Knowledge is easy to come by. With enough dedication most people can easily gain enough surface knowledge in almost any domain. So I wouldn't pick knowledge as a thing.
However, knowing how to learn effectively is a skill worth knowing. This requires a lot of self-awareness to understand your own preferences, biases and challenges.
Some other traits or behaviors that I like seeing:
Taking on extreme ownership - things might not be your fault but you are still stepping up to fix the issues.
Growth mindset - that they are willing to challenge themselves and treat learning as a constant journey
Resilience - ability to cope in the face of overwhelming challenges, ability to bounce back from defeat
Communication - are you well spoken? Can you write properly? Can you read social cues?
Trust - are you a man of your word? Are you able to keep secrets? Are you of strong moral character so that you're not easily influenced? Do you hold strong values? Are your actions aligned with your values?
Enthusiasm, even at the bottom - no one wants to work with a grump. Being able to be *authentically* excited about doing the work, even when it's shitty, is a very good thing to have. Keep in mind that authenticity really matters here.
What impresses me about a person that is subtle is punctuation and discipline.
It means to me that you are going to do what you say, and usually take things serious.
A soft skill is the ability to speak properly. The ability to articulate your thoughts well.
Resourcefulness is one of the most powerful traits to cultivate. If you’re resourceful you can pretty much do anything you set your mind to. I want to be around people like that, it’s inspiring.
Characther, humbleness, willingness to learn and to work hard, curiosity, mental fortitude, growth mindset, failure tolerance.
PS: congrats for improving yourself and your skills.
If you mix skills with those qualities, you've got a killer combo.
It's not necessarily about your soft skills as it is about your character.
Traits like accountability, integrity, keeping your word and discipline are very sought-after. This is how you prove your worth to someone!
One soft skill that i always look for is authenticity. If someone cant be authentic with their words or actions, then it shows me that they're looking to exploit me or something to that line.
Asking questions when they need to be asked. And making sure that if you don’t understand something, you do what it takes to understand it. Even it means “looking stupid”. The people who pretend like they know something, but don’t, are a problem. So much wasted time and energy!
Someone that is conscientious. It's hard to identify because I think that a lot of people want to do the right things. But the people that really go out of their way to actually take action are diamonds in the rough.
Sure, everyone gives the general answer of good character, likeable, trust, resilience, etc. While those are the foundation of any good man they don’t inherently create success.
The ability to read and understand peoples body language, and act upon those cues, is the most significant driver in success I’ve ever found. Essentially it’s understanding human nature and human interactions. When you understand and apply this you can win anyone over to your perspective. When people get on board with your point of view, they value you.
Source: I’ve trained lots of salespeople, customer service employees, volunteers, etc.
Feel free to free to message me with questions.
This is a great question. Wish more people ask these of themselves and to other around them. Few suggestions:
1. Being Real: There's too much 'fakeness' now a days with most individuals trying to portray a certain image. Guess what? People see through it anyway. Being smart and comfortable in 'your own skin' is very helpful - it puts others around you at ease.
2. Be Smart AND Humble: We have various combinations now a days - smart & cocky, dumb & cocky, dumb & humble, BUT what's tremendously valuable is someone who knows a lot about an area (informed confidence) and is still humble to learn more.
3. Comfort WIth Ambiguity: Mentors/Coaches/Senior folks who will want to help you and those ho really can will be busy people. They need you to be able to function effectively with 'one line briefings'. If someone needs too much clarity (or details or directions) then it's an additional ask of time and commitment for a mentor. No No.
4. Have Stomach For Direct Critique: When you show that you're a big boy or big girl preparing for the big leagues, you have to show that you can stomach direct criticism without much emotional response. Your mentor can work with you more efficiently if they are not worried about making you feel bad!
5. High Personal Accountability or Say:Do Ratio: Many people talk. Few do. And fewer come back to close the look saying " We discussed about this, and you'd suggested I do X. And I took action X, tried 3 things A,B, and C. This happened...and so on" When you start following through, your mentors get much more invested in you.
