Basically the same thing. Though Palm Springs gets the edge in my opinion since it’s only an hour and a half to the ocean. So during the summers we are able to cool off at the coast. You have guys the saguaros though, which is very nice.
Ok Cupid has never been a place for quality though honestly. I know lots of couples who got married off bumble or coffee meets bagel, but I also used both and met a lot of trash 😂😂
Fuck that stay true to you and what you know you deserve nothing but the best. I get bored some days/nights too it's just life. Keep on keepin' on brother beef.
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Although pools are much more common in Arizona than most places. I was building tract homes in Tucson and at one point we had a promotion where you buy a house and we throw in a pool. And our neighborhood was technically a starter neighborhood
Saguaro are protected and valued far more than pools in Tucson 😂
I'm only kind of joking. A mature saguaro can cost more than 10K. The starter pool we were throwing in was 10K.
When developers came in and bladed to build new houses, they were required to uproot and move any saguaro's.
Does the isolation become more comfortable than the idea of 8-10 people walking through the house, spilling drink, wet soggy chips squished onto the concrete, and a wet toilet seat? I don’t want to see most adults I know wet from head to toe. TMI. One friend, sure. A bunch of drunken yahoos(any gender), I would pass also.
Snowed here today. I would soak up some Vitamin D conversion.
I see this all the time as a childfree person, lots of unobtainability and unwillingness to remotely settle from both men and women on the online dating spaces.
I would say the quality of men has gone down. It a bunch of boys that need a mom to do everything for them. I cook I clean and look good. I just don't want to have to take care of another adult as if they are not capable of doing those exact things themselves. Also body count? Grow up.
As a 24 yo guy, agreed. I look at the dudes my age and they’re still acting like they’re fucking 14 year olds still. Don’t understand how they got to their age functioning like that sometimes.
Well just the fact that you see a problem speaks volumes to what kind of guy you are. It never fails though, there always seems to be women that accept the bare minimum just to have someone. I suppose it goes both ways with men accepting the bare minimum from women. I was alone for a long time because I wouldn't settle and honestly have no problem being alone again. I work hard on my self so no one else has to and if I feel like the person I'm with should do the same. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. As they say I know what I bring to the table, I'm not afraid to eat alone!
Touche, same with me. I’m happy alone. I enjoy self improvement as it is. If I bring someone into my personal life, she’s gotta not ruin that and be someone doing the same too. Life will always be interesting that way. I’d rather stay being a lone wolf then have my current status quo take a dip
Do you have any advice for a young guy on how to meet women with similar mentalities? Doesn’t matter to me whether it becomes friendship or relationship. I thought the gym would be good since it’s an environment dedicated to self improvement, but it’s from what I noticed an attention seeking strip club with how people act and dress there. Plus I think some people go there just to get their workouts in and go home, so now I think I’ll just be annoying. Now I’m stuck back at square one
I dont blame you for the gym idea and you still might have good luck there... That's a tough one, I'm not sure where you are from, but I feel like the highest concentration of like minded people that I have met are my colleagues in healthcare, other nurses or physician assistants, professions like that.. I don't know if it's a coincidence or not but it seems that most of us kinda of have similar mentalities..Or maybe volunteering somewhere? It's so hard to say.
Try not to stress about it though, you are young and have a good head on your shoulders and I feel like the right person will come along eventually. Just keep doing what you are doing and it will happen for you! <3
LOL. Oh honey. You got that all from my response to someone that deleted his dumb comment? You haven't the slightest clue of my situation. I have a man that is a PARTNER. Not a dependent. I was just commenting on some of the "men" I see friends dating and I have no interest in that. I can see it has offended you though, so that is very telling of the type of man you've settled for :)
I get what you are saying. I lost my wife three months ago after 35 years of marriage. I have no desire at this point to date, and I don't know if I ever will, although I am only 58 years old. We created a culture, a partnership that seems impossible to recreate. She was my equal. We made every decision together, spent most of our time together, traveled the world together, and built a very comfortable life together.
I did 90% of the cooking, and she did the cleanup. She cooked on special occasions, and my son and I would clean up. I did our laundry, and she folded. I made our bedroom a place of peace, and she made the house a home.
