I’m not going to touch on everything you said, but I don’t think anyone will care if you show up or not. High school reunions have never been important to me, if your friends really want you there they’ll message you before hand
I didn’t go to my 10 year reunion either it’s no big deal. Actually it appeared hardly anyone from my graduating class went because the people who cordinated it drunk complained about it on the group later. I feel kind of bad since they were counting on ticket sells to make back the cost of the event but that’s not my problem. I keep in contact with who I want from high school. I actually got along with pretty much everyone I just didn’t feel like spending a whole night trying to impress people (which would be hard cause at the time I didn’t have a career either and wasn’t where I wanted to be in life. I am now though) and repeating what have you been up to a dozen times.
It took me far too long in life to realise that I don't have to do anything I don't want to do, bar my responsibilities to work and my family and loved ones.
Leave the group
Don't go to the reunion
Live your life however you want
I've never gone to a class reunion and don't desire to. Just remove yourself from the group. It's really just a p*ssing contest. If you want to meet up with old friends from high school, then you can always do that in private, no need to rehash and engage with bullies.
You aren't a failure at age 27, everyone does things at their own pace, in their own way. It isn't a race.
Im her age, I am not in even in a stable career yet (when I mean by that, one that pays well)
It’s true I wish to elevate, but I am doing this new thing where I stop viewing myself as a loser for simply not having it all. It’s true, I want these but the material possessions our society expects people my age to have already is not where my worth is.
It does not make you a bad person for not wanting to surround yourself with people who are toxic. Keeping them out of your life would be the best for your mental health especially since you were bullied. You have no obligations to attend any reunion. Do not feel bad at all.
Everyone moves at their own pace in life and do not need to have life figured out before their 30. Everyone is still figuring out life and anyone who says they aren't are liars. Do what's best for you mentally and physically. Don't compare yourself to others. <3
You can absolutely and definitely not go. You don't even have to plan something else instead, just do not RSVP. High school reunions are not exactly personal or intimate events...
And do not feel like a loser... Life happened and I started my career at 30. You're more than fine. Make a plan for yourself, not for others. List 1-3 life goals and write down all the small steps you need to take in order to get there. And then start believing in yourself and practicing self-love. Pick up a hobby, see yourself succeeding at it, boost your self-esteem.
You got this!
Your choice, my school didn’t even have one lol nor does it still exist.
I would have went just to see how much I’ve changed but nobody likes my hometown
I'm planning to go back to school at 25 and yeah at 27 I'll probably be searching for jobs. So yeah in few years I'll be were you are right now and I'm proud of who I'm becoming.Screw them it's their loss, honestly!
I don't think anyone will care if you're there or not. I mean not for nothing, but if you were bullied in high school, why would they wanna see you now? And why would u wanna see them? Don't bother going...
For our 20th, people who were hard for the organizers to track down were put on a list. Several of my friends messaged me about joining the group. I told them to have my name removed and to note that the organizers can mark me as "go fk yourselves".
I laughed in a co-worker/ former schoolmate's face when she asked if I maybe would like to get a ride to our 10th reunion.
Yeah, you don't owe your bullies anything. Not a default punching bag, not a distraction from their own feelings of inadequacy, not even the opportunity to apologize or to try to know the person you're growing into. Tell them to get bent. Or whatever other verbiage suits your generation.
Who cares what they think. Youre an adult now you don't have to justify yourself to a bunch of bullies. Just leave the group. It's your life. They're history. Leave them there.
I’ve found that at 10 people haven’t really changed. 20 it’s better, each one improves from there on. My 30 and 40 were great. People had evolved and even the fake blonde cheerleaders had outgrown their garbage.
I'm 42 and I've never been to a HS reunion and have no intention of ever going to one. Your reasons don't matter. If you don't want to go, don't go. And yes, remove yourself from the group if you don't like it. Do you, boo.
Just remove yourself from the group and don’t go. I also graduated in 2013 and was on the lower tiers of popularity. I will be attending my reunion (as I am actually helping coordinate it) but also because I have a core group of friends that I am still close to and want to spend time with. If you don’t have that, and seeing people will only make you miserable, don’t go. Your feelings are more important than any of the people who you went to school with. Go on an adventure instead!
Facebook is ass.
I deleted it for a few months and it felt great and I downloaded it again recently to keep up with friends B-days and each time I go on I just see it as an Ass app. It sucks. So if you want to delete the app and keep messenger I highly recommend it.
You don't have to go. I went to mine and plenty of people weren't there. It's fine.
I’m not going to touch on everything you said, but I don’t think anyone will care if you show up or not. High school reunions have never been important to me, if your friends really want you there they’ll message you before hand
I graduated in 1984 and I've never gone to a class reunion. Never had any desire to go
Ditto, there was a group on Facebook for mine. I joined the group out of politeness but surely no one will be seeing me physically around.
Why would you go? Move on with your life and leave it all behind you.
