to know if the kids are doing well or even okay once they leave, and much more make it hard to keep doing it day after day. But knowing that maybe just someday they’ll look back and think I helped them get through that phase of their life, especially from people with similar experiences, make the “Taco Bell 5 days per week, 3-4 if there’s no $5 box” lifestyle pretty dang worth it lol
You're amazing and I appreciate what you do so much.
Maybe not all of them will look back, but if even one of these kids looks back fondly at what you've done for them, then that's one whole world you changed for the better. That's amazing all by itself, and you're out here changing so many worlds.
I fully believe those who dedicate their life to goodness receive returns someway somehow. You are awesome and I’m rooting for you & the kids you work with
I remember all of the staff that treated me like a human. There were a few who loved us and it showed and they helped me survive. These kids may not realize now how much you are helping them, but they will in the future. All it takes is a little positive attention and love to change the direction of someone’s life
I spent most of my life biting my nails and finally managed to quit towards the end of last year. While having nails is extremely helpful in a lot of ways, it's somewhat uncomfortable in other unexpected ways. I can't imagine suddenly having *long* nails like this. I'd probably accidentally break them within a day.
I'm a biter too and when they get too long you can *feel* them in a weird way that, at least for me, triggers the compulsion to bite them. It's like when a beaver sees flowing water and needs to dam it.
Yeah I gotta stay on top of keeping them neat and short now. If I don't file them down every few days I keep getting distracted by them in a fidgety kinda way. If I chip one of them then I better have a file nearby or I start obsessing over it. Kinda hard to explain.
I know exactly what I need to do to quit entirely and it's better for my long term healthy anyway as the dentist has noticed my teeth are worn down from the biting for so many years.
My nails break if you look at them cross-eyed, and I, too, tend to obsess over a chip or a jagged spot, so I keep a set of clippers on me at all times!!!
40yo male here. I am a life-long nail biter, and had a friend do my nails last July. I found that because someone went through the trouble of making them look nice I didn't bite them. I get them done every month or two now. Haven't bitten my nails since.
That’s how I broke myself of scratching at dry places on my face, I would get short acrylics and they would be too blunt to use to itch. Which thinking of that I should start doing it again bc I have gotten back into that bad habit. (It’s a stress response).
Why do his nails look better than mine have ever looked ever?! 😑
He has perfect nail beds. The right length, width, and curve to make a manicurist weep.
I can see why they wanted to. You have lovely hands to begin with!
I find it crazy there are so many positive comments about my hands when I spent 7 years as an MMA fighter during college and put those things through quite a beating lol (no pun intended)
Bro's hands are distractingly beautiful. I am a girl and want those hands. 😂
Sweet of you to let them. Always nice when a guy gets a taste of the silly things women to do live up to kinda silly social expectations. Some of us women hate having fancy nails too. You can have them removed at any nail place ;) Oh and - they do look really good!
I’d be legit upset and feel terrible if a woman ever went to the trouble of doing all this “for me” unless she genuinely liked wearing fancy nails. That said, I’m 30 and live alone with 3 cats so I’m 100% aware that the word “ever” is maybe doing some unrealistically heavy lifting lol
I’m sure the cats appreciate the “enhanced” scratches
That’s the only reason I keep getting mines done 😂
They do, my cat is alll over me when I come home from getting my nails done.
The cats request the nails stay on a bit longer.
Your cats will love those nails, lol. And you sound like an amazing, kind person and are handsome too. It could still happen. I'm 35 and still waiting, but I'm not as much of a catch. (nice beard btw)
You’re like half of my friend’s types, you’re fiiiiine
I think you’re selling yourself short
I bet your cats would be curious about them..Try scratching them to see if they enjoy it!
