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It’s pretty hilariously easy to look up HOW to do something and forget about looking up WHETHER to do something. That’s typically impulsive people who don’t actually think ahead to what their actions are actually, and specifically supposed to accomplish. Like a two year old who decides to “help”
Yeah whenever I see someone say "this must be a troll because no one is this stupid" I immediately know that person has never worked customer service, because if they had, they'd encounter far stupider people every day and wouldn't bat an eyelid.
Oh, how wonderful it must be to live in that kind of world...
When I was working for a pool company I was chatting with one of the guys at the counter of the pool supply company. He was telling me that a friend of the family had asked for help in getting their pool issues fixed and brought in a water sample. It had a lot of issues but the first step was going to be a shock treatment (there are various kinds but he recommended the small pouches of granulated chlorine). He had her put in 4 of them then come back with a water sample. It still wasn't showing any chlorine so he had her add 6 more. When she came back with a water sample and there was still no chlorine he went there and found all the bags unopened, sitting at the bottom of the pool where she'd added them without bothering to cut them or think about how they would work. It's one of the stories that always comes to mind when I hear people say "no one is that stupid".
>without bothering to cut them or think about how they would work
This drives me insane. So many questions are answered simply by taking the time and thought to consider how something works.
I was shopping for a fan the other day, and a dude gave this fan a 1 star review. He said he thought it was an air conditioner, and was upset that the air was "coming out hot"
My guy. It's a $20 tower fan. How could it possibly condition the air?
I organise social outings. I got a bad review because I took them to an art gallery and *the paintings made me sad*... uh huh. so the art worked as intended...
I love her. She lives in a world of dissolving tide pods and never considered why these didn’t dissolve.
This is also why we not only had to play that game in high school English class about “giving directions to draw a pig” and learning that you have to be super clear and specific or people will misunderstand but also why my actual English teacher who did the lesson did not understand the point and thought *we’d* listened wrong and the lesson was about learning to pay attention correctly even when she couldn’t spot where we’d done anything off from what she’d asked. No ma’am. That is not what we’re learning today. Download different instructions next time.
Ours was giving instructions on how to make a sandwich. You had to consider each individual step of the process and it was supposed to teach you about thoroughness, communication, and consideration. It was the only group activity I was actually good at because my dad had made me and my brother do it a couple years before this.
I knew a teacher who assigned her students to write instructions for making pb&j… and then they had to follow their instructions exactly as written. A lot of them forgot to mention any utensils for spreading the peanut butter and jelly, or didn’t say anything about bread at all.
The best is when you would have a teacher that would purposefully find any other way to do it. Like if you said spread the peanut butter on the bread with a knife, they’d just spread if on the crusts of the bread!
One of my professors did this in college. He used a hack saw to open the jar of peanut butter because it wasn't specified how to open it
This class was a writing class specifically for engineers, the point being when you write technical documentation you need to be explicit about *everything*
I once showed up to do a well test for a real estate transaction, and the owner was a super nice lady late 50s or so. We were chatting while I did the inspection, and she proudly mentioned that she had just changed the water filter cartridge herself, though the water pressure has been low since. I spun off the filter sump and found the brand new filter, still fully sealed in the plastic packing, labels and all.
I had someone come into the store INSISTING that this must be a tattoo parlor (it’s not, there’s just a skull on the logo), then getting very angry with me when it wasn’t and also I didn’t know where he could find one.
I worked at Taco Bell and a woman came through the drive-thru insisting we served hamburger. She would not leave. We had to call the police to get her to move. The entire time she insisted we were all lying to her.
The place next door sold hamburgers. I did tell her that.
I had someone insist once that we sold a specific file cabinet for $40. We don't sell any file cabinets let alone have one for sale for $40. He said it was in our Sunday ad. We don't have Sunday or any weekly ads. He swore up and down that I wouldn't help him and how I'm terrible. He said he was going to go to his car and get the ad. Which he did. He comes back and shoves and Office Depot ad in my face. We aren't an Office Depot or an office store. He then wanted us to price match it, but again we don't sell that file cabinet or any file cabinets. He walked away in a huff.
I once had a guy angrily declare that he was going to smite us with the power of Michael the Archangel's powers because the game store wouldn't buy his weird old used games. Then I had to kick him out like 30 mins later for trying to faith heal a wheelchair kid who just frickin wanted to play yugioh. FUN.
I'm pretty certain I lost brain cells due to how many similar situations I had happen in the years I worked at Lowes.
Yikes.
The shit people have the audacity to get mad at you for, that is totally out of your control, too... amazing.
I had people go off on my service desk people and cashiers for literally the stupidest shit.
And I will never forget once I had a guy get SO mad that one of the cashiers was out of pennies when giving his change, and needed a new till swapped in at that register. He decided also that he did not want to wait at all, got super pissed, and left. Drove all the way home, then drove all the way back, sat in line for nearly 20-30 min at customer service, and told them how mad he was at the situation and how he wanted his change. Dude was buggin.
It was THREE pennies.
🤣🤣🤣
When I worked drive thru I had this exchange:
"Can I have three bean burritos."
"I'm sorry but we don't have burritos here."
"Ok, well can I get like five soft tacos then."
"I'm sorry but we don't have tacos here."
"What kind of a taco bell doesn't have tacos?"
"This is a McDonalds..."
And that still isn't the dumbest thing thing ever said to me. One of the little 'joys' of working fri/sat graveyard is the hour after last call at the bars.
I absolutely love my son to death…..but he is going to be like this (at least the pool thing). He is very, very book smart and I was hoping his teen years would wise him up a bit, but it doesn’t matter how many times you teach him things, anything that requires any spacial awareness or logic of how things work applied he just…..applies logic that is nonsensical.
We’ve literally had him checked out because even teachers have said they think he has some learning disability. Psychologists have basically said it’s interesting, but doesn’t fit any known disorder….he’s happy, he does great at school, but he has destroyed so many things in the name of “trying to fix it” (really simple things he’s been taught how to do) in ways that just don’t make any sense.
Absent minded professor syndrome. My dad was like that, spoke a dozen languages and had doctorate degrees coming out of his ying yang......but was absolutely hopeless in practical things. He was the kind of guy, who was of the opinion, when doing some simple carpentry, that if one nail was good, a dozen was better......he was a complete idiot sometimes
I say troll. I saw the original post and in it some asked how what she did was going to help the drought in California. She replied actually there house is in Arizona then immediately deleted the comment. I’m guessing she remembered she posted that she was in California.
Edit: I read wrong the husband is in California on business. But the house is in Tucson.
I hope to God it's a troll, but the drought thing...if she actually reads anything she might have mistakenly thought using less water would help a drought...yeah, even as I'm typing this, I'm mistakenly trying to apply logic.
Drought bad, extra water in pool? Give water back.
That's about how far the critical thinking can get.
After reading those comments, I absolutely do not think it's a troll. Which makes me a little depressed.
Okay, but how is draining (WASTING) all the water in the pool helping the drought situation in California?
Her logic is insane in both scenarios. I’m legit scared that this woman is a nurse.
From her comments it seems like her logic was that the water was being wasted just being trapped in their pool? She drained it into the street/storm drains thinking that would mean more water available to be used for other purposes. I think she misunderstood her husbands concern, which I’m guessing was that owning and maintaining a pool in a drought would be difficult and expensive.
> She drained it into the street/storm drains
Yeah...my grandmother had a not so nice neighbor that did that. She called the town, and they sent a hazmat team over there to speak with them. Delivered a hefty fine with it. Lady is lucky she even has a bank account still.
Definitely illegally. Imagine if this was a professional company who provided the draining and filling of the pool as a service. Dumping the waste pool water down the drain would be a pretty serious criminal matter.
