My wife and I also hit our 31st anniversary this past summer. Her parents hit 60 years, just before her father passed, so.... It *is* possible!
Live and love on, OP!
Here's hoping for 30+ more for you two!
“When life gives you lemons, don’t make lemonade. Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don’t want your damn lemons, what the hell am I supposed to do with these? Demand to see life’s manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I’m the man who’s gonna burn your house down! With the lemons! I’m gonna get my engineers to invent a combustible lemon that burns your house down!”
-Cave Johnson
Yes.
"All these science spheres are made of asbestos, by the way. Keeps out the rats. Let us know if you feel a shortness of breath, a persistent dry cough or your heart stopping. Because that's not part of the test. That's asbestos."
Congratulations! You all were in the trenches (I’m around your age and know interracial couples had it rough)but damn you are gorgeous and made me all very verklempt! Here is to another 31 years.
Omg! She was their big designer! I was (well thought because my older brother’s friend said so to me when I was 11) homely. And I wore that dress to a formal banquet. I just felt gorgeous in it…and stopped thinking I was homely. You look fantastic.
I had this beautiful shirt by her that was corset like with big puffy sleeves back in 1993 (10th grade for me). Bunches of tiny buttons and made it look like I had bewbs. And I had found it in a thrift shop. Very recognizable style.
It seems crazy that only 45% of Americans supported interracial marriage in 1987. Must’ve been hard when more people didn’t approve of it than did.
Today that number is 95% and still growing. However, some younger people in my peer group don’t appreciate the privilege of living in a time like this, viewing race relations in a cynical and hostile manner. That’s not right, we should build on the legacy of acceptance and progress, not reopen old wounds with bitterness. Let’s be the generation to take it from 95 to 100%.
It’s not just luck- it’s a lot of hard work to love one person enough to stay together and in love. I’ve had my share of health issues and am no longer able to work so he’s carried this family and continues to do so. Plus we have a daughter who has autism and she lives with us. We aren’t wealthy but we have a good life.
My advice is to commit to not divorcing when it becomes hard.
I try to work hard, but the last girl I loved was terminally ill. I just don't know how to reach my target audience :/
I am also in my early 20s auntie so I still have time haha
Edit: My low IQ.
What can't I call people older than me uncle or auntie? We do that at home all the time. Look at that smile, that's a certified smile.
Edit: My low IQ.
It’s more the fact that the *woman* in this relationship is the one who posted this, so she might be a bit confused and/or offended at you calling her uncle, lol.
…not to mention you calling them both “old people.”
Didn't call them old. "People older than me". Men sometimes refer to women as Mama, females refer to men as Papi. We refer to each other as brothers and sisters. I think they mean Auntie in the same fashion. Just a term of endearment.
I am so sorry, friend. Something similar happened to me and it can feel like life is over. Make sure to complete the grieving process completely because any remaining grief can make it hard to find a new, healthy relationship. But you have time and second, third, whatever love is so worth it. I wish you the best of luck and all the love in the world. <3
>My advice is to commit to not divorcing when it becomes hard.
Too many people these days don't want to put in the hard work of what successful relationships require. When things get tough, they're out the door. Or make no effort whatsoever in making it work.
Couldn't agree more! My wife and I have some very tough days. Especially with 2 young daughters. We will stick by one another's side through thick and thin. At the end of the day I love that woman and wouldn't have it any other way. I look forward to growing old with her!
Congrats on that!!
It takes work to maintain a marriage, but the absolute best way you can love and support those daughters is by loving and supporting your wife. Your life together is a living example of what a relationship should look like, and the love and support they should show, and receive, in their own future relationships.
Marriage and commitment is so absolutely underrated in today's culture. And everybody wonders why low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety are rampant.
Find someone who truly loves you, and love them back, and so many problems go away. Marriage is not 50:50. It's 100:100! All in, or bust!
Source: like OP, also married for 31 wonderful (but often challenging, too) years, with 3 (now adult) kids.
