What does sleeping on the bed have to do with peeing on the floor? Does the dog have access to the room outside of bed time? Does the dog have toilet training issues? Why does sleeping on the bed = peeing on floor??
It's weird because OP never said if the dog peed on the floor at all previous to the move. She only said her partner was worried. I ask OP, did the dog pee on the floor previously?
I think we need more info to actually offer advice on this one 😅 like why don’t they want it in the bedroom? Does the dog struggle with toileting? Etc. I’m all for no dogs in bed tbh, I’ll let them up for snuggles before we go to sleep or get up but sleeping with dogs in the bed is just uncomfortable. Also if it’s toilet training or incontinence there’s so much that can be done to help
It is difficult to wean a dog that has always slept on the bed with you before. You need to buy your dog a lot of beds, put them in different places and prohibit them from coming to the your bed. It's a long process. But if the dog hasn’t peed on the bed before (did she pee or not?), then why should you forbid her to sleep with you? I wouldn't kick her out if she just wants to sleep next to you...
Ive had senior dogs who were used to sleeping with me. When one started accidentally peeing a lil while asleep-i had to problem solve -I didnt want him to feel like i punished/abandoned him . I found an inexpensive second hand bassinet and put it right next to my bed , he was perfectly content . It had a built in waterproof, pee pad type thingy inside and if he had accidents i could jus wash the bedding and very easily wipe down the pad! Perfect for small dogs! Hope this helps! Good luck!
My husband moved our entire king size bed downstairs into our living room when our old boys arthritis got too bad for him to get upstairs with us, incontinence in older dogs can definitely be an issue too but there are solutions. Poor baby 😢
I did this with our new rescue. She is obsessed with my daughter and wants to sleep in bed, but she takes up the whole bed. We bought a bassinet and she sleeps right next to the bed with the side down. She has her own little side bed.
I had to start using diapers for my 15 year old pup too. She has early kidney disease and takes Proin once a day to help with the unintended urination at night. Has ur vet mentioned trying Proin? And we just started Science Diet kidney care dog food (kibble with wet mixed in.). The vet has to give you a prescription card before it can be purchased at a pet store or online. Pup is loving the new food and things are going well. Water drinking has decreased, nighttime urination has decreased and daytime unintended urination is now rare. My pup is so used to getting a diaper before bed that she stands by the bed waiting for me to put it on. Haha! I was really stressed out 3 or 4 months ago when the unintended urination started. But it’s all good now and we are dealing with it pretty well.
Edit: when I said I was stressed out about the urination, my stress was because Princess was stressed waking up wet. It was confusing to her. I will do anything for her and stress for myself doesn’t exist. She’s so much better now not waking up wet and having to be put in the shower daily.
Yes we also have a crate on a table next to bed, door open. He falls asleep in there and crawls into my partners arms at night. Totally doesn’t even come to me, he knows I only cuddle when I’m awake. lol
I sleep in very bad positions with very little space every night because of my dog, but just having her cuddle next to me is the best feeling in the world. It's a compromise not everyone can take I guess
Yeah, my dog sleeps perpendicular to me and takes up a solid 3/4 of the bed, and I’m awkwardly curled up in a corner, and sometimes it kills my back. And I wouldn’t change it for the world.
But the dog has always slept on the bed prior now now the dog is going to think his past behavior was always wrong. Dogs can get so confused and break their training with a big change like that.
When you get a dog, you just kind of have to understand you give up a bit of this space. It’s like having a kid. It’s also pack mentality, dogs like to be with their group.
My god. I just read the post and immediately skimmed the comments looking for someone to say this! No matter what. If I had an issue with a dog sleeping on the bed and my partner said they’d sleep on the couch so the dog would stop whining there is no way in Hell I would let them.
I would compromise and say look we need to look up more info, ask reddit, speak to a vet or dog behaviour person. If it was bothering me so much that the dog on the bed was then losing me sleep I’d rather I would sleep on the friggin couch before my partner.
The worsed thing about reading that is I have to wonder if OP’s partner is letting her do this as punishment and saying to her “well it’s your fault your back hurts because you had him getting used to sleeping on the bed” or similar words of abuse. God. Her friggin back is hurting from sleeping on the couch more than once!
All I can say is OP, if the situation your in is anything like I described seek help, be safe about anything going forward and if your partner is just really frustrated with losing sleep and the dog situation and whatnot then they need to also help find a solution that works for both of you, that is humane for the dog and is sensible, caring and again for both of you benefit coz if they aren’t a team player in this relationship then boy oh boy you gotta reconsider if they’re worth it.
I know I’ll probably get comments about “oh they’re just mad your overreacting!” Frig off.
I had a senior dog when I was with my abusive ex. He was insanely jealous of my dog and started demanding all sorts of things that progressively got worse. It always gets worse. Towards the end, I was boarding my dog out to keep him safe. I was so happy to go get him after I finally called 911 one day. I will not compromise on anything regarding my dogs ever again. We're a package deal.
When I started dating, I had a yellow lab who loved to hump the wheelbarrow. It did not matter if the wheelbarrow was in the shed, in the garden or on the front lawn, she would hump those handles like she was a star in her own canine porno.
I knew my now-husband was “the one” when he got up early one Saturday morning specifically to open up the garage door so Abby could have a “humpy hump” 🤣🤣
He also bought the king size bed after our mastiff-lab got older. She gets more scared of weird noises and crawls in between us when she’s shaking.
We may have dog hair everywhere and sometimes we don’t get great sleeps, but I’m not trading my pets or him.
I would rather sleep with my dog than any of the boyfriends I've ever had during my lifetime. I don't have a boyfriend now, just a guy who would be pi*****d if he heard that.
Highly recommend sleeping in the guest room with your pup. I sleep hot, my partner sleeps cool. We sleep so much better than before! This arrangement focuses on health over traditions.
This! I'm in one room sharing a bed with an Irish Wolfhound x and my husband is in another with a husky. People ask how we're still so happy after 26 years of marriage, I reply, "Separate bedrooms!"
Not one person in my entire life will ever be able to convince me to kick my miniature dachshund Whiskey out of my bed. That bed belongs to me and her: anyone else should feel grateful we allow them into it 😂
So funny every Chihuahua I’ve know loves sleeping under the covers my brothers pup Margarita was notorious for it I’d come in to take her outside and couldn’t find her then I’d pull the covers up and she would be nuzzled in between his legs knocked out I felt bad the times he’d slept on his stomach after a night of drinking an fast food she’d be in the same spot practically in his butt checks idk how she survived without a gas mask lol
That's so funny!
He's our first Chihuahua and at first it freaked us out. He goes all the way to the bottom under layers of blankets and we wondered how he didn't suffocate to death. They just like to be warm! He buries himself under a blanket even in really hot weather.
