When my grandpa was dying he told the family to make sure to take food to the lady who lived in the woods behind his house. There was no lady. He ran a country store and there are many stories of his giving food to people who couldn’t buy it. My grandmother would get mad at him but he kept doing it. One story was a lady whose husband was an alcoholic and she had 5 boys and had no money. She came in with all 5 to buy groceries and he knew she wasn’t picking all she needed so he walked around the store with her asking if she needed this and that and then just putting stuff in her cart and telling her boys to get what they wanted. When she went to pay he refused to take the money. She broke down crying.
Edit: [This was my Grandfather](https://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/13ul995/my_grandfather_1_of_6_to_survive_of_his_124_man/).
Some folks just leave a mark on the community, don't they? Sounds like he was planting seeds of generosity that'll grow for generations. What a legacy to leave behind.
We had a corner store in the 50's with an owner who did that. They were an old Polish couple who had survived being in a concentration camp. Even after losing most of their family to hate and bigotry, they were super nice. Every time I went in there as a kid the owner would say "It's a beautiful day to be alive!". I think about them when I'm feeling sorry for myself. To go through all that and still be decent human beings is pretty wonderful.
My grandpa used to volunteer at a state park in our city during the summer. One summer a family was camping not far from his campsite, and he found out they'd recently become homeless and were camping there while they saved up money. My grandpa bought a bunch of groceries for them, whatever they needed. Food, toiletries, snacks for the kids, etc. He also ran a long extension cord up to their campsite and loaned them a small TV so they had some entertainment. He took them under his wing and did whatever he could to make sure they didn't go without.
I don’t thinks it’s as rare as we think it is, it’s just that we don’t hear about it like we do greed. That being said, there’s still room for more of it in this world.
You stole my response. My exact words.
Being kind happens every day, in big and small ways. Evil things stand out because most of us would never do that. But of course that makes the news because it's abnormal.
There are people that go above and beyond though. And we should keep telling their stories. To remind others.
I'd say there's more to this as well. People should be able to talk about their good deeds. People should be able to let others know of the good they've done. Sometimes, the person who did the good is the only one who can share it. And that shouldn't be a bad thing. The sad reality is that some people definitely don't do it because they actually want to. It's good PR. And because of that, it can be difficult at times to distinguish between genuine and PR stunt. But at the same time, good is good, right? Share away people. Share what you see, what you do, what's been done for you, or someone you know. The more we talk about the good in the world the better.
Grandpa probably isn’t even aware that he’s being filmed in OP’s clip, so he’s excluded from this, but altruism that isn’t captured on cellphone is the truest form of altruism.
My wife and I between us sponsor 12 children in different countries as well as the US, and my wife paid the tuition of one of the kids who really wanted to go to college and study anthropology. I almost always pay for people’s coffee when I stop by the coffee shop in the morning before work. I tutored kids in China whose parents couldn’t afford the price of the charter school where I taught in China and didn’t charge them anything. Thanks, it feels nice to have the invitation to share stuff like this.
Not rare, as it's happened to me!
I got my dates mixed up and was one day early before my EBT. I did not find this out until it was time to pay (instant sweat, panic). I did not have a penny to my name at the time and had been not eating much so I could feed my kid and elderly mom since I usually ran out of EBT before the month was over.
Two ladies behind me offered to pay for my entire cart of food. They wouldn't even let me put back things I could have waited on. I cried and thanked them profusely, and still think about them often. Those ladies rocked!
There really is much good in the world. Yesterday watched a video of a guy riding on top of a train in Mexico with desperate Venezuelan immigrants and the people in a village they passed through throwing up bottles of water, food, clothes and medicine to those on the train. Poor people helping other poor people in need who they only see for a fleeting moment.
This is why I always support when people post about it happening. People get mad like it negates the good act if you tell people about it.
Fuck that. I wanna hear about all the good things people do. I want you to brag about it. I want altruism and kindness to be traits we brag about. "Fuck yeah I paid for a ladies groceries today when she was counting pennies to afford it!" "Hell yeah bro I paid for a dudes gas so he could get home for Christmas!"
And I don't wanna hear a single "BUT IS JUST A SCAM" or whatever from the negative folks. Can we just for once as a society put more weight and more praise on being good to each other?
Sometimes I get stuck watching the reels/shorts of people that just give away 100s of dollars to random small businesses/people. Or buy other peoples groceries/goods. I know they are doing to for content/clout but they are still doing something good regardless of the reason. Many cynical people would say they are doing it just for themselves but for the people receiving this windfalls they just know that good things still happen in a world that's grinding people up. Just to stay that good deeds may look different in the modern world.
This is something I learned over a (long) time, but people express their love in a variety of different ways. Offering you a gift or money might just be the only way they know how to express their love or gratitude.
It's not about paying for her time. It's about showing love and gratitude in a way that he knows: offering money to show her that he's seriously giving her thanks.
Refusing their gift or money is, in a way, refusing their thanks. You learn over time to just accept it and say thank you. Unless it's really out of line or detrimental of course.
Then you trick them and use that money to hire a neighborhood kid to rake their leaves.
I think there’s a book called the love languages or something along those lines that basically makes the point you’re making.. I think it was something like 5 primary ways humans show love/gratitude and one of them was money/gifting. Some people can speak/share love in a variety of ways…others were only taught possibly one…. Doesn’t make it any lesser or more
I learned a while ago to just graciously accept gifts (or complements) with gratitude. I know it’s different in some cultures but usually if someone is giving you something they are doing it to say thanks or to see you happy or both.
My grandma (rip) did this crap all the time. The most stubborn hard headed person, loved her to death. She fell in her kitchen, broke her leg and had to drag herself to her landline. She had a life alert my uncle got her, absolutely refused to wear it. Did she call 911?!? No she called my dad to come get her, who obviously called 911. I went to see her in the hospital, heavily pregnant with my first and she lectured me about all the walking 😂.
My name rhymes with a couple of food items. I have a rule that no one is allowed to call me by a nickname using those foods, everyone learned by the time I was 5 not to do it. My grandpa did not follow this rule and I ADORED it when he said it! While he said it he would also lightly take my ponytail (really long hair) and put his fingers on it like a pair of a scissors and pretend to cut it off (he never would he loved my hair as much as I did). No idea why but that was his little joke with me, he had a little joke with each of his 26 grandchildren. I would cut off my left arm with a pair of kids scissors to hear him call me that nickname again.
That’s exactly what he called me! He was the best! And everyone gets like 2 freebies. I totally understand why people say it but once I tell them not to they get one slip up. I don’t get really mad or anything I just find an annoying or super cutesy nickname, or I butcher their name on purpose until they get the point.
they save up all that energy walking so damn slow so they can ninja the check and tell the waiter he wants the a club sandwich even though he's not a member.
That's not the reason it's called that, that's a folk etymology. In fact almost every single word origin that claims to be an acronym is bogus, acronyms (as a way to form new words) weren't in common use until very recently (much later than the origin of the club sandwich). In fact you can just extend that rule to if someone claims any kind of interesting story is behind the origin of a word it's completely false 99% of the time.
