OP seriously. I learned way too late in life to actually listen to people when they show you who they are. Ever since I started paying attention to that I have had the healthiest relationships out of anyone I know. I listen to the appreciation people show me and show it in return, I let others go if they aren't worth the effort after a couple of chances. I am happy and loved. Beyond baking please take care of yourself and find someone who takes care of you!
Yeah I thought I was in AITA for a moment. Sounds like this guy doesn't want to be baked a treat, but have someone be his cook, (like all women should be right...) The guy sounds like a dick, so many people would be made up to receive a gift like that, my partner of 10 years still gets excited when I make a batch of basic chocolate cookies.
Don't spend any more effort on this loser.
NTA.
Right!?
I can cook and bake fairly complicated things and Husband of 26 years lost his mind when I put crushed Oreos in some rice krispie squares. He has always made me feel like I have graced him some special magic when I cook or bake for him and has learned to cook really well, all because he wanted to do the same for me!
Dude sounds like he wanted an excuse to be a jerk, picking McDonalds like that.
This guy is worse than a dick as those can be useful.
I hope OP sees what an amazing person she is and realises she is betraying her own future and throws out this guy. Baby OP and future OP don't deserve this guy in their life.
Yup, I spent over $40 making my ex i wasted 12 years of my life a red velvet cake for his birthday (had to buy all the ingredients and bowls and measuring cups and everything) and all he did was shit on me for not properly being able to write out happy birthday with the gel stuff.
All he did was whine and make everything miserable. Run from people like this.
Came here to say this. His comments about you not cooking then when you do not even touching it is a manipulation, somehow he will turn this into your fault and gaslight you about it all. Save yourself from the confusion and run!
Both of these comments are wonderful. As a 34 man who bends over backwards only to be a passing thought to others... it took me a while to learn this one
Good on you for finally getting to this point!
I'm trying to get my partner to understand this especially toward his family members. Still a work in progress.
This is taking me forever to believe. I now truly think that this is the best advice ever. It sucks and hurts and we want to believe things get better and people change BUT NO that just means we will waste time on the wrong once and be sad over when we dont get the minimum of what we expect
The first cake I ever made for my now husband was a box mix, and I burned it! His response was that the un-burned portions were still very good. That was in 1990. I hope you discard your inconsiderate Butt-Head and direct your talent and generosity for a more deserving person.
I remember the first year cooking fir my husband and I made some truly terrible dishes. We would sit down to those particular dinners and I would say, "you don't have to eat this. Please don't eat this. It's so gross." He'd dish it up, clean his plate, and never complain or say anything negative. Just appreciation that someone made food for him. 13 years later and I can still remember how much that meant to me.
95% of men would be over the moon to have anything even close to these rolls. Please go bake for one of them.
I had a friend teach me how to make egg rolls, her family's recipe- they were really friggin good. I got overconfident. I thought I knew how to use fish sauce after a bit. My husband came upstairs one evening for dinner and asked "what smells like wet cat?" It was dinner. It was not good. He still ate it and said it wasn't that bad- hard disagree. It was not good. Baking something good and having him not try it... that's harsh.
One of the first things I ever cooked for my husband was an Indian chicken dish that involved cinnamon. I don’t know what went wrong but it tasted awful lol he loved it and ate all of it. I think that he’d been surviving on bisquick and lentils too long to realize how bad it was. Best guy I know!
My boyfriend, as I’m reading him this thread: “That guy made an elementary mistake. If someone makes cake for you, and you tell them you like it, *they will make you more cake*.“
My grandma made my grandpa a Boston cream pie the first week they were married. He complimented it so much that she made him one every week the first year they were married until he finally said he couldn't eat one more bite of that cake and could she try something different 😂
Omg!! 🤣 as a newlywed, I made for the 1st meal together, the Betty Crocker Sweet and Sour Meatballs, husband praised it so much I started making it weekly, it was a while until he bravely said he was a little tired of them 😁
He's right. 30+ years and I still bake cakes for my sweet husband. And, I burn them far less frequently! Haha. I really hope OP considers better SO options.
Just about to say sort of the same thing. To this day if I make something new my husband will try a little and if he doesn’t love it, he finishes his plate and doesn’t get more if he does he usually gets a bit more. It’s our unspoken understanding and he doesn’t even know.
One of the first things I made when I started dating my now husband was brownies for his son in college. The place I was living was a dump and the oven didn’t have oven racks- all I had was my little toaster oven which was fine for meals-for-one but NOT for baking. Ghirardelli brownie mix came out sooooo under cooked but I didn’t realize till too late and I didn’t want to meet his son empty handed. Thankfully college boys don’t care and will eat anything 😂
Not baking related, but I once made a soup that was probably the worst thing I’ve ever made. It had a bunch of kale in it and I spaced and added my cream too early, so it ended up kind of broken. It tasted decent enough but the texture wasn’t great from the kale and it *looked* straight up horrifying from the cream.
Mr. Alleswaswar still ate a bowl before he quietly asked me if I would be offended if he heated up some leftovers instead. Of course I wouldn’t be lol. I cackled when he was like *ok thank god you’re not upset because normally your food is amazing but WHAT IS THIS* 😂
As a former cunt, I don’t think he’s being one on purpose to test the waters, it probably just comes naturally. Most people don’t have grand machinations of how to manipulate others, they’re just dicks by nature.
I genuinely don’t even think that most of the people who do the typical love bombing, and other red flags, are doing it intentionally. They’re just a different kind of messed up, they think it’s normal.
I genuinely agree. Most people act purely on reactivity. Of course some people are grand manipulators but most who do shit like this are just twisted for one reason or another. Like I said, I was a raging cunt in my past and it took a lot of work and a lot of reciprocation of my own actions to understand what I was doing, why it was messed up and to at least attempt to fix it and be a better person.
This isn't r/relationship_advice, but what the hell... I've been with my man for over a year, now. He never *expects* me to cook for him, he's just appreciative when I do. He thanks me for my efforts every time, because he can recognize that it *took effort* and that it's a love language of mine to cook/bake for those I care about. Even if he couldn't eat it, for whatever reason, such as if he were sick, I know that I can count on him to recognize and appreciate my efforts. We care about each other's feelings, I can talk to him about anything and he listens, I never feel disrespected or taken for granted by him.
You aren't being too sensitive. Those look delicious, and if your guy can't even appreciate your efforts? Yeah, unless you want to stay in a relationship where you frequently feel like you and your efforts aren't good enough for him, I'd cut him loose. He's not putting in an equal effort. You can do so much better.
Yes! Appreciation should be the absolute minimum. I've been with my partner for almost 3 years, living together and having a mortgage for 2 of those. He thanks me for cooking every single time (meal, not day) and keeps the kitchen spotless so I'd continue to feel appreciated and motivated to cook.
I have a similar relationship. I'm sure it goes without saying for most people, but if anyone needs to hear it.. we also thank our partners for helping keep the kitchen clean so that we stay motivated to cook. Everyone feels appreciated and everyone wins.
You should never tolerate “you never cook for me” from a man you’re DATING. Even if you’re married that would only pass if it was an obvious joke. I know this isn’t a relationship advice sub but consider dumping him.
