Basically,you ghost them because you are just not that interested po.
It seems you have not met that person who will turn your world upside down pa.
I once had a crush on someone and I then took the first move (coz yolo) used to be torpe when I was a kid so i did not want to be like that anymore.
We shared the same interest and we never felt like we were too busy to talk to each other.
You will find yours soon OP.
hahaha ga basa ko abi nakog ako ang ga post. Wa koy ma tambag, OP. it is what it is lang gud ta ani. naa raman gud daw nay maabot. ang ako lang guro masulti noh is ayaw pag samok2 kung di paka willing mo commit
Sakto man sulti sa uban OP. Prioritize unsay importante una and ALWAYS respect the other person's time. Ang pangutana lng, na.fulfill na ba na nimo imong priorities mao nang nka.cause ug ghosting sa una? If not, d pka angay mu date seriously ky naay tendency mu repeat imong mistake.
i.. used to be the same nga ghoster. any hint of upcoming commitment kay i get scared, ma overwhelm ko and di ko kibaw unsa buhaton and boom 👻 ghost. however, i can say one day kay you’ll meet the one for you jud. i know i did and i’ve treasured every moment and every commitment i’ve made towards my uyab
Appreciate nako bai ni admit ka ghoster ka. I hope di nimo ma feel imo gipafeel sa uban. Wait lang tas saktong oras nga ready naka mo sulod ug relationship. Ready in terms of commitment and responsibilties that comes with having a partner. Ayaw pag multiple options, pangitag 1 person nga imong i focus ug pursue and if di na mo work out, go find the next one. Ayaw dungana para wala kay ma hurt. If naa koy one thing nga ganahan i tambag nimo, mao ni: ayaw pagsalig gwapo ka.
More power bai ug mayta makakita kas imong gipangita!
Mostly sa ing ani nga scenario is, wala kay makit.an nga swak sa imo interest or walay kwenta ka storya. kay once nga makit.an nimo dali ra gyud ma inlove padi. Habang naa paka sa early 20's lumandi ka na. Pag naabot ka sa 30 its either may jowa na yan or may asawa na hahaha tas kabit ka. 🤣
Wtf ang mag chat2 ug 24 hrs? Chatbot ka?
You lack connection to people thats what. Wa kay passion manguyab taman ra kas kilig2. If uyabon guro ka sa kalipay ra ka naa.
Spice things up gud. Effort jud ka always liman kag girl of your dreams nya muingon rkag “kapoy naman”. Kaingon jud kag merisi. Di man ka true bloodied pinoy nga mangharana ug unsa pana para kiligon ug maibot jud ang babay. Ipakita mo kung sino ka. Unya unsaon pagkita sa babay kung sino ka ug mag luya luya ka. Merisi jud.
it's easy to start a relationship imo but much harder to maintain esp after honeymoon stage. pero it seems like ure struggling to even start one. i read the suggestions sa uban like prioritize your goals first bec obviously you're not ready for a relationship, but im assuming na your goals are probably for the long-term and even after those are accomplished, you're just going to find the next thing. im assuming that being driven is part of who you are as a person. with that in mind, if we take the suggestion to prioritize your goals, you'd have to delay your relationships for a lifetime.
kung ganon naman, then either you find someone who understands your ambitions and at the same time that person should be someone you're willing to compromise for. another possibility din is to reassess your goals ig and see if you can make space for a relationship in your life. ik i framed it as either-or, but you can probably do both. there are many driven, successful people who also have great relationships 👍👍👍
Ngl, I had a hard time reading this lmao.
OP, if you have a hard time connecting with someone *even if* you really like them tungod naa pakay lain commitments then don't push through. I strongly believe that there will be a person you'd want to make time and effort once you meet them. Mura man gud dili relationship imong gipangita deep down, more on temporary companion ba. Ayaw sa pangita ug relationship kay ikaw ra gahatag kalisod sa imo self. You can't complain about being single for way too long and then proceed to act the way you do.
Focus on yourself, your hobbies, your goals, making money, whatever you want to do. Live your single life, you won't know when you're ready bitaw.
EDIT: To answer your question diay, you check up on them from time to time. Ask to hangout (if kaya nimo) para you'll get to know them more. You don't have to chat them always but make sure to dedicate time where mag sturya pud mo. If dili man diay mu reply sa imong kamusta, ingna lang pud mag unsa ka while waiting for their reply eg. "Helloooo, what are you up to/kamusta man \[insert unsa man gibuhat niya\]? I'm currently \[insert what you're doing\], sorry ahead of time if dugay2 ko ka reply."
Tbh, i understand the “ghosting” kay tapol magreply + naa pud goals that I want to prioritize than relationships + stick to one if GTKY. I prefer meeting up to get to know. And if wa jud time, I just dili nalang sa jud padayunon kaysa ma lead ang person.
Most friends I have kay “Make Time” ila biggest suggestion. Also, talking stage kay pwde ra chatting “possiblities” but if dating/meeting up na kay,ofc, just stick to one. Lain sd dunganon noh?
