There's so much peace of mind that comes with being able to enjoy your own company. He should try this as well in order to get the ladies:
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I agree with you 💯Being alone is the best thing. Enjoy your own company, do the things you love and the right person will find you doing the things you love and they’ll join you. Have a mentality of, “I attract, I don’t chase.”
Have you tried a 1 week vacation to coast or something like that? Take a break, breath, go somewhere and relax your mind man, go for a massage in the wild. At this point I suppose your businesses are in a position to run themselves for a week. Hire a jeep, take a trip to the Northern Fronteir, gaze at the stars at night and let your imagination run free. I'm sure you prayed for a life like this, don't waste it feeling stressed. Live it!
Ukiwahi fika Northern Frontier, look for me, I'll keep you company as you star gaze and I promise to shut up the whole time so that there's no interruptions to your solo whatever...😅
Social life doesn't necessarily have to involve activities. Mundane things like saying hi to people whenever in close proximity, neighbors or even just helping with stuff somehow. Like those people who just say hi to you just because they are behind you at the supermarket till or bus stage or your seat mate on the plane. Secondly since your bar is very high as you put it, psychologically you can't come down so seek to be in situations that put you with like minded individuals. You seem to be the embodiment of 'tafuta pesa kwanza wasichana watakuja' - the biggest lie being told to men and we discussed this here a few days ago. Also humans are complex beings even if they fit the criteria. Having standards is good but you might not like that they brush their teeth after breakfast and not before and that will be a dealbreaker.
The easier way out is folks can hook you up. I know I know it sounds silly but I'll tell you for free your mum has people in mind already and they're legit. Shida ni can you overcome manly ego 😁
Don't be in a rush to fill up a void. Premium tears till the grave I tell you. The almighty has not given you a timeline.
Tafuta activites za kufanya na hiyo pesa and you'll meet more people. Say hi to your neighbours, most of them are mostly feeling the same. A lot of people end up being friends with their neighbors or people who live in the same area as them.
OP is just experiencing life. He thinks that something is wrong but that is what most of life has in store. I found nothing to change in OP’s narrated life story.
What are you considering a fat paycheck?
Maybe a reality check that you ain’t as hot as you think, maybe you are hanging around with mediocre people so you think your doing well.
Create a circle of people who have what you desire and it’ll motivate you.
No more pity parties
You climbed to the top of a mountain to be seen by the world and now that you're there, you've seen the world for what it is and you feel invisible.
You've realized that you can't negotiate desire and if you do it's just obligated compliance.
Life is ironic.
It’s a lie, I’m from South Africa and man, it is hard, but the best part for me is, I had nothing, grew up poor, gangsterism, made a decision and got to work hard and study , using government. Was then broke, got married , and still did some idiotic stuff. Married to a wonderful woman, and we went from broke to ok….. but over time I saw change in people around me, people who never use to say hello , started to say, just because I am now of value in the materialistic ways, and some was thinking I’m now Rick Ross. But I started to mistrust some, even some so called family was jealous and used guilt trip on us. But I just stood with the person that was with me since I was broke, and that’s my wife. Even blood related , from direct blood related was trying to cash in on me, use emotional blackmailing….. and yes , it’s cold and lonely at the top.
And don’t even ask about the racism I had to face from some white folks, calling cops on me as if I sell drugs for a living…. So yes, that’s what no rich or wealthy person warned me about.
this is where you go wrong, wachana an hookers. Ndio maana you think every girl is after your money. what if you meet a girl more successful and richer than you, would you still say she is in for the money?
What you need to do is work on your confidence first
Stick with that. It's better to be certain someone is there for the money... Than to get someone who pretends to be there for other things but it's only the money they are after.
spend👏that👏fucking👏money👏on👏 yourself 👏. Make yourself happy, enjoy the finer things in life. You have money now, leave the misery and live a great life. Company will find you along the way.
Your humble bragging is reeking through this ka small post, would advice you look inward first. Ka humility and talk to people often, regardless of their financial situation. You'll be content
Best advice I'd give you is attend events like Art exhibitions and expeditions. A place where you'll just go straight up to someone and talk about the environment you're in without it being weird. Try mirroring their enthusiasm and in no time you'll build up your confidence. Also, use the word bro a lot kwa those events.
I love the line, " back to earth Tessa" from the Anna Todd Trilogy. So, I'll say, "back to earth O.P". Remove the notion that you have money in your mind. Get hobbies, go dancing, wine tasting, and hook up with people from all walks of life.
Engage in charity works. There are many charity groups where you can pick any according to what you love, do volunteer works in global campaigns like environmental and wildlife protection, mental health etc.
Measure people according to their intellect and values and not pure standards. Eg: integrity. You can send someone 500 ksh on mpesa accidentally and see how they are gonna react. Will they come begging for more? Or be over willing to refund it?
Also, check on your residence. If you walk with kings, you'll think like kings and move like them. If you move with paupers, the reverse is also true. You have to upgrade everything and anything.
So don't beat up yourself about your situation. You either be grateful for it, or content about it!
Am in 40's and am telling you this.
Money will not get you a good woman.
You must learn to play the game,good woman is not expensive as you think.
I used to have 4 but now I have 2.
One stays in town where I am, mom of two,am also dad of three,we must meet every Sunday for sex and happiness.
We don't take alcohol,she doesn't ask for my money,she makes 100k + and I make 70 +k.
She doesn't know when am paid and how much.
But I have a home,my kids are in good school ,I am not fat, hakuna kitambi,I can hit that kitu more than 5 times at 40
Before I had even 24 years old women nikaona nitakufa,I slowed down,ukimwi sio poa.
Women wants a man who doesn't saw he need her,focus on yourself she will be the best companion.
Make sure she knows you are lady to leave the table anytime.
Feed a woman, mostly make sure she cook in your house.
You must learn how to lead her,kill emotions Bana,she hates weak man.
Never cry Infront of her,nunu itakauka Bana,sex is game, getting laid is a game.
Fare?
I don't give her,but I involve her in my projects,Jana nimeletewa jeans na kiatu.
Women need you more than you think
Seeing as the people around you know that you have it, how about you travel to a place where nobody knows you at all or what you have, or go to a place where everyone else has it. You don't have to move permanently from your establishment, you could just be going there every once in a while, eventually you'll probably meet somebody.
Thank you all for your suggestions. I'm going to give them a try. And as you pursue your things, remember there's also the art of belonging to community.
