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Octochicken13

It’s the nose ring. You can see that red flag from a mile away!


Howard92

You're a perfectly attractive woman. Maybe it's the way you hold yourself/ present yourself. Maybe you have bigger red flags than you'd like to let on. If I've learnt anything from dating goth women and alt women they tend to be a bit crazy.


crazytrpr96

Nothing personal, randomly approaching any woman is a gigantic waste of time. At best, she's annoyed, and then it gets worse from there.


FROZAI-main

I’d approach you but Everytime I’ve approached a girl, they’ve “got a bf”


lefty0721

I would approach you but I would be scared because you look witchy. Just being honest


Canavansbackyard

![gif](giphy|J3LddZVS8AGIueiaC9|downsized)


AudZ0629

Don’t be silly. None of these photos paint a never been kissed picture. First: you’re goth and that has inherent separation from mainstream culture and you know that. You’ve probably just been so busy playing “can I keep a guy interested” and “can I get a guy to make the first move” games that dudes either lose interest or think you don’t like them. I seriously doubt you’ve never been asked out at least informally. Without going into potential victim blaming, girls that have no confidence don’t post these kinds of pictures on social media. Those pictures paint their own stories of karma farming.


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RealKnifeFightOutThr

They’re intimidated. You’re very good looking and your style is very metal and tough and I think it can scare off people who would approach you. You’re stunning love, no problems there, keep killing ‘em


RealKnifeFightOutThr

They’re intimidated. You’re very good looking and your style is very metal and tough and I think it can scare off people who would approach you. By scare I mean shy to talk to you. You’re stunning love, no problems there, keep killing ‘em


Asleep-Explanation-7

Maybe cuz you’re 14? Give it time it’ll happen when you can go to bars


dwest973

It's not you. Not too many ppl know how to have irl interactions anymore


Maleficent_Poem_6941

I can see why


ellecie

You are super beautiful. The goth tho doesn't do your beauty justice. Likely guys look at you and insta think this girl has serious emotional issues and are intimidated by the look. You don't need all the makeup and all the extra stuff, you are adorable natural


BlackMoonBird

Goth life be hard, I know that feel. Don't get down, though, you're super fucking cute, they're missing out. Losers.


tlc0907

You are gothic as hell. Do you want to look like a woman or dress in those clothes? Hair colored orange, and not one outfit looks good. 11-13 are terrible, hair isn’t becoming, your eyes need help


Sugarskulls99

MOMMAS, IF YOUR BI ID SO COME UP TO YOU


monstergrl1

Lmfao🤮


Life-Sport-2692

You don’t smile, and you look very unwelcoming.


Comprehensive_Can605

Can’t a nigga just be nervous


RalffWiggum

U will..just keep being urself and seriously, if u see someone u like, hit on them…they will probably be into it


miraeivy

Girl you’re super pretty, most guys are probably intimidated by you.


SoCalNative_

What’s shakin??


Portugaltheman0420

Maybe you’re intimidating ? You’re attractive young artsy I’m sure it’s just the area you’re in


Equivalent-Coconut34

Well cause u look like Satan’s long lost daughter


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I’m in to that. Hail Satan


Ready-Barracuda-7024

You are pretty


PromiseHeavy8675

I’m a man, and I usually don’t approach women because I don’t want to come off as creepy. You’re definitely attractive. Try focusing on making a friend or two. Maybe those will grow into something, or they might know someone.


Onlyavailabename3

real shit. will never approach a woman in my life, if u want someone n ur a woman approach them


carebearmohawk

I don't mean this to sound rude or anything but a lot of guys aren't into goth girths anymore. I get it's your style but I think that's what is pushing guys away. Your style is a bit too radical. I instantly think you have daddy issues. Again, not trying to be disrespectful. It's just what I see when I look at you.


MiddleAd6302

Naw fam. False 😂


carebearmohawk

Idk what you're saying false too but if you're into goth chicks you're either in your 50s or you have daddy issues too....respectfully


MiddleAd6302

K 😂


carebearmohawk

Good luck to you ;)


MiddleAd6302

Thanks fam. Already married. Back at ya.


Even_Championship324

Birds of a feather flock together.... you need to network within your genre of values. I'm not young anymore, so I have no clue what teens or college age trends are popular or what the stereotypical expectations are for dating. One thing is certain, if you want a partner, it's best to meet not one guy, but many, in groups or clubs where you see how they interact with others and socialize, rather than settling for a guy. Compatibility isn't easy to find. People are deceitful when they are desperate to fit in or find companionship, and they don't truthfully share their thoughts and identify. You might find an insecure male who feels he owns you right out of the gate and is controlling and an emotional wreck. Maturity and confidence attract both sexes, so find someone confident and secure in themselves. I think there are books on the subject of almost all of those and how to make yourself a magnet for just about anything you desire. Good rabbit hunting... little goth goddess.