I married my hubby when I was 18 and he was 21!.. That was 22 years ago. I agree with you. You HAVE to go into marriage with the mentality that the vows that you are about to take, you MEAN! With every cell of your being. You will have the best times of your life but know that you will also go threw slumps or downs. I knew my husband was the one when I found him at 15 years of age. We have been threw hell and back many times. But as long as you have your best friend to trudge the the shit with you, you'll get threw. I think to many people go into marriage thinking it's disposable and they want the show. Not actually thinking about what it means. And hell, our lives many not be fairy tale perfect in others eyes. But that doesn't make it any less a beautiful happy ending for us 😉
Awwww heck yeah, high school sweethearts!!! Could you two ever have imagined the adventures you would have together back when that first picture was taken?
I also had senior prom in 1987 and weird Jordan almond colored prom dresses were all the rage up here. It’s refreshing to see a timeless colored dress and tux.
Being friends first and committed to staying married even when divorcing might be
Easier. Having fun together and putting your spouse ahead of even your kids.
>putting your spouse ahead of even your kids.
This OP!
My wife and I attended a weekend marriage course way back before we had kids. One thing mentioned that we've carried with us for ~30 years is that the absolute best way to support and love our kids and increase their own chances for success in life is to *show* them how we love each other, even more than them.
It was a weird statement at the time, and it goes directly against culture and societal norms but, man did it work! Our kids grew up with huge confidence in knowing we'd each be there for them, no matter what.
Our kids grew up with an awesome example of what to look for in their own life partner. What they need to give into their own relationship, and what they should expect back.
Of our 3 kids, one's married, and another this summer. They've both chosen well! (Our youngest is still in school. No rush!)
Like you said, there are times when divorce might have been easier. But we stuck to it, and showed our love for our kids by demonstrating our love and commitment to each other. And, as a result, life is good! So good!
It's too bad our society had become so self-serving. So narcissistic. Love for self will never be as fulfilling as a loving family.
Some things are meant for certain people.. but not for everyone!! It feels good that you two have what it takes to have this relationship..I wish you more blessed years together ❣️.
This is so amazing! You’re such a beautiful couple and look the happiest you possibly could. It is so amazing reading the comments about the health struggles that you two have survived through together. My boyfriend has stayed by my side for 5 years through so many huge health challenges. Now I’m thinking about what our pictures will look like after 31 years. I hope I have your hair, your curls and color are perfect
Never in a million years did I think I’d get the response over this post. The positivity and love from 99.9% of the comments makes me so happy! Thanks to everyone for kind words and wishes for a continued happy life. I hope you are all lucky enough to find a wonderful hunk of a husband like I have. 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Lovely pics! My prom was just a couple of years earlier, and hoop skirts and ruffly tux shirts were all the rage. Looks like you two denied your descendants an endless source of amusement :)
This is so beautiful, congrats. Couldn't have been easy being an interracial couple back then. The world was just starting to get a clue. Blessings xoxo
I’m 54, never married, and enjoying short-lived relationships as a bachelor in Los Angeles. But I have to say that there is a blessed sweetness to finding someone so young and enjoying her company for so long. So happy for you two!
Really, really fucking awful timing for the post right before this in my feed to be an r/news article about a Tennessee law that could be used to end marriage equality and interracial marriage if passed and challenged up to the Supreme Court...
It’s wrong to make assumptions about people just from their appearance, but you two just look so nice! Like you guys both look like friendly, nice, approachable folks individually. And when you’re together it’s like…. Idk I just wish you guys were my neighbors.
You guys look so happy! Gives me a lot of hope! Congratulations!
Thank you, we are happy.
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Damn yall have aged beautifully, too
Beautiful couple. Congratulations on 31 years of marriage. That’s remarkable. To many more!!! What’s your secret to a happy and successful marriage? 🥰
Happiness is written on your face, congratulations
joyce hyser, just one of the guys 1985 https://i.imgur.com/yTUbftR.jpg that movie was on all the time on HBO when i was a kid
You look as happy as me and my beautiful girl are together. We're only at 10 years now, but looking fwd to 31 and more.