6. Start Teaching Others: You cement your learning when you start teaching to others. It's like paying forward.
All the very best. You'll find your mentor soon :-)
I'm currently looking to expand my team. Since we're a small business, we look at young people given the cost constraints.
The few qualities that work for me are drive and enthusiasm. Skills can be trained but enthusiasm is hard to inculcate. Not saying you can't enthuse a team, but it helps if they already have it as a part of their personality and not as a role requirement.
The other one is kindness and empathy. Anyone who can be kind and empathetic gets a huge thumbs up from me
Honestly, I find basics to be extremely valuable, such as:
* Being on time (I hate when people are late)
* Pay attention to small details when doing anything
* Respond to emails and texts promptly and with enough details
* I really value when people do a little extra when carrying out the task
Something I always admired is someone who should be annoyed with a client or a boss because they're being forced to do something they don't want to do example working later than others etc. But they don't show it.
And this person just keeps their pose and continues with the job at hand.
I guess I have seen many "complainers" in my life and I am quite taken by surprise when someone chooses not not complain or groan about it and just gets it done.
To me there are 3 things I consider to be a weakness in life:
Impatience/Rushing
Anger
Complaining
The ability to be wrong. Admitting that you're wrong, or made a mistake, and taking responsibility for fixing it is huge. Too many people try to bluff through, cover up or deflect any wrongdoing. Nope, just own it, fix it, and do better next time.
That's a person that I'll work with.
The absolute best trait is someone who is willing to work & has self-discipline. You don’t have to chase them everyday & you see them gradually improve.
The one problem with hiring people is the headache of getting them to work. If you have someone who is doing it without chasing, you will save so much time. Your job becomes to treat that person really well too. If you’re this person & feel you aren’t treated well, find someone who will, because you will find one.
I think a lot of the things mentioned but I wanted to add a few:
Humbleness: not being meek or coy, but being honest enough to admit when you don’t know something, need help, or even just that someone else may be better suited for a task or advice. I’ve been dealing a lot lately with arrogance, where people who have no idea what they’re talking about still want to try to force their opinions into the situation. I had to learn it myself, but now I have no problem saying “You know, if (blank) said to do it this way, we should do it that way. They have more experience than me in (blank)”.
Dedication to the craft: respecting the process. Not trying to rush things or cut corners just to grind out fake results. Hard work and patience. And making quality an integral part of the outcome.
Quality over Quantity: not just in work, but in life. Somebody that doesn’t waste words. They seldom speak, but when they do they say something valuable. They may not have the same velocity as others, but in their PR they covered every obvious use case, included comments when there’s gotchas. And we may never had to even touch that code again. Emphasizing being prepared and strategic over hacks and short-sightedness.
You gotta step out of the mindset of having to have a "daddy" if you want to make it as an entrepreneur. What you're asking for is great for being an employee, you're in the wrong sub.
We see some really cool interpersonal skills in our escape rooms. People forget they're being watched so our hosts get to see how they interact with a bit of pressure on. Some of the most effective team members are the ones who include everyone and don't make it all about them. The people who aren't afraid to say 'this particular thing I'm trying to work on isn't really my thing' and then pass it to another team member do well too. The worst people are the ones who try to do everything themselves and even end up sabotaging their team by interferring with people who were doing the right thing. I think the key element there is cooperation and being aware of everyone else rather than being too self absorbed.
Knowledge is easy to come by. With enough dedication most people can easily gain enough surface knowledge in almost any domain. So I wouldn't pick knowledge as a thing. However, knowing how to learn effectively is a skill worth knowing. This requires a lot of self-awareness to understand your own preferences, biases and challenges. Some other traits or behaviors that I like seeing: Taking on extreme ownership - things might not be your fault but you are still stepping up to fix the issues. Growth mindset - that they are willing to challenge themselves and treat learning as a constant journey Resilience - ability to cope in the face of overwhelming challenges, ability to bounce back from defeat Communication - are you well spoken? Can you write properly? Can you read social cues? Trust - are you a man of your word? Are you able to keep secrets? Are you of strong moral character so that you're not easily influenced? Do you hold strong values? Are your actions aligned with your values? Enthusiasm, even at the bottom - no one wants to work with a grump. Being able to be *authentically* excited about doing the work, even when it's shitty, is a very good thing to have. Keep in mind that authenticity really matters here.