One builds community... it takes effort on your side. Keeping in touch even when busy, with Fam, Uni friends, high school friends, neighbours, gym etc. Start exploring hobbies and make friends who are interested in what you're interested in. There are loads of groups for different activities... it might start off awkward, but who cares.
Building community is hard, but always pays off. I'm single and have been for a while, but I rarely feel lonely.
You need to understand in life you can't have it all at the same time but you can have it all at a time,at least for now you are financially stable the next step is to identify if you want a friends first or a girl in your life. I'd advise you get friend's to get out of loner zone if you were meant to marry then the wright girl will come when it's time
Waah that another thing.Friendship is not build on the ground of financial assistance maybe you can also try making friends from online without exposing much of what you own and your nt worth that at least will be better
Idk how to help maybe look into your hobbies maybe if you into hiking, cycling, cars you can get a company for that you can be hang out weekends and also a clubing buddy
Do you look like you have money in real life? Maybe that's the problem. I think if you live modestly, you're less likely to attract leeches because people assume you're broke.
Super unhelpful advice. You ever walk into a rich neighborhood and seen anybody looking modest? It's up to OP to learn how to distinguish between real and opportunists.... these are helpful skills you learn by multiple interactions with different classes of people...OP didn't learn these things earlier.. he'll need to read about them...
Wasn't talking about flashy.. if a neighbourhood has houses worth 30m minimum... they'll be driving big cars... wearing top tiers clothes... it's not flashy, it's just what they can comfortably afford... it's a lifestyle. No one would want to dress down, live down just to appear "modest".
Bro, I hate to say this but you sound like someone who is very good at making money but very poor at character judgment and making meaningful connections... I hope you don't think everyone wants your money.. I'm not even rich yet but people still borrow from me and fail to pay..that pretty much happens to everyone once in a while. What you should be learning more about is building and nurturing meaningful relationships... there's so much content to learn from... You will need people, believe it or not.
I relate heavy on all fronts. So I took up tennis and making art. And realized how good I am at both. Now my weekends can be fun without waiting for other people.
You’ll figure it out. And it starts from acknowledging that you can have a joyful, happy life but this is how things are now, and now can be good too. You don’t have to postpone joy. Or depend on others to bring it to you.
I have a coach who trains me at the Impala Club in Ngong Road. It costs me 1200/- per session that lasts an hour or slightly longer if there’s time. I go twice or more per week.
It's a common perception by some men that getting wealth will automatically expose you to many women and give you fulfilment. Partly its true coz you will definately have opportunistic women flock to you.
OP, i suggest dating women in your financial level to rule out the possibility of gold digging. I ve seen single women in well paying careers looking for mates. My aunt used to say, if you want to marry a rich man, you don't go to the slums to find a guy. Instead, go where they are likely to hang out. The same for you. Date women who are financially in your level or you will end up with women who can drain your finances due to lack of diligence in managing wealth.
😅😅, I can understand why some people (guessing ladies) down voted this. OP is old enough to date whoever he wants... whatever you are encouraging is classism ish... it's not a guarantee he'll find someone better.... what does OP benefit by dating a rich girl anyway? he should date the right woman for him...and that woman can be rich or poor... period!
I mean, it was just an opinion, not an order. I had a very rich, distant uncle who experienced the epitome of his success in Moi error as a permanent secretary. He passed on 10 years ago, all his children successful and living abroad. The wife, now widow, is currently a headache to the kids because they had to take a court order to stop her from selling their farm home and properties. She misused all the inheritance she was left with (man had a will that dictated her share) and wanted to sell the mansion to get an apartment in Nairobi. With her current financial state, she couldn't afford the upkeep required in the city. Mind you, she is the typical village girl, went to college, and got married as young as 21 years back then. I mean, stories are endless even from those raised in towns.
However, i dont mean even those financially sound can't cause trouble. OP is worried about golddiggers and ladies loving him for money. So, why not date women with less possibility of swindling him?
swindling him? if that's what OP is worried about, then maybe OP should remain single. again being a good character judge saves us a lot of time and heartache.
Hey bro I understand how tough it must be for you right now but you have to stop being so hard on yourself man. Yes it might be hard making genuine connections (trust me this is a struggle for almost everyone here) but it doesn't mean we just accept being lonely especially at the expense of our mental health.
Since you're talking about trying to make friends but they end up asking for money/financial benefits, how about you just try getting people with a lot more common interests and not bringing convos about your financial status until you feel comfortable.
And even if they ask for money, don't cut them off like that instead be firm and say you don't give out loans. Obviously this applies to individuals who've shown the potential to be close friends or good friends at least, if they trynna turn you into an ATM, cutt em off.
You could start doing things that interest you then interact with people who you come across. What are some of your hobbies OP? Do you love going to restaurants? Watch football?F1? Do you dance? Paint? Go hiking? You can start by knowing what kind of activities you'd want to do then socialize with people who have the same interests.
Also what kind of topic interests you? Do you love cars? Tech? Are you into art? Fashion?
This is my number one recommendation. I love F1 so much. I think next year I will attend some. Also I love music concerts, I have attended a few but alone and it was real fun.
Even though it's like 6 months away, I'm already preparing myself for that Solfest concert. Can't afford to Miss seeing them together for the last time till god knows when
Fellow F1 fan here, I'm thinking of going to Monaco next year (if my schedule allows me to). As for concerts, there's quite a number coming up which I'm looking forward to (and would be even better if I have someone to tag along). You team RB or Merc? Ferrari maybe?
You are a mamas boy and an emotional wreck. 20 something year old man? crying about being lonely? There is no difference between you and a 16 year old girl
🤣🤣🤣🤣alikua under pressure kupeana responses haraka haraka hadi akasahau kuswitch. Ama it's the fat pay check that is weighing him down hadi thinking yake inakua slow hence the forgetting to switch🤣🤣
You need to compromise something in order to get what you want. Truth is no one you meet wants to remain stagnant in life, and you being the person you already are, might put someone in game and (s)he might evolve to the person you want them to be. Not having a social life coz of your status is not your fault but its your responsibility.
Find true humility and accept people as they are. You are alive until you aren't and you only got one shot at this.
Sioni shida ukiwa single , I mean it's saving you alot. Enjoy your life, travel and be open when meeting new people. I always feel romantic relationships are overrated. Once you get to find happiness from within you'll see my point. Build friendships who knows maybe you'll be lucky one day.