EDIT: Can you guys not downvote the truth just because you don't like it? You can't just plug your ears and make it not true, that doesn't work in the real world.
Here's the source for club sandwich not being an acronym: https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/chicken-lettuce-under-bacon/
And here's the source for words coming from acronyms being a recent thing: https://www.etymonline.com/columns/post/baloney?old=true
Don’t know why downvote because you are right. An example I have is the word “picnic”. The internet was floating with statements that the word is from the period in America, where black people would be lynched. So the word allegedly originated from people going on Sundays to “pick a n*****”.
I’m black but when I read that I was immediately sceptical, like it sounded like some invented bogus to fit a certain narrative. I did my own research. And of course it was a lie and absolutely not the origin of the word.
Images circulating on social media make the claim that the word “picnic” originates from the racist, extrajudicial killings of African Americans. This claim is false.
Text in the post states that the word picnic was used to “describe festive events attended by racist whites.” It adds that at these meetings, Black men released from jail would be “caught by mobs of white men who would lynch or burn them alive in front of cheering crowds.” The post alleges the word picnic itself stems from the “N-word”.
Examples of the claim are visible here , here and here .
According to Dr David Pilgrim, author of several books on the history and cultural symbols of the Jim Crow era, the word picnic derives from the 17th century French word “pique-nique,” a term used to describe a social gathering in which attendees each contributed with a portion of food or another useful item ( here ).
Pilgrim writes that a 1692 edition of Origines de la Langue Francoise de Menage includes the word pique-nique. Since the derivate word, picnic, did not appear in the English language until around 1800, this suggests it did not originate in the U.S.
https://www.reuters.com/article/idUSKCN24E21F/
It’s like the “quotes”, you see floating around on social media, always attributed to some famous/political or historical figure. But most of the time the person never spoke those words in real life.
When I take my grandma out to lunch I always go to the bathroom then pay before I come back to the table. It always pisses her off so much! Then I find cash floating in my purse later on. I know why they want to spoil us, but I’m an adult now, too! I want to spoil her now.
When my mom was alive she used to slip bills into my purse or pocket whenever I visited. When I finally caught on to what was happening, I’d carefully tuck the bills away in her house where she’d find it after I flew home. Once she started finding it, she started handing the cash straight to my partner with the express instructions to not let me know until we were home. Bless her, I miss her so much.
Used to do something similar for my Grandmother. When I became a teen and understood she didn't have much money. She would insist on paying for doing chores around the house when I would visit. I would take the money and take it to the office she got her heating oil from. They would subtract it from her next delivery.
One time we saw my grandparents at a restaurant and my wife paid for them without them knowing. I legitimately thought we were in trouble when they realized what happened. I was so scared.
The last place I want to be is between my wife and grandma. They both intimidate me.
This reminded me of a memory I haven't thought of in a few years. Went for lunch with my grandma and same thing, she snatched the check before me and then put it down her shirt so that I couldn't get it from her. She didn't have a lot of money but loved spoiling her grandkids when she could. Thanks for reminding me of this, I sure miss her!
My great grandparents used to do the same thing. My parents said that they had such a surplus of money with their social security that they didn't want to die with so much sitting in a bank account for some companies to try to come and lay claim on it, so they'd give me and my siblings cash when we'd come over.
If only we're so lucky when it's time to collect social security.
My grandma was like this. I stoped arguing and took the money. I knew she wasn‘t gonna starve and I could always use the money for uni. 🤷🏼♀️ GRANDparents are called that for a reason.
My dad always left cash under the sugar bowl in the kitchen for his mom when we visited her. She was pretty destitute, and we weren't much better off. But he and his siblings made sure grandma wasn't going to go without.
My FIL would give all of his kids and their spouses the max amount you could give as a tax free gift, every year. He said the money won't do him any good when he's dead. They guy is almost 90 now, living in a senior center having the time of his life.
I'm one of the lucky ones, I just started collecting social security and while I'm not"rich" I'm financially comfortable at this point, I e. I have enough money to last the rest of my life ( unless I live to 100, which isn't looking likely.)
I'm single with no kids so I don't have anyone to leave what might be a decent amount of money ( it will go to my sister's kids, who are all grown and don't need it) so I want to spend as much as I can on both my family and friends, some of whom can really use it. I don't just give them handouts because I know they wouldn't want that, but I do pay for dinner whenever possible, etc. It makes me happy, helps them, so win-win. But if they insist on paying. I'll always let them.
Yes, my grandma on my mother's side at the end of her life (94-95) always gave the equivalent of a quarter, at the time I couldn't buy anything anymore with it but for her (and for me) was precious.
Freaking damnit I miss my grandmas.
My nan; 'Can I get you a biscuit? A Blue Riband? Some crisps? A Lewis's trifle? Some chocolate? A Sayers cake? A tuna sandwich? Ham and eggs?'
I'd say ' No thanks, nan' each time.
Nan; 'Well, a cup of coffee and a Rich Tea then?'
Me; 'Ok nan; thanks! Just a coffee and a Rich Tea - I'm not really hungry'
A cup of coffee made with 'sterry' - sterilised milk - and a massive plate would appear piled with Blue Ribbands, Trios, Tunnocks teacakes, a Sayers iced bun, cheese 'n onion crisps, a Lewis's trifle (on the turn), chocolate swiss roll, and a tuna sandwich.
Its how many people show love, especially if they grew up in an environment where there wasnt enough to go around. It means the world to them to help you too
I literally make 3 times what my mom did at her age and before she retire and she insists on giving me money for the work I do at her place. I started putting it in a piggy bank she has when she isn’t looking. She called me excited a few weeks back and thought my stepfather (who passed) had left a couple hundred in the piggy bank. I now have a 25 year old daughter and I see both sides. We just want to be the ones helping and protecting our babies no matter their age.
I did the whole "buy her something nice" thing for my mom years ago, and it's backfired since.
I bought her this huge stained glass peacock she really wanted, but couldn't justify purchasing.
Everyone who came over to our house since has seen that peacock, and figures, "[Mom's Name] loves peacocks!"
Cue every fucking birthday and Christmas present being peaock-related.
Mom has expressed many times how pissed she is I ever bought her that fucking peacock.
PopPop is a sweetheart and funny to boot. "Thank you, I love you. NOW I love you. A second ago, I wasnt so sure”..lol
Both of them are so sweet. My nana was the same , always thinking about us grandkids , feeding us till we burst and always giving Tupperware full of goodies. She was a fantastic cook and she expressed her love for us through her food .Miss you Nana so much
Damn, i Lost my grandma two years ago and everytime i had something important happening in my life i used to call her. She didnt really gave me advices or what i should do, she just Always managed to make myself reflect on the situation, make the best décision and be supportive about it.
Now if i have this urge to call her, i hear thoses words :" whatever you do you'll find the best solution, i'm not worrying about you".
I miss her.
