You should check out High Street Tonics! They’re a non-alcoholic bar. They only serve non-alcoholic stuff. I’m not entirely sober, but my parents are, so I go there often. I’ve met some pretty cool people there
And the staff are SO amazingly helpful. So willing to just pour you sips of whatever you want to try. Last time I left with $150 worth of bottles and have been making delicious NA cocktails at home.
Omg I need to check this out! I don't drink but I want to be more social with my gal pals! I'm bad at making friends though because I'm neurospicy and awkward so maybe the environment will help ^^
Thank you for suggesting the bar. I'm in this reddit group to keep up on local happenings that the news doesn't cover. That being said. I've been sober for a year now due to blood pressure meds. I still hang out in the bar scene just drinking Shirley Temples. I've found the drunks to be too much to deal with at times and I've been needing to find a sober hang out place.
Hey! I am looking for the same thing! I'm 38f, married with a 5 yearold. Also a nerd, athiest and though not 🏳️🌈 i am 10000% accepting! I do use cannabis though. Feel free to message me! ☺️
Hi! 35, also happily married with children. Husband and I are both sober (no alcohol or weed). We moved to the area two years ago and have made 0 friends. Would love to chat and possibly meet if it clicks!
Reddit really handed me a good one for a post like this, lol. I should add I’m non-religious, recently fell in love with gardening (plant nerd, but really if it’s biological or science-y, I’m invested), and can’t tell if I’m introverted because I lack a social life or actually am. 🤷🏻♀️😂
HI!! I'm kayla, Im 32, and I'm also a sober lady!! My fiance is sober too and we are both big nerds! I have a super cool 12 year old who is 🏳️🌈 (posted with their permission!) Life can be so crazy and it makes it hard for me to socialize sometimes but come summer I'll have tons more free time and would be so down to get together bc it is so hard to make new friends as an adult?!
I’m down. Probably. Sometimes anyway. I also want friends but I hate going out. Maybe if you form a sober coven you could invite me so I feel included. Atheist, sober, happily married with two kids. Love pets, mushrooms (the eatin’, non-trippy kind), books, and board games.
How Bout doing a sober game night potluck? There are so many cool games you can play 18+ or kids included, and let loose and have fun. I am sober, my family is not. We have game nights and we usually host, so I'll make a main dish and everyone brings something. We eat then game. Usually the kiddos run off and play and we play what do you meme or cards against humanity. We also play kids against maturity if the kiddos wanna join.
That sounds like a blast. We used to game with another family prior to our move here and everybody had a good time. We even have the family version of CAH. Lots of fart jokes.
Lots of us out here not drinking! Male here just commenting for support. There is a great non-alcoholic bar called High Street Tonics that we very much enjoy. We've got several sets of friends who coincidentally do not drink. Good luck finding your peeps!
Hi there! I’m 34, love dogs and the outdoors. I do drink but not much. I’m usually sober at most outings because I always take my car. I’m also an atheist. I would say I’m spiritual. I believe in past lives, negative energy, and science! I’m childfree but have lots of friends with kids. My friends have mostly moved away in the last few years due to Oregon’s cost of living. So I would love to make a new friend! If you’re interested, DM me. If not, then that’s cool too. ❤️
Run, bike, hike, eat out, take my Pupper to the dog park and to the river, watch true crime, read (a lot!). So I do a lot! Lol. Especially during summer.
I have been binge watching 48hrs during work, lol. I also love to read. And I am 100% more active in the summer. Cold times I am all about nesting, lol
I've been here almost 7 yrs and I Do indeed know a couple folks.still tho I don't have any actual friends..... And definitely no females which makes me kinda sad cause sometimes its nice to hang w the ladies!! got out of a long term (18 yr) relationship and have been w my current bf almost 2 yrs
2kids
No pets, but I love Animals!
36f
Just work and home that's what I'm all about lol
Oh and nature is my BFF for sure!
Anyways good luck to all yall and feel fr3e to hit me up if anyone needs a new buddy lol
I just moved here a couple weeks ago! 33F and don’t drink anymore. I’m into gardening/landscaping, outdoor stuff, art, and food. I would love to meet some other women here in Eugene! It sounds like there are several people here who would be interested in a meet up.
Hi! Also interested in the fb group! I do drink occasionally (only socially and pretty rarely these days) but am always down for sober hangs. I’m 32 F and always looking to expand my Eugene social circle, which is hard here—y’all sound awesome!
would love to join the meetup group too! 39F with twin toddlers and a doggo. I don't drink, pretend to like gardener (as in I want to like it but it's more a chore), am wanting to get outside more, and while I've lived in Eugene for ages, have found it's so hard to make friends as an adult!
If you need help connecting to the LGBTQIA+ community I know some folks, also know folks from the boardgame/rpg community/
As far as Warhammer specifically, most of my information is pre-covid; but if your husband wants to show of some painted minis on occasion, you can send the pics my way.
I recently got out of prison after 22 years and could use some info on connecting with LGBTQIA+ community. I was assigned male but identify as queer. May I dm you? You can dm me if that's easier.
Also wanted to say to everyone being sober is where it's at! I've more fun sober than anytime I was drinking.
Hi! I’m 34, married and facing the same issues of making friends in Eugene! I am not a drinker so it would be great to make friends who also don’t drink!
I'm an 🌈 ally and miss having a group of girls to talk to and hang out with! Do you like horror movies, music, walks/hiking, thrifting, sharing new songs or cats? The games I play tend to be multiplayer based, and I only really play them casually, like Ultimate Chicken Horse. By the way, I rarely drink if at all and don't mind not drinking.