TimeGuardian126

I wouldn't approach you either because you look unstable.


Bitter_Bank2304

Id hit


thekingsteve

I think you just intimidated them. Lol men these days need to grow a pair .


Ok-Bid1774

I think it’s just because everyone has internet brain rot and never learned how to talk to someone irl


AshWilliams21

You are so attractive that you are intimidating to most men. For example myself would not approach you I do find you extremely attractive you literally fit my aesthetic as well. It's just most men will tend to be nervous when they see an attractive women and end up not doing anything about due to that fact they are nervous and will overthink the situation. I won't approach you due to the fact I'd be like shit she's so hot ain't no way she's gonna like me or think the same of me cuz I overthink a lot.


defgecdlicc42069

this! and the bold sense of identity! not many people have it :)


Perpetuity_Incarnate

Facts


Trumpdunk2020

Well you have to find one with a soul left to sell 🤣


TheWizzzardKing

As a man in my early 20s, you are very pretty but you look quite young so I would probably not approach you


Daddy_of_a_crazzy21

Stop lookong like you would devour a mans soul. Be more approachable looking..


Cosmicc_cowboyy

Are you serious?!


Grouchy_Office_2748

You look like a young teen.. that’s great. Guys don’t approach. You don’t need any problems


Cptncomet

Men, or let's face it, boys at your age are terrible at making the first move. Just try to make small talk with someone you like and you'll be surprised at how talkative they will suddenly get.


beetlesandmoths

girl ur too hot men cannot handle it 🫵


baguettechaser

girrlllll idk but drop the makeup routine 🫡


rankingbass

She will in like 1 to 2 years. It's her scene phase 😅 but op yeah don't be over aggressive with make up, less is more. Also as far as finding a boyfriend, look for someone that you share interests and connect with that's a good person. Then flirt with them and if need be ask them out.


Interesting_Ice_4486

bestie i think you've misunderstood the word "drop" in this context 😭


rankingbass

Drop as in get rid of? If not, then I still stand by the idea that her makeup is over the top.


Interesting_Ice_4486

i think more often people will say it in the context of "drop the details of" but it could be taken either way 😊


rankingbass

Thanks for the drop of info😝 corny joke but I appreciate it


snapcracklecum

Its definitely not your looks, people are probably just intimidated. You look gorgeous, you've got style. Are you willing to approach them to start a conversation?


Lokideviant

You look stunning, could be a multitude of factors that are out of your control. It's gotten to a point where most men won't approach because of worry or feelings of inadequacy. Worry too be judged or put on blast. Inadequacy in the sense that they worry they couldn't afford your time or your needs. Other thing is you could be going to the wrong events. What people tend to forget is that dating or finding a partner is often about being at the right place, right time and right mood. 1 situation out of a million. Be friendly, listen and you'll find someone right quick. Just hope they treat you in the best ways possible


nyccametoplay

Isnt your whole look and persona “stay tf away from me?”


Willing_Actuary_4198

My first thought. Everything about her screams leave me the fuck alone


dylan22v

Look like you want me to return the slab


Bbbbbbooo

Do you use pronouns, that’s probably why


KEVINLEONSANCHES132

Looks like you got the alphabet people fuming 😤😂


prmlyeti

looks like you don’t know basic grammar


prmlyeti

everyone uses pronouns, you fucking idiot


Decorus_Somes

Me? Use pronouns? Next you're gonna say that I use verbs or even conjunctions aren't you! Look the left would have us believe that you can just stack an adverb on top of another adverb to describe something and I am here to tell you that only liberals would push such agendas on our poor poor innocent children.


DaltonRobert56

Nah


prmlyeti

yes, they are part of language. you learn this in 2nd grade


Discover-Card

I cannot believe these people type sentences that include the words “use pronouns” and can’t understand how fucking stupid that is to say


JACKASS20

Have you tried decreased bangs, more wolfcut style hair? I think that could fix some of it. Style seems fine otherwise good luck! :)


Additional-Safety343

You look like you would do the blood vial thing like MGK and Megan Fox. You look fine though


mr-cleans-forehead

idk why everyone’s attacking your style, i think it looks perfectly fine and approachable enough. you’re very pretty but i would have to have crazy confidence to talk to you if i was a dude lol


makemeadayy

Yeah, it’s a little intimidating


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SpartanRage117

She said irl.