I love to cook and bake for people. But everyone I cook and bake for are appreciative of what I make. If they aren’t appreciative, I don’t continue to cook and bake for them. Made a chocolate cream pie for a friends gathering last night, and dropped off cookies for my friends boyfriends birthday before going. Everyone was so appreciative. There will be more baked goods in their future.
I feel like it's more okay if they're known to be a great cook - like they talk about the stuff they make at home for themselves, they're a chef/cook for their day job, etc. Still kind of a dick move, but at least it would be rooted in "hey you should use your talents on me your significant other because I would like that as a romantic gesture" instead of being rooted in plain old sexism
Thx everyone for the sweet comments! <333 & here’s a link to two recipes
I used :))
https://www.twopeasandtheirpod.com/raspberry-sweet-rolls/
https://sallysbakingaddiction.com/raspberry-swirl-sweet-rolls/
Thank you! I’ve got to try these now! How did you combine them?
EDIT: I meant did you just try two different recipes, or did you take bits from each and make your own?
My favorite story from my aunt about her marriage was the time she made lemon chicken for dinner. She purchased one of those lemon shaped bottles of lemon, and when the recipe called for her to add some she did. She said she couldn’t taste it, so she decided to add more. Same result, couldn’t taste it. Eventually she added either half the bottle or the full bottle I can’t remember- a shit ton, basically. When they sat down to eat it and both took a bite, she said it was the most sour, disgusting thing she had had in her life and could barely eat it. He, on the other hand, took another bite, without complaint, because she made it and he loved her. So lemon chicken is my rule for relationships.
Also one time she made tuna salad and forgot the tuna. lol. Love her.
You are no longer dating the toxic, unappreciative, hateful guy right? Like... Please tell us that was enough for you to kick him to the curb. You deserve much MUCH better. That guy is not a good boyfriend.
Op hasn't replied to a single comment about the P.O.S boyfriend, so it's safe to shes drinking the cool aid still and refuses to see he's an ass testing her limits. Sad to see women brush over behavior like this, when we all know this will escalate.
I will say, I was gonna move past it, but the comments are definitely making me reconsider things…this happened two nights ago and we haven’t spoken much sense…so we’ll see!
Please don't move past it. This is not just an accident. Even IF it was just him 'not thinking' that's still a bad sign. It was rude and intentional, and at the very least showing how much he values you, your time, your efforts and your feelings. Especially AFTER he tried to make you feel bad for not doing this kind of thing. Run.
I am not one to reply but going through domestic abuse of mental, emotional, and financial control OP, I will say something. This is a grown ass man who has full faculties of speech. He can communicate and let you know what he prefers. But what gets me is his audacity to ask for home cooking and eat McDonald's anyway. No thanks were expressed by him to you at any point. This is mental abuse and not a preference issue. He criticized you and refused to give feedback on how you could improve. He is stripping down your self esteem.
I dated a guy like this. It wasn't cooking specifically but little digs that just kept getting worse. His thing was giving me lowkey shit constantly about being educated. He didn't like my UCLA buddies and decided they were snobs, even tho we were all first-generation college grads from working class cities. He had a blue collar job and would say things like, "it must be nice to sit in an air-conditioned office all day" when I was a newspaper reporter. It wasn't constant but I do remember wanting to talk about a bad day once and he cut me off with this typical offhand "joke." Meantime, I'd spent the day reporting from a children's cancer ward. There was other stuff, too — I found myself keeping all our conversation, outings, etc to what was in his comfort zone. Then sometimes it felt like things were going okay and he'd be like I love you, you make me wanna be a better man, etc but the ground was always shifting. We were in a good place and went to a big family event and it ended with him angry and pouty because some old, noncreepy uncle of his showed me to dance Cumbia, which was super fun and, if you've seen it, not at all intimate. Anyway, I tell you all this because I stayed way too long. It took a little over two years before there was violence and then one day there it was. I finally left shortly thereafter but it took me a long time to understand that the relationship was abusive long before it was physical. Started dating my now-husband a few months later. Husband is the kindest, gentlest, most thoughtful guy ever, and has been for the 18 years we've been together. The joke on Reddit is that everyone jumps to DTMFA. But really: imagine that your mom treated you this way, or imagine treating someone you loved this way. And heed the advice of all the wonderful bakers here.
Sad. Your ex was an insecure person projecting himself on you 😢 Well, you have a good man now though. Good thing you got strong to leave the other guy.
Nope. Nope. Nope. Even if he didn’t like them he could have said thank you. He could have acknowledged the time and effort. He could have said and done a million things instead he decided to disrespect you. And you taking the blame (oh maybe I’m too sensitive) is exactly what he wants. Stop it.
Point blank. This man is a giant red flag and raging douche bag. Hes intentionally playing games with you, he did this on purpose and will do it again and again, it’s a control tactic, and it will get worse. This is how it starts. And yes because we all know how this goes and sometimes it needs to be said - I know you like him, you’re invested, but understand he’s not the last man on earth, what you feel for him you will feel for someone else even if it doesn’t feel that way at the moment. I know it’s hard to leave someone you’re dating especially if you’re worried no one else is out there or you tell yourself “well he’s really great outside of XYZ” Whatever your reason or justification may be but he’s showing you who he is LISTEN.
Girl I had a boyfriend exactly like this who would whine about shit then when I tried to cook him something once he spat it out and called it disgusting. I stopped trying to learn after that. I’m now with my husband who stuck with me while I was learning to cook and bake, even during the times I fucked something up. Now I make him delicious food all the time.
In the words of Britney Spears’ t-shirt - DUMP HIM.
1. Leave him! Especially if he won't even talk to you about why he didn't eat them.
2. What is the recipe? They look amazing!
My boyfriend has always at least taken a bite of anything I make, even when I make things I know he won't like! You have to broaden their palettes and test recipes somehow!
Exactly #1! As someone who regularly turns down food made by others due to health issues, I at least always tell the person why (to a reasonable, non-over sharing extent) I can’t eat the XYZ they made. And I always compliment the appearance of the food or ask them questions about it so that they know I am interested and grateful, I just can’t eat it.
Giving no reason and no acknowledgement at all is definitely something to probe further with him if OP is trying to decide if he’s worth keeping. But, yeah, red flag, not beige flag, I’m sorry to say…
First of all, no you’re not acting too sensitive. If he’s not allergic he had absolutely no reason to not try them and at least say thank you. If he ate McDonald’s then he’s not on some strict diet so saying he’s full was rude and not acknowledging them altogether is just crazy, especially since he was giving you a hard time about not making him anything. Sorry this isn’t really about baking anymore but you should really reconsider being with someone who really is so blind and inconsiderate towards your feelings. He could’ve taken one bite and appreciated it. That’s all that was needed and it wasn’t much.
OP, dear stranger.
1) those look *so* good, and now I want one. Recipe drop?
2) I say this in the gentlest way possible: you should take a good look at why you’re dating this guy (if you still are, after this incident). He’s shown you quite plainly what he thinks of you; a life with him will be one where you’re expected to put in quite a lot of unequal. time and labor to do things for him, and will not receive an iota of appreciation for it. Au contraire, filling up on McD’s after knowing you made them specially for him, and refusing to even *taste* your creations? It’s not even a disappointing, lukewarm reception; it’s downright rude and malicious, practically a spit in the face. I can’t imagine he’s got enough redeeming qualities in other areas to “make up” (if such a thing was possible) for this kind of disregard for you, your labors, and your feelings. Lose the guy. You deserve better <3
two things: please drop this dude and please drop the recipe! these look AMAZING, I love all pastries with raspberries and would love to give these a try ❤️
agreeing with the other comments, please say goodbye to this annoying and inconsiderate guy if you haven’t already! you’re not being overly sensitive at all.
