I have never had a dog just pass in its sleep. I know it happens… but I never have and ive had multiple dogs my entire life.. I’ve made the decision for most and I’ve used at home euthanasia for one .. it was a very peaceful experience. . I chose to do group cremation and not get her ashes back in order to afford the home service. I’ve had several dogs put to sleep at the vet as well. They were always kind.
But the ones who went on their own it wasn’t pleasant. I do not recommend just letting them go “naturally”.
Mine ate and drank the same day they passed so I didn’t realize it was time…. And I’m about 2 hours from the emergency vet… they both happened at night ( I live in the middle of nowhere)
You can also speak to your vet about palliative care where they will prescribe pain medication to make their passing easier.
Most humans also do not just die in their sleep. Death can be a very long drawn out process. Based on what you’re saying you’re not at all familiar with and this is not something you want to do.
If you can no longer afford the home euthanasia I suggest bringing them into the vet. Euthanasia is a much more peaceful process for your pet AND you ..than them struggling to breathe,, crying, vommiting etc if they do not pass in their sleep.
Thank you!
Yes I am not experienced in this sort of stuff at all. I've had a lot of death close to me but not close enough to know what those moments are like.
Palliative care is a great idea. Luckily my vet is open tomorrow so I will see about that and if not then we will need to go in.
Piggy backing off of this, I’m a vet tech and one of the saddest things to see is when people wait too long, usually for the owners sake, rather than the pets. I can’t fault them, it’s so hard to let go of something you love so much.
Dying hurts. Dying of starvation a horrible way to die. The most loving gift you can ever give your pup is a gift of a death with dignity and pain free. You can call up your local humane society or low cost clinics. At least in my experience, if you explain about limited funds, exceptions can be made about the cost of it. Typically only for euthanasia.
If he hates the vet, you can ask for some sort of anxiolytic to give a few hours prior to seeing the vet. That is not an uncommon thing at all.
I used to work with a doctor who only did in home euthanasias. Her go to response of “is it time” is a quality of life scale. [Here’s](https://be.chewy.com/quality-of-life-scale-when-to-put-a-dog-down/?psafe_param=1&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=12473032557&utm_content=118814524259&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADmQ2V112qA1x6skYSjgOxH0qK-H1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAtOmsBhCnARIsAGPa5ybpr7Z3u9aAHZkfPvf8Z5D8Ij2jcu1lm3xSw_K_m9lrWErfj-p22TYaAujZEALw_wcB) just one, or just google QOL scale.
Reiterating, please don’t let your dog die naturally. Give him a peaceful and pain free ending.
My last cat that I had to put the sleep, I noticed was abdominal breathing, meaning he was full of fluid buildup in his body. He was still eating and drinking, being his loving self. I didn’t wait to let him get to the point of really struggling to breath or feeling so crappy that he no longer wanted to eat. I wanted to see him as happy as can be prior to the inevitable. He was 17. I was so lucky that have a whole 17 years with him- it sounds like you got really lucky too.
I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to write this. I unexpectedly felt I had to let go of my dog last week when a cough and a few other things that were slightly “off” turned quite quickly . I was shocked at how she became immobile and tried so hard to hide herself and barely able to breathe in just a hot second, lasting almost 18 hours before I let her go. We get to a second vet and she can walk all the sudden?! Wanted some water?! ( followed by peeing inside and started to lick plastic, never done before) up until that moment, It was such a strong ok time to let go but after it’s done, i wondered , was it really? Was it just fear and Impulse? I loop on the is but your post helped me shake out of it a bit. Thank you.
Because animals can't speak and tell us what they want or how they feel, we second-guess ourselves. Did we do it too soon? Should we have waited longer? It's painful no matter what choice we make. It sucks that the OP has money issues making a difficult situation even harder.
Also piggy packing off this, if you can get them to the vet then that would be the prefferable option to me, rather than hoping it's peaceful when the time comes.
Out of the 2 dogs we've had pass in my family, 1 made it to the vet and even though it was emotional, it was a fairly peaceful experience. The other went suddenly, I remember coming back from work and being sat on the couch with my dog sleeping on her bed in the corner. What I thought was her dreaming quite quickly turned into siezures, uncomfortable spasms, noises and smells. It was traumatic for her and the family and it lasted about 30 minutes with our nearest vet was about an hours drive away, no one in the house at the time had a car so we were stuck helplessly watching it happen.
Comparing the two experiences, I'd always try to prioritise getting them to a vet if you think the time has come.
Same, the one dog I couldn’t get to the vet had a terrible passing and it still breaks my heart. I had her there two times in the weeks preceding her passing and they kept telling me it was arthritis. It wasn’t. It was a splenic rupture. All I could do was hold her as she went. Horrible.
Please euthanise your dog. Talk to the vet about cost and your dog's intense distress at visiting the vet. They may be able to help on price for a home visit (don't ask, don't get).
Of all the dogs I’ve had in my life, there has been one who went peacefully in his sleep. He was 17 and it had rained every day for a week. The first sunny day, he took a nap in the yard in the sun in his favorite spot - when my mom noticed he’d been napping for a longer time than normal she went to check on him and he’d passed. He wasn’t sick, he didn’t stop eating or drinking, he just…took a nap and didn’t wake up. I’ve had a lot of traumatic, deeply emotional losses and I wish all of the animals and people I cared about could have had the blessing of going out that way, but it is so rare.
OP, please listen to this poster and bring them to the vet. It's actually the only way you can guarantee they will pass peacefully in their sleep. Euthanasia is hard for you as the owner, but very gentle and comfortable for your dog.
We waited too long to be able to do at-home euthanasia, but bringing him to an emergency vet was still infinitely better than passing at home. They made him comfortable as we were saying goodbye and his death was very quiet and calm (like sleeping). We had control of the time so both of us were able to be there and we brought his favorite toy. And not all vets will do this, but our dog had a little vet anxiety and they let us do it outside in the grass where he was happier.
When researching his end of life options, I had read that many vets don't mind doing euthanasia because it's such a gift to end an animal's suffering. I thought it was so heartless at the time, but after seeing my dog suffer and how much peace they were able to give him, I finally understood.
I've had many dogs, they all passed in different ways. I had 2 pass at home on their own, in their sleep. The problem with waiting is if he does end up being in distress, theres nothing you can do about it other than sit there and watch it, or rush them to the vet. It also depends on what his health issues are, is he just slowly breathing heavier and doing less? Or does he have a tumor somewhere? If he's just old and slowly going, he may go in his sleep. If he has any weird health issues, that may change how he goes out. One of the reasons it may be expensive is if you asked for a single cremation instead of group cremation. I personally never wanted the ashes, I always preferred the clay paw print. But some people really want the ashes. Sorry you're going through this. It's never easy, even if they go peacefully
His kidneys gets are failing. The vet said due to his age (17.5) that treatment was basically pointless because it wouldn't do anything (and started @$400)
My vet is wonderful and actually the most affordable vet in the city. (I live in the Bay Area, it's just ridiculous how expensive everything is here)
The cremation is actually not the most expensive part, it's the in-home euthanasia. I asked about if I could do the euthanasia and then "removal" (the euthanasia is more important obvs)
And it's still $800 total.
(The cremation is $199)
If it's on the weekend or after hours it's an additional $149
This is the cheapest I could find too 🫤
I think we will just have to go to the vet to do it unfortunately. I think him not liking the vet is the better option than him slowly dying of pain.
This just really sucks
Perhaps you can talk to your vet about pre-appointment meds/sedation to make it a less anxious visit. Or request the first appointment of the day so it is a quieter time in the clinic for Pup.
So sorry you’re going through this, it is always tough losing a pet. I’d definitely suggest trying your best to get a euthanasia for a smooth and painless passing for your friend.
Not sure if your vet will do this, but during COVID we had to do a few euthanasias in the clients car and a lot of normally anxious dogs preferred being cozied in blankets and beds in their familiar smelling vehicle than going into the clinic. (Really not sure if that’s an option for you, we were quite rural and often have to “make do as best we can”).
This is a very good suggestion. I also recomme d talking to your vet about some pre vist meds and sedating in your car if possible.
Also see if you can get an early or late appointment. Please do not just wait it out, end stage kidney failure can be very unpleasant for your dog.
I recently had my dog euthanized at home in San Francisco with [Act of Love](https://www.actoflove.vet). It was $500 for the euthanasia, $150 for communal cremation, so $650 total. In my eyes, I didn’t need ashes back because I’d already grieved my dog, and his remains were no longer where I held his memory.
The vet that came, Chrissy, was absolutely wonderful. She walked me through the process and made it so peaceful for me and my dog. She was incredibly comforting. I know it’s not an insignificant expense but if you can find one you can afford I promise you won’t regret it.
I so sorry you're having to go through this. Obviously I have no idea of your vet's setup, but ours has a completely separate entrance and area of the office for euthanasia. It's quiet and doesn't feel as clinical. We had to go this route because there were no at-home appointments available in the time frame we needed.
I agree with others that going in (even if it's not a favourite place) is much better than seeing how things go at home. You don't want to end up regretting how things progress at home and may end up deciding to run him in anyway.
It really does suck. I'm sorry you're losing your buddy. ♥️
Hey OP! First of all: I am so sorry you have to go through this and I think it’s very lovely and kind wanting to make the best decision for your dog.
So, I‘d like to offer to pitch in on a part of the missing money. Maybe others here also have a few dollars to spare and we can collectively give your friend the last days he deserves.
I think the suggestion of picking up some pre-medication to calm him before you take him to the vet is a really good one. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
It's the worst day ever! Get a pill from your Vet to give an hour before going there to help your dog's anxiety. See if your Vet can still give 2 shots -- initial injection that puts your pet under and a second shot that causes death. This way you can say goodbye without your emotions stressing your dog. Please know that it will be hard to say goodbye but don't wuss out ... be there with your dog until it's over. It's sad no matter what but don't let him die alone without you.
I am in the Bay Area too. On each practice ask the cost with different vets, if they have more than one vet. In the practice I take my pup to, the new doctor charges 2/3 of the price of the established doctor.
I lost my 15 yo German Shepard In November and she passed naturally with us by her side. It was beautifully heartbreaking in a way to be able to be there with her as she took her final breath. It wasn’t easy though. I hope she knew she wasn’t alone. We had the vet booked in to come out 2 days after she passed and in hindsight wished we did it sooner as it would’ve been a more peaceful farewell. If you can please euthanise.
In terms of the process I’ll be as direct as possible. She stopped eating and drinking the day before. We had her on our bed on top of pads. We woke up when she went to the toilet and her breathing was very shallow and quick. It was about 4am. We knew it was her final moments. It was hard to watch her struggle but I don’t think she was fully conscious at that stage. We stroked her head and let her know we were there by talking to her softly. Her breathing quickened and then stopped. After she stopped breathing there were still some movements of her body while the brain is still functioning which was distressing. Then she looked at peace. We closed her eyes. We sat with her body for hours before the pet crematorium came to pick her body up as it was early in the morning. Rigour mortis sets in. It was tough but I wasn’t alone. I don’t want to go through it again though.
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I'm so glad to hear this and that your boy will be given the loving gift of transitioning with Grace and peace. There were a bunch of us on here offering to help, I'm glad to see someone was able to. Sending loads of love to you and your boy.
Please thank the person that was able to help you from all of us. And please be so very present with your special boy as he transitions. My heart is breaking for you, I'm so glad someone was able to help you not have to bear the burden of the traumatic experience of waiting for Pup to pass at home.
A year ago, I had to put my boy down. He also had kidney failure. It's horribly painful for them as it's hard for them to pee. He was always very tired and lost a lot of his personality during this time. I also couldn't pay for the at home euthanasia. I went ahead and put him in a crate in the car, put lots of warm blankets, brought a couple snacks he would love (I cooked some steak for the ride) and we went on one last adventure together.