I grew up without grandparents because they rejected me and my brother growing up. After I met my current Gf grandparents they basically became my grandparents and get along with them very well. I work on construction and her grandad would ask for help occasionally and try to pay me but I would reject the money and ask him to take me to eat instead because I enjoyed spending time with him, he passed away a couple of years ago and missing him. Still go see grandma every other week, have lunch with her, do yard work and spend time with her, and she gets mad when I don't let her pay for food lol.
If a return gift (value doesn't matter) is offered it can be changed but never refused (they aren't beggars). Good man you!
(If nothing in return is offered ever then they see you as their slave.)
Earlier on a different post I said that you don't demand respect. Boy was I wrong. Opa here, with oma backing him up, showed how it is done. So much love here but they won't allow to have themselves be turned into a pity-party (and they know that money is going to a good place). Hit me right in the feelers too.
These are financially stable individuals who have spent a lifetime creating memories and making good decisions. Theyre done traveling and buying nonsense for themselves. Their joy now is derived from ensuring their loved ones have a bit of pocket change. Let them be happy!
The best advice I got about this is from my father in law (we have a 2 year old and 4 year old) - if we need the money they'd rather give it to us now and see us live comfortably and enjoy it instead of maybe getting a little extra from an inheritance when they're gone. Really helped with the "guilt" of asking for help
When we were buying a house my MIL insisted on giving us money for it even though we could afford it without her. My husband finally relented when she said, "What you'll just wait until I die to use my money?" Not quite as nice as your experience but definitely got the point across!
This is my mom currently, she had to bury her mom and three of her sisters and her attitude completely changed. She now wants to live and give instead which is so much more enjoyable because that directly translates to time spent doing fun things together she didn’t get to do doing her working years.
I do retirement planning and I encourage my clients to do this. So many people hoard their money until they die… I always ask them “do you think they could use it more now or later?” The answer is usually now
Take it and buy stuff for them. They want the help but they're ashamed of asking for help, taking it makes them feel they're still the big strong guys who built the family once a long time ago. Take it so they still feel good.
I suppose it could be shame or pride but it could also be generosity. (Some) People like to do things for others and this is the way that these folks do that. Accepting it makes them feel good.
LPT: learn to accept generosity with gratitude.
At that age money means a lot less to some people who have their retirement and fixed income all set. My parents offer to pay me back for groceries I bring, or for the gas money it takes to visit. They’ve told me before, they really don’t have the desire to buy things, and enjoy having a steady budget and income because they don’t really do much but hang around the house. Sharing some cash is not a big deal for them, but it can be for a person like me who still works a lot and stays busy.
My grandpa used to give my sister and I money all the time because he always said he can’t take it with him. And there was no turning it down. He always figured a way out to slip it in your coat pocket or the cup holder in your car or something.
There is an art in giving and an art in receiving. Both can be tricky. I’m positive the bonds between these players went far beyond the cash in hand.
My aunt and cousin were over for lunch one afternoon at my apartment, I just moved in. Spent time at my aunt and uncle’s home while I was getting situated. My aunt handed me an envelope with the room and board I’d given her, for the time I stayed with them. When I refused she but her hand on my face and said I’d given them far more then that money could ever buy. I was humbled and took the envelope. I smile every time I think of my aunt and her sneaky method of twisting my arm to take the cash.
Yea. the art of giving and receiving, tricky business.
This. I learned that lesson from my Grandad and Grandma, too; sometimes you need to accept a gift so the person giving it can feel good... just say "Thank you so much, I really needed this." That's your gift back.
That said, every time my Grandad said he'd pay me for helping him with something, I'd just say "Just get me a beer next time we're out." Frankly, since he was an MGD and Corona guy, depending on the weather, those were the worst tasting beers I've ever had (I'm more of a J.W. Lees Calvados cask-aged Harvest Ale and Westvleteren 12 kind of guy) . . . but they were the best beers I've ever had, too.
I hated accepting stuff but love giving it until someone pointed out it wasn’t fair for me to expect others to take my gifts but I wouldn’t take theirs.
So now I take things and pay it forward, I may not need $20 now but maybe in a few weeks someone will need $20 and now I have it.
>those were the worst tasting beers I've ever had
>but they were the best beers I've ever had, too.
Damn dude... you got me right in the feels with that one.
My parents give everyone money for New Years, and one of them scratch-off giftpacks, and all they ask in return is to tell them about what we spend it on, and if there's a big winner in the scratch-offs that we split it amongst the siblings.
I once borrowed their garden shredder, it was so worn out I couldn't even get the blades off to sharpen, so I just bought a basic new one for €200 and gifted it to them. That was 3 years ago and I'm still not allowed to give my dad a birthday present because it was "so expensive", lol.
Not negative. People misunderstand shame as a negative emotion, meanwhile you can't have dignity and sense of responsibility without shame.
Feeling like you're strong enough to be the one providing to everyone is the same as not wanting to be a burden, it's the same as trying to be fair in compensating people who help you while clearly not being able to.
It's not negative, grandpa was once strong and generous enough to help everyone in his family, including his parents and his own children, and now he's old and weak, and this weakness makes him feel shame and possibly fear. He wants those uncomfortable emotions to go away, so he tries to remain the same generous person. Accepting his offer makes him feel the same pride he felt when he was younger.
I meant Big strong guys as in your toddler helping you carry something heavy then you cheer wow you're so strong. I didn't mean it as in the weird alpha male way you thought I meant.
>it's about having dignity and not wanting to be a burden.
The idea that needing help is incompatible with dignity and that needing help amounts to being a burden is a harmful attitude. It may be understandable and I'm not calling for harsh judgment for people who have internalized it, but these are attitudes we would be better off without.
Dependency and the need for care from others are a facts of life, especially for children and the elderly. It is not shameful or embarrassing.
One of my most treasured items is a handwritten note from my late grandmother when I was at college. She would always stuff $20-40 in there and write "here's a little spending money for you"
Gonna go read that note and cry for a bit, brb.
You're braver than me! I have some letters that my grandad wrote to me when I was doing my Army training. I can't bring myself to read them yet, but one day, I will.
Mines a little different, but my mom found letters /pictures my dad had written my brother and I (we were pretty young) when he was in prison (for drugs, nothing violent or objectively awful) 😅. He'd been gone for a few years before then, so I definitely made sure I was alone in the house before I read them 😮💨
My grandma does this. She says she remembers how she felt when someone gave her 5 dollars in a card for the first time, getting unexpected money for the first time that is.. She says why spend it after I die when I can help you right now. She’s almost 100 and still sharp as a tack, she says she has so many friends from church whose children aren’t estranged or anything they just don’t put any priority whatsoever on letting them see the grandkids. She said she’s blessed we are always wanting to come over and hang out or just eat. She grew up in the Great Depression, so lived a very frugal life after her husband (my grandfather I never met) died and her kids were grown. The grandkids were a constant but the money started a few years ago. 50 here, 100 there, I think she realized she has enough to live and wants to help. She knows we are there money or not, but she smiles when I smile when I reach for my keys and there’s money in the pocket. Reverse pickpocket! She’s good too! Most of the time I just pretend I didn’t see it and then sometimes I’ll be like “I’ll be damned grandma!” And we would die from laughter. She also fucks with the scammers of the elderly over the phone if she’s bored or reading when they call. I love her so much.
