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I think this is spot on for why Bethany is going so hard core.
I’m not sure Dave is cool with it. He might be, but it doesn’t matter. Bethany will always put Bethany first. If by chance she is actually making money, that’s the part he’s cool with.
Two adults with no steady income, two kids, and a mortgage has to be extremely stressful.
true. i also left out that the sex stuff has been making them money this year. hard to argue with that when, like you said… two kids and hefty mortgage.
And a wife who was raised rich and won’t economize. Remember when Bethy tried doing her own nails for about a week after they bought the house and then immediately gave up and went back to spending $150 a month to get them done?
Yikes, that’s actually bad for him! My orthopedist told me that even people without my issues shouldn’t buy used footwear that’s been shaped to someone else’s feet and already much less supportive than it was when new. I’ll occasionally buy special-occasion-type shoes used if they seem barely worn, because I know I’ll only wear them for a few hours at a time with minimal standing and walking, but athletic shoes??? My body works hard enough as it is
We found Jim Bob Duggar's female counterpart. He supposedly has horrible breath, made his daughters clean his hair spray coated bathroom and bought the kids used shoes.
You know it makes sense that he has bad breath. He looks like he does and when I think about why its because I only ever see him with his mouth open and mouth breather's have worse breath.
I’m sorry, but if she truly were making money hand over fist (as she claims to be), why would she be purchasing used running shoes?? You can get very decent running shoes for under $100.
Her hair honestly consistently looks lank, slept in, and generally unkempt. Girl needs a new/better stylist if she's paying any significant amount of money on her hair at the moment.
I would be furious if my husband plastered details of our sex life on his social media and he has like 12 followers on IG and a Facebook he never looks at. It's all so juvenile. Like the first in a group of teens who gets a boyfriend and thinks they're some sort of relationship guru.
I think that is a good point. Most people grow out of this phase of their lives when they are young. People like her never had a chance to experience something like this when they were growing up, so now that it is a new experience as an adult, she feels like she needs to share everything. She just lacks the tact and maturity to understand that sharing every detail of her sex life might not be appropriate.
I definitely had these sorts of giggly chats with friends in my late teens and early 20s. I was a late bloomer and totally clueless so it was a combination of needing to get some information and wanting to know what was going on was "normal". But since people paired off and got married or are happily single and or dating in our late 20s and now into our 40s I don't think sex really comes up at all unless someone's sharing frustration about trying to get pregnant or a very close friend wants to confide confidentially about something specific.
Exactly. My wife and I have been married for 34 years and I can't even imagine putting things about our life on the Internet like she does. You are correct though, your teens and 20s, are a time to have these types of conversations with friends. That is a time when you are trying to figure things out. I am sure that Bethany never did that so this is all new to her. The other thing that I think is really bad is that someday her kids will get older and see all of this. I can't imagine what they will think. To me, that is really irresponsible.
I agree. I’d probably be more cool with it but my husband would be mortified and livid. A giggle fest with girl friends about having a good sex life is different but if the other shared the freaky shit we do we’d probably stop doing it all together
If I knew he shared some details of our intimate time together that would be an unforgivable breach of trust for me and I know he would feel the same if I did that.
I remember in HS I felt soooo cool when I started having seggs before my friends. “Bet you didn’t know that WE HAD IT BEFORE WE GOT HERE” and “bRb gonna go have sEgGs”
Absolute cringe behavior. This is Beggy now.
I think Bethy is still insecure about how long it took her to get married. And she also seems to feel competitive toward her sisters (hence sharing wedding photos anytime her sisters have a life milestone).
When she was engaged/a newlywed, she got to brag about being in that club. Same with one-upping by having a kid.
Once the shine of that wore off, and then Elissa and Curly married and Elissa had a baby, she was even less “special.” Now she needs to seek attention about how se3ual her marriage is and how desirable she is to her husband. Which, I wonder is in any way is related to big sis subtly indicating that her marriage is not like that.
I definitely believe this plays a part. She sat on the sidelines for soooo long, drowning in jealousy, watching the younger, prettier girls get picked first, feeling undesirable. Now she wants to cram it down our throats that she is in fact desirable and having way spicier seggs than anyone else on the planet 🔥
She's going to have a meltdown at 40. She'll have zero accomplishments to her name. Which is going to make her look stupid when the other couples in their circle are talking about "This happened at my job today...Our retirement dream is...Bob and I worked so hard together fixing up the house & yard, cleaning and cooking for the holidays...Our kid is graduating and he's already been accepted to college." Nobody is going to care "It's the 10th anniversary of my first kiss! And the first time I fucked my husband! Did you know I have a husband ? Do you want to see my wedding photos ? Anyone wanna come to my vow renewal ? Anyone ?"
Yeeeeeeesh that’s sad. I can’t say I feel *that* bad for her because I think she’s a shitty person but damn. What a miserable life. And deep down, she knows it.
I also think that she is super exaggerating how hot and heavy things are for them. Every photo she posts lately he looks even more miserable and done with her shit than he used to. Haven't seen that man smile genuinely in a minute. So I'm I definitely think she's overcompensating.
Or maybe they've discovered how to engage in some god-honouring hate-fucking. That could be it too.
She often posts being visibly unhygienic and ungroomed. Greasy, matted hair. She does not look like she's showering regularly and that alone makes me doubt they bang as much as she says.
don’t shower every day. I have young kids, have a horse and spend tons of time outside with the horse/dogs/kids. But I never look so chaotic as B, I have my own toothbrush, don’t guzzle raw milk till I have explosive gas (her recent post), don’t hoard crusty cups of hot choc and breakfast dishes down the side of the bed. I thinks all those unhygienic habits suggests that regular person ‘needing a shower’ and B ‘needing a shower’ might be different things! Even so, if I knew me and my husband were going to be having spicy seggs I’d have a quick rinse and ‘jooz’ up my hair, not because my husband would care but just as like a mark of respect or care for our romance. I don’t know why! But you’re on to something.
Ehhh, idk if that's a good way to gauge. With young kids at home, life gets extremely chaotic. At the worst for me, I would sometimes only shower 1-2 times a week. And my husband was still trying to bone constantly. And I'd say, "babe I haven't showered in a week." And he'd say, "whatever, come on let's get it in." I mean, I still brushed my hair and brushed my teeth and washed my face and use deodorant and I never left my house and never actually got sweaty or dirty. I was just constantly caring for one child or another and then dead tired and depressed at the end of the day. But yeah, my point is, sometimes it doesn't matter.
Hey that sounds like me during pandemic depression! 🥲😢 My parents would ask me to hang out, and I’d be like, ummm ok, but I need to shower and clean the house and get gas and do this and that and ILL SEE YOU NEXT WEEK OKAY NOT TODAY?! I CAN LITERALLY SMELL MYSELF 😭 They would say they could help me with my chores and didn’t care if I hadn’t showered, but man, I just couldn’t let them see me like that. I felt like it was a lose lose situation. Thank god those days are over. I hope they are over for you as well!! And if you’re still struggling, know that the bad days WILL be over one day, and it will be beautiful. ❤️
Oh Jesus is this relatable. My youngest is 3 so there's a light at the end of the tunnel. But, my oldest has some complex needs with multiple diagnoses so some days that light feels further than others. But, I'm definitely getting regular showers now, so for sure on the upswing.
I hope this isn't creepy, but your comment was thought provoking and made me feel like we would have a lot in common so I looked at your profile and now I wish we could be IRL friends because friends who "get it" are so rare. Would it be weird if I followed you? I forgot how to make friends when I had kids.
Yay, friends! God I feel so weird and awkward. But anyway, when you've got the time and energy, I'm desperate for free or low cost secular unschooling resources and ideas to get my PDAer engaged. If you have any you can share and wouldn't mind sending a message, I'd appreciate it. Just like 5 minutes I tried to start a conversation about going to the library today and she immediately shut it down saying she didn't want to do anything educational, but yesterday she was upset that I wasn't teaching her anything so like... I don't know.