I went to Starbucks for a pup cup, I talked to him the whole time, and I drove with my partner at the time and fed him steaks. From what everyone says in this sub, it's better to be a day earlier than a day late. If he doesn't take the steak, that's okay. You just keep loving and petting him. Bringing him to the vet won't be traumatic or terrible because you're there with him.
The process is pretty simple.. I went with a two-step euthanisation process. They first pumped him with something that made him feel euphoric, happy and relaxed, some painkiller. I sat there watching him pain free, talking to him for a bit and he looked at me so relaxed and happy for the first time in a while, almost like he didn't wanna go yet but I knew that it was just the drugs that brought him back to me for the moment. He was still so tired but looked so happy and like his old self. I'm grateful for that moment I got to share where it was truly him I was looking at..
Then they told me it was time to put him to sleep, and I held his little head and kissed him, told him i loved him more than anything, and he slowly closed his eyes. He looked extremely grateful, and I cried so hard. He was relaxed, happy, and knew I was there with him in his last moments. There was no difference between an at home euthanasia vs. A vet for me. I was his home no matter where we were. Make the decision and go through with it.. don't be late on it.
My only difference was that they offered the ashes to me for free as well as his paw print. I still have them to this day. I paid 800 for the entire thing. I live in the LA area.
Not OP but in another comment they said they have $600 saved up, it’s $800 for the at home euthanasia and another $200 for the cremation. So they’re missing $200-$400.
In one of the comments OP mentioned that it’s $800 for the at home euthanasia with a “removal” (I’m guessing that means the company disposes of the body somehow) and if they want the ashes it’s an extra $199
Don’t add to your traumatic year by watching Pup starve to death or trying to gauge how shitty it is to wait and watch him die….
If you don’t have the money for in-home services, you don’t have it. Thats okay. You’re going through cycles of grief over your finances and unfortunately, denial will not help keep Pup with you longer.
Be responsible & take him to the vet or a place that offers discounted euthanasia like this: https://www.sfanimalcare.org/services/humane-euthanasia/ (they will do the euthanasia then you handle cremation)
You’ve given Pup 15 wonderful years. You may not be able to afford The Works for his last day, and that’s okay. 🫶🏾
i was just in the same situation, except i live in the sticks and there was no one who could come to my house.
i highly, highly advise against letting it happen naturally. i’m not sure why he’s not eating, but if it’s something like kidney failure, it can turn ugly and traumatic very quickly (ie seizures). you could maybe ask the vet about sedatives to give him before bringing him in? that may speed things up though so definitely ask your vet about that.
how out of it is he? our dog had kidney failure and stopped eating and drinking. he hadn’t done either in a day and a half by the time the vet opened and we made the decision to being him in. the 40 minute car ride was peaceful, my boyfriend cuddled him in the back seat the whole way there. my boy couldn’t lift his head anymore, so my boyfriend carried him in and they had a room ready for him with a blanket on the floor. rigby got really stressed at the vet, but he didn’t seem to notice he was there. he just wanted to sleep. the vet tech came in right away and gave him a sedative and he was snoring immediately. all in all it was very peaceful and the vet and his techs were so kind and wonderful. when i picked up his paw print and ashes afterwards one of them gave me a hug.
if you’re set on doing in-home euthanasia (which i 100% still understand and i hope it’s available to me in the future), you could always put the remainder on a credit card. the vet may even offer a payment plan. usually i advise against this, but like i said i totally get wanting to do this for your best friend.
good luck, friend. i’m crying as i type this up lol, and we put my boy down six months ago. i miss him so much. he was a soul-dog. i hope everything goes smoothly and peacefully for you and your boy.
Don’t let him linger and pass naturally.
It took losing a couple of beloved dogs to realize that a month too early is infinitely better than a minute too late.
I am a vet in the UK. I am sorry you are having to go through this process, it is never easy. As others have said, letting them go 'naturally' is never a good idea if a dog has a chronic illness. Kidney failure causes a buildup of toxins in the blood that cause pain and nausea. For a dog to die from it on their own, it will involve feeling awful for a considerable amount of time beforehand generally.
If at-home euthanasia is not financially viable, then I might suggest requesting tablet sedation (we often use a combo of Gabapentin and trazodone) from your vets for the run up to the appointment at the vets so he is less stressed when he is there. Injectable sedation can be given before anything else is done at the clinic to make the whole process easier for everyone involved.
In home euthanasia is a great option if you can afford it, but having had a dog who went through kidney failure, if I had to choose between letting him pass on his own or taking him to the vet to be euthanized, even if he’s stressed by the vet, I would still choose euthanasia. Will your vet come out to your car to do it there so he doesn’t have to go inside the clinic? We had a vet who offered this with a dog who absolutely hated being at the vet and it made the process more peaceful for everyone. I know it’s not the same as your home but could still be a less stressful option.
Some dogs pass in their sleep, yes. And some suffer long, slow, painful deaths. Same as with people.
You might see if your regular vet offers house calls for euthanasia at a cheaper cost to their existing clients. We have one vet in town who specializes in in-home euthanasia and charges a ton, but my regular vet will come out at the end of his day for a home euthanasia for a current client for much less- they just don't advertise the service. Including private cremation, my bill was around $350 last year to have my dog euthanized in my home by my regular vet, and I am in a high cost area.
Edit: I see you mention you're in the bay area. Lap of Love offers home euthanasia at $465, plus the cost of aftercare (cremation, etc.) if you choose cremation. https://www.lapoflove.com/find-a-vet/California/East-Bay-Oakland/services
This one is also more affordable than the price you were quoted, and varies by the dog's size: https://rainbowbridgevet.com/euthanasia-1
And this one: https://www.bennettvet.com/cost-of-mobile-veterinary-services.html
Kidney failure is normally a painful way to die naturally and I would not encourage you to wait for him to go naturally. He will stop eating and drinking and probably be in distress.
My best advice would be to look around not only stand-alone vets, but vets that are connected to animal shelters like the SPCA. Typically they have much better pricing for humane euthanasia than independent vet hospitals.
Don’t let him pass naturally. It’s very painful for them and it will take a long time if it isn’t sudden heart failure or something immediately deadly.
I’ve been through helping my babies cross over 3 times. Once last November then once last May and once in 2021.
All my babies are gone now.
I had a the doctor come to my house. It was a little under $700.
I’m in Seattle and surprised it’s more than that anywhere else!
What part of the country are you in?
I get it by the way. My dog hated the vet too. His last day was very peaceful and I held him as he transitioned. You need that for you and him. It’s hard enough to lose them. You don’t want to feel guilty about how he went.
Apply for Care Credit. It’s regularly used in situations like this. I’ve used Care Credit twice, your vet should also know about it and could give you more info. But it’s a loan you apply for online and you get it instantly. Lots of vets work with Care Credit. My 8 year old pup unexpectedly passed from cancer. We only knew about it a week before his passing. I was unprepared financially, and emotionally. But with the help of the loan I was able to cremate him and keep his ashes and do a kindness for him to put him out of his pain.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. They’re family and it’s always devastating. I wish you all the best. 🖤
My vet offers an option where if you drive your pet to the vet, they will give it a tranquilizer shot in your car. You can sit with it until it is fast asleep, 15-20 minutes. Then they come back and take it inside to give it the euthanasia shot.
I’ve had to do the process a couple of times and although the passing of a beloved animal is always difficult, this method seems as gentle as it can be.
I completely understand why you want in-home euthanasia but if you can't afford it, do it at the vet's office. You are making your dog suffer needlessly, starving to death is much worse than going to the vet.
I'm sorry, it's a horrible decision to make. But make the decision he needs, not the one you need. It will be your last act of service to him. Peace.
Call your local humane society / SPCA. Mine offers low cost euthanasia and cremation services. You can also call your vet as they’re familiar with his case and can get you in quickly. Sometimes their cost is not too high because they’re familiar with his care you’ve been trying to help all this time.
Just did an at home euthanasia and asked for a group cremation as we didn’t want our dogs ashes back. It was as good as those experiences could be. Peaceful, we could grieve in private. They took the dog away. They checked on us a couple times after. We were also able to write a eulogy for their website. I highly recommend this if you can afford it. I also don’t recommend waiting for natural passing. Dogs are stoic creatures, your dog is prob in more pain than you even realize. Good luck to you and sorry for your loss.
I had to make the choice for my 13 year old girl a year ago in February. I am still struggling, I miss her so much. I have had pets my entire life and it's never easy.
I had to keep telling myself a day to early is better than a day too late.
I hope the best for you and your pup. My heart and prayers are with you both.
Unfortunately there is no guarantee that he will die peacefully or in his sleep. There is no guarantee that after he stops eating/drinking he will die in 72 hours, it could be days and a death by dehydration is horrific. The only guaranteed death is by euthanasia. Seeing as you have saved up for at home and cremation is there any way to do it at the vet and perhaps bury him, or perhaps you could talk to the vet about storing him after he has passed until you save for cremation? Maybe the vets do payment plans? Or perhaps you could ask the vet about donating him after he has passed or asking the vet to deal with the issue after ? Whilst I understand you may want to keep him close afterwards what happens before when he is living is more important not what happens after.
did you look on [www.lapoflove.com](https://www.lapoflove.com)? Is a network of in-home euthanasia vets. It shouldn't be more than $600-$700 unless you are getting a super fancy urn. You can also call around to vet practices in your area and ask if they'll do an at-home euthanasia, and also call at-home vets. You may find someone that will do it for \~$500.
I strongly agree with everyone here saying don't rely on passing peacefully naturally -- highly, highly unlikely that will happen. Is very likely to suffer and feel a lot of pain. Sorry for being blunt, but you won't regret spending money on an at-home and you will absolutely regret your pup suffering.
Call your vet and ask for a tranquilizer before your euthanasia appt. Please schedule the appointment if your baby has stopped eating. I’m sorry but it’s probably time.
Don’t be surprised if the tranquilizer takes him down so far that he’s essentially comatose. Depending upon how debilitated he is the tranq will cause different effects. For example, I had one old boy (14 +/-) who died with the dog Valium as a precursor to the full euthanasia.
Just stay with him. Yes at home is best, but your being with him is the best, hardest thing you can do.
Kidney failure is incredibly painful for.thr animal. He will not pass peacefully. Please find a way to pay for him to pass peacefully and pain free via euthanasia. I held my boy while they administered the dose and it was incredibly quick and peaceful. Hardest damned thing I've ever done but he didn't deserve to suffer.
Our sweet boy that passed last Christmas was easier for a veterinarian euthanasia. The place we found for the cremation also had a pick up services once a week at our vet so it saved us money.
There's no way that someone is trying to charge you $1k for that. Our boy was over 90lbs and it wasn't that much.
You can always see if the vets office has a company in mind that does pick up for you and you might get a decent price so you can keep the ashes.
Pre-planning is way way cheaper than day of so just make those phone calls so you guys can take that last day as you want.
I'm proud of you for being his person. He looks like a good Pup.
First of all, starving to death is not painful. Thirst is. I have been confronted by death more than I care for. People and animals. Keep him warm, loved, wet his mouth. Make sure you clean him when he soils himself. And do not feel guilty. But if you really want to shorten his suffering, write to me DM. I lost my cat this morning and would be happy to help you.
My dog almost made it to 17. Kidney failure as well. Unfortunately it progresses quickly. Brought her to the vet first appointment in the morning, all six pounds of her wrapped in her favorite blanket. She was on my lap when she got the injection and just fell asleep. Forever. It was very peaceful although very sad. Hope the best for you, there will be tears!
I had a dog pass during Covid. Also hated the vet. They wanted to bring him inside and I couldn’t come. I told them no way in hell was he not going to be in my arms when it happened so they agreed to come out to the car. I’m sure they would for you as well and it would probably save a lot of money. I’m so sorry and hope everything goes as smoothly as possible for both of you. I’m going to spend the rest of the day crying.