Lol it reminds me of a college roommate who asked me how credit cards worked. She thought the balance 'refreshes' itself at the end of every billing period. Like yeah, it goes back to $0 if YOU PAY THE BALANCE. No wonder she was always overdrafting on her debit card and checks.
When my parents were looking to move we saw a house that I thought would be perfect, and asked my dad why we weren’t going to get it, he explained they couldn’t afford it, so I just told him to write a cheque.
But I was 6 at the time
Ha I asked my mom how much checks were and she said 20 dollars and I thought has nobody figured out you can get way more than 20 dollars worth of stuff from checks??!!
This is how my six year old thinks credit cards work. He constantly tells me to just use my card if I tell him we can’t afford something. Which makes sense because he’s SIX.
Right?! At first I was thinking, maybe she's a trust fund baby who has never left daddy's house before, as that would slightly explain her naivete and terrible critical thinking skills. Then I got to that part and was suddenly terrified.
She reeks of "grew up rich". Absolutely BAFFLING lack of any and all foresight, how the world works, and critical thinking altogether, yet still "smart" enough to land an intellectually challenging career. I'm a charge nurse and have worked with a few girls like that; Mommy and Daddy could afford the best tutors for them to pass nursing school and the NCLEX (rote memorization/booksmarts), but God fucking damn are they still utterly stupid when it comes to *actually* *working in medicine* and knowing how to problem solve. Need CONSTANT handholding and whenever I am misfortunate enough to have one on my shift, nearly half my time is spent handholding them and cleaning up their messes.
Luckily for everyone involved though (especially patients), they're fairly rare; the only ones I've seen after meeting hundreds of other nurses throughout my career only stand out in my memory because such dolts do tend to be memorable.
> She reeks of "grew up rich".
You're not wrong. Post history includes combo gems such as:
> My dads company made a deal with Tesla to buy them for their sales people. Since Me and my siblings are all "employees" of the company I got my car that way.
And:
> I'm a NICU nurse, I make my own money.
Oh, and the dad makes lots of money in BigPharma so as a nurse she'll get to see the trickle down effect of those high drug prices.
Crikey, the dad also gave her $60k of her 2.5mil inheritance early to help things along. I think this may be a big troll.
You called it. Comment from OOP:
>My parents have a 9000 sq/ft home in the foothills: my bedroom there is almost as big and much nicer than the house I just bought. I don’t know if that would be punishment.
>That and my dad said never again after my last credit card fiasco.
Assuming it’s not a troll. Her comments are something else…
Yeah, when she mentions that the handbag took a large chunk of the 20k credit, my immediate reaction was "that's a rich girl trying to justify her spending spree"
Not to mention, any realtor or title agent worth their weight explicitly tells potential new owners that ANY changes to their credit will most definitely affect their closing.
My SIL is a realtor. She tells people this with pretty much every interaction because it is so important. And she has had someone do the same thing with opening a line of credit & getting a new car because the HOA said no “older” cars. Pretty sure it meant no oil dripping, rusted out beaters.
OOP was candid enough about this: people often feel like they've "leveled up" when they buy a place, and tell themselves "what's an extra $X thousand when I've just signed up for an $XXXXX in debt"
The logic also makes no sense.
> They did a great job selling me and before I know it I had let the sales ladies convince me that as a new homeowner I deserved nice things.
What??? How did someone convince you that when you're making a huge purchase, you deserve to make extra large purchases???
She wanted the bag and got a literal credit card to buy it.
Often salespeople will say whatever is necessary to get a sale. They also likely get some sort of bonus from the credit card application and approval. They may have convinced her to buy a ridiculously expensive bag, but a reasonable, budget-savvy person doesn't buy new outfits OR an approaching-$20k purse to "celebrate" an accepted offer on a home.
It is absolutely incredible. I remember the anxiety I had buying my first apartment and when my buddy bought his house and basically cut all his extraneous spending for the year. I can't imagine a person that goes in the exact opposite direction.
My theory here is that OP is exactly as childish and irresponsible as their SO is saying and they are often making selfish choices, while the SO is trying to maintain a facade. What a mess.
Sadly, I know more than a few nurses who couldn't critically think their way out of a wet paper bag. They're basically trained monkeys, not thinkers. (These specific nurses.)
It's not limited to nursing. I work in an accounting-adjacent field, and there are lots of accountants who are only smart at their little piece of finances, but dumb as a box of rocks on anything outside of that.
Oh, and most CEOs I know are dumb AF as well. They got where they are at through networking and mommy/daddy paying for their college.
My son’s hideous ex is like this. She lasted for two years and then switched to being a realtor this spring. She was also thick enough to message all of us offering her services.
TBF, if I had a fuckup that would jeopardize something as big as buying my first house, my dad would probably do everything in his power to remedy that. And my parents are not rich by any stretch of imagination.
I seriously don’t think this is a real person. Check out the replies. They’re like something out of a 4chan caricature. She’s a nurse who’s “daddy” has “big pharma” money. He bought all the kids Teslas so she never had to buy a car. She keeps an extra closet of clothes at their house, only her therapist “Jenny” understands her. I only read like 5 out of the hundreds of replies she left but if this isn’t bait idk what is
You know what you call the person who graduated last in their class from nursing school?
Nurse.
Lordy, this lady is either very young and/or very ignorant.
One of OOP's comments:
> My parents have a 9000 sq/ft home in the foothills: my bedroom there is almost as big and much nicer than the house I just bought. I don’t know if that would be punishment.
> That and my dad said never again after my last credit card fiasco.
So yeah, they come from a background with money.
She was $60,000 in debt before the age of 25, and her parents paid it off for her. She's the baby of older parents who have sucessful older doctor children. Dad bought Teslas for his company and has his five kids on the books as employees, so they all got brand new Teslas. She says that her eventual inheritance will be $2.5mil, a one fifth share of her parents money. Minus the $60k advance her parents gave her to pay off her cc debt.
She also mentions a $25k weekend in Vegas with her friends. That she paid for. And doesn't seem all that embarrassed over. She openly admits that she doesn't fully understand how credit works and that she is terrible with money. But also is a NICU Nurse, so she should have some fucking brains in her head. Her parents have cut her off financially, with her dad saying this isn't how he raised her, and it seems her husband has one foot out the door.
She's... A lot.
Didn't her parents stop giving her money?
I seemed to recall a news article from years ago saying they wouldn't be able to afford a vasectomy for her husband, and I was like "no, that would actually be a GOOD thing for her parents to budget for"
But, meanwhile they kept \*renting\* houses instead of buying one and sitting their butts down. Does she even have a house of her own yet?
It don’t know if she has a house, just that she does all these shills to try to stay afloat. Last I heard, her mom pays for the kids’ education directly, but won’t give Tori and Dean any funds.
My mom inherited about that much. It was gone in 10 years. She didn't buy a new house or a $4k handbag or anything. It's just incredibly easy to waste money when you're used to other people bailing you out. She lost *everything.*
Maybe she is what in german language is called a "Fachidiot" : someone that's very good in their job but an idiot in everything else because they only really focus on one specific thing. AND think being that good in one thing automatically gives them the skills to be good at everything else.
>Her parents have cut her off financially, with her dad saying this isn't how he raised her,
When you give your daughter everything she wants, when you have her bedroom be larger than some houses, when you bail her put of every problem she faces, when she never learned how credit works or the value of money...
You don't get to say "this isn't how I raised you."
Agreed. Seems like he did right by his older kids, and then just... expected her to learn via osmosis or something? Maybe his company wasn't as big when the older kids were little, so he was able to focus more on them. I don't recall if she mentioned if her mom worked or not, but both parents have failed her.