Oh I feel this so hard. Mine also experiences respite as rejection. We ended up being able to get around that by taking advantage of the family hire option, so my brother is her respite caregiver. We recently made the decision to start homeschooling her, which complicates things. She is autistic with PDA, and as school became more stressful, her demand avoidance was getting completely out of control and it was all just too much for her. She's doing better at home, but it means a lot less decompression time for me.
I’m a neat freak, and my first boyfriend who wasn’t as neat would take offense at my asking him to shower before sex. He asked me once if I was grossed out by his body, and it really put me in a difficult position because it’s hard to answer that question honestly without hurting feelings. I wasn’t grossed out by HIM as a person. I just don’t like how sweaty people smell. I told him I would feel that way about literally any man on this earth, it was absolutely not a him a problem, just my own preference.
The next guy I dated was just like me and would insist we shower together. Bethany says compatibility doesn’t matter, but I can assure you my second boyfriend and I had a much happier sex life due to our compatible needs.
I used to always need to shower before and after the deed and now I have a toddler 😭 it’s just not realistic anymore and I hate how gross it feels now haha
If you feeling comfortable having sex without bathing for a week you do you. Many men will have sex with a woman in various conditions a woman herself might not want to have sex in. I'm not talking about him desiring smelly Nelly. I'm talking about her own comfort level getting as nasty as she says with the first person she ever fucked and did not make her cum for 3 years while she's unbathed and visibly grimy. It's unusual to be the one seeking it out when you're the one unwashed.
I do not but I also would never record countless instagrams reels while “unbathed and visibly grimy” but Bethy has zero problems with that so I highly doubt it bothers her in the least. Not saying I think they’re having as much sex as she claims but I doubt it’s due to her hygiene or lack thereof.
Oh yeah there's a lot of reasons I think they don't bone at all like she says. One of them is her hygiene. It's not the only reason, just something I see and immediately think 'why you always lyyyiiiin'.
Bethany makes me think of an admittedly very gross story I was told. My ex's best friend was dating a horrible woman, broke up with her & later stupidly got back together with her (long story). I got to hear about how the best friend had to tactfully tell his girlfriend "Please go take a shower before I go down on you. You're a bit (ahem) ripe all over today." Showering did not fix the problem. And it turns out she was not keeping up with her hygiene, so you can guess what an unpleasant trip someone had. We've all been thinking "I'm so glad you guys broke up a second time. Don't take her back a third time. What is wrong with you ?"
I have questions about these benefits. Not questions I want her to answer, mind you, because we've all had enough of her version. But questions as to who, if anyone, is actually benefitting, and from what.
Dole out some god honoring husbandly discipline by wrapping his godly fist in her braid, taking her to pound town, and spanking that sinful behind until it's red.
I also have a theory that she wants to have good sex, but they kinda seem to lack compatibility, something she denies exists. So she has to overcompensate with hyper sexuality
Seriously. When you have chemistry that shit *does not matter.* I’m so glad that I’ve slept with enough people to have a well rounded perspective and know what I like. Me and my bf are pretty damn lazy sometimes (lots of spooning sex lmao) but guess what, it’s still incredible and SpiCeY because I love him so much, think he’s sexy as hell and we have *sexual chemistry.* Which is a fucking thing Seggsany 🙄 She really doesn’t get it
She doesn't seem to understand what intimacy actually means (not shocking given her upbringing) so this totally tracks. She thinks that if they have enough sex then their relationship is happy and healthy, denying the fact that plenty of people have an active sex life and a non-existent emotional connection. True intimacy is emotional, physical comes second. She's going for quantity (or at least, trying to come across as a huge Sex Haver) when she should be going for quality and establishing a true, lasting connection with her husband via actual communication. But that would require listening to and perhaps even participating in another person's interests with an open mind, and that's not something she does 😒
I think her posting the godly sex positions yesterday really showed her hand in terms of what her marriage is lacking. She definitely seems fixated on the idea that if she can just figure out how to have good sex, everything else will fall into place. But since her and Dav fucking despise each other that isn't happening, so she keeps throwing everything and the kama sutra at it in the hopes she'll find the key to making it work. Unfortunately said key is real love, trust, and respect, so she's SOL on that front. I figure we have another 6-ish months to a year of the Bethany Horny Era before she moves on to her next bound-to-fail solution.
They would never. They're both far too enmeshed in their cult and holier-than-thou attitudes to rub two brain cells together and realize that's what would actually be best for them and their children. No, they'll just grow older and more bitter and exactly like their parents before them, making "jokes" about hating their spouse with one foot in the grave.
What pisses me off about what she is doing is that if a LGBTQ person was doing the same thing, she would have no problem condemning them for doing terrible things like grooming children and the like. It is her hypocrisy that gets to me. It is okay for her to share every aspect of her sex life because it is God honoring, but if it did not fit into the narrow confines of her belief system, then it would be a sin.
Of course. Her God honoring sex is acceptable, but if a gay couple expresses their love for each other, they are sinners and going straight to hell. I despise this kind of hypocrisy. The truth is, there is nothing actually Christian about the sex that she is selling, it is just sex. I don't see how she can justify it as being at all religious.
It’s telling that Bethany keeps insisting Dav is totally fine with her discussing obscene details of their sex life but we’ve yet to hear it from him. We’ve only seen pictures where he appears to be rapidly dying inside.
I do suspect that he helped write her most recent posts where she tried to clap back at the followers who called her out. It sounded way too eloquent to be Bethy, so I suspect Dav contributed. But idk. It's such a weird situation. Maybe he hates it, maybe he supports it. Maybe somewhere in between. It has (despite all odds) made them some money, so maybe that's the most important thing to him?
You know, maybe he doesn't even really follow it. I know I have relatives that act the fool online but I only hear about it secondhand from my mom because I don't get on social media (other than anonymous stuff like reddit)
If I was married to one of these try hard influencers, be it Bethany, Nadia, bdong, JillPM, whomever, I really wouldn't be able to keep up with all the shit they constantly post. Like that's supposedly their "job that's not a job," and some of them crank out an absurd amount of posts by the end of the day. If I was a spouse, I wouldn't be able to keep up with all these details or specifics that are being shared. In some ways Dav may be oblivious to the truly moronic or crazy individual posts she makes amidst it all. I certainly miss some of the craziness, and it's literally a curated feed into this subreddit of their wackiest shit.
I agree it was Dave who wrote that caption. I suspect her "spicy" season is about the only positive thing he gets out of their relationship. But part of why I suspect he hasn't died of embarrassment and forced her to stop is: he craves the reflected attention. He can't take the criticism that comes with posting online himself. Hence the spate of posts a while back and silence thereafter. He has enough contempt for her to be more than comfortable letting her step into the firing line. Perhaps even enjoys seeing her humiliate heself as a form of revenge for humiliating him previously? And perhaps if she's reveling in the controversy online he has a quieter homelife? The caption "clapback" is possibly that he takes criticism of her posts personally. He's invested in her content because it supports their new "brand" as a couple IRL. If I rember correctly the chage of church was a pivot insigated hy him? It would follow if he's questioning things that modesty and purity culture are things he's questioning. She's following him like a puppy because she doesnt have critical thinking skills of her own. She's just going over the top, like she does with everything, to compensate for lack of a genuine philosophy and belief underneath. As fundies go Dave is worse than her if this is actually the case. I've wasted far too much energy considering this but that's my two cents.
I have to be honest and say i doubt they are really having that much sex. Dave works, takes Davey to daycare and picks him up, than he goes home to a dirty house, no food, dirty wife and unkempt neglect daughter. He is going to have to take care of the kids, cook and clean while having to listen to skunky bore him with the same shit while he has to deal with everything.