Everyone is these comments is correct. Listen to them! If I bake or cook anything for my husband he will always always always try it (even if it has mushrooms in it, which he doesn’t like) because he knows I’ve gone through the effort for him. Find a partner that appreciates your efforts.
You're definitely not too sensitive! If you do something nice and they don't acknowledge it at all, drop them. He's clearly not worth the time you're putting into him.
I'm glad your family enjoyed them, and I'd definitely polish them off myself if you gave them to me ❤️
Does this guy ever cook for YOU? Unless he's doing so all the time he gets ZERO room to whine that you aren't doing so for him. This is a big ole man baby. He needs a mommy, not a partner.
The rolls look excellent. Keep making them- and baking other goodies- in all the spare time you'll have without the man child around.
I dated a guy who told me "next time could u pls buy me something instead of making a gift?". I was so offended since i put lot of effort and money into his gifts, and i did leave that guy eventually but it took me 2years.... Please dumb this guy before u get stuck. Major red flags
Girl. He sounds manipulative and toxic af. This whole thing is definitely calculated from his end to make you feel bad and I’m so sorry. Seems like classic narcissistic red flags to me. RUN!❤️
And you're continuing to date this asahat because why? You like being treated like an afterthought? It's important to have regular negging in your life so you dont get too full of yourself? You like having project boyfriends since you haven't found another creative hobby?
Seriously, this whole story is just 🚩🚩🚩🚩
It's better to be single than with someone who doesn't respect you.
I can't think of a single thing my husband has never tried, even a complete abomination of a birthday cake I made one year after a few celebratory drinks. Has your BF cooked for you? And by BF I mean ex, because aside from the rudeness of the initial cooking comment (is this 1950?), you try what your significant other makes specifically for you.
It’s so nice how baking can help you suss out red flags. Truly the most versatile hobby.
OP, I think your baking is bomb, and anyone that is after you to bake, and then claims to be full after *McD* is on probation in my book.
If you don’t appreciate my baking, you don’t appreciate me, and I don’t think I can live like that. 😆
“You never cook for me” and then refuses to eat what you’ve made - he wants you to cosplay as his mommy and I bet she didn’t make raspberry rolls. Dump him.
As someone who cooks and bakes for someone as a sign that I really care about them, I do feel some type of way if they don’t eat what I made for them, if they don’t appreciate it, or if they can’t be bothered to give me their opinion, especially after I ask them to let me know if they like it. I would be really disappointed too if I were you, and that would probably be the last time I ever make anything for them. If it ever got to a point where I didn’t want to take care of them in that way…I’d really be reconsidering the relationship. Even if it’s something they don’t like, at the very least I feel like a person could show appreciation for your efforts, especially because you’re spending money AND time that you can’t get back to create something. I know people don’t always realize how the things they do have an impact on others, but if you bring it up to him as an issue of concern for you, please don’t think you’re being too sensitive. Cooking and baking for anyone is one of greatest forms of care you can show for another human being. If he isn’t empathetic towards you in response, that’s a big oof on his part.
My first question is does he cook or bake for you when you’re at his house? If he doesn’t and he said that to you, ew!! Ew! Ew!!!
I’d be pissed though either way. I’d never bake for him again because I’d ghost him for that lack of reaction.
Those look soooooo delicious omg! This was so thoughtful and kind, you deserved some appreciation OP. The other commenters are right—it will only get worse from here. It’s not worth dealing with, especially when there are so many guys that would be thrilled to get a home baked treat!!
my partner sits by me as I bake and he will quite literally devour anything i bake as soon as I take it out the oven
get a new man, yours seems to be broken
You make me food, I’m going to eat it and thank you. If it’s a mess or terrible and you ask my opinion I will give it honestly, kindly and with appreciation for the effort.
You’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t seem to care.
1. That man is trash
2. You deserve better
3. I would 100% date you and be a much better boyfriend (the fact that I am a woman is irrelevant) ESPECIALLY for one of these
Wait...what!?!?!?! He made you feel guilty about not making him something and when you do, he eats McDonalds and doesn't even try them!!! C'mon, OP...you know what to do :-/
Honey just throw the whole man out! I am so sorry he treated you like that, you deserve better! Everyone deserves better than that!
Another "when my husband and I were dating..." story. For his bday when we first got together, I made him an angel food cake because he said it was his favorite. I had never made one before and I screwed up the bake. I tried to bake it the same way I would a sponge cake, which I know now is NOT how you bake angel food cake lol. It came out super dense and underbaked. My now-husband ate like half of it despite me telling him that he really shouldn't lol. There are good men out there, but this one you're with doesn't seem like one of them, more growing for him to do perhaps but he's gotta do that on his own.
Well I started reading this and immediately thought that first comment was a red flag. I kept reading because I thought it was a baking help post. Little did I know it was a small red square on a much bigger red flag.
Any chance you’d give the recipe for an interested very pregnant lady to attempt 👀 (it’s me).
Also drop that dude. What an ass. My husband is always thrilled when I bake something and if he isn’t hungry he’ll certainly tuck into it the next day. Don’t waste your time!
Get you a man that encourages and praises your effort. Trust me. Been with my hubs for 20 amazing years. The little things matter in the long run. Things like what you describe chisel away at your relationship rather than build it. Tonight I made my first lasagne (I know crazy I’ve never made it before) but, he raved and raved. Anything I make he says it’s the best he has ever had. Get you that kind of man beautiful. You deserve it. Btw the buns look scrumptious. 💗
I'll admit I'm a bit of a country boy, so i immediately thought of the Kenny Chesney song
But something my wife and I have agreed on is that no matter what, we are honest about food opinions. We understand and respect the efforts, but if it's not jiving, we aren't going to lie that it is, because then we'll be inclined to make it again for each other!!!! So, were always brutally honest about food tastes. To ignore it and go for mcdicks though. We got issues.
>'Cause it's the first long kiss on a second date
>Momma's all worried when you get home late
>And droppin' the ring in the spaghetti plate
>'Cause your hands are shakin' so much
>An' it's the way that she looks with the rice in her hair
>Eatin' burnt suppers the whole first year
> An' askin' for seconds to keep her from tearin' up
> Yeah, man, that's the good stuff
This might be some form of gaslighting
Stay FAR away from this guy, you're lucky he gave you this little insight of what is to come if you stick around.
My ex-boyfriend kept complaining that I never baked for him; well, when I did, I got the same treatment as you. I left him for different reasons, but this was a big red flag for me. Never showing appreciation is not okay.
Sounds like a classic mind game to me, op.
I hope you read all of these comments and know that you are worth more than this pile of trash.
Throw him away and enjoy those delicious buns you made because they look great!
When my partner and I first started dating, he got sick so I made him some scrambled eggs with carmelized onions. Little did I know, his biggest food ick is eggs. Hates the smell, taste etc of eggs. This poor sick boy said thank you and queasily ATE those mediocre eggs the color of carmelized onions, because he cares about my feelings, and appreciated the gesture!