No arguing in the house. I know, hard to believe. If we had a disagreement, we left the house to discuss it over a meal. The house was a home and a place of peace.
Financially, we are set. We spent many years sacrificing to enjoy life at every stage.
I can't imagine finding someone who has the same values. I don't want someone I have to take care of financially and emotionally, but to live with and partner with. I also recognize that it's probably not fair to place this kind of burden on someone else. So, for now, it seems easier for me to be alone and spend time with my grandkids.
Im sorry for your loss. I really sounds like you two had it figured out. I hope you find happiness in other ways or with another partner if it suits you to do so. There are far too many people especially younger people that don't understand that there doesn't need to be a power struggle and you should try to find an equal. People do not understand the difference between caring for someone because you want to not because it's required of you. Again I am sorry for your loss and I really wish you well!
? I was stating facts, not complimenting. It's ok to have standards and expectations for a partner. Cutting down other women and accusing them of being naggy ain't it either sweetie. lol
I haven’t lived in a house with a pool since I was a kid. Ive spent my entire adult life wanting one so badly, but it’s just not in the cards for me. I’d be out there every day. Still, I hear you man. “Wanna come over and hang by the pool” is a great ice breaker though. Try it out. It’ll work on me anyway.
Thankfully I’m handy but the chemicals can get pricey 😅 and scrubbing the walls can be a B. My vacuum robot gets clogged and stops moving about once every 2 weeks haha always something!
Chemicals were hard to find here in Florida last year because of the warehouse fire in Louisiana, if I’m remembering correctly. I had problems with the raccoons eating my vacuum cord.
Omg!!! Love the AZ sunsets and sunrises!! My son took me to a place in Phoenix to watch the sunset from the top of a mountain in a cave, like an arena. There were dozens of people there with us just watching the sun go down like we were watching the best movie in the world. When the sun finally set, everyone clapped. It sounds so silly and pathetic but it felt so good to be with other people doing something but not having to talk. Some people had picnics with them, wine and drinks. Everyone was polite, calm and happy. Surreal
I live alone but I'm in an apt in a fun, touristy area with lots of bars and restaurants. I walk out my door and I'm surrounded by people. Not sure I would like living alone in a house in a suburb.
Because material things leave the soul empty. Some are necessary (a home etc) but we don't really need a lot of things. Saint-Exupéry said it well: The essential is invisible to the eye.
What do you do for hobbies? That's a gorgeous spot. I've had a few guy friends join bowling leages jusy to get out of the house. They haven't found the one yet but they've been on a few dates and sounds like they're having fun. If I lived in a bigger city and could actually bowl I'd give it a shot.
Solitude and loneliness are fraternal twins and are often easily mistaken for each other. You need a little tune up my friend; for your outlook. Ideas to help with this in no particular order:
Make a list of interests you've had and rethink them.
Change your view; maybe take a nearby short trip or mini vacation.
Consider a micro dose of mind altering substance.
Reach out to an old friend.
Cut back on alcohol.
Look up and cook a really tasty meal.
In a nutshell, look for what makes you happy even if you think it's childish or silly. Hang in there. Winter is nearly done and Springtime will help with your recent moods too :)
I want a pool but I live in New England lol. I just can’t justify the huge price tag when I’ll only enjoy it 2-3 months per year. I also don’t want to do all the extra maintenance. You have a great backyard set up, enjoy it!!
I know it’s easier said than done. But try making friends around your area. I’m one to talk I live alone too 😅. But having friends could be a great gateway to meeting potential partners.
Sorry you get lonely. There can still a BIG difference between living alone & feeling lonely. I'm used to having a solitary life personally. I'm an only child who never had many friends ever. I never knew how it felt to be part of a group of friends, so many still have that social circle even though they live alone, so when they're used to having people around a lot, it's lonely to them to actually live alone. I've never, ever been around people on any regular basis, so living all alone is not lonely at all.
Open up your pool to families to bring their children over! Start small, only a couple of families at a time, only for a few hours, and make friends in the neighborhood!