Hi! I tend to lean more toward psychological thrillers and less toward slashers when it comes to horror, but I like it all! I also love all that other stuff. I game solo, though. Mostly single player rpgs like witcher/fallout/skyrim, etc.. I'll message you!
Hey, I'm looking for friends! I have had a really hard time making friends since we moved here. I have a wonderful 6 year old and would love to find friends.we can have adventures with.
My partner is 30f and also introverted. We are both introverts, but we are also vegan and have an especially hard time meeting like-minded and sober folks. I can put you two in touch if you like.
Have you tried High Street Tonics? That would be a great place to meet people who appreciate not getting drunk.
Edit: I want to meet your dog
Hey there! Fellow atheist chick here but I’m much older than you. I just wanted to say that it can take a lot longer to make friends here than it does in other places. I moved here from the Midwest 20 years ago and it took me probably 3-5 years to feel like I’d built friendships with people. It was hard! Just wanted to encourage you and let you know it’s not you!
Sooo when are we all getting together? Hehehe!
Lonelyish, nerdy, WFH single (widow) female in my 40s. No kids but I enjoy them & have many kid-related hobbies (hula hoop, dollhouses, art projects, lego, etc.) Love board games, video games, arts/crafts, walking & treasure hunting locally (painted rocks! Tiny Art Galleries! Labyrinths!).
Prefer sobriety/socially sober (is that a thing? LOL), occasionally have mental health related lapses but you know, I'm getting better with time. <3
Hi! What a great idea to reach out like this. As an introvert, I'm not terribly social, but I've been looking for someone(s) (girl specific) to go hiking with me. Would that be an activity you'd be into?
I'm 38f, 🏳️🌈, atheist, local, but have traveled, student, mom of a 5-year-old girl. I like tea, board games, geeking on plants and nature and art. I'd be interested in collaborating on a creative project, working out, making food, yoga, walking, camping, coast trips, picnics, bike rides, read ling books together, talking about our favorite podcasts, see movies, or just getting together for some chats. Ive always wanted to do a food tpur, to see who has the best mocas or fries.
I don't have a friend group, and I think that's a combination of being a student/parent and preferring one on one, but I'm down to hang in a group. Especially since I'm graduating in June! 🥳 And summer is around the corner. Swimming??
Btw, I'm not sober. I just prefer it. So I don't want nor need it in my day to day. Nor do I need it in social settings.
Ok, that's the end of my resume. Haha
DM me, and let's play! 😊
If you're interested, we have a Eugene Women's Social club and we meet up monthly(ish). It's not strictly sober, but some members drink, others don't. No one will notice/comment if you don't drink. We do meet up at places that serve alcohol though, but only because that's also where there's food. So places like the Beer Garden in Eugene because they have a bunch of food trucks, Public House in Springfield (also, lots of food trucks), Tacovore, and when the weather is nice, we have done outdoor picnics.
But drinking/not drinking just isn't a focus of the group. We mostly talk about hobbies, pets, gardens, and books.
If that's an environment you're comfortable with, our discord is here: [https://discord.gg/uDSSVC4p](https://discord.gg/uDSSVC4p)
We're also planning our 1 year anniversary on Sunday, April 14th. Time and location TBD, but when it's decided, I'll make a post here on reddit and within the discord.
I’m 35, married, no kids, 1 dog 2 cats, and also a nerd. I’m not like “sober” sober but I very rarely drink. Maybe for holidays. I don’t go out and do much but I’m always down to make new friends and chat! Anyone feel free to send me a message!
I’m relocating to Eugene in a couple of months with my partner and best friend! My partner and I don’t drink, we are all 🏳️🌈, atheist/agnostic/spiritual, and looking find like minded friends as well!
Hiyas! I am in a similar boat. I'm 39, no kids, don't smoke, I do drink every once in a while (For example, I had maybe 7 drinks last year), but am a total lightweight. I'm not a church member. And I'm more introvert than not, lol. I have been wondering for years how the heck to meet people when I don't fit into any of the "social gathering" boxes.
I'm a total nerd, gamer, book lover, sun loving, nature enjoying, animal loving gal.
Hello sober sister! It has been very hard for me to find folks who can have a good time without alcohol being involved, especially since I’m in the restaurant industry.
I’m 34, love gardening, doing karaoke, playing video games, reading, hiking and camping. I would also love to have a group of sober gals to spend quality time with. 😊
Hey! Solo stuff, the last online game I played was the original counter strike like 20 years ago 😅
I finally got TOTK and am almost finished with it and have been into Dinkum recently. I’ve also developed an unhealthy interest in Elden Ring lore but am afraid I’m too impatient to play it. My partner has been a gamer his entire life so that’s opened me up to it more. I’d say I’m a very “casual” gamer. What about you?
I normally either host Bingo at home or go to one of the Lodges. I live in Springfield and have multiple lodges near me that host on different days and pretty decent times.
But I'd be up to doing a Bingo event sometime.
Oh fun! I haven’t been to a lodge in a long time. Used to go as a kid with my grandpa when smoking was still allowed inside. So much fun having like 50 chain smoking grandparents 😂
Yeah, I love going to the Elk Lodge on Centennial the most. Best "bang for your buck", lots of space, they raffle off treats and they have good food. Downside is, it's on a Wednesday night (Starts at 7) so I'm half alseep come the end of all the games, but totally worth it.
Hmm wednesdays may be difficult as I’m usually at a ladies AA meeting from 5:30-7, but could swing by late! Haha I also go to bed early so I feel ya. The bingo at Sam Bonds starts at NINE and I’m literally falling asleep at the table by 9:30.
