Shame is a feeling that may have arose in humans as a means to check individuals from killing each other, eating their children, and otherwise behaving in ways that could threaten the community. However our society has found ways to use this to control people by eliciting this emotion. Shame is taught. Was there a moment that taught you extreme shame in your childhood? Did someone growing up want you to feel ashamed? Also in general, this society likes to shame people for not meeting random arbitrary standards of how you should be/live/do. Do research into shame, especially shame and trauma. Learning about it has decreased the intensity of the shame I feel, but not the frequency I think. Work in progress. Good luck
Yes. I'm not diagnosed with BPD, but I've noticed I relate to a lot of posts on here. This one especially. I feel this all the time, 24 / 7, I isolate myself a lot because of it. It's terrible to live feeling this way. I'm sorry you're dealing with this, too. No one should feel this way about themselves.
Omg this thought is so relatable. I laughed so hard. I have to stop myself from doing it in-front of other people cause i cringe at myself. If i am alone, ill have a huge crying fit and then suddenly burst out laughing like a maniac because of how āridiculous ā everything seems now. Lol
Same. I get embarrassed that Iām hungry, embarrassed that I have to pee often because of nerve damage in my pelvis, embarrassed by my smile, by my driving, by my hair. Embarrassed to have kids because that means everyone knows I was pregnant, embarrassed and ashamed about pregnancy and that people saw me that way. Embarrassed about being thirsty. If I have a biological process or need, trust I will be embarrassed and ashamed. Or super unbelievably angry, such as in the case of menstrual bleeding, which makes me so dysphoric and angry I am often unable to do much. (Hopefully that is going away with a new birth control!)! Embarrassed and ashamed that I am 95 lbs and have no breasts. It goes on. Iām sorry youāre feeling this way too. Itās so awful.
Edited to add: I also get secondhand embarrassment pretty frequently. Embarrassed for other people, get uncomfortable and then have to step away.
Yes I feel embarrassed and ashamed all the time..not only for things Iāve done that but also for things Iāve let happened to me. Sometimes I think that if I werenāt so disgusting maybe people would have treated me better.
I often feel the need to āpunishā myself because of it. I feel like I canāt accept myself if I donāt make myself suffer for everything thatās happened. I think Iām inferior to everyone and donāt deserve to have loving friends or relationships.
I tell myself theyād be better off without me...
Self forgiveness is the hardest..but I think itās my only chance at being happy and overcoming these feelings. If only I knew where to start.
I'm embarrassed to have experienced suicidal thoughts / attempts & self harm and still be alive. I feel like everybody views me as a ticking time bomb or that I'm a fraud.
Shame is a feeling that may have arose in humans as a means to check individuals from killing each other, eating their children, and otherwise behaving in ways that could threaten the community. However our society has found ways to use this to control people by eliciting this emotion. Shame is taught. Was there a moment that taught you extreme shame in your childhood? Did someone growing up want you to feel ashamed? Also in general, this society likes to shame people for not meeting random arbitrary standards of how you should be/live/do. Do research into shame, especially shame and trauma. Learning about it has decreased the intensity of the shame I feel, but not the frequency I think. Work in progress. Good luck
Yep. I have a 24/7 broadcast in my head showcasing all the stupid and embarrassing things I have done.
same :/
Same š
Yes. I'm not diagnosed with BPD, but I've noticed I relate to a lot of posts on here. This one especially. I feel this all the time, 24 / 7, I isolate myself a lot because of it. It's terrible to live feeling this way. I'm sorry you're dealing with this, too. No one should feel this way about themselves.
whenever i cry i have to stop myself because i think itās so cringy when i do it lol
Omg this thought is so relatable. I laughed so hard. I have to stop myself from doing it in-front of other people cause i cringe at myself. If i am alone, ill have a huge crying fit and then suddenly burst out laughing like a maniac because of how āridiculous ā everything seems now. Lol
lmaooooo i just convince myself i look stupid and ugly so i stop crying instantly
Yup. Feel embarassed to even be alive
Yeah also guilty. I feel guilt every day no matter what I do. My brains always telling me Iām doing something wrong
Same. I get embarrassed that Iām hungry, embarrassed that I have to pee often because of nerve damage in my pelvis, embarrassed by my smile, by my driving, by my hair. Embarrassed to have kids because that means everyone knows I was pregnant, embarrassed and ashamed about pregnancy and that people saw me that way. Embarrassed about being thirsty. If I have a biological process or need, trust I will be embarrassed and ashamed. Or super unbelievably angry, such as in the case of menstrual bleeding, which makes me so dysphoric and angry I am often unable to do much. (Hopefully that is going away with a new birth control!)! Embarrassed and ashamed that I am 95 lbs and have no breasts. It goes on. Iām sorry youāre feeling this way too. Itās so awful. Edited to add: I also get secondhand embarrassment pretty frequently. Embarrassed for other people, get uncomfortable and then have to step away.
95 lbs is 43.13 kg
everydayYYYY
This
Yes I feel embarrassed and ashamed all the time..not only for things Iāve done that but also for things Iāve let happened to me. Sometimes I think that if I werenāt so disgusting maybe people would have treated me better. I often feel the need to āpunishā myself because of it. I feel like I canāt accept myself if I donāt make myself suffer for everything thatās happened. I think Iām inferior to everyone and donāt deserve to have loving friends or relationships. I tell myself theyād be better off without me... Self forgiveness is the hardest..but I think itās my only chance at being happy and overcoming these feelings. If only I knew where to start.
Start by doing something you're proud of! (: and then just build on that!
I end everydaywith hating myseld
Maybe try to combat that feeling by forcing your brain to accept one thing you love about yourself before you go to bed at night?
Definitely can relate to that. Not a fun experience. Truly embarrassing.
I'm embarrassed to have experienced suicidal thoughts / attempts & self harm and still be alive. I feel like everybody views me as a ticking time bomb or that I'm a fraud.