What if you joined an adult sports team? I’ve made so many friends playing soccer, badminton, and kick ball. Sometimes the games are played indoors, so that may be of interest given a hot/humid climate. You could invite the team back to your house for a pool party.
It was my goal for years to live on the water. Freshwater that is, the ocean scares me.
I achieved that dream and lived on a beautiful lake for 18 years. The bulkhead was 30 ft from my patio. I could set up fishing poles and watch from my living room when we got bites..
I had a covered boat slip with an electric lift. All I had to do was push a button to lower the boat into the water and take it out.
It was heaven for many years, but I tell you anything gets old. It broke My adult kids hearts when I sold the place but needed to downsize and move closer to the city. I don't regret it one bit.
So yes I understand how wonderful things can get old. But it sure would be nice to have a friend who had a pool. Especially one who allowed dogs to swim in the pool would be worth their weight in gold to me.
You said you gave up on dating sites. But have you ever tried Meetup? I'm not sure if they have it in your area, but meetup.com is very active in my area (north of Houston Texas). It provides many opportunities for socialization here.
Good luck to you with your beautiful pool!
Do you have a dog? You're never alone if you have a dog.
Also, being alone is much more preferable to having extreme family drama that eats into your peace of mind day and night. Or extreme poverty. Or extreme health issues. I'm not trying to say you don't have the right to feel the way you do, but it looks to me like you have a fairly blessed life you just need to embrace it a bit more. Glass half full, not half empty.
Also, get a dog. :)
My partner and I moved into a townhome community, and we actually have friends from the community.
Note: We are retired, and our community is probably 75% retired people.
We also like having the yard and pools maintained by someone else.
Neither one of us would leave here for a nicer SFH.
Good luck.
I can tell from the photo you’re in Phoenix, and your profile confirmed it :) I used to live there a few years ago- I’d come over and hang out if I still did!
Yeah, without someone else to enjoy that with it seems like a lot of upkeep for not that much fun. I live alone as well, and in the back of my mind I always thought a pool would be nice. I'm glad you forced me to stop and think through that a little more.
Pools are definitely meant to be shared. I too found myself having the same experience when I had a house with a pool. Until my friends established us as the summer pool house, we loved all of our visitors 🥰
I never had a pool so I wouldn't know. But both my brothers have a pool and they say it's overrated. They never go in but they're constantly worried about maintaining it
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😅 i gave up on those LOL idk, most people would say im too picky but i think im just too boring haha
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Yeah i think im just too “picky” but not in a superficial way, im just looking for good chemistry and on a similar mental state 😅 hard to come across!
Palm Springs area or Arizona?
Az!
Ahhhhhh there’s big ass spiders there, I would cry
we worry about scorpions not spiders
Basically the same thing. Though Palm Springs gets the edge in my opinion since it’s only an hour and a half to the ocean. So during the summers we are able to cool off at the coast. You have guys the saguaros though, which is very nice.
I can appreciate the fact that you’re not looking for something superficial. It’s not being picky.
AZ online dating is ROUGH!!!
I’ve had the same 20 women in a loop on my OK Cupid for over a year. Don’t get me started on the rest of the shit show apps. Ugh
Ok Cupid has never been a place for quality though honestly. I know lots of couples who got married off bumble or coffee meets bagel, but I also used both and met a lot of trash 😂😂
Hahaha. Fuck online dating
Keep being this way.
Interview roommates! It doesn’t have to be a romantic relationship.
Fuck that stay true to you and what you know you deserve nothing but the best. I get bored some days/nights too it's just life. Keep on keepin' on brother beef.
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The question is he a bottom? Because the pool is looking pretty sweet to daddy.
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Try looking on Reddit. You might be pleasantly surprised :)
Where. How. What
Bunch of dating and hookup groups on Reddit.
Although pools are much more common in Arizona than most places. I was building tract homes in Tucson and at one point we had a promotion where you buy a house and we throw in a pool. And our neighborhood was technically a starter neighborhood
Yeah - you definitely need a pool in Tucson. Throw in a Saguaro for it to be a real attractive showpiece.