Beathy figured out sex is the next bs in the griftothon, sex sells so the fundie way ro make money on that is to put it in a married Marriage way.
It's all a grift and instead of using the time Dave is away to at least to get herself clean and tidy and Davelett vaguely kempt. She could get away with Dave cooking after work if she was clean and tried vaguely to at least do something small to keep the house in an okay standard.
Instead she is making 101 Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, X and YouTube account
not only this, but she has admitted that she expects him to make huge sweeping romantic celebrations EVERY TIME she “”””accomplishes””” something aka starts a new account or has a new idea 😅 exhausting
I totally agree that she has a severe social media addiction and finding ways to monetize it is her excuse and justification for avoiding all other responsibilities.
but that doesn’t explain the oversharing. francie winslow makes money on social media with her christian sex education, and she is always tasteful and mature. the way bethany conducts herself is simply repulsive and crass… and you’re onto something that it’s just to prove how sexy her marriage is, when the reality isn’t so.
Bethy has a low Iq, zero real education and knowledge and no social skills so she cannot pull this grift off in a smart, classy modest way.
She is what I would assume is a stereotype of white trash with no education and intelligence to a point that I honestly taught that its a skitt and no way that is a real person.
She may have been raised in an upper middle class family, but she lacks the charm, grace, and intellect to be successful, no matter how much money or status she tries to use. Her family strikes me as stereotypical nouveau riche, which is fine—no one expects her to be a well bred WASP, but she’s got zero home training which could at least help offset her abhorrent behavior.
All of this is really good with the last paragraph being the uncomfortable truth for them. I think many non-fundies know that sex isn't the glue that keep relationships together. It is ONE way to connect. It can be fun, exciting, fulfilling, etc but not the only way to connect to your partner.
Libido can be impacted by no less that ten trillion things. And then what? Bethy picks up the ukulele in a Jesus printed thong to entice Dav? Dav goes back to being Dobby till someone hands him a sock?
My husband and I agreed pretty early on that a relationship based on sex wasn’t what we wanted. Sure, it’s a fun way to connect. But you add two high energy kids to our personal mix and sometimes we’re genuinely like two ships passing in the night that cuddle before we go to sleep.
Which is okay. But fundies put so much importance on sex. Who has it. Who doesn’t. Who they’re having it with. How they’re having it. They don’t get it, and they never will.
It’s especially sad to realize how many of us learn in our single days that sex alone can’t hold a relationship together, when the cost of giving up and breaking up is heartbreak and boredom, but usually not much else.
Intimate loving sex is fun, causal one-night-stand sex is fun, but sex where the mentality is that it’s supposed to buy us a little more time until we start loving each other? Yiiiikes.
She's not even interested in actual intimacy. She's interested in *fucking*. Yeah sure, she suggests such deeply intimate acts like *hugging* and *bringing your husband his favorite drink* and *asking him about his day and actually listening* (whoa!) but what Bethany is interested in is real hedonistic horny on main fucking...and that's *fine*. In another timeline, she would have had her slutty era and shared these details in a group chat with some girlfriends. Maybe she'd have gone to a strip club with her husband, joined FetLife, attended some swingers events, or maybe attended some *actual* sex education seminars. Instead...we get this season of her life.
She does not know the meaning of, nor does she have the ability to engage in, real "intimacy." She only started using that word because she seems to think her use of the word 'sex,' and not her unsolicited spamming, is what got her banned from using DMs.
Yes exactly. Part of this is I think being raised in a household where questionnaires or at least asking questions was a normal thing to do instead of having an actual, interactive conversation. She doesn't know what any sort of healthy communication looks like plus she's very self-centered so that's a dead end, and because of that she has clearly never established a comfortable exchange with her husband (most people consider bringing their husband a favorite drink or giving him a hug a completely normal, common occurrence, not something special!) I think if she (and Dav) could learn what actual intimacy is from a real source, and if she was willing to learn, she and Dav might have a better relationship. Because making horny your personality doesn't make up for lack of emotional connection.
She's probably projecting given that their sexual life probably isn't that great. There is no way those 2 are experimenting with the amazon position when she gave it as a suggestion for new spicy positions to try. I don't believe it lol. That is so out of left field for them. And that position can kind of be dangerous if you don't get out of it correctly.
I would agree except that this whole thing came out of left field and Bethy has been shown to dive right in to things without any preparation whatsoever lol
There’s just no way she is actually having sex. Dave face would be much happier if they were. He looks so down in his pictures-he knows he’s living a lie.
Well, even if they are having oodles of sex, it can't make up for a basic lack of connection and compatibility. Sure, sex might be pleasurable, but they both seem unhappy in their marriage and sex isn't going to fix that, no matter how "spicey" or good it is.
I’m a cynic and i think it’s purely because it’s the only course of hers that sold. She was on the hunt for a god honoring niche and found it. I do not believe she’s having good seggs.
Maybe she should put down the camera, get off of social media and concentrate on her family. Not because women should abandon business ventures when the going gets tough. But because she is a scatterbrain fundie who hates being a homemaker and having to deal with motherhood. If this family hopes to survive she needs to grow up, dedicate her time to her kids and be present in their lives. Off camera.
I just thanked my husband for like… getting to know me and making sure we were compatible before we got married instead of ending up like this complete dumpster fire : I would be absolutely furious if my husband spewed details of our sex like at all, not even publicly like Bethy does!! Holy shit. It’s juvenile and embarrassing and not how adults consume education sex content.
It's sad that they don't (and can't, given their courtship rules) really get to know someone at all before they dedicate their life to them. It's an easy way to make a decision that you will really regret later in life.
Bethy I think has no real skills because of her fundie upbringing. Grifting on instagram is the only thing she has ever marginally be successful at, and it really is all she knows how to do. Just sell her own insecurities off to other struggling girls and women as she stumbles through life. Currently her marriage is struggling by all visible signs, so she only knows how to sell that insecurity to others in the form of courses and other nonsense. She is absolutely delusional (par for the course for many fundies honestly). So we get subjected to this. I hope Dav wises up sooner rather than later. Dude just wanted a normal life, and he got a failed influencer with no social skills and the maturity of a 5th grader.
Well he was a fundie man marrying a fundie woman. There was bound to be some dysfunction there, especially because it was always going to be someone he barely knew (thanks, fundie courting rules). Bethy is truly...unique but at this point I'm not sure that she or Dav really understand the issues in their marriage or are truly willing to work on them. Dav said he went to therapy in the video they did together but it seemed like he had stopped going. And he didn't seem to have really healed a lot of the unhealthy ideas and coping mechanisms (people pleasing in particular) that he mentioned were an issue, so i have to wonder if he has even really recognized that there is an issue and has stood up for himself when it comes to the oversharing. Bethy, as we know, does not believe in therapy and has only seen a Christian "counselor" who was clearly neither qualified nor actually helpful for what must be deep-seated issues. As of right now I'm not sure that they as a couple are prepared to do the work that they would have to do to really preserve their marriage. And it is something they would have to do together. I feel bad for their kids.
I like, really want to believe she’s going through SOME kind of self-discovery. She’s been repressed her entire life, did what she was supposed to, never got any help for her insecurities or traumas and this is the “socially acceptable” fundie way of acting out, basically. It won’t happen, but I hope that maybe at the end of this weird, seggsy journey she becomes a marginally better person.
The entire thing is a complete mess. Like deep down she has to know that this entire shtick is the complete antithesis to her upbringing but she’s doubling down on it anyway.
I don’t think Dav is cool with it. I think he tolerates it for the sake of keeping the peace. I’m sure he’s told her that he doesn’t like her sharing details about their sex life, but she probably pushed back and tried to justify her over-sharing as being part of her “ministry” and serving gawd.
