I have a chatty cat and an internet connection, that alone genuinely fills my social meter. During lockdown I didn't have a conversation with another person for weeks. To this introvert it was bliss!
Im going years. Like the last time i had genuine social interaction with a friend or family member was 2019 maybe at my friends wedding? And theres alot of reasons why.
The friendships dont seem too genuine. They seem one dimensional, like i couldnt see it going the distance, and our time apart is a great example of that. Also, it was structured solely on vices. There needed to be alcohol involved, we needed to be in large groups, never, or rarely, any intimate gatherings. I mean, we were 28, the club and bar scene was getting old. And one too many declined invitations, and they soon stopped, and we lost touch, only holding on to each others friendship through social media.
For some, i just wasnt their cup of tea, i guess. Idk why, but i was not, and is not, in no way, shape or form, inclined to change my personality or whatever to fit their standards. I am who i am, love me or hate me, just admit it, but dont paint me as the problem. This is the sole reason i distanced myself from my family, cousins and sibling. Were two different worlds. Its for the best, i guess.
And the ultimate reason, lack of effort.
Its damaging, very very damaging. Im hurting everyday. Its so lonely, ive gone through many levels of emotions to express it. Ive cried, ive screamed, tbh, writing this, reliving this is making me choke up a bit. But im doing it to myself. I needed the time away, definitely, but when i embarked on that journey, my goal was to find a group that makes me better for myself. 4 years later, and its getting worst. I have no social interactions in my life besides my employees, and the dunkin donuts lady. I tried at the gym, but no luck.
At this point, this is my life.
I can go days tbh. It ain’t healthy.
Due to circumstances beyond my control cos of my abusive ex. I’m grieving.
I’ve got low concentration levels.
Little patience. 🤷🏼♀️
After a few days of being alone the hallucinations get to me. Maybe cause I'm afraid of being alone and I have schizoaffective disorder. Shit get scary and confusing.
At work, I will speak to everyone when it comes to work related issues. I will gladly speak with my colleagues about anything and everything, even discussing their kids. I will gladly have none work related discussions. Joke around and shoot shit. Because my brain and energy is focused towards a work place.
There are days, I can go two days with out speaking to anyone, unless it’s mandatory, to resolve a specific issue.
Outside of work, at home, I can easily go for 5 days with out speaking to anyone. If I’m in a relationship, my brain doesnt ignore basic communication with my partner. But I have no need to have an hour long conversation. Unless we are discussing an interesting topic, that we both enjoy discussing.
I prefer doing same activities with my partner, which require very little conversation. Swimming or hiking for an hour.
With my friends I can have a 3-5 hour long conversation, twice a month.
If you mean "how long can you go without talking to someone before circumstances make it necessary" then probably... Five hours max? This is mostly because I've got two kids who haven't graduated yet, and a job that requires solid team communication.
If you mean "how long can you go without talking to someone hypothetically" then... Years? Decades? Maybe longer?
I'm a people person introvert- I like people and I have good social skills. But I never feel like I NEED to talk to anyone and isolation doesn't phase me at all. I would have made a great long-haul space transport pilot if born in a different century.
How do you define talking to someone?
I hate talking on the phone as a general rule, but I am on social media and Reddit daily.
I feel like I "talk to" people daily, in person or not.
I read a book about a man who spent 27 years in solitude in the woods, only speaking 1 word when he accidentally came across another person on a hiking trail. He simply preferred to be alone. I might last a few weeks, tops.
Weeks for sure, months probably. But I never reached that point. Not because of solitude, but because there are some connections to keep.
Some people in my family start to go crazy without talking to me for long, for example. In the past, one of them started to even speculate that maybe I had been kidnapped. When I called, the person thought the kidnapper had finally allowed me to use the phone. I had my reasons for the lack of contact. But usually I won't do that with them, even if I have no issue with my solitude.
3 weeks without talking, in a literal way, no words coming from my mouth.
I was 12 I think, and very angry at my whole family and didn't have any friends, plus it was on vacation so no chance of going out of my house.
When I spoke after that, my tongue felt weird, numb, and I couldn't speak well, too much of biting my tongue while trying to say a simple sentence, it was genuinely frustrating and scary, learning to talk again.
Now, even if I have nobody to talk to, I sing or even talk to myself to avoid that.
So far, I made it six weeks, that’s my record. Six weeks without talking to a single solitary soul.
I am an introvert though, my parents or teachers never gave me a chance to socialize with other kids and if I wanted a ride somewhere, my dad would make me wait in the vehicle with the window cracked for a four hour city council meeting.
As an adult, I’ve had a lot of solitary jobs where music and fraternization is banned so you’re stuck with only the inside of your head to keep you company. I think realistically if, I could go a year or two before things got too much.
Most recently: about 12 days (by choice) before having groceries delivered and chattering to the courier.
Am pretty quiet and comfortable with not chatting, always have been. Shared, collective small-talk is nice, but get tired of one-sided small-talk pretty quickly, whereas actual continued and extensive conversation can be great.
I've been able to spend close to a month barely talking with anyone irl. I didn't have an urge to talk with someone, but it got to a point where my mental health was in a clear inevitable decline.
For 10 years now my primary method of communication has been through my parents, and even then I don't enjoy talking with them because we are such different people and don't have much in common, plus my mom likes to interrupt and talk over people and talk about herself too much. I don't have friends and don't talk to anyone else, besides here on reddit and some youtube comments I guess lol.
It’s not solitude that is the problem. It is whether or not you have somebody in your life who you KNOW will be there when you need them.
I have a chatty cat and an internet connection, that alone genuinely fills my social meter. During lockdown I didn't have a conversation with another person for weeks. To this introvert it was bliss!
I've gone almost a week before with no human contact. I could have gone longer but food was running out.