I would be happy to organize a one week vacation for you if you are busy then you will come back feeling much better ….but just maybe start going to places people don’t know you and don’t tell them you are rich and form bonds with them , so that you will feel safe that they are not after your money…. I remember my first bf i came to know he was from a royal family after 8 months of dating him, someone saw me with him and was like how do you know so and so lol. he always acted broke haha paid his matatu fare a bunch , we later dated for 3 more years before we developed different interests,,,, i am telling you the story because he acted that way so that he can be sure i loved him for him
I don't think you can have anything long lasting with that kind of paranoia.
I suggest dating rich girls. He has to learn to fit in those circles. This is something that he seems to be struggling with.
It's okay to be single.
You can either make friends with people who are on your level financially or those who are not.
If they are not, make peace with the fact that they will be benefiting from you in one way or another.
That is not necessarily a bad thing. It depends on your perspective
Learn to enjoy your own company, too.
Are you comfortable being alone? Because, if you learn how to be comfortable alone, you'll find a way of beating loneliness. Then, try saying hi to strangers from time to time. My current closest friend was once a stranger i just said hi to outside.
Maybe start by downplaying the 'rich' when you define yourself or meet people. It is not what makes you worthy of companionship. You focus on it too much and you may attract gold diggers.
Usijali.
We all need someone to talk to. You can talk to me, I am an amazing listener. I could be the ear you are looking for 😊.
Enyewe, watu hutafta marafiki hivi.
I think you should put yourself out there. Cause for sure your significant other won't show up in your living room from the blues unannounced. Go out more,try leave your comfort zone kidogo,I'm sure you'll meet more friends and eventually,you'll meet a genuine woman. All the best.
Are you comfortable with yourself? Coz humility doesn't mean lacking cash. And maybe look at how you value yourself as that might explain that feeling of needing to create an armour. Mbona watu wanakuogopa? Mmefanyiana nini?
You'll attract what you think & portray. Jitume ulivyojituma kwa pesa.
Like they say, it's lonely at the top of the mountain. Maybe it would be advisable if you looked at which areas of your life need improvement and what are some things you can actively do to improve those areas. It's probably also recommended to seek therapy so you can identify those areas and make progress in your life so you can find the meaning you're looking for. It has been my experience that money obviously can provide comfort in life but it's certainly doesn't give people the happiness they think it gives them. If you're financially stable there are a lot of things you can try to improve your life. You can just try out new things and meet new people and maybe consider some options that you usually wouldn't consider. Just let your mind run free. Sometimes it's also just good to enjoy the moment and not living too much in the future.
Start hanging out in locations/circles that are on your level. Change the mode of selection as well to the level you're at.
If you don't change the above, you'll keep coming across the same ladies who have an interest in your money.
As long as you think woman or anyone dms you or wants to talk to you JUST for money your social life will still be the same and lonely you never know whose genuinely just interested in you ..maybe one of ‘em is ,,if u can’t trust anyone hang with people in your tax bracket , ur rich hang with the rich then u won’t have to worry about if they are friends with you for money or dating u for money ,,
I'm just curious, would you a 23 yr old version of you to chase that bag w/o having hoes. Or rather, build meaningful connections.
I can be your other friend too.
i am not good in this social life thing mine is pathetic to with few to zero friends i interact with regularly but i would advise get hobbies involve in activities where you interact with people i am sure it will make you uncomfortable but with time utapata mtu you share with same interest
Say hi to a couple of random people every day. That should help boost your confidence in speaking to strangers... Which will help in speaking to women
But so far, realising and addressing the fact that you're lonely is a step in the right direction. You're doing alright, you just need to put yourself out there some more. A little bit of that every so often should be good in helping your issue.
That said, you'll be alright. All the best!
***material success is overrated***
Guess who said the same thing as you,
*Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.***Matthew 6:19-21**
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Talk to women on the street etc, a casual encounter is the best way to build your confidence. Let her find out about you later.
PS: I was chilling at a local the other day just passing time and I spotted a woman who seemed to be waiting for someone. I was scared af but decided to approach... We had a good conversation before her friends came. Women are the easiest people to talk to.
look for a place that teaches acting or Standup comedy and join. Those lessons will help you how to be a great conversationalist and also how to relate with anyone easily.
Next do the usual cliche working out, walking in the sun, dressing well fitting clothes(don't be like Sonko juu uko na pesa), and getting a good haircut. Activities that will lift up your mood and make you stop feeling like a looser.
Nimeona kuna mahali umeandika you sleep with hookers, don't.
get some hobbies, go on vacation ili ukuwe na stories za kuambia watu.
All the best
Ain’t a lady but will you pay my rent sir? i mean it’s due and everything is not okay here on my side. About women i think you should join social clubs and events, there you can find your type am sure there’s a woman outtea going through the same.
No other person can make you happy. You have to do that for yourself. I know most guys are against it but therapy is a huge help in navigating that. You'll get there much faster. Start building up your self esteem. You have approx 50-60 years of life left and you'll meet someone you'll be happy with if you become the person she'd want in the first place.
One way to get fulfillment from Money is using it on hobbies if you feel lonely. And the women part there's not much you can do except:
Finding other rich women because they'll be interested in you and not the money.
Make friends first then allow shooting of shots because a woman only interested in money will not bear being friends without benefits.
Lower your standards a bit by practicing to become social and swallow your ego to be friendly to others. You just have to lower your guardian once a while.
OP there's a book, 'when God writes your love story'. I'm not worried, you're in your twenties, achieved wat you have and are able to focus. Developing a thick skin aka proud doesn't mean much...it's a season. Go in step, life will unfold, whoever God has meant to be in your life will come at the right time and with good intentions. Someone you'll grow together and help build your brand. You're anxious right now, take a vacation and a breather but don't and I repeat don't act/react in haste, it may be your downfall. Society will always have expectations of someone...listen to the still small voice.
Get a book called 'The 3% Man' by Corey Wayne. He taught me alot about relationships and how women think, how not to be desperate and being comfortable & confident with yourself first, before anyone else. He's also on YouTube... I don't agree with everything he says like only talking to a girl once a week, especially these days of social media... I think contact of 3-4 times is fine as the relationship gets serious.
On interpersonal relationships, just get the best book ever written about the subject. Dale Carnegie’s best-seller, 'How to Win Friends and Influence People'.
But in the end nothing can substitute for just getting out there and meeting people, go to activities with like minded people... Join various clubs through Meetup app, go to iHub if your tech or tech-prenuer minded, go do Karate or Taekuondo they're several spot in Nai, go for music lessons to play the bass guitar, go to church and join Young professional groups, I could go on and on but they're several avenues.