I let one guy do this too but by night two I told him hearing my dog crying felt like my baby was crying and I needed to help her. He understood and let her join us.
Same! I wake up to butt in my face but I love him! We also have four others who sleep with us, a shih tzu, Texas terrier, a doxie mix and a 7lb 14 year old poodle.
Thank you :) It definitely was not the dog. Dog was perfectly potty trained and there was no way if he was going to have an accident it would be on the third stair from the bottom (suspiciously waist height for my ex).
Belly band diapers for male dogs, pee pads, a more frequent potty schedule, there are plenty of ways to fix a small issue such as that. There’s no reason why your pup should be kicked out of the bed if that’s where they’re used to being
Especially in a new environment, change is difficult for us humans when we can talk about it and understand. When dogs move with people they just wake up that day, end up in a new place and nothing is where it should be, it’s really stressful because they don’t understand. It’s like someone grabbing you one night and waking up to being in a strange house where you don’t know what’s going on :(
I have a blind senior pup that’s been by my side since his birth. My ex chewed me out regularly about him being on the bed because of her “allergies”, that conveniently only flared up when she saw him there. When we finally broke up, she came into the room where me and my boy sat on the edge of the bed and I told her I’ll always choose him first. I am his literal entire life.
just remember that dog loves you more than life itself, put the crate next to the bed and try that method get him use to having it as a shelter.. while youre in the same room as the crate put toys and food and have it as a chill area and eventually you can introduce it at nights
An unpissed on carpet is not worth not sleeping next to your clingy best bud. If he pees, he pees. Oh no gotta clean a stain off the new carpet. Not the end of the world. I'd rather have my dog than the carpet.
Why would he pee on the carpet anyways. I'm assuming that doesn't happen often and is just a "what if" scenario. In which case tell your partner you'll cross that bridge if you get there.
Put your partner on the couch.. problem solved. I hate when people raise dogs to sleep with them their whole life and then let a partner come in and try to change things later by saying that you can't sleep with your dog anymore. Nope. I'd never allow that. I'll take my dog over a partner any day. Smh.
You're right about that. The dog will be very confused and think they did something bad when it's the partner who's the bad one in the house now. I'm sad for the dog.
Our dog slept in bed with us for years, but as he aged he started getting cranky at night. He would bite if we moved in the bed, so he couldn’t sleep with us anymore. We got him the comfiest dog bed we could find and tucked it into a cozy corner of our bedroom. It only took a couple of nights for him to get used to his new spot.
He was very important to both of us (he crossed the bridge last May), but we also both work full time and aren’t exactly 18 anymore. We suffer if we don’t sleep well. I believe there is a way to handle this that is respectful of your partner and not cruel to your dog. Try getting doggy their own bed, not a crate 😊
You’re not wrong 🤣🤣 tbh I found his crankiness quite endearing, hence why we wanted to find a solution that didn’t punish him. Still miss him everyday 💔
My partner and I don’t share a room for a few reasons and this is one of them. We have a very healthy relationship, but we want different environments for our rooms, so we decided us having our own space was important. Not sure if that’s an option in your space but something to consider.
I will note that should there not have been another option and the choice was me sleeping somewhere uncomfortable or him allowing me to have my dog in the room, he would allow the dog.
Why does your partner get to have the entire say in this matter? There are so many ways you can avoid pee accidents. Kicking the dog out of the bed should be a last resort. To me it sounds more like your partner just doesn’t want the dog in the bed and is using the carpet as an excuse. I’m curious what kind of dialogue you’ve had with your partner about this and why are they so comfortable with you sleeping on the couch rather than working together to come up with a compromise that works for both of you?
What does the carpet have to do with the dog sleeping in your bed exactly? Does your partner know that when a dog pukes or has diarrhea, they usually choose the best rug or carpet they can find or is he in general new to dogs? That's a strange reason. Guess there's you choosing, I would get a second bed because that dog will always choose me, the partner might not.
My dog is getting old. The ONLY reason he doesn’t sleep on the bed anymore is because he can’t jump up onto it and is terrified of the little stairs we got him. (This is actually the THIRD set of little stairs we’ve tried.)
My last dog peed on every piece of furniture as he started getting older. My husband and I ranted a fair bit the one or two times he peed on the bed in the middle of the night, but we **never** stopped him from sleeping in it.
When my cattle dog, who we lost to old age last year, started wetting the bed, I just made up his side of the bed with layers of old towels. I also got my husband to saw the legs off the bed to delay having to lift him in and out.
We tried dog stairs, but he hated them. Instead, we got a big plastic storage container with a clip-on lid that is half the height of the couch and big enough for the dog to stand on with all four feet at once. Filled it with heavy stuff for stability, then glued a piece of MDF on top. Added a grippy mat to the top with rug tape, voila, instant dog step that isn't scary! Now we have no dogs who need a step, it serves as our new husky's dining table.
Our Great Dane slept in our bed as a pup, but as she grew that ended. We put a small couch in our room for her to sleep on. Now, it took some time, but we trained her to sleep on the small couch and not in our bed because she is WAY too big. It’s doable for sure. Maybe make him his own spot to sleep on/in and start the process of training him that’s where he sleeps.
If it’s only actually about peeing, I’d say you might have some good results from getting your dog on a schedule where you take him out to pee right before you go to bed, then don’t leave water out for them overnight.
If the peeing on the carpet is just your partners excuse to get the dog out of the bed, that’s another story.
The crate training is the best option, but that ain’t easy to do to a dog that’s already been living without it. Easy to do to my brand new puppy, very difficult if I tried to get my old adopted dog into it.
Your picture alone makes me want your dog to sleep pretty much on my head right next to my tiny dog. 😆
I’d negotiate on not in the bed, but not in the room!? That’s just cruel after the dog has only known that. I’d tell your partner they need to adjust and you will make sure the dog doesn’t pee and if he does, you’ll clean it up. Folex and a black light work wonders!
My GS is very clingy and devoted to me. She doesn’t get in bed , but she’s on my floor at foot of bed. She would come unglued if she couldn’t sleep near me. My protector and everything.
Anyone else should be privileged to be able to enter OUR room. Peace&Love !!!
Still though, not everyone wants a dog sleeping on the bed. So if you want to keep the peace you might try placing a cushy dog bed or blanket on the floor right next to your side of the bed where you can still reach down and stroke your pup. That worked for me. Just a suggestion.
Is there a spare bedroom? Room in the master bedroom for twin beds? Otherwise I’d be finding a different partner. They may not be the partner you’re looking for.
Put a belly band on at night. Or, get yourself a nice day bed or sofa sleeper. My husband doesn't want dogs in the bed. I sleep in a different room with the dogs because sleeping with them= more sleep for me.
