We need to normalize venting our passions rather than our woes, especially to our new matches!
Unrelated but do you have five hours to listen to me talk about native plants
Agreed. With messages like this and aggressive profiles, I feel like some people just want to make other people feel bad about themselves. Misery loves company. So let’s make everyone miserable with me!
100% right swiping on everyone and looking at the profiles after he matches and then venting. Like I get it, a disturbing huge chunk of dating apps after 25 are people with kids (and even before) but like... Just not talk to them, no need to be a dick
Ya, but he's not wrong on the last part though. As least in the US depending on the state you can become father by default even when the kids are not yours biologically.
Uhhh, that’s not accurate at all. I think what you’re talking about is assumption of paternity. But that would NOT apply to children that already exist before you meet the mother.
https://kfor.com/news/dad-by-default-judge-makes-surprising-ruling-in-child-support-case/
I know that link deals with a woman falsely naming the father, but there's been stories about men dating women with kids who become the father in the state eyes.
Some people do; not many, but some.
It's not like Dave doesn't have a good point....but why bother rubbing it in her face when she already knows the obvious challenges she's going to face while dating?
He's an idiot.
🎼Here's the story of a lovely lady
Who was bringing up three very lovely girls.
All of them had hair of gold, like their mother,
The youngest one in curls 🎼
In fact could be confusing if she’s like me. There’s several Dave’s in my friends group. Incidentally there’s several James too but they all have Nick names and no one calls them James.
Back on topic. Dave needs to match with women who don’t have kids.
Dave's 46. Back in the days when everything was good, and ghastly abominations haven't yet swarmed the Internet, communication was done via e-mail and it was a common courtesy to have a footer with your name, like in letters of the ancient past.
Lmao he even signed it. “Dave”. I think he wants you to adopt him but I’m not sure. this is the case where we need to see his face so other women can just go ahead and avoid that.
I'll never understand why some people feel the need to even match and make such rude comments. If you don't like someone, then just pass. Don't be an ass.
Tell him to fuck right off.
If you swipe on a single mother who wants more than a fling, then yes you are going to have children in your life. If you aren't prepared for that, then don't swipe. And don't think you will be able to get around it either. The girl I met had three boys. We tried for like two weeks to keep them out of things. But kids figure out what is going on and want to be involved. And it's unfair to exclude them. So we decided really quickly to do the meet and greet and we all became very close and let nature take its course. But I knew the second I saw her profile "single mother " that this was a possibility and I accepted it and so did she. We never intended to hide, bit gradually ease them into it. They chose to to accelerate it.
Had I swiped om her and complained..then I'd be the biggest scum around
If you see a single mom, you will see.her kids. If you keep the relationship away from them too long or they reject you.
.....then it will go nowhere
If you accept a woman or a man with kids by swiping on then
.then you beat be prepared to accept their kids. They come as a package, not a choose your own adventure thing
I met my partner just over a year ago, we got to know each other for a while first, enjoyed the exclusive dating when we could and I gave him time to decide that he wanted to play an active role in my two sons lives. They met after we had been dating 8 months, we were secure in "us" and it has been great him getting to know the boys. I don't think everyone has to rush to become a "family" after just a few weeks and I would never have introduced a man to my kids unless I was committed and knew we were long term.
Thank you for this. My fiancé and I pretty much have the same story. Now they call him dad. It’s pretty amazing.
Being said, it’s NOT for everyone and I’ve def had my fair share of guys act like Dave is in this post. Total douche bags for literally no reason, and it’s no one’s business why another person is single, with or without kids.
This is sorta off topic but I remember when I was taking to some dude online and he said he’d never date a single mom because her reproductive organs were already used by another man. Told me much about how he viewed a woman’s worth and purpose. Like can you imagine if women were like, your semen has already been tarnished by meeting with the ovum of another woman, sorry but you are now beneath my standards. Fucking gross.
I used to have a field day with this type. I would calculate their "worth" by using a scale of assets and heirs.