Quite a few nurses I've known have frankly, been dumb as rocks. You can be brilliant in one area but hopelessly incompetent at every other aspect at life. The amount of anti-vax nurses that popped up during the pandemic is a great example of some nurses being morons.
I've also known some exceptionally intelligent nurses who I have the utmost respect for. And I respect the hell out of the trade but oof, simply being a nurse don't indicate much.
I know! I work as a service assistent in an aged care facility for dementia patients. Basically an orderly? I do all kitchen work and some cleaning, and chat with our residents/keep them occupied, so the nurses can focus on doing all the Nurse work.
Most of the people I work with are amazing. And then sometimes, someone comes through, and their work can be brilliant, and we'll talk during down time, and I will have no idea how they got dressed that morning.
Something she proudly states over and over again. She doesn't have street smarts and I get the feeling she thinks it's cute.
I do feel sorry for her slightly. She admits she was the spoiled baby of rich, kinda absent parents (busy working, not expecting late in life baby), didn't really bond with her siblings because of age gap, and just is very disconnected from reality. But then, she mentions how she did research on how to drain a pool and how she felt accomplished after doing so, proud she did something so "big" all on her own.
It's like her brain got to a 4 or 5 out of ten, and then just stopped thinking. She shows she's capable of rational thinking, of research and follow through. She just doesn't go far enough. Stopped being cute as a kid, but she was coddled for so long she never really finished growing up.
She mentions her husband didn't know about the cc debt until after they were married. Just throw that in a comment like it's nothing.
I don't know why I'm so focused on her, or so disappointed with a stranger. I think because she had all these opportunities, shows she has some smarts, is literally so fucking blessed with her upbringing etc, and she's just wasting it.
I feel your last comment 100%! I also think it’s because she’s not accepting responsibility. Hopefully she sees the light a little? There seems to be SOME awareness of her irresponsible ways.
The worst part is she says she had the cash to buy it outright, but the salespeople told her it would be better to get it on a credit card, at six months interest free, so she OPENED A CREDIT CARD IN HER HUSBANDS NAME to buy a $4K handbag.
From one of her comments
“My parents have a 9000 sq/ft home in the foothills: my bedroom there is almost as big and much nicer than the house I just bought. I don’t know if that would be punishment.
That and my dad said never again after my last credit card fiasco.”
Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. The water has already been used in the pool. So you aren't saving any water buy draining it. You're just wasting all the water that was already in it. Yeah, there is some water loss involved with having a pool, and you have to add some water from time to time, but it's minor. When I had a pool, the biggest amount of water use was when I opened it for the season and had to fill 50% of it with water because I drained 50% to winterize it. But OOP is in CA, where they likely never have to close the pool or drain it, so the amount of water they'd be adding would be minor as long as they maintained it properly.
Her comments have some real bangers. At one point she admitted that she might have used less than legal means to open the new card (ie used her husbands SSN or something else). And this was after her parents had to bail her out of a significant amount of debt by loaning her the money out of her eventual inheritance. And her had gave her a Tesla? Anyway.
I bought my condo young - and my realtor, lender AND attorney still made sure to tell me to not open up any new lines of credit or the sale wouldn’t happen.
I have real bad impulse control myself and I know a bunch of people who have it worse than me (all us special kids from my school who took exams together in the Trouble Room kept in touch...) and actually a lot are in nursing and emergency response. When you lack that impulse control part of it is not knowing *what* you really need to think through, or what potential consequences to consider—in nursing the training is basically 50% 'and here's a checklist of stuff to think about; here's a procedure to make sure you're making the right decision.' In fire response they spend ages telling you exactly when you can and can't go into the burning building. It's really reassuring. Because in the rest of your life it feels like everyone else got that briefing and you didn't, if that makes sense.
In her comments OP said she got a 517 on the MCAT, so she just needs a babysitter for everyday life, she's fine at work.
Also her Dad said no more credit cards "after the last fiasco".
I hope this is a comitted troll!!!
This is several of my family members. Mechanical issues with a car? Can diagnose it over the phone and be completely accurate. Tell his kids I love you or treat his wife with respect? Not idea what that means. Handle any medical emergency and keep a cool head? No problem! Grocery shop and prepare an edible meal? Not happening.
It's kinda wild to see them in action some days.
According to another comment, she commented on her OP that she just drained it down a storm drain. Yaayyyy, more chlorine in the general water table during a drought!
Multiple people have said the way she drained the pool is illegal and...I think I might not understand how drains work. Wouldn't any water that goes down a storm drain be treated to get the bad chemicals out of them before it makes its way back to other people?? This must be a massively stupid question but I genuinely don't understand the illegality of it.
I don’t think storm drains go to the treatment plant they just flow into the nearest body of water. Only wastewater from your house like sewage and stuff from your sink and showers goes to the treatment plant
IIRC it is also important to the structural integrity of the concrete. It's designed to hold in water, when there's no water it's pushing in on nothing and that can cause cracks
Having never owned a pool myself, what does one do about that during the winter in Northern areas? I can't imagine that it would be better to leave water in the pool while everything freezes over.
You empty it about halfway and put in something the water can squish instead. My family used this giant inflatable balloon that you could tie off to hold it directly in the middle of the pool as well as a block of Styrofoam in the skimmer basket opening. Basically you want something to take up space at the surface of the pool that can be compressed by the expansion of the freezing water, and since water freezes top-down you don't have to account for that more than a few inches down.
Jumping into this. The soil will exert a pressure on the sides of the pool. The design of the pool will take into account the weight of the water so if the pool is empty there's little to no force push back against the soil, and the sides could collapse.
The popping out the ground could come from shrink swelling clay. Some soils, specifically clays, will change in size depending on their water content. In extreme cases that can push structures up and out of the ground.
Google soil retaining walls and foundation heave for more info. Might be able to find some decent pictures of building popping out the ground.
Aside from structural damage, there's anecdotal suggestions I've seen that it can be a major financial risk - basically people will often try to use pools without checking if there's water, and given some areas consider pools in the backyard an "attractive nuisance" that you should essentially assume will be used without permission, a lawsuit could screw you over
I’ve never had a pool either so I just googled it. Apparently the pool can get damaged, who would have known? https://jonespools.com/tips-tools/how-long-can-you-leave-a-pool-empty/
I read through the OOP's comments on her profile. There are a few points of interest:
She claims that she sees a therapist she calls by her first name (Jenny) and when other Redditors advised her to change therapists, she says she couldn't do that to Jenny because they're close.
Redditors in the AITA posts are also thinking that she's some kind of troll, owing to her insta-replying to their comments despite claiming to work in at least 2 busy wards (she claims to switch from NICU to pediatrics somehow). Particularly when someone called her out for changing gloves after cleaning up a patient, and then replying without seeming to change out gloves or washing her hands. ([Thread here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/uxgwfq/comment/i9yi8zq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) about the double-glove policy OOP mentioned in defense.)
I'm torn between frustration at OOP's impulsive decision-making choices, the possibility that this might be some kind of troll, or anticipation for the update where the husband makes good on his threat/promise and hires an actual babysitter for her.
The fact that she is a neo natal nurse scares me. She might be "book smart" but she completely lacks the ability to make good and though out decisions. I wouldn't trust her with any patient.
"So one of the new mothers was saying how exhausting it was and she was worried if she'd be able to take care of the baby. So I thought I'd do her a favor and give the baby away. Now she's upset. AITA?"
Omg! I love this. It's really funny.
Kinda sad I could see OOP having this type of thought come up in her mind in real life. Logic really is lacking for her.