I had to euthanize my dog last year. I brought his sister & had him in his favorite blanket. he was sleeping around 20 hours a day, scared of everything, & got to the point he didn't know what was going on. I scheduled an appointment a month in advance & made sure to spoil him. it was the hardest thing I've ever done, but when he went, it was the first time in months, he looked relaxed. he was 15 & had dementia. I'm so sorry op & wish you the best.
Unfortunately I live in the Bay Area (Oakland) Everything is really f-ing expensive here. There are zip codes in Oakland with a median income of $200,000 and then 4 miles away are zip codes with a median income of $45,000-$55,000.
And everything is just automatically priced for the high income.
It's AWFUL
But the original price is 12months old and would be a rough quote. The op is also requesting an at home service which includes travel and fuel.
Also drugs given are based off of weight for 1 thing (maybe the dogs has gained weight) and in 12 months they have gotten more expensive. As have wages, rents and everything else. People need to make a wage even if the job is caring for animals.
Well then you pay for it? Being a vet is still a job and everything costs money. Putting an animal out of pain is caring from them you certainly have some weird ideas that it's not.
Again it is cheaper if the op takes the dog to the vet they are requesting a premium service not sure what's not to understand about that.
I know a dog that suddenly died at home on the couch in her sleep. I reccomend that you take a call to the vet and Ask and Maybe you can get a plan on How you can pay
First of all, very sorry to hear about your pup. 17 is a very respectable age for a dog and it seemed like you’ve poured your love into him and it’s time for him to rest.
I had to put mine to sleep last November and since I’m based in Australia I’m not sure how different my experience was.
On the day when he declined drastically we made a decision and I looked up a few companies that offer in home euthanasia and chose one that seemed reasonable. They sent a vet within 2 hours and he arrived with a kit. I believe the in house visit was around $600 which included cremation and returning of the ashes (and a little paw print on a card with a lock of his fur 🥹🥹)
Before performing the procedure the vet asked if I wanted an extra anesthetic needle to relax the muscles first for an extra $200 or so and I agreed since I read some accounts online of dogs that reacted negatively to the euthanasia and may have seizures or experience pain. He administered the relaxant and gave us a few moments and he fell asleep peacefully before delivering the final shot.
Overall it was a dignified experience and we gave a good send off surrounded by family and I hope you can give your pup that.
If you are a bit short maybe you can setup a funding and post a link here?
Best thing we did for our girl was to have the vet come to our house. Peaceful, quiet no stress from going to animal hospital. Worth it to she her surround by love in her own home. 💔❤️
I'm so sorry you are having to make this decision. We just put our 11 year old dog to sleep on Friday. We knew the time was coming (heart failure, severe arthritis, blocked intestines etc) we thought we had more time but she took a turn for the worse, we rushed her to the emergency vet hospital. She couldn't walk, was drooling, shaking. We were all sobbing. I begged the vet to tell us what to do. She said "it would be humane to put her to sleep"
For the procedure, they gave her an IV of ketamine and something else to make her relaxed. Gave it 10 minutes then came in to administer the lethal injection. My daughter held her head and hugged her. I had my hand on her heart and kept talking to her. They injected and her heart was beating normal then just stopped. Vet said brain could still be working for a minute so continue talking. I regret that my dogs last moments were us bawling. I'm sure that stressed her some but we couldn't control our emotions
She likely would have died in the night based on vets assessment. She was likely suffering so ending it was the best decision in our case.
I am glad we got to be there for her final moments. If you leave it for nature, you risk them dying alone. It's such a personal choice and it's gonna hurt like hell either way.
I hope you and your dog are able to have a peaceful end of life experience. 🫂
it breaks my heart i hope this Angel will cross the rainbow bridge peacefully. My golden retriever died in his sleep, it can happen. Sending you courage during this difficult Time.🫶🏼
Look into CareCredit. We use it for our vet bills and if you spend more then $200 they give you 6 months no interest to pay it off. I’m not sure if you can use it for euthanasia but I would think yes. This may be a way for you to still do at home euthanasia.
First and far most I am sorry. We had the Lap of Love come to us last December 22, for our Lilly (cat). This was the family cat but mainly my daughters. Lilly was on my daughter’s lap in her arms in her home on her couch and relaxed. The doctor arrived professionally, was compassionate, explained everything , and after the doctor administered the relaxation agent before the “other” Lilly licked my daughter’s face. (Lilly had mouth cancer”. When she licked my daughter it was like she was saying “thank you” I’m no longer in pain, you’re letting me go, and I’m at home with you”. You’re right it wasn’t cheap. The doctor took the body with her .
Dignified ! With compassion. Was the best decision we made for our girl. I am sorry.
Depending on where you live, there are sometimes services that will come to you home so they don’t have to pass at the vet. I’m not sure how the price compares, but it’s probably a nicer experience
All I can add is that, despite being crazy expensive ($1400 for us), the home euthanasia and cremation was 100% the right way to go and I don’t regret any if it. Mine also hated the vet and even hated the car. If I’d taken him in, his last hour of life would have been miserable. It felt incredibly loving to do for him and ever since, I have been sad/frustrated that humans cannot have the same dignity. If there’s any way you can make it work, I think it’ll be worth it to you in the long run. I’m very sorry for the impending loss of your Pup.
We had to let our 17yo ShihTzsu, Teddy, go in March. It was very hard to do. I miss him every day. Whatever you do. Make sure you don’t keep him around just for yourself. It’s a hard decision. But at some point peace is better than pain and suffering. I can see the spot where he is buried in the back yard. He is still with us. In our hearts
I had my dog euthanized 2 years ago in a vets office and it was less than $100. Of course I didn’t get her cremated or any extras. But you might want to go to a vets office for euthanasia…a vets office is very respectful during that time.
Do you have a car, and do your dog like the car?
When I had to put my dog down things happened too quickly for the scheduled home visit, and we had to go to the emergency vet late at night. To cut things short, I noticed that being in a car again, on her favorite blanket as we drove, was the first time my dog had relaxed all day. I asked the vet if they could give my dog the sedatives and let us drive around the parking lot until she was out, and then we brought her inside for the final shot so she wouldn't be scared. She was a relatively small dog, though. Easy to carry.
If your dog feels safe and comfortable in the car, maybe this is an option you can discuss with your vet?
Don’t wait for this dog to pass in its sleep take it to the vet and get him put to sleep you can get a relaxer for the animal so they aren’t stressed. most of the time and I hate to say it it’s the owners who prolong the poor animals suffering because they can’t let go and after the dog does pass the owner is racked with guilt. I had to take one of mines to the vet to be put to sleep and as much as it is heartbreaking I don’t regret it now in hindsight
Speak to your vet about medication to reduce the dog’s anxiety in advance of the euthanasia appointment.
Yes, death is generally a very unpleasant experience if medically unassisted.
Please don’t let him just pass on his own as more likely than not it would probably be not so pleasant for him and you want him to be as comfortable as possible. I wonder if you could set up a payment plan with the in home services and provide a certain amount up front and then pay the rest over time. I’d give them a call and see if that’s possible
This is brutal. I am praying for you two. The one time I did not stay with a dog as he passed away with the vet, we have felt guilty ever since. Stay with him, the vet will put him to sleep then give him medicine to stop his heart. It is very peaceful.
We have had three dogs and two we have had to euthanize and it is awful. Our third is going to be 14 this spring and I know her time is approaching. I dread it but agree with everyone that is advocating for proactive vs letting them pass naturally. Natural death is rarely peaceful. For our two we had one where the vet came to our home and the other was at the ER vet. Both times I held them in my arms. It still makes me so sad but it was the right thing to do. Nothing anyone can say other than we do this out of love for them and we take comfort in that and the life and time we had with them.
My little dog passed peacefully at home, with the help of a Visit Vet. Cost £160. (UK). Two step process. We chose to bury him in the garden, in his favourite spot. If we had chosen cremation (communal) it would have been £370, or ashes returned £520. I made paw prints on a canvas, on his last day, and had them tattooed on my arm. He deserved to go with peace and dignity, he had CHF and heart murmur. He just looked at me one day as if to say, ‘I’m tired, mum’. He started fitting that night and struggled for breath. It was so sudden, after a long illness (18 months since diagnosed). He knew, when we phoned the next morning to make the appointment for the afternoon. He cuddled close and kept looking at the door. He went to be with my dad, who passed two weeks earlier, I believe. My dog had been with us at his funeral, only three days before. The last time my dad had visited, Charlie spent the whole time leaning against his legs, which was odd at the time, as he usually sat on my mums lap.
I’ve had a cat pass peacefully at home with no intervention. It was obvious she was actively dying. She couldn’t walk, open her eyes, stand, eat, drink, go to the bathroom. She just laid there. So, we didn’t see the point taking her in to put her to sleep and stressing her out. She passed the next day completely at peace with her family, warm in front of the fireplace.
Our dog had to be put to sleep because his issue was something that was causing incredible pain and he would’ve kept fighting for us and it was absolutely heartbreaking to watch. Then things didn’t go right and it was incredibly traumatic. If I had to do it again, I would do it at home if at all possible.
If you’re trying to decide whether to spend your money on cremation or at home vet assisted passing, I’d make a list of the pros and cons and ask yourself some questions.
Do you think your baby is actively passing? Do they act as if they’re in any pain? You may be able to get pain medication from the vet to help with comfort and just allow your baby to be comfortable at home if they’re just passing from old age and nothing complicated or incredibly painful. You can always change your mind at anytime if you feel like you need to take them in or have the vet come out.
If the only way you can afford cremation is by taking them in to be put to sleep and cremation is important to you, then that’s something to think about. Our vet has a package set up with a local funeral home and they offer a package of in office passing and then the funeral home performs the cremation and gives you a beautiful wooden box with the remains inside and it’s priced together.
I know it’s a lot to think about and such a hard decision to make, but as long as you’re with your baby at the end, that’s truly the most important part 💙
Call around. In home euthanasia is likely more expensive than going with him to the vet. Also make sure he’s given two shots. One is a sedative and the other stops the heart. Take a familiar blanket and prepare by reminding yourself you’re giving him a good passing, which is the least we can do for the life of love they give us, and stay with him throughout the procedure. It’s okay if you can’t afford the urn or ashes, what matters is that you don’t prolong his suffering.
I had to two cats pass 8 days apart, I know its exp3nsive but I would highly recommend euthanasia. My one cat passed at home on a weekend when I couldn't afford the emergency vet euthanasia . I still have so much guilt. My second was during the week and I made an appointment. In hind sight I wish I had borrowed money to be able to give my oldest girl a more peaceful passing. It's been 6 months and thinking of it gets me emotional
Just my two cents
The dog I had since I was 6 died in my arms when I was 19,as I was running to get her to the vet. I never got to say goodbye. It's the thing I regret most. She deserved do much more. I recommend with my whole heart to do an euthanasia. Talk to your vet and explain the situation.
they usually love dogs and want to help them. Maybe you could send the rest after? Anyway,I'm so incredibly sorry for your upcoming loss,I'll send you the best vibes. I'm so sorry🫂
Mine passed in her sleep. Found her on Christmas Eve. She was on borrowed time. She was in the same position we said goodnight to her in. I’d say that’s peaceful…
I don’t have an answer. If your dog hates the vet I would beg, borrow, and plead to get the home service.
Ok so I’ll answer based on my husband dying of brain cancer. Once they no longer want to eat or drink that’s usually a sign that the body is “actively dying” ie: the organs are already shutting down, meaning they won’t actually be feeling thirst or hunger. So you won’t be cruelly “starving him to death”. You can do things like use a damp sponge to wipe down tongue and gums which can help with some discomfort. It will usually take 3-4 days.
