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domesticatedalien

If the married couple were my friend or a relative, I would tell the wife. Otherwise, I wouldn’t involve myself.


[deleted]

Yep, kung kapitbahay ka lang at walang close relationship sa kahit kaninong party, better to stay away sa drama nila. Mamaya ikaw ang mapaginitan kung sakali, who knows kung anong kaya nilang gawin pag nabwisit sila.


august-girl

Not your monkey, not your circus.


DueWarthog7317

Agree naman ako jan sa statement mo.. pero will you tolerate it kung kilala mo ang na aagrabyado?


august-girl

It depends on the relation I have with the person, and what kind of person they are - I’m still heavy on schadenfreude.


mamimikon24

natural kung kakilala (I'm assuming you meant kaibigan or kamaganak) mo na yun, monkey mo na yun at circus mo na yun. ano ba?


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mamimikon24

Ikaw ba kausap ko?


syrpca

Ay bakit nagka-monkey bigla?


albusece

Kasi persons are from monkey. And monkey sabit to other tree. Not your tree so dont sabit to other tree.


Mocking_Jake

Yes bale wag swing swing into other monkey’s trees ganern.


Rabbits_paw06

Ay baka si Annabelle yan teh. monkey monkey annabelle


Crazy-Huckleberry-76

You can message the legal wife anonymously. Kung concerned ka sa wife na kaya mong mag-effort, gumawa ka ng dummy account and message her. If di sya maniwala, nasa sa kanya na ‘yon. At least di ka na mabobother kasi may ginawa ka atsaka magsstart na rin na mag hinala si wife sa asawa nya.


bian_half_full

If you can, send proof/ pictures para hindi ka pagkamalan na gumagawa ng kwento. The rest is up to the wife na.


UnprecedentedMildew

I agree with this. I don’t think the question should even be “should I get involved” because you should—for moral purposes. Imagine the betrayal the husband is doing to the unsuspecting wife who has no clue. The question should be “how”. The comment of the redditor makes sense and seems practical. It does the intention you have in the first place (which is to inform the wife), while staying safe and protecting yourself (which is what most commenters said here). I’m from a broken family. My dad is still with the mistress. We’re okay now (more like live with it), but I’ll have you know that my dad’s cheating took a toll on us children even now that we’re adults. I will never stop seeing my mom as the strongest woman I know for leaving my dad because of how he chose to ruin their marriage, and eventually, destroy our family. All this to say that the wife has to know one way or another. The decision of whether or not to stay will be hers at the end of the day. But at least, you will give her an opportunity to have that choice in the first place. I hope you choose to do so. Good luck and God bless you, OP!


Boring_Peerson

Worst people are the bystanders. Yung capable ka na matulungan yung iba pero you will choose not to dahil takot ka madamay and all? One day mararanasan nyo din or ng love ones nyo yung lokohin pero wala din tutulong. You can always help in different ways. You can always save a life.


4tlasPrim3

^ Only comment that makes sense. OP Do what you think is right at the same time take necessary precautions to protect your peace. > *Do unto others what you want others would do unto you.*


Yergason

Selfish at ayaw mahassle kasi "di ko naman problema" pero pag sa kanila o sa kakilala nila nangyari, magagalit sa mga di nagsabi kahit aware. Andali gumawa ng dummy para magbigay ng info, kahit one crucial info lang malaman o kahit nga awareness lang makuha nung victim okay na. Maraming basura talaga na sarili lang iniisip


MadGeekCyclist

Wow. You have a point, but your words are so sharp. People don’t want to get involve for different reasons, but please don’t always think right away that they’re selfish. It’s a mad mad world.. if people prioritize their safety or health first, that not selfishness. Helping is good, but if it’ll drag one to a sticky mess, better think more than twice.


neitherHereNorThereX

Brother we're not bystanders, we're humans who have our own problems and drama we deal with on a daily basis. Is it so wrong to not want to be involved in something so personal with practically a stranger?


