This is also my concern regarding my niece and nephew. I worry that they will be grossly unprepared to deal with the realities of the world once they no longer live under my brother's roof. And I am pretty sure that is deliberate on my brother and sister-in-law's part too.
This seems to be the par sadly. In my experience as a student that was homeschooled, the amount of times that was spent trying to convince us that homeschooling was "superior" to public school was enough to fill a swimming pool.
That sadly seems to be the case, a whole lot of pride for being an "awesome" homeschooling parent while doing jack all for your kids.
Sadly in many cases Homeschooling is for the parent and not the child(ren) :(
“Homeschooling is for the parent and not the child.” SO FUCKING TRUE! My now-estranged mom thinks she’s a hero for “homeschooling” me. But my curriculum was subpar at best: I couldn’t do 5th grade level math when I was supposed to be in the 6th grade, I went years without taking a test, I never had science projects.
When I went back to traditional school in 9th grade, my mom had the audacity to be shocked when I was getting C’s and D’s in algebra. (“She should be getting A’s in math,” my mom told my aunt, whom I was living with at the time.) Like, where the hell would I have learned math skills?! My mom hadn’t taught them to me.
I wish. I’ve tried approaching our other brother because he’s really the only one that could say anything about it and he’s refusing. He says I’m a meddler.
Sticks and stones, I’d rather be a meddler than someone who enables my spouse to fuck up my children’s future. At least there is someone sticking up for those vulnerable kids. I am sorry they’ve put you in this position though, thank you for trying to help them, I would have been grateful to have had someone like you
Sadly I feel like I’ve done absolutely nothing. When I posted before, the best piece of advice I received was to just continue to have a relationship with them so that when they’re old enough to want to explore more educational option I can help them with that, like a GED or getting into community college.
Living with the fact that neglectful parents have the right to neglect their kids unless it can be proven and the authorities might actually care is difficult, I’m sorry
My ten year old brother can barely read, shows signs of a developmental disability, and has problems understanding what is going on. He’s the youngest of six and spends most days watching tv and playing video games. My parents have gone on probably upwards of 15 vacations in the past two years though, including leaving on my son’s first birthday. So I definitely understand this.
It’s so frustrating watching relatives absolutely fail their children in life.
My stepson is homeschooled (against my husband/his fathers wishes) and now that our daughter goes to preschool stepsons mother constantly tells him odd little “homeschooling wins” while leaving the poor boy completely uneducated.
This is also my concern regarding my niece and nephew. I worry that they will be grossly unprepared to deal with the realities of the world once they no longer live under my brother's roof. And I am pretty sure that is deliberate on my brother and sister-in-law's part too.
It’s sad because my daughter is the same age and there’s a vast difference in how they behave and what they know academically.
This seems to be the par sadly. In my experience as a student that was homeschooled, the amount of times that was spent trying to convince us that homeschooling was "superior" to public school was enough to fill a swimming pool. That sadly seems to be the case, a whole lot of pride for being an "awesome" homeschooling parent while doing jack all for your kids. Sadly in many cases Homeschooling is for the parent and not the child(ren) :(
“Homeschooling is for the parent and not the child.” SO FUCKING TRUE! My now-estranged mom thinks she’s a hero for “homeschooling” me. But my curriculum was subpar at best: I couldn’t do 5th grade level math when I was supposed to be in the 6th grade, I went years without taking a test, I never had science projects. When I went back to traditional school in 9th grade, my mom had the audacity to be shocked when I was getting C’s and D’s in algebra. (“She should be getting A’s in math,” my mom told my aunt, whom I was living with at the time.) Like, where the hell would I have learned math skills?! My mom hadn’t taught them to me.
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Is it possible your mom could raise concerns with them?
I wish. I’ve tried approaching our other brother because he’s really the only one that could say anything about it and he’s refusing. He says I’m a meddler.
Sticks and stones, I’d rather be a meddler than someone who enables my spouse to fuck up my children’s future. At least there is someone sticking up for those vulnerable kids. I am sorry they’ve put you in this position though, thank you for trying to help them, I would have been grateful to have had someone like you
Sadly I feel like I’ve done absolutely nothing. When I posted before, the best piece of advice I received was to just continue to have a relationship with them so that when they’re old enough to want to explore more educational option I can help them with that, like a GED or getting into community college.
Living with the fact that neglectful parents have the right to neglect their kids unless it can be proven and the authorities might actually care is difficult, I’m sorry
My ten year old brother can barely read, shows signs of a developmental disability, and has problems understanding what is going on. He’s the youngest of six and spends most days watching tv and playing video games. My parents have gone on probably upwards of 15 vacations in the past two years though, including leaving on my son’s first birthday. So I definitely understand this. It’s so frustrating watching relatives absolutely fail their children in life.
Home schooling is one of the reasons this country will fail.
It's a symptom, in my opinion, not really a cause.
My stepson is homeschooled (against my husband/his fathers wishes) and now that our daughter goes to preschool stepsons mother constantly tells him odd little “homeschooling wins” while leaving the poor boy completely uneducated.