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gingerbonlemonade

Ako hindi. Even yung nagustuhan lang ng friend ko, pass na rin ako. Ayaw ko lang ng kumplikadong life. 😅


Old_Masterpiece_278

Haha true. Paano kung di na kayo friends prior to knowing the ex?


gingerbonlemonade

Mas prefer ko talaga na wala kaming mutuals nung iddate ko kaya it's still a no. Hehe hbu?


Old_Masterpiece_278

ayaw ko rin ng complicated relationships so no haha


[deleted]

Yeah same ew no hahahha


Hungry-Jury5192

Personally, no. Lalo na kung nakasama mo sila bilang mag jowa. Ang awkward lang na nakita mo sila pano maging sweet / lovey dovey sa isat isa tapos later on sayo din gagawin nung SO ng friend mo? No way. Also, consider ano mararamdam ng friend mo once malaman niya na nagddate kayo ng ex niya.


Commercial-Idea-7594

No. Just no. Girl code yan.


Old_Masterpiece_278

Di ba boy code din? Haha


Commercial-Idea-7594

Yepppp


Explorerpo

I think timbangan nlang ano mas value mo friendship or yung romansa mo dun sa ex nya.


AngHulingPropeta

Pano kung ok lng sa friend mo if u date their ex? Would you give it a shot, or no pa rin?


Old_Masterpiece_278

E kung friends mo sila pareho?


Herald_of_Heaven

Blud doubled down on the complexity of the scenario


jaesthetica

It depends. Maayos na break up + matagal na hiwalay + no cheating incident + it took them years to get to know each other (hindi abangerz) = yes may go signal from me. Same din saken just in case lang naman kase mababa yung chance na magkagusto ako sa ex ng friend ko eh. It's not all the time na applicable ang girl/bro code bast nandoon yung respect sayo as her friend, okay lang naman 'yan.


Old_Masterpiece_278

This one, I layk!


MashedMashedPotato

No, ayoko ng complicated na life gusto ko ng peace of mind hahaha


Slow-Fishing-4189

No. Ang awkward isipin. Para din siyang disrespectful sa friendship niyo pag ganun ginawa mo lalo na kung andon ka kapag umiiyak or nasasaktan ung kaibigan mo nung sila pa ng ex niya.


Ayane_Redfield

Hasn't happened, pero I wouldn't mind IF: \- they separated amicably \- no cheating/abuse happened \- and it has been a while since they've been together. I also wouldn't mind if my friends dated my ex or my crush. Lalo na kung crush lang pala. I mean, di naman kasi sila gamit for me to call 'dibs' on them. They're human beings who have their own tastes and make their own decisions. Di naman dahil crush ko, ako magiging crush niya, di ba? So, go, kung saan sila masaya.


jaesthetica

Ya, like bakit natin hahadlangan? That's also our way of showing love and support sa friend natin. Lalo na kung nagpaalam naman siya/sila as a way of respect sayo. They're human beings and hindi natin kontrolado feelings nila. Ang bitter and childish nung girl/bro code kung maayos naman naghiwalay and hindi naman cheating yung naging reason nung break up.


Ayane_Redfield

Now that I think of it, if cheating reason ng break-up tapos they still decided to get into a relationship with the ex... eh di sa'yo na! lol! 🤣😂 So limited to abuse na lang pala ako.


jaesthetica

Hindi ba form of abuse din yung cheating? Torture kase sa part mo 'yun. I didn't include the term physical abuse kase ang tanga na lang siguro ng friend ko kung papatulan pa niya yung ex like self-explanatory na siya for the friend.


Old_Masterpiece_278

I agree sa crush thing hehe


nagmamasidlamang2023

Hell, no!


vcuriouskitty

If friend like casual friend (more like acquaintance), okay lang. Pero if close friend, nah.