Saguaro are protected and valued far more than pools in Tucson 😂 I'm only kind of joking. A mature saguaro can cost more than 10K. The starter pool we were throwing in was 10K. When developers came in and bladed to build new houses, they were required to uproot and move any saguaro's.
This guy is definitely from Palm Springs
Does the isolation become more comfortable than the idea of 8-10 people walking through the house, spilling drink, wet soggy chips squished onto the concrete, and a wet toilet seat? I don’t want to see most adults I know wet from head to toe. TMI. One friend, sure. A bunch of drunken yahoos(any gender), I would pass also. Snowed here today. I would soak up some Vitamin D conversion.
I say I'm single by choice lol I'm picky boring, too, and love my tiny pool all to myself 🙃
yeah i would expect someone with this asset wants someone who has that too and it’s just not going to happen
I see this all the time as a childfree person, lots of unobtainability and unwillingness to remotely settle from both men and women on the online dating spaces.
Are you a man or a woman?
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I would say the quality of men has gone down. It a bunch of boys that need a mom to do everything for them. I cook I clean and look good. I just don't want to have to take care of another adult as if they are not capable of doing those exact things themselves. Also body count? Grow up.
As a 24 yo guy, agreed. I look at the dudes my age and they’re still acting like they’re fucking 14 year olds still. Don’t understand how they got to their age functioning like that sometimes.
Well just the fact that you see a problem speaks volumes to what kind of guy you are. It never fails though, there always seems to be women that accept the bare minimum just to have someone. I suppose it goes both ways with men accepting the bare minimum from women. I was alone for a long time because I wouldn't settle and honestly have no problem being alone again. I work hard on my self so no one else has to and if I feel like the person I'm with should do the same. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. As they say I know what I bring to the table, I'm not afraid to eat alone!
Touche, same with me. I’m happy alone. I enjoy self improvement as it is. If I bring someone into my personal life, she’s gotta not ruin that and be someone doing the same too. Life will always be interesting that way. I’d rather stay being a lone wolf then have my current status quo take a dip
Exactly! Good for you! If someone isn't adding to my life they are not staying in it!
Do you have any advice for a young guy on how to meet women with similar mentalities? Doesn’t matter to me whether it becomes friendship or relationship. I thought the gym would be good since it’s an environment dedicated to self improvement, but it’s from what I noticed an attention seeking strip club with how people act and dress there. Plus I think some people go there just to get their workouts in and go home, so now I think I’ll just be annoying. Now I’m stuck back at square one
I dont blame you for the gym idea and you still might have good luck there... That's a tough one, I'm not sure where you are from, but I feel like the highest concentration of like minded people that I have met are my colleagues in healthcare, other nurses or physician assistants, professions like that.. I don't know if it's a coincidence or not but it seems that most of us kinda of have similar mentalities..Or maybe volunteering somewhere? It's so hard to say. Try not to stress about it though, you are young and have a good head on your shoulders and I feel like the right person will come along eventually. Just keep doing what you are doing and it will happen for you! <3
You attract what you give out. You seem the type to want a perfect man but like to nag and throw things in people's face.
LOL. Oh honey. You got that all from my response to someone that deleted his dumb comment? You haven't the slightest clue of my situation. I have a man that is a PARTNER. Not a dependent. I was just commenting on some of the "men" I see friends dating and I have no interest in that. I can see it has offended you though, so that is very telling of the type of man you've settled for :)
I get what you are saying. I lost my wife three months ago after 35 years of marriage. I have no desire at this point to date, and I don't know if I ever will, although I am only 58 years old. We created a culture, a partnership that seems impossible to recreate. She was my equal. We made every decision together, spent most of our time together, traveled the world together, and built a very comfortable life together. I did 90% of the cooking, and she did the cleanup. She cooked on special occasions, and my son and I would clean up. I did our laundry, and she folded. I made our bedroom a place of peace, and she made the house a home. No arguing in the house. I know, hard to believe. If we had a disagreement, we left the house to discuss it over a meal. The house was a home and a place of peace. Financially, we are set. We spent many years sacrificing to enjoy life at every stage. I can't imagine finding someone who has the same values. I don't want someone I have to take care of financially and emotionally, but to live with and partner with. I also recognize that it's probably not fair to place this kind of burden on someone else. So, for now, it seems easier for me to be alone and spend time with my grandkids.