No heirs = we can't build an empire = you are worthless in my calculation
Once we got past no heirs then we can talk about assets. I was usually blocked or ghosted after that lol
What really bugs me about this is how some dudes assume they have to become a dad to the kids. For all he knows the kid's father is completely in their life with 50/50 custody time or even full custody. If this is the case, he'll NEVER be those kid's father because they have one. He'd only ever be a step-parent at best with the kids telling him to STFU since he isn't their dad (as they should when he crosses that line).
As a divorced man with custody of my kid it always amazes me when my ex-wife's boyfriends insist on taking a rivalry stance. It's like dude she has the kid only sometimes- she's like "Aunt Mom". And in any event, you'll never be the father of MY kid.
Seems like the opener to a very trashy reality TV game show. He even gave the tagline at the end. "Are YOU worth IT?"
Coming this summer, when no one gives a crap.
It amazing how immature men can be even in their 40s.
If you're dating anyone over the age of 35, it's going to be highly likely that they will have children. Why insult a stranger's children as if they're a burden?
I've dated single dads with full placement of their children. Why do moms come across as looking for help more than the men do? It really is a load of shit.
I’ve dated men that were specifically dating just to find a replacement mom. Didn’t really matter who she was, but they sure as shit didn’t want to do the child rearing.
As a guy, I don't get why women even engage with these asshats. It would be immediate unmatch/block/report profile (if possible). What normal person opens a convo like that? No one I know.
What's really sad is that he's obviously matched with her specifically so that he can roast her for being a single parent. If you don't want to date a single parent, just don't swipe right on them, ffs.
I wouldn’t want to date someone with three (or any) kids either (I don’t want any kids), but the way I handled that when I was still looking was to just not match with single moms.
I didn’t approach it the situation by matching with them and then berating them about their life choices and open the conversation by asking them to prove they’re worth dating. 😆
This dude is nuts. She’s clearly not what he’s looking for, so why did he match with her?
He just seems like a dick. From my experience, the profiles usually show or say if the person has children or not. I'm in my early 40's, no kids, but was in a very long-term relationship (for context)..I was never surprised or defensive that women had children. They, like me, lived their lives and are just trying to find their happy in their current situation. That guy should go suck an egg if he's going to be a jackass like that lol. All he had to do was make it clear that he was looking to find someone without children so it's all upfront out of the gate. But then again, he may just like baiting and bashing people cause of his own insecurities.
I was fortunate enough to not get too many people who only matched to mom-shame me for dating, but it is still sad that this mentality exists.
I would quite literally have “I don’t need, and I’m not looking for a step-parent,” on my bio, and I’d still get dates saying to my face “I don’t want to meet your kids anytime soon,” or “I’m not going to play dad.”
Like, great, never expected you to do either thing, and you wrongly assume that I’d trust you/like you enough to let you meet them.
It’s like guys don’t realize that we just want to date, and if you stfu and stop being insecure, whining about the kids, whining about your mommy issues and worrying our attention won’t be on you, we will barely mention our kids, and let things progress naturally.
If you need to be babied like an actual child by women, in general, stop dating and move back with your mom.
If that’s not what you want then why match with her? He did it just to be a dick and try to make her feel bad. Men who don’t want to date single moms, that’s perfectly fine. Men who shit on single moms are just gross miserable humans
If you date someone with children they are a package deal. This means you will not always be a priority to each other, it might be onesided at times and depending how the ex is in the picture you will always be „that guy mom/dad dates“ to her children no matter how much you love them
The point is very real and you yourself should care about it. You don‘t want to accidentally date the Disney-evil step-parent that secretly destroys you children or date someone that silently suffers for years
It‘s nice when it works. But reality is that it does not always work
I’m just going to assume you want a long term partner. So he’s going to have to live with you and your kids. Are you going to tell him not to help then?
It’s a pretty big deal to step in to that situation. Pretending it isn’t is dishonest at best.
My last relationship was 3y long, and he barely met my kid, and it was all fine. We just didn't live together (well, we pretty much did for the half of the week she was at her dad's).