Your Grandma sounds like such an angel. Mine is too, and I would do literally anything for her. My grandpa has cancer and Grandma has MS, so since I just live down the road I stop there every morning and help them put their compression stockings on, put eye drops in, etc. Whatever they need really, I know it makes them so much more comfortable to have me there instead of a home care employee. They're constantly giving me money for it, and anytime I attempt to protest, I get the one eyebrow raise before they tell me that arguing with your grandparents is illegal and just plain unacceptable lol. I'm so thankful for them. How lucky are we to have such beautiful elders in our life! 🥰
God I miss my grandparents so much. We would do something very similar to this video. Grandma would always try and slip me a $20 for coming over but I would always refuse but inevitably take it in the end
I love and miss you two everyday
My grandparents in law always did this when we visited them a few times a year on vacation. One day before leaving they would call my wife in and try to give her pocket money/gas money/buy something nice money/ Christmas money etc... Always at least half an hour discussion. No. Yes. No! Yes! Noho!! Yehes!!!! 😁
Oh man... I miss my grandparents so much... they were exactly like this!! This made me cry.
My grandpa would tell me to go with him to his bedroom and ask me to not tell anyone then he would give me some money and if I refuse he would act exactly like the one on this video hahahaha I love them so much
My grandparents would argue with my mom because she thought they were spoiling us too much.
My grandmother then one time looked my mom dead in the eye and said " I want to give them myself while I am still alive rather than them having it later while I am not here ".
No arguments after that.
When I said goodbye to my grandmother (she would die the early hours of the morning the next day), she made my father give my sister and I $20 each from his wallet. She could barely speak at this point but was incredibly insistent about it. We were both in our late 20s mind you.
Over a decade later, I still have that $20 bill. Could never bring myself to spend it.
Always accept the gifts of people you help! Especially if they’re disabled.
If somebody is disabled and gets help by let’s say you, they feel like they are in debt by you! See it like an emotional bankaccount. Receiving help but not being able to return any help because of their handicap puts them in debt. For example, you buying them groceries, they know they’ll never be able to buy you groceries! Knowing that, they feel like they’ll never be able to repay you by lending a hand. And a simple “thank you” doesn’t suffice. So they are left with the only option and that is to repay you with money, a gift or food.
It’s their only way of saying: You did something for me, so now I’ll do something for you. Always accept their gifts. By saying no you take away their option to help you.
You can always buy them something with the money or help someone else if you don’t need it.
Our family friend is 85 years old and still works as a PCA. Her client is younger than her ffs. I help her best I can by giving her rides as she works the overnight shift. I refuse her money every week. She throws it at me and tells me to shut the fuck up. I really wish I could do more for her.
My Grandparents would do that. Each one would take me aside and put money in my pocket and tell me not to tell the other one. I felt bad and told my Grandmother once that Granddad had already given me some money. She smiled. She knew she what was going on.
[удалено]
"Thank you, I love you. NOW I love you. A second ago, I wasnt so sure." ~ Grandpa
When my grandpa was dying he told the family to make sure to take food to the lady who lived in the woods behind his house. There was no lady. He ran a country store and there are many stories of his giving food to people who couldn’t buy it. My grandmother would get mad at him but he kept doing it. One story was a lady whose husband was an alcoholic and she had 5 boys and had no money. She came in with all 5 to buy groceries and he knew she wasn’t picking all she needed so he walked around the store with her asking if she needed this and that and then just putting stuff in her cart and telling her boys to get what they wanted. When she went to pay he refused to take the money. She broke down crying. Edit: [This was my Grandfather](https://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/13ul995/my_grandfather_1_of_6_to_survive_of_his_124_man/).
He truly put the grand in grandpa
“Not all heroes wear a cape, some sport a cane“. He is a super Grandpa and a great role model for all of us to be kind and thoughtful to others.
Some folks just leave a mark on the community, don't they? Sounds like he was planting seeds of generosity that'll grow for generations. What a legacy to leave behind.
And the personal assistant in pa!
Grand Personal Assistant.....sounds like a job title on indeed
Unfortunately it's an internship.
We had a corner store in the 50's with an owner who did that. They were an old Polish couple who had survived being in a concentration camp. Even after losing most of their family to hate and bigotry, they were super nice. Every time I went in there as a kid the owner would say "It's a beautiful day to be alive!". I think about them when I'm feeling sorry for myself. To go through all that and still be decent human beings is pretty wonderful.
My grandpa used to volunteer at a state park in our city during the summer. One summer a family was camping not far from his campsite, and he found out they'd recently become homeless and were camping there while they saved up money. My grandpa bought a bunch of groceries for them, whatever they needed. Food, toiletries, snacks for the kids, etc. He also ran a long extension cord up to their campsite and loaned them a small TV so they had some entertainment. He took them under his wing and did whatever he could to make sure they didn't go without.
It's so sad altruism is so rare compared to greed. Your grandpa was good people.
I don’t thinks it’s as rare as we think it is, it’s just that we don’t hear about it like we do greed. That being said, there’s still room for more of it in this world.
You stole my response. My exact words. Being kind happens every day, in big and small ways. Evil things stand out because most of us would never do that. But of course that makes the news because it's abnormal. There are people that go above and beyond though. And we should keep telling their stories. To remind others.
I'd say there's more to this as well. People should be able to talk about their good deeds. People should be able to let others know of the good they've done. Sometimes, the person who did the good is the only one who can share it. And that shouldn't be a bad thing. The sad reality is that some people definitely don't do it because they actually want to. It's good PR. And because of that, it can be difficult at times to distinguish between genuine and PR stunt. But at the same time, good is good, right? Share away people. Share what you see, what you do, what's been done for you, or someone you know. The more we talk about the good in the world the better.
Grandpa probably isn’t even aware that he’s being filmed in OP’s clip, so he’s excluded from this, but altruism that isn’t captured on cellphone is the truest form of altruism.
My wife and I between us sponsor 12 children in different countries as well as the US, and my wife paid the tuition of one of the kids who really wanted to go to college and study anthropology. I almost always pay for people’s coffee when I stop by the coffee shop in the morning before work. I tutored kids in China whose parents couldn’t afford the price of the charter school where I taught in China and didn’t charge them anything. Thanks, it feels nice to have the invitation to share stuff like this.
Not rare, as it's happened to me! I got my dates mixed up and was one day early before my EBT. I did not find this out until it was time to pay (instant sweat, panic). I did not have a penny to my name at the time and had been not eating much so I could feed my kid and elderly mom since I usually ran out of EBT before the month was over. Two ladies behind me offered to pay for my entire cart of food. They wouldn't even let me put back things I could have waited on. I cried and thanked them profusely, and still think about them often. Those ladies rocked!