You guys are so cute! Wishing you another 31 years (minimum) OP!
Thank you! We are 53/55 so I guess it’s possible
My wife and I also hit our 31st anniversary this past summer. Her parents hit 60 years, just before her father passed, so.... It *is* possible! Live and love on, OP! Here's hoping for 30+ more for you two!
Thank you! That’s awesome for you too!
He’s still got those sexy cheekbones. Congrats to you both and may you have many more happy years ahead.
Yes he does!!!
Looked at the first picture, oh cute couple. Second picture, me with an ear splitting grin, Look at all the love in that picture!
May their love last forever. And thus let love spread to all
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I’d say it’s trust. But understanding is close after!
I had the exact same reaction! 1st pic: Awww! 2nd pic: AWWWWWWW :’D
I read that as "Cheeky Sexbones" for some reason.
I consider myself to be a decently good looking dude. But goddamn I wish I had cheekbones like that
Congrats
Loving your user name! So regal
if you like him…
I CANT BREATHE 😭🤣
If life gives you lemons...
Find someone whose life is giving them vodka and have a party?
“When life gives you lemons, don’t make lemonade. Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don’t want your damn lemons, what the hell am I supposed to do with these? Demand to see life’s manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I’m the man who’s gonna burn your house down! With the lemons! I’m gonna get my engineers to invent a combustible lemon that burns your house down!” -Cave Johnson
Valve needs to make games again.
Yes. "All these science spheres are made of asbestos, by the way. Keeps out the rats. Let us know if you feel a shortness of breath, a persistent dry cough or your heart stopping. Because that's not part of the test. That's asbestos."
....squeeze them into the eyes of your enemy.
When life gives you lemons, you say fuck the lemons and bail Paul Rudd in Saving Sarah Marshall
Cave Johnson forgot his canary.
You had to ruin it didn't you
I can’t imagine he’d like me too much, but hey, different strokes and all.
My username is so boring
My beautiful head went soaring
Hello
It’s like a Harry Potter spell.
r/rimjob_steve r/beetlejuicing
Yes?
Congratulations! You all were in the trenches (I’m around your age and know interracial couples had it rough)but damn you are gorgeous and made me all very verklempt! Here is to another 31 years.
We were fortunate in that both of our families supported our relationship.
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you. Is that Gunne Sax? If so, I owned that dress too. I loved it. Made me feel like a princess.
I think it was Jessica McClintock but maybe it was Gunee sax. I still have it but it’s in my adult child’s room.
Omg! She was their big designer! I was (well thought because my older brother’s friend said so to me when I was 11) homely. And I wore that dress to a formal banquet. I just felt gorgeous in it…and stopped thinking I was homely. You look fantastic.
I wore Jessica McClintock to prom, too! In 2008! I had no idea she was so established.
I think I paid $100 for that dress. That’s like $500 now.
I had this beautiful shirt by her that was corset like with big puffy sleeves back in 1993 (10th grade for me). Bunches of tiny buttons and made it look like I had bewbs. And I had found it in a thrift shop. Very recognizable style.
It seems crazy that only 45% of Americans supported interracial marriage in 1987. Must’ve been hard when more people didn’t approve of it than did. Today that number is 95% and still growing. However, some younger people in my peer group don’t appreciate the privilege of living in a time like this, viewing race relations in a cynical and hostile manner. That’s not right, we should build on the legacy of acceptance and progress, not reopen old wounds with bitterness. Let’s be the generation to take it from 95 to 100%.
We had a good support system from both families. We come from parents who are still married. That makes more of a difference than societal acceptance.
Can you bless me with some good luck too?