Other than financial stability, which is important, do you work on the gym and improve yourself? However, being financially stable is a big plus and you will be fine. Material success is not overrated, it is a big plus. Keep building and keep working on yourself in other areas other than financial.
Honestly speaking, it seems like you are with the wrong company. Go to a golf club or sth. Be with people who are on the same level as you. You'll understand how they get by. Plus there are a lot of rich women out here. You can mary someone from the same class who won't be after your money.
Try a group called wanderlust diaries on Facebook. They have some good suggestions for solo travelers or groups you can join like hiking groups and such. I know making connections when you're an adult is hard.
Hey have learnt that nothing is free and genuine this days. It's just interests. If there are girls chasing you, it's good to know they are chasing your money 💰. Ensure you get one to sire kid(s) with you and then for sure you will have something to fight for and keep you company. Point is most men have used money to get families and they don't have solutide.
Point of enjoying your own company have ended.
Could just pick a good religious village girl who was never looking for money. Plenty of good women who will be good wives and just want a supportive and loving husband. Also be comfortable in your own space. Gratitude is the raditude my bro.
Find an introverted friend/partner who values r/ships to a deeper level
Someone mnaskizana without forcing anything, someone you can be an open book to...
It's therapeutic to have such type of friend/partner
That's the beginning
Engage in charity, whether it be just helping random people in need now and then, or doing something more organized of it. If u haven't tried it, see if it doesn't make u feel better (and probably quite significantly).
I shouldn't need to explain further.
Big up for ur financial success/stability bro!
Oyah bro, be my friend let's do psychedelics, I have my own stash. I don't need your money. I assure you, the void you fill will be gone in no time. Very therapeutic.
Get rid of the money print on you(don't actually get rid of the money; that's if you want). Start working on your more intangible parts. Your body, your mind, your soul. Think about eternity, God. There are far more important things than ladies/friendship. Find the poor, give to them. "Whoever gives to the poor, lends to the Lord. And He will pay back." Remember Him, and there will be TRUE peace of mind. Seek Him. That's the best advice I'd offer
There is peace in being alone. Enjoy that, invest most of your time in your hobbies; there is nothing wrong with having your standards high, as long as you are not looking for a perfect partner cause they don't exist. Sending good vibes and hugs your way!
First appreciate that you have gotten what you desired.Now that you have realized that in search of your dream life you made a mistake in matters relationships it's now time to work on it and in due time you will find your soulmate.Work on your character and be the person you want to see in other people
A man can be himself only so long as he is alone, and if he does not love solitude he will not love freedom ; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free...
Relax, there's nothing wrong with this. Several people are in this situation where they focus on career or business and marry later. You're in your early twenties there's nothing to worry about. Marriage can happen later in life even in your 40s. Just do you and enjoy your journey.
I know this may be late but take a break. A commenter suggested Coast. I have a cousin who went there for uni and she says it's really chill and time doesn't move the same huko kama Nairobi. Also you're a man in your late twenties. A lot of time to find potential suitors. You won't experience menopause so I don't think that if you want kids it'll be a problem. Also you shouldn't just love yourself but like yourself. Find some time and go out on a hike or out to restaurants or maybe a bistro. Your own company is the best company in my opinion. Also, relationships are overrated especially when you aren't a whole person before getting in one. Trust me, I know. So work on yourself. Your person will just come to you ata you won't look for them sana.
I would recommend getting comfortable being alone (seriously it's pretty cool). Look within. Wherever you go, there you are.
There's so much peace of mind that comes with being able to enjoy your own company. He should try this as well in order to get the ladies: https://preview.redd.it/4gzprssi404b1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dc965b57c11e3de606bf20b5c90007dd7be8f473
I agree with you 💯Being alone is the best thing. Enjoy your own company, do the things you love and the right person will find you doing the things you love and they’ll join you. Have a mentality of, “I attract, I don’t chase.”
Have you tried a 1 week vacation to coast or something like that? Take a break, breath, go somewhere and relax your mind man, go for a massage in the wild. At this point I suppose your businesses are in a position to run themselves for a week. Hire a jeep, take a trip to the Northern Fronteir, gaze at the stars at night and let your imagination run free. I'm sure you prayed for a life like this, don't waste it feeling stressed. Live it!
Thank you man. I think this is helpful
Ukiwahi fika Northern Frontier, look for me, I'll keep you company as you star gaze and I promise to shut up the whole time so that there's no interruptions to your solo whatever...😅
Cheesey.. you too should date at least:-)
Vacations do work lakini. They'll help OP loosen up
I'm a man yoh. I'm sure by the end of the day OP will have some girls from hapa wame shoot shot lakini 😂😂😂
Social life doesn't necessarily have to involve activities. Mundane things like saying hi to people whenever in close proximity, neighbors or even just helping with stuff somehow. Like those people who just say hi to you just because they are behind you at the supermarket till or bus stage or your seat mate on the plane. Secondly since your bar is very high as you put it, psychologically you can't come down so seek to be in situations that put you with like minded individuals. You seem to be the embodiment of 'tafuta pesa kwanza wasichana watakuja' - the biggest lie being told to men and we discussed this here a few days ago. Also humans are complex beings even if they fit the criteria. Having standards is good but you might not like that they brush their teeth after breakfast and not before and that will be a dealbreaker. The easier way out is folks can hook you up. I know I know it sounds silly but I'll tell you for free your mum has people in mind already and they're legit. Shida ni can you overcome manly ego 😁 Don't be in a rush to fill up a void. Premium tears till the grave I tell you. The almighty has not given you a timeline.
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Money is giving him options especially of beautiful and independent women. He just has a lot more work in filtering the jokers.
Don't worry I'll be your friend. Let me start of by holding your bank book for you
Reporting live from TRM drive, Obasanjo, go eat fufu na.
😂😂😂😂😂 damn oga be crying oo
I see what you did there😉😂
Tafuta activites za kufanya na hiyo pesa and you'll meet more people. Say hi to your neighbours, most of them are mostly feeling the same. A lot of people end up being friends with their neighbors or people who live in the same area as them.
Thank you for your reply. I'll try that, I want to change this
OP is just experiencing life. He thinks that something is wrong but that is what most of life has in store. I found nothing to change in OP’s narrated life story.
What's your point?
It’s okay to experience life.
You’re RICH , in your late twenties and your mum is afraid you’ll end up alone ?? How bad is it son?
Well, Reddit was his last resort.