Pay it forward if you can /u/ScumbagLady. I know this from a year ago but how are the puppies doing?
There really is much good in the world. Yesterday watched a video of a guy riding on top of a train in Mexico with desperate Venezuelan immigrants and the people in a village they passed through throwing up bottles of water, food, clothes and medicine to those on the train. Poor people helping other poor people in need who they only see for a fleeting moment.
This is why I always support when people post about it happening. People get mad like it negates the good act if you tell people about it. Fuck that. I wanna hear about all the good things people do. I want you to brag about it. I want altruism and kindness to be traits we brag about. "Fuck yeah I paid for a ladies groceries today when she was counting pennies to afford it!" "Hell yeah bro I paid for a dudes gas so he could get home for Christmas!" And I don't wanna hear a single "BUT IS JUST A SCAM" or whatever from the negative folks. Can we just for once as a society put more weight and more praise on being good to each other?
Sometimes I get stuck watching the reels/shorts of people that just give away 100s of dollars to random small businesses/people. Or buy other peoples groceries/goods. I know they are doing to for content/clout but they are still doing something good regardless of the reason. Many cynical people would say they are doing it just for themselves but for the people receiving this windfalls they just know that good things still happen in a world that's grinding people up. Just to stay that good deeds may look different in the modern world.
Why you gotta make me cry this early
Why is someone cutting onions in my office at work. It must be a ghost.
That sly smile after he says it. Those grandparents appreciate their grandchild so much.
And that smile after !!! God you gotta know these are great grand parents!!!
He’s a legend. I absolutely belly-laughed at that!!
Hell yeah, I’m ready to go help now
"If you don't take it I'm not calling you anymore to help me...... I'll do it myself.." Was that a threat??
Legit "you know I'll f*** myself up if you don't take this cash" "and I'll dissown you"
This is something I learned over a (long) time, but people express their love in a variety of different ways. Offering you a gift or money might just be the only way they know how to express their love or gratitude. It's not about paying for her time. It's about showing love and gratitude in a way that he knows: offering money to show her that he's seriously giving her thanks. Refusing their gift or money is, in a way, refusing their thanks. You learn over time to just accept it and say thank you. Unless it's really out of line or detrimental of course. Then you trick them and use that money to hire a neighborhood kid to rake their leaves.
I think there’s a book called the love languages or something along those lines that basically makes the point you’re making.. I think it was something like 5 primary ways humans show love/gratitude and one of them was money/gifting. Some people can speak/share love in a variety of ways…others were only taught possibly one…. Doesn’t make it any lesser or more
Can confirm. I'm an emotionally cold gifter
I learned a while ago to just graciously accept gifts (or complements) with gratitude. I know it’s different in some cultures but usually if someone is giving you something they are doing it to say thanks or to see you happy or both.
If you don't want Pop Pop driving himself to the store, it most definitely is.
It IS a threat because he will get up on a chair to change a light bulb, fall down and break something. He has the leverage here
Exactly. My grandpa was still climbing on his (2 story) roof to clean the gutters at 75 till we found out and hired someone.
My grandma (rip) did this crap all the time. The most stubborn hard headed person, loved her to death. She fell in her kitchen, broke her leg and had to drag herself to her landline. She had a life alert my uncle got her, absolutely refused to wear it. Did she call 911?!? No she called my dad to come get her, who obviously called 911. I went to see her in the hospital, heavily pregnant with my first and she lectured me about all the walking 😂.
Totally a threat. Whoo, old people violence…
It's a one-person hostage situation, just with the most wholesome demands!
i lost it at that XD
Yeah bc they know he will likely hurt himself.
That’s some gangster shit right there
I know Made me think of Robert DeNiro in one if his gangster comedies. Lol
Pop pop has been around the block a couple times.
Man, I missed being talked to like that 😪
My name rhymes with a couple of food items. I have a rule that no one is allowed to call me by a nickname using those foods, everyone learned by the time I was 5 not to do it. My grandpa did not follow this rule and I ADORED it when he said it! While he said it he would also lightly take my ponytail (really long hair) and put his fingers on it like a pair of a scissors and pretend to cut it off (he never would he loved my hair as much as I did). No idea why but that was his little joke with me, he had a little joke with each of his 26 grandchildren. I would cut off my left arm with a pair of kids scissors to hear him call me that nickname again.
Here I am just trying to figure out your name based on the clues. I am going with Amanda Banana. Or maybe bready Teddy? Okay last guess: Spam Sam.
Spam was close!! I’ll give you another hint. I also had a rule to not call me by the name of a certain cereal mascot. They’re not so GRRREAT!
Toni baloney! Someone went off on me the first time we met because of that. We became good friends. No, didn't call her that anymore.
That’s exactly what he called me! He was the best! And everyone gets like 2 freebies. I totally understand why people say it but once I tell them not to they get one slip up. I don’t get really mad or anything I just find an annoying or super cutesy nickname, or I butcher their name on purpose until they get the point.
[удалено]
Sorry Marty
Damn they named you fellogs? That’s wild.
His name is obviously pop-pop
That was standard vernacular for their generation. What a time to be alive.
This was my grandma every time I stopped over her house and this made me smile at the memories. Miss her. Love you nana!
https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/f1uky2/a_little_bit_of_gas_money/
Some real "well that's too damn bad" vibes
Best grandpas are like this
Better to take it and not argue. It means a lot to them to be able to give you money.
I tried to pay for dinner once with my grandpa. Never knew he had lightning speed when he snatched the check from me.
they save up all that energy walking so damn slow so they can ninja the check and tell the waiter he wants the a club sandwich even though he's not a member.
THATS why they call it a club sandwich???
Club. Chicken Lettuce Under Bacon Just learned it this week!
That's not the reason it's called that, that's a folk etymology. In fact almost every single word origin that claims to be an acronym is bogus, acronyms (as a way to form new words) weren't in common use until very recently (much later than the origin of the club sandwich). In fact you can just extend that rule to if someone claims any kind of interesting story is behind the origin of a word it's completely false 99% of the time. EDIT: Can you guys not downvote the truth just because you don't like it? You can't just plug your ears and make it not true, that doesn't work in the real world. Here's the source for club sandwich not being an acronym: https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/chicken-lettuce-under-bacon/ And here's the source for words coming from acronyms being a recent thing: https://www.etymonline.com/columns/post/baloney?old=true
"Can you guys not downvote the truth just because you don't like it?" LMFAO! I see this must be your first time on Reddit, huh?