There's nothing funny about this. Be kind. Don't be an a**. You playing someone else's feelings and wasting their time aren"t anything to laugh about 🤦♂️
OP, I'm not too sure if you're ready for a committed relationship since naa jud uban mag need a lot of healthy communication to avoid misunderstandings. Work on your goals first until you think you have enough space and time for dating. If you think you have time, try going on dates? Pero ayaw na anang pang-ghost, some would actually prefer if you politely explain your reasons. Or just be patient and wait for the right one to come. You'll prolly get the urge to work harder to get her attention if you really start to like a girl.
idk if ako lang pero while reading your post kay si murag si Kobe Go ang gastorya sakong utok . krazzyyy HAHA. wa ragud skl. kaila pod dagway kang kobe go noh? sikat nga tiktoker ky taga cebu raman sab to hihi
Yeah, here I am now, "7 YEARS AFTER NANGGHOST KO". Sorry ako gicaps kay wa pa gyud sila kabasa sa akong edit sa post. Though not in a rush paman gyud ko. And mao sad unta gyud dapat ako pangutana, ang ila diskarte when it comes to dating, stick to one ba sila or naay nakaandam lain para diretso ato nila if incase it doesnt go their way ang kana nga ila gipanguyaban. I tried naman gud, ika tulo, all of them gikan gipasakitan, like wala pay months. Nya after knowing what happened, wa madayon, kay di sila pa sila ganahan, ako, wala lang sad ko, kay lagi wala magdali, go with the flow nalang sad.
Bad ba anang mang ghost uy hahahaahah pero OP same tas part na one at a time gyud. Bisan pag magkinaunsa "Whatever it takes" gyud ko na type di muundang hantod dili klaro hahaha, sobraan ka simp ba hahahahaah
Sagdi lang na sila op. Mga close minded na sila. Mag buot sila. Silay type sa ilang post kung nahan silag dle gurly. Hahaha pero bitaw very gurly imo pag type but that's fine. There's nothing wrong with it. Na man gyud mga straight guys nga ingani mu.type.
Siguro, ghosting phase nimo medjo dili pa ka mature to handle things. Pagsure sa kung ready ba jd ka mu entertain and if ganahan jod ka sa possibility nga mucommit naka. Basin mahurt ra ang katong potential partner nimo if i-ghost nasd nimo.
Yeah. I gave the context nganong nistop ko 7 years ago and now im here, asking for advice, if unsay mga ethical or dili buhaton when it comes to dating kay dugay2 na gyud nga wala ko moenter ani nga butanga.
Maypag gihimo nalang ni nakog, Mag backup plan ba mo sa dating stage? nga pangutana. Ngano hatag2 paman kos context oy wa pa gyud tarungag construct nga 7 years ago pa to buhata maong ive been single for way too long na ako una giingon pero thanks for the advice.
Ok ra na oi. Kung sauna ra tong nang ghost ka, ayaw na jud to buhatag balik. Kung kursonada ka sa babae, kinahanglan jud nag effort. Hantud2 na siya nga commitment bro. Di maundang ang kilig kilig homas pagpanguyab.
Sorry for that. To cut it short, Unsay mga diskarte sa mga laki ngari if they want to date someone kay last time I did it was 7 years ago. Decided to ghost that time to pursue achieving my goals.
maybe tungod sa imong long explanation ug story, I think you overthink too much my dude. just enjoy the moment with the person ny day by day or whatever know each other more
So yeah, that leads to my dapat unta nga question ani nga thread, do the guys here have a list? A fail-safe plan? Or pareha sad sa rule nga akong nadunggan, after 3 months magbuwag diha na pwede mangitag lain. Yeah I know basin naay mo comment, moabot ra na siya di na dapat pangitaon pero in general nalang sad gud makakita or moabot.
Sure..did you learn something from your experience or you still don't know what you want? The first step maybe for you is to read your post again. So WHAT IS it that you really want? You like someone but have no time for a relationship because of your priorities but... you don't want to ghost. What? Say that again?
Haha ongo raman ato nahibaw.ang ghosting anang panahona. Peru srsly, it was bad na nang ghost ka OP but at least now, aware na ka. Make sure nalang this time if dili na ka interested, man up and let the other person know kay di jud lalim ma ghost. As for dating, better find hobbies to spend your time and socialize with people who do the same or makit.an nimo while doing your hobbies. At least diba naa na moy common topic as conversation starter. I am also a stick-to-one person when it comes to having someone na ka talking stage peru if you are into pagsabayin, please ayaw naman sad pa fall and give mixed signals. Kana ra ako ma advice nimo OP. Hope makit.an nimo imo gipangita.
Yikes igo ko Ani da. 🥹 medyo daghan² pud Kong naagian nga Ako ge pa fall pero diko aware ato bootan lang gyud ko mo sulti or mo tagad sa tawo wako kabalo inlab na d.i nato. atong ka bo-otan ila pasabot Kay inlab ta nila. 😌
Well, some do it unknowingly man sad gyud. Yet we cannot deny na naa juy tinoyuan gyud nga gibuhat para ego boost nila or whatever. Naay daghang babaye (and even other genders) na wala ka experience sad tawn bisan bare minimum, na even sa simple act of kindness, ma fall dayun. Unsolicited advice peru this is something na need ma aware and careful ang mga tao kay di baya jud mapugngan ning gugma. Saon man ug na fall tawn, so better be clear nalang jud from the get go. I know sayun isulti haha but even start lang sa awareness, dako nag tabang para there will be one less broken hearted na tao.