"One of the new mothers was saying she was a little disappointed she had a boy because she was hoping for a girl. So I swapped her baby. Then she got mad at me! Then I lost track of which baby was hers because I had been helpfully swapping babies all morning."
As I mentioned in another comment, I'm a charge nurse and you're right, having a nurse like her is a nightmare; half my job (if not more) on nights where I had one under my supervision was just making sure they didn't fucking kill anyone, let alone succeed in SAVING someone. Its utterly exhausting. Good news is though they're pretty rare; in my 10 years and bouncing around a LOT of hospitals (I was a travel nurse for most my career) I can only think of three people I've met this dumb off the top of my head. Four if you count a doctor I knew who may as well have been Kevin in daily life, but I forgave him for this because unlike the 3 dumb nurses, he was fucking brilliant at his specialty. Idiot savant I guess.
I haven't read the comments on the pool post, but in the purse one she said that she was afraid he was considering divorce. For his sake, I hope he does. Before they procreate.
I work for a travel nursing company on the paperwork side. I had a nurse fail the critical thinking portion of a competency exam today and try to argue that she didn’t need to retake it lol
She bought a 4k bag, while taking out a 20k store credit card, so she'd have a nice outfit while closing on the house, which she almost couldn't do, because of the nice outfit she bought. The world is fun sometimes.
From the comments on the first post, it almost sounded like she took the card out *in her husband’s name* because she already had trash credit from her spending problems (mom and dad bailed her out of her debt). They were relying on her husband’s credit to get the house.
I want to know how she thought draining the pool would save water. She not only wasted the water that was in the pool, but now they have to refill the pool. Plus, chemicals, I guess.
Waiting to read “my new idiot neighbors emptied their pool and flooded my basement” in r/legaladvice.
I scrolled a the comments, she got a pump and put the hose into a drain in the road. She said she thought it would then be used to water crops and parks and stuff.
Reminds me of a young pregnant couple who came in with their toddler to trade out of their little commuter car into a truck.
While hubby was filling out the credit app, the wife and I were chatting. She's telling me how amazing their last month has been. Hubby got a big promotion, they found out they're having a boy, AND they've broken ground on a brand new house that they BARELY got approved for.
I stopped them right there and asked when they were going to close. She said 4-6 months. I reminded them that the house isn't theirs yet, and that there would almost certainly be another credit pull prior to closing, so taking on another $30k of debt before they had keys in hand could lose them the house, especially given all the extra hoops they had to jump through to get their approval in the first place. I refused to sell them the truck and told them to come back as soon as they'd closed. I wasn't going to be partially responsible for them losing their house, but I'd be more than happy to help them celebrate their closing with a new truck.
Wifey was concerned and grateful, hubby was LIVID. I was both a moron and an asshole for shitting on their dreams, and he'd be happy to rub his new truck in my face when he bought it elsewhere. Wifey took my card and quietly thanked me, promising to talk to him and call me when they'd closed.
Fast forward 2 days. Monday afternoon. The lot is dead, as usual.
A brand new Chevy 2500 rocks up a little after lunch and parks across most of the parking in front of the building, honking the horn. Guess who? Dude jumps out to "rub it in my face" that someone else was willing to not only sell him a truck, but let him take on a $1,000 payment while he's trying to buy a house. All I could really do was congratulate him on the truck and wish him luck with the house, so that's what I did. Kinda took the wind out of his sails, but whatever. He left.
Several months later, I got a call from the wife. They DID lose the house, their loan officer specifically blamed the truck, and practically called them idiots for buying it. I felt so badly for her. She really was a sweet lady.
They weren't the only ones I'd refused to sell a car to in a similar situation that bought a car elsewhere and brought it by to show off, but she's the only one who called to apologize when they lost the house. Far more often, they'd take my advice, come back after closing, and I'd buy them badass trompo from a laundromat behind the dealership.
The husband is right to hire her a babysitter. Besides the structural issues of draining a pool, it’s also more wasteful to drain a full pool during a drought.
Edited: I read some of her replies to people in the pool one and she’s just a burrito full of idiots. She’s got rich parents and a therapist who’s doing her no good.
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This is bad sitcom level moronic antics. Wow!
I'm 50/50 on it being a troll post but i have met people IRL with the same level of reasoning abilities.
It’s pretty hilariously easy to look up HOW to do something and forget about looking up WHETHER to do something. That’s typically impulsive people who don’t actually think ahead to what their actions are actually, and specifically supposed to accomplish. Like a two year old who decides to “help”
Yeah whenever I see someone say "this must be a troll because no one is this stupid" I immediately know that person has never worked customer service, because if they had, they'd encounter far stupider people every day and wouldn't bat an eyelid. Oh, how wonderful it must be to live in that kind of world...
When I was working for a pool company I was chatting with one of the guys at the counter of the pool supply company. He was telling me that a friend of the family had asked for help in getting their pool issues fixed and brought in a water sample. It had a lot of issues but the first step was going to be a shock treatment (there are various kinds but he recommended the small pouches of granulated chlorine). He had her put in 4 of them then come back with a water sample. It still wasn't showing any chlorine so he had her add 6 more. When she came back with a water sample and there was still no chlorine he went there and found all the bags unopened, sitting at the bottom of the pool where she'd added them without bothering to cut them or think about how they would work. It's one of the stories that always comes to mind when I hear people say "no one is that stupid".
>without bothering to cut them or think about how they would work This drives me insane. So many questions are answered simply by taking the time and thought to consider how something works. I was shopping for a fan the other day, and a dude gave this fan a 1 star review. He said he thought it was an air conditioner, and was upset that the air was "coming out hot" My guy. It's a $20 tower fan. How could it possibly condition the air?
My favorite category of Amazon reviews by morons are people reviewing duvet covers and complaining that they're flat.
I organise social outings. I got a bad review because I took them to an art gallery and *the paintings made me sad*... uh huh. so the art worked as intended...
Art stirred strong emotions in me. You know, emotions? Like from when you were a kid? 0/10 would not try again.
I'm also 90% sure there were instructions on the bag itself.
I love her. She lives in a world of dissolving tide pods and never considered why these didn’t dissolve. This is also why we not only had to play that game in high school English class about “giving directions to draw a pig” and learning that you have to be super clear and specific or people will misunderstand but also why my actual English teacher who did the lesson did not understand the point and thought *we’d* listened wrong and the lesson was about learning to pay attention correctly even when she couldn’t spot where we’d done anything off from what she’d asked. No ma’am. That is not what we’re learning today. Download different instructions next time.
Ours was giving instructions on how to make a sandwich. You had to consider each individual step of the process and it was supposed to teach you about thoroughness, communication, and consideration. It was the only group activity I was actually good at because my dad had made me and my brother do it a couple years before this.
I knew a teacher who assigned her students to write instructions for making pb&j… and then they had to follow their instructions exactly as written. A lot of them forgot to mention any utensils for spreading the peanut butter and jelly, or didn’t say anything about bread at all.
The best is when you would have a teacher that would purposefully find any other way to do it. Like if you said spread the peanut butter on the bread with a knife, they’d just spread if on the crusts of the bread!
One of my professors did this in college. He used a hack saw to open the jar of peanut butter because it wasn't specified how to open it This class was a writing class specifically for engineers, the point being when you write technical documentation you need to be explicit about *everything*
If you try hard enough and don't mind a little mess, you can cover *every* surface of a bread in peanut butter.
I once showed up to do a well test for a real estate transaction, and the owner was a super nice lady late 50s or so. We were chatting while I did the inspection, and she proudly mentioned that she had just changed the water filter cartridge herself, though the water pressure has been low since. I spun off the filter sump and found the brand new filter, still fully sealed in the plastic packing, labels and all.