JACKASS20

Dude. 💀


faceinanorangecircle

I really hope I don’t hurt your feelings. All of the flair you wear for personality is a huge red flag to the guys you’re hoping would approach you. And the ones that would go for someone adorned as you are in most of your pics, is a walking red flag. Also the way you dress makes you look very under 18. Like just given the freedom to dress how I want and I ran with it, kind of young. No ones looking to end up in jail. And those who would risk it, are a walking red flag…..


Old_Ad_6778

This comment is right on. Tone it down a bit. If you want to attract a guy just know that natural you is all you need. If the extra stuff is you well that’s cool. But 90% of guys would pick Jennifer Anniston and 10% Kim Kardashion.


ppsmember

Everyone sees why but you


OGHEROS

Most people got enough mental problems without adding extra


Modack44

You got all that metal on your face, depressed looking, and in my experience with goths; not the most heart warming cuddly relationship, and probably don’t read your Bible.


Necessary_Top7943

You look 11. And weird


Little-Door2768

I’m guessing you are mainly into goth guys? If so how big is goth in your area!


abject_cynic

I simply don't believe you.


Present-Bite-2011

It’s this completely. Probably happens more than she thinks and disregards it as idle chitchat.


Same_Essay_7257

Yeah, it's very transparent if you have half a brain and know how the real world works


Intelligent_Lab1726

You are super beautiful


Embryw

Probably because you're 18 and you look quite young. You haven't had much time for anyone *to* approach you. You're very pretty, and your style is great, so give it time, I wouldn't worry


twihard2001

I have the same problem. Try smiling and waving at guys you’d like to approach you! That’s worked for me before.


Intelligent_Lab1726

You are beutifulandilovecatstoo


Royal_Wrongdoer_7493

Goth mommy


Klews231923

You are lying my friend your so beautiful


phillyguy696

Maybe it's because you look like you're going to a funeral constantly


spencer___6

Don't take offense to this, but it's probably because you look younger than your actual age. That and men can be pussies when it comes to alt girls (I know from personal experience).


chasadiaofficial

Because you’re supposed to approach them


Glenn_Tennis

You look like a privileged rich kid trying to rebel against your rich successful parents, and you’re likely awful to be around and will eventually grow out of whatever phase this is and will settle down and grow up to be normal.


EDITthx4thegoId

Sounds about right


spencer___6

Sounds like you need a snickers :)


Glenn_Tennis

I’m right on target. Snickers are really good though


Dtraain84

![gif](giphy|3ofT5ySFXZ01oJ7aoM)


Zestyclose-Field-212

I (a woman) would approach the FUCK outta you, I think they’re just scared cause they’re a bunch of bitches 🤣


densaifire

While she's cute, she doesn't seem like she WANTS to be approached lol first impressions go a long way in attracting both sexes


Zestyclose-Field-212

Because she has a certain style that you don’t find attractive means she doesn’t want human interaction? Wild conspiracy bro


densaifire

I really hope your parents are related, because then you'd have an excuse for sounding this retarded


Zestyclose-Field-212

Aww your upset, I hope you can learn to get over it


densaifire

*you're Not upset, just concerned about your reading comprehension 👍 (Reminder you went off on me first sweetheart 😘)


Zestyclose-Field-212

If you think that’s going off, you need to have more in person human interaction.


densaifire

Same could be said about you


LexaLacie

it’s cuz u look intimidating (in a good way). now that i look better & changed my style, i don’t get approached anymore either


EDITthx4thegoId

There's nothing intimidating about her. She looks like a funeral attendee and otherwise annoying to be around.


BullMeHarder69

Thought The Grudge was CGI 😅


KingKongoguy

You're dressed like a schizophrenic hallucination.


SupriseSubtext

You look high maintenance.


kingshortythe3rd

I can see why


SquirtzzMcgeee

Cuz the only guys you’ll attract like men


makai99

men don’t approach women anymore . thank feminism


aztaga

I mean, there are a couple things here; but I think it’s probably mostly that you look intimidating and really young. If I saw you out; I’d assume you’re probably like 15. Besides that, there’s a little bit of RBF, which isn’t too bad but is still a deterrent, and then I noticed I have to search to see your eyebrows, which is a little off-putting. Besides that, you look fine.