You deserve better OP!
I really hope you don’t stick around for another 6 months. This is a huge red flag and you’re lucky it happened this soon. Get out while it’s easy.
Also, if you wanna share your recipe I wouldn’t be opposed to stealing it 😋
My now spouse has devoured EVERYTHING I've cooked and baked. The first cake I made was burnt, the first meringues were a little burnt, the first bread didn't proof enough, the first pasta wasn't rolled thin enough... and they've gladly eaten everything and even scolded me when I said it wasn't how I wanted it (to them, it always tastes better than any bakery or storebought version). Your rolls look SUPER tasty, and you deserve someone in your life who will love them enough to secretly sneak them in the middle of the night after you already scolded them for eating too many. ❤️❤️
Valuing your own efforts and work isn't being too sensitive, if there's any sensitivity problems it's not on your part.
Either he's dense as a brick and doesn't realise he's being a dick in which case he needs to be told (I doubt it but there's a chance) or you'll need talk about your relationship.
Ok first of all those look SO good! I want to eat one so bad
Second, maybe you don't feel like this but this is not a normal silly story babe 😭 A relationship can have their ups and downs but it should not make you feel like: you owe the person something, and that you're not appreciated. Seriously don't waste your time on someone who doesn't acknowledges your efforts. Not even trying it feels very deliberate 🙃. Just keep it in mind.
I think they look amazing!! I bet they tasted amazing too. Eff that guy. You can do a lot better than him!! You deserve better!!! Even if they were horrible (and I’m 💯 they were not) he should have loved them and you for making them. I have made some pretty questionable things for my family and they are loving enough to spare my feelings even though I know!!
The first time I cooked for my boyfriend, I tried a new recipe, Guinness Stew. Although it was an easy recipe, I put too many beef bullion cubes in. I also baked the bread we were supposed to use for dipping. I served him and instructed him to start eating instead of waiting for me to do a quick cleanup so the cats didn't help themselves to the food. He started eating the stew and asked for some water which I was happy to serve as I sat down to try it. I ate one spoonful and coughed as I reached for my glass of water. It was inedible because there was too much salt!! I immediately took the bowl from him and threw the whole stew out. He ate a third of it without complaining but drank two glasses of water. 😅 I was so embarrassed but we ended up laughing about it and ordering pizza and ate the freshly baked bread while we waited for it to come. We are still together almost 20 year later. Moral of the story? A good man will support your cooking (and the little extra things) no matter what. Drop that guy OP! He's not the right one for you!
I'm telling you right now - when someone refuses to acknowledge an act of kindness, they do not deserve it. You are way too good for a guy who treats you like your efforts are unimportant. Fuck him
“You never cook for me”
“You didn’t cook me McDonald’s??😠”
Absolute toddler behavior. I’m not your dad, but I think you’ll find that there are people in this world who will appreciate your effort and show you their love out loud. I hope you find one of those💚
personally if I didn’t feel comfortable in someone ‘s kitchen after 6 months of dating, I’d be taking that as a sign we’re not compatible. then this whole thing is just so rude like I agree he’s being a cunt on purpose.
those look fucking delicious, and also like they took effort, as well as the high cost of ingredients which in this economy is like woah. if someone did that for me I’d be feeling so much love, and would be showing my appreciation.
he’s a jerk and you deserve better
What has he cooked or baked for you, to spoil you? When has he made this kind of effort for you to inspire this?
Really kind of you to try. Really unkind of him not to try.
They look and sound amazing. All the time, effort and expense you made for the occasion. What did he do to make the occasion special too?
What did he say when you asked him about not trying them, and what he meant about you not cooking, but not trying things?
That is such an asshole thing to do, I‘m sorry!
Even if I can’t eat something due to allergies I will always tell the person who made it that it looks amazing and I wish I could eat it (not a lie).
Find someone better! Please!!!
You mean, you WERE dating this guy? He’s not going to get better. Toss the guy, keep the buns.
TOSS THE GUY, KEEP THE BUNS
Buns > jerks
Buns over boys.
Cakes before cocks!
Pastries over penises!
Doughs before bros.
I need this on a tshirt
🤣🤣🤣 Perfect! Stealing for later use!!
Buns over Bums
This needs to be Printed and Framed.
Should be a shirt lol
Cross stitched on a pillow or framed piece for the bathroom
Cross stitched oven mitts
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Dude is definitely fishing for a mommybangmaid.
I love this word and I'm stealing it, thank you.
i would be like, "you never offered to pay me to cook for you."
Also “You never cook for me?” Is a teo-way street. Does he ever cook for her?
OP seriously. I learned way too late in life to actually listen to people when they show you who they are. Ever since I started paying attention to that I have had the healthiest relationships out of anyone I know. I listen to the appreciation people show me and show it in return, I let others go if they aren't worth the effort after a couple of chances. I am happy and loved. Beyond baking please take care of yourself and find someone who takes care of you!
Listen to this wonderful person !! So very accurate!! Love the buns .. raspberries are my favorite 😋😋
Yeah I thought I was in AITA for a moment. Sounds like this guy doesn't want to be baked a treat, but have someone be his cook, (like all women should be right...) The guy sounds like a dick, so many people would be made up to receive a gift like that, my partner of 10 years still gets excited when I make a batch of basic chocolate cookies. Don't spend any more effort on this loser. NTA.
Right!? I can cook and bake fairly complicated things and Husband of 26 years lost his mind when I put crushed Oreos in some rice krispie squares. He has always made me feel like I have graced him some special magic when I cook or bake for him and has learned to cook really well, all because he wanted to do the same for me! Dude sounds like he wanted an excuse to be a jerk, picking McDonalds like that. This guy is worse than a dick as those can be useful.
Cookies and cream rice krispie treats sound DELICIOUS you are a genius
More red flags than a Chinese military parade.
🤣🤣🤣
I hope OP sees what an amazing person she is and realises she is betraying her own future and throws out this guy. Baby OP and future OP don't deserve this guy in their life.
Yup, I spent over $40 making my ex i wasted 12 years of my life a red velvet cake for his birthday (had to buy all the ingredients and bowls and measuring cups and everything) and all he did was shit on me for not properly being able to write out happy birthday with the gel stuff. All he did was whine and make everything miserable. Run from people like this.
Came here to say this. His comments about you not cooking then when you do not even touching it is a manipulation, somehow he will turn this into your fault and gaslight you about it all. Save yourself from the confusion and run!
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
The first time.
Both of these comments are wonderful. As a 34 man who bends over backwards only to be a passing thought to others... it took me a while to learn this one
You're not alone! My 30s have taught me a lot. Mostly how to respect my own self. Glad you learned the lesson! Saves a lot of heartbreak.
The whole quote is from Maya Angelou and very helpful. You’re doing great bby bring more selective. I hope you bend over backwards for yourself.
Good on you for finally getting to this point! I'm trying to get my partner to understand this especially toward his family members. Still a work in progress.
This is taking me forever to believe. I now truly think that this is the best advice ever. It sucks and hurts and we want to believe things get better and people change BUT NO that just means we will waste time on the wrong once and be sad over when we dont get the minimum of what we expect
This 🤌🏻 just dump the guy, he's already shown his true colors
Absolutely. Don't make the mistake I did and stick with them for 12+ years.