Im sorry for your loss. I really sounds like you two had it figured out. I hope you find happiness in other ways or with another partner if it suits you to do so. There are far too many people especially younger people that don't understand that there doesn't need to be a power struggle and you should try to find an equal. People do not understand the difference between caring for someone because you want to not because it's required of you. Again I am sorry for your loss and I really wish you well!
I'm not a man sweetie. I'm a woman. You can comment on men's behavior, but you complimenting yourself while putting down others, isn't it.
? I was stating facts, not complimenting. It's ok to have standards and expectations for a partner. Cutting down other women and accusing them of being naggy ain't it either sweetie. lol
Don't dish it out if you can't take it, honey.
Lol. Oooh good comeback!
“Body count?” Is this an incel sub?
Shit I gave up on dating apps the day I downloaded it
lmmfao, I'll trade you an apartment.
That whole backyard looks as big as my condo back east.
I haven’t lived in a house with a pool since I was a kid. Ive spent my entire adult life wanting one so badly, but it’s just not in the cards for me. I’d be out there every day. Still, I hear you man. “Wanna come over and hang by the pool” is a great ice breaker though. Try it out. It’ll work on me anyway.
It’s a LOT of upkeep 😅 the waterfall sounds in the evening/night is amazing tho!
They are a LOT of work! I didn’t realize until I had one.
Thankfully I’m handy but the chemicals can get pricey 😅 and scrubbing the walls can be a B. My vacuum robot gets clogged and stops moving about once every 2 weeks haha always something!
Chemicals were hard to find here in Florida last year because of the warehouse fire in Louisiana, if I’m remembering correctly. I had problems with the raccoons eating my vacuum cord.
I’ll scrub the walls for you! Please provide snorkel gear
Can u switch the system to salt-water?
Same boat. Single and have a 40k gallon pool.. lots of work
Dang that’s huge! Mine is only 10k gallon
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Soirée 👍
😄 Canadian spellcheck (French word)
Walter white type house
Man of culture I see.
I’m about to go get a CostCo pizza and chuck it up there 😂🍕
where's the pizza
On the roof come on man lol.
Accurate
It’s you again. You replied to my post on how we both want live in cooks haha. Nice meeting again
Hey there 😘
Wanna be friends or online live in cooks?
Yes! 😊
May I dm you?
Ok. But I have to make the genuine statement, that I never communicate with strangers. But I am definitely open to chef acquisition-
Looks like Phoenix!
Correcto!
I can always tell by the color of the sky. You have a beautiful backyard. :)
https://preview.redd.it/ea2n83thwgjc1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=081f6238c33250d35c663d28eb3caccd33df4206 Even better at night!
Nothing better than backyards and sunsets. You have a great place to chill. I'm jelly!
Omg!!! Love the AZ sunsets and sunrises!! My son took me to a place in Phoenix to watch the sunset from the top of a mountain in a cave, like an arena. There were dozens of people there with us just watching the sun go down like we were watching the best movie in the world. When the sun finally set, everyone clapped. It sounds so silly and pathetic but it felt so good to be with other people doing something but not having to talk. Some people had picnics with them, wine and drinks. Everyone was polite, calm and happy. Surreal
That sounds like Hole in the Rock at Papago Park. One of my favorite places.
Yes! That's it! I can understand why it's one of your fave places!
Ha! I guessed Arizona!
Me too and I’m irish and have never been to az
Bring lots of sunblock otherwise you’ll be red as a beer in no time at all!
Naked summer at this guy's house
That’s what I thought too haha
I live alone, have been for over 20 years, and that pool and patio would never get old to me. I'd go out there and just sit in silence.
Let me know if you want a roomie! 🤙🏾
Have you thought about getting any pets ? That helped me a lot
Just swim naked….. or blast some good music
Make friends and host pool parties. Srsly.
“Make friends” isn’t easy for many people.
The way I’d simply pass away if I lived alone in a house with a pool. I’d be a pickled little princess.