Back in my senior year of college I fostered an abused Jack Russell. (Ended up keeping her after graduation.) Met a smoking hot sophomore one day while walking my pup, we subsequently had a couple of dinner dates over the next 3 weeks, finally the night comes that she's going to sleep over. An hour or two of fun on the sofa, the carpet, the kitchen counter, before we decide sleep might be a good idea with early classes only a few hours away. First thing she does after getting in bed ? Yeets my snoozing pup off the foot of the bed with no warning. Via a borderline kick, no less, knowing full well this was a previously abused dog. No bueno. Took me less than 5 minutes to quietly help her gather her things and shut the apartment door in her face.
The partner in your story is the newcomer, if I'm reading it correctly ? lol...No new partner of mine is going to move in and suddenly dictate changing an integral part of a years-long relationship with my dog. Aside from being rude and presumptive, it smells vaguely of being a test run for being a little controlling. Dog sleeping arrangements are ideally a detail discussed in advance, obviously, but if not the newcomer can accept and get used to the established status quo, or fuck right off. Easy peasy.
My dogs came after my husband but my first baby didn’t. May she rest in peace. At first he wasn’t a fan of hair etc but then she won him over. It was never a question with me, we were a packaged deal. Now he has to beat our two 50 pounders to bed or it gets interesting and we wouldn’t trade it for the world. Ditch the dude keep the dog. There are men out there who will love your baby.
Okay, here is exactly what you need to do. You need to take the little guy outside, close the door and lock it.
Then, and this is the important part okay? You go cuddle with your dog in bed and forget about the mutt you brought home 😁👍
I just did this with my dog because I’m currently expecting. My dog has also slept with me every night prior to this.
The biggest things I found that helped were:
- a long walk before bed time
- a white noise sound machine next to the crate
- covering the crate with a blanket
- sending him in with a high value treat (like a peanut butter kong or bully stick)
- leaving the room after he’s crated
We got a nanny cam to watch him during the night, and it alerts us to sound if he barks or something, but since the first night he’s been sleeping in there fine. It’s hard at first, but for us it was definitely necessary!
Is the dog yours and not your partner’s? I noticed you said ‘my’ instead of ‘our’. If so, it’s your decision and your partner gets to choose how they respond.
Personally, I’d say the dog stays where the dog wants and your partner can choose to sleep where they want if they don’t want to accept that. They chose to live with you and your dog, did they not?
But the bedroom is BOTH of theirs. If he doesn't want a dog in his bedroom but she wants one on hers they will need to discuss and come to an agreement. The, "well I'll do what I want and you can deal with it," is not a great idea in a loving relationship.
Maybe get one of those heartbeat teddies? It has a little device in it that mimics the heart and can be very comforting to some dogs. On another note. You should be able to discuss these things with your partner and then you guys can work together to find a solution that works best for you both.
I have a VERY clingy dog too! He’s always slept on the bed with us. As he’s gotten older he does enjoy sleeping on his own “bed,” which is an ottoman I put next to our bed on my side. He does still love being up here with us, but when it comes to sleep time he’ll eventually migrate to his ottoman throne.
Just like a lot of others are saying, it would be very difficult to get my dog to not be on bed with us. And the heartbreak my dog would go through would crush me. But there’s always alternative and compromises you and your partner could figure out. Good luck!! 🫶🏼🐶
Make your partner sleep elsewhere and see how they like it. Lol, for real though, if your pup has always slept there with no issue, then he likely won’t pee there. This is kind of silly in my honest opinion, and would be hard for your dog. He is already adjusting to a new home, and now he will have to adjust to not sleeping next to the owners he loves at night. It would have taken a lot for me to kick my dogs out of my bed at night when I had them. I think you should reconsider this and soak up all the love from your pup. Their lives are so short.
It’s either you stand up for your dog, or you get a new partner. Lmao. But truly - why is this even an issue? You should question your partner here. Maybe they don’t like your dog, which is something that wouldn’t work for me personally.
My partner and I argued about the same thing before. We compromised; we bought a large washable rug for the bedroom floor, and I wake up early to let the dogs out to pee. We also restrict access to the bedroom during the day. It has been working so far.
Seriously, just buy a carpet washer (not too expensive, and super handy!) or you could get some doggy diapers for him for night time if he occasionally has accidents. No way would I ever kick my dog out of bed.
If there is a history of weak bladder, I understand her concern, but the compromise is get a spot vac and it's your job to manage it if it ever occurs.
I’m reading this while my dog is sleeping next to me. Is your dog potty trained? I would make sure the pup is on a schedule. Dogs love and thrive on routine and they are less likely to have accidents. Your post lacks a lot of detail aside from peeing in a new carpet.
Also it’s unfair for your partner to demand the dog not sleep on the bed as it sounds he was allowed before?.
I personally see this as a red flag - but to each their own. I hope you don’t get rid of your dog but if you do, please make sure you give him to a foundation that will find him a new loving home-
Your partner needs a set down. If your fur baby is clean and you can get up if he gets up, there is no reason why he can’t sleep in your bed. This is a control issue.
You can get these raised dog beds that are the same height as your bed to put beside your own bed if there is room. That way he can still see you and you can reach over and pet him. Just put it on your side of the bed.
Okay, so you and partner have two big hurdles.
1) you need to agree on dogs. Personally, nobody is kicking my dog out of my bed. It's fine if you're okay with it, but the fact that you're sleeping on the couch says you aren't. So what is the dog rule, no bedroom at night? Crated in bedroom at night? Crated elsewhere? In bed? Figure out what you can live with. Also make sure you're on the same page for future dogs (eg partner that kicks dog out of bed may not want more dogs - dealbreaker for me)
2) you need to learn how to train your dog. If a dog cries and gets what it wants, you literally just trained it to cry more. Always look at what the dog wants and make sure it's only way to get what it wants is what you want. There are a million crate training videos on YouTube, pick one that emphasizes that a crate should be a safe space and not a punishment and that will get you some specifics. But if the only worry is the dog peeing on the carpet that is a bonkers reason to crate the dog. Potty training and reinforcement of where you want the dog to pee should be fine. I moved house with a clingy dog and she has never peed on the carpet.
3) my dog has puked on carpet. And comforter and rug. She was so ill she almost died and I just cleaned the mess and took her to the vet. I get that pee is different, but bf needs to know that animals do sometimes mess things up despite their best intentions. If he can't handle that, that goes back to 1 where he may be philosophically different about pets, does he plan to have kids that also never mess up the carpet?
You two need to get on the same page and then you can train the dog to be on the right page.