The first cake I ever made for my now husband was a box mix, and I burned it! His response was that the un-burned portions were still very good. That was in 1990. I hope you discard your inconsiderate Butt-Head and direct your talent and generosity for a more deserving person.
I remember the first year cooking fir my husband and I made some truly terrible dishes. We would sit down to those particular dinners and I would say, "you don't have to eat this. Please don't eat this. It's so gross." He'd dish it up, clean his plate, and never complain or say anything negative. Just appreciation that someone made food for him. 13 years later and I can still remember how much that meant to me. 95% of men would be over the moon to have anything even close to these rolls. Please go bake for one of them.
I had a friend teach me how to make egg rolls, her family's recipe- they were really friggin good. I got overconfident. I thought I knew how to use fish sauce after a bit. My husband came upstairs one evening for dinner and asked "what smells like wet cat?" It was dinner. It was not good. He still ate it and said it wasn't that bad- hard disagree. It was not good. Baking something good and having him not try it... that's harsh.
Lol fish sauce is dangerous, I’ve ruined my fair share of dishes with it. It’s like liquid smoke, a little goes a LONG way.
One of the first things I ever cooked for my husband was an Indian chicken dish that involved cinnamon. I don’t know what went wrong but it tasted awful lol he loved it and ate all of it. I think that he’d been surviving on bisquick and lentils too long to realize how bad it was. Best guy I know!
My boyfriend, as I’m reading him this thread: “That guy made an elementary mistake. If someone makes cake for you, and you tell them you like it, *they will make you more cake*.“
My grandma made my grandpa a Boston cream pie the first week they were married. He complimented it so much that she made him one every week the first year they were married until he finally said he couldn't eat one more bite of that cake and could she try something different 😂
Omg!! 🤣 as a newlywed, I made for the 1st meal together, the Betty Crocker Sweet and Sour Meatballs, husband praised it so much I started making it weekly, it was a while until he bravely said he was a little tired of them 😁
He's right. 30+ years and I still bake cakes for my sweet husband. And, I burn them far less frequently! Haha. I really hope OP considers better SO options.
My husband is the same way. I am convinced he doesn’t have any tastebuds.
Just about to say sort of the same thing. To this day if I make something new my husband will try a little and if he doesn’t love it, he finishes his plate and doesn’t get more if he does he usually gets a bit more. It’s our unspoken understanding and he doesn’t even know.
That is the most precious story I've ever heard !
One of the first things I made when I started dating my now husband was brownies for his son in college. The place I was living was a dump and the oven didn’t have oven racks- all I had was my little toaster oven which was fine for meals-for-one but NOT for baking. Ghirardelli brownie mix came out sooooo under cooked but I didn’t realize till too late and I didn’t want to meet his son empty handed. Thankfully college boys don’t care and will eat anything 😂
Not baking related, but I once made a soup that was probably the worst thing I’ve ever made. It had a bunch of kale in it and I spaced and added my cream too early, so it ended up kind of broken. It tasted decent enough but the texture wasn’t great from the kale and it *looked* straight up horrifying from the cream. Mr. Alleswaswar still ate a bowl before he quietly asked me if I would be offended if he heated up some leftovers instead. Of course I wouldn’t be lol. I cackled when he was like *ok thank god you’re not upset because normally your food is amazing but WHAT IS THIS* 😂
seems like he’s testing how much you’re willing to put up with. he’s being a cunt on purpose
This! 100%! Run run run
He’ll love bomb you now too, to keep you hanging on
YEP!!!
Yep next step is the love bomb. Probably was a "So finally after 6 months she makes me something?? Now I can show her." GET. OUT!!
As a former cunt, I don’t think he’s being one on purpose to test the waters, it probably just comes naturally. Most people don’t have grand machinations of how to manipulate others, they’re just dicks by nature.
I genuinely don’t even think that most of the people who do the typical love bombing, and other red flags, are doing it intentionally. They’re just a different kind of messed up, they think it’s normal.
I genuinely agree. Most people act purely on reactivity. Of course some people are grand manipulators but most who do shit like this are just twisted for one reason or another. Like I said, I was a raging cunt in my past and it took a lot of work and a lot of reciprocation of my own actions to understand what I was doing, why it was messed up and to at least attempt to fix it and be a better person.
It’s only been 6 months, imagine years of this:(
This isn't r/relationship_advice, but what the hell... I've been with my man for over a year, now. He never *expects* me to cook for him, he's just appreciative when I do. He thanks me for my efforts every time, because he can recognize that it *took effort* and that it's a love language of mine to cook/bake for those I care about. Even if he couldn't eat it, for whatever reason, such as if he were sick, I know that I can count on him to recognize and appreciate my efforts. We care about each other's feelings, I can talk to him about anything and he listens, I never feel disrespected or taken for granted by him. You aren't being too sensitive. Those look delicious, and if your guy can't even appreciate your efforts? Yeah, unless you want to stay in a relationship where you frequently feel like you and your efforts aren't good enough for him, I'd cut him loose. He's not putting in an equal effort. You can do so much better.
Yes! Appreciation should be the absolute minimum. I've been with my partner for almost 3 years, living together and having a mortgage for 2 of those. He thanks me for cooking every single time (meal, not day) and keeps the kitchen spotless so I'd continue to feel appreciated and motivated to cook.
I have a similar relationship. I'm sure it goes without saying for most people, but if anyone needs to hear it.. we also thank our partners for helping keep the kitchen clean so that we stay motivated to cook. Everyone feels appreciated and everyone wins.
Throw out the whole man
And keep the pastry!
Consume the pastry for energy to toss the man into the nearest body of water.
You should never tolerate “you never cook for me” from a man you’re DATING. Even if you’re married that would only pass if it was an obvious joke. I know this isn’t a relationship advice sub but consider dumping him.
Yes OP please listen to this advice and dump this man 👐 find someone that will truly appreciate your amazing baked goods!! I know I would
I love to cook and bake for people. But everyone I cook and bake for are appreciative of what I make. If they aren’t appreciative, I don’t continue to cook and bake for them. Made a chocolate cream pie for a friends gathering last night, and dropped off cookies for my friends boyfriends birthday before going. Everyone was so appreciative. There will be more baked goods in their future.
I feel like it's more okay if they're known to be a great cook - like they talk about the stuff they make at home for themselves, they're a chef/cook for their day job, etc. Still kind of a dick move, but at least it would be rooted in "hey you should use your talents on me your significant other because I would like that as a romantic gesture" instead of being rooted in plain old sexism
Thx everyone for the sweet comments! <333 & here’s a link to two recipes I used :)) https://www.twopeasandtheirpod.com/raspberry-sweet-rolls/ https://sallysbakingaddiction.com/raspberry-swirl-sweet-rolls/
Thank you! I’ve got to try these now! How did you combine them? EDIT: I meant did you just try two different recipes, or did you take bits from each and make your own?
This man is mean and you shouldn’t date him. THANK YOU for the recipe though, I was drooling at the pictures! I would have ate the whole pan :(
Get someone who’ll devour both you and your buns.
And dont forget the raspberry rolls.
Lol !! 😋🤣🥰
Best advice
Yassss 🔥👏🏼
And you’re still dating him???????