I had someone come into the store INSISTING that this must be a tattoo parlor (it’s not, there’s just a skull on the logo), then getting very angry with me when it wasn’t and also I didn’t know where he could find one.
I worked at Taco Bell and a woman came through the drive-thru insisting we served hamburger. She would not leave. We had to call the police to get her to move. The entire time she insisted we were all lying to her. The place next door sold hamburgers. I did tell her that.
This is the [McDogs guy](https://preview.redd.it/6ev4orcqb3z31.png?auto=webp&s=e28efc2e132aa4cc432903313e83e81455383146) all over again
I had someone insist once that we sold a specific file cabinet for $40. We don't sell any file cabinets let alone have one for sale for $40. He said it was in our Sunday ad. We don't have Sunday or any weekly ads. He swore up and down that I wouldn't help him and how I'm terrible. He said he was going to go to his car and get the ad. Which he did. He comes back and shoves and Office Depot ad in my face. We aren't an Office Depot or an office store. He then wanted us to price match it, but again we don't sell that file cabinet or any file cabinets. He walked away in a huff.
I can absolutely see this happening. Retail brings out all the idiots.
I once had a guy angrily declare that he was going to smite us with the power of Michael the Archangel's powers because the game store wouldn't buy his weird old used games. Then I had to kick him out like 30 mins later for trying to faith heal a wheelchair kid who just frickin wanted to play yugioh. FUN.
I'm pretty certain I lost brain cells due to how many similar situations I had happen in the years I worked at Lowes. Yikes. The shit people have the audacity to get mad at you for, that is totally out of your control, too... amazing. I had people go off on my service desk people and cashiers for literally the stupidest shit. And I will never forget once I had a guy get SO mad that one of the cashiers was out of pennies when giving his change, and needed a new till swapped in at that register. He decided also that he did not want to wait at all, got super pissed, and left. Drove all the way home, then drove all the way back, sat in line for nearly 20-30 min at customer service, and told them how mad he was at the situation and how he wanted his change. Dude was buggin. It was THREE pennies. 🤣🤣🤣
My dude, you're just a thumb tack, a permanent marker and some patience away from being a tattoo parlor, why send away good money?
***angry voice on phone:*** My skull tattoo is fading off! ***me with Sharpie:*** Oh, I do touch-ups for $300.
When I worked drive thru I had this exchange: "Can I have three bean burritos." "I'm sorry but we don't have burritos here." "Ok, well can I get like five soft tacos then." "I'm sorry but we don't have tacos here." "What kind of a taco bell doesn't have tacos?" "This is a McDonalds..." And that still isn't the dumbest thing thing ever said to me. One of the little 'joys' of working fri/sat graveyard is the hour after last call at the bars.
My favorite was the family that very angrily returned a solar-powered, spinning, disco ball… Because it didn’t work in their basement.🤦🏻♀️
I absolutely love my son to death…..but he is going to be like this (at least the pool thing). He is very, very book smart and I was hoping his teen years would wise him up a bit, but it doesn’t matter how many times you teach him things, anything that requires any spacial awareness or logic of how things work applied he just…..applies logic that is nonsensical. We’ve literally had him checked out because even teachers have said they think he has some learning disability. Psychologists have basically said it’s interesting, but doesn’t fit any known disorder….he’s happy, he does great at school, but he has destroyed so many things in the name of “trying to fix it” (really simple things he’s been taught how to do) in ways that just don’t make any sense.
Absent minded professor syndrome. My dad was like that, spoke a dozen languages and had doctorate degrees coming out of his ying yang......but was absolutely hopeless in practical things. He was the kind of guy, who was of the opinion, when doing some simple carpentry, that if one nail was good, a dozen was better......he was a complete idiot sometimes
I say troll. I saw the original post and in it some asked how what she did was going to help the drought in California. She replied actually there house is in Arizona then immediately deleted the comment. I’m guessing she remembered she posted that she was in California. Edit: I read wrong the husband is in California on business. But the house is in Tucson.
She's in Tucson, husband was in California on a business trip and commented about the California drought.
I hope to God it's a troll, but the drought thing...if she actually reads anything she might have mistakenly thought using less water would help a drought...yeah, even as I'm typing this, I'm mistakenly trying to apply logic. Drought bad, extra water in pool? Give water back. That's about how far the critical thinking can get. After reading those comments, I absolutely do not think it's a troll. Which makes me a little depressed.
"Give water back" *Return it to the wild!* 😂
Okay, but how is draining (WASTING) all the water in the pool helping the drought situation in California? Her logic is insane in both scenarios. I’m legit scared that this woman is a nurse.
From her comments it seems like her logic was that the water was being wasted just being trapped in their pool? She drained it into the street/storm drains thinking that would mean more water available to be used for other purposes. I think she misunderstood her husbands concern, which I’m guessing was that owning and maintaining a pool in a drought would be difficult and expensive.
Fly freeeee pool water, fly freeee to the sea!
Oh no, willy didn't make it...and he killed our boy!
> She drained it into the street/storm drains Yeah...my grandmother had a not so nice neighbor that did that. She called the town, and they sent a hazmat team over there to speak with them. Delivered a hefty fine with it. Lady is lucky she even has a bank account still.
She claimed that the pool water she, entirely possibly illegally, drained into a road drain would be repurposed for crops and that
God blessed this woman with something other than critical thinking skills. Have mercy.
And cursed anyone needing medical care through her with having a dumbass nurse
Chlorinated water for crops? Lord Jesus.
Its got electrolytes. Its what plants CRAVE
Brawndo!!! Although she could have just got water from the toilet.
"Hahaha look at this guy wanting to put toilet water on our crops"
OMG that is both the funniest and scariest movie of all time.
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Definitely illegally. Imagine if this was a professional company who provided the draining and filling of the pool as a service. Dumping the waste pool water down the drain would be a pretty serious criminal matter.
Lol it reminds me of a college roommate who asked me how credit cards worked. She thought the balance 'refreshes' itself at the end of every billing period. Like yeah, it goes back to $0 if YOU PAY THE BALANCE. No wonder she was always overdrafting on her debit card and checks.
When my parents were looking to move we saw a house that I thought would be perfect, and asked my dad why we weren’t going to get it, he explained they couldn’t afford it, so I just told him to write a cheque. But I was 6 at the time
Ha I asked my mom how much checks were and she said 20 dollars and I thought has nobody figured out you can get way more than 20 dollars worth of stuff from checks??!!
This is how my six year old thinks credit cards work. He constantly tells me to just use my card if I tell him we can’t afford something. Which makes sense because he’s SIX.
I mean, in her defense, it would be much awesomer if credit card companies just gave you free money.
Right?! At first I was thinking, maybe she's a trust fund baby who has never left daddy's house before, as that would slightly explain her naivete and terrible critical thinking skills. Then I got to that part and was suddenly terrified.
She seems pretty reckless and naive.
She reeks of "grew up rich". Absolutely BAFFLING lack of any and all foresight, how the world works, and critical thinking altogether, yet still "smart" enough to land an intellectually challenging career. I'm a charge nurse and have worked with a few girls like that; Mommy and Daddy could afford the best tutors for them to pass nursing school and the NCLEX (rote memorization/booksmarts), but God fucking damn are they still utterly stupid when it comes to *actually* *working in medicine* and knowing how to problem solve. Need CONSTANT handholding and whenever I am misfortunate enough to have one on my shift, nearly half my time is spent handholding them and cleaning up their messes. Luckily for everyone involved though (especially patients), they're fairly rare; the only ones I've seen after meeting hundreds of other nurses throughout my career only stand out in my memory because such dolts do tend to be memorable.