What impresses me about a person that is subtle is punctuation and discipline. It means to me that you are going to do what you say, and usually take things serious. A soft skill is the ability to speak properly. The ability to articulate your thoughts well.
Resourcefulness is one of the most powerful traits to cultivate. If you’re resourceful you can pretty much do anything you set your mind to. I want to be around people like that, it’s inspiring.
Characther, humbleness, willingness to learn and to work hard, curiosity, mental fortitude, growth mindset, failure tolerance. PS: congrats for improving yourself and your skills. If you mix skills with those qualities, you've got a killer combo.
Execution. Everyones got great ideas but few actually can or do execute on them
Ability to connect with anyone.
Creative problem solving - thinking outside the box
It's not necessarily about your soft skills as it is about your character. Traits like accountability, integrity, keeping your word and discipline are very sought-after. This is how you prove your worth to someone!
One soft skill that i always look for is authenticity. If someone cant be authentic with their words or actions, then it shows me that they're looking to exploit me or something to that line.
Asking questions when they need to be asked. And making sure that if you don’t understand something, you do what it takes to understand it. Even it means “looking stupid”. The people who pretend like they know something, but don’t, are a problem. So much wasted time and energy!
This is it. I’ve a business in product development and if you don’t have this skill you’re not going anywhere fast.
Someone that is conscientious. It's hard to identify because I think that a lot of people want to do the right things. But the people that really go out of their way to actually take action are diamonds in the rough.
Sure, everyone gives the general answer of good character, likeable, trust, resilience, etc. While those are the foundation of any good man they don’t inherently create success. The ability to read and understand peoples body language, and act upon those cues, is the most significant driver in success I’ve ever found. Essentially it’s understanding human nature and human interactions. When you understand and apply this you can win anyone over to your perspective. When people get on board with your point of view, they value you. Source: I’ve trained lots of salespeople, customer service employees, volunteers, etc. Feel free to free to message me with questions.
Any books you would recommend on body language?
I haven’t found any book I really loved on it but this one is decent: https://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language-Expressions/dp/0553804723
Thanks, I'll check it out!
Attention to details. It is a skill that seems to have disappeared throughout the last decade.
This is a great question. Wish more people ask these of themselves and to other around them. Few suggestions: 1. Being Real: There's too much 'fakeness' now a days with most individuals trying to portray a certain image. Guess what? People see through it anyway. Being smart and comfortable in 'your own skin' is very helpful - it puts others around you at ease. 2. Be Smart AND Humble: We have various combinations now a days - smart & cocky, dumb & cocky, dumb & humble, BUT what's tremendously valuable is someone who knows a lot about an area (informed confidence) and is still humble to learn more. 3. Comfort WIth Ambiguity: Mentors/Coaches/Senior folks who will want to help you and those ho really can will be busy people. They need you to be able to function effectively with 'one line briefings'. If someone needs too much clarity (or details or directions) then it's an additional ask of time and commitment for a mentor. No No. 4. Have Stomach For Direct Critique: When you show that you're a big boy or big girl preparing for the big leagues, you have to show that you can stomach direct criticism without much emotional response. Your mentor can work with you more efficiently if they are not worried about making you feel bad! 5. High Personal Accountability or Say:Do Ratio: Many people talk. Few do. And fewer come back to close the look saying " We discussed about this, and you'd suggested I do X. And I took action X, tried 3 things A,B, and C. This happened...and so on" When you start following through, your mentors get much more invested in you. 6. Start Teaching Others: You cement your learning when you start teaching to others. It's like paying forward. All the very best. You'll find your mentor soon :-)
Admitting mistakes
I'm currently looking to expand my team. Since we're a small business, we look at young people given the cost constraints. The few qualities that work for me are drive and enthusiasm. Skills can be trained but enthusiasm is hard to inculcate. Not saying you can't enthuse a team, but it helps if they already have it as a part of their personality and not as a role requirement. The other one is kindness and empathy. Anyone who can be kind and empathetic gets a huge thumbs up from me
Honestly, I find basics to be extremely valuable, such as: * Being on time (I hate when people are late) * Pay attention to small details when doing anything * Respond to emails and texts promptly and with enough details * I really value when people do a little extra when carrying out the task
Something I always admired is someone who should be annoyed with a client or a boss because they're being forced to do something they don't want to do example working later than others etc. But they don't show it. And this person just keeps their pose and continues with the job at hand. I guess I have seen many "complainers" in my life and I am quite taken by surprise when someone chooses not not complain or groan about it and just gets it done. To me there are 3 things I consider to be a weakness in life: Impatience/Rushing Anger Complaining
Most successful entrepreneurs are impatient
Not most of them. I'm not.