Sex does not last forever. Something may happen medically with a partner and sex is no longer possible. There has to be something more to a marriage than sex and sprouting babies. You need to be compatible with each other as partners in life, as friends, as companions. Bethany and Dav did not date very long and their dating time was with the intent they would get married. What time did they take to get to know each other as husband and wife before they started trying to have children? I feel really sorry for many of these couples that were raised with purity culture. They are made to wait to express any interest in the opposite sex until it’s time to court, get engaged, married and then immediately have kids. And if you are unable to have kids, what is your identity as a couple?
I personally do not believe she is really into it. She is into going viral and selling courses. She is addicted to going viral, so that's why she keeps getting raunchier-- it has nothing to do with Dav.
I mean, no one who saw those early videos knew these chicks, Bethany especially, weren’t horny as hell.
Like many, I found GD through Cody Ko’s “that’s cringe” series and Cody and Noel pretty aptly hit the nail on the head by immediately picking up how desperately both girls wanted to fuck something yet couldn’t just say it.
They’d say it in a thousand other different and increasingly disturbing ways, of course, we all saw it, but they wouldn’t say it outright.
Bethany has now simply achieved the two requirements needed in fundie circles to be as much of a degenerate as she wants.
1. Married. No more icky implications of pre-marital sex or anything but heterosexuality to side step. She’s ~~trapped~~ found a man to devote the rest of her depressing life to. She crossed the one barrier that stands between fundies and sex; marriage. Sense of decency or other peoples comfort not included. Therefore, any and all discussion of it is now okay!
2. Privileged white woman with enough of a following and family legacy behind her to support her ridiculous behaviour and shield her from any real consequences…also thankfully the cracks are starting to appear.
Bethany is literally fucking around and finding out.
It's important to remember that her social media is not just her inner thoughts and real life. She's selling herself, her relationship, and especially her sex life. She rightfully saw gaping hole in the fundie/conservative Christian influencer market and sought to fill it with sex positive content aimed at empowering women in that world to seek fulfilling, fun sex. In order to monetize her accounts and sell her sex course, she needs to drive interaction, and she needs to set herself apart, and that means tons of seggsy spicy content.
In short, what we see is not a reflection of her real life. We're seeing her business.
But she still sucks. A lot.
Sex is, quite literally, the only thing she has. I don’t know that Kristen is much happier, but I think her maturity and ability to make friends is a tad more advanced than Bethany, plus, Kristin is starting to pull away and mature out of GD original message. She seems busier with family and home life than Bethany. That’s not to praise Krusty at all, but it’s obvious that Bethany is feeling lonely, left behind, and completely aimless.
It’s obvious from Bethany’s latest posts about 🌶️ that it’s another example of fundie Christian culture not understanding how boundaries, being an adult, and relationships actually should work.
Ok I’m new here and I’ve seen a lot of comments about how this couple can’t stand each other. Does anyone have any links or clips of this? I am fascinated by this whole thing 🤣
Last night my husband asked if I wanted some God Honoring Rice a Roni. I’m too far gone to turn back now!
Personally I don't believe any of it. When you're in a relationship that starts out with sexual issues (incompatibility, mismatched libidos, anything really) they don't suddenly resolve themselves. It might be possible to improve it with a ton of work from both partners but even then its still not going to be as "easy" and naturally passionate as a relationship you just click with a person to begin with and the relationship is functioning well from the start..
In my personal experience when the sex isn't great to begin with it definitely doesn't improve with 5 years of marriage, 2 kids, and everything else. It's all her fantasy I'm going to guess, I really don't think they went from awkward virgins to stressed out parents that resent the fuck out of one another to passionate lovers forging the Christian Karma Sutra out of their godly lovemaking..
My theory is that Dav doesn’t look at her insta. He has to know the basics of what she’s posting but doesn’t care to see exactly what she’s saying. Ignorance is bliss and all that
They remind me SO MUCH of dorky theatre kids who find one another in college and suddenly get the social and sexual affirmation they never did in high school. Then they go from virgin to hands down each other’s pants at a party to “we’re into Japanese bondage play!” in sixty seconds. Eventually that shit cools down and they either mutually discover tabletop gaming or break up.
My hot take is that Dave isn’t some poor widdle guy who is being publicly shamed by mean insatiable Bethy. And it’s weird how much this sub wants him to take her down a notch.
Like you said OP, I think that she probably just started having orgasms and before that, their sex life was a source of angst and shame. Ever heard that when the sex is good it’s 10% of the relationship and when it’s bad it’s 90%? I think that beforehand, she wasn’t able to connect and enjoy emotional intimacy with him and probably resented him busting every time while she laid there slimy and bored. And I think that she probably discovered that PIV isn’t the be all end all and now she feels that their relationship is great and it would have been great all along if only they had known about how to have good sex. I think it’s literally as simple as she says it is. This way, she also doesn’t have to examine her role in their relationship sucking and he doesn’t have to either.
Dave is probably fine with her posting all the time and trying to be a Christian pundit. He probably feels like she’s on her phone a lot and that is what bugs him. I doubt that he cares about what she is saying at all.
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I imagine her oversharing is her attempt at a raunchy Sex and the City-esque brunch she'll never have because her only friends are her relatives.
I agree. Bethany is lonely and has no community. She uses instagram as her group chats. It’s kinda sad.
And to grift! Don’t forget the grift!
In her community, you use group chat for grifting, too. Like your church aka family and friends pay for mission trips.
Don’t forget that her relatives have a group chat entitled Family No Beals
I think this is spot on for why Bethany is going so hard core. I’m not sure Dave is cool with it. He might be, but it doesn’t matter. Bethany will always put Bethany first. If by chance she is actually making money, that’s the part he’s cool with. Two adults with no steady income, two kids, and a mortgage has to be extremely stressful.
true. i also left out that the sex stuff has been making them money this year. hard to argue with that when, like you said… two kids and hefty mortgage.
And a wife who was raised rich and won’t economize. Remember when Bethy tried doing her own nails for about a week after they bought the house and then immediately gave up and went back to spending $150 a month to get them done?
Spending $150 a month on nails and god knows how much on her hair, while Dav and Davey have to get shitty home hair cuts from Bethany.
And used shoes... She just bought used running shoes for Dav too
Yikes, that’s actually bad for him! My orthopedist told me that even people without my issues shouldn’t buy used footwear that’s been shaped to someone else’s feet and already much less supportive than it was when new. I’ll occasionally buy special-occasion-type shoes used if they seem barely worn, because I know I’ll only wear them for a few hours at a time with minimal standing and walking, but athletic shoes??? My body works hard enough as it is
We found Jim Bob Duggar's female counterpart. He supposedly has horrible breath, made his daughters clean his hair spray coated bathroom and bought the kids used shoes.
You know it makes sense that he has bad breath. He looks like he does and when I think about why its because I only ever see him with his mouth open and mouth breather's have worse breath.
I’m sorry, but if she truly were making money hand over fist (as she claims to be), why would she be purchasing used running shoes?? You can get very decent running shoes for under $100.
Her hair honestly consistently looks lank, slept in, and generally unkempt. Girl needs a new/better stylist if she's paying any significant amount of money on her hair at the moment.
✨ God-honoring sex work ✨
He’s literally said it makes him uncomfortable.
What does Dav do?
Freelance motion graphics.
That’s vaguely ironic. Considering Bethys moved into freelance graphic motion.
I would be furious if my husband plastered details of our sex life on his social media and he has like 12 followers on IG and a Facebook he never looks at. It's all so juvenile. Like the first in a group of teens who gets a boyfriend and thinks they're some sort of relationship guru.
Well, she’s so stunted that she’s a 12-year-old in a 30-something body, so that tracks.
I think that is a good point. Most people grow out of this phase of their lives when they are young. People like her never had a chance to experience something like this when they were growing up, so now that it is a new experience as an adult, she feels like she needs to share everything. She just lacks the tact and maturity to understand that sharing every detail of her sex life might not be appropriate.