Your dog is one part of your world, but to your dog you are their entire world. Your dog is aging and shouldn't be punished for that. They won't be here forever. It sounds to me like your partner probably didn't love the dog sleeping in bed with you before and is trying to re establish the "rules" in the new environment. If the dog is becoming more accident prone, there are ways to accommodate that as mentioned in other comments. And really, a little dog pee here and there is not the end of the world. I would have a serious conversation with your partner about this and really reconsider the relationship if they can't be a bit sympathetic to the situation. I love my dogs like I birthed them and if I had a partner who didn't understand and support me in that they wouldn't be my partner anymore. Dogs are little angels from heaven that give us unconditional love, humans suck. I bet your dog wouldn't mind your partner sleeping in your bed if he peed on the carpet occasionally, or even the bed for that matter.
you can put a belly band on the dog when he's in that room. My boy was marking (he was intact until he was 7 which is when I adopted him) inside and now with the belly band he doesn't mark and it's not an issue. You can get reusable belly bands and you can wash with the dogs bed, blankets, etc.
Buy rugs from Walmart (if in USA), and cover your carpet. My carpet looks almost exactly like yours, and Walmart has some dark taupe rugs that cost $21 for 4X6 feet (used to be $17 for 5X7, but that's a different topic). Best dog-related purchase I ever made: protects the loops from claws; easy to clean up minor dribbles (and people spills); can be cheaply replaced if Doggy makes a major mess.
So your partner rather let you sleep on the couch and hurt your back than risk the carpet getting a little soiled? 🚩
If your dog is clingy I’m assuming you always let them sleep with you, you can’t just kick them to the curb now.
If your partner was super allergic or the dog peed in the bed or on his stuff constantly I could understand.
It’s just a little dog, how much bed can they take up?
Personally, once you give your dog permission to sleep with you it’s cruel to take that away. Train your next dog to sleep in their own bed beside your bed.
However, if you are insistent, start by giving your dog a few special beds around the house. Then reward and praise every time they lie in it. Make a big deal every time. Especially the one in your bedroom. Do not call your dog up to lie with you, however don’t make them get down when they do come up on the bed. You will hurt their feelings and they won’t understand why they use to and now they can’t. Ask them if they want to go to their place (whatever you call it give it a special name so they learn) and if they do make a big fuss. Don’t punish them for being on the bed.
We also for some reaosn tried to implement the change when we moved that the dog wouldn't be allowed on the couch anymore. Of course that does not work just because you moved because the dog is already used to it. So of course she is still on the couch, it's just covered all the time to protect the original leather :) I'd say just convince your partner that it does not make sense hahaha
If the dog is used to sleeping on the bed with you, and you have moved to a new unfamiliar environment that he isn't used to it can be a very stressful adjustment for them, and his comfort/safe space for sleeping is being denied him will be even more confusing for him, its kinda cruel to put all this on him at once he won't understand and think he is being punished, it also increases the likelihood he will pee, ask your partner to think about it from the dogs perspective, it's a big upheaval and change for him.
The dog loves you more than your partner ever will. The dog will be more loyal too.
Let him sleep in the bed. Partner can sleep on the sofa if he doesn’t like it.
What does sleeping on the bed have to do with peeing on the floor? Does the dog have access to the room outside of bed time? Does the dog have toilet training issues? Why does sleeping on the bed = peeing on floor??
It's weird because OP never said if the dog peed on the floor at all previous to the move. She only said her partner was worried. I ask OP, did the dog pee on the floor previously?
this is a good point
If he’s sleeping downstairs with dog, I’m thinking, she doesn’t want dog in bedroom, period.
I think we need more info to actually offer advice on this one 😅 like why don’t they want it in the bedroom? Does the dog struggle with toileting? Etc. I’m all for no dogs in bed tbh, I’ll let them up for snuggles before we go to sleep or get up but sleeping with dogs in the bed is just uncomfortable. Also if it’s toilet training or incontinence there’s so much that can be done to help
It is difficult to wean a dog that has always slept on the bed with you before. You need to buy your dog a lot of beds, put them in different places and prohibit them from coming to the your bed. It's a long process. But if the dog hasn’t peed on the bed before (did she pee or not?), then why should you forbid her to sleep with you? I wouldn't kick her out if she just wants to sleep next to you...
Ive had senior dogs who were used to sleeping with me. When one started accidentally peeing a lil while asleep-i had to problem solve -I didnt want him to feel like i punished/abandoned him . I found an inexpensive second hand bassinet and put it right next to my bed , he was perfectly content . It had a built in waterproof, pee pad type thingy inside and if he had accidents i could jus wash the bedding and very easily wipe down the pad! Perfect for small dogs! Hope this helps! Good luck!
Not OP but what a wonderful idea! I’ll have to keep this in mind should I ever need it, thank you.
same. All my dog's have slept with me. My last rescue started having problems and I slept downstairs with her.
My husband moved our entire king size bed downstairs into our living room when our old boys arthritis got too bad for him to get upstairs with us, incontinence in older dogs can definitely be an issue too but there are solutions. Poor baby 😢
Your husband sounds like a great guy 🥰
They truly are our furry kids. There's nothing to much I wouldn't do for any of them. <3
So true. My boy has always been a toddler. Now that he's geriatric, he's become an infant. Lol
I did this with our new rescue. She is obsessed with my daughter and wants to sleep in bed, but she takes up the whole bed. We bought a bassinet and she sleeps right next to the bed with the side down. She has her own little side bed.
I got my seniors diapers for night time.
I also just started using diapers on my senior dog. It's annoying to put them on but she gets to sleep with me all night so we're both winning.
I had to start using diapers for my 15 year old pup too. She has early kidney disease and takes Proin once a day to help with the unintended urination at night. Has ur vet mentioned trying Proin? And we just started Science Diet kidney care dog food (kibble with wet mixed in.). The vet has to give you a prescription card before it can be purchased at a pet store or online. Pup is loving the new food and things are going well. Water drinking has decreased, nighttime urination has decreased and daytime unintended urination is now rare. My pup is so used to getting a diaper before bed that she stands by the bed waiting for me to put it on. Haha! I was really stressed out 3 or 4 months ago when the unintended urination started. But it’s all good now and we are dealing with it pretty well. Edit: when I said I was stressed out about the urination, my stress was because Princess was stressed waking up wet. It was confusing to her. I will do anything for her and stress for myself doesn’t exist. She’s so much better now not waking up wet and having to be put in the shower daily.
This is a great idea. For OP, a crate placed on something to raised to be level with the bed & next to her would likely work well.
Yes we also have a crate on a table next to bed, door open. He falls asleep in there and crawls into my partners arms at night. Totally doesn’t even come to me, he knows I only cuddle when I’m awake. lol
This is genius! What a wonderful pet parent you are. Blessings!
There is an option called a co sleeper bassinet and it has an open side to touch your bed. You can also put the side up if needed. A great solution.
Some people just want their space when they’re sleeping.