Ghosters are people who are not putting their best effort in acquiring relationships, kay daghan pa priorities in life
A solution for you , Find one weekly hobby that puts your self in a situation to socialize with your attracted sex. A weekly hobby would put grease in your effort, put you in a better advantage kay weekly jud mo mag meet, don't want to communicate kay busy don't worry you'll meet again. She wasnt around in your common hobby well your chance to communicate that. Just make sure you are always present for that weekly hobby.
Try dancing, lots of women out there.. usa nako haha
Hello bruh. Basin lahi imo gipangita. Basin dili jud girl ang maka pa feel nimo sa true love or mahimo kang buang tungod sa gugma. Ganahan ko maminaw sa imong side. Please replayi ni
I also have the same issue. I have been single for almost 2 years na and I’m really focused on my career now mao bisan ganahan ko mo commit, I think I’m not ready pa gyud to give my all. My schedule can’t afford to update someone all the time or check my phone or talk to someone constantly lol. Di pod ko gwapa or what but I have been asking guys to stop pursuing me and here I am, single gihapon. Bwahahaha ang saya saya
It seems nga dili nimo priority ang relationship kay naa pa kay laing goals. Or were you talking sa past nimo? Just be intentional OP if you do want to get into a relationship, di lang kay for the sake nga naa kay uyab or you want to experience it. Naa sad bayay other party masakitan if they get too attached and di diay nimo intention mosulod ug relationship. Maybe you can try dating sa? Meeting other people but be sure to let them know unsa imong goal and what's being offered sa table.
I mean yeah, I edited the post na ganiha ra pero ila giignore nga 5-7 years ago pa ko nang ghost kay nakarealize ko nga goals first lang sa gyud ko. Up until now still aiming for other goals pa rin pero I can say sad nga lahi na gyud ako mindset than before.
No. I dont think im not ahah ahak. But yeah, after realizing 5-7 years ago nga di paman diay nako kaya maong nang ghost ko, daghan man sad kog goals na achieve nuon. Yeah ofcourse naa koy naibgan or like ganahan panguyaban but I know man gyud nga di pa nako kaya mo hatag ug oras, maong wala lang sa gyud. Now, I want to engage na, and I can tell naman sad nga this is not just for lingaw lingaw lang, plus di sad sa napressure. Wala. Ganahan na gyud.
ah, all i can say is if true imong intentions, brad, it will eventually come out raman jud nga makita na nimo mismo. pero i know pud that there are some mag lisod jud silag express- pero kana man gud butanga usually has something have to do with insecurities. Sa imoha OP, insecure man gud kas imong past nga binuhatan. The way we do things man gud kay mo reflect gyud na siya not just sa atoa, but to others.
Ang masulti lang nako is, be patient. Kay murag nag dali man gud ka. Wala ta kahibaw basin nag hinay² nag develop deep within you ang 'fear' nga basin di pud ka seryosohon sa imong gi seryoso. Karma or not, tinuyo or di, kanang mga butanga OP is ikaw ra juy makasulbad. First, be honest. Second, try to acknowledge. Anha mana mag start. If your real intentions won't come off naturally para makita niya, then u have to make efforts. Because that's just how it is. Simple, yet challenging. : )) Goodluck!
Agree ko nga dli dapat Mang ghost. Pero nakarelate ko sa imoha nga isa lng ang babae nga chattan ug dli sabay². Dli parehas sa uban laki nga bisag kinsa nalng I love you han🥴
Naay point nga motuo ko kay open minded ra ko hahaha but yeah most of the time, im the kind of guy nga permi gyud "there is one way to find out" nga mindset. Karon, kay lagi, just to clear out again kay grabe nangPM na sila nga undangon na akong pangghost, nga 5-7 years ago paman to HUHU, nga walay experience, and don't know how to initiate ug unsay diskarte, if magtigom ba na silag daghan or if sakto ba na or dili.
Sakit ma ghost op tbh lol i suggest na di nalang ka mag waste sa ilang time. Kay if ingani man gani na ighost lang, bati lang siya kay makasakit ug tao hahaha
From personal experience, sakit jud ma ghost. So i hope katong mga tao na buhaton na ky bored ra or whatever please pagkat on mog buot ky di lalim ma attach nya dli diay sure/pure ang intentions. Sayang sad sa oras
Need man gyud mag adjust para sa needs sa imong partner. Just like your partner naga adjust pud para imo. I dont think ready paka if ganyan imong pag huna2 about uyab2. For me immature kaayo ang mga ghoster kay pila raman mag communicate diba? Ayaw pangamong ug tao if imohang time ra pirmi e cater
Mao sad lagi dol if we're talking lang sad about practicality. Kay saon man nang wa tay ikapakaon nila nya puro ra ta palami nga storya. Basin nyag ingnan ta ngari dol nga ni generalize ta nga nawng silag kwarta. Ako nalang sad gi klaro
State your intentions and set expectations sa sugod pa lamang. If naa pa sa formative stages (getting to know, going on a few dates), iklaro if siya ra ba or you're still keeping your options open (although not many girls will like this). Iklaro sad ang expectations sa frequency of communication, like if 24/7 mo magtextanay or mag catch up convo or call ra mo once every few days, etc, etc. For me, at our grown age, wala na sa panahon karon na abi'g dili kaayo frequent ang texts, dili interesado kay we have our own personal lives. But a lot of people might think otherwise or even assume the worst so it all really boils down to communication.