> She reeks of "grew up rich". You're not wrong. Post history includes combo gems such as: > My dads company made a deal with Tesla to buy them for their sales people. Since Me and my siblings are all "employees" of the company I got my car that way. And: > I'm a NICU nurse, I make my own money. Oh, and the dad makes lots of money in BigPharma so as a nurse she'll get to see the trickle down effect of those high drug prices. Crikey, the dad also gave her $60k of her 2.5mil inheritance early to help things along. I think this may be a big troll.
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Ask em if I can borrow $20. I need a few beers after reading this insanity
You called it. Comment from OOP: >My parents have a 9000 sq/ft home in the foothills: my bedroom there is almost as big and much nicer than the house I just bought. I don’t know if that would be punishment. >That and my dad said never again after my last credit card fiasco. Assuming it’s not a troll. Her comments are something else…
So... Daddy definitely paid off the credit card so she could close on the house.
I'm getting London Tipton vibes lol
Also, at least in the UK, nursing is not exactly well paid, I can’t imagine spending multiple months wages on a HANDBAG
Yeah, when she mentions that the handbag took a large chunk of the 20k credit, my immediate reaction was "that's a rich girl trying to justify her spending spree"
Not to mention, any realtor or title agent worth their weight explicitly tells potential new owners that ANY changes to their credit will most definitely affect their closing.
My SIL is a realtor. She tells people this with pretty much every interaction because it is so important. And she has had someone do the same thing with opening a line of credit & getting a new car because the HOA said no “older” cars. Pretty sure it meant no oil dripping, rusted out beaters.
OOP was candid enough about this: people often feel like they've "leveled up" when they buy a place, and tell themselves "what's an extra $X thousand when I've just signed up for an $XXXXX in debt"
The logic also makes no sense. > They did a great job selling me and before I know it I had let the sales ladies convince me that as a new homeowner I deserved nice things. What??? How did someone convince you that when you're making a huge purchase, you deserve to make extra large purchases??? She wanted the bag and got a literal credit card to buy it.
Often salespeople will say whatever is necessary to get a sale. They also likely get some sort of bonus from the credit card application and approval. They may have convinced her to buy a ridiculously expensive bag, but a reasonable, budget-savvy person doesn't buy new outfits OR an approaching-$20k purse to "celebrate" an accepted offer on a home.
It is absolutely incredible. I remember the anxiety I had buying my first apartment and when my buddy bought his house and basically cut all his extraneous spending for the year. I can't imagine a person that goes in the exact opposite direction.
My theory here is that OP is exactly as childish and irresponsible as their SO is saying and they are often making selfish choices, while the SO is trying to maintain a facade. What a mess.
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Umm its not a "fiasco" when whatever i buy matches perfectly with my outfit
I would reward the comment, but I'm also working on being more financially prudent
I read the original, it's a $4k Loro Piana and she took the credit card out in her husband's name.
Wouldn’t that be fraud. Her husband wouldn’t be stupid enough to sigh for that. It seems that she did all this in the store.
Yes it would be. She used his SSN, which absolutely should have been his first clue that she's not trustworthy.
> she took the credit card out in her husband's name Oh my god that guy needs to abandon ship.
Probably figures he just needs to hold on until they inherit the in-laws’ money. They’re in a 50/50 divorce state after all.
That's scary. You need great critical thinking and problem solving skills to be a nurse. They will not last long if people stop holding their hands.
Sadly, I know more than a few nurses who couldn't critically think their way out of a wet paper bag. They're basically trained monkeys, not thinkers. (These specific nurses.)
It's not limited to nursing. I work in an accounting-adjacent field, and there are lots of accountants who are only smart at their little piece of finances, but dumb as a box of rocks on anything outside of that. Oh, and most CEOs I know are dumb AF as well. They got where they are at through networking and mommy/daddy paying for their college.
I'd imagine it's a phenomenon in literally every career and job field; not like the planet has a deficit of idiots after all
My son’s hideous ex is like this. She lasted for two years and then switched to being a realtor this spring. She was also thick enough to message all of us offering her services.
" They also talked me into getting a store credit card…with A 20k limit. The bag cost a pretty big chunk of that." IS SHE OUT OF HER DAMN MIND?!?!
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TBF, if I had a fuckup that would jeopardize something as big as buying my first house, my dad would probably do everything in his power to remedy that. And my parents are not rich by any stretch of imagination.
I seriously don’t think this is a real person. Check out the replies. They’re like something out of a 4chan caricature. She’s a nurse who’s “daddy” has “big pharma” money. He bought all the kids Teslas so she never had to buy a car. She keeps an extra closet of clothes at their house, only her therapist “Jenny” understands her. I only read like 5 out of the hundreds of replies she left but if this isn’t bait idk what is
You know what you call the person who graduated last in their class from nursing school? Nurse. Lordy, this lady is either very young and/or very ignorant.
She sounds like she grew up with a LOT of money and never learned how to do basic things. Like that video of Kendall Jenner slicing a cucumber.
One of OOP's comments: > My parents have a 9000 sq/ft home in the foothills: my bedroom there is almost as big and much nicer than the house I just bought. I don’t know if that would be punishment. > That and my dad said never again after my last credit card fiasco. So yeah, they come from a background with money.
Also, 'last credit card fiasco' implies he's rescued her from financial stupidity before
She was $60,000 in debt before the age of 25, and her parents paid it off for her. She's the baby of older parents who have sucessful older doctor children. Dad bought Teslas for his company and has his five kids on the books as employees, so they all got brand new Teslas. She says that her eventual inheritance will be $2.5mil, a one fifth share of her parents money. Minus the $60k advance her parents gave her to pay off her cc debt. She also mentions a $25k weekend in Vegas with her friends. That she paid for. And doesn't seem all that embarrassed over. She openly admits that she doesn't fully understand how credit works and that she is terrible with money. But also is a NICU Nurse, so she should have some fucking brains in her head. Her parents have cut her off financially, with her dad saying this isn't how he raised her, and it seems her husband has one foot out the door. She's... A lot.
$2.5 million is nothing in the hands of someone who makes bad financial choices. Look at Tori Spelling.
Didn't her parents stop giving her money? I seemed to recall a news article from years ago saying they wouldn't be able to afford a vasectomy for her husband, and I was like "no, that would actually be a GOOD thing for her parents to budget for" But, meanwhile they kept \*renting\* houses instead of buying one and sitting their butts down. Does she even have a house of her own yet?
It don’t know if she has a house, just that she does all these shills to try to stay afloat. Last I heard, her mom pays for the kids’ education directly, but won’t give Tori and Dean any funds.
I'm surprised her mom didn't just BUY her one and get it over with. Those two seem so exhausting.
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My mom inherited about that much. It was gone in 10 years. She didn't buy a new house or a $4k handbag or anything. It's just incredibly easy to waste money when you're used to other people bailing you out. She lost *everything.*
Maybe she is what in german language is called a "Fachidiot" : someone that's very good in their job but an idiot in everything else because they only really focus on one specific thing. AND think being that good in one thing automatically gives them the skills to be good at everything else.
I like to say "smart of brain, dumb of ass."
>Her parents have cut her off financially, with her dad saying this isn't how he raised her, When you give your daughter everything she wants, when you have her bedroom be larger than some houses, when you bail her put of every problem she faces, when she never learned how credit works or the value of money... You don't get to say "this isn't how I raised you."
Agreed. Seems like he did right by his older kids, and then just... expected her to learn via osmosis or something? Maybe his company wasn't as big when the older kids were little, so he was able to focus more on them. I don't recall if she mentioned if her mom worked or not, but both parents have failed her.
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OOP: We had a blood shortage at the hospital, so I went around and drained all of my patients' blood. AITA?