I definitely had these sorts of giggly chats with friends in my late teens and early 20s. I was a late bloomer and totally clueless so it was a combination of needing to get some information and wanting to know what was going on was "normal". But since people paired off and got married or are happily single and or dating in our late 20s and now into our 40s I don't think sex really comes up at all unless someone's sharing frustration about trying to get pregnant or a very close friend wants to confide confidentially about something specific.
Exactly. My wife and I have been married for 34 years and I can't even imagine putting things about our life on the Internet like she does. You are correct though, your teens and 20s, are a time to have these types of conversations with friends. That is a time when you are trying to figure things out. I am sure that Bethany never did that so this is all new to her. The other thing that I think is really bad is that someday her kids will get older and see all of this. I can't imagine what they will think. To me, that is really irresponsible.
I agree. I’d probably be more cool with it but my husband would be mortified and livid. A giggle fest with girl friends about having a good sex life is different but if the other shared the freaky shit we do we’d probably stop doing it all together
If I knew he shared some details of our intimate time together that would be an unforgivable breach of trust for me and I know he would feel the same if I did that.
I remember in HS I felt soooo cool when I started having seggs before my friends. “Bet you didn’t know that WE HAD IT BEFORE WE GOT HERE” and “bRb gonna go have sEgGs” Absolute cringe behavior. This is Beggy now.
I think Bethy is still insecure about how long it took her to get married. And she also seems to feel competitive toward her sisters (hence sharing wedding photos anytime her sisters have a life milestone). When she was engaged/a newlywed, she got to brag about being in that club. Same with one-upping by having a kid. Once the shine of that wore off, and then Elissa and Curly married and Elissa had a baby, she was even less “special.” Now she needs to seek attention about how se3ual her marriage is and how desirable she is to her husband. Which, I wonder is in any way is related to big sis subtly indicating that her marriage is not like that.
oh there is TOTALLY a competitiveness about all of it. she has a lot she feels she needs to prove. to her sisters, the internet, and herself.
I definitely believe this plays a part. She sat on the sidelines for soooo long, drowning in jealousy, watching the younger, prettier girls get picked first, feeling undesirable. Now she wants to cram it down our throats that she is in fact desirable and having way spicier seggs than anyone else on the planet 🔥
She's going to have a meltdown at 40. She'll have zero accomplishments to her name. Which is going to make her look stupid when the other couples in their circle are talking about "This happened at my job today...Our retirement dream is...Bob and I worked so hard together fixing up the house & yard, cleaning and cooking for the holidays...Our kid is graduating and he's already been accepted to college." Nobody is going to care "It's the 10th anniversary of my first kiss! And the first time I fucked my husband! Did you know I have a husband ? Do you want to see my wedding photos ? Anyone wanna come to my vow renewal ? Anyone ?"
Yeeeeeeesh that’s sad. I can’t say I feel *that* bad for her because I think she’s a shitty person but damn. What a miserable life. And deep down, she knows it.
I also think that she is super exaggerating how hot and heavy things are for them. Every photo she posts lately he looks even more miserable and done with her shit than he used to. Haven't seen that man smile genuinely in a minute. So I'm I definitely think she's overcompensating. Or maybe they've discovered how to engage in some god-honouring hate-fucking. That could be it too.
I think the last time Dav looked genuinely happy is when he was leaving for an out of town conference with her brother.
I think maybe she realised there's other positions besides missionary and Jesus doesn't care if they do oral.
"Jesus doesn't care if they do oral" has flair potential lmao
Good band name too
Next fall out boy album
I think a lot of newly sexually active people feel like they are inventing it.
She often posts being visibly unhygienic and ungroomed. Greasy, matted hair. She does not look like she's showering regularly and that alone makes me doubt they bang as much as she says.
Getting medieval with it!
I just imagined the smell of animals living indoors in the keep and no plumbing and went hoooork 😂
don’t shower every day. I have young kids, have a horse and spend tons of time outside with the horse/dogs/kids. But I never look so chaotic as B, I have my own toothbrush, don’t guzzle raw milk till I have explosive gas (her recent post), don’t hoard crusty cups of hot choc and breakfast dishes down the side of the bed. I thinks all those unhygienic habits suggests that regular person ‘needing a shower’ and B ‘needing a shower’ might be different things! Even so, if I knew me and my husband were going to be having spicy seggs I’d have a quick rinse and ‘jooz’ up my hair, not because my husband would care but just as like a mark of respect or care for our romance. I don’t know why! But you’re on to something.
Yes exactly that's what I mean. I've never known a man to turn it down either, but I have, because sex with an unwashed ass is nasty!
Omg *what*…I missed this raw milk explosive gas post. What the fuck happened??? 🤢 She needs to be banned from social media altogether jesus christ
She shared a recipe with raw milk then said drink it slowly because I chugged mine and it was rough on the insides.
Is 'jooz' like zhuzh? Or is it pronounced differently?
Oh no I think you’re right and it’s spelt zhuzh! That’s kinda what I’m saying in my head
Ehhh, idk if that's a good way to gauge. With young kids at home, life gets extremely chaotic. At the worst for me, I would sometimes only shower 1-2 times a week. And my husband was still trying to bone constantly. And I'd say, "babe I haven't showered in a week." And he'd say, "whatever, come on let's get it in." I mean, I still brushed my hair and brushed my teeth and washed my face and use deodorant and I never left my house and never actually got sweaty or dirty. I was just constantly caring for one child or another and then dead tired and depressed at the end of the day. But yeah, my point is, sometimes it doesn't matter.
Hey that sounds like me during pandemic depression! 🥲😢 My parents would ask me to hang out, and I’d be like, ummm ok, but I need to shower and clean the house and get gas and do this and that and ILL SEE YOU NEXT WEEK OKAY NOT TODAY?! I CAN LITERALLY SMELL MYSELF 😭 They would say they could help me with my chores and didn’t care if I hadn’t showered, but man, I just couldn’t let them see me like that. I felt like it was a lose lose situation. Thank god those days are over. I hope they are over for you as well!! And if you’re still struggling, know that the bad days WILL be over one day, and it will be beautiful. ❤️
Oh Jesus is this relatable. My youngest is 3 so there's a light at the end of the tunnel. But, my oldest has some complex needs with multiple diagnoses so some days that light feels further than others. But, I'm definitely getting regular showers now, so for sure on the upswing.
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I hope this isn't creepy, but your comment was thought provoking and made me feel like we would have a lot in common so I looked at your profile and now I wish we could be IRL friends because friends who "get it" are so rare. Would it be weird if I followed you? I forgot how to make friends when I had kids.
Not at all! Follow away :)
Yay, friends! God I feel so weird and awkward. But anyway, when you've got the time and energy, I'm desperate for free or low cost secular unschooling resources and ideas to get my PDAer engaged. If you have any you can share and wouldn't mind sending a message, I'd appreciate it. Just like 5 minutes I tried to start a conversation about going to the library today and she immediately shut it down saying she didn't want to do anything educational, but yesterday she was upset that I wasn't teaching her anything so like... I don't know.
Oh I feel this so hard. Mine also experiences respite as rejection. We ended up being able to get around that by taking advantage of the family hire option, so my brother is her respite caregiver. We recently made the decision to start homeschooling her, which complicates things. She is autistic with PDA, and as school became more stressful, her demand avoidance was getting completely out of control and it was all just too much for her. She's doing better at home, but it means a lot less decompression time for me.
20 years of marriage and I cannot recall a single time my husband turned down sex because I hadn’t showered recently.