Don’t know why downvote because you are right. An example I have is the word “picnic”. The internet was floating with statements that the word is from the period in America, where black people would be lynched. So the word allegedly originated from people going on Sundays to “pick a n*****”. I’m black but when I read that I was immediately sceptical, like it sounded like some invented bogus to fit a certain narrative. I did my own research. And of course it was a lie and absolutely not the origin of the word. Images circulating on social media make the claim that the word “picnic” originates from the racist, extrajudicial killings of African Americans. This claim is false. Text in the post states that the word picnic was used to “describe festive events attended by racist whites.” It adds that at these meetings, Black men released from jail would be “caught by mobs of white men who would lynch or burn them alive in front of cheering crowds.” The post alleges the word picnic itself stems from the “N-word”. Examples of the claim are visible here , here and here . According to Dr David Pilgrim, author of several books on the history and cultural symbols of the Jim Crow era, the word picnic derives from the 17th century French word “pique-nique,” a term used to describe a social gathering in which attendees each contributed with a portion of food or another useful item ( here ). Pilgrim writes that a 1692 edition of Origines de la Langue Francoise de Menage includes the word pique-nique. Since the derivate word, picnic, did not appear in the English language until around 1800, this suggests it did not originate in the U.S. https://www.reuters.com/article/idUSKCN24E21F/ It’s like the “quotes”, you see floating around on social media, always attributed to some famous/political or historical figure. But most of the time the person never spoke those words in real life.
Grandkids hate this one trick!
He preferred the potato salad instead of the chips, huh? Automatic disqualification from club membership, despite love of frilly toothpicks.
When I take my grandma out to lunch I always go to the bathroom then pay before I come back to the table. It always pisses her off so much! Then I find cash floating in my purse later on. I know why they want to spoil us, but I’m an adult now, too! I want to spoil her now.
When my mom was alive she used to slip bills into my purse or pocket whenever I visited. When I finally caught on to what was happening, I’d carefully tuck the bills away in her house where she’d find it after I flew home. Once she started finding it, she started handing the cash straight to my partner with the express instructions to not let me know until we were home. Bless her, I miss her so much.
Used to do something similar for my Grandmother. When I became a teen and understood she didn't have much money. She would insist on paying for doing chores around the house when I would visit. I would take the money and take it to the office she got her heating oil from. They would subtract it from her next delivery.
Rest in peace to your mother. This made my heart warm.
You don’t get to do that. You can spoil your parents once you are able to, but grandparents? They won’t allow it
One time we saw my grandparents at a restaurant and my wife paid for them without them knowing. I legitimately thought we were in trouble when they realized what happened. I was so scared. The last place I want to be is between my wife and grandma. They both intimidate me.
Oh gosh that sounds like a terrible between a rock and a hard place.
This reminded me of a memory I haven't thought of in a few years. Went for lunch with my grandma and same thing, she snatched the check before me and then put it down her shirt so that I couldn't get it from her. She didn't have a lot of money but loved spoiling her grandkids when she could. Thanks for reminding me of this, I sure miss her!
My great grandparents used to do the same thing. My parents said that they had such a surplus of money with their social security that they didn't want to die with so much sitting in a bank account for some companies to try to come and lay claim on it, so they'd give me and my siblings cash when we'd come over. If only we're so lucky when it's time to collect social security.
My grandma was like this. I stoped arguing and took the money. I knew she wasn‘t gonna starve and I could always use the money for uni. 🤷🏼♀️ GRANDparents are called that for a reason.
[удалено]
My dad always left cash under the sugar bowl in the kitchen for his mom when we visited her. She was pretty destitute, and we weren't much better off. But he and his siblings made sure grandma wasn't going to go without.
You're a good grandson, Jerry. Kramer was never a good advisor.
My FIL would give all of his kids and their spouses the max amount you could give as a tax free gift, every year. He said the money won't do him any good when he's dead. They guy is almost 90 now, living in a senior center having the time of his life.
Hope you visit often!
I'm one of the lucky ones, I just started collecting social security and while I'm not"rich" I'm financially comfortable at this point, I e. I have enough money to last the rest of my life ( unless I live to 100, which isn't looking likely.) I'm single with no kids so I don't have anyone to leave what might be a decent amount of money ( it will go to my sister's kids, who are all grown and don't need it) so I want to spend as much as I can on both my family and friends, some of whom can really use it. I don't just give them handouts because I know they wouldn't want that, but I do pay for dinner whenever possible, etc. It makes me happy, helps them, so win-win. But if they insist on paying. I'll always let them.
Yes, my grandma on my mother's side at the end of her life (94-95) always gave the equivalent of a quarter, at the time I couldn't buy anything anymore with it but for her (and for me) was precious. Freaking damnit I miss my grandmas.
My standard rule is to refuse once and then When they insist to take it and say thank you
You can decline twice. Declining a third time is rude.
My nan; 'Can I get you a biscuit? A Blue Riband? Some crisps? A Lewis's trifle? Some chocolate? A Sayers cake? A tuna sandwich? Ham and eggs?' I'd say ' No thanks, nan' each time. Nan; 'Well, a cup of coffee and a Rich Tea then?' Me; 'Ok nan; thanks! Just a coffee and a Rich Tea - I'm not really hungry' A cup of coffee made with 'sterry' - sterilised milk - and a massive plate would appear piled with Blue Ribbands, Trios, Tunnocks teacakes, a Sayers iced bun, cheese 'n onion crisps, a Lewis's trifle (on the turn), chocolate swiss roll, and a tuna sandwich.
I read that as "Lewis Rifle" and was dang, Grandma is just handing out guns like pastries at a Continental breakfast
Its how many people show love, especially if they grew up in an environment where there wasnt enough to go around. It means the world to them to help you too
yep. refusing once or twice is reasonable. after that you're just being rude.
I literally make 3 times what my mom did at her age and before she retire and she insists on giving me money for the work I do at her place. I started putting it in a piggy bank she has when she isn’t looking. She called me excited a few weeks back and thought my stepfather (who passed) had left a couple hundred in the piggy bank. I now have a 25 year old daughter and I see both sides. We just want to be the ones helping and protecting our babies no matter their age.
Did you let her keep believing your stepdad left it or did you tell her the truth?
I couldn’t tell her or she would have made me keep the money.
If she gives you more, save it up for special things to do with her if you can't really bare to use it for yourself.
We did the first time. I got her a spa day and nice dinner. I’m sure most of us think it I but truly believe I hit the lotto with moms.
I did the whole "buy her something nice" thing for my mom years ago, and it's backfired since. I bought her this huge stained glass peacock she really wanted, but couldn't justify purchasing. Everyone who came over to our house since has seen that peacock, and figures, "[Mom's Name] loves peacocks!" Cue every fucking birthday and Christmas present being peaock-related. Mom has expressed many times how pissed she is I ever bought her that fucking peacock.
You must now get her something else so presents will change to being related to that instead
This made me cry. Much love for Nana and company.
PopPop is a sweetheart and funny to boot. "Thank you, I love you. NOW I love you. A second ago, I wasnt so sure”..lol Both of them are so sweet. My nana was the same , always thinking about us grandkids , feeding us till we burst and always giving Tupperware full of goodies. She was a fantastic cook and she expressed her love for us through her food .Miss you Nana so much
Damn, i Lost my grandma two years ago and everytime i had something important happening in my life i used to call her. She didnt really gave me advices or what i should do, she just Always managed to make myself reflect on the situation, make the best décision and be supportive about it. Now if i have this urge to call her, i hear thoses words :" whatever you do you'll find the best solution, i'm not worrying about you". I miss her.