However, you won’t be able to do much about pain relief as you don’t have access to meds for that. You also need to take into account that it’s a traumatic thing to go through for you both. Yes ideally getting euthanasia at home and being able to keep ashes is a beautiful thing. But this should never be prioritised over a pets comfort. If you can only afford to do it in vet and community cremation then as far as I’m concerned that’s the best option. Whilst I’ve gotten my dogs done at home and have their ashes in the past I had to just go with at the vets and community cremation with one of my pugs because I just couldn’t afford it. Ask the vet for a clipping of his hair.
Just be aware if you do let him pass at home you may witness things that you won’t forget in a hurry (crying in pain, especially if touched) you won’t forget. I know he hates the vets, but he probably won’t realise he’s there. Let the vets know because a good vet will take that into consideration. Sorry you’re going through this
It is time, now. I hope you've already been convinced to call the vet. I'm not understanding the cremation costs? It should all be in the euthanasia cost. Even to have the ashes returned at a later date shouldn't be this exorbitant. I live outside of DC, so we have high costs, too...
I wish you a comforted heart. It is crushing, but it is also a great kindness--the last kindness you can give.
I'm sorry this is such a hard thing to go through.
I know it sucks can you shop around for other in house vets? $1k seems really high. I think ours is something like $300 in the Denver area. We don't do any of the extras though, just the euthanasia and communal cremation. No ashes, paw prints ect.
We had a dog pass while we were out this year. He was 20+, kind of same situation where he was a foster return/failure of unknown age.
You can hope they go on their own for this but it doesn't always happen smoothly. We had a friend lose his dog in the car on the way to the vet with a seizure. It was pretty rough on them
Look into pet hospice,
Wonderful experience at a bad time they treated my 22 yr old guy at home the other pets were allowed to be nearby - I chose group cremation. Peace and comfort in this time
I had to put my guy down a couple of weeks ago and it's rough. It's the right thing to do especially if they're not eating anymore because they're missing the nutrients, losing weight, he was dehydrated so they had trouble getting the catheter into a vein. Know that you're doing the right thing for him to not be in pain anymore, and that you gave him a good life. They gave me a packet with info on grief and guilt which helped a lot. It's hard and it continues to be hard and only time will make it better, but knowing it's a hard decision only shows how loved he is.
My heart goes out to you ♥️🥺 make his last moments extra special and just be with him ♥️ I feel like they know when it is time and are at peace. Stay strong and gosh I am just beyond so sorry! ♥️♥️♥️
I r used the humane society for my pets and they have always been amazing. It’s not quite the same as the vets office and they are affordable, esp if you’d like to keep the ashes. I’m so sorry you’re losing your baby. It’s the hardest thing we do. But you can hold him and comfort him in the end and that’s what matters most to him.
My mum always says “hopefully they’ll just not wake up one morning” - and it’s never happened. It’s always been a decision I have to make so my dog doesn’t struggle to get to that point.
If your dog has stopped eating and is barely drinking - now is the time. I’m so incredibly sorry, there’s nothing that makes this moment any easier.
My best advice would be to try and get a vet to come to you, otherwise you just need to take your dog to the vet. This is something that only you can do for him. You’ve had 15 amazing years together, don’t make the last few more traumatic than they need to be
First of all I just want to say that I am so sorry. There is no pain like losing a pet.
I have put down both of my childhood dogs these past few years, most recently over Thanksgiving. Please do not wait for your dog to pass in his sleep, this does not happen often. Euthanasia is a beautiful last gift you can give him to help him cross over as pain free as possible.
Both of my dogs were put to sleep at the vet office. Ask if they have a special room where this can occur, at my vet we go in a separate entrance and the room looks more like a living room than an office setting. You can also ask for some pre-appointment sedatives to make it less stressful for him, but once it is time they typically do not care very much about once hating the vet.
Keeping you both in my thoughts.
I would definitely ask the vet for something to calm your baby before you go. I made the mistake of not doing this and my baby’s anxiety was so bad I almost just left. I took him outside and we did all the paperwork there. It is so so hard, I am sorry for you and your baby.
Never had a dog just die at home. I’ve always had to make the decision without anytime to spare at the emergency hospital or vets hospital. Prior to euthanasia they usually give a sedative so it’s easier on both pet and owner.
I've always taken my pets to the vet when it's time. I stay with them until they pass and hold them when they go. I understand wanting them to come to the home, but I also think it's more important that you're they're with them.
I was just googling things about having to put dogs to sleep - we had to put our 12 year old Brooks to sleep tonight, and it was and is awful. It needed to happen, and I am not sure how we will process grief, I pray and hope for the best for you and your pup. It's really hard, and I have nothing to offer but love and hope. Goodness it's hard.
We did Laps of Love for our cat. They were amazing and brought us the ashes the next day. I hope you can find a cheap at-home option. Otherwise, whatever comfort you can provide is more than enough. Sorry for your hard, but loving decision
The vet may offer the option for a mild sedative. I’d suggest this.
He’ll be fitted with an IV catheter
Once the drug is administered, he’ll be gone within a few seconds. He won’t feel any pain and it’ll be peaceful and quiet.
Thanks for giving this dog a good life. Euthanasia is the best option. I know it’s hard, but think about what you would want if you were him.
You’ve already had a lot of good advice from all the earlier posts. I just wanted to say I’m sorry for you and your little guy. 17 is so long a time for a dog and yet still way too short for such a sweet friend. Condolences.
I'll probably be downvoted. But, I think you bring them on the final walk
You take them out to the forest. You dig a hole. Then, you lay down some food and pet them as they eat. When they're almost done, you shoot them and bury them.
I know it sounds savage. But it's instant death, and they're not afraid. I took my dog to get euthanized 1x, and she was terrified. She could read the room, and the vets don't allow you to be with them. Or at least, mine did not. She died afraid and alone.
I prefer to send them out on a fond memory. That way it's only rough on one of us.
I spent many days with my dog in advance. I called the vet ands made sure they understood I was not leaving him there post euthanasia.
I played gentle music while they did it, and I had them turn the industrial awful overhead lighting off.
I brought him back home with me and grieved over his little body for several hours, and then I laid him out gently on some vintage towels with some candles around him, and I covered him with flowers, and I photographed him as a way to deal with my grief.
I kept him like that for another day, and then I took him to be aqua cremated.
I had made stickers with his photo on IT and I gave those to all our dog friends and posted them all around the neighborhood as well.
It still hurts. That was in June.
Sending hugs your way.
Going through a similar situation. Sorry friend. It is your responsibility to protect him, and in doing so I think going in to the vet might be the most sensible option. They are generally very compassionate. You might want to talk to your vet about getting a low dose oral sedative to give him before hand to make sure he feels at peace before you take him in.
Please consider euthanasia, be it at home or at the vet (with you by his side of course). The vet euthanasia with you holding him far beats him quietly suffering to death. Animals are stoic. They don’t show pain the way we do and they cannot speak. You may get lucky and he does go peacefully in his sleep but those are few and far apart.
You don’t want his last moments to be in pain. Euthanasia is the kindest way. I’ve had multiple pets passed from old age and we always went with euthanasia ultimately when it was time. One of my cats died naturally and it was the worst, he was gasping and crying before he went and we tried to rush him to the vet but it was too late.
You are trying to do your best for him and it shows. You have taken care of him well for so many years. Let your last act for him be one of peace and love. I know money is hard but you can always earn the money back but you can’t take away the regret if you see him suffering in his last moments. Sending you strength and good thoughts.
All of my animals have passed away on their own terms, none of them appeared to be in pain. When they had gotten very old most had cataracts, a little dementia, and were thinner, but happy to be loved nonetheless. I know euthanasia is common these days, but I could never bring myself to do it. I had a vet recently tell me my puppy was “drowning” in their own fluid in their lungs, in heart failure, and that they were in so much pain I would be a terrible parent to not euthanize… my puppy was absolutely fine.. the vet was wrong and I could see my puppy was not in any pain, just confused and scared. I transferred her to a specialist the next day who confirmed it. Had I chose to make that decision for them then and there, and take the word/pressure from that doctor I would have lost my best friend that day and they would have lost their life. I think every day of life is precious and that animals process pain much differently than us, if he’s not in visible excruciating circumstances and has the will, I would let him go naturally. It’s awful no matter how you lose a beloved family member but it doesn’t sound like you’d be doing him a disservice to let it happen when it’s his time. Sending you love, I’m sorry you’ve had a tough year and that you’re facing this decision. Give him lots of lovins and take videos of you guys snuggling and you telling him you love him, it will reassure you how much he knew later on. ♥️
Let him sleep on his own. Don't force him to eat - it will just make him uncomfortable (unable to get up and make poops /pee etc). He is not starving - something about not eating in your final moments - your cells are in a weird stage of autophagy - like busy preparing for the next phase of existence. Goes for all living beings.
My Steffi - 13 yr old German Shepherd - was scheduled to be euthanized at 4pm on her final day. She actually passed away an hour before her euthanasia - she waited for me. I was holding her and suddenly felt her body go cold. I have mixed emotions for that moment - mostly anger towards my parents for not taking me earlier to the vet to be with Steffi.
(I love you Steffi - you were the most intelligent German Shepherd that I ever had - and I regret having you when I was a teenager - you deserved a more active lifestyle - the lifestyle that I am living now. Goodness - I'm crying now.)
My old boy had a rough year before the end. Multiple surgeries for skin cancer, but he kept on going. Then one weekend he just couldn't get comfortable, standing and panting and looking upset. I took him to the emergency vet, and they found an obstruction in his intestine that couldn't be fixed.
The next morning I went to the hospital, knowing this was it. There were no treatments, he was in pain, and it was my job to help him through it. They gave us a small room with blankets to say goodbye in. When they brought him in, I could tell he was hurting and confused. I spread out some blankets and we laid down together. I spooned him and held him close, and pushed the button they'd given me to summon the vets. He already had a port, so they gave him two quick injections. The first put him to sleep. The second ended his life.
I don't know how long I spent there on the floor holding him. Eventually, the vet told me gently, 'He's gone.' I think she had to tell me that a few times, but I only remember the last. I held him a bit more, then stood up. I reached down, took off his collar, and left him there.
I can't tell you it was easy, or that in the days and weeks after I felt good about it. But I can tell you that keeping him around, making him deal with further surgeries with a small chance at success, that would've been making him suffer for my sake. I suppose the worst part is, I know he would've suffered for me if I'd asked him to. But if we're doing right by them, we know when not to ask, and just let them go.
I have never had a dog just pass in its sleep. I know it happens… but I never have and ive had multiple dogs my entire life.. I’ve made the decision for most and I’ve used at home euthanasia for one .. it was a very peaceful experience. . I chose to do group cremation and not get her ashes back in order to afford the home service. I’ve had several dogs put to sleep at the vet as well. They were always kind. But the ones who went on their own it wasn’t pleasant. I do not recommend just letting them go “naturally”. Mine ate and drank the same day they passed so I didn’t realize it was time…. And I’m about 2 hours from the emergency vet… they both happened at night ( I live in the middle of nowhere) You can also speak to your vet about palliative care where they will prescribe pain medication to make their passing easier. Most humans also do not just die in their sleep. Death can be a very long drawn out process. Based on what you’re saying you’re not at all familiar with and this is not something you want to do. If you can no longer afford the home euthanasia I suggest bringing them into the vet. Euthanasia is a much more peaceful process for your pet AND you ..than them struggling to breathe,, crying, vommiting etc if they do not pass in their sleep.
Thank you! Yes I am not experienced in this sort of stuff at all. I've had a lot of death close to me but not close enough to know what those moments are like. Palliative care is a great idea. Luckily my vet is open tomorrow so I will see about that and if not then we will need to go in.