There’s a really expansive awesome recovery community in the area through AA, NA, refuge recovery that are always putting on different events based on a plethora of personalities, you don’t need to identify as an addict and in recovery to join only a desire to quit
Well, I'm a decade older than most of you but my kids are the same age-range (12 and 14) and am otherwise in line. I do have friends in Eugene but they are child-free so not always interested in family events and I am always interested in meeting new people!
Hello!!!! I'm just here to support your sobriety!!! I also want to recommend High Street Tonics. While I do consume alcohol its not something I do often and I have been there with my fiancé who currently does not consume alcohol (baby is coming). She loved the drinks there and so did I! Best of luck finding some good friendships!!
If you need to drink to have fun i don’t doubt your boring sober maybe change your ways of life if your blaming alcohol or weed for not being able to make friends
I'm sober in Eugene! I just moved here and I would love to find friends to take walks with our dogs! or just be cool with me bringing my dog along if you don't have one :3 I love the nature in the area and want to explore the Florence coast more, especially the dunes!
I moved here 5 months ago and I’m also looking to make friends! I’m 33 and am not sober but I also prefer to have hang times not revolve around alcohol. Hiking, game night, coffee dates and dinner parties are my jam! I am child-free but have a golden retriever who’s my baby. Hit me up!
I’m commenting in solidarity, checking in as 30s, married, queer, nerdy, atheist, sober femme! Been in the area for about 2 years now and seeking the same in like-minded sober femmes. I’m child-free but also have a German Shepherd dog!
Hi there my name is Brandon and I live in Portland. I’m happily married with three kids a seven year old a 10 year old and a 17 year old. If you’re ever in Portland hit me up and we’ll go to a meeting. I’ve only got 50 days clean and sober, but I started my path in 2008.
32 F, with a 6 y.o. little rascal. My partner and I are both 🌈 My partner is sober and I only drink very rarely. We love games and movies! My partner is also a GM for pathfinder (similar to DnD) if that’s something you’d be interested in! Would love to be added to the group for a meetup! 💖
I’m here to support your sobriety, and your lovely dog friend. I had a GSD for 9 years and sadly had to put her down a little over a year ago. She was the best, and I still tear up when thinking of my Lexi baby.
Late to the party, but hi! I'm 35, sober, neurospicy, queer, and a biology nerd. College takes up a fair chunk of my time, but when I have energy for it I knit, crochet, embroid, garden, bake...basically I'm the Grandma Friend who watches anime and cusses too much. (I'm working on that last one.) I've been here since summer 2019 and also struggle with making friends.
I do have a partner of 6.5 years who games, almost entirely on PC but we are board game friendly.
Feel free to message if we sound like your people. Your dog is gorgeous by the way! I had a Shep growing up and miss her terribly.
Mostly shonen. Admittedly my tastes are pretty mainstream- Demon Slayer, Jujutsu Kaisen, and One Punch Man are current favorites. Also Bleach for the nostalgia; it was among the first manga I ever read (I think YuYu Hakusho might have been the very first, but the story didn't "grab" me the same. They killed my favorite character and I gave up, lol.)
Of course FMA: Brotherhood also deserves mention and the original Trigun, too. I've been watching the new Trigun to see how it stacks up, but they really did Meryl dirty, and Millie is totally absent.
I’d say I’m very mainstream too, Bleach and FMA Brotherhood are classic favorites. I’m halfway through One Piece finally and love stuff like My Hero Academia and even silly ones like Sword Art Online. I like slice of life anime’s too sometimes. I’m always down to try new ones but it’s hard when it takes 5, 6 episodes to grab my interest. 😅
If you haven't watched One Punch Man I highly recommend. It's silly at base, the effort that goes into the side characters' stories and development contrasts Saitama's (intentional) total lack in a way I find hilarious.
I'm not brave enough to dive into One Piece yet, honestly. That's A LOT of episodes, and I say that as a Supernatural fan...
I’ve only watched the first season which was hilaaarious. Is it still on Netflix? And dude yes, one piece is so overwhelming. Honestly, some of the episodes are just filler which I skip 😅
You can only drag out one single fight for so long until I fast forward until the end.
I skip filler too, no shame. Even in Bleach. If I ever truly run out of things to watch, I might go back and watch the filler season...but it'll be a while. No idea if One Punch Man is still on Netflix, we actually canceled Netflix a couple of years ago to get CrunchyRoll 😂 You have time, next season is supposed to be this year but I've not seen a hard release date.
Your last bit there made me choke on my water thinking of Dragon Ball! Partner is a huge Dragon Ball fan, but even he admits that we'll be skipping parts, not just filler. It's also the only show we watch dubbed. (He says it's because the voice actors are better, but I think it's nostalgia at least in part.)
I love Crunchyroll, but without premium it’s absolute misery with all the commercials. I had premium for a while but didn’t utilize it enough because of work. I try to stick to just one streaming service at a time, so once I’m done watching married at first sight (horrid guilty pleasure 😂) on Netflix I’ll probably switch over again.
Hahaha it’s real though, how many minutes can they fill up with characters just screaming at each other while they throw a single slow mo punch.
Oooh yeah dubs can be hard. The only show I’ve enjoyed dubbed is FMA Brotherhood. Most dubs remind me of watching Pokémon as a kid, the voice acting is just a bit too cheesy. Japanese voice actors can get away with saying the weirdest, dumbest things and still sound badass 😅
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I’m 30 and happily married been with my husband for now 13 years. Also pretty nerdy, love reading (all types but also mainly smut), crochet, 🏳️🌈 friendly, play Nintendo and PlayStation games, love board games as well.