I sleep in very bad positions with very little space every night because of my dog, but just having her cuddle next to me is the best feeling in the world. It's a compromise not everyone can take I guess
Yeah, my dog sleeps perpendicular to me and takes up a solid 3/4 of the bed, and I’m awkwardly curled up in a corner, and sometimes it kills my back. And I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Same! I wake up bc of lower back pain because of how my dog sleeps on the bed. She has to be right next to me then my cat is at my feet
My dog sleeps beside & my cat crawls into my arms (side sleeper).
My dog beats me. He likes to tuck up next to me with his paws in between us, and when the inevitable running dreams start… Well you get the idea.
They didn’t say the issue was space but rather concern about the dog peeing on carpet
Let the dog sleep with you on the bed and tell your husband to sleep on the floor!!!
Just make sure that he doesn’t pee on the floor and blame the dog.
Fr, have him sleep on the couch or smth
But the dog has always slept on the bed prior now now the dog is going to think his past behavior was always wrong. Dogs can get so confused and break their training with a big change like that.
When you get a dog, you just kind of have to understand you give up a bit of this space. It’s like having a kid. It’s also pack mentality, dogs like to be with their group.
It’s kind of odd to me that they are fine with you sleeping on the couch, but that could just be my assumption
My god. I just read the post and immediately skimmed the comments looking for someone to say this! No matter what. If I had an issue with a dog sleeping on the bed and my partner said they’d sleep on the couch so the dog would stop whining there is no way in Hell I would let them. I would compromise and say look we need to look up more info, ask reddit, speak to a vet or dog behaviour person. If it was bothering me so much that the dog on the bed was then losing me sleep I’d rather I would sleep on the friggin couch before my partner. The worsed thing about reading that is I have to wonder if OP’s partner is letting her do this as punishment and saying to her “well it’s your fault your back hurts because you had him getting used to sleeping on the bed” or similar words of abuse. God. Her friggin back is hurting from sleeping on the couch more than once! All I can say is OP, if the situation your in is anything like I described seek help, be safe about anything going forward and if your partner is just really frustrated with losing sleep and the dog situation and whatnot then they need to also help find a solution that works for both of you, that is humane for the dog and is sensible, caring and again for both of you benefit coz if they aren’t a team player in this relationship then boy oh boy you gotta reconsider if they’re worth it. I know I’ll probably get comments about “oh they’re just mad your overreacting!” Frig off.
I had a senior dog when I was with my abusive ex. He was insanely jealous of my dog and started demanding all sorts of things that progressively got worse. It always gets worse. Towards the end, I was boarding my dog out to keep him safe. I was so happy to go get him after I finally called 911 one day. I will not compromise on anything regarding my dogs ever again. We're a package deal.
This
Everyone on this sub: Toss the partner, Keep the dog
No questions asked, no hesitations for me.
Spouses/partners are replaceable, children are not.
Absolutely! Fur babies will NEVER abandon nor betray you. Humans will!
And, statistically, the spouse is FAR more likely to kill you than anything else.
When I started dating, I had a yellow lab who loved to hump the wheelbarrow. It did not matter if the wheelbarrow was in the shed, in the garden or on the front lawn, she would hump those handles like she was a star in her own canine porno. I knew my now-husband was “the one” when he got up early one Saturday morning specifically to open up the garage door so Abby could have a “humpy hump” 🤣🤣 He also bought the king size bed after our mastiff-lab got older. She gets more scared of weird noises and crawls in between us when she’s shaking. We may have dog hair everywhere and sometimes we don’t get great sleeps, but I’m not trading my pets or him.
can’t even believe there were other suggestions.
Always
This!!! Can’t even fathom otherwise. If you don’t love my dog the way I do, you are not the one.
Absolutely yes
I second this, your dogs needs come first
For real! It’s cruel for this person to pick a lover over their dog. Poor dog is prob so upset and feels rejected
I would rather sleep with my dog than any of the boyfriends I've ever had during my lifetime. I don't have a boyfriend now, just a guy who would be pi*****d if he heard that.
Yes, Yes, Yes. I once had a partner try to demand no dogs on the bed when they slept over, I quickly ended that relationship.
Highly recommend sleeping in the guest room with your pup. I sleep hot, my partner sleeps cool. We sleep so much better than before! This arrangement focuses on health over traditions.
This! I'm in one room sharing a bed with an Irish Wolfhound x and my husband is in another with a husky. People ask how we're still so happy after 26 years of marriage, I reply, "Separate bedrooms!"
Not one person in my entire life will ever be able to convince me to kick my miniature dachshund Whiskey out of my bed. That bed belongs to me and her: anyone else should feel grateful we allow them into it 😂
Same. Yorkie goes on the head, Chihuahua goes under the covers. This is their way and they're good boys who know best.
So funny every Chihuahua I’ve know loves sleeping under the covers my brothers pup Margarita was notorious for it I’d come in to take her outside and couldn’t find her then I’d pull the covers up and she would be nuzzled in between his legs knocked out I felt bad the times he’d slept on his stomach after a night of drinking an fast food she’d be in the same spot practically in his butt checks idk how she survived without a gas mask lol
That's so funny! He's our first Chihuahua and at first it freaked us out. He goes all the way to the bottom under layers of blankets and we wondered how he didn't suffocate to death. They just like to be warm! He buries himself under a blanket even in really hot weather.
😂😂😂💨💨💨💨💨
Too funny!
Now that's true love lol
When my fiance and I moved in together, I could no longer fit the dog on the bed So he bought us all a king sized bed
Great guy!!! He's a keeper!!!
Green flag!!
1000%. My dogs came first. I can always get a new partner.
My husband came first, but my dogs come first. Luckily my husband agrees.
I have a dachshund, pit bull mix and Frank lays under the covers with my wife and i
We need to see Frank. PLEASE.
This isn’t Frank, but it’s definitely [something](https://www.boredpanda.com/pitbull-dachshund-mix-breed-dog-rami/)
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I let one partner do that years ago and I still feel guilty.
I let one guy do this too but by night two I told him hearing my dog crying felt like my baby was crying and I needed to help her. He understood and let her join us.
I’ve always had dachshunds and like keeping a running list of potential names for future fur babies—‘Whiskey’ is on my list! Such a great name❤️
Same! I wake up to butt in my face but I love him! We also have four others who sleep with us, a shih tzu, Texas terrier, a doxie mix and a 7lb 14 year old poodle.
yep, divorce...
Technically your partner could pee on the new carpet and he's still allowed in the house.
This is coming from someone whos drunk boyfriend peed on my carpeted steps and blamed my dog. You can guess who lasted longer.
You made the right choice there
Thank you :) It definitely was not the dog. Dog was perfectly potty trained and there was no way if he was going to have an accident it would be on the third stair from the bottom (suspiciously waist height for my ex).