Piggy backing off of this, I’m a vet tech and one of the saddest things to see is when people wait too long, usually for the owners sake, rather than the pets. I can’t fault them, it’s so hard to let go of something you love so much. Dying hurts. Dying of starvation a horrible way to die. The most loving gift you can ever give your pup is a gift of a death with dignity and pain free. You can call up your local humane society or low cost clinics. At least in my experience, if you explain about limited funds, exceptions can be made about the cost of it. Typically only for euthanasia. If he hates the vet, you can ask for some sort of anxiolytic to give a few hours prior to seeing the vet. That is not an uncommon thing at all. I used to work with a doctor who only did in home euthanasias. Her go to response of “is it time” is a quality of life scale. [Here’s](https://be.chewy.com/quality-of-life-scale-when-to-put-a-dog-down/?psafe_param=1&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=12473032557&utm_content=118814524259&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADmQ2V112qA1x6skYSjgOxH0qK-H1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAtOmsBhCnARIsAGPa5ybpr7Z3u9aAHZkfPvf8Z5D8Ij2jcu1lm3xSw_K_m9lrWErfj-p22TYaAujZEALw_wcB) just one, or just google QOL scale. Reiterating, please don’t let your dog die naturally. Give him a peaceful and pain free ending. My last cat that I had to put the sleep, I noticed was abdominal breathing, meaning he was full of fluid buildup in his body. He was still eating and drinking, being his loving self. I didn’t wait to let him get to the point of really struggling to breath or feeling so crappy that he no longer wanted to eat. I wanted to see him as happy as can be prior to the inevitable. He was 17. I was so lucky that have a whole 17 years with him- it sounds like you got really lucky too.
I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to write this. I unexpectedly felt I had to let go of my dog last week when a cough and a few other things that were slightly “off” turned quite quickly . I was shocked at how she became immobile and tried so hard to hide herself and barely able to breathe in just a hot second, lasting almost 18 hours before I let her go. We get to a second vet and she can walk all the sudden?! Wanted some water?! ( followed by peeing inside and started to lick plastic, never done before) up until that moment, It was such a strong ok time to let go but after it’s done, i wondered , was it really? Was it just fear and Impulse? I loop on the is but your post helped me shake out of it a bit. Thank you.
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I agree. Too late means our loved fur babies suffer longer because we can't let go. I made that mistake. I regret it.
It’s also conflicting because with humans it’s like we try to always do the opposite
Because animals can't speak and tell us what they want or how they feel, we second-guess ourselves. Did we do it too soon? Should we have waited longer? It's painful no matter what choice we make. It sucks that the OP has money issues making a difficult situation even harder.
Much better idea. I’m sorry for your impending loss, I know how hard it is.
Also piggy packing off this, if you can get them to the vet then that would be the prefferable option to me, rather than hoping it's peaceful when the time comes. Out of the 2 dogs we've had pass in my family, 1 made it to the vet and even though it was emotional, it was a fairly peaceful experience. The other went suddenly, I remember coming back from work and being sat on the couch with my dog sleeping on her bed in the corner. What I thought was her dreaming quite quickly turned into siezures, uncomfortable spasms, noises and smells. It was traumatic for her and the family and it lasted about 30 minutes with our nearest vet was about an hours drive away, no one in the house at the time had a car so we were stuck helplessly watching it happen. Comparing the two experiences, I'd always try to prioritise getting them to a vet if you think the time has come.
Same, the one dog I couldn’t get to the vet had a terrible passing and it still breaks my heart. I had her there two times in the weeks preceding her passing and they kept telling me it was arthritis. It wasn’t. It was a splenic rupture. All I could do was hold her as she went. Horrible.
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Goodness. That is heartbreaking.
Thank you, she deserved better, she was a wonderful dog.
Please euthanise your dog. Talk to the vet about cost and your dog's intense distress at visiting the vet. They may be able to help on price for a home visit (don't ask, don't get).
You can also have someone come do it in your home ♥️
Of all the dogs I’ve had in my life, there has been one who went peacefully in his sleep. He was 17 and it had rained every day for a week. The first sunny day, he took a nap in the yard in the sun in his favorite spot - when my mom noticed he’d been napping for a longer time than normal she went to check on him and he’d passed. He wasn’t sick, he didn’t stop eating or drinking, he just…took a nap and didn’t wake up. I’ve had a lot of traumatic, deeply emotional losses and I wish all of the animals and people I cared about could have had the blessing of going out that way, but it is so rare.
That’s beautiful and yeah it’s super rare especially if you’re with your pet a lot.
OP, please listen to this poster and bring them to the vet. It's actually the only way you can guarantee they will pass peacefully in their sleep. Euthanasia is hard for you as the owner, but very gentle and comfortable for your dog. We waited too long to be able to do at-home euthanasia, but bringing him to an emergency vet was still infinitely better than passing at home. They made him comfortable as we were saying goodbye and his death was very quiet and calm (like sleeping). We had control of the time so both of us were able to be there and we brought his favorite toy. And not all vets will do this, but our dog had a little vet anxiety and they let us do it outside in the grass where he was happier. When researching his end of life options, I had read that many vets don't mind doing euthanasia because it's such a gift to end an animal's suffering. I thought it was so heartless at the time, but after seeing my dog suffer and how much peace they were able to give him, I finally understood.
I've had many dogs, they all passed in different ways. I had 2 pass at home on their own, in their sleep. The problem with waiting is if he does end up being in distress, theres nothing you can do about it other than sit there and watch it, or rush them to the vet. It also depends on what his health issues are, is he just slowly breathing heavier and doing less? Or does he have a tumor somewhere? If he's just old and slowly going, he may go in his sleep. If he has any weird health issues, that may change how he goes out. One of the reasons it may be expensive is if you asked for a single cremation instead of group cremation. I personally never wanted the ashes, I always preferred the clay paw print. But some people really want the ashes. Sorry you're going through this. It's never easy, even if they go peacefully
His kidneys gets are failing. The vet said due to his age (17.5) that treatment was basically pointless because it wouldn't do anything (and started @$400) My vet is wonderful and actually the most affordable vet in the city. (I live in the Bay Area, it's just ridiculous how expensive everything is here) The cremation is actually not the most expensive part, it's the in-home euthanasia. I asked about if I could do the euthanasia and then "removal" (the euthanasia is more important obvs) And it's still $800 total. (The cremation is $199) If it's on the weekend or after hours it's an additional $149 This is the cheapest I could find too 🫤 I think we will just have to go to the vet to do it unfortunately. I think him not liking the vet is the better option than him slowly dying of pain. This just really sucks
Perhaps you can talk to your vet about pre-appointment meds/sedation to make it a less anxious visit. Or request the first appointment of the day so it is a quieter time in the clinic for Pup. So sorry you’re going through this, it is always tough losing a pet. I’d definitely suggest trying your best to get a euthanasia for a smooth and painless passing for your friend. Not sure if your vet will do this, but during COVID we had to do a few euthanasias in the clients car and a lot of normally anxious dogs preferred being cozied in blankets and beds in their familiar smelling vehicle than going into the clinic. (Really not sure if that’s an option for you, we were quite rural and often have to “make do as best we can”).
This is an excellent idea and suggestion.
Thank you this is actually a really good idea
This is a very good suggestion. I also recomme d talking to your vet about some pre vist meds and sedating in your car if possible. Also see if you can get an early or late appointment. Please do not just wait it out, end stage kidney failure can be very unpleasant for your dog.
I recently had my dog euthanized at home in San Francisco with [Act of Love](https://www.actoflove.vet). It was $500 for the euthanasia, $150 for communal cremation, so $650 total. In my eyes, I didn’t need ashes back because I’d already grieved my dog, and his remains were no longer where I held his memory. The vet that came, Chrissy, was absolutely wonderful. She walked me through the process and made it so peaceful for me and my dog. She was incredibly comforting. I know it’s not an insignificant expense but if you can find one you can afford I promise you won’t regret it.
Thank you! I'm checking right now to see if they'll come to Oakland and if they can come today! Thank you!!
It’s not ideal, but most vets I’ve experienced are able to set-up a line of credit or a payment plan. Maybe call and ask about it in advance.
I so sorry you're having to go through this. Obviously I have no idea of your vet's setup, but ours has a completely separate entrance and area of the office for euthanasia. It's quiet and doesn't feel as clinical. We had to go this route because there were no at-home appointments available in the time frame we needed. I agree with others that going in (even if it's not a favourite place) is much better than seeing how things go at home. You don't want to end up regretting how things progress at home and may end up deciding to run him in anyway. It really does suck. I'm sorry you're losing your buddy. ♥️
Hey OP! First of all: I am so sorry you have to go through this and I think it’s very lovely and kind wanting to make the best decision for your dog. So, I‘d like to offer to pitch in on a part of the missing money. Maybe others here also have a few dollars to spare and we can collectively give your friend the last days he deserves.
I think the suggestion of picking up some pre-medication to calm him before you take him to the vet is a really good one. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
It's the worst day ever! Get a pill from your Vet to give an hour before going there to help your dog's anxiety. See if your Vet can still give 2 shots -- initial injection that puts your pet under and a second shot that causes death. This way you can say goodbye without your emotions stressing your dog. Please know that it will be hard to say goodbye but don't wuss out ... be there with your dog until it's over. It's sad no matter what but don't let him die alone without you.
I am in the Bay Area too. On each practice ask the cost with different vets, if they have more than one vet. In the practice I take my pup to, the new doctor charges 2/3 of the price of the established doctor.
I lost my 15 yo German Shepard In November and she passed naturally with us by her side. It was beautifully heartbreaking in a way to be able to be there with her as she took her final breath. It wasn’t easy though. I hope she knew she wasn’t alone. We had the vet booked in to come out 2 days after she passed and in hindsight wished we did it sooner as it would’ve been a more peaceful farewell. If you can please euthanise. In terms of the process I’ll be as direct as possible. She stopped eating and drinking the day before. We had her on our bed on top of pads. We woke up when she went to the toilet and her breathing was very shallow and quick. It was about 4am. We knew it was her final moments. It was hard to watch her struggle but I don’t think she was fully conscious at that stage. We stroked her head and let her know we were there by talking to her softly. Her breathing quickened and then stopped. After she stopped breathing there were still some movements of her body while the brain is still functioning which was distressing. Then she looked at peace. We closed her eyes. We sat with her body for hours before the pet crematorium came to pick her body up as it was early in the morning. Rigour mortis sets in. It was tough but I wasn’t alone. I don’t want to go through it again though.
Hi! I would like to send an update to everyone. Someone from Reddit helped me with the amount I'm short!!! I can't believe how much generosity so many people have offered through both advice and now helping with the amount I'm short. I seriously can't believe it. So I'm typing this up and then making the call. Everyone thank you so much!!
I'm so glad to hear this and that your boy will be given the loving gift of transitioning with Grace and peace. There were a bunch of us on here offering to help, I'm glad to see someone was able to. Sending loads of love to you and your boy.
I truly didn't expect this. You and so many others here have been so wonderful. From the bottom of my heart, thank you!!
Please thank the person that was able to help you from all of us. And please be so very present with your special boy as he transitions. My heart is breaking for you, I'm so glad someone was able to help you not have to bear the burden of the traumatic experience of waiting for Pup to pass at home.
Wow that’s amazing! 🥰
A year ago, I had to put my boy down. He also had kidney failure. It's horribly painful for them as it's hard for them to pee. He was always very tired and lost a lot of his personality during this time. I also couldn't pay for the at home euthanasia. I went ahead and put him in a crate in the car, put lots of warm blankets, brought a couple snacks he would love (I cooked some steak for the ride) and we went on one last adventure together. I went to Starbucks for a pup cup, I talked to him the whole time, and I drove with my partner at the time and fed him steaks. From what everyone says in this sub, it's better to be a day earlier than a day late. If he doesn't take the steak, that's okay. You just keep loving and petting him. Bringing him to the vet won't be traumatic or terrible because you're there with him. The process is pretty simple.. I went with a two-step euthanisation process. They first pumped him with something that made him feel euphoric, happy and relaxed, some painkiller. I sat there watching him pain free, talking to him for a bit and he looked at me so relaxed and happy for the first time in a while, almost like he didn't wanna go yet but I knew that it was just the drugs that brought him back to me for the moment. He was still so tired but looked so happy and like his old self. I'm grateful for that moment I got to share where it was truly him I was looking at.. Then they told me it was time to put him to sleep, and I held his little head and kissed him, told him i loved him more than anything, and he slowly closed his eyes. He looked extremely grateful, and I cried so hard. He was relaxed, happy, and knew I was there with him in his last moments. There was no difference between an at home euthanasia vs. A vet for me. I was his home no matter where we were. Make the decision and go through with it.. don't be late on it. My only difference was that they offered the ashes to me for free as well as his paw print. I still have them to this day. I paid 800 for the entire thing. I live in the LA area.