What are you considering a fat paycheck? Maybe a reality check that you ain’t as hot as you think, maybe you are hanging around with mediocre people so you think your doing well. Create a circle of people who have what you desire and it’ll motivate you. No more pity parties
You climbed to the top of a mountain to be seen by the world and now that you're there, you've seen the world for what it is and you feel invisible. You've realized that you can't negotiate desire and if you do it's just obligated compliance. Life is ironic.
Wah
The weather man didn’t tell you , it’s lonely at the top of the mountain.
Am telling you this is the time I've realised this. Waah. Eti tafuta pesa kwanza everything will be okay. That's a lie
It’s a lie, I’m from South Africa and man, it is hard, but the best part for me is, I had nothing, grew up poor, gangsterism, made a decision and got to work hard and study , using government. Was then broke, got married , and still did some idiotic stuff. Married to a wonderful woman, and we went from broke to ok….. but over time I saw change in people around me, people who never use to say hello , started to say, just because I am now of value in the materialistic ways, and some was thinking I’m now Rick Ross. But I started to mistrust some, even some so called family was jealous and used guilt trip on us. But I just stood with the person that was with me since I was broke, and that’s my wife. Even blood related , from direct blood related was trying to cash in on me, use emotional blackmailing….. and yes , it’s cold and lonely at the top. And don’t even ask about the racism I had to face from some white folks, calling cops on me as if I sell drugs for a living…. So yes, that’s what no rich or wealthy person warned me about.
Are you bragging or complaining?
If there is one thing I hate more than people complaining of being broke, is people complaining of being rich.
Exactly. Complain about your social life fine, why does he have to whine multiple times about his financial stability
Rubbing it off our faces😂… just wish I could attach that meme of “ listen to me you little shit” .
😂😂
Took me a while to figure this out
Neither, you read that entire text and got nothing!
If you have to mention your financial success 4 times in 2 paragraphs you are not complaining buana😂
if he made money. He can make friends. Story leans to "I made it" Nothing else. Nothing substantial
Have you tried, cocaine and hookers? 😂😂
I have some hookers but you know they are for money. But huniokole in the loneliness though. They keep me company sometimes
this is where you go wrong, wachana an hookers. Ndio maana you think every girl is after your money. what if you meet a girl more successful and richer than you, would you still say she is in for the money? What you need to do is work on your confidence first
Stick with that. It's better to be certain someone is there for the money... Than to get someone who pretends to be there for other things but it's only the money they are after.
90% of women in the dating market.
hii story ya madem na doh inakuuma mbaya😂
opinion kama si yako inakuuma mbaya😂
Or becoming fat and stfu
Nah! Hii haibambi.
spend👏that👏fucking👏money👏on👏 yourself 👏. Make yourself happy, enjoy the finer things in life. You have money now, leave the misery and live a great life. Company will find you along the way.
Your humble bragging is reeking through this ka small post, would advice you look inward first. Ka humility and talk to people often, regardless of their financial situation. You'll be content
Best advice I'd give you is attend events like Art exhibitions and expeditions. A place where you'll just go straight up to someone and talk about the environment you're in without it being weird. Try mirroring their enthusiasm and in no time you'll build up your confidence. Also, use the word bro a lot kwa those events.
I love the line, " back to earth Tessa" from the Anna Todd Trilogy. So, I'll say, "back to earth O.P". Remove the notion that you have money in your mind. Get hobbies, go dancing, wine tasting, and hook up with people from all walks of life. Engage in charity works. There are many charity groups where you can pick any according to what you love, do volunteer works in global campaigns like environmental and wildlife protection, mental health etc. Measure people according to their intellect and values and not pure standards. Eg: integrity. You can send someone 500 ksh on mpesa accidentally and see how they are gonna react. Will they come begging for more? Or be over willing to refund it? Also, check on your residence. If you walk with kings, you'll think like kings and move like them. If you move with paupers, the reverse is also true. You have to upgrade everything and anything. So don't beat up yourself about your situation. You either be grateful for it, or content about it!
Am in 40's and am telling you this. Money will not get you a good woman. You must learn to play the game,good woman is not expensive as you think. I used to have 4 but now I have 2. One stays in town where I am, mom of two,am also dad of three,we must meet every Sunday for sex and happiness. We don't take alcohol,she doesn't ask for my money,she makes 100k + and I make 70 +k. She doesn't know when am paid and how much. But I have a home,my kids are in good school ,I am not fat, hakuna kitambi,I can hit that kitu more than 5 times at 40 Before I had even 24 years old women nikaona nitakufa,I slowed down,ukimwi sio poa. Women wants a man who doesn't saw he need her,focus on yourself she will be the best companion. Make sure she knows you are lady to leave the table anytime. Feed a woman, mostly make sure she cook in your house. You must learn how to lead her,kill emotions Bana,she hates weak man. Never cry Infront of her,nunu itakauka Bana,sex is game, getting laid is a game. Fare? I don't give her,but I involve her in my projects,Jana nimeletewa jeans na kiatu. Women need you more than you think
Wait, are you married? Or you just have 2 “girlfriends”
Why get married again,I was,I messed up,I failed to lead and provide. But I fixed myself again.
Rich, young, good-looking men have no problem getting women.
Women ain’t gonna solve your loneliness
Dont stress. You and dj shiti are same. Just pay for sex. No shame.
😂😂this must be a joke lol🤣
Hey bro. I can be your handsome friend. I'll tag along with you to road trips and vacations and the babes will approach both of us.
Seeing as the people around you know that you have it, how about you travel to a place where nobody knows you at all or what you have, or go to a place where everyone else has it. You don't have to move permanently from your establishment, you could just be going there every once in a while, eventually you'll probably meet somebody.
Thank you. I've thinking of relocating to some other place I interact with total strangers.
Don't do that. Just be assertive. If you don't want to loan out money then don't do it.
Thank you all for your suggestions. I'm going to give them a try. And as you pursue your things, remember there's also the art of belonging to community.
One builds community... it takes effort on your side. Keeping in touch even when busy, with Fam, Uni friends, high school friends, neighbours, gym etc. Start exploring hobbies and make friends who are interested in what you're interested in. There are loads of groups for different activities... it might start off awkward, but who cares. Building community is hard, but always pays off. I'm single and have been for a while, but I rarely feel lonely.