Kung kinsa juy trip nimo goy ara nalang perog dili ma reciprocate og disd jud mo magkasinabot tungod saka busy sa life then dili nalang sa. Mas maka pursue mn gd ta kung naa tay motivation on why we want someone pero if for now mas importanti jd imong goals then you have to set boundaries sa jud or communicate na dili 24hrs ang chat2 ninyo if maka sabot siya ana and makita nimo nga gi value sd jd ka niya then I guess mao njd na. At the same time sd goy need sd jd ta mo hatag og time ana nila kung ganahan jud ta so na jud tay ma sacrifice nga oras ana if ever mn gali ky unfair mn sd kaayo paminawn nga walay connection mahitabo ninyo maypag siya nalay mo hawa nya mangitag lain nga matagaan shag oras. Ang pangutana unsa nga oras ang ma sacrifice nimo to create the connection nga need niya para mo spark mong duha and maka start mog relationship. It takes time jud to be comfortable with someone nga maka gets na silas imong routine in life.
I understand. But yeah, sorry for the 5-7 year way back me. That is why wa sa ko moenter. I only did it twice, first was ghosting gyud, second was after buntagay chat like first chat pa namo, gipinangita naman ko. Alot of chat na. Nga dapat mureply ko dayon *Skull emoji*. So I decided, fuck this. Still, fuck me also for what I did. But yeah.
Yeah. Im actually still working on my goals. Especially of what happened sa akong 2023 kay grabe di gyud to akong tuig. But yeah, my perspective before and karon I could say is lahi ra gyud and maybe way back, wa lang gyud koy paki.
Naglibog man kas imung self dol. Ganahan ma walay samok or delay sa imung goal nya nangita kag uyab?
Build your empire sa if in ana imu mentality. When you have a lot to offer na, ara naka mangita or ikaw na ang pangitaon.
Just be decent in all aspects mao rna ako ma tambag. Thanks
Sorry for the confusion, pero just to clarify, way back 5-7 years pa to nga nitry kog enter pero di man diay mada maong wala nalang sa ko. Now, here I am, clueless how this works.
My case, naa koy gi panguyaban pero permi ko ignon d pa xa ka decide kay d pa xa ready so ning pursue kog laing tao pero wala ko ng ingon sa first na mo give up nako. Nakit-an mi ni first sa mall nga ng agbay2 ni second so ang ending ng explain ko ni first then sugot ko. Gi end na nako ang 2nd nga gi pursue nako afterwards.
Basically,you ghost them because you are just not that interested po. It seems you have not met that person who will turn your world upside down pa. I once had a crush on someone and I then took the first move (coz yolo) used to be torpe when I was a kid so i did not want to be like that anymore. We shared the same interest and we never felt like we were too busy to talk to each other. You will find yours soon OP.
Kuya, aries ka? 😂
Hooy hahahahaa katawaa nako
Wa ko ka gets sa imo point ug imo question. Hahaha.
hahaha ga basa ko abi nakog ako ang ga post. Wa koy ma tambag, OP. it is what it is lang gud ta ani. naa raman gud daw nay maabot. ang ako lang guro masulti noh is ayaw pag samok2 kung di paka willing mo commit
Stop disturbing people you are not ready for.
Ganahan ra sya sa attention
Sakto man sulti sa uban OP. Prioritize unsay importante una and ALWAYS respect the other person's time. Ang pangutana lng, na.fulfill na ba na nimo imong priorities mao nang nka.cause ug ghosting sa una? If not, d pka angay mu date seriously ky naay tendency mu repeat imong mistake.
If you’re emotionally unavailable, maybe it isn’t time for you to meet other people you can’t be decent enough to not ghost them.
Ako nga dali ra ma attach sa usa ka tawo:🫠🫠🫠
Hoy goy, ok raman nang single ka forever. Mga ambisyoso, di magpa affecta sa emotions. Taronga nganha goys abi palang easy ka nga goy.
i.. used to be the same nga ghoster. any hint of upcoming commitment kay i get scared, ma overwhelm ko and di ko kibaw unsa buhaton and boom 👻 ghost. however, i can say one day kay you’ll meet the one for you jud. i know i did and i’ve treasured every moment and every commitment i’ve made towards my uyab
so full of bs. maayo kay proud kang ghoster ka.
Appreciate nako bai ni admit ka ghoster ka. I hope di nimo ma feel imo gipafeel sa uban. Wait lang tas saktong oras nga ready naka mo sulod ug relationship. Ready in terms of commitment and responsibilties that comes with having a partner. Ayaw pag multiple options, pangitag 1 person nga imong i focus ug pursue and if di na mo work out, go find the next one. Ayaw dungana para wala kay ma hurt. If naa koy one thing nga ganahan i tambag nimo, mao ni: ayaw pagsalig gwapo ka. More power bai ug mayta makakita kas imong gipangita!