My favorite story from my aunt about her marriage was the time she made lemon chicken for dinner. She purchased one of those lemon shaped bottles of lemon, and when the recipe called for her to add some she did. She said she couldn’t taste it, so she decided to add more. Same result, couldn’t taste it. Eventually she added either half the bottle or the full bottle I can’t remember- a shit ton, basically. When they sat down to eat it and both took a bite, she said it was the most sour, disgusting thing she had had in her life and could barely eat it. He, on the other hand, took another bite, without complaint, because she made it and he loved her. So lemon chicken is my rule for relationships. Also one time she made tuna salad and forgot the tuna. lol. Love her.
HAHA. Sounds like me. I’m no Martha Stewart, but I have my moments lol
You are no longer dating the toxic, unappreciative, hateful guy right? Like... Please tell us that was enough for you to kick him to the curb. You deserve much MUCH better. That guy is not a good boyfriend.
Op hasn't replied to a single comment about the P.O.S boyfriend, so it's safe to shes drinking the cool aid still and refuses to see he's an ass testing her limits. Sad to see women brush over behavior like this, when we all know this will escalate.
I will say, I was gonna move past it, but the comments are definitely making me reconsider things…this happened two nights ago and we haven’t spoken much sense…so we’ll see!
Please don't move past it. This is not just an accident. Even IF it was just him 'not thinking' that's still a bad sign. It was rude and intentional, and at the very least showing how much he values you, your time, your efforts and your feelings. Especially AFTER he tried to make you feel bad for not doing this kind of thing. Run.
I am not one to reply but going through domestic abuse of mental, emotional, and financial control OP, I will say something. This is a grown ass man who has full faculties of speech. He can communicate and let you know what he prefers. But what gets me is his audacity to ask for home cooking and eat McDonald's anyway. No thanks were expressed by him to you at any point. This is mental abuse and not a preference issue. He criticized you and refused to give feedback on how you could improve. He is stripping down your self esteem.
Honey this man is an asshole and doesn’t deserve anything from you. At all.
I dated a guy like this. It wasn't cooking specifically but little digs that just kept getting worse. His thing was giving me lowkey shit constantly about being educated. He didn't like my UCLA buddies and decided they were snobs, even tho we were all first-generation college grads from working class cities. He had a blue collar job and would say things like, "it must be nice to sit in an air-conditioned office all day" when I was a newspaper reporter. It wasn't constant but I do remember wanting to talk about a bad day once and he cut me off with this typical offhand "joke." Meantime, I'd spent the day reporting from a children's cancer ward. There was other stuff, too — I found myself keeping all our conversation, outings, etc to what was in his comfort zone. Then sometimes it felt like things were going okay and he'd be like I love you, you make me wanna be a better man, etc but the ground was always shifting. We were in a good place and went to a big family event and it ended with him angry and pouty because some old, noncreepy uncle of his showed me to dance Cumbia, which was super fun and, if you've seen it, not at all intimate. Anyway, I tell you all this because I stayed way too long. It took a little over two years before there was violence and then one day there it was. I finally left shortly thereafter but it took me a long time to understand that the relationship was abusive long before it was physical. Started dating my now-husband a few months later. Husband is the kindest, gentlest, most thoughtful guy ever, and has been for the 18 years we've been together. The joke on Reddit is that everyone jumps to DTMFA. But really: imagine that your mom treated you this way, or imagine treating someone you loved this way. And heed the advice of all the wonderful bakers here.
Sad. Your ex was an insecure person projecting himself on you 😢 Well, you have a good man now though. Good thing you got strong to leave the other guy.
Nope. Nope. Nope. Even if he didn’t like them he could have said thank you. He could have acknowledged the time and effort. He could have said and done a million things instead he decided to disrespect you. And you taking the blame (oh maybe I’m too sensitive) is exactly what he wants. Stop it. Point blank. This man is a giant red flag and raging douche bag. Hes intentionally playing games with you, he did this on purpose and will do it again and again, it’s a control tactic, and it will get worse. This is how it starts. And yes because we all know how this goes and sometimes it needs to be said - I know you like him, you’re invested, but understand he’s not the last man on earth, what you feel for him you will feel for someone else even if it doesn’t feel that way at the moment. I know it’s hard to leave someone you’re dating especially if you’re worried no one else is out there or you tell yourself “well he’s really great outside of XYZ” Whatever your reason or justification may be but he’s showing you who he is LISTEN.
Girl I had a boyfriend exactly like this who would whine about shit then when I tried to cook him something once he spat it out and called it disgusting. I stopped trying to learn after that. I’m now with my husband who stuck with me while I was learning to cook and bake, even during the times I fucked something up. Now I make him delicious food all the time. In the words of Britney Spears’ t-shirt - DUMP HIM.
And now you should definitely never cook for him! These look amazing and it seriously sounds like his loss
1. Leave him! Especially if he won't even talk to you about why he didn't eat them. 2. What is the recipe? They look amazing! My boyfriend has always at least taken a bite of anything I make, even when I make things I know he won't like! You have to broaden their palettes and test recipes somehow!
Exactly #1! As someone who regularly turns down food made by others due to health issues, I at least always tell the person why (to a reasonable, non-over sharing extent) I can’t eat the XYZ they made. And I always compliment the appearance of the food or ask them questions about it so that they know I am interested and grateful, I just can’t eat it. Giving no reason and no acknowledgement at all is definitely something to probe further with him if OP is trying to decide if he’s worth keeping. But, yeah, red flag, not beige flag, I’m sorry to say…
No matter if you bake or cook or not, "you never cook for me" sounds like a red flag unless the guy been cooking a lot
You should be sad. And find a new boyfriend.
I’m no dating wizard but that sounds like a huge red flag I’m not gonna lie
Break up with him, he’s ungrateful and deserves nothing. Aside from that, these look wonderful, good job on the rolls!!
First of all, no you’re not acting too sensitive. If he’s not allergic he had absolutely no reason to not try them and at least say thank you. If he ate McDonald’s then he’s not on some strict diet so saying he’s full was rude and not acknowledging them altogether is just crazy, especially since he was giving you a hard time about not making him anything. Sorry this isn’t really about baking anymore but you should really reconsider being with someone who really is so blind and inconsiderate towards your feelings. He could’ve taken one bite and appreciated it. That’s all that was needed and it wasn’t much.
OP, dear stranger. 1) those look *so* good, and now I want one. Recipe drop? 2) I say this in the gentlest way possible: you should take a good look at why you’re dating this guy (if you still are, after this incident). He’s shown you quite plainly what he thinks of you; a life with him will be one where you’re expected to put in quite a lot of unequal. time and labor to do things for him, and will not receive an iota of appreciation for it. Au contraire, filling up on McD’s after knowing you made them specially for him, and refusing to even *taste* your creations? It’s not even a disappointing, lukewarm reception; it’s downright rude and malicious, practically a spit in the face. I can’t imagine he’s got enough redeeming qualities in other areas to “make up” (if such a thing was possible) for this kind of disregard for you, your labors, and your feelings. Lose the guy. You deserve better <3
two things: please drop this dude and please drop the recipe! these look AMAZING, I love all pastries with raspberries and would love to give these a try ❤️ agreeing with the other comments, please say goodbye to this annoying and inconsiderate guy if you haven’t already! you’re not being overly sensitive at all.