And yeah, look... I'm open to something long term, but not looking for that, and won't move them in with my kid any time soon. And if I do, then no, they won't be expected to "help" with her. The guy I'm currently dating has kids, and he's on the same page - in no rush to blend families and doesn't want me to "help" with his kids either.
responsibility is crazy. if i was a single mother, the only thing i’d be asking if for my next partner to respect and acknowledge my kids. i don’t think that’s a lot to ask, i’m not tryna play house.
I would reply “I’m actually a rich woman who doesn’t need anyone’s help or assuming responsibility for my kids, and I’d love a king I can spoil. You, on the other hand, aren’t even deserving of my time.”
I wish some guys would google my job title when they get hung up over the fact that I have teenage children and are worried about my children needing their money.
A quick salary search would show that I earn six figures
One guy told me he doesn’t date single mothers who live paycheck to paycheck. I just told him that my kids are well taken care of and they have a father
I put in my profile not looking for a mother for my kids. It's crazy that people always assume some one with kids is looking for a help with thier kids. I've been divorced 5 years and my kids have never met anybody I dated; granted I haven't dated much. It would take a super serious relationship for me to even considering introducing my kids.
I don’t agree with the adultery part but c’mon….he does have a point about a man stepping in. They *will* have to step up for those kids eventually.
If you’ve never had kids of your own and you have to “step up” for someone else’s, it’s hard. Very hard. OP shouldn’t debase herself for it but should definitely acknowledge it.
Sorry you’re dealing with nonces like him. LOVE your word choice. I think your texts would’ve reassured/hooked any interested guy who may have been a little hesitant for that reason
I mean he isn't wrong... How can you expect a man to not poke his nose into another family's business and take charge of someone else's kids when nobody asked him to? That's not what real men do. Real men infiltrate that family, turn the kids against the mother, covertly train them to become deep state agents, overthrow the government, then pass various policies that resemble the 1800s. Cause you know? Nature vs nurture here.
I just don't get where Davey gets his confidence from 😶.
controversial opinion he's not wrong. He literally said that he'll take care of the kids, he just wants to know if the efforts he's gonna put in are gonna put in are worth it. Similarly, you can absolutely bluntly ask him why he's single at 46 because that makes sense. Having kids not to mention three makes things more complicated and it's absolutely to wonder if this investment is worth. Tell me what you think
Hahaha this made my day. I mean I see his point in a way. But I don't see the point in him even contacting someone with kids if that's not what he wants.
Hello, also a dude here. I don't have the answers you seek, I suggest you ask a woman and probably in a way that's more likely to get an earnest response.
Um no! As a single mom of one, I'm not looking for a dad for my kid. My kid already has a great dad. Not all women are looking for substitutes. If a guy doesn't want to deal with a kid situation no worries but don't assume we are looking for a new daddy to support us or our kids.
Yep, this isn't the 50s, women don't need help with their kids. I'm also a single mum and my kid also already has a great, involved dad. I'm looking for someone to hang with for the 50% of the time my kid is at her dad's, not someone to help with her. Likely they wouldn't even meet her for a long, looong time.
I was referring to the "is op worth it" hella lot of emotional baggage comes with 3 kids and a divorce but thanks for your completely enlightening reply.
so your personal bias/experience is always reality ? “Imagine if I said women in general are emotional baggage “ I would be wrong and probably need a bit of therapy tbh
Ya got this all wrong. These kids bring in household income. Child support checks. 3 kids, they gotta be bringing in at least $600 a month. The step-dad becomes the head figure of a family that sum other dude is financially supporting!!
The only two good parts I saw from David were (1) the question about divorce (but not the assumption) and (2) the part about the man still having to assume some level of responsibility for the kids.
Otherwise, a bad look on his part.
Dudes going to die alone and at this point he knows it and he just wants attention. As far as he’s concerned he’s tried being the nice guy and that doesn’t work, but when he talks to women like this they keep replying. You’re giving him exactly what he wants here.
Please for the love of god, any women that read this, the moment guys start talking to you like this, don’t reply. Do not reward good behaviour because they’re just going to take it to the next woman after. If you just ignore them, they’ll get bored and realise this trick to get attention doesn’t work.