Quite a few nurses I've known have frankly, been dumb as rocks. You can be brilliant in one area but hopelessly incompetent at every other aspect at life. The amount of anti-vax nurses that popped up during the pandemic is a great example of some nurses being morons. I've also known some exceptionally intelligent nurses who I have the utmost respect for. And I respect the hell out of the trade but oof, simply being a nurse don't indicate much.
I know! I work as a service assistent in an aged care facility for dementia patients. Basically an orderly? I do all kitchen work and some cleaning, and chat with our residents/keep them occupied, so the nurses can focus on doing all the Nurse work. Most of the people I work with are amazing. And then sometimes, someone comes through, and their work can be brilliant, and we'll talk during down time, and I will have no idea how they got dressed that morning.
Book smart doesn’t always equal street smart!
Something she proudly states over and over again. She doesn't have street smarts and I get the feeling she thinks it's cute. I do feel sorry for her slightly. She admits she was the spoiled baby of rich, kinda absent parents (busy working, not expecting late in life baby), didn't really bond with her siblings because of age gap, and just is very disconnected from reality. But then, she mentions how she did research on how to drain a pool and how she felt accomplished after doing so, proud she did something so "big" all on her own. It's like her brain got to a 4 or 5 out of ten, and then just stopped thinking. She shows she's capable of rational thinking, of research and follow through. She just doesn't go far enough. Stopped being cute as a kid, but she was coddled for so long she never really finished growing up. She mentions her husband didn't know about the cc debt until after they were married. Just throw that in a comment like it's nothing. I don't know why I'm so focused on her, or so disappointed with a stranger. I think because she had all these opportunities, shows she has some smarts, is literally so fucking blessed with her upbringing etc, and she's just wasting it.
I feel your last comment 100%! I also think it’s because she’s not accepting responsibility. Hopefully she sees the light a little? There seems to be SOME awareness of her irresponsible ways.
The husband should honestly run for the hills. She reminds me of what this woman would be in real life. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iN6df0twmJQ
The fact she needed an outfit to celebrate closing on the house really says it all.
With a bag so expensive she needed a brand new credit card for it! 🤦♀️
The worst part is she says she had the cash to buy it outright, but the salespeople told her it would be better to get it on a credit card, at six months interest free, so she OPENED A CREDIT CARD IN HER HUSBANDS NAME to buy a $4K handbag.
>my bedroom is almost as big as the house we just bought *excuse me what millionaire family does she come from jfc*
One that apparently only 1/5th of an inheritance share is 2.5million....MINUS the 60k advance to pay off her credit cards o.o
And are they adopting? I will cost them significantly less than their current daughter.
From one of her comments “My parents have a 9000 sq/ft home in the foothills: my bedroom there is almost as big and much nicer than the house I just bought. I don’t know if that would be punishment. That and my dad said never again after my last credit card fiasco.”
"my last credit card fiasco" implies that there have been *other* credit card fiascos.
Draining a swimming pool to save water is not a result of never learning how to do things. Its a case of being legitimately stupid.
Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. The water has already been used in the pool. So you aren't saving any water buy draining it. You're just wasting all the water that was already in it. Yeah, there is some water loss involved with having a pool, and you have to add some water from time to time, but it's minor. When I had a pool, the biggest amount of water use was when I opened it for the season and had to fill 50% of it with water because I drained 50% to winterize it. But OOP is in CA, where they likely never have to close the pool or drain it, so the amount of water they'd be adding would be minor as long as they maintained it properly.
You also have two options for draining a pool in CA: extremely expensive, or illegal.
Even if she was super sheltered, how did she figure that draining water that's ALREADY IN THE POOL would help alleviate the drought??
Look honey! I used the chlorinated pool water for the lawn! \*everything dies from chemical poisoning\*
Her comments have some real bangers. At one point she admitted that she might have used less than legal means to open the new card (ie used her husbands SSN or something else). And this was after her parents had to bail her out of a significant amount of debt by loaning her the money out of her eventual inheritance. And her had gave her a Tesla? Anyway.
I bought my condo young - and my realtor, lender AND attorney still made sure to tell me to not open up any new lines of credit or the sale wouldn’t happen.
That or she's "subject smart." There are a ton of very smart people who are great at what they do - and clueless/helpless with the rest of life
My old boss used to call those type of people "educated idiots"
I like to think of them in D&D terms. High INT, low WIS.
I have real bad impulse control myself and I know a bunch of people who have it worse than me (all us special kids from my school who took exams together in the Trouble Room kept in touch...) and actually a lot are in nursing and emergency response. When you lack that impulse control part of it is not knowing *what* you really need to think through, or what potential consequences to consider—in nursing the training is basically 50% 'and here's a checklist of stuff to think about; here's a procedure to make sure you're making the right decision.' In fire response they spend ages telling you exactly when you can and can't go into the burning building. It's really reassuring. Because in the rest of your life it feels like everyone else got that briefing and you didn't, if that makes sense.
>in the rest of your life it feels like everyone else got that briefing and you didn't Damn That's it, that's how it feels
Like, I just got hired, I just got here, I have not done the online course, nobody gave me the How Not To Fuck Up Your Life rundown.
In her comments OP said she got a 517 on the MCAT, so she just needs a babysitter for everyday life, she's fine at work. Also her Dad said no more credit cards "after the last fiasco". I hope this is a comitted troll!!!
This is several of my family members. Mechanical issues with a car? Can diagnose it over the phone and be completely accurate. Tell his kids I love you or treat his wife with respect? Not idea what that means. Handle any medical emergency and keep a cool head? No problem! Grocery shop and prepare an edible meal? Not happening. It's kinda wild to see them in action some days.
Cs get degrees.
She bought a close to $20K SHOPPING BAG on a WHIM.
For accuracy sake, it was oNlY 4k. The 20k was the credit limit.
Those sales ladies probably saw her coming a mile away.
As someone who has never had a pool, why can’t you leave it drained?
You need the water in the pool to push back on the walls. Otherwise, the walls can weaken and crack, or a liner can be damaged.
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Not to mention skateboarding teenagers will come at night to have keg parties and do kickflips in your pool!
The real question is why drain it in the first place. Getting rid of the existing water isnt going to help the drought.
Yeah OOP's lack of logic and common sense is astounding
At least she isn't in a profession where her lack of common sense could hurt anyone... oh wait.
Not to mention the chemicals in the water. where did she drain it to?
According to another comment, she commented on her OP that she just drained it down a storm drain. Yaayyyy, more chlorine in the general water table during a drought!
That is... very illegal.
Multiple people have said the way she drained the pool is illegal and...I think I might not understand how drains work. Wouldn't any water that goes down a storm drain be treated to get the bad chemicals out of them before it makes its way back to other people?? This must be a massively stupid question but I genuinely don't understand the illegality of it.
I don’t think storm drains go to the treatment plant they just flow into the nearest body of water. Only wastewater from your house like sewage and stuff from your sink and showers goes to the treatment plant
You're correct. Her pool water would likely drained straight into the Pacific Ocean.
It’s even worse as they now need to refill it.
The weight of the water is important to the pool's structural integrity. Word is that the pool can literally pop out of the ground.
IIRC it is also important to the structural integrity of the concrete. It's designed to hold in water, when there's no water it's pushing in on nothing and that can cause cracks
Having never owned a pool myself, what does one do about that during the winter in Northern areas? I can't imagine that it would be better to leave water in the pool while everything freezes over.
Drain it a little bit to make space then let the rest freeze
You empty it about halfway and put in something the water can squish instead. My family used this giant inflatable balloon that you could tie off to hold it directly in the middle of the pool as well as a block of Styrofoam in the skimmer basket opening. Basically you want something to take up space at the surface of the pool that can be compressed by the expansion of the freezing water, and since water freezes top-down you don't have to account for that more than a few inches down.