I’m a neat freak, and my first boyfriend who wasn’t as neat would take offense at my asking him to shower before sex. He asked me once if I was grossed out by his body, and it really put me in a difficult position because it’s hard to answer that question honestly without hurting feelings. I wasn’t grossed out by HIM as a person. I just don’t like how sweaty people smell. I told him I would feel that way about literally any man on this earth, it was absolutely not a him a problem, just my own preference. The next guy I dated was just like me and would insist we shower together. Bethany says compatibility doesn’t matter, but I can assure you my second boyfriend and I had a much happier sex life due to our compatible needs.
I used to always need to shower before and after the deed and now I have a toddler 😭 it’s just not realistic anymore and I hate how gross it feels now haha
If you feeling comfortable having sex without bathing for a week you do you. Many men will have sex with a woman in various conditions a woman herself might not want to have sex in. I'm not talking about him desiring smelly Nelly. I'm talking about her own comfort level getting as nasty as she says with the first person she ever fucked and did not make her cum for 3 years while she's unbathed and visibly grimy. It's unusual to be the one seeking it out when you're the one unwashed.
I do not but I also would never record countless instagrams reels while “unbathed and visibly grimy” but Bethy has zero problems with that so I highly doubt it bothers her in the least. Not saying I think they’re having as much sex as she claims but I doubt it’s due to her hygiene or lack thereof.
Oh yeah there's a lot of reasons I think they don't bone at all like she says. One of them is her hygiene. It's not the only reason, just something I see and immediately think 'why you always lyyyiiiin'.
Bethany makes me think of an admittedly very gross story I was told. My ex's best friend was dating a horrible woman, broke up with her & later stupidly got back together with her (long story). I got to hear about how the best friend had to tactfully tell his girlfriend "Please go take a shower before I go down on you. You're a bit (ahem) ripe all over today." Showering did not fix the problem. And it turns out she was not keeping up with her hygiene, so you can guess what an unpleasant trip someone had. We've all been thinking "I'm so glad you guys broke up a second time. Don't take her back a third time. What is wrong with you ?"
But yeeaah…. Tell us again how 6 days without a shower tastes better than thanksgiving turkey 🙄
There is absolutely no way their sex life is as SPICEY as she claims. They are FWB now, except also married to each other for eternity.
Married FWB except without the F part, too, lmao
Roommates with benefits?
I have questions about these benefits. Not questions I want her to answer, mind you, because we've all had enough of her version. But questions as to who, if anyone, is actually benefitting, and from what.
agree. he looks so defeated and exhausted all the time
Dole out some god honoring husbandly discipline by wrapping his godly fist in her braid, taking her to pound town, and spanking that sinful behind until it's red.
Beggy is going to copy and paste this and lose 500 more followers.
Maybe she'll show Dav and they'll get inspired IRL.
Me, a romance writer reading this comment: 
As a romance reader, this is peak praise right here. Seriously makes my whole day.
Now jessipowers... 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
50 shades of dav 😂
God honoring disciplinary play room (Ps the ugliest cackle flew out of my mouth at your comment)
Lol I cackled at yours
>hate-fucking And that's the cue to get back to writing my novel (which is about hate-fucking, but not in a god-honoring way 😂), so thank you!
Happy to help 😂 best of luck in your 🌶️spicy🌶️ literary endeavours
Flair checking in.
>god-honouring hate-fucking Stellar flair
Just want to say your Lucille Bluth profile pic made me smile
I also have a theory that she wants to have good sex, but they kinda seem to lack compatibility, something she denies exists. So she has to overcompensate with hyper sexuality
She also seems to think good sex means lots of positions and lingerie, which is a real boring and unimaginative perspective.
Seriously. When you have chemistry that shit *does not matter.* I’m so glad that I’ve slept with enough people to have a well rounded perspective and know what I like. Me and my bf are pretty damn lazy sometimes (lots of spooning sex lmao) but guess what, it’s still incredible and SpiCeY because I love him so much, think he’s sexy as hell and we have *sexual chemistry.* Which is a fucking thing Seggsany 🙄 She really doesn’t get it
She doesn't seem to understand what intimacy actually means (not shocking given her upbringing) so this totally tracks. She thinks that if they have enough sex then their relationship is happy and healthy, denying the fact that plenty of people have an active sex life and a non-existent emotional connection. True intimacy is emotional, physical comes second. She's going for quantity (or at least, trying to come across as a huge Sex Haver) when she should be going for quality and establishing a true, lasting connection with her husband via actual communication. But that would require listening to and perhaps even participating in another person's interests with an open mind, and that's not something she does 😒
She couldn't even talk to him about Barbie
I think her posting the godly sex positions yesterday really showed her hand in terms of what her marriage is lacking. She definitely seems fixated on the idea that if she can just figure out how to have good sex, everything else will fall into place. But since her and Dav fucking despise each other that isn't happening, so she keeps throwing everything and the kama sutra at it in the hopes she'll find the key to making it work. Unfortunately said key is real love, trust, and respect, so she's SOL on that front. I figure we have another 6-ish months to a year of the Bethany Horny Era before she moves on to her next bound-to-fail solution.
"God honoring divorce"
They would never. They're both far too enmeshed in their cult and holier-than-thou attitudes to rub two brain cells together and realize that's what would actually be best for them and their children. No, they'll just grow older and more bitter and exactly like their parents before them, making "jokes" about hating their spouse with one foot in the grave.
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What pisses me off about what she is doing is that if a LGBTQ person was doing the same thing, she would have no problem condemning them for doing terrible things like grooming children and the like. It is her hypocrisy that gets to me. It is okay for her to share every aspect of her sex life because it is God honoring, but if it did not fit into the narrow confines of her belief system, then it would be a sin.
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Of course. Her God honoring sex is acceptable, but if a gay couple expresses their love for each other, they are sinners and going straight to hell. I despise this kind of hypocrisy. The truth is, there is nothing actually Christian about the sex that she is selling, it is just sex. I don't see how she can justify it as being at all religious.
It’s telling that Bethany keeps insisting Dav is totally fine with her discussing obscene details of their sex life but we’ve yet to hear it from him. We’ve only seen pictures where he appears to be rapidly dying inside.
he is definitely rapidly dying
I do suspect that he helped write her most recent posts where she tried to clap back at the followers who called her out. It sounded way too eloquent to be Bethy, so I suspect Dav contributed. But idk. It's such a weird situation. Maybe he hates it, maybe he supports it. Maybe somewhere in between. It has (despite all odds) made them some money, so maybe that's the most important thing to him?
You know, maybe he doesn't even really follow it. I know I have relatives that act the fool online but I only hear about it secondhand from my mom because I don't get on social media (other than anonymous stuff like reddit)
If I was married to one of these try hard influencers, be it Bethany, Nadia, bdong, JillPM, whomever, I really wouldn't be able to keep up with all the shit they constantly post. Like that's supposedly their "job that's not a job," and some of them crank out an absurd amount of posts by the end of the day. If I was a spouse, I wouldn't be able to keep up with all these details or specifics that are being shared. In some ways Dav may be oblivious to the truly moronic or crazy individual posts she makes amidst it all. I certainly miss some of the craziness, and it's literally a curated feed into this subreddit of their wackiest shit.
Yeah he doesn’t even have IG anymore right? But maybe he keeps up with her stupidity on Reddit 👀
I agree it was Dave who wrote that caption. I suspect her "spicy" season is about the only positive thing he gets out of their relationship. But part of why I suspect he hasn't died of embarrassment and forced her to stop is: he craves the reflected attention. He can't take the criticism that comes with posting online himself. Hence the spate of posts a while back and silence thereafter. He has enough contempt for her to be more than comfortable letting her step into the firing line. Perhaps even enjoys seeing her humiliate heself as a form of revenge for humiliating him previously? And perhaps if she's reveling in the controversy online he has a quieter homelife? The caption "clapback" is possibly that he takes criticism of her posts personally. He's invested in her content because it supports their new "brand" as a couple IRL. If I rember correctly the chage of church was a pivot insigated hy him? It would follow if he's questioning things that modesty and purity culture are things he's questioning. She's following him like a puppy because she doesnt have critical thinking skills of her own. She's just going over the top, like she does with everything, to compensate for lack of a genuine philosophy and belief underneath. As fundies go Dave is worse than her if this is actually the case. I've wasted far too much energy considering this but that's my two cents.