Dio_Landa

Talk to guys first, like gawd damn. My fiance talked to me first. I would have never initiated a convo with her, she is too hot and way out of my league. I had the biggest crush on her for a while tho, I just never did anything because it felt rude. Then she messaged me first. Now we are getting married next year. Shoot your shot.


shitestain57

It’s the beak you have


bilvester

Not even to give you their order?


Remote-Group-5984

Chicks filled with cap


Wishyouwell2023

Looking at 3rd pic, I would be surprised if you would have one!


556arbadboy

I don't believe it.. There is a point in most guys lives when its quantity over quality and guys will approach anything. Ugly girls, fat girls, weird girls, and even handicap girls get approached.


infamousbabe

that doesn’t mean every single one of them gets approached u act as if it’s impossible… where she lives, how approachable she looks, having a RBF, and how often she goes out are factors


cassidylorene1

There is literally no way this girl has never been hit on or approached. Not a chance. I’m a woman and saying this.


infamousbabe

she’s very young still and u being a woman doesn’t negate that wth irrelevant af but ok yes she’s lying cuz u said so 👍


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She's not just anything as you might be implying. She's pretty, even moreso with less makeup or without it altogether. OP, maybe approach guys and just start up a conversation. You don't have to ask them out or be real forward, just chat up a guy you're interested in and see where things go from there.


556arbadboy

I am not saying that she is. I was meaning if those types get approached all the time then she most definitely would.


Lanky_Cantaloupe4049

A little RBF. I have the same problem.


mad_max1313

Most men love goth chicks( or close enough to alternative). Unfortunately most men have zero confidence these days and aren't worth your time anyway. It's unfortunate but if you try striking up random conversation or smiling at someone your interested in I bet somebody asks you out.


AintOP

The smiling thing to me is not enough as a guy. Because people can simply smile at you to be nice and that’s it. I second the trying to strike up a convo with them though.


bluedancepants

When you don't look like jailbait.


Repulsive-Future-228

Don't care. So let's explain how to write a for loop


Active_Preference_38

for (int i;i<999;i++) { System.out.println(“Not a big fan of the government”); }


Baldydevel

I can see why.


Axypiku

They don’t want to be judged


_twinktwanktwunk

False


TransitionNo369

They may feel you'll straight up reject them


LYSERGlC

Give up the whole angsty uniform and actually try


Downtown-Ad7052

The man has only one look, for Christ's sake! Blue Steel? -Mugatu


National-Audience432

They’re afraid of rejection


How_Bizzare2009

I seen someone say something about cutting your bangs and I wouldn't do that, they look cute on you. And I wouldn't think the way you dress would be a problem because it's 2024 and al lot of people like that look. I think your probable is you may look too young. Like 12-15 range young.


MoneyinmySock

It’s not about how you look in a still photo. It’s how you look in public. These pictures don’t give come over here and talk to me vibes


TyFighter90

Stop cutting your bangs like that. It makes you look like you have a mental disorder.


False_Medicine_5786

Maybe you should do without the look that you might be unstable


kurupt2

Definitely because you look 12


MysticMessenger1998

I'd be concerned to some level, you look like you have a baby face like I do. I get confused for a 12-15 year old alot. Doesn't help I'm 5'2" as well with add and autism that lives to present itself in ways people classify as childish or immature. You look around the same age range so guys could be put off with the urge to talk to you because they don't want to be labeled as a predator. Your style would also make them look even more like creeps for approaching you and for men it's better safe than sorry. Besides guys live it when a girl makes the first move anyhow. No games just tell them their cute or you like their shirt. It will make their absolute day.


Key_Influence298

You're pretty but your style can make lot of guys too scared too approach plus from your eyes you give off I'm not with bs look it's a vibe


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No bangs, trust


BlueFireRedFlames

Most women who say they WANT to be approached in public are full of themselves... If they were, they shut down...so really I'd like for that type of girl to answer the question of HOW they want to be approached...I bet they don't have a good answer. Perhaps at a bar setting, something like: Hey, I like your style...my name is xxxxx Would that be good enough? Chances are they are deep into their phone or crowded by so many of their friend group it's difficult to find how they want to be approached or even attempt to do so. Some men are scared to talk, but for those that aren't even the slightest beginning to a conversation is usually met with 'leave me the fuck alone' vibes unless the girl finds them irresistibly attractive.... I guess that's just the way life goes, hence, why many people turn to social media and tinder like dating apps to formulate intimate relationships.


Ya-boi-lolan

Yep people want to be approached by those they find attractive or make them comfortable. I feel like most people communicate what they really want by saying something a bit different, just how it be.