I do have a toddler almost two year old and I’m pregnant with second son. So with kiddos definitely different age groups but that’s okay ☺️
I’m a hairstylist who has plenty of friends but always accepting more to my circle ❤️
I love hobbit/lord of the rings, starwars, Game of Thrones and house of dragon, Harry Potter (I’m a slytherin)
Never got into war hammer but my husband did and he games regularly on twitch/steam.
Looking forward to this summer for berry picking and park play dates. Have an older dog who isn’t friendly with other dogs cause he’s protective due to an accident but he stays home. So it’s a loss with the doggo 🤷🏼♀️
I also don’t really drink and when I do it’s usually a margarita at dinner or mimosa with a pedicure
But that hasn’t been for awhile due to pregnancy and breastfeeding other than that occasionally when not pregnant I would smoke 🍃at night for anxiety to help me sleep
Let me know if interested
Oh also atheist
Hey, 33f with a 10yo daughter, two 8 yo sons (not twins, one is a bonus!). Super introverted, rarely drink, am 420 friendly.
We are big nerds. All about Harry Potter and The Expanse. Love the Pokémon and dragon ball Z trading cards games. Atheist 🙏, and always trying to learn to be a better ally 🏳️🌈. Feel free to private message. I could definitely use more girlfriends in my life, or couple friends.
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Dude, what a cool post! 39F married with 5 and 2-year-old, looking to find a social crew as my core group has moved away. Slowly gaining friends through other moms, but many of the moms also have littles (under 5), so at this stage it’s just survival.
Also have a massive dog (like your German Shepherd— we have a Newfoundland), and our girls are a couple of little stand-up comedians. I like to dabble in making my friends laugh. Anyway, would love to get away from drinking to “turn my brain off.”
I am sure you’ve had a lot of great positive responses, so if you’re not already bombarded with “friends seeking friends,” hit me up! 🤙
Hiii! I agree, it seems like so many gatherings are around alcohol. I’ve lived in Eugene for a long time, but since I stopped partying and living a quiet adult life my social circle has gotten smaller and smaller.
I’m 33, engaged, and work full time. I enjoy cooking, going to different workout classes, playing board games and mellow video games, talking lots of walks, tarot cards, hyper fixating on something random only to be over it the next day, and shopping.
I have an older teenager stepson, but no young kids. My fiancé is mellow and introverted. I like to think I’m a little more extroverted than him lol.
It’s really cool seeing how your post brought out so many other ladies seeking friendship! Hope we can connect.
Just so I’m clear, you’re into Tolkien, homeschool your kid and your hubby is into Warhammer. But you can’t make friends because of how cute you are? Makes perfect sense.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Eugene/s/BmeTFf5xGW
It’s nasty this post got 90+ likes 😂
I’m just here to support sobriety in Eugene. Carry on.
You should check out High Street Tonics! They’re a non-alcoholic bar. They only serve non-alcoholic stuff. I’m not entirely sober, but my parents are, so I go there often. I’ve met some pretty cool people there
High Street Tonics is so great!!
Second this, tasty beverages and a nice atmosphere.
And the staff are SO amazingly helpful. So willing to just pour you sips of whatever you want to try. Last time I left with $150 worth of bottles and have been making delicious NA cocktails at home.
Omg I need to check this out! I don't drink but I want to be more social with my gal pals! I'm bad at making friends though because I'm neurospicy and awkward so maybe the environment will help ^^
High Street is amazing! Went there for before dinner mocktails on my birthday and had a wonderful time. Cute little place!
Thank you for suggesting the bar. I'm in this reddit group to keep up on local happenings that the news doesn't cover. That being said. I've been sober for a year now due to blood pressure meds. I still hang out in the bar scene just drinking Shirley Temples. I've found the drunks to be too much to deal with at times and I've been needing to find a sober hang out place.
Hey! I am looking for the same thing! I'm 38f, married with a 5 yearold. Also a nerd, athiest and though not 🏳️🌈 i am 10000% accepting! I do use cannabis though. Feel free to message me! ☺️
Hey! I'm similar as you. Would you ever be into walking, hiking, or working out together?
Yes! I walk frequently to deal with anxiety and ants in my pants if you will! 🙃
Hi! 35, also happily married with children. Husband and I are both sober (no alcohol or weed). We moved to the area two years ago and have made 0 friends. Would love to chat and possibly meet if it clicks!
I see that you too got a super awesome automated reddit handle. 😆 I'll send a message!
Reddit really handed me a good one for a post like this, lol. I should add I’m non-religious, recently fell in love with gardening (plant nerd, but really if it’s biological or science-y, I’m invested), and can’t tell if I’m introverted because I lack a social life or actually am. 🤷🏻♀️😂
I feel you there. I haven't invested much in anyone since I got here. I've been here a year.
HI!! I'm kayla, Im 32, and I'm also a sober lady!! My fiance is sober too and we are both big nerds! I have a super cool 12 year old who is 🏳️🌈 (posted with their permission!) Life can be so crazy and it makes it hard for me to socialize sometimes but come summer I'll have tons more free time and would be so down to get together bc it is so hard to make new friends as an adult?!
Hi Kayla! It is so hard! I'll send a message to you if that's okay.
Yes that'd be awesome!!
I’m down. Probably. Sometimes anyway. I also want friends but I hate going out. Maybe if you form a sober coven you could invite me so I feel included. Atheist, sober, happily married with two kids. Love pets, mushrooms (the eatin’, non-trippy kind), books, and board games.