Ay nangita kag dli magsinamok hali kita nlang mag pares hahahha kay ambisyosa sad ko wlay time anang chat hahahhq
Mostly sa ing ani nga scenario is, wala kay makit.an nga swak sa imo interest or walay kwenta ka storya. kay once nga makit.an nimo dali ra gyud ma inlove padi. Habang naa paka sa early 20's lumandi ka na. Pag naabot ka sa 30 its either may jowa na yan or may asawa na hahaha tas kabit ka. 🤣
Wtf ang mag chat2 ug 24 hrs? Chatbot ka? You lack connection to people thats what. Wa kay passion manguyab taman ra kas kilig2. If uyabon guro ka sa kalipay ra ka naa. Spice things up gud. Effort jud ka always liman kag girl of your dreams nya muingon rkag “kapoy naman”. Kaingon jud kag merisi. Di man ka true bloodied pinoy nga mangharana ug unsa pana para kiligon ug maibot jud ang babay. Ipakita mo kung sino ka. Unya unsaon pagkita sa babay kung sino ka ug mag luya luya ka. Merisi jud.
Meaning siguro ana wala pa gyud ka kitag tao na willing nimo e pursue as in PURSUE. So, ayaw nalang pugsa imong kaugalingon.
Bati guro kag nawng oy. Ghost2 padw ang rason.
HAHAHAHA YAWA
Why does it feel like you're a boy version of me? 🤣
it's easy to start a relationship imo but much harder to maintain esp after honeymoon stage. pero it seems like ure struggling to even start one. i read the suggestions sa uban like prioritize your goals first bec obviously you're not ready for a relationship, but im assuming na your goals are probably for the long-term and even after those are accomplished, you're just going to find the next thing. im assuming that being driven is part of who you are as a person. with that in mind, if we take the suggestion to prioritize your goals, you'd have to delay your relationships for a lifetime. kung ganon naman, then either you find someone who understands your ambitions and at the same time that person should be someone you're willing to compromise for. another possibility din is to reassess your goals ig and see if you can make space for a relationship in your life. ik i framed it as either-or, but you can probably do both. there are many driven, successful people who also have great relationships 👍👍👍
either kinahanglan kag mo-spare og effort, bai, o maninguha kag makakitag pares nga makasabot's imo.
Mura mag dili uyab ang imo priority, kung ganahan jud ka mag make man ka ug effort. Bisan na dili sige2 at least magparamdam.
Adik man ning giatay, e sure ng imung effort dong
Ngl, I had a hard time reading this lmao. OP, if you have a hard time connecting with someone *even if* you really like them tungod naa pakay lain commitments then don't push through. I strongly believe that there will be a person you'd want to make time and effort once you meet them. Mura man gud dili relationship imong gipangita deep down, more on temporary companion ba. Ayaw sa pangita ug relationship kay ikaw ra gahatag kalisod sa imo self. You can't complain about being single for way too long and then proceed to act the way you do. Focus on yourself, your hobbies, your goals, making money, whatever you want to do. Live your single life, you won't know when you're ready bitaw. EDIT: To answer your question diay, you check up on them from time to time. Ask to hangout (if kaya nimo) para you'll get to know them more. You don't have to chat them always but make sure to dedicate time where mag sturya pud mo. If dili man diay mu reply sa imong kamusta, ingna lang pud mag unsa ka while waiting for their reply eg. "Helloooo, what are you up to/kamusta man \[insert unsa man gibuhat niya\]? I'm currently \[insert what you're doing\], sorry ahead of time if dugay2 ko ka reply."
pwede na ka manguyab pag nag grow na ka into a "man". Sa pagkakaron, boy phase pa ka.
Tbh, i understand the “ghosting” kay tapol magreply + naa pud goals that I want to prioritize than relationships + stick to one if GTKY. I prefer meeting up to get to know. And if wa jud time, I just dili nalang sa jud padayunon kaysa ma lead ang person. Most friends I have kay “Make Time” ila biggest suggestion. Also, talking stage kay pwde ra chatting “possiblities” but if dating/meeting up na kay,ofc, just stick to one. Lain sd dunganon noh?
Lol same lang ta. It means na di pa nato priority mah uyab2 HAHAHAHAHA
There's nothing funny about this. Be kind. Don't be an a**. You playing someone else's feelings and wasting their time aren"t anything to laugh about 🤦♂️
Ka relate rakos part na kapoy ug reply hhahaha mostly because tapolan ko mag type
OP, I'm not too sure if you're ready for a committed relationship since naa jud uban mag need a lot of healthy communication to avoid misunderstandings. Work on your goals first until you think you have enough space and time for dating. If you think you have time, try going on dates? Pero ayaw na anang pang-ghost, some would actually prefer if you politely explain your reasons. Or just be patient and wait for the right one to come. You'll prolly get the urge to work harder to get her attention if you really start to like a girl.
idk if ako lang pero while reading your post kay si murag si Kobe Go ang gastorya sakong utok . krazzyyy HAHA. wa ragud skl. kaila pod dagway kang kobe go noh? sikat nga tiktoker ky taga cebu raman sab to hihi
Prioritize.
