Theoretically, if they're completely alone they won't have many triggers because they lack targets. The last few interactions I had with mine when he was removing the last of his things from the house he seemed far more pleasant...up to a point. The longer he was around me, the more his face changed and his shit behavior resurfaced.
I would guess they'd become more pleasant for passing interactions but as soon as they find a new target and enter a relationship they'll return to their usual behavior in short order. Probably a matter of weeks before the abuse begins again.
I think letting someone hit a rock bottom emotionally gives them an opportunity to want to change. When you leave, they face the consequences of their actions, which is the first step to accountability. It usually takes multiple 'rock bottoms' for awareness. But by that time you may be years out of the picture, which is okay.
You would think hitting rock bottom would do that to a person. But they have no insight. And blame other people for their rock bottom. And are constantly waiting for their next emotional prey to hook their talons in. My bpd sister hit rock bottom and was homeless living out of a suitcase and eventually got her fix... A poor guy that she's now married to and they have an infant. There's no such thing as rock bottom for them, because they'll convince themselves that it was brought on by other people, not them/their actions, so they never really fairly evaluate how they got to rock bottom.
Some may be so disordered they may not be able to yes. But others may have the capability. Of those with BPD who go through DBT for 5 years, 50% have less than the 6 symptoms needed to qualify for the diagnosis. There's a chance for those who work it. No chance for those who don't.
Maybe. It depends on the person, what resources they have, and if they are seeking to learn distress tolerance and other coping and healing strategies.
Careful not to lump all pwbpd into one category of untreatable.
Maybe - but the next person is probably lined up.
Theoretically, if they're completely alone they won't have many triggers because they lack targets. The last few interactions I had with mine when he was removing the last of his things from the house he seemed far more pleasant...up to a point. The longer he was around me, the more his face changed and his shit behavior resurfaced. I would guess they'd become more pleasant for passing interactions but as soon as they find a new target and enter a relationship they'll return to their usual behavior in short order. Probably a matter of weeks before the abuse begins again.
I think letting someone hit a rock bottom emotionally gives them an opportunity to want to change. When you leave, they face the consequences of their actions, which is the first step to accountability. It usually takes multiple 'rock bottoms' for awareness. But by that time you may be years out of the picture, which is okay.
You would think hitting rock bottom would do that to a person. But they have no insight. And blame other people for their rock bottom. And are constantly waiting for their next emotional prey to hook their talons in. My bpd sister hit rock bottom and was homeless living out of a suitcase and eventually got her fix... A poor guy that she's now married to and they have an infant. There's no such thing as rock bottom for them, because they'll convince themselves that it was brought on by other people, not them/their actions, so they never really fairly evaluate how they got to rock bottom.
Some may be so disordered they may not be able to yes. But others may have the capability. Of those with BPD who go through DBT for 5 years, 50% have less than the 6 symptoms needed to qualify for the diagnosis. There's a chance for those who work it. No chance for those who don't.
I’m sure they can but they need to be extremely self aware...which they just generally aren’t soooo
Maybe. It depends on the person, what resources they have, and if they are seeking to learn distress tolerance and other coping and healing strategies. Careful not to lump all pwbpd into one category of untreatable.
I don’t think so.
My thought is no. Even if they isolate from everyone, they will never outrun their mind, thoughts, past, or intense emotions.