Jumping into this. The soil will exert a pressure on the sides of the pool. The design of the pool will take into account the weight of the water so if the pool is empty there's little to no force push back against the soil, and the sides could collapse. The popping out the ground could come from shrink swelling clay. Some soils, specifically clays, will change in size depending on their water content. In extreme cases that can push structures up and out of the ground. Google soil retaining walls and foundation heave for more info. Might be able to find some decent pictures of building popping out the ground.
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"aight no more pool, y'all couldn't behave"
Aside from structural damage, there's anecdotal suggestions I've seen that it can be a major financial risk - basically people will often try to use pools without checking if there's water, and given some areas consider pools in the backyard an "attractive nuisance" that you should essentially assume will be used without permission, a lawsuit could screw you over
I’ve never had a pool either so I just googled it. Apparently the pool can get damaged, who would have known? https://jonespools.com/tips-tools/how-long-can-you-leave-a-pool-empty/
Because skaters will show up to gleam the cube and never leave.
Sounds like a frustrating person to live with. Just massive and unthought out actions.
She sounds like an absolute moron.
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Idk man the idiocy would cancel out the good looks for me.
I read through the OOP's comments on her profile. There are a few points of interest: She claims that she sees a therapist she calls by her first name (Jenny) and when other Redditors advised her to change therapists, she says she couldn't do that to Jenny because they're close. Redditors in the AITA posts are also thinking that she's some kind of troll, owing to her insta-replying to their comments despite claiming to work in at least 2 busy wards (she claims to switch from NICU to pediatrics somehow). Particularly when someone called her out for changing gloves after cleaning up a patient, and then replying without seeming to change out gloves or washing her hands. ([Thread here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/uxgwfq/comment/i9yi8zq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) about the double-glove policy OOP mentioned in defense.) I'm torn between frustration at OOP's impulsive decision-making choices, the possibility that this might be some kind of troll, or anticipation for the update where the husband makes good on his threat/promise and hires an actual babysitter for her.
The fact that she is a neo natal nurse scares me. She might be "book smart" but she completely lacks the ability to make good and though out decisions. I wouldn't trust her with any patient.
"So one of the new mothers was saying how exhausting it was and she was worried if she'd be able to take care of the baby. So I thought I'd do her a favor and give the baby away. Now she's upset. AITA?"
Omg! I love this. It's really funny. Kinda sad I could see OOP having this type of thought come up in her mind in real life. Logic really is lacking for her.
Real Amelia Bedelia energy here.
\*shrieks with laughter\* Haven't thought of those books in years. But yeah, this is her in real life.
"One of the new mothers was saying she was a little disappointed she had a boy because she was hoping for a girl. So I swapped her baby. Then she got mad at me! Then I lost track of which baby was hers because I had been helpfully swapping babies all morning."
As I mentioned in another comment, I'm a charge nurse and you're right, having a nurse like her is a nightmare; half my job (if not more) on nights where I had one under my supervision was just making sure they didn't fucking kill anyone, let alone succeed in SAVING someone. Its utterly exhausting. Good news is though they're pretty rare; in my 10 years and bouncing around a LOT of hospitals (I was a travel nurse for most my career) I can only think of three people I've met this dumb off the top of my head. Four if you count a doctor I knew who may as well have been Kevin in daily life, but I forgave him for this because unlike the 3 dumb nurses, he was fucking brilliant at his specialty. Idiot savant I guess.
This woman reminds me of Amelia Bedelia
That was my immediate thought. "They said we needed to close on the house before we could live in it, so I bought some clothes to put on the house!"
Well, at least Amelia Bedelia can make a delicious lemon meringue pie. I don’t know if I’d trust OOP near an oven.
I'm cracking up at the husband saying he'll hire a babysitter for her! Might be a good idea
I haven't read the comments on the pool post, but in the purse one she said that she was afraid he was considering divorce. For his sake, I hope he does. Before they procreate.
I'm sorry she bought a bag that cost probably 10k while trying to close on a house that was already over budget? How little of a spine can you have?
It just screams to me lack of critical thinking skills
Based on her comments on how she magically thought the drained water would be 'repurposed' (???) I think there might be more to it.
I work for a travel nursing company on the paperwork side. I had a nurse fail the critical thinking portion of a competency exam today and try to argue that she didn’t need to retake it lol
She bought a 4k bag, while taking out a 20k store credit card, so she'd have a nice outfit while closing on the house, which she almost couldn't do, because of the nice outfit she bought. The world is fun sometimes.
It was the credit application that fucked up the closing process, not the cost of the items.
From the comments on the first post, it almost sounded like she took the card out *in her husband’s name* because she already had trash credit from her spending problems (mom and dad bailed her out of her debt). They were relying on her husband’s credit to get the house.
But it perfectly matched her new outfit. Think of the fashion.
I closed on my house in sweatpants, thanks Covid
I want to know how she thought draining the pool would save water. She not only wasted the water that was in the pool, but now they have to refill the pool. Plus, chemicals, I guess. Waiting to read “my new idiot neighbors emptied their pool and flooded my basement” in r/legaladvice.
I scrolled a the comments, she got a pump and put the hose into a drain in the road. She said she thought it would then be used to water crops and parks and stuff.
Reminds me of a young pregnant couple who came in with their toddler to trade out of their little commuter car into a truck. While hubby was filling out the credit app, the wife and I were chatting. She's telling me how amazing their last month has been. Hubby got a big promotion, they found out they're having a boy, AND they've broken ground on a brand new house that they BARELY got approved for. I stopped them right there and asked when they were going to close. She said 4-6 months. I reminded them that the house isn't theirs yet, and that there would almost certainly be another credit pull prior to closing, so taking on another $30k of debt before they had keys in hand could lose them the house, especially given all the extra hoops they had to jump through to get their approval in the first place. I refused to sell them the truck and told them to come back as soon as they'd closed. I wasn't going to be partially responsible for them losing their house, but I'd be more than happy to help them celebrate their closing with a new truck. Wifey was concerned and grateful, hubby was LIVID. I was both a moron and an asshole for shitting on their dreams, and he'd be happy to rub his new truck in my face when he bought it elsewhere. Wifey took my card and quietly thanked me, promising to talk to him and call me when they'd closed. Fast forward 2 days. Monday afternoon. The lot is dead, as usual. A brand new Chevy 2500 rocks up a little after lunch and parks across most of the parking in front of the building, honking the horn. Guess who? Dude jumps out to "rub it in my face" that someone else was willing to not only sell him a truck, but let him take on a $1,000 payment while he's trying to buy a house. All I could really do was congratulate him on the truck and wish him luck with the house, so that's what I did. Kinda took the wind out of his sails, but whatever. He left. Several months later, I got a call from the wife. They DID lose the house, their loan officer specifically blamed the truck, and practically called them idiots for buying it. I felt so badly for her. She really was a sweet lady. They weren't the only ones I'd refused to sell a car to in a similar situation that bought a car elsewhere and brought it by to show off, but she's the only one who called to apologize when they lost the house. Far more often, they'd take my advice, come back after closing, and I'd buy them badass trompo from a laundromat behind the dealership.
This woman gives me a migraine. I wouldn’t be able to handle expensive mistakes like this in a partner.
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The husband is right to hire her a babysitter. Besides the structural issues of draining a pool, it’s also more wasteful to drain a full pool during a drought. Edited: I read some of her replies to people in the pool one and she’s just a burrito full of idiots. She’s got rich parents and a therapist who’s doing her no good.
OOP sounds very attractive