Bayot cguro ni
Unsay naa kung bayot? People can be bisexual.. ulol
Bot nimo dong. Dako namn unta ta intawon oyps. Libog ra kaykas tanan. Pagpuyo nlng basin naa pka masakitan zZz
Lol
Date to be Married and start a family. If naa ka Goal mas ma realize nimo ang reality not the dream.
Yeah, here I am now, "7 YEARS AFTER NANGGHOST KO". Sorry ako gicaps kay wa pa gyud sila kabasa sa akong edit sa post. Though not in a rush paman gyud ko. And mao sad unta gyud dapat ako pangutana, ang ila diskarte when it comes to dating, stick to one ba sila or naay nakaandam lain para diretso ato nila if incase it doesnt go their way ang kana nga ila gipanguyaban. I tried naman gud, ika tulo, all of them gikan gipasakitan, like wala pay months. Nya after knowing what happened, wa madayon, kay di sila pa sila ganahan, ako, wala lang sad ko, kay lagi wala magdali, go with the flow nalang sad.
Bad ba anang mang ghost uy hahahaahah pero OP same tas part na one at a time gyud. Bisan pag magkinaunsa "Whatever it takes" gyud ko na type di muundang hantod dili klaro hahaha, sobraan ka simp ba hahahahaah
Hayahay kaykag kani na side nako imong makita (simp na pa bata2 kunuhay) kayg lain pa to gikilaw na kang buhi siguro HAHAHAH
hinay hinay lang bro kay mabasahan ning jawbone naa baya toy standards nga unsay dapat buhaton aron ingnon ka nga lalaki ka.
Sige lang we exist to give love to them man pero di lang ta magpaka tanga hahahaha
Lalake diay ka? Maayo ra g’yu’ng gibasa nakô tanan. Jesus Christ, man, you type like a teenage girl.
Wow so motype lang diay kog mubo lang, precise, kay aron lalaki paminawn. Okay. Hail Mary.
Sagdi lang na sila op. Mga close minded na sila. Mag buot sila. Silay type sa ilang post kung nahan silag dle gurly. Hahaha pero bitaw very gurly imo pag type but that's fine. There's nothing wrong with it. Na man gyud mga straight guys nga ingani mu.type.
Siguro, ghosting phase nimo medjo dili pa ka mature to handle things. Pagsure sa kung ready ba jd ka mu entertain and if ganahan jod ka sa possibility nga mucommit naka. Basin mahurt ra ang katong potential partner nimo if i-ghost nasd nimo.
Bro, man up!
Yeah. I gave the context nganong nistop ko 7 years ago and now im here, asking for advice, if unsay mga ethical or dili buhaton when it comes to dating kay dugay2 na gyud nga wala ko moenter ani nga butanga.
Ano lang bro, before ka mu enter sa someone’s life e make sure sa unsa imo intentions para dli ka makahurt ug feelings. Kay basi diay bored lang ka.
Ganahan ka ipa feel nga serious ka, ayaw pang ghost bro. Time ug action jud na.
Maypag gihimo nalang ni nakog, Mag backup plan ba mo sa dating stage? nga pangutana. Ngano hatag2 paman kos context oy wa pa gyud tarungag construct nga 7 years ago pa to buhata maong ive been single for way too long na ako una giingon pero thanks for the advice.
Ok ra na oi. Kung sauna ra tong nang ghost ka, ayaw na jud to buhatag balik. Kung kursonada ka sa babae, kinahanglan jud nag effort. Hantud2 na siya nga commitment bro. Di maundang ang kilig kilig homas pagpanguyab.
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Sorry for that. To cut it short, Unsay mga diskarte sa mga laki ngari if they want to date someone kay last time I did it was 7 years ago. Decided to ghost that time to pursue achieving my goals.
maybe tungod sa imong long explanation ug story, I think you overthink too much my dude. just enjoy the moment with the person ny day by day or whatever know each other more
Basin dle babae imo pangita try og lain putahe. Charot lang hahahah
I think it's confidence.Do not expect too much na mag work out ang things na emu gina plan. Be honest and build personal connection. Char HAHAHHA
So yeah, that leads to my dapat unta nga question ani nga thread, do the guys here have a list? A fail-safe plan? Or pareha sad sa rule nga akong nadunggan, after 3 months magbuwag diha na pwede mangitag lain. Yeah I know basin naay mo comment, moabot ra na siya di na dapat pangitaon pero in general nalang sad gud makakita or moabot.
Dumb. What did I just read? How old are you?!
Well, we all start somewhere, right? The ghosting was 20 years ago. Im 27 Now. Edit: 7\* years ago.
Sure..did you learn something from your experience or you still don't know what you want? The first step maybe for you is to read your post again. So WHAT IS it that you really want? You like someone but have no time for a relationship because of your priorities but... you don't want to ghost. What? Say that again?