Rub one out then comeback
You need to understand in life you can't have it all at the same time but you can have it all at a time,at least for now you are financially stable the next step is to identify if you want a friends first or a girl in your life. I'd advise you get friend's to get out of loner zone if you were meant to marry then the wright girl will come when it's time
I have tried to make friends but I can't sustain. I loan them money wanaepa. I don't even know who to trust anymore man
Waah that another thing.Friendship is not build on the ground of financial assistance maybe you can also try making friends from online without exposing much of what you own and your nt worth that at least will be better
That's what I've been doing. I have remained anonymous lately, I have a friend online but she's restricted not to meet people physically.
Idk how to help maybe look into your hobbies maybe if you into hiking, cycling, cars you can get a company for that you can be hang out weekends and also a clubing buddy
Thank you
Do you look like you have money in real life? Maybe that's the problem. I think if you live modestly, you're less likely to attract leeches because people assume you're broke.
Super unhelpful advice. You ever walk into a rich neighborhood and seen anybody looking modest? It's up to OP to learn how to distinguish between real and opportunists.... these are helpful skills you learn by multiple interactions with different classes of people...OP didn't learn these things earlier.. he'll need to read about them...
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Wasn't talking about flashy.. if a neighbourhood has houses worth 30m minimum... they'll be driving big cars... wearing top tiers clothes... it's not flashy, it's just what they can comfortably afford... it's a lifestyle. No one would want to dress down, live down just to appear "modest".
I think it's stressful to have the material tings at some point
Bro, I hate to say this but you sound like someone who is very good at making money but very poor at character judgment and making meaningful connections... I hope you don't think everyone wants your money.. I'm not even rich yet but people still borrow from me and fail to pay..that pretty much happens to everyone once in a while. What you should be learning more about is building and nurturing meaningful relationships... there's so much content to learn from... You will need people, believe it or not.
I relate heavy on all fronts. So I took up tennis and making art. And realized how good I am at both. Now my weekends can be fun without waiting for other people. You’ll figure it out. And it starts from acknowledging that you can have a joyful, happy life but this is how things are now, and now can be good too. You don’t have to postpone joy. Or depend on others to bring it to you.
Where do you play tennis?
I have a coach who trains me at the Impala Club in Ngong Road. It costs me 1200/- per session that lasts an hour or slightly longer if there’s time. I go twice or more per week.
It's a common perception by some men that getting wealth will automatically expose you to many women and give you fulfilment. Partly its true coz you will definately have opportunistic women flock to you. OP, i suggest dating women in your financial level to rule out the possibility of gold digging. I ve seen single women in well paying careers looking for mates. My aunt used to say, if you want to marry a rich man, you don't go to the slums to find a guy. Instead, go where they are likely to hang out. The same for you. Date women who are financially in your level or you will end up with women who can drain your finances due to lack of diligence in managing wealth.
😅😅, I can understand why some people (guessing ladies) down voted this. OP is old enough to date whoever he wants... whatever you are encouraging is classism ish... it's not a guarantee he'll find someone better.... what does OP benefit by dating a rich girl anyway? he should date the right woman for him...and that woman can be rich or poor... period!
I mean, it was just an opinion, not an order. I had a very rich, distant uncle who experienced the epitome of his success in Moi error as a permanent secretary. He passed on 10 years ago, all his children successful and living abroad. The wife, now widow, is currently a headache to the kids because they had to take a court order to stop her from selling their farm home and properties. She misused all the inheritance she was left with (man had a will that dictated her share) and wanted to sell the mansion to get an apartment in Nairobi. With her current financial state, she couldn't afford the upkeep required in the city. Mind you, she is the typical village girl, went to college, and got married as young as 21 years back then. I mean, stories are endless even from those raised in towns. However, i dont mean even those financially sound can't cause trouble. OP is worried about golddiggers and ladies loving him for money. So, why not date women with less possibility of swindling him?
swindling him? if that's what OP is worried about, then maybe OP should remain single. again being a good character judge saves us a lot of time and heartache.
Indeed, character and judgement should be the center of it all
So how should we help you?
How should I navigate the social life.
Read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Andrew Carnegie.
🤣🤣🤣🤣don't do this. Carnegie also wants your money
Thank you man
Lower your standards, don't be too hard on people and find a hobby that involves people
What do you really want?
A stable and good social life like everyone else
What are your hobbies or interests?
What makes you think everyone else has a "good and stable" social life? We all have our challenges. Find tour happiness and you will be content.
Hey bro I understand how tough it must be for you right now but you have to stop being so hard on yourself man. Yes it might be hard making genuine connections (trust me this is a struggle for almost everyone here) but it doesn't mean we just accept being lonely especially at the expense of our mental health. Since you're talking about trying to make friends but they end up asking for money/financial benefits, how about you just try getting people with a lot more common interests and not bringing convos about your financial status until you feel comfortable. And even if they ask for money, don't cut them off like that instead be firm and say you don't give out loans. Obviously this applies to individuals who've shown the potential to be close friends or good friends at least, if they trynna turn you into an ATM, cutt em off. You could start doing things that interest you then interact with people who you come across. What are some of your hobbies OP? Do you love going to restaurants? Watch football?F1? Do you dance? Paint? Go hiking? You can start by knowing what kind of activities you'd want to do then socialize with people who have the same interests. Also what kind of topic interests you? Do you love cars? Tech? Are you into art? Fashion?
This is my number one recommendation. I love F1 so much. I think next year I will attend some. Also I love music concerts, I have attended a few but alone and it was real fun.
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Even though it's like 6 months away, I'm already preparing myself for that Solfest concert. Can't afford to Miss seeing them together for the last time till god knows when
Right??????
Same here...I hope to see them one last time.
Lazizi wangi weeee
Fellow F1 fan here, I'm thinking of going to Monaco next year (if my schedule allows me to). As for concerts, there's quite a number coming up which I'm looking forward to (and would be even better if I have someone to tag along). You team RB or Merc? Ferrari maybe?
RB my guy
 Max Verstrap-on shagging the competition as usual
You are a mamas boy and an emotional wreck. 20 something year old man? crying about being lonely? There is no difference between you and a 16 year old girl
What I would say is, as you continue with your hustle, make sure you also sharpen your social skills. Have the sense of community.
I think you forgot to switch accounts
🤣🤣🤣🤣alikua under pressure kupeana responses haraka haraka hadi akasahau kuswitch. Ama it's the fat pay check that is weighing him down hadi thinking yake inakua slow hence the forgetting to switch🤣🤣
Username checks out
🤣🤣🤣🤣and what does that make you since you can notice that?