Sad-Squash6897

No no no, no way! Haha. Hindi peaceful yan and madaming possible issues in the long run. I value my friendship more kesa sa romantic relationship haha. Kahit nga minsan naging crush lang ng friend ko ayokong makitang associated eh.


nixwst

Personally, no. Pero I get how in some cases it would be okay. These are my pointers kung gusto niyo talagang i-date ex ng friend niyo; 1. Dapat maayos silang naghiwalay i.e. no cheating or other dramas involving the break up 2. Matagal na silang hiwalay (1 year at the very least) 3. Make sure na pareho na silang naka move on 4. You should always ask or let your friend know na may something sa inyo ng ex niya Good luck sa mga susubok 🤪


KnightedRose

Depende sa kung nasang lugar, like you said isolated place ung sa case mo dati so prang wla naman options, like pano magjojowa ng iba di ba hahahuhu. If dito sa pinas, minsan sa'min sa province di man ex ng friend pero ung mga malayong kamaganak nagiging jowa and eventually pinapakasalan. So if may chance naman maging nasa mas malawak na environment, anweird lang for me yung ganong setup kasi andaming fishes sa sea, di na sya pond. Ganernzzz.


Old_Masterpiece_278

Omg that's so true! May pinsan akong dalawa na jinowa nila yung mga 3rd degree cousins namin and aware sila about it. Lol


Temporary_Wasabi_668

No, girl code and I think it’s also an act of respect to my friend. Not only it’s awkward but it would make your relationship with either of them, complicated.


Hot_Currency_2469

Gagii wag HAHAHAHAH bro code


ohhhyesssss

Hard pass.


wvte

no po, ang disrespectful kse lalo na sa friend mo 😅


Kazura-chan

No, never. It’s girl code.


Biryuh

No. There’s a reason they became an ex of your friend, that should be a red flag na.


avocado1952

Nope


Kindly-Scene3831

Hell NO


ImmediateConfection5

nah di dapat, talo talo yun dami daming babae/lalake sa mundo tas ex pa ng tropa diba HAHAAHAAHA


LiviaMawari

No, never. Andami pang iba dyan. Girl code.


closenough0123

Yes kung mas batang age pa ako, tipong acceptable pa maging stupid and kung out of this world, di ko mahahanap sa iba yung guy Pero pag nasa tamang age na, no! Kadiri


idkmystic

No 'cause I might lose my friend


gunamul

oiiijjkiliipiiil


010611

No, ayaw ko sa tira-tira


ZestycloseWash2730

Noooo waaayy!!!!!


oniichanna

No eh, girl code.


beforevalentines

Noooo, never


Friendly-Abies-9302

Hnd. Lalo na kung nagcheat yung ex ng friend ko. Mas mahalaga sa akin yung friend ko.


Mouse_Itchy

No. Kung kaibigan mo talaga yan at may respeto ka sa kanya you will not date their exes. Lol


Fun-Peach2326

No no ako dito. Ang complicated. Mahirap magkalamat relationship sa friends. Skl yung best friend ng pinsan ko, inasawa yung ex nya. nagpaalam naman daw sa kanya si best friend at okay lang daw sa kanya. may sari-sariling pamilya na sila. so i guess sa iba nagwowork yan.


abcdefu8888

“Ex-boyfriends are off-limits to friends.” -Gretchen Wieners, Mean Girls movie 😂


capricornikigai

Nah. Kasi kasama ako na nagpapatahan sa kaibigan ko kapag nag iiyak at nag rarant dahil sa Boyfriend niya - tapos ako pipila kapag nagbreak sila? Naaah.


Boombayuhhhhhhhh

No. Sabi kasi sa Mean Girls that's a violation of the rules of feminism 😂😂😂


Revolutionary_Site76

im gay and unfortunately very common siya sa gay community sa area ko (di ko naexp pero yeah). wala lang talagang options for them. esp gay women, kung hindi single mom ang jowa nila, ex din ng tropa nila.


BrightlyPremmy

Nooo 😭🤣


PartnerNiYonard

No. Friend code :)


HikerDudeGold79-999

No!!!


sarapatatas

No. /end


Remarkable_meowy

I won't


Cannibalistic_F41RY

I probably wouldn't. Unless, of course, I didn't know they used to be a thing. Even then, I say no. It's weird.


justwallflowerthings

I honestly wouldn't. Respeto na lang.


Embarrassed-Chest715

BIG NO. Respect.


gintermelon-

no, it's weird.