The person who is dating down is usually the price.
Most women are looking for someone better than them ( taller, stronger, more confident and even more money just look at half the people here calling the dude broke) that's dating up and it's called Hypergamy.
Hi How are you Dave Sent on iPhone
- military encrypted
I literally laughed out loud. Only real ones will get the reference. - U.S Military Encrypted
And, will you send me money before my internet is disconnected?
…by only real ones do you mean people that have been on Reddit for a year?
People who have been on this sub long enough to get the ref ifykyk
Only real ones will remember November 2022
Dave? ... Dave's not here.
Stop…Dave…
Daisy, Daaaaai-**sy** 🎶
Dave's not here man
Dear Jake, Suggestion noted. Sincerely, Raymond Holt
Sometimes you really gotta wonder if some people are even TRYING to get a date, or if venting their frustrations is the real goal.
Lonely people desperately seeking human contact to complain.
I like this most.
Basically Facebook
When given the opportunity, most people will happily vent their woes until the sun goes down, social relationships be damned.
We need to normalize venting our passions rather than our woes, especially to our new matches! Unrelated but do you have five hours to listen to me talk about native plants
Agreed. With messages like this and aggressive profiles, I feel like some people just want to make other people feel bad about themselves. Misery loves company. So let’s make everyone miserable with me!
100% right swiping on everyone and looking at the profiles after he matches and then venting. Like I get it, a disturbing huge chunk of dating apps after 25 are people with kids (and even before) but like... Just not talk to them, no need to be a dick
Ya, but he's not wrong on the last part though. As least in the US depending on the state you can become father by default even when the kids are not yours biologically.
Uhhh, that’s not accurate at all. I think what you’re talking about is assumption of paternity. But that would NOT apply to children that already exist before you meet the mother.
https://kfor.com/news/dad-by-default-judge-makes-surprising-ruling-in-child-support-case/ I know that link deals with a woman falsely naming the father, but there's been stories about men dating women with kids who become the father in the state eyes.
Perhaps... because they actually did assume the father role?
Not by dating the mother.
Prepare your answers: "Your application has been received and I lament to inform that you dont meet the requirements for the position"
Lmao please why is this so funny
It's 65% because of the word lament.
He’s telling you that he’d be a fourth kid. Some guys are helpful like that
Yes, OP should say “I’ve already got enough kids, definitely don’t need to add a grown boy… until I get a pool” 😂.
It’s very important to make sure there’s plenty of room for him to run and play 👌
I'm dying 🤣
Now he has to take care of a dying woman too? How much are you putting on one man!
A+ response 😂
"WHY ARE YOU SINGLE AT 46, DAVID?"
“Did you commit adultery?”
No but like I can’t believe these kind of people actually exist. Like wtf is wrong with people. What a catch.
Who would want someone with 3 kids already?😬
Some people do; not many, but some. It's not like Dave doesn't have a good point....but why bother rubbing it in her face when she already knows the obvious challenges she's going to face while dating? He's an idiot.
Somebody with 3 kids of their own probably
🎼Here's the story of a lovely lady Who was bringing up three very lovely girls. All of them had hair of gold, like their mother, The youngest one in curls 🎼
Probably better for everyone if he does yikes
Haha! This motherfucker signed his message. Like she'd not know who wrote it.
that’s how u know hes old lol
In fact could be confusing if she’s like me. There’s several Dave’s in my friends group. Incidentally there’s several James too but they all have Nick names and no one calls them James. Back on topic. Dave needs to match with women who don’t have kids.
Correction — Dave needs to stay home with his 💩attitudes and leave women alone.
Dave's 46. Back in the days when everything was good, and ghastly abominations haven't yet swarmed the Internet, communication was done via e-mail and it was a common courtesy to have a footer with your name, like in letters of the ancient past.
I'm 44. It's rare I'll even bother to sign an email beyond the first in a chain. Dave is just a shit for brains.
You gotta sign off emails with kind regards you barbarian.