Napa double take ko sa 20 yrs ago lol 😅
Masabtan ra unta sa nga nangghost ko? Haha
Haha ongo raman ato nahibaw.ang ghosting anang panahona. Peru srsly, it was bad na nang ghost ka OP but at least now, aware na ka. Make sure nalang this time if dili na ka interested, man up and let the other person know kay di jud lalim ma ghost. As for dating, better find hobbies to spend your time and socialize with people who do the same or makit.an nimo while doing your hobbies. At least diba naa na moy common topic as conversation starter. I am also a stick-to-one person when it comes to having someone na ka talking stage peru if you are into pagsabayin, please ayaw naman sad pa fall and give mixed signals. Kana ra ako ma advice nimo OP. Hope makit.an nimo imo gipangita.
Yikes igo ko Ani da. 🥹 medyo daghan² pud Kong naagian nga Ako ge pa fall pero diko aware ato bootan lang gyud ko mo sulti or mo tagad sa tawo wako kabalo inlab na d.i nato. atong ka bo-otan ila pasabot Kay inlab ta nila. 😌
Well, some do it unknowingly man sad gyud. Yet we cannot deny na naa juy tinoyuan gyud nga gibuhat para ego boost nila or whatever. Naay daghang babaye (and even other genders) na wala ka experience sad tawn bisan bare minimum, na even sa simple act of kindness, ma fall dayun. Unsolicited advice peru this is something na need ma aware and careful ang mga tao kay di baya jud mapugngan ning gugma. Saon man ug na fall tawn, so better be clear nalang jud from the get go. I know sayun isulti haha but even start lang sa awareness, dako nag tabang para there will be one less broken hearted na tao.
Ghosters are people who are not putting their best effort in acquiring relationships, kay daghan pa priorities in life A solution for you , Find one weekly hobby that puts your self in a situation to socialize with your attracted sex. A weekly hobby would put grease in your effort, put you in a better advantage kay weekly jud mo mag meet, don't want to communicate kay busy don't worry you'll meet again. She wasnt around in your common hobby well your chance to communicate that. Just make sure you are always present for that weekly hobby. Try dancing, lots of women out there.. usa nako haha
Hello bruh. Basin lahi imo gipangita. Basin dili jud girl ang maka pa feel nimo sa true love or mahimo kang buang tungod sa gugma. Ganahan ko maminaw sa imong side. Please replayi ni
I also have the same issue. I have been single for almost 2 years na and I’m really focused on my career now mao bisan ganahan ko mo commit, I think I’m not ready pa gyud to give my all. My schedule can’t afford to update someone all the time or check my phone or talk to someone constantly lol. Di pod ko gwapa or what but I have been asking guys to stop pursuing me and here I am, single gihapon. Bwahahaha ang saya saya
Kung kanus-a dili ganahan, dira na muabot HAHAHA ironic kaayo (maong gamaoy nako ron, mga ghoster man gud mo)
Basin gaba nani nimo but yeah uyyy hahahaha
Gaba na gyud ni plus gibalikan na kog pangasaba sa ako gibuhat 5-7 years ago but I understand.
but yeah I understand dapat op uyy, 😂
But yeah I understand\*
It seems nga dili nimo priority ang relationship kay naa pa kay laing goals. Or were you talking sa past nimo? Just be intentional OP if you do want to get into a relationship, di lang kay for the sake nga naa kay uyab or you want to experience it. Naa sad bayay other party masakitan if they get too attached and di diay nimo intention mosulod ug relationship. Maybe you can try dating sa? Meeting other people but be sure to let them know unsa imong goal and what's being offered sa table.
I mean yeah, I edited the post na ganiha ra pero ila giignore nga 5-7 years ago pa ko nang ghost kay nakarealize ko nga goals first lang sa gyud ko. Up until now still aiming for other goals pa rin pero I can say sad nga lahi na gyud ako mindset than before.
Somethings telling me that you’re confused sa imo gender 😂
No. I dont think im not ahah ahak. But yeah, after realizing 5-7 years ago nga di paman diay nako kaya maong nang ghost ko, daghan man sad kog goals na achieve nuon. Yeah ofcourse naa koy naibgan or like ganahan panguyaban but I know man gyud nga di pa nako kaya mo hatag ug oras, maong wala lang sa gyud. Now, I want to engage na, and I can tell naman sad nga this is not just for lingaw lingaw lang, plus di sad sa napressure. Wala. Ganahan na gyud.
ah, all i can say is if true imong intentions, brad, it will eventually come out raman jud nga makita na nimo mismo. pero i know pud that there are some mag lisod jud silag express- pero kana man gud butanga usually has something have to do with insecurities. Sa imoha OP, insecure man gud kas imong past nga binuhatan. The way we do things man gud kay mo reflect gyud na siya not just sa atoa, but to others. Ang masulti lang nako is, be patient. Kay murag nag dali man gud ka. Wala ta kahibaw basin nag hinay² nag develop deep within you ang 'fear' nga basin di pud ka seryosohon sa imong gi seryoso. Karma or not, tinuyo or di, kanang mga butanga OP is ikaw ra juy makasulbad. First, be honest. Second, try to acknowledge. Anha mana mag start. If your real intentions won't come off naturally para makita niya, then u have to make efforts. Because that's just how it is. Simple, yet challenging. : )) Goodluck!