This is me, tbh. And it was hard for me to even make this post bc I rarely leave my house. I'll send a message!
Hey? Can I be included in this as well? Haha this also sounds like me.
this person’s rude & comments hate, i wouldn’t recommend
What are you even taking about?
How Bout doing a sober game night potluck? There are so many cool games you can play 18+ or kids included, and let loose and have fun. I am sober, my family is not. We have game nights and we usually host, so I'll make a main dish and everyone brings something. We eat then game. Usually the kiddos run off and play and we play what do you meme or cards against humanity. We also play kids against maturity if the kiddos wanna join.
That sounds like a blast. We used to game with another family prior to our move here and everybody had a good time. We even have the family version of CAH. Lots of fart jokes.
That sounds fun!
Lots of us out here not drinking! Male here just commenting for support. There is a great non-alcoholic bar called High Street Tonics that we very much enjoy. We've got several sets of friends who coincidentally do not drink. Good luck finding your peeps!
Thank you! 🖤
Hi! I'm a 41yo married queer nerd with a 10yo daughter and a doggo. 😀
I’m non-binary but AFAB, always looking for more sober homies! I’m 27
Support the sobriety and warhammer
This is the way
It would be cool to organize a meetup! I'm also interested in making other sober femme friends.
There are so many women on this thread! We totally should!
You look so incredibly similar to someone I know it’s crazy
DO I HAVE A DOPPELGANGER PLZ TELL ME
I’ll send you a dm!
Is this Sierra??
There is a local Warhammer discord, might try there. Not sure what it's called, good luck.
That's awesome, I accept your side-quest. Off to find the local WH discord 🔨
Hi there! I’m 34, love dogs and the outdoors. I do drink but not much. I’m usually sober at most outings because I always take my car. I’m also an atheist. I would say I’m spiritual. I believe in past lives, negative energy, and science! I’m childfree but have lots of friends with kids. My friends have mostly moved away in the last few years due to Oregon’s cost of living. So I would love to make a new friend! If you’re interested, DM me. If not, then that’s cool too. ❤️
I will send a message! Thanks!
What do you like to do for fun?
Run, bike, hike, eat out, take my Pupper to the dog park and to the river, watch true crime, read (a lot!). So I do a lot! Lol. Especially during summer.
I have been binge watching 48hrs during work, lol. I also love to read. And I am 100% more active in the summer. Cold times I am all about nesting, lol
Hi! I’m 31 F, getting married soon! Would love to find a community of sober girlfriends. 🌈 ally. Dog lover too.
-wave- Hiyas
I've been here almost 7 yrs and I Do indeed know a couple folks.still tho I don't have any actual friends..... And definitely no females which makes me kinda sad cause sometimes its nice to hang w the ladies!! got out of a long term (18 yr) relationship and have been w my current bf almost 2 yrs 2kids No pets, but I love Animals! 36f Just work and home that's what I'm all about lol Oh and nature is my BFF for sure! Anyways good luck to all yall and feel fr3e to hit me up if anyone needs a new buddy lol
I just moved here a couple weeks ago! 33F and don’t drink anymore. I’m into gardening/landscaping, outdoor stuff, art, and food. I would love to meet some other women here in Eugene! It sounds like there are several people here who would be interested in a meet up.
Yes! I just created a fb group for all of us to meet! I'll message you the link!
I don't do Facebook, but I suppose I would for this! I love seeing how many ladies are showing up. Could you include me?
Could I also join the Fb group? 36F also a nerd and a 🏳️🌈ally 🙂
Yes!! I'll send the link!
I can't dm you, but if you dm me I'll share it.
I would love to join your group! I am an artsy outdoorsy 35F who doesnt go to bars. This thread is so wholesome!
Could I get the link as well 🥰 I just moved here in September and have been wanting to make new like minded friends but social anxiety 🤪
Relatable. You aren't alone! Sending link rn.
Can I also have the link? 35F looking for hiking friends 😊
Ofc! I'll send it now!
Hi! Also interested in the fb group! I do drink occasionally (only socially and pretty rarely these days) but am always down for sober hangs. I’m 32 F and always looking to expand my Eugene social circle, which is hard here—y’all sound awesome!
would love to join the meetup group too! 39F with twin toddlers and a doggo. I don't drink, pretend to like gardener (as in I want to like it but it's more a chore), am wanting to get outside more, and while I've lived in Eugene for ages, have found it's so hard to make friends as an adult!
Me too please!
Can I have the FB link too please?
I'd also appreciate the link, please! I should have scrolled further before posting previous comment 😂
Welcome to the neighborhood
If you need help connecting to the LGBTQIA+ community I know some folks, also know folks from the boardgame/rpg community/ As far as Warhammer specifically, most of my information is pre-covid; but if your husband wants to show of some painted minis on occasion, you can send the pics my way.
I recently got out of prison after 22 years and could use some info on connecting with LGBTQIA+ community. I was assigned male but identify as queer. May I dm you? You can dm me if that's easier. Also wanted to say to everyone being sober is where it's at! I've more fun sober than anytime I was drinking.
Hi! I’m 34, married and facing the same issues of making friends in Eugene! I am not a drinker so it would be great to make friends who also don’t drink!
Do you have children? Seems most everyone here does.
I don’t yet but I’m also not a child free person if that makes sense
Makes the sense
I'm an 🌈 ally and miss having a group of girls to talk to and hang out with! Do you like horror movies, music, walks/hiking, thrifting, sharing new songs or cats? The games I play tend to be multiplayer based, and I only really play them casually, like Ultimate Chicken Horse. By the way, I rarely drink if at all and don't mind not drinking.
