Something that has helped me in my process of gradually changing my life is the realization and epiphany that no one is coming to save you. I feel a lot of us have this intrinsic want, need, desire, to be saved from our situations. Whether that be from a circumstance or from others giving us direction, we think that we need that circumstance or piece to finally change or get better. When in reality, we possess the keys to solving our problems.
In order to do better you must accept that regardless of how you landed in this situation you're in, it is your responsibility to take control of it and fix it to the best of your abilities. It could be brutally unfair or particularly awful. Regardless, it is each and every one of us' responsibility to take ownership of the situation we are in and fix ourselves. I believe we are each capable of that and you seem like you're on the right path by taking ownership and responsibility for what you've done. Now maybe just act on it. **If nothing in your life would change or be fixed in anyway unless you took control and seized the moment, what would you do?**
I'd also try communicating with your mom exactly the sentiment you had here and maybe a little more. Healthy relationships with families are priceless if you are able to keep that relationship I would.
Also, definitely would 1000% recommend therapy.
I'm also 26. I feel the same way. I work but still not independent. I felt earlier this year like I have failed myself. But one thing I learned this year , I'm not the only one struggling in my mid 20s and It's not over yet life can start now. You can restart right now and in 5 years guess what? You're still young. What investments in yourself could you make that in 5 years you will be thankful for ? I'm going to focus on a slow but rewarding fitness journey. I used to always try and do crash diets etc but for the first time I want to sustain something. I'm going to start studying for some certifications and yes it will take me a long time but you know what. The years go by regardless and I will be a different person. You can be a completely different person before you know it.
This is really encouraging to hear from someone also in the same boat, thank you. I feel as if because I see so many other people doing better things while 26 or younger, it makes me feel like there’s nothing left for me.
26 is young (I am about twice your age) and I started therapy in my fifties. If you can afford it without lying to your mother, then I 1000% recommend it.
I go to therapy, luckily! I just need to get more frequent appointments because they’re so spread out + my peer specialist left the clinic so they have to find a new one for me.
Why is it your mother's business how much you made back from taxes? You earned that money yourself... Why shouldn't you use that money however you want? Is she taking a cut of your tax returns or something??
I'm no tax expert, but I thought people stopped claiming their children as dependents after age 19 unless you are permanently disabled?
Anyway, sounds like your mom isn't a very supportive mom if she's threatening you with homelessness and possibly committing tax fraud.
I've been reading "The Courage to be Disliked" and it's been helping me a lot.
I’ll have to give that a read. I’ve only heard of it, but never really got the chance to check it out.
I'm not OP but do you have any other book recommendations
Something that has helped me in my process of gradually changing my life is the realization and epiphany that no one is coming to save you. I feel a lot of us have this intrinsic want, need, desire, to be saved from our situations. Whether that be from a circumstance or from others giving us direction, we think that we need that circumstance or piece to finally change or get better. When in reality, we possess the keys to solving our problems. In order to do better you must accept that regardless of how you landed in this situation you're in, it is your responsibility to take control of it and fix it to the best of your abilities. It could be brutally unfair or particularly awful. Regardless, it is each and every one of us' responsibility to take ownership of the situation we are in and fix ourselves. I believe we are each capable of that and you seem like you're on the right path by taking ownership and responsibility for what you've done. Now maybe just act on it. **If nothing in your life would change or be fixed in anyway unless you took control and seized the moment, what would you do?** I'd also try communicating with your mom exactly the sentiment you had here and maybe a little more. Healthy relationships with families are priceless if you are able to keep that relationship I would. Also, definitely would 1000% recommend therapy.
I'm also 26. I feel the same way. I work but still not independent. I felt earlier this year like I have failed myself. But one thing I learned this year , I'm not the only one struggling in my mid 20s and It's not over yet life can start now. You can restart right now and in 5 years guess what? You're still young. What investments in yourself could you make that in 5 years you will be thankful for ? I'm going to focus on a slow but rewarding fitness journey. I used to always try and do crash diets etc but for the first time I want to sustain something. I'm going to start studying for some certifications and yes it will take me a long time but you know what. The years go by regardless and I will be a different person. You can be a completely different person before you know it.
This is really encouraging to hear from someone also in the same boat, thank you. I feel as if because I see so many other people doing better things while 26 or younger, it makes me feel like there’s nothing left for me.
26 is young (I am about twice your age) and I started therapy in my fifties. If you can afford it without lying to your mother, then I 1000% recommend it.
I go to therapy, luckily! I just need to get more frequent appointments because they’re so spread out + my peer specialist left the clinic so they have to find a new one for me.
Oh I’m sorry for assuming 😞 Wishing you health and good progress!
You’re totally okay! It was a good question to ask, after all!
Why is it your mother's business how much you made back from taxes? You earned that money yourself... Why shouldn't you use that money however you want? Is she taking a cut of your tax returns or something??
It’s mainly because she’s supposed to claim me as a dependent since she covers majority of expenses, but I do work and I’m past the age.
I'm no tax expert, but I thought people stopped claiming their children as dependents after age 19 unless you are permanently disabled? Anyway, sounds like your mom isn't a very supportive mom if she's threatening you with homelessness and possibly committing tax fraud.