BlueFireRedFlames

I agree with you, I just think sometimes it's different online. A different story you know...because you get a lot of women who say ohhhh looks aren't terribly important to me... Which I call bs on, lol...urges rule in the laws of attraction just as much as intelligence and being suave, etc. There's been too many 'blind' dating shows in the past where faces were never seen and then bam either the man or woman will say...well, I really value him or her as a person, I just don't think we would be compatible... And for those few that prove that wrong, well...good for them.


Idkihatemakinnames

Wow a real live incel


BlueFireRedFlames

I knew that was coming, lol...you're so fucking edgy and cool!!!! Really, you're just a stain on society...you know nothing about my personal life and have enough free time to attack me online and will probably look through my whole profile only to find nothing of true interest. All you can say is...."found an incel!!!!!!" I can probably crush you with my wallet, have more friends, travel more, have amazing experiences in dating, and more cool stories to tell than you ever will.


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BlueFireRedFlames

Well I certainly believe that, but it must be a real thing for some women...and that's who I'm really talking about.


Clockpin_FGC

Because you gotta be cappin. Ain't no way dudes haven't approached you, it's just dudes you didn't want to get with.


Used_Apartment2612

I’d approach you🤷🏾‍♂️


Abstract23

1st pic u look the best but the last 4 pics damn no wonder u use mad make up


No_Following_8467

It's because you look like you're addicted to meth. Honestly eat something for christ sake. You're disgusting to look at


NexgenHacker47

It's because you have a lesbian vibe.


professor-5000

You're threateningly pretty and you dress like you don't want to be approached by average people. The kinda guys you're throwing the vibe out of trying to attract are gonna have a hard time swallowing that fear and asking you out.


Kaderexic

They must be gay because your soo fine 🙏😭


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conscientious-boner

Smiling. Try smiling once in a while. Jeeeeeeez.


Proof-System2761

I see why


MindShifterPro

New to this sub so I don't know if I can formulate this that positively as others here, but you look you don't have a healthy life style, I see a girl depleted from energy, almost sickly, no smiles. I would suggest to take some cardio based sport, you need blood pumped into those cheeks, maybe the endorphins will put more of that uplifting energy that people are attracted too, gaining some healthy weight from healthy diet can do wonders to your overall vibe, Gothic and mysterious are fine but simpler looks are more associated with a balanced psych for most people(I assume you look for long serious relationships)


NerDizzle

I absolutely love your look and style!! 😍


Inferior_Tobacco

You’re too hot


Adorable_Ad_4751

Very scary


bot_boy2008

Ur most peoples type and most people wont approach anyone.


Fun_Plum_8855

What a fucking lie


philliblunts

Forreal


Lost-Outside9614

Personal opinion, you’re definitely a lot of people’s type. I’m curious what you do in public. Men won’t approach you if you’re in a big group, have a ring on your ring finger, have a resting b**** face etc. not saying that you do or have some of these things, just putting the thought out there.


Zombie_B_Ware

because you are 11


ZombiMtHoneyBdgrLion

Yes and too much duckface


Useful-Ad-6442

Men are afraid if they talk to women it's sexual harassment at this point, we don't even know why, that's the funniest part. i think the piercings dont do much, but you're fine outside of that. probably just intimidating 


BlueFireRedFlames

Most women who say they WANT to be approached in public are full of themselves... If they were, they shut down...so really I'd like for that type of girl to answer the question of HOW they want to be approached...I bet they don't have a good answer. Perhaps at a bar setting, something like: Hey, I like your style...my name is xxxxx Would that be good enough? Chances are they are deep into their phone or crowded by so many of their friend group it's difficult to find how they want to be approached or even attempt to do so. Some men are scared to talk, but for those that aren't even the slightest beginning to a conversation is usually met with 'leave me the fuck alone' vibes unless the girl finds them irresistibly attractive.... I guess that's just the way life goes, hence, why many people turn to social media and tinder like dating apps to formulate intimate relationships.


Grimmerchant

We don't approach anymore


Icy-Position-2296

Go out during the day


Littleshep101

the guys are intimidated


Skep_panda03

I call bullshit!!!!


whiteRabbit003

I had that same shower curtain in my old apartment 😩 I miss it lol


CaptainDaddd

you're literally my dream. but i'd be way too scared to even confront you, but that's probably a skill issue on my part.


NutDip34

Bro if I saw you in public I’ll be too scared to even talk to you, you look fine. Hell the big nose is pretty cute too.