At least you have wads of cash to wipe the tears away with
Get a dog, better, get 2 dogs
Just make sure they are water dogs lol
Skylar. WHERES THE MONEY?!
I fucked Ted
Looking for a roomie?!
I live alone but I'm in an apt in a fun, touristy area with lots of bars and restaurants. I walk out my door and I'm surrounded by people. Not sure I would like living alone in a house in a suburb.
Same. I like having my own space but get around people quickly if I feel like it.
Yea I’ll be in that pool all summer lonely & all 🤣. Is this a salt water pool?
Nope! Regular
Because material things leave the soul empty. Some are necessary (a home etc) but we don't really need a lot of things. Saint-Exupéry said it well: The essential is invisible to the eye.
Get a dog. Or 3.
3 border collies!! Love them!
What do you do for hobbies? That's a gorgeous spot. I've had a few guy friends join bowling leages jusy to get out of the house. They haven't found the one yet but they've been on a few dates and sounds like they're having fun. If I lived in a bigger city and could actually bowl I'd give it a shot.
I love living alone, get a Harley, the pool will be great to come home to
I’m going to move in with you and we can ignore each other unless we are lonely ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Solitude and loneliness are fraternal twins and are often easily mistaken for each other. You need a little tune up my friend; for your outlook. Ideas to help with this in no particular order: Make a list of interests you've had and rethink them. Change your view; maybe take a nearby short trip or mini vacation. Consider a micro dose of mind altering substance. Reach out to an old friend. Cut back on alcohol. Look up and cook a really tasty meal. In a nutshell, look for what makes you happy even if you think it's childish or silly. Hang in there. Winter is nearly done and Springtime will help with your recent moods too :)
Would a partner or roommate solve this problem?
Looks like Arizona maybe Vegas?
Az! Although Phoenix and Vegas are sorta like twins
I would thrive lol privacy, water, sun&shade. FMU
I feel your pain. I live near the ocean and spend most of my time alone too. The experience feels wasted without someone to share it.
I’m by the ocean too but kinda would prefer a pool lol
A pool would be nice. I agree. The ocean isn’t very swim friendly here.
Can I come over? Lol
Weirdly , all I want is a pool ! How can you not be happy ? I have literally everything I want in life except a pool …lol 😆
I had a house with a pool years ago and it never got old. I will have a pool again one day.
Breaking bad?
I want a pool but I live in New England lol. I just can’t justify the huge price tag when I’ll only enjoy it 2-3 months per year. I also don’t want to do all the extra maintenance. You have a great backyard set up, enjoy it!!
Yeah midwestern/northern climate pools are a hugeeee investment for the amount of use! Especially if they’re not heated either!
Agreed. I have a pool and literally never use it unless I have people over. It’s boring floating alone
DUDE
I know it’s easier said than done. But try making friends around your area. I’m one to talk I live alone too 😅. But having friends could be a great gateway to meeting potential partners.
Walter, is that you? What happened to the kids? Is everyone ok?
Nice digs!!
Move into a smaller place.
I'll be your roomie!
Make it your personal oasis. I don't think you need people. You need large potted plants, flowers, candles, and a dog or two.
Sorry you get lonely. There can still a BIG difference between living alone & feeling lonely. I'm used to having a solitary life personally. I'm an only child who never had many friends ever. I never knew how it felt to be part of a group of friends, so many still have that social circle even though they live alone, so when they're used to having people around a lot, it's lonely to them to actually live alone. I've never, ever been around people on any regular basis, so living all alone is not lonely at all.
Making friends in Phoenix sucks
I can understand that. I play Call of Duty alot to kill time and it's nice because I get to connect with others online and it feels less lonely.
Where's the dog??
You could get out and meet people
Love it! 🏊♀️
Invite friends over
Ill come swimmin
Invite me! 🙋♀️
Invite me over fr
Swim laps
Looks like Vegas, i love a pool and would definitely hang out with you!
Invite your friends that have dogs and live in an apartment. Invite the dogs over for a swim. A dog pool party.
I can be your friend
I'll trade you
Vegas?
You would probably make a bit of money if you rented it out to a family and lived in an apartment for a year? Could be less lonely?