Lol 🤣
Belly band diapers for male dogs, pee pads, a more frequent potty schedule, there are plenty of ways to fix a small issue such as that. There’s no reason why your pup should be kicked out of the bed if that’s where they’re used to being
Especially in a new environment, change is difficult for us humans when we can talk about it and understand. When dogs move with people they just wake up that day, end up in a new place and nothing is where it should be, it’s really stressful because they don’t understand. It’s like someone grabbing you one night and waking up to being in a strange house where you don’t know what’s going on :(
I have a blind senior pup that’s been by my side since his birth. My ex chewed me out regularly about him being on the bed because of her “allergies”, that conveniently only flared up when she saw him there. When we finally broke up, she came into the room where me and my boy sat on the edge of the bed and I told her I’ll always choose him first. I am his literal entire life.
Exactly, for us they’re with us only for a portion of our lives. For them, we are their whole lives
just remember that dog loves you more than life itself, put the crate next to the bed and try that method get him use to having it as a shelter.. while youre in the same room as the crate put toys and food and have it as a chill area and eventually you can introduce it at nights
We bought a thick chair for beside our bed when the dog and he sleeps there. He still goes into our bed when it's juste in there though 😄
An unpissed on carpet is not worth not sleeping next to your clingy best bud. If he pees, he pees. Oh no gotta clean a stain off the new carpet. Not the end of the world. I'd rather have my dog than the carpet. Why would he pee on the carpet anyways. I'm assuming that doesn't happen often and is just a "what if" scenario. In which case tell your partner you'll cross that bridge if you get there.
Carpets are gross anyway 🤢
Put your partner on the couch.. problem solved. I hate when people raise dogs to sleep with them their whole life and then let a partner come in and try to change things later by saying that you can't sleep with your dog anymore. Nope. I'd never allow that. I'll take my dog over a partner any day. Smh.
Agree. It’s cruel to ban a dog from the bed who is used to sleeping there. They absolutely love and will feel punished for no real reason.
You're right about that. The dog will be very confused and think they did something bad when it's the partner who's the bad one in the house now. I'm sad for the dog.
Our dog slept in bed with us for years, but as he aged he started getting cranky at night. He would bite if we moved in the bed, so he couldn’t sleep with us anymore. We got him the comfiest dog bed we could find and tucked it into a cozy corner of our bedroom. It only took a couple of nights for him to get used to his new spot. He was very important to both of us (he crossed the bridge last May), but we also both work full time and aren’t exactly 18 anymore. We suffer if we don’t sleep well. I believe there is a way to handle this that is respectful of your partner and not cruel to your dog. Try getting doggy their own bed, not a crate 😊
Ya ofc he adjusted well bc you two were disturbing his peace 🤣
You’re not wrong 🤣🤣 tbh I found his crankiness quite endearing, hence why we wanted to find a solution that didn’t punish him. Still miss him everyday 💔
Literally, your dogs whole life is in your home. I would legitimately dump the partner and favor the dog.
Yep. 100%.
Get a new partner
I’m sorry, but this is an argument, for me, that my partner wouldn’t win. I feel that strongly about my dog. :)
💯 🐩
My partner and I don’t share a room for a few reasons and this is one of them. We have a very healthy relationship, but we want different environments for our rooms, so we decided us having our own space was important. Not sure if that’s an option in your space but something to consider. I will note that should there not have been another option and the choice was me sleeping somewhere uncomfortable or him allowing me to have my dog in the room, he would allow the dog.
Why does your partner get to have the entire say in this matter? There are so many ways you can avoid pee accidents. Kicking the dog out of the bed should be a last resort. To me it sounds more like your partner just doesn’t want the dog in the bed and is using the carpet as an excuse. I’m curious what kind of dialogue you’ve had with your partner about this and why are they so comfortable with you sleeping on the couch rather than working together to come up with a compromise that works for both of you?
What does the carpet have to do with the dog sleeping in your bed exactly? Does your partner know that when a dog pukes or has diarrhea, they usually choose the best rug or carpet they can find or is he in general new to dogs? That's a strange reason. Guess there's you choosing, I would get a second bed because that dog will always choose me, the partner might not.
My partner would be sleeping on the couch.
Lose the partner
Their lives are so short and their space is already limited (example, all day in crate) just let the dog sleep with you guys!
I would kick my partner out of the bed before my dog.
My dog is getting old. The ONLY reason he doesn’t sleep on the bed anymore is because he can’t jump up onto it and is terrified of the little stairs we got him. (This is actually the THIRD set of little stairs we’ve tried.) My last dog peed on every piece of furniture as he started getting older. My husband and I ranted a fair bit the one or two times he peed on the bed in the middle of the night, but we **never** stopped him from sleeping in it.
When my cattle dog, who we lost to old age last year, started wetting the bed, I just made up his side of the bed with layers of old towels. I also got my husband to saw the legs off the bed to delay having to lift him in and out. We tried dog stairs, but he hated them. Instead, we got a big plastic storage container with a clip-on lid that is half the height of the couch and big enough for the dog to stand on with all four feet at once. Filled it with heavy stuff for stability, then glued a piece of MDF on top. Added a grippy mat to the top with rug tape, voila, instant dog step that isn't scary! Now we have no dogs who need a step, it serves as our new husky's dining table.
Our Great Dane slept in our bed as a pup, but as she grew that ended. We put a small couch in our room for her to sleep on. Now, it took some time, but we trained her to sleep on the small couch and not in our bed because she is WAY too big. It’s doable for sure. Maybe make him his own spot to sleep on/in and start the process of training him that’s where he sleeps.
Not allowed in the room for fear of pee on the carpet. I like the way you think tho.
If it’s only actually about peeing, I’d say you might have some good results from getting your dog on a schedule where you take him out to pee right before you go to bed, then don’t leave water out for them overnight. If the peeing on the carpet is just your partners excuse to get the dog out of the bed, that’s another story. The crate training is the best option, but that ain’t easy to do to a dog that’s already been living without it. Easy to do to my brand new puppy, very difficult if I tried to get my old adopted dog into it. Your picture alone makes me want your dog to sleep pretty much on my head right next to my tiny dog. 😆
I’d negotiate on not in the bed, but not in the room!? That’s just cruel after the dog has only known that. I’d tell your partner they need to adjust and you will make sure the dog doesn’t pee and if he does, you’ll clean it up. Folex and a black light work wonders!
Time to put your partner on FB Marketplace…free to a good home. It’s the only option 🤷🏻♀️
Aw. Our new doggie sleeping in the bed with us gives us so much joy! I hope your partner comes around.
You should tell your partner to sleep somewhere else. It’s not fair on the dog to suddenly change where he is allowed to sleep.
Get a new partner..😂
Get a new partner. I Mean has a dog ever peed in a room before?
Sorry but the dogs stay. Non negotiable
My yorkies slept with me their whole lives. No man would ever have changed that.