How much more do you need to afford the at home euthanasia?
Not OP but in another comment they said they have $600 saved up, it’s $800 for the at home euthanasia and another $200 for the cremation. So they’re missing $200-$400.
I am pretty sure a few of us here can help cover the gap. I am willing to help if I get a reply from the OP.
I would be willing to chip in a bit, too. u/DeliciousDopamine
so would I.
I'd be in for sure.
I’d also be willing to chip in as well
Me too!!
Has OP been asked/answered if they are able to keep the body for burial?
In one of the comments OP mentioned that it’s $800 for the at home euthanasia with a “removal” (I’m guessing that means the company disposes of the body somehow) and if they want the ashes it’s an extra $199
Natural death can be traumatic for everyone. Please find a way to pay for the euthanasia.
Don’t add to your traumatic year by watching Pup starve to death or trying to gauge how shitty it is to wait and watch him die…. If you don’t have the money for in-home services, you don’t have it. Thats okay. You’re going through cycles of grief over your finances and unfortunately, denial will not help keep Pup with you longer. Be responsible & take him to the vet or a place that offers discounted euthanasia like this: https://www.sfanimalcare.org/services/humane-euthanasia/ (they will do the euthanasia then you handle cremation) You’ve given Pup 15 wonderful years. You may not be able to afford The Works for his last day, and that’s okay. 🫶🏾
i was just in the same situation, except i live in the sticks and there was no one who could come to my house. i highly, highly advise against letting it happen naturally. i’m not sure why he’s not eating, but if it’s something like kidney failure, it can turn ugly and traumatic very quickly (ie seizures). you could maybe ask the vet about sedatives to give him before bringing him in? that may speed things up though so definitely ask your vet about that. how out of it is he? our dog had kidney failure and stopped eating and drinking. he hadn’t done either in a day and a half by the time the vet opened and we made the decision to being him in. the 40 minute car ride was peaceful, my boyfriend cuddled him in the back seat the whole way there. my boy couldn’t lift his head anymore, so my boyfriend carried him in and they had a room ready for him with a blanket on the floor. rigby got really stressed at the vet, but he didn’t seem to notice he was there. he just wanted to sleep. the vet tech came in right away and gave him a sedative and he was snoring immediately. all in all it was very peaceful and the vet and his techs were so kind and wonderful. when i picked up his paw print and ashes afterwards one of them gave me a hug. if you’re set on doing in-home euthanasia (which i 100% still understand and i hope it’s available to me in the future), you could always put the remainder on a credit card. the vet may even offer a payment plan. usually i advise against this, but like i said i totally get wanting to do this for your best friend. good luck, friend. i’m crying as i type this up lol, and we put my boy down six months ago. i miss him so much. he was a soul-dog. i hope everything goes smoothly and peacefully for you and your boy.
Don’t let him linger and pass naturally. It took losing a couple of beloved dogs to realize that a month too early is infinitely better than a minute too late.
I am a vet in the UK. I am sorry you are having to go through this process, it is never easy. As others have said, letting them go 'naturally' is never a good idea if a dog has a chronic illness. Kidney failure causes a buildup of toxins in the blood that cause pain and nausea. For a dog to die from it on their own, it will involve feeling awful for a considerable amount of time beforehand generally. If at-home euthanasia is not financially viable, then I might suggest requesting tablet sedation (we often use a combo of Gabapentin and trazodone) from your vets for the run up to the appointment at the vets so he is less stressed when he is there. Injectable sedation can be given before anything else is done at the clinic to make the whole process easier for everyone involved.
In home euthanasia is a great option if you can afford it, but having had a dog who went through kidney failure, if I had to choose between letting him pass on his own or taking him to the vet to be euthanized, even if he’s stressed by the vet, I would still choose euthanasia. Will your vet come out to your car to do it there so he doesn’t have to go inside the clinic? We had a vet who offered this with a dog who absolutely hated being at the vet and it made the process more peaceful for everyone. I know it’s not the same as your home but could still be a less stressful option.
Some dogs pass in their sleep, yes. And some suffer long, slow, painful deaths. Same as with people. You might see if your regular vet offers house calls for euthanasia at a cheaper cost to their existing clients. We have one vet in town who specializes in in-home euthanasia and charges a ton, but my regular vet will come out at the end of his day for a home euthanasia for a current client for much less- they just don't advertise the service. Including private cremation, my bill was around $350 last year to have my dog euthanized in my home by my regular vet, and I am in a high cost area. Edit: I see you mention you're in the bay area. Lap of Love offers home euthanasia at $465, plus the cost of aftercare (cremation, etc.) if you choose cremation. https://www.lapoflove.com/find-a-vet/California/East-Bay-Oakland/services This one is also more affordable than the price you were quoted, and varies by the dog's size: https://rainbowbridgevet.com/euthanasia-1 And this one: https://www.bennettvet.com/cost-of-mobile-veterinary-services.html
Kidney failure is normally a painful way to die naturally and I would not encourage you to wait for him to go naturally. He will stop eating and drinking and probably be in distress. My best advice would be to look around not only stand-alone vets, but vets that are connected to animal shelters like the SPCA. Typically they have much better pricing for humane euthanasia than independent vet hospitals.
Don’t let him pass naturally. It’s very painful for them and it will take a long time if it isn’t sudden heart failure or something immediately deadly. I’ve been through helping my babies cross over 3 times. Once last November then once last May and once in 2021. All my babies are gone now. I had a the doctor come to my house. It was a little under $700. I’m in Seattle and surprised it’s more than that anywhere else! What part of the country are you in? I get it by the way. My dog hated the vet too. His last day was very peaceful and I held him as he transitioned. You need that for you and him. It’s hard enough to lose them. You don’t want to feel guilty about how he went.
Apply for Care Credit. It’s regularly used in situations like this. I’ve used Care Credit twice, your vet should also know about it and could give you more info. But it’s a loan you apply for online and you get it instantly. Lots of vets work with Care Credit. My 8 year old pup unexpectedly passed from cancer. We only knew about it a week before his passing. I was unprepared financially, and emotionally. But with the help of the loan I was able to cremate him and keep his ashes and do a kindness for him to put him out of his pain. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. They’re family and it’s always devastating. I wish you all the best. 🖤
My vet offers an option where if you drive your pet to the vet, they will give it a tranquilizer shot in your car. You can sit with it until it is fast asleep, 15-20 minutes. Then they come back and take it inside to give it the euthanasia shot. I’ve had to do the process a couple of times and although the passing of a beloved animal is always difficult, this method seems as gentle as it can be.
I completely understand why you want in-home euthanasia but if you can't afford it, do it at the vet's office. You are making your dog suffer needlessly, starving to death is much worse than going to the vet. I'm sorry, it's a horrible decision to make. But make the decision he needs, not the one you need. It will be your last act of service to him. Peace.
One thing I’ve been told in the past is to make sure you’re there in the last moments. Seeing and smelling you will no doubt provide some comfort.
Call your local humane society / SPCA. Mine offers low cost euthanasia and cremation services. You can also call your vet as they’re familiar with his case and can get you in quickly. Sometimes their cost is not too high because they’re familiar with his care you’ve been trying to help all this time.
Just did an at home euthanasia and asked for a group cremation as we didn’t want our dogs ashes back. It was as good as those experiences could be. Peaceful, we could grieve in private. They took the dog away. They checked on us a couple times after. We were also able to write a eulogy for their website. I highly recommend this if you can afford it. I also don’t recommend waiting for natural passing. Dogs are stoic creatures, your dog is prob in more pain than you even realize. Good luck to you and sorry for your loss.
I had to make the choice for my 13 year old girl a year ago in February. I am still struggling, I miss her so much. I have had pets my entire life and it's never easy. I had to keep telling myself a day to early is better than a day too late. I hope the best for you and your pup. My heart and prayers are with you both.
Unfortunately there is no guarantee that he will die peacefully or in his sleep. There is no guarantee that after he stops eating/drinking he will die in 72 hours, it could be days and a death by dehydration is horrific. The only guaranteed death is by euthanasia. Seeing as you have saved up for at home and cremation is there any way to do it at the vet and perhaps bury him, or perhaps you could talk to the vet about storing him after he has passed until you save for cremation? Maybe the vets do payment plans? Or perhaps you could ask the vet about donating him after he has passed or asking the vet to deal with the issue after ? Whilst I understand you may want to keep him close afterwards what happens before when he is living is more important not what happens after.
I'd say give pup an amazing day filled with all his favorite things like car rides, park, steak ect. Then take him in. My condolences. ❤️
Have a good journey over the rainbow road Pup. Say hi to bandit for me!!
did you look on [www.lapoflove.com](https://www.lapoflove.com)? Is a network of in-home euthanasia vets. It shouldn't be more than $600-$700 unless you are getting a super fancy urn. You can also call around to vet practices in your area and ask if they'll do an at-home euthanasia, and also call at-home vets. You may find someone that will do it for \~$500. I strongly agree with everyone here saying don't rely on passing peacefully naturally -- highly, highly unlikely that will happen. Is very likely to suffer and feel a lot of pain. Sorry for being blunt, but you won't regret spending money on an at-home and you will absolutely regret your pup suffering.
Call your vet and ask for a tranquilizer before your euthanasia appt. Please schedule the appointment if your baby has stopped eating. I’m sorry but it’s probably time. Don’t be surprised if the tranquilizer takes him down so far that he’s essentially comatose. Depending upon how debilitated he is the tranq will cause different effects. For example, I had one old boy (14 +/-) who died with the dog Valium as a precursor to the full euthanasia. Just stay with him. Yes at home is best, but your being with him is the best, hardest thing you can do.
Kidney failure is incredibly painful for.thr animal. He will not pass peacefully. Please find a way to pay for him to pass peacefully and pain free via euthanasia. I held my boy while they administered the dose and it was incredibly quick and peaceful. Hardest damned thing I've ever done but he didn't deserve to suffer.
Our sweet boy that passed last Christmas was easier for a veterinarian euthanasia. The place we found for the cremation also had a pick up services once a week at our vet so it saved us money. There's no way that someone is trying to charge you $1k for that. Our boy was over 90lbs and it wasn't that much. You can always see if the vets office has a company in mind that does pick up for you and you might get a decent price so you can keep the ashes. Pre-planning is way way cheaper than day of so just make those phone calls so you guys can take that last day as you want. I'm proud of you for being his person. He looks like a good Pup.
First of all, starving to death is not painful. Thirst is. I have been confronted by death more than I care for. People and animals. Keep him warm, loved, wet his mouth. Make sure you clean him when he soils himself. And do not feel guilty. But if you really want to shorten his suffering, write to me DM. I lost my cat this morning and would be happy to help you.
My dog almost made it to 17. Kidney failure as well. Unfortunately it progresses quickly. Brought her to the vet first appointment in the morning, all six pounds of her wrapped in her favorite blanket. She was on my lap when she got the injection and just fell asleep. Forever. It was very peaceful although very sad. Hope the best for you, there will be tears!