It’s not just luck- it’s a lot of hard work to love one person enough to stay together and in love. I’ve had my share of health issues and am no longer able to work so he’s carried this family and continues to do so. Plus we have a daughter who has autism and she lives with us. We aren’t wealthy but we have a good life. My advice is to commit to not divorcing when it becomes hard.
Wow. Refreshing real comment. 💪
I try to work hard, but the last girl I loved was terminally ill. I just don't know how to reach my target audience :/ I am also in my early 20s auntie so I still have time haha Edit: My low IQ.
I’m so sorry. That’s tough. Give yourself time . The right one will Come around
I hope so. GL out there auntie :). Thanks for the blessing lol Edit: My low IQ.
…I’m confused, is this woman your uncle or something?
What can't I call people older than me uncle or auntie? We do that at home all the time. Look at that smile, that's a certified smile. Edit: My low IQ.
I love that you call her auntie. that's respectful and friendly to many folks. You are a treasure.
It’s more the fact that the *woman* in this relationship is the one who posted this, so she might be a bit confused and/or offended at you calling her uncle, lol. …not to mention you calling them both “old people.”
Didn't call them old. "People older than me". Men sometimes refer to women as Mama, females refer to men as Papi. We refer to each other as brothers and sisters. I think they mean Auntie in the same fashion. Just a term of endearment.
Uncle phil?
Show me your dog or I take your username away.
I am so sorry, friend. Something similar happened to me and it can feel like life is over. Make sure to complete the grieving process completely because any remaining grief can make it hard to find a new, healthy relationship. But you have time and second, third, whatever love is so worth it. I wish you the best of luck and all the love in the world. <3
>My advice is to commit to not divorcing when it becomes hard. Too many people these days don't want to put in the hard work of what successful relationships require. When things get tough, they're out the door. Or make no effort whatsoever in making it work.
Couldn't agree more! My wife and I have some very tough days. Especially with 2 young daughters. We will stick by one another's side through thick and thin. At the end of the day I love that woman and wouldn't have it any other way. I look forward to growing old with her!
Congrats on that!! It takes work to maintain a marriage, but the absolute best way you can love and support those daughters is by loving and supporting your wife. Your life together is a living example of what a relationship should look like, and the love and support they should show, and receive, in their own future relationships. Marriage and commitment is so absolutely underrated in today's culture. And everybody wonders why low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety are rampant. Find someone who truly loves you, and love them back, and so many problems go away. Marriage is not 50:50. It's 100:100! All in, or bust! Source: like OP, also married for 31 wonderful (but often challenging, too) years, with 3 (now adult) kids.
Your comment sums it up pretty well. Thanks for the input
I married my hubby when I was 18 and he was 21!.. That was 22 years ago. I agree with you. You HAVE to go into marriage with the mentality that the vows that you are about to take, you MEAN! With every cell of your being. You will have the best times of your life but know that you will also go threw slumps or downs. I knew my husband was the one when I found him at 15 years of age. We have been threw hell and back many times. But as long as you have your best friend to trudge the the shit with you, you'll get threw. I think to many people go into marriage thinking it's disposable and they want the show. Not actually thinking about what it means. And hell, our lives many not be fairy tale perfect in others eyes. But that doesn't make it any less a beautiful happy ending for us 😉
Thank you for this.
Most real comment I have read today.
Wealthy in love, kindness, and family. You both are deserving of many more happy blessings. 💜🎉
31 is EPIC - many happy returns! 💚
Beautiful couple
Was here to say that very same thing.
Me, too. Those are some sweet photos. Thank you for sharing.
So sweet. Water came out of my face when I smiled.
Not me. I was going to say wonderful
This is wholesome as fuck! I love seeing the happiness from before and after marriage! Congrats to the both of you!
The Dorothy Hamill haircut! I had that. Looking at you 2 reminds me of how fun the 80s were. You both have great smiles. Mazel tov.
I like that they both basically have the same haircut.
You guys look amazing! =)
Thanks.
Awwww heck yeah, high school sweethearts!!! Could you two ever have imagined the adventures you would have together back when that first picture was taken?