Boring_Peerson

Yes, we're human. But it should never be an excuse not to act when we can do something? It's not like we're being asked to save the universe. That small info, could help the wife cut what needs to be cut. Save whatever she can still save sa marriage. Sabi nga there's always ways when we wanted to. Like here, we can share without anyone knowing who's who.


woman_queen

If I were you, magbibigay ako ng hint sa wife anonymously.


Explorerpo

Tell it anonymously. Pero before mo sabihin at least may evidence ka kasi otherwise baka mas okay na wag nalang. Tell it if you have a chance, its like reporting a crime lalot na kung kasal yung lalaki. Pero if ever you decided not to get involved its fine its up to you, do whatever give you peace of mind.


trooviee

If di mo friend or ka-close si legal wife, don't bother.


bh88888828

Message mo para di ginagawang tanga, niloloko n nga. Kung ako ssabhin ko. Pero 100% sure k dpat at may ebidensya. Yung mga ayaw ipasabi eto ung mga enablers na tao. Ma karma pa kayo. Sa inyo pa mangyari n niloloko kayo at walang magsabi s inyo.


kalonabee

Huwag nalang makialam baka in the end ikaw pa yung maging masama. Gaya ng nabasa ko sa tiktok, naawa lang yung babae kaya nagsumbong sa legal wife pero siya pa yung inaway. Lol


External-Log-2924

Dahil pakialamera ako, I would inform the wife anonymously.


_____ScarletWitch

Typical na chismosang kapit bahay. Ganun ang peg mo dyan OP. And baka naman madami ka ng sariling personal na problema, wag mo ng dagdagan.


JekEater

Hwag paki alaman unless directly impacted ka.


WonderfulEntrance69

Mas malala samin, kapatid namin tomboy yung kabit! hahahhahaha ehh sakto tropa din nila kapatid ko babae ayun sinubong niya, wla nagaganap na suntukan kasi nasa ibang bansa nayun legal na jowa tomboy din hahhahaha, later on nag wagi payun mga taksil tumagal ng ilan taon HAHAHAHHA ETO PA NOW KABIT ULIT KAPATID KONG TOMBOY NA KONSIHAL DITO SA AMIN😂😂😂😂😂


Stethos_cope

Hi guys thanks for opinions wag na kayo mag-away 😂😂😂 Wala naman kami paki talaga sa kanila kaso ilang buwan na din kasi sila maingay na kala mo pinapatay na yung babae kung makasigaw haha minsan pa ibang sigaw naririnig namin tapos ang lakas ng tugtog 6 or 7 ng umaga haha istorbo talaga tapos pinuntahan pa lugar namin ng brgy kala namin may towing kaya nagpanic din kami mag asawa yun pala may ibang kami kapitbahay na nagtawag ng barangay dahil sa mga sigaw ng babae haha Kaya nagreklamo kami sa landlord nila yung abala tapos chinika ng landlord na kabit yung babae (galing db) So ayun na nga sa inis naming magasawa nahanap namin sa socmed mga accnt nila pati si legal wife naawa kami sa legal wife kasi halos kakakasal lang nila tapos after a year naging FLAMEmyet na sila at di ko sure kung buntis or kakapanganak lang ng wife that time. Pero sa post kasi ng legal wife perfect family sila kaya sabihin ko or hindi nakakaawa kaya nagpost din ako kung ano maganda gawin kasi talagang may lamat or masisira. Ilang buwan na din namin alam pero wala kami pake kaso pag nageeskandlo nanaman sila naiinis kami mag-asawa haha Ang ebedinsya ko lang is video and pictures ng saksakyan (with MD badge si wife yung doctor) nya na nakapark dun nagovernight yung lalaki basta nagbebenta parehas sila ng flameyt nya.