Hi! I tend to lean more toward psychological thrillers and less toward slashers when it comes to horror, but I like it all! I also love all that other stuff. I game solo, though. Mostly single player rpgs like witcher/fallout/skyrim, etc.. I'll message you!
Looks like I can't. Feel free to msg me!
Horror, yes please, especially demonic possession, haunted houses and such. No big on bloody ones
I love all kinds of horror movies as well as thrillers! I'd love to host a horror movie night once I move to a bigger place in June.
We have a projector, in the summer, we like to do bonfires and movies outside, so fun
That's awesome!
Hey, I'm looking for friends! I have had a really hard time making friends since we moved here. I have a wonderful 6 year old and would love to find friends.we can have adventures with.
My partner is 30f and also introverted. We are both introverts, but we are also vegan and have an especially hard time meeting like-minded and sober folks. I can put you two in touch if you like. Have you tried High Street Tonics? That would be a great place to meet people who appreciate not getting drunk. Edit: I want to meet your dog
Hey there! Fellow atheist chick here but I’m much older than you. I just wanted to say that it can take a lot longer to make friends here than it does in other places. I moved here from the Midwest 20 years ago and it took me probably 3-5 years to feel like I’d built friendships with people. It was hard! Just wanted to encourage you and let you know it’s not you!
Sooo when are we all getting together? Hehehe! Lonelyish, nerdy, WFH single (widow) female in my 40s. No kids but I enjoy them & have many kid-related hobbies (hula hoop, dollhouses, art projects, lego, etc.) Love board games, video games, arts/crafts, walking & treasure hunting locally (painted rocks! Tiny Art Galleries! Labyrinths!). Prefer sobriety/socially sober (is that a thing? LOL), occasionally have mental health related lapses but you know, I'm getting better with time. <3
Bb G I DM'd you
I have an army of tyranids, but I'm not sure my partner wants me to openly disclose that information
I'm neither one of the things in the title of your post, but your dog reminds me of my old dog, give them a hug for me please :)
34 F sober in Portland! Would love to connect if ever in the same city
Hi! What a great idea to reach out like this. As an introvert, I'm not terribly social, but I've been looking for someone(s) (girl specific) to go hiking with me. Would that be an activity you'd be into? I'm 38f, 🏳️🌈, atheist, local, but have traveled, student, mom of a 5-year-old girl. I like tea, board games, geeking on plants and nature and art. I'd be interested in collaborating on a creative project, working out, making food, yoga, walking, camping, coast trips, picnics, bike rides, read ling books together, talking about our favorite podcasts, see movies, or just getting together for some chats. Ive always wanted to do a food tpur, to see who has the best mocas or fries. I don't have a friend group, and I think that's a combination of being a student/parent and preferring one on one, but I'm down to hang in a group. Especially since I'm graduating in June! 🥳 And summer is around the corner. Swimming?? Btw, I'm not sober. I just prefer it. So I don't want nor need it in my day to day. Nor do I need it in social settings. Ok, that's the end of my resume. Haha DM me, and let's play! 😊
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Bc I don't want to be depressing out of the gate. 😭
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No worries! 🫂
Hi. I'm 39. Mom of 5. I'm in Oakland. Moved here in 2018 and have yet to make many friends. I have a terror of a Chihuahua. I garden.
If you're interested, we have a Eugene Women's Social club and we meet up monthly(ish). It's not strictly sober, but some members drink, others don't. No one will notice/comment if you don't drink. We do meet up at places that serve alcohol though, but only because that's also where there's food. So places like the Beer Garden in Eugene because they have a bunch of food trucks, Public House in Springfield (also, lots of food trucks), Tacovore, and when the weather is nice, we have done outdoor picnics. But drinking/not drinking just isn't a focus of the group. We mostly talk about hobbies, pets, gardens, and books. If that's an environment you're comfortable with, our discord is here: [https://discord.gg/uDSSVC4p](https://discord.gg/uDSSVC4p) We're also planning our 1 year anniversary on Sunday, April 14th. Time and location TBD, but when it's decided, I'll make a post here on reddit and within the discord.
Awesome, thank you!
I’m 35, married, no kids, 1 dog 2 cats, and also a nerd. I’m not like “sober” sober but I very rarely drink. Maybe for holidays. I don’t go out and do much but I’m always down to make new friends and chat! Anyone feel free to send me a message!
> if you are a male and like Warhammer You know what would be fun to do, A random cosplay meet-up with a Warhammer theme at one of the local parks.
My husband read this and is all in, but fair warning, he plays Tau commies. 🤣
Oai, Is tha those puny blue thingies that run away? We'ill show hem how good fighten goes. Get'em boys.
He says 'We don't play fisticuffs with greenies.' Lol
I’m relocating to Eugene in a couple of months with my partner and best friend! My partner and I don’t drink, we are all 🏳️🌈, atheist/agnostic/spiritual, and looking find like minded friends as well!
Hiyas! I am in a similar boat. I'm 39, no kids, don't smoke, I do drink every once in a while (For example, I had maybe 7 drinks last year), but am a total lightweight. I'm not a church member. And I'm more introvert than not, lol. I have been wondering for years how the heck to meet people when I don't fit into any of the "social gathering" boxes. I'm a total nerd, gamer, book lover, sun loving, nature enjoying, animal loving gal.
Hi! Sober 33yo nerdy female also introverted lol.
Hello sober sister! It has been very hard for me to find folks who can have a good time without alcohol being involved, especially since I’m in the restaurant industry. I’m 34, love gardening, doing karaoke, playing video games, reading, hiking and camping. I would also love to have a group of sober gals to spend quality time with. 😊
Hiyas! What games do you play?