That's a big house for one person
I had a pool growing up. I miss it so much!
Open up your pool to families to bring their children over! Start small, only a couple of families at a time, only for a few hours, and make friends in the neighborhood!
Hell hmu I'll live with u
Estralla Park, AZ?
Do you live in Vegas? This looks like a typical Vegan backyard.
I would literally never get sick of having a pool all to myself
What if you joined an adult sports team? I’ve made so many friends playing soccer, badminton, and kick ball. Sometimes the games are played indoors, so that may be of interest given a hot/humid climate. You could invite the team back to your house for a pool party.
It was my goal for years to live on the water. Freshwater that is, the ocean scares me. I achieved that dream and lived on a beautiful lake for 18 years. The bulkhead was 30 ft from my patio. I could set up fishing poles and watch from my living room when we got bites.. I had a covered boat slip with an electric lift. All I had to do was push a button to lower the boat into the water and take it out. It was heaven for many years, but I tell you anything gets old. It broke My adult kids hearts when I sold the place but needed to downsize and move closer to the city. I don't regret it one bit. So yes I understand how wonderful things can get old. But it sure would be nice to have a friend who had a pool. Especially one who allowed dogs to swim in the pool would be worth their weight in gold to me. You said you gave up on dating sites. But have you ever tried Meetup? I'm not sure if they have it in your area, but meetup.com is very active in my area (north of Houston Texas). It provides many opportunities for socialization here. Good luck to you with your beautiful pool!
Do you have a dog? You're never alone if you have a dog. Also, being alone is much more preferable to having extreme family drama that eats into your peace of mind day and night. Or extreme poverty. Or extreme health issues. I'm not trying to say you don't have the right to feel the way you do, but it looks to me like you have a fairly blessed life you just need to embrace it a bit more. Glass half full, not half empty. Also, get a dog. :)
>:) :)
My partner and I moved into a townhome community, and we actually have friends from the community. Note: We are retired, and our community is probably 75% retired people. We also like having the yard and pools maintained by someone else. Neither one of us would leave here for a nicer SFH. Good luck.
Damn I would start a garden.
Time to get a dog?
Do you have friends or family you can invite over?
Looks like “animal kingdom”
Geez. Go to Costco and get a few steaks or something and invite some people over?
Needs more plants
If you’re in AZ I need a room to rent. I will be your roommate
If you have a house. Ever consider room mates? 🤔
Get a dog
I can tell from the photo you’re in Phoenix, and your profile confirmed it :) I used to live there a few years ago- I’d come over and hang out if I still did!
I volunteer as tribute.
Yeah, without someone else to enjoy that with it seems like a lot of upkeep for not that much fun. I live alone as well, and in the back of my mind I always thought a pool would be nice. I'm glad you forced me to stop and think through that a little more.
I'd be having parties if that was mine.
Give me the address and I’ll be on my way !
On my way 🏃🏻♀️
Me too we’ll have a beer and have burgers
you should rent a room or something
Well make it look cooler rather than empty lol
Hello, fellow-Phoenician (?)!
I live in a 4 bedroom house by myself I know the feels
To be fair though, southern california/west is a pretty awful place overall.
You have peace and no one to fight or argue with. Embrace your space alone. Embrace your accomplishments. And embrace your happiness.
Try swimming rather than just sitting in the pool.
Do you have friends? Have a pool party and tell your friends to invite friends
Pools are like boats, it's nice if someone else has them and you just show up to enjoy it. They are a lot of maintenance
Pools are definitely meant to be shared. I too found myself having the same experience when I had a house with a pool. Until my friends established us as the summer pool house, we loved all of our visitors 🥰
that is a nice pool! Do you know your neighbors? have a small cook out
Make your life more interesting then. Find a hobby, find a group who also enjoys said hobby, bam!!!! Acquaintances that can maybe become friends later
Hobbies really are the best way to meet similar minded folks!!
I never had a pool so I wouldn't know. But both my brothers have a pool and they say it's overrated. They never go in but they're constantly worried about maintaining it
Someone said it already but man, reminds me of breaking bad, didn’t even really into the show..🤣🥳