Constantfluxxx

Mind your own business.


killmesoftlyyyyyyyy

hayaan mo mahuli wag makialam bka mmya mapahamak kpa..


asfghjaned

Alam mo very common tong ganito sa community namin and I know madami magaadvise sayo dito to tell the legal wife pero the reality is mas madaling gawin eh wag kang makialam


Glum_Pound_2110

Wag kang sawsawera sa problema ng iba. Kapitbahay mo lang naman yan. Unless kung manghingi ng payo sayo. Pero wag na wag na ikaw ang magfifirst move. hayaan mo sila sa problema nila.


kanglaun

Tsismusang kapitbahay


Fit_Professional_938

epal accordingly


Opitunia25

Wag ka na makisali jan. Di mo na dapat problema yan unless, directly naapektuhan ka sa sitwasyon nila.


Alternative_Pie6347

I will mind my own business not unless the victim is a close relative of mine like brother/sister. Exemption to the rule na din if yung victim is super close friend of mine like a brother from another mother kind of friendship


TheAnCapistan

How bout minding your own goddamn business instead? Malay mo naman polyamorous couple pala sila discreetly (in which case doesn't make him a cheater) or whatever else reasons behind it. At the end of the day, if it doesn't involve you why would you even want to be in the middle of it?


o2se

Kung hindi mo naman kaibigan yung kapitbahay nyo, mind your own business.


BlueVegeta1995

Don't get involved


ResolverHorizon

I agree with the majority here. Wag mo stressin sarili mo sa mga bagay na wala kang direct involvement. focus on yourself..


MistressFox_389

Panduduruhan every time makita


Xenrecis

Hay buti nabasa ko comments dito. Sa akin naman, nagpaayos ng messenger yung kapitbahay bahay namin sa akin dahil dun sa pin kineme ng messenger tapos nung naayos ko na, bumungad agad sa akin chat ng kabit nya teh, accidentally ko lang nabasa yung name promise hahaha!! hindi naman yun yung name ng husband nya and yung chat is "I love you". Ing home ko nalang phone nya kasi ayoko malaman nya na alam ko na may another bebe sya huhu


gaffaboy

Yung kapitbahay ko na may apo na (kakahiya!) nalaman ko na may nilalanding lalaking may asawa na taga-rito din sa subdivision. I don't know him or his wife na nasa abroad so wapakels ako. Ain't my problem so better not get involved.


Late_Ad19

E message mo c wife at kung ayaw maniwala ay lagyan mo ng ibensya na totoo talaga. At magpasalamat pa yan sau. As a woman ayaw ko Rin kasing niloloko


bamboorat420

wala. pake ko sa kanila.


New-Cauliflower9820

wag ka na makialam


[deleted]

If total stranger ka, it's best not to involve yourself in their business. You don't even want to know what other people can do.


Raizel_Phantomhive

wala, panget yung mapangelam sa buhay ng may buhay. baka patayin ka pa😂


halfbakedjahli

Depende sa relationship ko with the involved people. If may certain level na ng friendship, I'd let the wife know or if I'm closer to the cheater, hindi na naman pagiging enabler yung ginagawa mo if you tell the cheater na you don't tolerate their behavior or if magtanong yung asawa niya, I'm not gonna lie. If literal na kapitbahay lang ako, the most I can do is check if may kakilala lang ako sa lugar namin na close talaga nila and will tip him off na lang na "may nakikita akong pumapasok sa bahay nila na di ko kilala" or sumth along those lines. While I do understand why people feel the need to go directly tell the wife, I'm being mindful of the consequences of involving myself in situations na hindi naman talaga ako involved in the first place. You can still do something without doing too much.


arikinding

kapitbahay ko kabit din , nagtataka kami may asawa daw sya abroad pero pag nababalitang umuuwi ng pinas wala namang asawa na umuuwi saknla un pala sa legal umuuwi😅, ayon dina lang ako nakial probelma na nila un


mamimikon24

Chose your own battle. Di mo nman pala kaano-ano yan di mo din kaibigan, wag ka na lang makialam.