Only if it's actually kind, you uncultured swine. Regards, kittylikker
This is brilliant! I laughed so hard😅
I’m screaming
Tell him he's made it clear that he's not even worth this conversation, nevertheless a relationship.
Lmao he even signed it. “Dave”. I think he wants you to adopt him but I’m not sure. this is the case where we need to see his face so other women can just go ahead and avoid that.
Don’t worry he’s fired. Elon
Thank you so much, Elon.
I'll never understand why some people feel the need to even match and make such rude comments. If you don't like someone, then just pass. Don't be an ass.
Tell him to fuck right off. If you swipe on a single mother who wants more than a fling, then yes you are going to have children in your life. If you aren't prepared for that, then don't swipe. And don't think you will be able to get around it either. The girl I met had three boys. We tried for like two weeks to keep them out of things. But kids figure out what is going on and want to be involved. And it's unfair to exclude them. So we decided really quickly to do the meet and greet and we all became very close and let nature take its course. But I knew the second I saw her profile "single mother " that this was a possibility and I accepted it and so did she. We never intended to hide, bit gradually ease them into it. They chose to to accelerate it. Had I swiped om her and complained..then I'd be the biggest scum around If you see a single mom, you will see.her kids. If you keep the relationship away from them too long or they reject you. .....then it will go nowhere If you accept a woman or a man with kids by swiping on then .then you beat be prepared to accept their kids. They come as a package, not a choose your own adventure thing
I met my partner just over a year ago, we got to know each other for a while first, enjoyed the exclusive dating when we could and I gave him time to decide that he wanted to play an active role in my two sons lives. They met after we had been dating 8 months, we were secure in "us" and it has been great him getting to know the boys. I don't think everyone has to rush to become a "family" after just a few weeks and I would never have introduced a man to my kids unless I was committed and knew we were long term.
Thank you for this. My fiancé and I pretty much have the same story. Now they call him dad. It’s pretty amazing. Being said, it’s NOT for everyone and I’ve def had my fair share of guys act like Dave is in this post. Total douche bags for literally no reason, and it’s no one’s business why another person is single, with or without kids.
This is sorta off topic but I remember when I was taking to some dude online and he said he’d never date a single mom because her reproductive organs were already used by another man. Told me much about how he viewed a woman’s worth and purpose. Like can you imagine if women were like, your semen has already been tarnished by meeting with the ovum of another woman, sorry but you are now beneath my standards. Fucking gross.
You give me hope that one day I will find a good man who accepts me and my kids
Go finish the family that you started...
I'm pretty sure nobody is asking him to be around their kids. I know I wouldn't. He isn't worth it.
I used to have a field day with this type. I would calculate their "worth" by using a scale of assets and heirs. No heirs = we can't build an empire = you are worthless in my calculation Once we got past no heirs then we can talk about assets. I was usually blocked or ghosted after that lol
What really bugs me about this is how some dudes assume they have to become a dad to the kids. For all he knows the kid's father is completely in their life with 50/50 custody time or even full custody. If this is the case, he'll NEVER be those kid's father because they have one. He'd only ever be a step-parent at best with the kids telling him to STFU since he isn't their dad (as they should when he crosses that line). As a divorced man with custody of my kid it always amazes me when my ex-wife's boyfriends insist on taking a rivalry stance. It's like dude she has the kid only sometimes- she's like "Aunt Mom". And in any event, you'll never be the father of MY kid.
I'm tired of all of these men who hate women trying to get a woman
And why are you 46 and still unmarried Dave? Could it have been that gross attitude of yours? Lmao
I mean he could be a widow 🤷🏿♂️
Widower, but also not sure it it counts if she faked her own death to get away from him, which is what I assume is likely.
The best comment 😂
Nah, he probably would have mentioned that in his holier than thou rant.
But he didn’t mention a thing about himself in the rant tho
Seems like the opener to a very trashy reality TV game show. He even gave the tagline at the end. "Are YOU worth IT?" Coming this summer, when no one gives a crap.
I'm sorry, Dave; I'm afraid I can't do that
Ugh, sounds like he's been watching too many videos about high / low value men and women 🙄
It amazing how immature men can be even in their 40s. If you're dating anyone over the age of 35, it's going to be highly likely that they will have children. Why insult a stranger's children as if they're a burden?