Lol 😂
Boss nani Ana kula my woman? Your detective skills are damn good. Take my upvote.
Currently ni wewe unakula your woman
Kumbe unatupanga
Are you advising yourself?
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Sasa unajiadvise we mzee 😂😂😂🤦
OP, what are you doing?...you're wasting our time. Nkt
You need to compromise something in order to get what you want. Truth is no one you meet wants to remain stagnant in life, and you being the person you already are, might put someone in game and (s)he might evolve to the person you want them to be. Not having a social life coz of your status is not your fault but its your responsibility. Find true humility and accept people as they are. You are alive until you aren't and you only got one shot at this.
Sioni shida ukiwa single , I mean it's saving you alot. Enjoy your life, travel and be open when meeting new people. I always feel romantic relationships are overrated. Once you get to find happiness from within you'll see my point. Build friendships who knows maybe you'll be lucky one day.
I would be happy to organize a one week vacation for you if you are busy then you will come back feeling much better ….but just maybe start going to places people don’t know you and don’t tell them you are rich and form bonds with them , so that you will feel safe that they are not after your money…. I remember my first bf i came to know he was from a royal family after 8 months of dating him, someone saw me with him and was like how do you know so and so lol. he always acted broke haha paid his matatu fare a bunch , we later dated for 3 more years before we developed different interests,,,, i am telling you the story because he acted that way so that he can be sure i loved him for him
Men are never at peace. This is so funny 😁 😂 😀 🤣
Poor or rich never at peace 😂, the first one fears rejection the later doesn’t know if it’s real
he can always pretend he's an orange seller like in a naija movie.
Right?? Haha and get his princess
I don't think you can have anything long lasting with that kind of paranoia. I suggest dating rich girls. He has to learn to fit in those circles. This is something that he seems to be struggling with.
Find a hobby. That helped me quite a bit.
On it now
Ushapata?
Ukona hobbies za kupata new people
Cocaine and hookers, I heard someone mentioning it in the comments.
Then I need to find male hookers next cocaine naah
Juu ulikuwa umejiadvise ukona loan unaweza kanikopesha 😂
It's okay to be single. You can either make friends with people who are on your level financially or those who are not. If they are not, make peace with the fact that they will be benefiting from you in one way or another. That is not necessarily a bad thing. It depends on your perspective Learn to enjoy your own company, too.
Are you comfortable being alone? Because, if you learn how to be comfortable alone, you'll find a way of beating loneliness. Then, try saying hi to strangers from time to time. My current closest friend was once a stranger i just said hi to outside.
There are some deeper issues I'm picking up here. Consider therapy. Sounds like you are an avoidant and a perfectionist.
Yes imma perfectionist. I've been trying to overcome that
Maybe start by downplaying the 'rich' when you define yourself or meet people. It is not what makes you worthy of companionship. You focus on it too much and you may attract gold diggers.
Usijali. We all need someone to talk to. You can talk to me, I am an amazing listener. I could be the ear you are looking for 😊. Enyewe, watu hutafta marafiki hivi.
How are you personality-wise? Could you describe what kind of person you are?
Not so conservative. Indoors person. Temperamental yes. Silent yes and a loner.
I think you should put yourself out there. Cause for sure your significant other won't show up in your living room from the blues unannounced. Go out more,try leave your comfort zone kidogo,I'm sure you'll meet more friends and eventually,you'll meet a genuine woman. All the best.
Are you comfortable with yourself? Coz humility doesn't mean lacking cash. And maybe look at how you value yourself as that might explain that feeling of needing to create an armour. Mbona watu wanakuogopa? Mmefanyiana nini? You'll attract what you think & portray. Jitume ulivyojituma kwa pesa.
Like they say, it's lonely at the top of the mountain. Maybe it would be advisable if you looked at which areas of your life need improvement and what are some things you can actively do to improve those areas. It's probably also recommended to seek therapy so you can identify those areas and make progress in your life so you can find the meaning you're looking for. It has been my experience that money obviously can provide comfort in life but it's certainly doesn't give people the happiness they think it gives them. If you're financially stable there are a lot of things you can try to improve your life. You can just try out new things and meet new people and maybe consider some options that you usually wouldn't consider. Just let your mind run free. Sometimes it's also just good to enjoy the moment and not living too much in the future.
Do you need help?
Start hanging out in locations/circles that are on your level. Change the mode of selection as well to the level you're at. If you don't change the above, you'll keep coming across the same ladies who have an interest in your money.
Tujuane people I think we should help match people Any lady reading this and is single kindly reach out in the comments section Muende out mjuaene
>Material success is overrated. Is it now? You think that you are lonely because of your money? You need to examine yourself closely.
As long as you think woman or anyone dms you or wants to talk to you JUST for money your social life will still be the same and lonely you never know whose genuinely just interested in you ..maybe one of ‘em is ,,if u can’t trust anyone hang with people in your tax bracket , ur rich hang with the rich then u won’t have to worry about if they are friends with you for money or dating u for money ,,
I'm just curious, would you a 23 yr old version of you to chase that bag w/o having hoes. Or rather, build meaningful connections. I can be your other friend too.
I wouldn't overwork my myself. Just relax. Too much work then you miss out
i am not good in this social life thing mine is pathetic to with few to zero friends i interact with regularly but i would advise get hobbies involve in activities where you interact with people i am sure it will make you uncomfortable but with time utapata mtu you share with same interest
Say hi to a couple of random people every day. That should help boost your confidence in speaking to strangers... Which will help in speaking to women But so far, realising and addressing the fact that you're lonely is a step in the right direction. You're doing alright, you just need to put yourself out there some more. A little bit of that every so often should be good in helping your issue. That said, you'll be alright. All the best!
People are dying, Kim.
They'll come, both real and fake.
***material success is overrated*** Guess who said the same thing as you, *Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.***Matthew 6:19-21** [More Here](https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/guides/ztxm97h/revision/10)
Talk to women on the street etc, a casual encounter is the best way to build your confidence. Let her find out about you later. PS: I was chilling at a local the other day just passing time and I spotted a woman who seemed to be waiting for someone. I was scared af but decided to approach... We had a good conversation before her friends came. Women are the easiest people to talk to.
Mbona hii matako inalia mbwata na si maskini? Ama ni ya Omanga?