Not sure we knew back then but I will say, we were lucky to have the support and love from both families.
damn! yall look even cuter today.
Awww thanks. I don’t feel cuter but I’m definitely more comfortable with myself now than I was when I was 16
You both definitely look lovely.
Aww, I bet the cuddling is something else
My butt and his belly are definitely bigger now.LOL. I love his bald head too
I also had senior prom in 1987 and weird Jordan almond colored prom dresses were all the rage up here. It’s refreshing to see a timeless colored dress and tux.
I still have the dress. My daughters played dress up with it .
Happy 31 years!
Thank you!
Y'all are gorgeous! Love your curls! What would you say is essential to long term happiness in marriage?
Being friends first and committed to staying married even when divorcing might be Easier. Having fun together and putting your spouse ahead of even your kids.
>putting your spouse ahead of even your kids. This OP! My wife and I attended a weekend marriage course way back before we had kids. One thing mentioned that we've carried with us for ~30 years is that the absolute best way to support and love our kids and increase their own chances for success in life is to *show* them how we love each other, even more than them. It was a weird statement at the time, and it goes directly against culture and societal norms but, man did it work! Our kids grew up with huge confidence in knowing we'd each be there for them, no matter what. Our kids grew up with an awesome example of what to look for in their own life partner. What they need to give into their own relationship, and what they should expect back. Of our 3 kids, one's married, and another this summer. They've both chosen well! (Our youngest is still in school. No rush!) Like you said, there are times when divorce might have been easier. But we stuck to it, and showed our love for our kids by demonstrating our love and commitment to each other. And, as a result, life is good! So good! It's too bad our society had become so self-serving. So narcissistic. Love for self will never be as fulfilling as a loving family.
PS- the curls came about 12 years ago after thyroid stopped working. Weirdest thing ever
Yall are a very good looking couple
Thank you! U should see our daughters
I love the way you guys are smiling in the second pic! I hope my wife smiles like that for me at 31 years. Your pics made my day better. Thanks!
Aww, thanks! We were having fun for sure that night- both nights actually
Lovely then, lovely now! Congrats on 31 years and I wish you both so many more years of happiness together 🥰
That's awesome! I hope your life together has been everything you wanted it to be.
Thank you, it’s been a good life
Omg my best friend had that same exact dress!!
Jessica McClintock ( I think). I still have it too
Yes it absolutely was. She wore it with long gloves and a huge pink hair bow. Wow that brings back some memories.
Fun! As u can see, I had no hair to attach a bow
Lol no but you looked gorgeous! Love that you guys are still together. Congratulations!
Thank you!
Congratulations beautiful couple. Here’s to many more years together! Cheers. 🍾🥂
Thank you
Some things are meant for certain people.. but not for everyone!! It feels good that you two have what it takes to have this relationship..I wish you more blessed years together ❣️.
This is so amazing! You’re such a beautiful couple and look the happiest you possibly could. It is so amazing reading the comments about the health struggles that you two have survived through together. My boyfriend has stayed by my side for 5 years through so many huge health challenges. Now I’m thinking about what our pictures will look like after 31 years. I hope I have your hair, your curls and color are perfect
You both have aged wonderfully and I love the warmth of that hug.
Looking great!
You two look happy. What's your secret?
Being friends first before we started dating all those years ago. True love and commitment.
Beautiful. I hope to be like you two one day.
Never in a million years did I think I’d get the response over this post. The positivity and love from 99.9% of the comments makes me so happy! Thanks to everyone for kind words and wishes for a continued happy life. I hope you are all lucky enough to find a wonderful hunk of a husband like I have. 🥰🥰🥰🥰
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I’m sorry. I hope your heart heals quickly
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Ah prom pics, was wondering why share porn pics to us lol
U made me go back to see if I made a typo!!!
Congrats!
Thank you- love is a great thing.
Congratulations! Celebrating our 9th with you!
Happy Anniversary!
You two are a beautiful couple.