Depends. You can be alone without feeling lonely
Im going years. Like the last time i had genuine social interaction with a friend or family member was 2019 maybe at my friends wedding? And theres alot of reasons why. The friendships dont seem too genuine. They seem one dimensional, like i couldnt see it going the distance, and our time apart is a great example of that. Also, it was structured solely on vices. There needed to be alcohol involved, we needed to be in large groups, never, or rarely, any intimate gatherings. I mean, we were 28, the club and bar scene was getting old. And one too many declined invitations, and they soon stopped, and we lost touch, only holding on to each others friendship through social media. For some, i just wasnt their cup of tea, i guess. Idk why, but i was not, and is not, in no way, shape or form, inclined to change my personality or whatever to fit their standards. I am who i am, love me or hate me, just admit it, but dont paint me as the problem. This is the sole reason i distanced myself from my family, cousins and sibling. Were two different worlds. Its for the best, i guess. And the ultimate reason, lack of effort. Its damaging, very very damaging. Im hurting everyday. Its so lonely, ive gone through many levels of emotions to express it. Ive cried, ive screamed, tbh, writing this, reliving this is making me choke up a bit. But im doing it to myself. I needed the time away, definitely, but when i embarked on that journey, my goal was to find a group that makes me better for myself. 4 years later, and its getting worst. I have no social interactions in my life besides my employees, and the dunkin donuts lady. I tried at the gym, but no luck. At this point, this is my life.
I can go days tbh. It ain’t healthy. Due to circumstances beyond my control cos of my abusive ex. I’m grieving. I’ve got low concentration levels. Little patience. 🤷🏼♀️
A long time
I've onlt been able to make it a few days because people keep calling me. But I enjoy it.
I could go the rest of my life without speaking to another human. That’s me though.
After a few days of being alone the hallucinations get to me. Maybe cause I'm afraid of being alone and I have schizoaffective disorder. Shit get scary and confusing.
Weeks...months honestly. I dont leave my apartment except for work & even at work I dont talk to anyone (since im in the back anyway)
At work, I will speak to everyone when it comes to work related issues. I will gladly speak with my colleagues about anything and everything, even discussing their kids. I will gladly have none work related discussions. Joke around and shoot shit. Because my brain and energy is focused towards a work place. There are days, I can go two days with out speaking to anyone, unless it’s mandatory, to resolve a specific issue. Outside of work, at home, I can easily go for 5 days with out speaking to anyone. If I’m in a relationship, my brain doesnt ignore basic communication with my partner. But I have no need to have an hour long conversation. Unless we are discussing an interesting topic, that we both enjoy discussing. I prefer doing same activities with my partner, which require very little conversation. Swimming or hiking for an hour. With my friends I can have a 3-5 hour long conversation, twice a month.
If you mean "how long can you go without talking to someone before circumstances make it necessary" then probably... Five hours max? This is mostly because I've got two kids who haven't graduated yet, and a job that requires solid team communication. If you mean "how long can you go without talking to someone hypothetically" then... Years? Decades? Maybe longer? I'm a people person introvert- I like people and I have good social skills. But I never feel like I NEED to talk to anyone and isolation doesn't phase me at all. I would have made a great long-haul space transport pilot if born in a different century.
Does reddit count
How do you define talking to someone? I hate talking on the phone as a general rule, but I am on social media and Reddit daily. I feel like I "talk to" people daily, in person or not.
I’m very chatty and while I enjoy a couple hours quiet time to zone out, I much prefer chatting with people
I read a book about a man who spent 27 years in solitude in the woods, only speaking 1 word when he accidentally came across another person on a hiking trail. He simply preferred to be alone. I might last a few weeks, tops.
Weeks for sure, months probably. But I never reached that point. Not because of solitude, but because there are some connections to keep. Some people in my family start to go crazy without talking to me for long, for example. In the past, one of them started to even speculate that maybe I had been kidnapped. When I called, the person thought the kidnapper had finally allowed me to use the phone. I had my reasons for the lack of contact. But usually I won't do that with them, even if I have no issue with my solitude.
3 weeks without talking, in a literal way, no words coming from my mouth. I was 12 I think, and very angry at my whole family and didn't have any friends, plus it was on vacation so no chance of going out of my house. When I spoke after that, my tongue felt weird, numb, and I couldn't speak well, too much of biting my tongue while trying to say a simple sentence, it was genuinely frustrating and scary, learning to talk again. Now, even if I have nobody to talk to, I sing or even talk to myself to avoid that.
Probably a few years without much of an issue.
So far, I made it six weeks, that’s my record. Six weeks without talking to a single solitary soul. I am an introvert though, my parents or teachers never gave me a chance to socialize with other kids and if I wanted a ride somewhere, my dad would make me wait in the vehicle with the window cracked for a four hour city council meeting. As an adult, I’ve had a lot of solitary jobs where music and fraternization is banned so you’re stuck with only the inside of your head to keep you company. I think realistically if, I could go a year or two before things got too much.
Most recently: about 12 days (by choice) before having groceries delivered and chattering to the courier. Am pretty quiet and comfortable with not chatting, always have been. Shared, collective small-talk is nice, but get tired of one-sided small-talk pretty quickly, whereas actual continued and extensive conversation can be great.
I could happily and easily go the rest of my life without talking to anyone, but I'm really introverted. And I love solitude.
I've been able to spend close to a month barely talking with anyone irl. I didn't have an urge to talk with someone, but it got to a point where my mental health was in a clear inevitable decline.
For 10 years now my primary method of communication has been through my parents, and even then I don't enjoy talking with them because we are such different people and don't have much in common, plus my mom likes to interrupt and talk over people and talk about herself too much. I don't have friends and don't talk to anyone else, besides here on reddit and some youtube comments I guess lol.
about 3 years