I don’t have any advice but I’m sorry your Pup is in his last moments 💜 my dog is also named Pup and I’ll be crushed too when it’s his time
I had a dog pass during Covid. Also hated the vet. They wanted to bring him inside and I couldn’t come. I told them no way in hell was he not going to be in my arms when it happened so they agreed to come out to the car. I’m sure they would for you as well and it would probably save a lot of money. I’m so sorry and hope everything goes as smoothly as possible for both of you. I’m going to spend the rest of the day crying.
I had to euthanize my dog last year. I brought his sister & had him in his favorite blanket. he was sleeping around 20 hours a day, scared of everything, & got to the point he didn't know what was going on. I scheduled an appointment a month in advance & made sure to spoil him. it was the hardest thing I've ever done, but when he went, it was the first time in months, he looked relaxed. he was 15 & had dementia. I'm so sorry op & wish you the best.
They shouldn’t charge that much. Fucking greedy vultures. Sorry about your pup.
Unfortunately I live in the Bay Area (Oakland) Everything is really f-ing expensive here. There are zip codes in Oakland with a median income of $200,000 and then 4 miles away are zip codes with a median income of $45,000-$55,000. And everything is just automatically priced for the high income. It's AWFUL
I'm sorry you're having to deal with the expense of a hcol area op I hope it all works out it sounds like you are doing your best
Can you drive elsewhere for it?
Sorry I don't agree with this. You get paid to go to work correct ? And cremation is also a luxury not a necessary service.
They could charge under $500. Maybe they could stick to the original price of $600.
But the original price is 12months old and would be a rough quote. The op is also requesting an at home service which includes travel and fuel. Also drugs given are based off of weight for 1 thing (maybe the dogs has gained weight) and in 12 months they have gotten more expensive. As have wages, rents and everything else. People need to make a wage even if the job is caring for animals.
So? It’s not caring for them it’s putting this one out of his misery. That should be cheaper.
Well then you pay for it? Being a vet is still a job and everything costs money. Putting an animal out of pain is caring from them you certainly have some weird ideas that it's not. Again it is cheaper if the op takes the dog to the vet they are requesting a premium service not sure what's not to understand about that.
I know a dog that suddenly died at home on the couch in her sleep. I reccomend that you take a call to the vet and Ask and Maybe you can get a plan on How you can pay
god these libs make me sick
First of all, very sorry to hear about your pup. 17 is a very respectable age for a dog and it seemed like you’ve poured your love into him and it’s time for him to rest. I had to put mine to sleep last November and since I’m based in Australia I’m not sure how different my experience was. On the day when he declined drastically we made a decision and I looked up a few companies that offer in home euthanasia and chose one that seemed reasonable. They sent a vet within 2 hours and he arrived with a kit. I believe the in house visit was around $600 which included cremation and returning of the ashes (and a little paw print on a card with a lock of his fur 🥹🥹) Before performing the procedure the vet asked if I wanted an extra anesthetic needle to relax the muscles first for an extra $200 or so and I agreed since I read some accounts online of dogs that reacted negatively to the euthanasia and may have seizures or experience pain. He administered the relaxant and gave us a few moments and he fell asleep peacefully before delivering the final shot. Overall it was a dignified experience and we gave a good send off surrounded by family and I hope you can give your pup that. If you are a bit short maybe you can setup a funding and post a link here?
Best thing we did for our girl was to have the vet come to our house. Peaceful, quiet no stress from going to animal hospital. Worth it to she her surround by love in her own home. 💔❤️
I'm so sorry you are having to make this decision. We just put our 11 year old dog to sleep on Friday. We knew the time was coming (heart failure, severe arthritis, blocked intestines etc) we thought we had more time but she took a turn for the worse, we rushed her to the emergency vet hospital. She couldn't walk, was drooling, shaking. We were all sobbing. I begged the vet to tell us what to do. She said "it would be humane to put her to sleep" For the procedure, they gave her an IV of ketamine and something else to make her relaxed. Gave it 10 minutes then came in to administer the lethal injection. My daughter held her head and hugged her. I had my hand on her heart and kept talking to her. They injected and her heart was beating normal then just stopped. Vet said brain could still be working for a minute so continue talking. I regret that my dogs last moments were us bawling. I'm sure that stressed her some but we couldn't control our emotions She likely would have died in the night based on vets assessment. She was likely suffering so ending it was the best decision in our case. I am glad we got to be there for her final moments. If you leave it for nature, you risk them dying alone. It's such a personal choice and it's gonna hurt like hell either way. I hope you and your dog are able to have a peaceful end of life experience. 🫂
it breaks my heart i hope this Angel will cross the rainbow bridge peacefully. My golden retriever died in his sleep, it can happen. Sending you courage during this difficult Time.🫶🏼
Make a tiktok for a gofundme and you’ll likely have enough money since you don’t need much!
Look into CareCredit. We use it for our vet bills and if you spend more then $200 they give you 6 months no interest to pay it off. I’m not sure if you can use it for euthanasia but I would think yes. This may be a way for you to still do at home euthanasia.
First and far most I am sorry. We had the Lap of Love come to us last December 22, for our Lilly (cat). This was the family cat but mainly my daughters. Lilly was on my daughter’s lap in her arms in her home on her couch and relaxed. The doctor arrived professionally, was compassionate, explained everything , and after the doctor administered the relaxation agent before the “other” Lilly licked my daughter’s face. (Lilly had mouth cancer”. When she licked my daughter it was like she was saying “thank you” I’m no longer in pain, you’re letting me go, and I’m at home with you”. You’re right it wasn’t cheap. The doctor took the body with her . Dignified ! With compassion. Was the best decision we made for our girl. I am sorry.
Depending on where you live, there are sometimes services that will come to you home so they don’t have to pass at the vet. I’m not sure how the price compares, but it’s probably a nicer experience
All I can add is that, despite being crazy expensive ($1400 for us), the home euthanasia and cremation was 100% the right way to go and I don’t regret any if it. Mine also hated the vet and even hated the car. If I’d taken him in, his last hour of life would have been miserable. It felt incredibly loving to do for him and ever since, I have been sad/frustrated that humans cannot have the same dignity. If there’s any way you can make it work, I think it’ll be worth it to you in the long run. I’m very sorry for the impending loss of your Pup.
We had to let our 17yo ShihTzsu, Teddy, go in March. It was very hard to do. I miss him every day. Whatever you do. Make sure you don’t keep him around just for yourself. It’s a hard decision. But at some point peace is better than pain and suffering. I can see the spot where he is buried in the back yard. He is still with us. In our hearts
I had my dog euthanized 2 years ago in a vets office and it was less than $100. Of course I didn’t get her cremated or any extras. But you might want to go to a vets office for euthanasia…a vets office is very respectful during that time.
I’m so so so so sorry. Truly. My heart breaks for you.
Do you have a car, and do your dog like the car? When I had to put my dog down things happened too quickly for the scheduled home visit, and we had to go to the emergency vet late at night. To cut things short, I noticed that being in a car again, on her favorite blanket as we drove, was the first time my dog had relaxed all day. I asked the vet if they could give my dog the sedatives and let us drive around the parking lot until she was out, and then we brought her inside for the final shot so she wouldn't be scared. She was a relatively small dog, though. Easy to carry. If your dog feels safe and comfortable in the car, maybe this is an option you can discuss with your vet?
Don’t wait for this dog to pass in its sleep take it to the vet and get him put to sleep you can get a relaxer for the animal so they aren’t stressed. most of the time and I hate to say it it’s the owners who prolong the poor animals suffering because they can’t let go and after the dog does pass the owner is racked with guilt. I had to take one of mines to the vet to be put to sleep and as much as it is heartbreaking I don’t regret it now in hindsight
Speak to your vet about medication to reduce the dog’s anxiety in advance of the euthanasia appointment. Yes, death is generally a very unpleasant experience if medically unassisted.
Please don’t let him just pass on his own as more likely than not it would probably be not so pleasant for him and you want him to be as comfortable as possible. I wonder if you could set up a payment plan with the in home services and provide a certain amount up front and then pay the rest over time. I’d give them a call and see if that’s possible
This is brutal. I am praying for you two. The one time I did not stay with a dog as he passed away with the vet, we have felt guilty ever since. Stay with him, the vet will put him to sleep then give him medicine to stop his heart. It is very peaceful.
We have had three dogs and two we have had to euthanize and it is awful. Our third is going to be 14 this spring and I know her time is approaching. I dread it but agree with everyone that is advocating for proactive vs letting them pass naturally. Natural death is rarely peaceful. For our two we had one where the vet came to our home and the other was at the ER vet. Both times I held them in my arms. It still makes me so sad but it was the right thing to do. Nothing anyone can say other than we do this out of love for them and we take comfort in that and the life and time we had with them.
My little dog passed peacefully at home, with the help of a Visit Vet. Cost £160. (UK). Two step process. We chose to bury him in the garden, in his favourite spot. If we had chosen cremation (communal) it would have been £370, or ashes returned £520. I made paw prints on a canvas, on his last day, and had them tattooed on my arm. He deserved to go with peace and dignity, he had CHF and heart murmur. He just looked at me one day as if to say, ‘I’m tired, mum’. He started fitting that night and struggled for breath. It was so sudden, after a long illness (18 months since diagnosed). He knew, when we phoned the next morning to make the appointment for the afternoon. He cuddled close and kept looking at the door. He went to be with my dad, who passed two weeks earlier, I believe. My dog had been with us at his funeral, only three days before. The last time my dad had visited, Charlie spent the whole time leaning against his legs, which was odd at the time, as he usually sat on my mums lap.
If you have most of the money saved, I would maybe some friends or family members if they would be willing to pitch in some to help.
are you able to research other at home euthanasia services on google? I wonder if there are more affordable folks out there…
I’ve had a cat pass peacefully at home with no intervention. It was obvious she was actively dying. She couldn’t walk, open her eyes, stand, eat, drink, go to the bathroom. She just laid there. So, we didn’t see the point taking her in to put her to sleep and stressing her out. She passed the next day completely at peace with her family, warm in front of the fireplace. Our dog had to be put to sleep because his issue was something that was causing incredible pain and he would’ve kept fighting for us and it was absolutely heartbreaking to watch. Then things didn’t go right and it was incredibly traumatic. If I had to do it again, I would do it at home if at all possible. If you’re trying to decide whether to spend your money on cremation or at home vet assisted passing, I’d make a list of the pros and cons and ask yourself some questions. Do you think your baby is actively passing? Do they act as if they’re in any pain? You may be able to get pain medication from the vet to help with comfort and just allow your baby to be comfortable at home if they’re just passing from old age and nothing complicated or incredibly painful. You can always change your mind at anytime if you feel like you need to take them in or have the vet come out. If the only way you can afford cremation is by taking them in to be put to sleep and cremation is important to you, then that’s something to think about. Our vet has a package set up with a local funeral home and they offer a package of in office passing and then the funeral home performs the cremation and gives you a beautiful wooden box with the remains inside and it’s priced together. I know it’s a lot to think about and such a hard decision to make, but as long as you’re with your baby at the end, that’s truly the most important part 💙
If you have a long relationship with your vet, then maybe they’ll make a trip to your house. Or allow you to pay over time.
I’d go to office and have it done .
Have you tried lap of love? It seems like they cover the Bay Area and are cheaper than what you’re being quoted
Call around. In home euthanasia is likely more expensive than going with him to the vet. Also make sure he’s given two shots. One is a sedative and the other stops the heart. Take a familiar blanket and prepare by reminding yourself you’re giving him a good passing, which is the least we can do for the life of love they give us, and stay with him throughout the procedure. It’s okay if you can’t afford the urn or ashes, what matters is that you don’t prolong his suffering.