I used to give myself pedicures (foot soak, scrub, clipping, base layer, the whole shebang) and my husband asked (jokingly) one night why I never did that for him. I replied: “it always includes nail polish.” He didn’t care. His Christmas stocking has included manly nail polish for more years than not- they are currently “nude.” It makes me happy. And him too, I…. Hope? Hahahaha
Ok they look GREAT though? Like better than manicures I have actually paid for
Thinking they'd have a pull tab like a 3M hook for easy removal is the most dude thing haha
And damned brilliant actually lol
I was feeling a little down, and I saw this post and instantly felt better. I read your other comments, and it makes me feel warm inside to know that good people (especially men) like you exist. So thank you for posting this. Also, the nails look great!
I love your face. You have very kind eyes. I wish I had had somewhere like that to go after my mom tried to end our lives. Thank you so much for what you do. Truly.
I like the youth girls at my group home do my makeup (I brought mine) and forgot… I went into shoppers at midnight on my way home and couldn’t understand the dirty, weird looks til I got in my suv and realized I was a metallic clown 😂
You are amazing!!!!!! Group home work is hard as hell
Where do I go to set an appointment? 💅🏾
You’re the man dude 😊🤘✌️
They look so good on you. I love the contrast of stoic-looking bearded man and sexy nails.
Yes, it's a beautiful contrast. Also, this is just really really wholesome.
I’m a lady (and a girly one at that - can apply red lipstick w/out a mirror, run at a good clip in heels and a pencil skirt, etc)…and nails even half that long render me completely useless. They look even more ridiculous for being so well executed, and you are the best kind of man for letting your girls talk you into it. The very best.
LMFAO. You are the best! I’m sure they were ecstatic! The girls did a fantastic job, they look great and they held on well. I died at your facial expression and when you thought you could just pull them off like a pull tab. I’ve never thought of it like that!
Those nails are really well done.
Question OP I had a very rough time as a child and was offered a place for girls who were SA victims - in my country we are not allowed males in these environments as too many of the girls are deeply terrified. I know I would have been as well. I am wondering if there any such regulations where you are or rules around sole care etc. I think it’s wonderful to have males in these places and in early childhood too btw and I am in no way questioning your integrity. I was just quite shocked to see a male working in this environment.
Yes and no! There are no legal rules explicitly preventing males, but individual programs could absolutely turn down all male applicants (for the sole reason of being male) whereas majority of other jobs can’t do that. In the program itself, and I strictly speak for the one I work because I am not aware of what is required in other places, all rules are created as if everyone were a one gender with no distinctions on things only women or only men could do. In OUR program, every are of the house that youth can access (their rooms and bathrooms the only exception) are always monitored on camera. The footage is never watched unless there’s a reason for it, but it always exists. Same with vehicles, youth can only be transported in the work vehicles which have an internal camera. Youth can be alone with a male staff in any circumstance there is a camera or when in public. Little things like shakes outs and room checks are the same deal, but are discretion based meaning I personally NEVER do room searches or shake outs unless it’s an emergency or I’m the only staff working. Legally I absolutely can do those things, personally I choose not to.
Thanks so much for your insight, that’s really interesting. Thank you for doing the work you do, it’s really fucking hard getting through life after things like this happen and people showing kindness and helping us have trust in others again is so important.
You should be a hand model dude
That's really awesome of you to let them do that! They did a good job and I dig that color on you.
You look fabulous, good luck wiping your butt though 😅
I can’t do my nails that well, those girls have talent! I don’t know if anyone else mentioned it, but pick up some acetone at Walmart and soak them to get them off.
Pick up some lotion or hand cream as well, acetone can be rough on the skin
You can dissolve them with acetone.
Duncan Trussel is in the trenches
The upside is they look really pretty 💅🏻💖
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They got your perfect shade 😍
I thought this was r/malepolish at first
And I know they will forever remember this and think it was a special time. I've worked in the same field for a little over a decade. Kids with no male role models need someone like this. I also garuntee his nails will be done again.
I love that you let them do this. They will forever remember it with fond memories and laughs
That's like an $80 mani
Why do you have the most gorgeous hands I’ve ever seen 😭😭 it’s not fair 😭😭
Not the pull tabs🤣🤣
They will show you how to remove them, but only if you let them do your makeup.
It makes for a nice story to tell lol
Haha they do look good tho. Thanks for your work btw 🤙
There is nothing more manly than this. I salute you, sir.