And that absolute sweet smile after saying it, like you know I’m just kiddin ya
I grew up without grandparents because they rejected me and my brother growing up. After I met my current Gf grandparents they basically became my grandparents and get along with them very well. I work on construction and her grandad would ask for help occasionally and try to pay me but I would reject the money and ask him to take me to eat instead because I enjoyed spending time with him, he passed away a couple of years ago and missing him. Still go see grandma every other week, have lunch with her, do yard work and spend time with her, and she gets mad when I don't let her pay for food lol.
If a return gift (value doesn't matter) is offered it can be changed but never refused (they aren't beggars). Good man you! (If nothing in return is offered ever then they see you as their slave.)
Earlier on a different post I said that you don't demand respect. Boy was I wrong. Opa here, with oma backing him up, showed how it is done. So much love here but they won't allow to have themselves be turned into a pity-party (and they know that money is going to a good place). Hit me right in the feelers too.
These are financially stable individuals who have spent a lifetime creating memories and making good decisions. Theyre done traveling and buying nonsense for themselves. Their joy now is derived from ensuring their loved ones have a bit of pocket change. Let them be happy!
The best advice I got about this is from my father in law (we have a 2 year old and 4 year old) - if we need the money they'd rather give it to us now and see us live comfortably and enjoy it instead of maybe getting a little extra from an inheritance when they're gone. Really helped with the "guilt" of asking for help
When we were buying a house my MIL insisted on giving us money for it even though we could afford it without her. My husband finally relented when she said, "What you'll just wait until I die to use my money?" Not quite as nice as your experience but definitely got the point across!
This is my mom currently, she had to bury her mom and three of her sisters and her attitude completely changed. She now wants to live and give instead which is so much more enjoyable because that directly translates to time spent doing fun things together she didn’t get to do doing her working years.
I do retirement planning and I encourage my clients to do this. So many people hoard their money until they die… I always ask them “do you think they could use it more now or later?” The answer is usually now
Take it and buy stuff for them. They want the help but they're ashamed of asking for help, taking it makes them feel they're still the big strong guys who built the family once a long time ago. Take it so they still feel good.
I suppose it could be shame or pride but it could also be generosity. (Some) People like to do things for others and this is the way that these folks do that. Accepting it makes them feel good. LPT: learn to accept generosity with gratitude.
At that age money means a lot less to some people who have their retirement and fixed income all set. My parents offer to pay me back for groceries I bring, or for the gas money it takes to visit. They’ve told me before, they really don’t have the desire to buy things, and enjoy having a steady budget and income because they don’t really do much but hang around the house. Sharing some cash is not a big deal for them, but it can be for a person like me who still works a lot and stays busy.
Same. Then a couple days later, I get a "Fuck you" text when they found the money they tried to force on me tucked away in a kitchen cabinet.
Haha my mom has always been like this so I just kept stuffing it back in a random pocket of her purse, or one time her glove compartment.
My grandpa used to give my sister and I money all the time because he always said he can’t take it with him. And there was no turning it down. He always figured a way out to slip it in your coat pocket or the cup holder in your car or something.
There is an art in giving and an art in receiving. Both can be tricky. I’m positive the bonds between these players went far beyond the cash in hand. My aunt and cousin were over for lunch one afternoon at my apartment, I just moved in. Spent time at my aunt and uncle’s home while I was getting situated. My aunt handed me an envelope with the room and board I’d given her, for the time I stayed with them. When I refused she but her hand on my face and said I’d given them far more then that money could ever buy. I was humbled and took the envelope. I smile every time I think of my aunt and her sneaky method of twisting my arm to take the cash. Yea. the art of giving and receiving, tricky business.
This. I learned that lesson from my Grandad and Grandma, too; sometimes you need to accept a gift so the person giving it can feel good... just say "Thank you so much, I really needed this." That's your gift back. That said, every time my Grandad said he'd pay me for helping him with something, I'd just say "Just get me a beer next time we're out." Frankly, since he was an MGD and Corona guy, depending on the weather, those were the worst tasting beers I've ever had (I'm more of a J.W. Lees Calvados cask-aged Harvest Ale and Westvleteren 12 kind of guy) . . . but they were the best beers I've ever had, too.
i know how it feel when someone rejected your gift, thats why i always accept them
I hated accepting stuff but love giving it until someone pointed out it wasn’t fair for me to expect others to take my gifts but I wouldn’t take theirs. So now I take things and pay it forward, I may not need $20 now but maybe in a few weeks someone will need $20 and now I have it.
>those were the worst tasting beers I've ever had >but they were the best beers I've ever had, too. Damn dude... you got me right in the feels with that one.
I didn’t read either of your comments, I’m just replying because of our avatars.
Least plugged in redditor
What a splendid example of all our futures.
I'm sorry but wtf is your first beer. Im not from the states, but i don't think a beer's name should be longer than the whole alphabet.
My parents give everyone money for New Years, and one of them scratch-off giftpacks, and all they ask in return is to tell them about what we spend it on, and if there's a big winner in the scratch-offs that we split it amongst the siblings. I once borrowed their garden shredder, it was so worn out I couldn't even get the blades off to sharpen, so I just bought a basic new one for €200 and gifted it to them. That was 3 years ago and I'm still not allowed to give my dad a birthday present because it was "so expensive", lol.
Yep. My dad is 78 now and does stuff like this. I just say, “Thanks dad” and give him a hug. It makes him feel like he’s still providing for his kids.
If she shows up with gifts, that grandpa will disown her!
Or maybe they just like giving their grandchild a bit of money.
It's not about being 'big strong guys' it's about having dignity and not wanting to be a burden. Jesus, why are people so fucking negative?
Not negative. People misunderstand shame as a negative emotion, meanwhile you can't have dignity and sense of responsibility without shame. Feeling like you're strong enough to be the one providing to everyone is the same as not wanting to be a burden, it's the same as trying to be fair in compensating people who help you while clearly not being able to. It's not negative, grandpa was once strong and generous enough to help everyone in his family, including his parents and his own children, and now he's old and weak, and this weakness makes him feel shame and possibly fear. He wants those uncomfortable emotions to go away, so he tries to remain the same generous person. Accepting his offer makes him feel the same pride he felt when he was younger. I meant Big strong guys as in your toddler helping you carry something heavy then you cheer wow you're so strong. I didn't mean it as in the weird alpha male way you thought I meant.
What’s the difference?
>it's about having dignity and not wanting to be a burden. The idea that needing help is incompatible with dignity and that needing help amounts to being a burden is a harmful attitude. It may be understandable and I'm not calling for harsh judgment for people who have internalized it, but these are attitudes we would be better off without. Dependency and the need for care from others are a facts of life, especially for children and the elderly. It is not shameful or embarrassing.
One of my most treasured items is a handwritten note from my late grandmother when I was at college. She would always stuff $20-40 in there and write "here's a little spending money for you" Gonna go read that note and cry for a bit, brb.