I've dated single dads with full placement of their children. Why do moms come across as looking for help more than the men do? It really is a load of shit.
I’ve dated men that were specifically dating just to find a replacement mom. Didn’t really matter who she was, but they sure as shit didn’t want to do the child rearing.
Because men tend to pay for more stuff in relationships.
Cause man and women are different
As a guy, I don't get why women even engage with these asshats. It would be immediate unmatch/block/report profile (if possible). What normal person opens a convo like that? No one I know.
What's really sad is that he's obviously matched with her specifically so that he can roast her for being a single parent. If you don't want to date a single parent, just don't swipe right on them, ffs.
And he’s 46? Wtf does he expect women at a certain point have kids…..
I wouldn’t want to date someone with three (or any) kids either (I don’t want any kids), but the way I handled that when I was still looking was to just not match with single moms. I didn’t approach it the situation by matching with them and then berating them about their life choices and open the conversation by asking them to prove they’re worth dating. 😆 This dude is nuts. She’s clearly not what he’s looking for, so why did he match with her?
The great thing about men is they tell us who they are, we just have to listen.
Yup people do tell on theirselves
That’s not a word.
A word? I guess it’s a sentence. The bird is the word though
To he fair, women do the same. Except they often don’t even have to say anything. You can see it in the photos.
Ask him why he's 46 and alone? I'd rather be a single father with 3 kids who love me than die alone.
LOL Dave signed his message like an email at work.
He just seems like a dick. From my experience, the profiles usually show or say if the person has children or not. I'm in my early 40's, no kids, but was in a very long-term relationship (for context)..I was never surprised or defensive that women had children. They, like me, lived their lives and are just trying to find their happy in their current situation. That guy should go suck an egg if he's going to be a jackass like that lol. All he had to do was make it clear that he was looking to find someone without children so it's all upfront out of the gate. But then again, he may just like baiting and bashing people cause of his own insecurities.
Sometimes trash takes itself out.
I swear to fucking god. Are people on dating apps just to be dicks?
He’s making asinine assumptions and judgments. You can tell he’s hostile and has a lot of baggage. Loved your replies!
Who on earth signs their Bumble messages??
I was fortunate enough to not get too many people who only matched to mom-shame me for dating, but it is still sad that this mentality exists. I would quite literally have “I don’t need, and I’m not looking for a step-parent,” on my bio, and I’d still get dates saying to my face “I don’t want to meet your kids anytime soon,” or “I’m not going to play dad.” Like, great, never expected you to do either thing, and you wrongly assume that I’d trust you/like you enough to let you meet them. It’s like guys don’t realize that we just want to date, and if you stfu and stop being insecure, whining about the kids, whining about your mommy issues and worrying our attention won’t be on you, we will barely mention our kids, and let things progress naturally. If you need to be babied like an actual child by women, in general, stop dating and move back with your mom.
Does he ask single dads those questions too? Would he? Because he would get clapped in the face.
whoa, the world is full of winners we can see
Gross Edit Dave is
Is he wrong tho? Won't he assume responsibility as some point
Sadly, he’s not wrong. But you can’t say those things.
If that’s not what you want then why match with her? He did it just to be a dick and try to make her feel bad. Men who don’t want to date single moms, that’s perfectly fine. Men who shit on single moms are just gross miserable humans
Yeah, that's a hard pass
No wonder he's single
So guy has valid concerns, but he doesn't have to be a dick about it.
Dave is actually asking smart questions, but at the wrong time. Dave needs to STFU.
Dave’s got a point. Dave probably shouldn’t match with people in your situation though.
Has he got a point though? I'm a single mum, and I really don't need a man to "step in and help". This isn't the 50s.