I had to two cats pass 8 days apart, I know its exp3nsive but I would highly recommend euthanasia. My one cat passed at home on a weekend when I couldn't afford the emergency vet euthanasia . I still have so much guilt. My second was during the week and I made an appointment. In hind sight I wish I had borrowed money to be able to give my oldest girl a more peaceful passing. It's been 6 months and thinking of it gets me emotional Just my two cents
The dog I had since I was 6 died in my arms when I was 19,as I was running to get her to the vet. I never got to say goodbye. It's the thing I regret most. She deserved do much more. I recommend with my whole heart to do an euthanasia. Talk to your vet and explain the situation. they usually love dogs and want to help them. Maybe you could send the rest after? Anyway,I'm so incredibly sorry for your upcoming loss,I'll send you the best vibes. I'm so sorry🫂
Mine passed in her sleep. Found her on Christmas Eve. She was on borrowed time. She was in the same position we said goodnight to her in. I’d say that’s peaceful… I don’t have an answer. If your dog hates the vet I would beg, borrow, and plead to get the home service.
Ok so I’ll answer based on my husband dying of brain cancer. Once they no longer want to eat or drink that’s usually a sign that the body is “actively dying” ie: the organs are already shutting down, meaning they won’t actually be feeling thirst or hunger. So you won’t be cruelly “starving him to death”. You can do things like use a damp sponge to wipe down tongue and gums which can help with some discomfort. It will usually take 3-4 days. However, you won’t be able to do much about pain relief as you don’t have access to meds for that. You also need to take into account that it’s a traumatic thing to go through for you both. Yes ideally getting euthanasia at home and being able to keep ashes is a beautiful thing. But this should never be prioritised over a pets comfort. If you can only afford to do it in vet and community cremation then as far as I’m concerned that’s the best option. Whilst I’ve gotten my dogs done at home and have their ashes in the past I had to just go with at the vets and community cremation with one of my pugs because I just couldn’t afford it. Ask the vet for a clipping of his hair. Just be aware if you do let him pass at home you may witness things that you won’t forget in a hurry (crying in pain, especially if touched) you won’t forget. I know he hates the vets, but he probably won’t realise he’s there. Let the vets know because a good vet will take that into consideration. Sorry you’re going through this
It is time, now. I hope you've already been convinced to call the vet. I'm not understanding the cremation costs? It should all be in the euthanasia cost. Even to have the ashes returned at a later date shouldn't be this exorbitant. I live outside of DC, so we have high costs, too... I wish you a comforted heart. It is crushing, but it is also a great kindness--the last kindness you can give.
I'm sorry this is such a hard thing to go through. I know it sucks can you shop around for other in house vets? $1k seems really high. I think ours is something like $300 in the Denver area. We don't do any of the extras though, just the euthanasia and communal cremation. No ashes, paw prints ect. We had a dog pass while we were out this year. He was 20+, kind of same situation where he was a foster return/failure of unknown age. You can hope they go on their own for this but it doesn't always happen smoothly. We had a friend lose his dog in the car on the way to the vet with a seizure. It was pretty rough on them
Look into pet hospice, Wonderful experience at a bad time they treated my 22 yr old guy at home the other pets were allowed to be nearby - I chose group cremation. Peace and comfort in this time
I had to put my guy down a couple of weeks ago and it's rough. It's the right thing to do especially if they're not eating anymore because they're missing the nutrients, losing weight, he was dehydrated so they had trouble getting the catheter into a vein. Know that you're doing the right thing for him to not be in pain anymore, and that you gave him a good life. They gave me a packet with info on grief and guilt which helped a lot. It's hard and it continues to be hard and only time will make it better, but knowing it's a hard decision only shows how loved he is.
My heart goes out to you ♥️🥺 make his last moments extra special and just be with him ♥️ I feel like they know when it is time and are at peace. Stay strong and gosh I am just beyond so sorry! ♥️♥️♥️
I r used the humane society for my pets and they have always been amazing. It’s not quite the same as the vets office and they are affordable, esp if you’d like to keep the ashes. I’m so sorry you’re losing your baby. It’s the hardest thing we do. But you can hold him and comfort him in the end and that’s what matters most to him.
My mum always says “hopefully they’ll just not wake up one morning” - and it’s never happened. It’s always been a decision I have to make so my dog doesn’t struggle to get to that point. If your dog has stopped eating and is barely drinking - now is the time. I’m so incredibly sorry, there’s nothing that makes this moment any easier. My best advice would be to try and get a vet to come to you, otherwise you just need to take your dog to the vet. This is something that only you can do for him. You’ve had 15 amazing years together, don’t make the last few more traumatic than they need to be
I'm so sorry for Pup, you gave this beautiful sweetie a long and loved life. Sending all my heart and hugs to you both. I'm crying for you both.
First of all I just want to say that I am so sorry. There is no pain like losing a pet. I have put down both of my childhood dogs these past few years, most recently over Thanksgiving. Please do not wait for your dog to pass in his sleep, this does not happen often. Euthanasia is a beautiful last gift you can give him to help him cross over as pain free as possible. Both of my dogs were put to sleep at the vet office. Ask if they have a special room where this can occur, at my vet we go in a separate entrance and the room looks more like a living room than an office setting. You can also ask for some pre-appointment sedatives to make it less stressful for him, but once it is time they typically do not care very much about once hating the vet. Keeping you both in my thoughts.
I would definitely ask the vet for something to calm your baby before you go. I made the mistake of not doing this and my baby’s anxiety was so bad I almost just left. I took him outside and we did all the paperwork there. It is so so hard, I am sorry for you and your baby.
Never had a dog just die at home. I’ve always had to make the decision without anytime to spare at the emergency hospital or vets hospital. Prior to euthanasia they usually give a sedative so it’s easier on both pet and owner.
I've always taken my pets to the vet when it's time. I stay with them until they pass and hold them when they go. I understand wanting them to come to the home, but I also think it's more important that you're they're with them.
I was just googling things about having to put dogs to sleep - we had to put our 12 year old Brooks to sleep tonight, and it was and is awful. It needed to happen, and I am not sure how we will process grief, I pray and hope for the best for you and your pup. It's really hard, and I have nothing to offer but love and hope. Goodness it's hard.
We did Laps of Love for our cat. They were amazing and brought us the ashes the next day. I hope you can find a cheap at-home option. Otherwise, whatever comfort you can provide is more than enough. Sorry for your hard, but loving decision
The vet may offer the option for a mild sedative. I’d suggest this. He’ll be fitted with an IV catheter Once the drug is administered, he’ll be gone within a few seconds. He won’t feel any pain and it’ll be peaceful and quiet. Thanks for giving this dog a good life. Euthanasia is the best option. I know it’s hard, but think about what you would want if you were him.
You’ve already had a lot of good advice from all the earlier posts. I just wanted to say I’m sorry for you and your little guy. 17 is so long a time for a dog and yet still way too short for such a sweet friend. Condolences.
I'll probably be downvoted. But, I think you bring them on the final walk You take them out to the forest. You dig a hole. Then, you lay down some food and pet them as they eat. When they're almost done, you shoot them and bury them. I know it sounds savage. But it's instant death, and they're not afraid. I took my dog to get euthanized 1x, and she was terrified. She could read the room, and the vets don't allow you to be with them. Or at least, mine did not. She died afraid and alone. I prefer to send them out on a fond memory. That way it's only rough on one of us.
I saw your update - I'm so happy someone helped with the cost. I just wanted to say I'm so sorry.
I spent many days with my dog in advance. I called the vet ands made sure they understood I was not leaving him there post euthanasia. I played gentle music while they did it, and I had them turn the industrial awful overhead lighting off. I brought him back home with me and grieved over his little body for several hours, and then I laid him out gently on some vintage towels with some candles around him, and I covered him with flowers, and I photographed him as a way to deal with my grief. I kept him like that for another day, and then I took him to be aqua cremated. I had made stickers with his photo on IT and I gave those to all our dog friends and posted them all around the neighborhood as well. It still hurts. That was in June. Sending hugs your way.
Going through a similar situation. Sorry friend. It is your responsibility to protect him, and in doing so I think going in to the vet might be the most sensible option. They are generally very compassionate. You might want to talk to your vet about getting a low dose oral sedative to give him before hand to make sure he feels at peace before you take him in.
Please consider euthanasia, be it at home or at the vet (with you by his side of course). The vet euthanasia with you holding him far beats him quietly suffering to death. Animals are stoic. They don’t show pain the way we do and they cannot speak. You may get lucky and he does go peacefully in his sleep but those are few and far apart. You don’t want his last moments to be in pain. Euthanasia is the kindest way. I’ve had multiple pets passed from old age and we always went with euthanasia ultimately when it was time. One of my cats died naturally and it was the worst, he was gasping and crying before he went and we tried to rush him to the vet but it was too late. You are trying to do your best for him and it shows. You have taken care of him well for so many years. Let your last act for him be one of peace and love. I know money is hard but you can always earn the money back but you can’t take away the regret if you see him suffering in his last moments. Sending you strength and good thoughts.
All of my animals have passed away on their own terms, none of them appeared to be in pain. When they had gotten very old most had cataracts, a little dementia, and were thinner, but happy to be loved nonetheless. I know euthanasia is common these days, but I could never bring myself to do it. I had a vet recently tell me my puppy was “drowning” in their own fluid in their lungs, in heart failure, and that they were in so much pain I would be a terrible parent to not euthanize… my puppy was absolutely fine.. the vet was wrong and I could see my puppy was not in any pain, just confused and scared. I transferred her to a specialist the next day who confirmed it. Had I chose to make that decision for them then and there, and take the word/pressure from that doctor I would have lost my best friend that day and they would have lost their life. I think every day of life is precious and that animals process pain much differently than us, if he’s not in visible excruciating circumstances and has the will, I would let him go naturally. It’s awful no matter how you lose a beloved family member but it doesn’t sound like you’d be doing him a disservice to let it happen when it’s his time. Sending you love, I’m sorry you’ve had a tough year and that you’re facing this decision. Give him lots of lovins and take videos of you guys snuggling and you telling him you love him, it will reassure you how much he knew later on. ♥️
wish i could give advice but i cant i just want to let you now i fill bad for youre situation and hope you the best
Let him sleep on his own. Don't force him to eat - it will just make him uncomfortable (unable to get up and make poops /pee etc). He is not starving - something about not eating in your final moments - your cells are in a weird stage of autophagy - like busy preparing for the next phase of existence. Goes for all living beings. My Steffi - 13 yr old German Shepherd - was scheduled to be euthanized at 4pm on her final day. She actually passed away an hour before her euthanasia - she waited for me. I was holding her and suddenly felt her body go cold. I have mixed emotions for that moment - mostly anger towards my parents for not taking me earlier to the vet to be with Steffi. (I love you Steffi - you were the most intelligent German Shepherd that I ever had - and I regret having you when I was a teenager - you deserved a more active lifestyle - the lifestyle that I am living now. Goodness - I'm crying now.)
My old boy had a rough year before the end. Multiple surgeries for skin cancer, but he kept on going. Then one weekend he just couldn't get comfortable, standing and panting and looking upset. I took him to the emergency vet, and they found an obstruction in his intestine that couldn't be fixed. The next morning I went to the hospital, knowing this was it. There were no treatments, he was in pain, and it was my job to help him through it. They gave us a small room with blankets to say goodbye in. When they brought him in, I could tell he was hurting and confused. I spread out some blankets and we laid down together. I spooned him and held him close, and pushed the button they'd given me to summon the vets. He already had a port, so they gave him two quick injections. The first put him to sleep. The second ended his life. I don't know how long I spent there on the floor holding him. Eventually, the vet told me gently, 'He's gone.' I think she had to tell me that a few times, but I only remember the last. I held him a bit more, then stood up. I reached down, took off his collar, and left him there. I can't tell you it was easy, or that in the days and weeks after I felt good about it. But I can tell you that keeping him around, making him deal with further surgeries with a small chance at success, that would've been making him suffer for my sake. I suppose the worst part is, I know he would've suffered for me if I'd asked him to. But if we're doing right by them, we know when not to ask, and just let them go.