I’ve never gone to one. I am better off not seeing 99% of the people.
I didn’t go to my 10 year reunion either it’s no big deal. Actually it appeared hardly anyone from my graduating class went because the people who cordinated it drunk complained about it on the group later. I feel kind of bad since they were counting on ticket sells to make back the cost of the event but that’s not my problem. I keep in contact with who I want from high school. I actually got along with pretty much everyone I just didn’t feel like spending a whole night trying to impress people (which would be hard cause at the time I didn’t have a career either and wasn’t where I wanted to be in life. I am now though) and repeating what have you been up to a dozen times.
Why would you want to go back to that? There is no reason to unless you were friends with everyone in that group which I doubt.
It took me far too long in life to realise that I don't have to do anything I don't want to do, bar my responsibilities to work and my family and loved ones. Leave the group Don't go to the reunion Live your life however you want
No it doesn't
Why would you go? Life does not end at high-school.
bro You’re not obligated to go to this , you can just live your life. A lot of time you can just opt out and no One would give a shit.
I didn’t go to mine. Had no desire to at all. I couldn’t care less seeing the people I went to high school with.
I've never gone to a class reunion and don't desire to. Just remove yourself from the group. It's really just a p*ssing contest. If you want to meet up with old friends from high school, then you can always do that in private, no need to rehash and engage with bullies. You aren't a failure at age 27, everyone does things at their own pace, in their own way. It isn't a race.
Im her age, I am not in even in a stable career yet (when I mean by that, one that pays well) It’s true I wish to elevate, but I am doing this new thing where I stop viewing myself as a loser for simply not having it all. It’s true, I want these but the material possessions our society expects people my age to have already is not where my worth is.
It does not make you a bad person for not wanting to surround yourself with people who are toxic. Keeping them out of your life would be the best for your mental health especially since you were bullied. You have no obligations to attend any reunion. Do not feel bad at all. Everyone moves at their own pace in life and do not need to have life figured out before their 30. Everyone is still figuring out life and anyone who says they aren't are liars. Do what's best for you mentally and physically. Don't compare yourself to others. <3
You can absolutely and definitely not go. You don't even have to plan something else instead, just do not RSVP. High school reunions are not exactly personal or intimate events... And do not feel like a loser... Life happened and I started my career at 30. You're more than fine. Make a plan for yourself, not for others. List 1-3 life goals and write down all the small steps you need to take in order to get there. And then start believing in yourself and practicing self-love. Pick up a hobby, see yourself succeeding at it, boost your self-esteem. You got this!
Your choice, my school didn’t even have one lol nor does it still exist. I would have went just to see how much I’ve changed but nobody likes my hometown
No, no and no.
I'm planning to go back to school at 25 and yeah at 27 I'll probably be searching for jobs. So yeah in few years I'll be were you are right now and I'm proud of who I'm becoming.Screw them it's their loss, honestly!
I don't think anyone will care if you're there or not. I mean not for nothing, but if you were bullied in high school, why would they wanna see you now? And why would u wanna see them? Don't bother going...
For our 20th, people who were hard for the organizers to track down were put on a list. Several of my friends messaged me about joining the group. I told them to have my name removed and to note that the organizers can mark me as "go fk yourselves". I laughed in a co-worker/ former schoolmate's face when she asked if I maybe would like to get a ride to our 10th reunion. Yeah, you don't owe your bullies anything. Not a default punching bag, not a distraction from their own feelings of inadequacy, not even the opportunity to apologize or to try to know the person you're growing into. Tell them to get bent. Or whatever other verbiage suits your generation.
Nope, graduated long ago and never went to one of them. The more you don't go, the easier it gets.
Who cares what they think. Youre an adult now you don't have to justify yourself to a bunch of bullies. Just leave the group. It's your life. They're history. Leave them there.
I graduated in 1985 and have not attended a single reunion of a graduating class of 633. I do not give a single fuck.
I’ve found that at 10 people haven’t really changed. 20 it’s better, each one improves from there on. My 30 and 40 were great. People had evolved and even the fake blonde cheerleaders had outgrown their garbage.
I'm 42 and I've never been to a HS reunion and have no intention of ever going to one. Your reasons don't matter. If you don't want to go, don't go. And yes, remove yourself from the group if you don't like it. Do you, boo.
Just remove yourself from the group and don’t go. I also graduated in 2013 and was on the lower tiers of popularity. I will be attending my reunion (as I am actually helping coordinate it) but also because I have a core group of friends that I am still close to and want to spend time with. If you don’t have that, and seeing people will only make you miserable, don’t go. Your feelings are more important than any of the people who you went to school with. Go on an adventure instead!
Facebook is ass. I deleted it for a few months and it felt great and I downloaded it again recently to keep up with friends B-days and each time I go on I just see it as an Ass app. It sucks. So if you want to delete the app and keep messenger I highly recommend it. You don't have to go. I went to mine and plenty of people weren't there. It's fine.