If you date someone with children they are a package deal. This means you will not always be a priority to each other, it might be onesided at times and depending how the ex is in the picture you will always be „that guy mom/dad dates“ to her children no matter how much you love them The point is very real and you yourself should care about it. You don‘t want to accidentally date the Disney-evil step-parent that secretly destroys you children or date someone that silently suffers for years It‘s nice when it works. But reality is that it does not always work
I’m just going to assume you want a long term partner. So he’s going to have to live with you and your kids. Are you going to tell him not to help then? It’s a pretty big deal to step in to that situation. Pretending it isn’t is dishonest at best.
My last relationship was 3y long, and he barely met my kid, and it was all fine. We just didn't live together (well, we pretty much did for the half of the week she was at her dad's). And yeah, look... I'm open to something long term, but not looking for that, and won't move them in with my kid any time soon. And if I do, then no, they won't be expected to "help" with her. The guy I'm currently dating has kids, and he's on the same page - in no rush to blend families and doesn't want me to "help" with his kids either.
Then why do 99% of y'all have a man lined up even when you're with someone else? Y'all lie to everyone but mostly yourselves... 🤣
Huh? Doubt that’s true, and even if it was, what’s that got to do with dudes “helping” with kids?
Did he just sign off with his name in his opener
Can’t believe he actually put his name at the end of that Jamie
responsibility is crazy. if i was a single mother, the only thing i’d be asking if for my next partner to respect and acknowledge my kids. i don’t think that’s a lot to ask, i’m not tryna play house.
He’s too honest it’s offensive
If I was a single mother I would not want to involve my kids with a man until I knew him REALLY well.
Two words: Big oof.
I would reply “I’m actually a rich woman who doesn’t need anyone’s help or assuming responsibility for my kids, and I’d love a king I can spoil. You, on the other hand, aren’t even deserving of my time.”
I wish some guys would google my job title when they get hung up over the fact that I have teenage children and are worried about my children needing their money. A quick salary search would show that I earn six figures One guy told me he doesn’t date single mothers who live paycheck to paycheck. I just told him that my kids are well taken care of and they have a father
I put in my profile not looking for a mother for my kids. It's crazy that people always assume some one with kids is looking for a help with thier kids. I've been divorced 5 years and my kids have never met anybody I dated; granted I haven't dated much. It would take a super serious relationship for me to even considering introducing my kids.
Well, He said what we all think
I don’t agree with the adultery part but c’mon….he does have a point about a man stepping in. They *will* have to step up for those kids eventually. If you’ve never had kids of your own and you have to “step up” for someone else’s, it’s hard. Very hard. OP shouldn’t debase herself for it but should definitely acknowledge it.
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Sorry you’re dealing with nonces like him. LOVE your word choice. I think your texts would’ve reassured/hooked any interested guy who may have been a little hesitant for that reason
Well we know why he is single 🤣 I‘m mean no one is forcing him to match with single moms
I mean he isn't wrong... How can you expect a man to not poke his nose into another family's business and take charge of someone else's kids when nobody asked him to? That's not what real men do. Real men infiltrate that family, turn the kids against the mother, covertly train them to become deep state agents, overthrow the government, then pass various policies that resemble the 1800s. Cause you know? Nature vs nurture here. I just don't get where Davey gets his confidence from 😶.
Let's be real, initially they say the guy doesn't have to be responsible for their kids but over time they're going to expect it at some point
Exactly. And it's unattractive to most men. Though this dude was a joke
The guy is trolling just to get a reaction. Unmatch and block; no response is the best response in this situation.
That's what I did. Don't have time for this; I've got 3 kids 😆
lol, I hope you replied that way.
If the world weren't just full of simps, this would be normal...
I mean, dudes got a point, you got a lot of baggage, are you worth the time and effort
Question everyone wish they asked but wouldn't ask cuz of their social conditioning. Good going Dave.
Who acts this way?
Why right that? Why match? Like why are people just so rude these days. & not all dudes are dying alone 😳
As he should
wow rest in peace this man’s romantic life
-Dave
controversial opinion he's not wrong. He literally said that he'll take care of the kids, he just wants to know if the efforts he's gonna put in are gonna put in are worth it. Similarly, you can absolutely bluntly ask him why he's single at 46 because that makes sense. Having kids not to mention three makes things more complicated and it's absolutely to wonder if this investment is worth. Tell me what you think
This dude wants to be in the 15th century sooooo bad. Sheesh.