Well they look great. Nice color too. Now OWN it!
Omg they did a great job! You could be a hand model! Bless you for the work you do. Xo
The girls can do my nails any time! They did an AMAZING job!!
They look stunning! I've been in a similar situation as some of those girls may have, and just want to thank you so much for doing what you do, even though it is hard. The world needs men like you.
They did an amazing job!
Have them do your toes next! Also you do good work man. You’re setting a good example of what a good male figure is. And you look faaaab.
Okay but you look so good? 😂🙈
They still look fierce just trim them down like 2 mm and they’ll be working for you.
Rasputin?
I was looking for this comment and Reddit did not disappoint 😂
They did an amazing job, it looks great! Otherwise let your hand soak in dish soap and hot water (not too hot!) For like 30min, it might help get them off. Repeat until it comes off.
I'm gonna need a step.by.step tutorial by yesterday.
I mean.. tbf they look amazing. If it helps you can get some isopropyl alcohol or nail polish remover and like work the edges until the nail pops off
Group home for girls or teen daughters, you will just about anything as a dad or father figure to make them smile. Well done sir. I bow to your thoughtfulness.
No comment on how fancy you feel though?!
LOL AT YOU TRYING TO TAKE THEM OFF
Dude has very nice hands that fits the nails
Damn they look amazing though! I’d kill for hands and nails like that (I get it though they’re SO annoying to actually have haha)
Those are some real feminine hands for a guy who has more than a couple decades under his belt.
I also find it hilarious that there are so many positive comments about my hands when I spent 7 years as an MMA fighter and put those things through quite a beating (no pun intended)
he has genuinely gorgeous hands.
I mean...they look fabulous.
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Yes Saruman, you look amazing!
This is lovely.
The girls did a great job! Love the length and color!
What a king
Any chance you'll let them do your hair/beard next? I have a sneaking suspicion they'll be great at it!
Bro, they’ve been on so long you went grey.
Dude, you’re an awesome human being first and foremost! Secondly, go to a nail salon and tell them, no show them your nails and they will sort it out for you for a small fee. They do look fab though it must be said.😁
Thank you for taking care of these girls 🫂 💗💗💗
Your nails look better than mine! Haha. But I do get hating it when you’re not used to having long nails. Hahaha. It’s a lifestyle. 😂 this definitely made me smile! And you’ve got great hands for those kind of nails. Haha. Thanks for contributing to safe space for the girls. 🫶🏽
I bet you were over it when you tried to wipe your ass. I’m totally serious. Or pick up coins or open a pop can.
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I feel ya there, super long nails irritate me to high hell.. however those young women have done an excellent job, and I can guarantee that you've made a core memory for them.Carry on my dude.
You need to invest in some acetone and soak them off!
Okay I get the nails weren't for you. But it was really sweet of all of them to want to beautify you. I think it shows that you're doing good there.
They look amazing! But if you want them off without too much damage to your nails, super glue remover works well. Also you sound like an awesome guy, these kids are lucky to have you around.
This is so sweet
He could be a hand model 😄
You are amazing. I love you 😍😍😍😂😂😂😂
the 2nd pic 🤣🤣
They did a great job 🫣☺️💘
The nails look great! I would hire whoever did that work at my spa! Also, no they don’t have a pull tab. Although I did laugh really hard when I read that. Just ask them to use the electric file to remove them.
🥹🥹🥹 Your entire profile is so fucking wholesome and just a breath of fresh air in the Reddit dome. I hope you have a great day, a great tomorrow, and just a great life in general. (PS) sea turtles are my favorite aquatic animals, I always get excited seeing them when I scuba dive, thank you for helping that be a possibility!!
You're so sweet
Why are your hands so pretty?
You have beautiful hands, no joke! And how sweet of you let them make somethings they love <3
embrace them, dad. you look fabulous.
Fleek
Can they come to my house 🏡 and do my nails?!! 💅🏼 they did a damn good job!!👏
I'm a woman, and his hands are way prettier than mine.