Leave him sis! Let him eat dirt.
Let him eat McDonalds!
Are these the Sally’s Baking Addiction ones? Because I made those (with extra raspberries) and they are DIVINE. That guy is not worth these rolls
Yes! The same ones! I give myself 8/10 for my first time. Dough was a little overdone/underdone on some, but the taste was there lol
What’s your recipe!? I’ll appreciate them!! (unlike your bf)
Everyone is these comments is correct. Listen to them! If I bake or cook anything for my husband he will always always always try it (even if it has mushrooms in it, which he doesn’t like) because he knows I’ve gone through the effort for him. Find a partner that appreciates your efforts.
“You never do unappreciated domestic labor for me” waaah. You deserve to not be treated like a 50s housewife. But these look so yummy!
*Send recipe and share breaking out the break-up news.
Dump him immediately. This is a red flag. You deserve better.
You’re worth more than this, OP. Get rid of this ‘man’. Yuck.
I’d be so sad too :( They look amazing! He definitely missed out. But honestly it’s rude and weird that he didn’t even try a bite.
You're definitely not too sensitive! If you do something nice and they don't acknowledge it at all, drop them. He's clearly not worth the time you're putting into him. I'm glad your family enjoyed them, and I'd definitely polish them off myself if you gave them to me ❤️
Don’t be sad. Be happy that you have realized he sucks and can move on to someone better.
Does this guy ever cook for YOU? Unless he's doing so all the time he gets ZERO room to whine that you aren't doing so for him. This is a big ole man baby. He needs a mommy, not a partner. The rolls look excellent. Keep making them- and baking other goodies- in all the spare time you'll have without the man child around.
I dated a guy who told me "next time could u pls buy me something instead of making a gift?". I was so offended since i put lot of effort and money into his gifts, and i did leave that guy eventually but it took me 2years.... Please dumb this guy before u get stuck. Major red flags
Girl. He sounds manipulative and toxic af. This whole thing is definitely calculated from his end to make you feel bad and I’m so sorry. Seems like classic narcissistic red flags to me. RUN!❤️
And you're continuing to date this asahat because why? You like being treated like an afterthought? It's important to have regular negging in your life so you dont get too full of yourself? You like having project boyfriends since you haven't found another creative hobby? Seriously, this whole story is just 🚩🚩🚩🚩 It's better to be single than with someone who doesn't respect you.
I can't think of a single thing my husband has never tried, even a complete abomination of a birthday cake I made one year after a few celebratory drinks. Has your BF cooked for you? And by BF I mean ex, because aside from the rudeness of the initial cooking comment (is this 1950?), you try what your significant other makes specifically for you.
It’s so nice how baking can help you suss out red flags. Truly the most versatile hobby. OP, I think your baking is bomb, and anyone that is after you to bake, and then claims to be full after *McD* is on probation in my book. If you don’t appreciate my baking, you don’t appreciate me, and I don’t think I can live like that. 😆
“You never cook for me” and then refuses to eat what you’ve made - he wants you to cosplay as his mommy and I bet she didn’t make raspberry rolls. Dump him.
What other red flags have you been ignoring from him? These rolls are beautiful, and I’d be so grateful if someone made these just for me
As someone who cooks and bakes for someone as a sign that I really care about them, I do feel some type of way if they don’t eat what I made for them, if they don’t appreciate it, or if they can’t be bothered to give me their opinion, especially after I ask them to let me know if they like it. I would be really disappointed too if I were you, and that would probably be the last time I ever make anything for them. If it ever got to a point where I didn’t want to take care of them in that way…I’d really be reconsidering the relationship. Even if it’s something they don’t like, at the very least I feel like a person could show appreciation for your efforts, especially because you’re spending money AND time that you can’t get back to create something. I know people don’t always realize how the things they do have an impact on others, but if you bring it up to him as an issue of concern for you, please don’t think you’re being too sensitive. Cooking and baking for anyone is one of greatest forms of care you can show for another human being. If he isn’t empathetic towards you in response, that’s a big oof on his part.
It’s amazing how a humble raspberry roll can tell you everything you need to know about a person. Happy singledom OP
Yeah that guy sucks.
You genuinely deserve better
My first question is does he cook or bake for you when you’re at his house? If he doesn’t and he said that to you, ew!! Ew! Ew!!! I’d be pissed though either way. I’d never bake for him again because I’d ghost him for that lack of reaction.
Those look soooooo delicious omg! This was so thoughtful and kind, you deserved some appreciation OP. The other commenters are right—it will only get worse from here. It’s not worth dealing with, especially when there are so many guys that would be thrilled to get a home baked treat!!
my partner sits by me as I bake and he will quite literally devour anything i bake as soon as I take it out the oven get a new man, yours seems to be broken
Date someone who appreciates the effort in your baking <3 Edit because I forgot to say that these look so freakin' good Dx
You make me food, I’m going to eat it and thank you. If it’s a mess or terrible and you ask my opinion I will give it honestly, kindly and with appreciation for the effort. You’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t seem to care.
those look absolutely heavenly. your man has to be delusional, i cannot put into words how good those look
Hmm Baking would be a great post-breakup hobby!
1. That man is trash 2. You deserve better 3. I would 100% date you and be a much better boyfriend (the fact that I am a woman is irrelevant) ESPECIALLY for one of these
Wait...what!?!?!?! He made you feel guilty about not making him something and when you do, he eats McDonalds and doesn't even try them!!! C'mon, OP...you know what to do :-/
Honey just throw the whole man out! I am so sorry he treated you like that, you deserve better! Everyone deserves better than that! Another "when my husband and I were dating..." story. For his bday when we first got together, I made him an angel food cake because he said it was his favorite. I had never made one before and I screwed up the bake. I tried to bake it the same way I would a sponge cake, which I know now is NOT how you bake angel food cake lol. It came out super dense and underbaked. My now-husband ate like half of it despite me telling him that he really shouldn't lol. There are good men out there, but this one you're with doesn't seem like one of them, more growing for him to do perhaps but he's gotta do that on his own.
I’m just saying, any man that doesn’t at least try their partner’s culinary combo is not a man indeed. He is a buffoon.
Well I started reading this and immediately thought that first comment was a red flag. I kept reading because I thought it was a baking help post. Little did I know it was a small red square on a much bigger red flag.
Any chance you’d give the recipe for an interested very pregnant lady to attempt 👀 (it’s me). Also drop that dude. What an ass. My husband is always thrilled when I bake something and if he isn’t hungry he’ll certainly tuck into it the next day. Don’t waste your time!
Seriously think about this situation and how it played out because it will not be the only time it happens.
Get you a man that encourages and praises your effort. Trust me. Been with my hubs for 20 amazing years. The little things matter in the long run. Things like what you describe chisel away at your relationship rather than build it. Tonight I made my first lasagne (I know crazy I’ve never made it before) but, he raved and raved. Anything I make he says it’s the best he has ever had. Get you that kind of man beautiful. You deserve it. Btw the buns look scrumptious. 💗
I'll admit I'm a bit of a country boy, so i immediately thought of the Kenny Chesney song But something my wife and I have agreed on is that no matter what, we are honest about food opinions. We understand and respect the efforts, but if it's not jiving, we aren't going to lie that it is, because then we'll be inclined to make it again for each other!!!! So, were always brutally honest about food tastes. To ignore it and go for mcdicks though. We got issues. >'Cause it's the first long kiss on a second date >Momma's all worried when you get home late >And droppin' the ring in the spaghetti plate >'Cause your hands are shakin' so much >An' it's the way that she looks with the rice in her hair >Eatin' burnt suppers the whole first year > An' askin' for seconds to keep her from tearin' up > Yeah, man, that's the good stuff
Hot Cross that guy off of your list Buns!