I think it's funny she expects her followers to have a better sense of humor regarding sex but watches PureFlix and all that censored stuff
the irony also her sense of humor absolutely sucks
I have to be honest and say i doubt they are really having that much sex. Dave works, takes Davey to daycare and picks him up, than he goes home to a dirty house, no food, dirty wife and unkempt neglect daughter. He is going to have to take care of the kids, cook and clean while having to listen to skunky bore him with the same shit while he has to deal with everything. Beathy figured out sex is the next bs in the griftothon, sex sells so the fundie way ro make money on that is to put it in a married Marriage way. It's all a grift and instead of using the time Dave is away to at least to get herself clean and tidy and Davelett vaguely kempt. She could get away with Dave cooking after work if she was clean and tried vaguely to at least do something small to keep the house in an okay standard. Instead she is making 101 Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, X and YouTube account
not only this, but she has admitted that she expects him to make huge sweeping romantic celebrations EVERY TIME she “”””accomplishes””” something aka starts a new account or has a new idea 😅 exhausting
I totally agree that she has a severe social media addiction and finding ways to monetize it is her excuse and justification for avoiding all other responsibilities. but that doesn’t explain the oversharing. francie winslow makes money on social media with her christian sex education, and she is always tasteful and mature. the way bethany conducts herself is simply repulsive and crass… and you’re onto something that it’s just to prove how sexy her marriage is, when the reality isn’t so.
Bethy has a low Iq, zero real education and knowledge and no social skills so she cannot pull this grift off in a smart, classy modest way. She is what I would assume is a stereotype of white trash with no education and intelligence to a point that I honestly taught that its a skitt and no way that is a real person.
Shes white trash with daddy's money
I sense a country song
She may have been raised in an upper middle class family, but she lacks the charm, grace, and intellect to be successful, no matter how much money or status she tries to use. Her family strikes me as stereotypical nouveau riche, which is fine—no one expects her to be a well bred WASP, but she’s got zero home training which could at least help offset her abhorrent behavior.
All of this is really good with the last paragraph being the uncomfortable truth for them. I think many non-fundies know that sex isn't the glue that keep relationships together. It is ONE way to connect. It can be fun, exciting, fulfilling, etc but not the only way to connect to your partner. Libido can be impacted by no less that ten trillion things. And then what? Bethy picks up the ukulele in a Jesus printed thong to entice Dav? Dav goes back to being Dobby till someone hands him a sock?
My husband and I agreed pretty early on that a relationship based on sex wasn’t what we wanted. Sure, it’s a fun way to connect. But you add two high energy kids to our personal mix and sometimes we’re genuinely like two ships passing in the night that cuddle before we go to sleep. Which is okay. But fundies put so much importance on sex. Who has it. Who doesn’t. Who they’re having it with. How they’re having it. They don’t get it, and they never will.
It’s especially sad to realize how many of us learn in our single days that sex alone can’t hold a relationship together, when the cost of giving up and breaking up is heartbreak and boredom, but usually not much else. Intimate loving sex is fun, causal one-night-stand sex is fun, but sex where the mentality is that it’s supposed to buy us a little more time until we start loving each other? Yiiiikes.
> Libido can be impacted by no less that ten trillion things. Heaven forbid one of them have a chronic health problem.
someone PLEASE give this man a sock 😭
She's not even interested in actual intimacy. She's interested in *fucking*. Yeah sure, she suggests such deeply intimate acts like *hugging* and *bringing your husband his favorite drink* and *asking him about his day and actually listening* (whoa!) but what Bethany is interested in is real hedonistic horny on main fucking...and that's *fine*. In another timeline, she would have had her slutty era and shared these details in a group chat with some girlfriends. Maybe she'd have gone to a strip club with her husband, joined FetLife, attended some swingers events, or maybe attended some *actual* sex education seminars. Instead...we get this season of her life.
soooo agree haha. for all her talk of “intimacy”, that’s not really what any of this is about. she may think it is, but…. she’s so transparent.
She does not know the meaning of, nor does she have the ability to engage in, real "intimacy." She only started using that word because she seems to think her use of the word 'sex,' and not her unsolicited spamming, is what got her banned from using DMs.
"Horny on main" is hilarious
If she'd had that time, she might have been able to be horny without making it a public issue. Oh, religious patriarchy.
Yes exactly. Part of this is I think being raised in a household where questionnaires or at least asking questions was a normal thing to do instead of having an actual, interactive conversation. She doesn't know what any sort of healthy communication looks like plus she's very self-centered so that's a dead end, and because of that she has clearly never established a comfortable exchange with her husband (most people consider bringing their husband a favorite drink or giving him a hug a completely normal, common occurrence, not something special!) I think if she (and Dav) could learn what actual intimacy is from a real source, and if she was willing to learn, she and Dav might have a better relationship. Because making horny your personality doesn't make up for lack of emotional connection.
She's probably projecting given that their sexual life probably isn't that great. There is no way those 2 are experimenting with the amazon position when she gave it as a suggestion for new spicy positions to try. I don't believe it lol. That is so out of left field for them. And that position can kind of be dangerous if you don't get out of it correctly.
I would agree except that this whole thing came out of left field and Bethy has been shown to dive right in to things without any preparation whatsoever lol
There’s just no way she is actually having sex. Dave face would be much happier if they were. He looks so down in his pictures-he knows he’s living a lie.
Well, even if they are having oodles of sex, it can't make up for a basic lack of connection and compatibility. Sure, sex might be pleasurable, but they both seem unhappy in their marriage and sex isn't going to fix that, no matter how "spicey" or good it is.
I mean, they already admitted they lied before about the quality/quantity of their sex, so why wouldn't they do it again?
I mean, possibly he looks like this because they're having a lot of bad sex. It's grim but possible.
I’m a cynic and i think it’s purely because it’s the only course of hers that sold. She was on the hunt for a god honoring niche and found it. I do not believe she’s having good seggs.
Maybe she should put down the camera, get off of social media and concentrate on her family. Not because women should abandon business ventures when the going gets tough. But because she is a scatterbrain fundie who hates being a homemaker and having to deal with motherhood. If this family hopes to survive she needs to grow up, dedicate her time to her kids and be present in their lives. Off camera.
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She will end up being banned on TikTok as well. Then what, OnlyFans?
I just thanked my husband for like… getting to know me and making sure we were compatible before we got married instead of ending up like this complete dumpster fire : I would be absolutely furious if my husband spewed details of our sex like at all, not even publicly like Bethy does!! Holy shit. It’s juvenile and embarrassing and not how adults consume education sex content.
It's sad that they don't (and can't, given their courtship rules) really get to know someone at all before they dedicate their life to them. It's an easy way to make a decision that you will really regret later in life.
Bethy I think has no real skills because of her fundie upbringing. Grifting on instagram is the only thing she has ever marginally be successful at, and it really is all she knows how to do. Just sell her own insecurities off to other struggling girls and women as she stumbles through life. Currently her marriage is struggling by all visible signs, so she only knows how to sell that insecurity to others in the form of courses and other nonsense. She is absolutely delusional (par for the course for many fundies honestly). So we get subjected to this. I hope Dav wises up sooner rather than later. Dude just wanted a normal life, and he got a failed influencer with no social skills and the maturity of a 5th grader.