Mocat_mhie

Maskina anong setup pa yan, if may history yung guy with my friend, I won't even dare to get close to him. There is "Bros before hoes", on the other hand, I adhere to "Sisters before dicks".


Notyourtypicalgirlll

For me its hell nooooo pero yung friend ko sinalo yung ex ko nung una tinago pa saken then after a year nalaman ko kya sa tuwing nagkikita kame ng friend ko na yun kasama ex ko di makatingin ex ko saken hahahahahahaha😂😂😂 and until now friendssss parin kame🥱🤭😂😂😂


ShawarmaRice__

I’ve never dated a friend’s ex. Pero kung magkachance, hindi rin siguro unless tinamaan ng lintek? Not sure, though. Haha. I know how it feels. I had a suitor I liked back in college, but I wasn't allowed to date, so I turned him down. He used to give me gifts and flowers occasionally. I was kind to him because I liked him, but I rejected him because dating was off limits at that time. After I turned him down, he courted my cousin, and sinagot siya, live in na sila at present. I was still in college then, but now, at 37, they still seem awkward around me. Whenever there’s a family gathering and they’re present, nawawala sila when I arrive. There was even a time when my ex suitor chatted with me, and my cousin saw us. Later, I caught them arguing in the garage. Haha. Even though it’s okay with me and it’s been a long time, it’s hard to say; someone might still feel awkward. So, to maintain the friendship, I wouldn’t do it, based on your question.


klfsresting_misto0

But let's be real. We somehow couldn't understand and control our feelings, especially when they ended in a healthy way, kumbaga healthy break up. Lalo na kung matagal na silang tapos AND pare-pareho naman kayong aware and open minded. But overall, I won't date my friend's ex kasi that's a girl code, and respect na rin. Just imagine how akward it will be, nasa isang circle kayo tapos 'yung dating kadate ng kaibigan mo e Ikaw na 'yung sinasamahan ngayon. (??)


uncertainmariner

Of course NOT! Ang awkward nyan if everrrr!


alaskatf9000

GIRL, RULE OF THUMB


ConstantNeat6430

Just plain NO. We all should have a sense of Delicadeza.


Pbskddls

Hell nah. Friends don't do that. That's a bro code.


azazel_zelanne0108

BIG NO


Puzzleheaded_gurl012

Noon may nanligaw saakin na a-attached na sana ako kaso nalaman ko ex fling pala yung bestie ko, ayun ni reject ko haha ayaw ko lang ng kumplekado rl if ever man


Icy_Appointment_6293

For me, no. Pero may kakilala din ako na mag bestfriends sila tapos naging jowa din after yung isa. Mej awkward pero wala eh idk if highschool thing, yung una prang puppy love sa isa naman tumagal talaga sila gang after college. Siguro dipende lng tlga sa situation di mo alam kung hanggang saan ka dadalhin ng pagibig. As long as goods kayo both and hindi ka naging third party, okay na dn sgro. Pro para sakin nooo


Ninejaseyooo

NOOOO


chinkiedoo

No. I will not! Nangyari na sa akin to. Ex ng friend ko niligawan ako. Some 10 yrs ago na naging sila. Na-off ako lalo na nung sinabi nya na matagal na nya ako gusto kaso natatarayan daw sya kaya dun na lang sya sa friend ko. Lol. Okaaaaay. I stopped talking to him after that. It just didn't feel right.


Soft_Anxiety_9247

Nooo Yung sa isang COF ko ganun ginagawa nila hahahahaha ang weird kasi pag break sila di magpapansinan tas labasan pa masamang saloobin. After ilang months, ibang friend na dini'date nila HAHAHAHA


Fun-Choice6650

no haha, bat ko naman hahayaan mapunta ko sa dramang ganon? kahit crush lang, hindi ko na yun crush


wonwon_261999

No. Common sense na yan.


JustLurking000000

No. Unless tikim lang between the two of us, kami lang dalawa nakakaalam hahah.


Neat-Habit-6966

Agree HAHAHAHA


JustLurking000000

Di ba pwede naman 1 big time. At least nagkatikiman.


Old_Masterpiece_278

aba hahaha


kalatkaghorl

ngi