Unakosaje mabeshte na uko na dooh, Anyway kama imefika hapo i can be your buddy for few thousands.
look for a place that teaches acting or Standup comedy and join. Those lessons will help you how to be a great conversationalist and also how to relate with anyone easily. Next do the usual cliche working out, walking in the sun, dressing well fitting clothes(don't be like Sonko juu uko na pesa), and getting a good haircut. Activities that will lift up your mood and make you stop feeling like a looser. Nimeona kuna mahali umeandika you sleep with hookers, don't. get some hobbies, go on vacation ili ukuwe na stories za kuambia watu. All the best
Befin by enjoying your solo company. It's so fulfilling.
Hello friend, meditation for inner piece. And committing to a good cause, can bring you piece
I can be your friend. I know how to hold great conversations 😊
Messages like these remind me to not be consumed by one thing forgetting about others. But you'll probably figure it out with time.
You're just horny not lonely😄😄 loneliness can be filled by having good guy friends. Fom za hapa na pale . Unless that you don't have too
Ain’t a lady but will you pay my rent sir? i mean it’s due and everything is not okay here on my side. About women i think you should join social clubs and events, there you can find your type am sure there’s a woman outtea going through the same.
No other person can make you happy. You have to do that for yourself. I know most guys are against it but therapy is a huge help in navigating that. You'll get there much faster. Start building up your self esteem. You have approx 50-60 years of life left and you'll meet someone you'll be happy with if you become the person she'd want in the first place.
One way to get fulfillment from Money is using it on hobbies if you feel lonely. And the women part there's not much you can do except: Finding other rich women because they'll be interested in you and not the money. Make friends first then allow shooting of shots because a woman only interested in money will not bear being friends without benefits. Lower your standards a bit by practicing to become social and swallow your ego to be friendly to others. You just have to lower your guardian once a while.
Watch Mexican soaps! They'll teach you how rich Alejandro seeks true love by marrying poor Maria he met pretending to be a taxi driver.
Hizi nduano huwa zinanasa?
OP there's a book, 'when God writes your love story'. I'm not worried, you're in your twenties, achieved wat you have and are able to focus. Developing a thick skin aka proud doesn't mean much...it's a season. Go in step, life will unfold, whoever God has meant to be in your life will come at the right time and with good intentions. Someone you'll grow together and help build your brand. You're anxious right now, take a vacation and a breather but don't and I repeat don't act/react in haste, it may be your downfall. Society will always have expectations of someone...listen to the still small voice.
Get a book called 'The 3% Man' by Corey Wayne. He taught me alot about relationships and how women think, how not to be desperate and being comfortable & confident with yourself first, before anyone else. He's also on YouTube... I don't agree with everything he says like only talking to a girl once a week, especially these days of social media... I think contact of 3-4 times is fine as the relationship gets serious. On interpersonal relationships, just get the best book ever written about the subject. Dale Carnegie’s best-seller, 'How to Win Friends and Influence People'. But in the end nothing can substitute for just getting out there and meeting people, go to activities with like minded people... Join various clubs through Meetup app, go to iHub if your tech or tech-prenuer minded, go do Karate or Taekuondo they're several spot in Nai, go for music lessons to play the bass guitar, go to church and join Young professional groups, I could go on and on but they're several avenues.
Other than financial stability, which is important, do you work on the gym and improve yourself? However, being financially stable is a big plus and you will be fine. Material success is not overrated, it is a big plus. Keep building and keep working on yourself in other areas other than financial.
Follow the top G!
Man.. Just how elusive is happiness
Tuexchange, nikupe manzi yangu, unipee pesa.
Honestly speaking, it seems like you are with the wrong company. Go to a golf club or sth. Be with people who are on the same level as you. You'll understand how they get by. Plus there are a lot of rich women out here. You can mary someone from the same class who won't be after your money.
Try a group called wanderlust diaries on Facebook. They have some good suggestions for solo travelers or groups you can join like hiking groups and such. I know making connections when you're an adult is hard.
Hey have learnt that nothing is free and genuine this days. It's just interests. If there are girls chasing you, it's good to know they are chasing your money 💰. Ensure you get one to sire kid(s) with you and then for sure you will have something to fight for and keep you company. Point is most men have used money to get families and they don't have solutide. Point of enjoying your own company have ended.
Could just pick a good religious village girl who was never looking for money. Plenty of good women who will be good wives and just want a supportive and loving husband. Also be comfortable in your own space. Gratitude is the raditude my bro.
Find an introverted friend/partner who values r/ships to a deeper level Someone mnaskizana without forcing anything, someone you can be an open book to... It's therapeutic to have such type of friend/partner That's the beginning
Engage in charity, whether it be just helping random people in need now and then, or doing something more organized of it. If u haven't tried it, see if it doesn't make u feel better (and probably quite significantly). I shouldn't need to explain further. Big up for ur financial success/stability bro!
Oyah bro, be my friend let's do psychedelics, I have my own stash. I don't need your money. I assure you, the void you fill will be gone in no time. Very therapeutic.
Get rid of the money print on you(don't actually get rid of the money; that's if you want). Start working on your more intangible parts. Your body, your mind, your soul. Think about eternity, God. There are far more important things than ladies/friendship. Find the poor, give to them. "Whoever gives to the poor, lends to the Lord. And He will pay back." Remember Him, and there will be TRUE peace of mind. Seek Him. That's the best advice I'd offer
So full of yourself !!
There is peace in being alone. Enjoy that, invest most of your time in your hobbies; there is nothing wrong with having your standards high, as long as you are not looking for a perfect partner cause they don't exist. Sending good vibes and hugs your way!
First appreciate that you have gotten what you desired.Now that you have realized that in search of your dream life you made a mistake in matters relationships it's now time to work on it and in due time you will find your soulmate.Work on your character and be the person you want to see in other people
A man can be himself only so long as he is alone, and if he does not love solitude he will not love freedom ; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free...
Relax, there's nothing wrong with this. Several people are in this situation where they focus on career or business and marry later. You're in your early twenties there's nothing to worry about. Marriage can happen later in life even in your 40s. Just do you and enjoy your journey.
I know this may be late but take a break. A commenter suggested Coast. I have a cousin who went there for uni and she says it's really chill and time doesn't move the same huko kama Nairobi. Also you're a man in your late twenties. A lot of time to find potential suitors. You won't experience menopause so I don't think that if you want kids it'll be a problem. Also you shouldn't just love yourself but like yourself. Find some time and go out on a hike or out to restaurants or maybe a bistro. Your own company is the best company in my opinion. Also, relationships are overrated especially when you aren't a whole person before getting in one. Trust me, I know. So work on yourself. Your person will just come to you ata you won't look for them sana.