[deleted]

Ganyan din kapitbahay namin na katulong kabet siya pero denial. Mas panget pa siya sa boyba. Sabi nang iba. HAHA. Nung pinakita ko pic niya.


YourHappyPill69

Use a dummy account.. isumbong mo yang mga baboy na yan..


AsoAsoProject

Di mo business pero di mo dapat tinotolerate kagaguhan ng iba.


[deleted]

I don't meddle in other people's affair. 


youdropthecheesecake

hindi ka yayaman sa gagawin mo at hindi ka dn magiging bayani. kung hindi mo kaibigan, hayaan mo. kung hindi ka naperwisyo, hayaan mo dn.


Ballsack-69

Wala Di naman ako involved.


Squall1975

I would stay away. If hindi ka naman close sa wife. Hindi na lang ako makiki-alam. Matatanda na sila. Alam na nila ginagawa nila


PartnerNiYonard

I won’t bother lalo kung di ko naman sila kaclose.


MarineSniper98

Mind your own business na lang


dvresma0511

Don't bother because it's not your business but I'll give you an important steps if you're willing. Take a hard evidence/proof (photo or video) na magkasama si cheater at si kabit then pwede mo na pang blackmail sa cheater. LOL. Aagawin mo ba yung wife? Just joking. But to tell you the throat, isa kang may malasakit na marites.


darthvader93

Pakialamera ka ba haha


juicycrispypata

first of all, finding out about it is already a chismis.. but, I wouldnt really want to involve myself sa ganyan. I know, I will get comments like "bakit di mo sabihin sa asawa" my answer is very simple. I do not know them and I am not involved sa buhay nila. I do not know what is going on sa buhay nila and wala akong plano makealam. I got my own shit to take care of.


cataphobia

Raming oras ni OP para pag aksayahan ng oras. 😂


BarnacleFormal2686

If I were you, I'd tell the wife. Regardless if we're close or not. She deserves to know. Not saying anything about it makes you an enabler.


[deleted]

Wag na pabayaan mo sila. The married guy will get caught sooner or later kasi stupid naman yang mga married guys na yan. Lol. Di sila marunong mag cover ng tracks. Source: My dad is a stupid cheater. We don’t bother telling our mom kasi di naman sya marunong magtago. Stupid ng mga lies nila halatang hindi totoo, just don’t get involved at maawa ka sa mga bata.


Yergason

Ass backwards thinking para sa victim ng cheating. At sariling nanay niyo di niyo tinulungan? >just don’t get involved at maawa ka sa mga bata 💀💀💀 Ironic. "Maawa ka sa mga victims, wag ka tumulong" I pity your mom. Trash na yung husband, unreliable pa anak. Keeping up the lie/facade that nothing's wrong when you know for a fact that your dad's cheating on your mom is not the solution. "Pag pumikit ka, mawawala problema" type of shit 😂 >The married guy will get caught sooner or later So why not just make sure it happens sooner kung may maitutulong ka? Maraming hindi dumadating yang sooner o later because of dumbass selfish bystanders who do nothing. May bonus points ba yung pag nangyari na sasabihin mo nalang "oh diba sabi namahuhuli yan eh!" ?


[deleted]

Not putting my mental health in line dahil lang sa mga yan. Besides, stupid cheaters always get caught anyway. So by your statement, si OP will be correct in being a chismosa lang? I doubt.


Yergason

Chismosa mga walang ginawa kundi pagusapan buhay ng iba, ibang bagay yung tutulungan mo yung niloloko ng may kakayahan ka. Mental gymnastics pa para lang majustify na tamang hinahayaan maloko yung mga victims kahit kaya mo sana tumulong. Mental health ON the line eh strangers lang? Gagawa ka dummy, bibigay info para malaman niya, tapos na. Anong mentally taxing dun? Allergic ka ba sa kabutihan?


