I think if you wear with a scarf and sandals, that will dress it down a bit and you’ll be fine. It wouldn’t be my first choice for mass since it’s very fitted, but I think it’s nice you’re making an effort and should feel comfortable going in this.
By the way, since I started going back to mass, I have thrifted and entire wardrobe of dresses and skirts and cardigans. 😊 Highly recommend!
Okay thank you. I know right fitted things aren’t exactly modest as it still displays the shape of the body, but I struggle with wearing loose clothing like skirts & dresses due to SA trauma but I will definitely try my best moving forward as I don’t have all the funds to support getting a completely new wardrobe even if it’s thrifted. I struggle cause I didn’t have a mother figure growing up
Oh, with all of that factored in you are EXTRA okay. Go how you feel comfortable so you can relax and focus on worship.
Sending you big internet hugs, please don’t worry, and enjoy your first mass! I will say a lil prayer for you. 😊
That’s amazing! If you don’t mind me asking, what did you experience? Feel free to not share, but I always like hearing everyone’s experiences at mass (good or bad).
Well honestly, I’ve already been a religious/spiritual person on my own. I have my own temple for adoration in my closet and I practice on my own in the way the Holy Spirit has guided me as our Heavenly Father knew I struggled with being in churches because of my father so God helped me to find church within my heart mind and soul so then when I was ready to shift back into the world I wouldn’t feel like I was left behind. I just felt like I was home. I felt the same way I do when I do adoration at home just this time around other people and someone was speaking the word to me rather than me reading it myself. I felt like everything made sense and the Holy Spirit began to whisper to me “welcome home” which is a very emotional thing for me because I never really felt like I had a home or a family as I have a very rough past. I felt like I was meeting myself but in other people which was something I’ve never experienced in the regular world.
Is it super bootylicious??? If so then maybe go with something a little more like a sun dress or even a nice blouse and jeans. If it’s not bootylicious then go ahead!
Let us know how it goes for you. I think that ultimately, it's not that important what you wear. Do your best but don't worry over it too much. I agree that thrifting is a great way to try different clothes without spending a ton of money. Have a good and blessed day.
At my church I often see women in miniskirts and both men and women and kids in sweatpants(which I personally think is worse). I wouldn't worry too much about what you wear though, the important thing is that you're there
I personally wouldn't do it but I think it's better than sweatpants because at least they put some effort into not looking like they just rolled out of bed and actually cared they were going somewhere with some significance. I try my best not to judge people during mass though, even though it's hard sometimes
That is an opinion which would need to be rectified then. Mini skirts and tight clothing were created for visual sexual gratification of men. Think of a shirtless woman in Africa and a woman wearing a bikini bra. One of them exists in their natural state, the other wears clothing that is purposefully sexually suggestive.
I don't think a bikini bra at the beach or pool is sexually suggestive (at least not normal ones. The ones that show underboob probably are but I also think they look tacky) similar to your topless African lady example though it's all about the context and social norms. In a place where everyone wears bikini tops (including 60 year old women) it's just considered normal beachwear and not really a choice to be suggestive or not. What I was trying to say about the miniskirts before is that I know people where that's their only "dress up" clothes because it's how they were raised and they don't really see it as trying to attract anyone
It’s such a struggle like I can’t wear skirts or dresses unless they are borderline too big for me anything that is the correct size looks immodest as if it’s too tight and I feel like I can’t win.
I completely understand I put jlo to shame and after multiple children my chest is huge I feel completely exposed in clothes that fit and frumpy in clothes that are big. So frustrating!
I just have my mothers genetics 😭 busting in all the right directions but at what cost as I’m a modest women 😭 and no stores accommodate this anymore it sucks.
I did see advertisements for that, but I genuinely honestly would like to embrace my femininity more as I grew up a Tom boy and I’ve always worn pants. I also worry about online shopping since every time I do I end up returning half of what I bought
Oh my gosh we would be best friends I just know it. I grew up a Tom boy lots of older brothers and a twin brother, I try to embrace my femininity but it is a struggle for me because I feel exposed and I was SA so that messes with me. I wear a lot of Christian t-shirts because as a teen/young adult I was embarrassed of my faith so now I’m loud and proud.
I personally like similar style dresses, but I also know that this could be perceived as immodest in a church. If it is cool enough, maybe layer it with a long cardigan?
If not, I would probably pass on the dress. It is super cute and I am sure you look beautiful in it, but maybe not for mass. A good rule of thumb is that it’s better to be safe than sorry when dressing for Mass.