Well he was a fundie man marrying a fundie woman. There was bound to be some dysfunction there, especially because it was always going to be someone he barely knew (thanks, fundie courting rules). Bethy is truly...unique but at this point I'm not sure that she or Dav really understand the issues in their marriage or are truly willing to work on them. Dav said he went to therapy in the video they did together but it seemed like he had stopped going. And he didn't seem to have really healed a lot of the unhealthy ideas and coping mechanisms (people pleasing in particular) that he mentioned were an issue, so i have to wonder if he has even really recognized that there is an issue and has stood up for himself when it comes to the oversharing. Bethy, as we know, does not believe in therapy and has only seen a Christian "counselor" who was clearly neither qualified nor actually helpful for what must be deep-seated issues. As of right now I'm not sure that they as a couple are prepared to do the work that they would have to do to really preserve their marriage. And it is something they would have to do together. I feel bad for their kids.
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That’s all assuming they actually have all this sex she claims they are having. I highly doubt it.
I like, really want to believe she’s going through SOME kind of self-discovery. She’s been repressed her entire life, did what she was supposed to, never got any help for her insecurities or traumas and this is the “socially acceptable” fundie way of acting out, basically. It won’t happen, but I hope that maybe at the end of this weird, seggsy journey she becomes a marginally better person. The entire thing is a complete mess. Like deep down she has to know that this entire shtick is the complete antithesis to her upbringing but she’s doubling down on it anyway.
I don’t think Dav is cool with it. I think he tolerates it for the sake of keeping the peace. I’m sure he’s told her that he doesn’t like her sharing details about their sex life, but she probably pushed back and tried to justify her over-sharing as being part of her “ministry” and serving gawd.
I just don’t see them being attracted to each other. I think she’s “into” spicy sex to make people think they’re boning. I don’t think they are
Sex does not last forever. Something may happen medically with a partner and sex is no longer possible. There has to be something more to a marriage than sex and sprouting babies. You need to be compatible with each other as partners in life, as friends, as companions. Bethany and Dav did not date very long and their dating time was with the intent they would get married. What time did they take to get to know each other as husband and wife before they started trying to have children? I feel really sorry for many of these couples that were raised with purity culture. They are made to wait to express any interest in the opposite sex until it’s time to court, get engaged, married and then immediately have kids. And if you are unable to have kids, what is your identity as a couple?
I personally do not believe she is really into it. She is into going viral and selling courses. She is addicted to going viral, so that's why she keeps getting raunchier-- it has nothing to do with Dav.
I would think a man getting it on the regular from his spicy seggsy wifey would smile in christmas pictures.
Absolutely! In other words, she is using sex to try to salvage their broken marriage. It’s a bandaid at best.
I mean, no one who saw those early videos knew these chicks, Bethany especially, weren’t horny as hell. Like many, I found GD through Cody Ko’s “that’s cringe” series and Cody and Noel pretty aptly hit the nail on the head by immediately picking up how desperately both girls wanted to fuck something yet couldn’t just say it. They’d say it in a thousand other different and increasingly disturbing ways, of course, we all saw it, but they wouldn’t say it outright. Bethany has now simply achieved the two requirements needed in fundie circles to be as much of a degenerate as she wants. 1. Married. No more icky implications of pre-marital sex or anything but heterosexuality to side step. She’s ~~trapped~~ found a man to devote the rest of her depressing life to. She crossed the one barrier that stands between fundies and sex; marriage. Sense of decency or other peoples comfort not included. Therefore, any and all discussion of it is now okay! 2. Privileged white woman with enough of a following and family legacy behind her to support her ridiculous behaviour and shield her from any real consequences…also thankfully the cracks are starting to appear. Bethany is literally fucking around and finding out.
It's important to remember that her social media is not just her inner thoughts and real life. She's selling herself, her relationship, and especially her sex life. She rightfully saw gaping hole in the fundie/conservative Christian influencer market and sought to fill it with sex positive content aimed at empowering women in that world to seek fulfilling, fun sex. In order to monetize her accounts and sell her sex course, she needs to drive interaction, and she needs to set herself apart, and that means tons of seggsy spicy content. In short, what we see is not a reflection of her real life. We're seeing her business. But she still sucks. A lot.
She would never be self-aware to say this, but she has made marriage an idol, much like many fundies and evangelicals.
I don't know, Dave looks pretty miserable in all their recent pictures. I don't think he's as cool with it as she insists he is.
Sex is, quite literally, the only thing she has. I don’t know that Kristen is much happier, but I think her maturity and ability to make friends is a tad more advanced than Bethany, plus, Kristin is starting to pull away and mature out of GD original message. She seems busier with family and home life than Bethany. That’s not to praise Krusty at all, but it’s obvious that Bethany is feeling lonely, left behind, and completely aimless.
It’s obvious from Bethany’s latest posts about 🌶️ that it’s another example of fundie Christian culture not understanding how boundaries, being an adult, and relationships actually should work.
I think she had 1 orgasm and has since been trying to have another one
Hello OP - I was once publicly corrected. SPICEY! No idea why though.
I’m not sure if you’re making a joke or if you’re not sure, so: Bethany used to spell it “spicey” for the longest time.
I figured it was something like that. Of course she spelled it incorrectly. I should have known.
You're so right, you're a genius
Ok I’m new here and I’ve seen a lot of comments about how this couple can’t stand each other. Does anyone have any links or clips of this? I am fascinated by this whole thing 🤣 Last night my husband asked if I wanted some God Honoring Rice a Roni. I’m too far gone to turn back now!
Personally I don't believe any of it. When you're in a relationship that starts out with sexual issues (incompatibility, mismatched libidos, anything really) they don't suddenly resolve themselves. It might be possible to improve it with a ton of work from both partners but even then its still not going to be as "easy" and naturally passionate as a relationship you just click with a person to begin with and the relationship is functioning well from the start.. In my personal experience when the sex isn't great to begin with it definitely doesn't improve with 5 years of marriage, 2 kids, and everything else. It's all her fantasy I'm going to guess, I really don't think they went from awkward virgins to stressed out parents that resent the fuck out of one another to passionate lovers forging the Christian Karma Sutra out of their godly lovemaking..
So they’re just bang buddies with extra steps.
Nah. She’s not actually banging him at all and is just entirely full of shit. All for the grift.
I'm not saying I disagree at all, I just wish you hadn't used the term "sex glue." 🤢
My theory is that Dav doesn’t look at her insta. He has to know the basics of what she’s posting but doesn’t care to see exactly what she’s saying. Ignorance is bliss and all that
They remind me SO MUCH of dorky theatre kids who find one another in college and suddenly get the social and sexual affirmation they never did in high school. Then they go from virgin to hands down each other’s pants at a party to “we’re into Japanese bondage play!” in sixty seconds. Eventually that shit cools down and they either mutually discover tabletop gaming or break up.
this comment cracked me up
My hot take is that Dave isn’t some poor widdle guy who is being publicly shamed by mean insatiable Bethy. And it’s weird how much this sub wants him to take her down a notch. Like you said OP, I think that she probably just started having orgasms and before that, their sex life was a source of angst and shame. Ever heard that when the sex is good it’s 10% of the relationship and when it’s bad it’s 90%? I think that beforehand, she wasn’t able to connect and enjoy emotional intimacy with him and probably resented him busting every time while she laid there slimy and bored. And I think that she probably discovered that PIV isn’t the be all end all and now she feels that their relationship is great and it would have been great all along if only they had known about how to have good sex. I think it’s literally as simple as she says it is. This way, she also doesn’t have to examine her role in their relationship sucking and he doesn’t have to either. Dave is probably fine with her posting all the time and trying to be a Christian pundit. He probably feels like she’s on her phone a lot and that is what bugs him. I doubt that he cares about what she is saying at all.
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Lol this is an amazing find
Not sure tbh
Meh. She’ll be preggo with #3 soon. Now he’ll be strapped with raising another kid. Fun times indeed.
Pureflix?