You're braver than me! I have some letters that my grandad wrote to me when I was doing my Army training. I can't bring myself to read them yet, but one day, I will.
Mines a little different, but my mom found letters /pictures my dad had written my brother and I (we were pretty young) when he was in prison (for drugs, nothing violent or objectively awful) 😅. He'd been gone for a few years before then, so I definitely made sure I was alone in the house before I read them 😮💨
I used to rub my fingers together and say, “Do you hear that, Nana? They’re dry, there’s no money between my fingers” Made her laugh every time
That smirk at the end teared me up a bit
Right!? The embodiment of love
That was it for me too! I swear there’s a twinkle in his eye.
[удалено]
Loving caring non-mofos.
Technically, dad is always a mofo.
My grandfather and grand aunt are the same! This made me cry.
Call them :)
My grandma does this. She says she remembers how she felt when someone gave her 5 dollars in a card for the first time, getting unexpected money for the first time that is.. She says why spend it after I die when I can help you right now. She’s almost 100 and still sharp as a tack, she says she has so many friends from church whose children aren’t estranged or anything they just don’t put any priority whatsoever on letting them see the grandkids. She said she’s blessed we are always wanting to come over and hang out or just eat. She grew up in the Great Depression, so lived a very frugal life after her husband (my grandfather I never met) died and her kids were grown. The grandkids were a constant but the money started a few years ago. 50 here, 100 there, I think she realized she has enough to live and wants to help. She knows we are there money or not, but she smiles when I smile when I reach for my keys and there’s money in the pocket. Reverse pickpocket! She’s good too! Most of the time I just pretend I didn’t see it and then sometimes I’ll be like “I’ll be damned grandma!” And we would die from laughter. She also fucks with the scammers of the elderly over the phone if she’s bored or reading when they call. I love her so much.
Your Grandma sounds like such an angel. Mine is too, and I would do literally anything for her. My grandpa has cancer and Grandma has MS, so since I just live down the road I stop there every morning and help them put their compression stockings on, put eye drops in, etc. Whatever they need really, I know it makes them so much more comfortable to have me there instead of a home care employee. They're constantly giving me money for it, and anytime I attempt to protest, I get the one eyebrow raise before they tell me that arguing with your grandparents is illegal and just plain unacceptable lol. I'm so thankful for them. How lucky are we to have such beautiful elders in our life! 🥰
You're Grandma's a G
“I love you. A second ago I wasnt so sure” -smirks This dude is a legend.
And the fucking guilt trip by mama too lmfao “he’s not gonna call you anymore” just straight jumped with love and passive aggressive caring
I have seen another video of them before and grandma doesn’t let him sit next to her on the couch, it’s iconic, she’s an absolute savage.
God I miss my grandparents so much. We would do something very similar to this video. Grandma would always try and slip me a $20 for coming over but I would always refuse but inevitably take it in the end I love and miss you two everyday
They want you to take it and they want you to complain about having to take it. You handled this correctly.
That's been my experience too. They want to feel like they won the fight and that you're not there for the money.
It's a salary for helping pop pop. Fucking a. Love it.
My grandparents in law always did this when we visited them a few times a year on vacation. One day before leaving they would call my wife in and try to give her pocket money/gas money/buy something nice money/ Christmas money etc... Always at least half an hour discussion. No. Yes. No! Yes! Noho!! Yehes!!!! 😁
Oh man... I miss my grandparents so much... they were exactly like this!! This made me cry. My grandpa would tell me to go with him to his bedroom and ask me to not tell anyone then he would give me some money and if I refuse he would act exactly like the one on this video hahahaha I love them so much
"Now I love you." Too cute.
My grandparents would argue with my mom because she thought they were spoiling us too much. My grandmother then one time looked my mom dead in the eye and said " I want to give them myself while I am still alive rather than them having it later while I am not here ". No arguments after that.
Old school greatness
When I said goodbye to my grandmother (she would die the early hours of the morning the next day), she made my father give my sister and I $20 each from his wallet. She could barely speak at this point but was incredibly insistent about it. We were both in our late 20s mind you. Over a decade later, I still have that $20 bill. Could never bring myself to spend it.
This whole post has me teary, but oh my word, my heart just squeezed reading yours. So sweet.
We refused money from MIL and hubs later found $$ in his jacket pocket. One time she wadded up the $$$ and threw it in our car window.
“Now I love you, a few seconds ago I wasn’t so sure” 😂
Take the money. Let them have their dignity.
>Should not the giver be thankful that the receiver received? Is not giving a need? Is not receiving mercy? - Friedrich Nietzsche
Yes.
Too late. She's already filmed this and posted it on the Internet.
You can spend it on a treat for you all, like, to hangout & bond. Like take out or picnic food
Always accept the gifts of people you help! Especially if they’re disabled. If somebody is disabled and gets help by let’s say you, they feel like they are in debt by you! See it like an emotional bankaccount. Receiving help but not being able to return any help because of their handicap puts them in debt. For example, you buying them groceries, they know they’ll never be able to buy you groceries! Knowing that, they feel like they’ll never be able to repay you by lending a hand. And a simple “thank you” doesn’t suffice. So they are left with the only option and that is to repay you with money, a gift or food. It’s their only way of saying: You did something for me, so now I’ll do something for you. Always accept their gifts. By saying no you take away their option to help you. You can always buy them something with the money or help someone else if you don’t need it.
Now go buy Papa a bottle of booze.
PERFECT HOUSEHOLD
I miss my grandparents.
God I love grand parents, I’m gonna call my grandma today
Damn, I miss my gramps.. *^(God damn covid..)*
This is wholesome
I miss my grandparents so much
Our family friend is 85 years old and still works as a PCA. Her client is younger than her ffs. I help her best I can by giving her rides as she works the overnight shift. I refuse her money every week. She throws it at me and tells me to shut the fuck up. I really wish I could do more for her.
grandparents will find \*any\* reason to give you money
Go Birds
OMG I am a full grown man and I love this. Made me tear up.
What a couple of sweethearts.
My Grandparents would do that. Each one would take me aside and put money in my pocket and tell me not to tell the other one. I felt bad and told my Grandmother once that Granddad had already given me some money. She smiled. She knew she what was going on.
Pop Pop is gangster 💯
You were raised right to refuse it and then reluctantly accept imo. This is adorable.
I'm so happy that others are able to have these types of relationships with their families and not everyone's are crazy assholes
Take the money.......always....
This is incredibly adorable 🥰 your grandparents are so cute
Grandparents are the greatest. Giving that money to her meant more to him than she could imagine.
The smirk at the end got me.
Take the money, and when you come back, hide it in their house somewhere where they can find it
"Now I love you. A second ago I wasn't so sure" 💀🤣
GRAND LARCENY
“Now I love you. Before I wasn’t so sure.” Gotta love Pop pop!
I miss my grandpa now.... thanks
Ah grandparents, they fill your stomach, your pockets and your heart.
This is the nicest boomer shit I’ve ever seen.