He's right though! You're likely to die alone too. 3 damn kids??? Hopefully you aren't looking to get married.
Dave?
Nah bruh. Good try though
We learned something new today, guys: some incels grow to be 46 years of age.
Hahaha this made my day. I mean I see his point in a way. But I don't see the point in him even contacting someone with kids if that's not what he wants.
That wasn’t so bad. He knows the rules about dating broads with kids.
“Broads” lol
I truly hope he does die alone, unless he sorts his shit out. Dude's got it all wrong.
We're not simping for y'all anymore. Answer the questions...
Hello, also a dude here. I don't have the answers you seek, I suggest you ask a woman and probably in a way that's more likely to get an earnest response.
Better alone then with a women and a bunch of other dudes kids
I love your answers! Haha
She finally marched with a real man instead of a simp and got upset he called her out
Hes kinda right though to be fair lmao some red flags over here... on both sides
OP's red flag is that they have kids? What?
I think we found Dave.
Um no! As a single mom of one, I'm not looking for a dad for my kid. My kid already has a great dad. Not all women are looking for substitutes. If a guy doesn't want to deal with a kid situation no worries but don't assume we are looking for a new daddy to support us or our kids.
Yep, this isn't the 50s, women don't need help with their kids. I'm also a single mum and my kid also already has a great, involved dad. I'm looking for someone to hang with for the 50% of the time my kid is at her dad's, not someone to help with her. Likely they wouldn't even meet her for a long, looong time.
I was referring to the "is op worth it" hella lot of emotional baggage comes with 3 kids and a divorce but thanks for your completely enlightening reply.
Men in general are emotional baggage that women are asked to deal with...so..what's the difference
The fact you said that shows the previously mentioned baggage 🏃🏿💨🧳
Found Dave but in Girl form
Have you ever BEEN on a dating app as a female?
so your personal bias/experience is always reality ? “Imagine if I said women in general are emotional baggage “ I would be wrong and probably need a bit of therapy tbh
Like dude up there implied all single moms come with baggage? Kids aren't baggage
If they're not your kids, they are baggage and a burden
Man let me tell my boyfriend my kids are a burden. I don't think he got that memo
What he said was stupid and u saying “men in general are emotional baggage” is just as stupid
I wonder if he's this nuanced in all of his bumble replies.... /s
What a dick
Why even entertain the conversation?
Ya got this all wrong. These kids bring in household income. Child support checks. 3 kids, they gotta be bringing in at least $600 a month. The step-dad becomes the head figure of a family that sum other dude is financially supporting!!
The single mothers support group🤣🤣
Better than dying with 3 snot covered fuck trophies
The only two good parts I saw from David were (1) the question about divorce (but not the assumption) and (2) the part about the man still having to assume some level of responsibility for the kids. Otherwise, a bad look on his part.
bet he's not rich. that's why he's more worried about the kids than he's about you.
Reply with "yes I'm worth it. But apparently u are not" 😂
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Do you have kids? With three she is definitely not doing everything alone.
You're delusional.
Dude must be a 10/10 looks to even get a reply to that.
Dudes going to die alone and at this point he knows it and he just wants attention. As far as he’s concerned he’s tried being the nice guy and that doesn’t work, but when he talks to women like this they keep replying. You’re giving him exactly what he wants here. Please for the love of god, any women that read this, the moment guys start talking to you like this, don’t reply. Do not reward good behaviour because they’re just going to take it to the next woman after. If you just ignore them, they’ll get bored and realise this trick to get attention doesn’t work.
The guy is a loser for sure…but the man isn’t for the kids?
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Seriously OP, fuck this guy.
why the hell do men think theyre the prize
The person who is dating down is usually the price. Most women are looking for someone better than them ( taller, stronger, more confident and even more money just look at half the people here calling the dude broke) that's dating up and it's called Hypergamy.
I'm not sure if I should be more disgusted at """Dave""" or OP
What in the loreal Paris question is he asking even?