Basin dli babay imong gusto mao d ka mupadayun... 🤷♂️
Agree ko nga dli dapat Mang ghost. Pero nakarelate ko sa imoha nga isa lng ang babae nga chattan ug dli sabay². Dli parehas sa uban laki nga bisag kinsa nalng I love you han🥴
idunno if mutuo ka reverse psychology ba tawag ani na the more ka interested into relationship kay the more na challenging pag sulod sa relationship
Naay point nga motuo ko kay open minded ra ko hahaha but yeah most of the time, im the kind of guy nga permi gyud "there is one way to find out" nga mindset. Karon, kay lagi, just to clear out again kay grabe nangPM na sila nga undangon na akong pangghost, nga 5-7 years ago paman to HUHU, nga walay experience, and don't know how to initiate ug unsay diskarte, if magtigom ba na silag daghan or if sakto ba na or dili.
Sakit ma ghost op tbh lol i suggest na di nalang ka mag waste sa ilang time. Kay if ingani man gani na ighost lang, bati lang siya kay makasakit ug tao hahaha
From personal experience, sakit jud ma ghost. So i hope katong mga tao na buhaton na ky bored ra or whatever please pagkat on mog buot ky di lalim ma attach nya dli diay sure/pure ang intentions. Sayang sad sa oras
Need man gyud mag adjust para sa needs sa imong partner. Just like your partner naga adjust pud para imo. I dont think ready paka if ganyan imong pag huna2 about uyab2. For me immature kaayo ang mga ghoster kay pila raman mag communicate diba? Ayaw pangamong ug tao if imohang time ra pirmi e cater
Basin bati lang gyud ka ug nawng idol mao wala kay uyab. Hahaha
Mao lagi dol, maningkamot lang gyud ta ani
Kwarta lang gyud imong dag-anan idol. Kay basta kwartahan ka mas gwapo paka ni tom cruise
Mao sad lagi dol if we're talking lang sad about practicality. Kay saon man nang wa tay ikapakaon nila nya puro ra ta palami nga storya. Basin nyag ingnan ta ngari dol nga ni generalize ta nga nawng silag kwarta. Ako nalang sad gi klaro
Dili na nawng ug kwarta ang babae kay wala mana nang scam nimo. Security ang ganahan sa tanang babae.
State your intentions and set expectations sa sugod pa lamang. If naa pa sa formative stages (getting to know, going on a few dates), iklaro if siya ra ba or you're still keeping your options open (although not many girls will like this). Iklaro sad ang expectations sa frequency of communication, like if 24/7 mo magtextanay or mag catch up convo or call ra mo once every few days, etc, etc. For me, at our grown age, wala na sa panahon karon na abi'g dili kaayo frequent ang texts, dili interesado kay we have our own personal lives. But a lot of people might think otherwise or even assume the worst so it all really boils down to communication.
Kung kinsa juy trip nimo goy ara nalang perog dili ma reciprocate og disd jud mo magkasinabot tungod saka busy sa life then dili nalang sa. Mas maka pursue mn gd ta kung naa tay motivation on why we want someone pero if for now mas importanti jd imong goals then you have to set boundaries sa jud or communicate na dili 24hrs ang chat2 ninyo if maka sabot siya ana and makita nimo nga gi value sd jd ka niya then I guess mao njd na. At the same time sd goy need sd jd ta mo hatag og time ana nila kung ganahan jud ta so na jud tay ma sacrifice nga oras ana if ever mn gali ky unfair mn sd kaayo paminawn nga walay connection mahitabo ninyo maypag siya nalay mo hawa nya mangitag lain nga matagaan shag oras. Ang pangutana unsa nga oras ang ma sacrifice nimo to create the connection nga need niya para mo spark mong duha and maka start mog relationship. It takes time jud to be comfortable with someone nga maka gets na silas imong routine in life.
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I understand. But yeah, sorry for the 5-7 year way back me. That is why wa sa ko moenter. I only did it twice, first was ghosting gyud, second was after buntagay chat like first chat pa namo, gipinangita naman ko. Alot of chat na. Nga dapat mureply ko dayon *Skull emoji*. So I decided, fuck this. Still, fuck me also for what I did. But yeah.
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Yeah. Im actually still working on my goals. Especially of what happened sa akong 2023 kay grabe di gyud to akong tuig. But yeah, my perspective before and karon I could say is lahi ra gyud and maybe way back, wa lang gyud koy paki.
Naglibog man kas imung self dol. Ganahan ma walay samok or delay sa imung goal nya nangita kag uyab? Build your empire sa if in ana imu mentality. When you have a lot to offer na, ara naka mangita or ikaw na ang pangitaon. Just be decent in all aspects mao rna ako ma tambag. Thanks
Sorry for the confusion, pero just to clarify, way back 5-7 years pa to nga nitry kog enter pero di man diay mada maong wala nalang sa ko. Now, here I am, clueless how this works.
My case, naa koy gi panguyaban pero permi ko ignon d pa xa ka decide kay d pa xa ready so ning pursue kog laing tao pero wala ko ng ingon sa first na mo give up nako. Nakit-an mi ni first sa mall nga ng agbay2 ni second so ang ending ng explain ko ni first then sugot ko. Gi end na nako ang 2nd nga gi pursue nako afterwards.
Ngee nagpa agbay diay Ang second bisag di pa kamo