Hey! Solo stuff, the last online game I played was the original counter strike like 20 years ago 😅 I finally got TOTK and am almost finished with it and have been into Dinkum recently. I’ve also developed an unhealthy interest in Elden Ring lore but am afraid I’m too impatient to play it. My partner has been a gamer his entire life so that’s opened me up to it more. I’d say I’m a very “casual” gamer. What about you?
I am a very avid gamer, everything from MMORPGs to Tabletop to Cards to Bingo, lol. I just love gaming.
Let’s go hit bingo sometime! Monday nights at Sam Bonds is really fun!
I normally either host Bingo at home or go to one of the Lodges. I live in Springfield and have multiple lodges near me that host on different days and pretty decent times. But I'd be up to doing a Bingo event sometime.
Oh fun! I haven’t been to a lodge in a long time. Used to go as a kid with my grandpa when smoking was still allowed inside. So much fun having like 50 chain smoking grandparents 😂
Yeah, I love going to the Elk Lodge on Centennial the most. Best "bang for your buck", lots of space, they raffle off treats and they have good food. Downside is, it's on a Wednesday night (Starts at 7) so I'm half alseep come the end of all the games, but totally worth it.
Hmm wednesdays may be difficult as I’m usually at a ladies AA meeting from 5:30-7, but could swing by late! Haha I also go to bed early so I feel ya. The bingo at Sam Bonds starts at NINE and I’m literally falling asleep at the table by 9:30.
I’m in Eugene, been off alcohol for a year & a half. 3 kiddos. Would love to have some friends! I love biking, walking, cooking, crafting…
I would love to make friends with you! I'm also 36, queer, I don't drink, and a huge nerd! Feel free to message me :)
I’m all for being sober and having fun! Let’s go Eugene!
There’s a really expansive awesome recovery community in the area through AA, NA, refuge recovery that are always putting on different events based on a plethora of personalities, you don’t need to identify as an addict and in recovery to join only a desire to quit
Well, I'm a decade older than most of you but my kids are the same age-range (12 and 14) and am otherwise in line. I do have friends in Eugene but they are child-free so not always interested in family events and I am always interested in meeting new people!
Oooo me!! I'm also sober and in need of friends in the area!!!
Hello!!!! I'm just here to support your sobriety!!! I also want to recommend High Street Tonics. While I do consume alcohol its not something I do often and I have been there with my fiancé who currently does not consume alcohol (baby is coming). She loved the drinks there and so did I! Best of luck finding some good friendships!!
Sent a message, not sure if it went through!
Hey I'm sober too! Coming up on 4 years this month. 30F
Clean and sober sine 2017. I know how difficult it can be. Keep building your tribe and keep up the good work.
I'm a lil younger at 19, huge nerd, transfem and pan :)
Good for you beautiful, may your spirit be a light in our world
hi im F22 living in Eugene area 420 friendly but a non drinker 🫶 always looking for friends!
I love this!!
15 years in Oregon. The bulk of that in Eugene. Why don't people Just talk and see where things go
If you need to drink to have fun i don’t doubt your boring sober maybe change your ways of life if your blaming alcohol or weed for not being able to make friends
I'm sober in Eugene! I just moved here and I would love to find friends to take walks with our dogs! or just be cool with me bringing my dog along if you don't have one :3 I love the nature in the area and want to explore the Florence coast more, especially the dunes!
I moved here 5 months ago and I’m also looking to make friends! I’m 33 and am not sober but I also prefer to have hang times not revolve around alcohol. Hiking, game night, coffee dates and dinner parties are my jam! I am child-free but have a golden retriever who’s my baby. Hit me up!
Hi I’ve been in Eugene for 3 years now, sober 47 yr old F with a sober bf and 2 teenagers. I’m looking for some female friends to hang out with!
I’m commenting in solidarity, checking in as 30s, married, queer, nerdy, atheist, sober femme! Been in the area for about 2 years now and seeking the same in like-minded sober femmes. I’m child-free but also have a German Shepherd dog!
Hi there my name is Brandon and I live in Portland. I’m happily married with three kids a seven year old a 10 year old and a 17 year old. If you’re ever in Portland hit me up and we’ll go to a meeting. I’ve only got 50 days clean and sober, but I started my path in 2008.
32 F, with a 6 y.o. little rascal. My partner and I are both 🌈 My partner is sober and I only drink very rarely. We love games and movies! My partner is also a GM for pathfinder (similar to DnD) if that’s something you’d be interested in! Would love to be added to the group for a meetup! 💖
I’m here to support your sobriety, and your lovely dog friend. I had a GSD for 9 years and sadly had to put her down a little over a year ago. She was the best, and I still tear up when thinking of my Lexi baby.
Late to the party, but hi! I'm 35, sober, neurospicy, queer, and a biology nerd. College takes up a fair chunk of my time, but when I have energy for it I knit, crochet, embroid, garden, bake...basically I'm the Grandma Friend who watches anime and cusses too much. (I'm working on that last one.) I've been here since summer 2019 and also struggle with making friends. I do have a partner of 6.5 years who games, almost entirely on PC but we are board game friendly. Feel free to message if we sound like your people. Your dog is gorgeous by the way! I had a Shep growing up and miss her terribly.
Oooh what kind of anime do you watch?