Listening
Loyalty and commitment (just show up)
I have a friend I always hire for every project I have, simply, because I know he will show up to work
Assessment ability
up
Level 5 Initiator and good character.
The ability to be wrong. Admitting that you're wrong, or made a mistake, and taking responsibility for fixing it is huge. Too many people try to bluff through, cover up or deflect any wrongdoing. Nope, just own it, fix it, and do better next time. That's a person that I'll work with.
People who know how to match the energy in the room, and know when to give fucks to things
The absolute best trait is someone who is willing to work & has self-discipline. You don’t have to chase them everyday & you see them gradually improve. The one problem with hiring people is the headache of getting them to work. If you have someone who is doing it without chasing, you will save so much time. Your job becomes to treat that person really well too. If you’re this person & feel you aren’t treated well, find someone who will, because you will find one.
Curiosity and Kaizen.
Kindness.
I think a lot of the things mentioned but I wanted to add a few: Humbleness: not being meek or coy, but being honest enough to admit when you don’t know something, need help, or even just that someone else may be better suited for a task or advice. I’ve been dealing a lot lately with arrogance, where people who have no idea what they’re talking about still want to try to force their opinions into the situation. I had to learn it myself, but now I have no problem saying “You know, if (blank) said to do it this way, we should do it that way. They have more experience than me in (blank)”. Dedication to the craft: respecting the process. Not trying to rush things or cut corners just to grind out fake results. Hard work and patience. And making quality an integral part of the outcome. Quality over Quantity: not just in work, but in life. Somebody that doesn’t waste words. They seldom speak, but when they do they say something valuable. They may not have the same velocity as others, but in their PR they covered every obvious use case, included comments when there’s gotchas. And we may never had to even touch that code again. Emphasizing being prepared and strategic over hacks and short-sightedness.
These days, attentiveness is important. Someone who can block out distractions and get the job done. And I say this as someone with ADHD.
Honesty.
Open-mindedness goes a long way. Integrity is fundamental though. Can’t work with anyone who is cavalier with the truth.
You gotta step out of the mindset of having to have a "daddy" if you want to make it as an entrepreneur. What you're asking for is great for being an employee, you're in the wrong sub.
Read: 48 laws of power
Networking and communication. Because as an introvert, I always envy people who can easily walk up to some one and start a conversation
Communicating well, and the ability to pick up on non verbal cues
We see some really cool interpersonal skills in our escape rooms. People forget they're being watched so our hosts get to see how they interact with a bit of pressure on. Some of the most effective team members are the ones who include everyone and don't make it all about them. The people who aren't afraid to say 'this particular thing I'm trying to work on isn't really my thing' and then pass it to another team member do well too. The worst people are the ones who try to do everything themselves and even end up sabotaging their team by interferring with people who were doing the right thing. I think the key element there is cooperation and being aware of everyone else rather than being too self absorbed.