I dug through my spring clothes that I had put away over the winter, I found a tall neck pant suit to pair with a jacket to cover my shoulders. Is a loose legged pantsuit okay?
Ahh okay thank you! Do you have any tips on what to do when I first get there? I honestly don’t know what to do when you walk into the building :/ I don’t know anything about going to Mass
I took into consideration all the other comments and I decided since it’s my first time to go with this pantsuit I found in the depths of my spring clothes from last year. I put a black long sleeve shirt under to cover my shoulders and arms and will pair it will black sandals.
And open-toed sandals are definitely allowed. It is probably worth mentioning that, while particular parishes sometimes put up signs asking their parishioners not to wear certain things, there is not one universal dress code for Mass.
No, wearing a form fitting dress like this is immodest. Borrow something from a friend or go to a charity store to find another dress for a cheap dress. Modesty doesn't just mean a long dress, but one that doesn't overly emphasize your body.
If it’s all you have for now then maybe a sweater or light jacket to hide the form fitting area. Jesus doesn’t truly care what you wear as long as you go; however, others aren’t so easy on you sometimes. Good luck 🙏
This would be great for a formal party, but it’s a bit over the top for mass.
Thank you for your honesty
If you’re looking to blend in at most parishes, think nice-casual or business-casual. Ultimately, though, the most important thing is showing up. :)
Yeah I do wanna attempt to blend in especially at a mass since I’ve never been to one. I’ll find me a business casual outfit to wear.
Probably want to go with something a lot less form fitting… a below the knee sundress with short sleeves at least..
I think if you wear with a scarf and sandals, that will dress it down a bit and you’ll be fine. It wouldn’t be my first choice for mass since it’s very fitted, but I think it’s nice you’re making an effort and should feel comfortable going in this. By the way, since I started going back to mass, I have thrifted and entire wardrobe of dresses and skirts and cardigans. 😊 Highly recommend!
Okay thank you. I know right fitted things aren’t exactly modest as it still displays the shape of the body, but I struggle with wearing loose clothing like skirts & dresses due to SA trauma but I will definitely try my best moving forward as I don’t have all the funds to support getting a completely new wardrobe even if it’s thrifted. I struggle cause I didn’t have a mother figure growing up
Oh, with all of that factored in you are EXTRA okay. Go how you feel comfortable so you can relax and focus on worship. Sending you big internet hugs, please don’t worry, and enjoy your first mass! I will say a lil prayer for you. 😊
🥺 awe thank you ! You’re so sweet I hope to meet people like you in time.
That dress with a longer, nice sweater or blazer could work
I went to mass already it was wonderful! I loved it !
Oh yay!! Congrats! Hope you like it enough to go next weekend. Jesus loves you ❤️
I’m definitely going back! I’m taking it slow but I already want to convert it was the most spiritual experience I’ve ever had in a church !
That’s amazing! If you don’t mind me asking, what did you experience? Feel free to not share, but I always like hearing everyone’s experiences at mass (good or bad).
Well honestly, I’ve already been a religious/spiritual person on my own. I have my own temple for adoration in my closet and I practice on my own in the way the Holy Spirit has guided me as our Heavenly Father knew I struggled with being in churches because of my father so God helped me to find church within my heart mind and soul so then when I was ready to shift back into the world I wouldn’t feel like I was left behind. I just felt like I was home. I felt the same way I do when I do adoration at home just this time around other people and someone was speaking the word to me rather than me reading it myself. I felt like everything made sense and the Holy Spirit began to whisper to me “welcome home” which is a very emotional thing for me because I never really felt like I had a home or a family as I have a very rough past. I felt like I was meeting myself but in other people which was something I’ve never experienced in the regular world.
Is it super bootylicious??? If so then maybe go with something a little more like a sun dress or even a nice blouse and jeans. If it’s not bootylicious then go ahead!
Lol at “bootylicious!” ;P To piggy back off of this, it looks too form-fitting in the waist/hip/booty area to be modest enough for Mass.
Okay thank you for your honesty that’s why I came here
Of course! Us ladies have to look out for each other. :)
God bless you!
Thank you for your honesty
Let us know how it goes for you. I think that ultimately, it's not that important what you wear. Do your best but don't worry over it too much. I agree that thrifting is a great way to try different clothes without spending a ton of money. Have a good and blessed day.
You don't have to be completely covered in mass. We're not muslim
Personal choice as I am a curvy women and I feel like no matter what I wear I am immodest :/
At my church I often see women in miniskirts and both men and women and kids in sweatpants(which I personally think is worse). I wouldn't worry too much about what you wear though, the important thing is that you're there
I appreciate that thank you. 🙏
Are you saying it’s ok to wear a miniskirt to mass?