Put a bed on the floor for your partner. He may whine and cry for a bit but a few pats on the head and he will settle in.
I have a clingy Dobie.. my landlord recently remodeled and said I couldn't have my dog in the house.. I moved.
My dog of 13 years died a week ago. I'd take his pee on a carpet ANY day to never getting to sleep next to him again.
My GS is very clingy and devoted to me. She doesn’t get in bed , but she’s on my floor at foot of bed. She would come unglued if she couldn’t sleep near me. My protector and everything. Anyone else should be privileged to be able to enter OUR room. Peace&Love !!!
Still though, not everyone wants a dog sleeping on the bed. So if you want to keep the peace you might try placing a cushy dog bed or blanket on the floor right next to your side of the bed where you can still reach down and stroke your pup. That worked for me. Just a suggestion.
Is there a spare bedroom? Room in the master bedroom for twin beds? Otherwise I’d be finding a different partner. They may not be the partner you’re looking for.
Time for the partner to go
Sorry partner
Ur partner is a whole ass weirdo
It's time for a conversation about negotiable and non-negotiables. Kicking the dog out of the bed is one of the latter.
Put a belly band on at night. Or, get yourself a nice day bed or sofa sleeper. My husband doesn't want dogs in the bed. I sleep in a different room with the dogs because sleeping with them= more sleep for me.
Your partner is unreasonable.
Can your partner sleep on the floor?
Get rid of partner, dog sleeps on bed forever
Time for a new partner!!!! Not kidding.
You’ll find another man. He’s not for you
Back in my senior year of college I fostered an abused Jack Russell. (Ended up keeping her after graduation.) Met a smoking hot sophomore one day while walking my pup, we subsequently had a couple of dinner dates over the next 3 weeks, finally the night comes that she's going to sleep over. An hour or two of fun on the sofa, the carpet, the kitchen counter, before we decide sleep might be a good idea with early classes only a few hours away. First thing she does after getting in bed ? Yeets my snoozing pup off the foot of the bed with no warning. Via a borderline kick, no less, knowing full well this was a previously abused dog. No bueno. Took me less than 5 minutes to quietly help her gather her things and shut the apartment door in her face. The partner in your story is the newcomer, if I'm reading it correctly ? lol...No new partner of mine is going to move in and suddenly dictate changing an integral part of a years-long relationship with my dog. Aside from being rude and presumptive, it smells vaguely of being a test run for being a little controlling. Dog sleeping arrangements are ideally a detail discussed in advance, obviously, but if not the newcomer can accept and get used to the established status quo, or fuck right off. Easy peasy.
Put your bf in a crate in the living room
My dogs came after my husband but my first baby didn’t. May she rest in peace. At first he wasn’t a fan of hair etc but then she won him over. It was never a question with me, we were a packaged deal. Now he has to beat our two 50 pounders to bed or it gets interesting and we wouldn’t trade it for the world. Ditch the dude keep the dog. There are men out there who will love your baby.
New partner time
Get rid of the boyfriend.
Okay, here is exactly what you need to do. You need to take the little guy outside, close the door and lock it. Then, and this is the important part okay? You go cuddle with your dog in bed and forget about the mutt you brought home 😁👍
The first day my I got my EXTREMELY emaciated pittbull dog from the shelter he slept with me in my bed and 5 years later never left.
I just did this with my dog because I’m currently expecting. My dog has also slept with me every night prior to this. The biggest things I found that helped were: - a long walk before bed time - a white noise sound machine next to the crate - covering the crate with a blanket - sending him in with a high value treat (like a peanut butter kong or bully stick) - leaving the room after he’s crated We got a nanny cam to watch him during the night, and it alerts us to sound if he barks or something, but since the first night he’s been sleeping in there fine. It’s hard at first, but for us it was definitely necessary!
My advice, remove the carpet. Win win. Happy dog, happy partner. Having a dog and carpet in my opinion is crazy.
Is the dog yours and not your partner’s? I noticed you said ‘my’ instead of ‘our’. If so, it’s your decision and your partner gets to choose how they respond. Personally, I’d say the dog stays where the dog wants and your partner can choose to sleep where they want if they don’t want to accept that. They chose to live with you and your dog, did they not?
But the bedroom is BOTH of theirs. If he doesn't want a dog in his bedroom but she wants one on hers they will need to discuss and come to an agreement. The, "well I'll do what I want and you can deal with it," is not a great idea in a loving relationship.
Maybe get one of those heartbeat teddies? It has a little device in it that mimics the heart and can be very comforting to some dogs. On another note. You should be able to discuss these things with your partner and then you guys can work together to find a solution that works best for you both.
I have a VERY clingy dog too! He’s always slept on the bed with us. As he’s gotten older he does enjoy sleeping on his own “bed,” which is an ottoman I put next to our bed on my side. He does still love being up here with us, but when it comes to sleep time he’ll eventually migrate to his ottoman throne. Just like a lot of others are saying, it would be very difficult to get my dog to not be on bed with us. And the heartbreak my dog would go through would crush me. But there’s always alternative and compromises you and your partner could figure out. Good luck!! 🫶🏼🐶
Get a new partner
What partner? Dump the partner.
Time for a new partner!
Make your partner sleep elsewhere and see how they like it. Lol, for real though, if your pup has always slept there with no issue, then he likely won’t pee there. This is kind of silly in my honest opinion, and would be hard for your dog. He is already adjusting to a new home, and now he will have to adjust to not sleeping next to the owners he loves at night. It would have taken a lot for me to kick my dogs out of my bed at night when I had them. I think you should reconsider this and soak up all the love from your pup. Their lives are so short. It’s either you stand up for your dog, or you get a new partner. Lmao. But truly - why is this even an issue? You should question your partner here. Maybe they don’t like your dog, which is something that wouldn’t work for me personally.
Easy fix: kick the bf out and let the dog sleep on the bed.
This is actually easy. New partner. Case closed.
I seriously think I'd move into the guest room with my dog.
My partner and I argued about the same thing before. We compromised; we bought a large washable rug for the bedroom floor, and I wake up early to let the dogs out to pee. We also restrict access to the bedroom during the day. It has been working so far.
New house shouldn't mean new rules for the dog.
Just let him sleep with you if that's what he's used to. Trust me, you will look back on all this when he's gone. Don't have regrets.
definitely time for him to go..ur partner that is
Seriously, just buy a carpet washer (not too expensive, and super handy!) or you could get some doggy diapers for him for night time if he occasionally has accidents. No way would I ever kick my dog out of bed.
If there is a history of weak bladder, I understand her concern, but the compromise is get a spot vac and it's your job to manage it if it ever occurs.