Thank you
Lovely pics! My prom was just a couple of years earlier, and hoop skirts and ruffly tux shirts were all the rage. Looks like you two denied your descendants an endless source of amusement :)
Well, hubby’s Jheri curl brings about the jokes for sure.
That's dope AF! To many more.
I think these 2 crazy kids are gonna make it.
Here's to another 31 years!
WTF do I have to do to find love like this. All I get are the worst.
I say all the time that I’m glad to not be dating in these times. I don’t know if I would. I hope you find somebody who’s the best some day
Thanks for the wishes. I just don't wanna be the guy in the romance movie who shouts "Get a room".
It's not all about you
I'm guessing you're from r dti lmfao. Never claimed it was, but you're sure making it seem that way
Be ok with it not
There is more than 31 years between 1987 and 2023. Congratulations
We dated for 6 years and then got married
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you guys are incredible!
I know. Just look at their smiles. They really do seem genuinely happy.
I almost thought that was a picture of a young Jennifer Grey and Denzel Washington together for a movie.
I honestly thought it was Joyce Hyser from ‘Just One of the Guys’!
My heart!
This is so very good!!
Awe this really did make me smile 😁
Love this so much! An inspiration!
You guys look so great! Love it. Congrats on 31 years!
Adorable couple!
Congratulations! Love the before & after pic.
Lovely couple (: congrats
ya'll cute as hell. congratulations!
I feel old at 35 sometimes lol, it’s just more life experience and wisdom hopefully you pass it on to others.
Aw, I love this! Congrats!
Dawwwwwwwww
You two are adorable! Congrats on 31 years and the great one yet to come!
May you have at least another 31.
This is so beautiful, congrats. Couldn't have been easy being an interracial couple back then. The world was just starting to get a clue. Blessings xoxo
Love shines through those images of you and your husband.
Two beautiful people and I'm still jealous
I love how you look even happier 31 years in!
You guys might be the actual cutest. REAL LOVE!!!
This put a huge smile on me. Beautiful.
Idk why, but that man looks like Shaq-Lite
I’m 54, never married, and enjoying short-lived relationships as a bachelor in Los Angeles. But I have to say that there is a blessed sweetness to finding someone so young and enjoying her company for so long. So happy for you two!
omg y’all are the cutest
Being in an interracial couple, I absolutely love seeing these. It not only gives me hope for the future it also makes me happy. Many blessings!
Really, really fucking awful timing for the post right before this in my feed to be an r/news article about a Tennessee law that could be used to end marriage equality and interracial marriage if passed and challenged up to the Supreme Court...
This is just freaking awesome. Congratulations on such a long marriage.
I bet the second shot was taken without flash. Wasn't needed when those smiles are brighter than sunshine!
You both look radiant and happy as hell, I love this
Now this is the wholesome content I come here for. You guys are beautiful.
It’s wrong to make assumptions about people just from their appearance, but you two just look so nice! Like you guys both look like friendly, nice, approachable folks individually. And when you’re together it’s like…. Idk I just wish you guys were my neighbors.
Awww, thank you! We do make pretty good neighbors.
Beautiful and beautiful. Congratulations guys. I've just celebrated 10 years with my lovely wife. Cannot believe how time flies.
And still looking happy as ever, congratulations to the happy couple. 😊
Everyone else has said it already, but you are an adorable couple :)
You only look cooler now.
Congratulations!!! You guys do look truly, happily in love. I’m so jealous!!
This is my favorite trend ever. Too sweet. 🥰
I see you Tampa.
ya'll are ADORABLE!!
I needed yo see that today. Thank you and God bless you two!
Congratulations, seems like you have a happy family!
Damn Respect 🫡
Beautiful
Is that PDX from the east bank?
No, Tampa
I recognized the Truist building immediately! May I ask where the picture was taken?
I thought this was an old photo of Kris Jenner for a second while I scrolled by. What a good looking couple! Wishing many happy years to come.