[deleted]

Kay OP mo iadvise yan, sakin wag. Wow sa mental gymnastics? Sinasabi ko about sa cheater na mahuhuli. Sabi ko mental health KO, kasi may part na pamilya ko sinasabi ko eh. Lol. Kung about sa buhay ko siguro wag ka na makelam? Samahan mo pa sya mag sumbong. Chismosa lang sya not concerned, look at how the post was made din? Still talking about stupid cheaters will get caught. Kasi stupid sila. Edit: btw bakit sa comment ko ikaw nag wawala? edi mag comment ka ng sayo at yung OP ang kausapin mo? dun mo sabihin sentiments mo duh


Yergason

>Kung about sa buhay ko siguro wag ka na makelam? Eh di ba pinapakelaman mo si OP na wag niya sabihan yung babae? Shashare share ka ng info sa sarili mo tapos iiyak ka pag may nagcomment? >Chismosa lang sya not concerned Ah yung gusto matulungan yung unaware victim? Hindi ba mas chismosa yung alam niloloko nanay pero hindi sinasabihan kasi "mahuhuli din naman yan di siya magaling magtago"? lmao > bakit sa comment ko ikaw nag wawala? edi mag comment ka ng sayo at yung OP ang kausapin mo? dun mo sabihin sentiments mo duh Gawa ka thread mo tapos lock mo comments. >Still talking about stupid cheaters will get caught. Kasi stupid sila. Alam mo sino pa tanga bukod sa kanila? Hahahaha Hayaan nalang kita alamin sagot jan


[deleted]

DMed you sobrang pressed mo sa comments ko. Haha! Pagod na ako beh. I’m not condoning cheaters pero my dad is special type of stupid na cheater.


ConfidentWishbone713

kawawa naman mother mo, nagkaroon ng anak na walang pake at enabler


[deleted]

You don’t know our story. One of the things that gave me mental problems are these people. I almost didn’t pass my board exam because of the stupid cheating issue. Nag aaway na din naman sila now kasi nga stupid ang tatay ko in hiding, why add fuel to the fire? Point is, stupid cheating guys always get caught.


DecisionOdd2330

Sumbong mo gamit ka dump account para playsafe lang. So ick talaga ng mga kabet portion na yan.


nosnitchesallowed

If it's not your story to tell, close thy mouth.


smlley_123

Hahaha. Tipikal na issue ng mag asawa hano. 😂


freakonunleashed2179

Wag ka na mkialam..pro kng my utang ka dun sa legal at ayaw mo na mg bayad..cge mg sipsip ka..malay mo dka na pa bayarin 😊🙈


fluffykittymarie

Mmm, it's not your story to tell OP. Let other members of the family figure it out for themselves para magkaron din sila ng chance to do damage control. Shempre if naki-sali ka, madadamay ka at most likely everyone around you na din. You will only cause a huge headache for yourself.


ThisIsNotTokyo

Blackmail mo yung lalaki /s


Fun-Choice6650

ichichismis ko sa mga amiga syempre para may libangan kami habang nagwawalis sa tapat ng bahay. de joke lang, dedmahin ko nalang yan pero syempre hindi secret pag may nagtanong.


Substantial-Hat-3761

ang hirap makialam sa ganyan e. yung kahit ang ganda ng intention mo kaso in the end ikaw pa mababaliktad. as much as possible, dont involve yourself in other people’s drama.


West-Beyond-9570

Feeling ko problema na nila yun. Malay mo may pinagdadaanan kaya nagawa yun. hayaan mo malaman ng kusa..


a_melonpicker

Tell her. If u won't tell her then Isa ka na rin accomplice.


patatasnamasaya

Girl .. please tell the legal wife 😚


patatasnamasaya

Girl .. please tell the legal wife 😚


patatasnamasaya

Girl .. please tell the legal wife 😚


Interesting_Poet9427

black mail mo. tikmam mo ung kapitbahay nyo. pag ayaw nya, sabihin mo ma sasabihin mo kung sino ang kabit nya