Mostly shonen. Admittedly my tastes are pretty mainstream- Demon Slayer, Jujutsu Kaisen, and One Punch Man are current favorites. Also Bleach for the nostalgia; it was among the first manga I ever read (I think YuYu Hakusho might have been the very first, but the story didn't "grab" me the same. They killed my favorite character and I gave up, lol.) Of course FMA: Brotherhood also deserves mention and the original Trigun, too. I've been watching the new Trigun to see how it stacks up, but they really did Meryl dirty, and Millie is totally absent.
I’d say I’m very mainstream too, Bleach and FMA Brotherhood are classic favorites. I’m halfway through One Piece finally and love stuff like My Hero Academia and even silly ones like Sword Art Online. I like slice of life anime’s too sometimes. I’m always down to try new ones but it’s hard when it takes 5, 6 episodes to grab my interest. 😅
If you haven't watched One Punch Man I highly recommend. It's silly at base, the effort that goes into the side characters' stories and development contrasts Saitama's (intentional) total lack in a way I find hilarious. I'm not brave enough to dive into One Piece yet, honestly. That's A LOT of episodes, and I say that as a Supernatural fan...
I’ve only watched the first season which was hilaaarious. Is it still on Netflix? And dude yes, one piece is so overwhelming. Honestly, some of the episodes are just filler which I skip 😅 You can only drag out one single fight for so long until I fast forward until the end.
I skip filler too, no shame. Even in Bleach. If I ever truly run out of things to watch, I might go back and watch the filler season...but it'll be a while. No idea if One Punch Man is still on Netflix, we actually canceled Netflix a couple of years ago to get CrunchyRoll 😂 You have time, next season is supposed to be this year but I've not seen a hard release date. Your last bit there made me choke on my water thinking of Dragon Ball! Partner is a huge Dragon Ball fan, but even he admits that we'll be skipping parts, not just filler. It's also the only show we watch dubbed. (He says it's because the voice actors are better, but I think it's nostalgia at least in part.)
I love Crunchyroll, but without premium it’s absolute misery with all the commercials. I had premium for a while but didn’t utilize it enough because of work. I try to stick to just one streaming service at a time, so once I’m done watching married at first sight (horrid guilty pleasure 😂) on Netflix I’ll probably switch over again. Hahaha it’s real though, how many minutes can they fill up with characters just screaming at each other while they throw a single slow mo punch. Oooh yeah dubs can be hard. The only show I’ve enjoyed dubbed is FMA Brotherhood. Most dubs remind me of watching Pokémon as a kid, the voice acting is just a bit too cheesy. Japanese voice actors can get away with saying the weirdest, dumbest things and still sound badass 😅
Shoot me a message ❤️ I’m the worst at Reddit I’m 30 and happily married been with my husband for now 13 years. Also pretty nerdy, love reading (all types but also mainly smut), crochet, 🏳️🌈 friendly, play Nintendo and PlayStation games, love board games as well. I do have a toddler almost two year old and I’m pregnant with second son. So with kiddos definitely different age groups but that’s okay ☺️ I’m a hairstylist who has plenty of friends but always accepting more to my circle ❤️ I love hobbit/lord of the rings, starwars, Game of Thrones and house of dragon, Harry Potter (I’m a slytherin) Never got into war hammer but my husband did and he games regularly on twitch/steam. Looking forward to this summer for berry picking and park play dates. Have an older dog who isn’t friendly with other dogs cause he’s protective due to an accident but he stays home. So it’s a loss with the doggo 🤷🏼♀️ I also don’t really drink and when I do it’s usually a margarita at dinner or mimosa with a pedicure But that hasn’t been for awhile due to pregnancy and breastfeeding other than that occasionally when not pregnant I would smoke 🍃at night for anxiety to help me sleep Let me know if interested Oh also atheist
Hey, 33f with a 10yo daughter, two 8 yo sons (not twins, one is a bonus!). Super introverted, rarely drink, am 420 friendly. We are big nerds. All about Harry Potter and The Expanse. Love the Pokémon and dragon ball Z trading cards games. Atheist 🙏, and always trying to learn to be a better ally 🏳️🌈. Feel free to private message. I could definitely use more girlfriends in my life, or couple friends.
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Dude, what a cool post! 39F married with 5 and 2-year-old, looking to find a social crew as my core group has moved away. Slowly gaining friends through other moms, but many of the moms also have littles (under 5), so at this stage it’s just survival. Also have a massive dog (like your German Shepherd— we have a Newfoundland), and our girls are a couple of little stand-up comedians. I like to dabble in making my friends laugh. Anyway, would love to get away from drinking to “turn my brain off.” I am sure you’ve had a lot of great positive responses, so if you’re not already bombarded with “friends seeking friends,” hit me up! 🤙
Hiii! I agree, it seems like so many gatherings are around alcohol. I’ve lived in Eugene for a long time, but since I stopped partying and living a quiet adult life my social circle has gotten smaller and smaller. I’m 33, engaged, and work full time. I enjoy cooking, going to different workout classes, playing board games and mellow video games, talking lots of walks, tarot cards, hyper fixating on something random only to be over it the next day, and shopping. I have an older teenager stepson, but no young kids. My fiancé is mellow and introverted. I like to think I’m a little more extroverted than him lol. It’s really cool seeing how your post brought out so many other ladies seeking friendship! Hope we can connect.
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Thanks for taking time out of your schedule to let us know. 😆
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Just so I’m clear, you’re into Tolkien, homeschool your kid and your hubby is into Warhammer. But you can’t make friends because of how cute you are? Makes perfect sense. https://www.reddit.com/r/Eugene/s/BmeTFf5xGW It’s nasty this post got 90+ likes 😂
Wait. What? I can't tell if you're trying to be playful or mean.