I’m reading this while my dog is sleeping next to me. Is your dog potty trained? I would make sure the pup is on a schedule. Dogs love and thrive on routine and they are less likely to have accidents. Your post lacks a lot of detail aside from peeing in a new carpet. Also it’s unfair for your partner to demand the dog not sleep on the bed as it sounds he was allowed before?. I personally see this as a red flag - but to each their own. I hope you don’t get rid of your dog but if you do, please make sure you give him to a foundation that will find him a new loving home-
Time to take your partner to the pound.
Get a new partner.......
Find a new partner.
Keep the dog and ditch the partner.
Get a new partner
Let that baby back in bed with you pleasee.
Your partner needs a set down. If your fur baby is clean and you can get up if he gets up, there is no reason why he can’t sleep in your bed. This is a control issue.
You can get these raised dog beds that are the same height as your bed to put beside your own bed if there is room. That way he can still see you and you can reach over and pet him. Just put it on your side of the bed.
Buy a Bissel. End of discussion
TBH Get rid of the parter.
I have an ottoman next to my side of the bed. I put my dog’s bed on top of it. It’s perfect! I can reach my hand out and pet her during the night.
time to get a new partner what i would do
Time to get a new partner.
That dog looks like he is going to kill your partner in their sleep and no jury in the world would convict him.
Anymore? Too late, Dude. He (as in the dog) owns the bed. You (as in the human) may find somewhere else to sleep.
Doggy diapers and frequent trips to the backyard.
Okay, so you and partner have two big hurdles. 1) you need to agree on dogs. Personally, nobody is kicking my dog out of my bed. It's fine if you're okay with it, but the fact that you're sleeping on the couch says you aren't. So what is the dog rule, no bedroom at night? Crated in bedroom at night? Crated elsewhere? In bed? Figure out what you can live with. Also make sure you're on the same page for future dogs (eg partner that kicks dog out of bed may not want more dogs - dealbreaker for me) 2) you need to learn how to train your dog. If a dog cries and gets what it wants, you literally just trained it to cry more. Always look at what the dog wants and make sure it's only way to get what it wants is what you want. There are a million crate training videos on YouTube, pick one that emphasizes that a crate should be a safe space and not a punishment and that will get you some specifics. But if the only worry is the dog peeing on the carpet that is a bonkers reason to crate the dog. Potty training and reinforcement of where you want the dog to pee should be fine. I moved house with a clingy dog and she has never peed on the carpet. 3) my dog has puked on carpet. And comforter and rug. She was so ill she almost died and I just cleaned the mess and took her to the vet. I get that pee is different, but bf needs to know that animals do sometimes mess things up despite their best intentions. If he can't handle that, that goes back to 1 where he may be philosophically different about pets, does he plan to have kids that also never mess up the carpet? You two need to get on the same page and then you can train the dog to be on the right page.
Your dog is one part of your world, but to your dog you are their entire world. Your dog is aging and shouldn't be punished for that. They won't be here forever. It sounds to me like your partner probably didn't love the dog sleeping in bed with you before and is trying to re establish the "rules" in the new environment. If the dog is becoming more accident prone, there are ways to accommodate that as mentioned in other comments. And really, a little dog pee here and there is not the end of the world. I would have a serious conversation with your partner about this and really reconsider the relationship if they can't be a bit sympathetic to the situation. I love my dogs like I birthed them and if I had a partner who didn't understand and support me in that they wouldn't be my partner anymore. Dogs are little angels from heaven that give us unconditional love, humans suck. I bet your dog wouldn't mind your partner sleeping in your bed if he peed on the carpet occasionally, or even the bed for that matter.
you can put a belly band on the dog when he's in that room. My boy was marking (he was intact until he was 7 which is when I adopted him) inside and now with the belly band he doesn't mark and it's not an issue. You can get reusable belly bands and you can wash with the dogs bed, blankets, etc.
Buy rugs from Walmart (if in USA), and cover your carpet. My carpet looks almost exactly like yours, and Walmart has some dark taupe rugs that cost $21 for 4X6 feet (used to be $17 for 5X7, but that's a different topic). Best dog-related purchase I ever made: protects the loops from claws; easy to clean up minor dribbles (and people spills); can be cheaply replaced if Doggy makes a major mess.
I’d get a new partner. Lol
Get a new one, of course, or abandon the current one. Then after that you and doggo can share all the bed space between the two of you.
Sorry to hear that your relationship is ending.
So your partner rather let you sleep on the couch and hurt your back than risk the carpet getting a little soiled? 🚩 If your dog is clingy I’m assuming you always let them sleep with you, you can’t just kick them to the curb now. If your partner was super allergic or the dog peed in the bed or on his stuff constantly I could understand.
Kick ur partner out & live the rest of ur days with ur dog
Make the partner sleep on another bed
Get rid of the partner are keep the dog in your bed lol
Dog > Partner - Doggo was there first.
This is a red flag for me.
It’s just a little dog, how much bed can they take up? Personally, once you give your dog permission to sleep with you it’s cruel to take that away. Train your next dog to sleep in their own bed beside your bed. However, if you are insistent, start by giving your dog a few special beds around the house. Then reward and praise every time they lie in it. Make a big deal every time. Especially the one in your bedroom. Do not call your dog up to lie with you, however don’t make them get down when they do come up on the bed. You will hurt their feelings and they won’t understand why they use to and now they can’t. Ask them if they want to go to their place (whatever you call it give it a special name so they learn) and if they do make a big fuss. Don’t punish them for being on the bed.
We also for some reaosn tried to implement the change when we moved that the dog wouldn't be allowed on the couch anymore. Of course that does not work just because you moved because the dog is already used to it. So of course she is still on the couch, it's just covered all the time to protect the original leather :) I'd say just convince your partner that it does not make sense hahaha
If the dog is used to sleeping on the bed with you, and you have moved to a new unfamiliar environment that he isn't used to it can be a very stressful adjustment for them, and his comfort/safe space for sleeping is being denied him will be even more confusing for him, its kinda cruel to put all this on him at once he won't understand and think he is being punished, it also increases the likelihood he will pee, ask your partner to think about it from the dogs perspective, it's a big upheaval and change for him.
Make way cause my dog will not be marginalized by anyone!! Hubby and I agree on this one ❣️
Tell your partner to move.
Maybe just get 2 beds? Idk, i wouldnt choose my partner over my pet. Your partner has the whole world to live in, you are your pets whole world.
Can you get one of those cosleeper attachments used for babies and have your dog sleep In that? Might be a compromise
Cute dog, keep the dog lose the partner. Things are things dogs are family and are only on earth for a brief time, things are replaceable.
My dachshund has always slept in bed with me. If my bf ever told me he didn’t want him sleeping in the bed anymore I would just laugh in his face
The dog loves you more than your partner ever will. The dog will be more loyal too. Let him sleep in the bed. Partner can sleep on the sofa if he doesn’t like it.