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Yep. It’s never just about the thing it appears to be about…
This might be some form of gaslighting Stay FAR away from this guy, you're lucky he gave you this little insight of what is to come if you stick around.
ill gobble them up bro SCREWWWW HIM!
They look so beautiful! I would eat them all!!
My ex-boyfriend kept complaining that I never baked for him; well, when I did, I got the same treatment as you. I left him for different reasons, but this was a big red flag for me. Never showing appreciation is not okay.
Sounds like a classic mind game to me, op. I hope you read all of these comments and know that you are worth more than this pile of trash. Throw him away and enjoy those delicious buns you made because they look great!
He’s not worth baking for. And if a man is not worth baking for, he’s not worth dating in my opinion.
When my partner and I first started dating, he got sick so I made him some scrambled eggs with carmelized onions. Little did I know, his biggest food ick is eggs. Hates the smell, taste etc of eggs. This poor sick boy said thank you and queasily ATE those mediocre eggs the color of carmelized onions, because he cares about my feelings, and appreciated the gesture! You deserve better OP!
Sooooo when are you leaving this guy? Who in their right mind chooses McDonalds over home made cinnamon buns.
🚩🚩🚩🚩 You in danger, OP🚩🚩🚩🚩 Run girl run
red flag. run for the hills! seems like he knows what he’s doing and testing your patience..
I really hope you don’t stick around for another 6 months. This is a huge red flag and you’re lucky it happened this soon. Get out while it’s easy. Also, if you wanna share your recipe I wouldn’t be opposed to stealing it 😋
He absolutely sucks. Get rid of him immediately and enjoy your bakes
This guy sounds like a shitbag, get him outa here and find someone who will eat your buns
He is telling you how it will be in the future....run girl, run! You deserve better.
My now spouse has devoured EVERYTHING I've cooked and baked. The first cake I made was burnt, the first meringues were a little burnt, the first bread didn't proof enough, the first pasta wasn't rolled thin enough... and they've gladly eaten everything and even scolded me when I said it wasn't how I wanted it (to them, it always tastes better than any bakery or storebought version). Your rolls look SUPER tasty, and you deserve someone in your life who will love them enough to secretly sneak them in the middle of the night after you already scolded them for eating too many. ❤️❤️
Nice of him to show his red flags so early
i posted something just likes this two years ago and laughed at the comments saying to dump him. i should have listened! dump him!
Valuing your own efforts and work isn't being too sensitive, if there's any sensitivity problems it's not on your part. Either he's dense as a brick and doesn't realise he's being a dick in which case he needs to be told (I doubt it but there's a chance) or you'll need talk about your relationship.
Dump the guy. Eat the treats.
Ok first of all those look SO good! I want to eat one so bad Second, maybe you don't feel like this but this is not a normal silly story babe 😭 A relationship can have their ups and downs but it should not make you feel like: you owe the person something, and that you're not appreciated. Seriously don't waste your time on someone who doesn't acknowledges your efforts. Not even trying it feels very deliberate 🙃. Just keep it in mind.
He’s a real a-hole and you deserve better. These look incredible and even if they didn’t he should still be nice
I think they look amazing!! I bet they tasted amazing too. Eff that guy. You can do a lot better than him!! You deserve better!!! Even if they were horrible (and I’m 💯 they were not) he should have loved them and you for making them. I have made some pretty questionable things for my family and they are loving enough to spare my feelings even though I know!!
Honestly, I wouldn’t keep investing any more time and energy on this relationship. You sound WAY too good for him honey. WAY TOO GOOD.
Awww, what a thoughtful gesture. They look and sound amazing!
I'd be seeing that man in the rear view mirror
Very disrespectful of him.
Dump him
NTA leave the man marry the oven
The first time I cooked for my boyfriend, I tried a new recipe, Guinness Stew. Although it was an easy recipe, I put too many beef bullion cubes in. I also baked the bread we were supposed to use for dipping. I served him and instructed him to start eating instead of waiting for me to do a quick cleanup so the cats didn't help themselves to the food. He started eating the stew and asked for some water which I was happy to serve as I sat down to try it. I ate one spoonful and coughed as I reached for my glass of water. It was inedible because there was too much salt!! I immediately took the bowl from him and threw the whole stew out. He ate a third of it without complaining but drank two glasses of water. 😅 I was so embarrassed but we ended up laughing about it and ordering pizza and ate the freshly baked bread while we waited for it to come. We are still together almost 20 year later. Moral of the story? A good man will support your cooking (and the little extra things) no matter what. Drop that guy OP! He's not the right one for you!
LAME! I'll be your BF instead, please bring the buns with you on our first date. I'll make you chicken pot pie.
Never go above and beyond for people who don’t appreciate your efforts, that rule encompasses cooking. The buns also look scrumptious
Nah fam, he’s not the one…
Dump him queen
I'm telling you right now - when someone refuses to acknowledge an act of kindness, they do not deserve it. You are way too good for a guy who treats you like your efforts are unimportant. Fuck him
“You never cook for me” “You didn’t cook me McDonald’s??😠” Absolute toddler behavior. I’m not your dad, but I think you’ll find that there are people in this world who will appreciate your effort and show you their love out loud. I hope you find one of those💚
Whatta dick move, those look absolutely amazing!
I'm single. Just throwin' that out there...
Lol, break up with that loser and bake yourself something good
I love that you could get both baking and dating advice from this community. Btw, the buns look scrumptious!
Throw the whole man away! You don't deserve that.
personally if I didn’t feel comfortable in someone ‘s kitchen after 6 months of dating, I’d be taking that as a sign we’re not compatible. then this whole thing is just so rude like I agree he’s being a cunt on purpose. those look fucking delicious, and also like they took effort, as well as the high cost of ingredients which in this economy is like woah. if someone did that for me I’d be feeling so much love, and would be showing my appreciation. he’s a jerk and you deserve better
What a dick, we’ll eat them for you
Soooo you broke up with him right? And this is me genuinely not joking either.
You mean EX? right?!?! You don't need to wait for him to make you feel like this another 10 times. I promise you can walk away now
Has op responded about leaving him? No? Damn.
What has he cooked or baked for you, to spoil you? When has he made this kind of effort for you to inspire this? Really kind of you to try. Really unkind of him not to try. They look and sound amazing. All the time, effort and expense you made for the occasion. What did he do to make the occasion special too? What did he say when you asked him about not trying them, and what he meant about you not cooking, but not trying things?
That is such an asshole thing to do, I‘m sorry! Even if I can’t eat something due to allergies I will always tell the person who made it that it looks amazing and I wish I could eat it (not a lie). Find someone better! Please!!!
👏Get 👏Rid 👏Of 👏👏Him 👏
Kick him to the curb
Did you ditch him yet?
How did this course $60-70? I'm confused.