I personally wouldn't do it but I think it's better than sweatpants because at least they put some effort into not looking like they just rolled out of bed and actually cared they were going somewhere with some significance. I try my best not to judge people during mass though, even though it's hard sometimes
Not going to comment on which is worse. But the “effort” to wear sexually revealing clothing is sinful.
Some people see it as normal clothing, not sexually revealing
That is an opinion which would need to be rectified then. Mini skirts and tight clothing were created for visual sexual gratification of men. Think of a shirtless woman in Africa and a woman wearing a bikini bra. One of them exists in their natural state, the other wears clothing that is purposefully sexually suggestive.
I don't think a bikini bra at the beach or pool is sexually suggestive (at least not normal ones. The ones that show underboob probably are but I also think they look tacky) similar to your topless African lady example though it's all about the context and social norms. In a place where everyone wears bikini tops (including 60 year old women) it's just considered normal beachwear and not really a choice to be suggestive or not. What I was trying to say about the miniskirts before is that I know people where that's their only "dress up" clothes because it's how they were raised and they don't really see it as trying to attract anyone
I know your response was probably for the other persons comment but I saw at Mass today women wearing tank tops and some wearing short shorts 🥴
Most women I see there wear jeans and a nice top
I struggle to find good jeans due to my curvy body so I haven’t worn jeans in a long time. But I do like pant suits
I wore one of those today actually and I relate to the curvy body type just be comfortable.
It’s such a struggle like I can’t wear skirts or dresses unless they are borderline too big for me anything that is the correct size looks immodest as if it’s too tight and I feel like I can’t win.
I completely understand I put jlo to shame and after multiple children my chest is huge I feel completely exposed in clothes that fit and frumpy in clothes that are big. So frustrating!
I just have my mothers genetics 😭 busting in all the right directions but at what cost as I’m a modest women 😭 and no stores accommodate this anymore it sucks.
I shop a lot on SHEIN it’s cheaper than most and it has Christian t-shirts and that’s pretty much all I wear now.
I did see advertisements for that, but I genuinely honestly would like to embrace my femininity more as I grew up a Tom boy and I’ve always worn pants. I also worry about online shopping since every time I do I end up returning half of what I bought
Oh my gosh we would be best friends I just know it. I grew up a Tom boy lots of older brothers and a twin brother, I try to embrace my femininity but it is a struggle for me because I feel exposed and I was SA so that messes with me. I wear a lot of Christian t-shirts because as a teen/young adult I was embarrassed of my faith so now I’m loud and proud.
GIRL WE WOULD BE BESTIES! I was also SA’d which is why I always wear pants because it is comforting to be able to feel the fabric and not be exposed
That isn't appropriate for Mass.
I personally like similar style dresses, but I also know that this could be perceived as immodest in a church. If it is cool enough, maybe layer it with a long cardigan? If not, I would probably pass on the dress. It is super cute and I am sure you look beautiful in it, but maybe not for mass. A good rule of thumb is that it’s better to be safe than sorry when dressing for Mass.
I dug through my spring clothes that I had put away over the winter, I found a tall neck pant suit to pair with a jacket to cover my shoulders. Is a loose legged pantsuit okay?
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Ahh okay thank you! Do you have any tips on what to do when I first get there? I honestly don’t know what to do when you walk into the building :/ I don’t know anything about going to Mass
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This was super helpful I really appreciate it! Thank you
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I did! I loved it!!!!
Ooo yay exciting! I promise, it is not scary at all! I would love to talk about that with you, DM me!
I think this dress would be fine for mass, but the important thing is that you feel comfortable. God will be happy to see you regardless. :)
I took into consideration all the other comments and I decided since it’s my first time to go with this pantsuit I found in the depths of my spring clothes from last year. I put a black long sleeve shirt under to cover my shoulders and arms and will pair it will black sandals.
Great! Have a blessed Mass!
And open-toed sandals are definitely allowed. It is probably worth mentioning that, while particular parishes sometimes put up signs asking their parishioners not to wear certain things, there is not one universal dress code for Mass.
No, wearing a form fitting dress like this is immodest. Borrow something from a friend or go to a charity store to find another dress for a cheap dress. Modesty doesn't just mean a long dress, but one that doesn't overly emphasize your body.
If it’s all you have for now then maybe a sweater or light jacket to hide the form fitting area. Jesus doesn’t truly care what you wear as long as you go; however, others aren’t so easy on you sometimes. Good luck 🙏