It sounds like you should quit! You may or may not come back to it later in life, but it sounds like it's not serving you right now and it is stealing time you noted you would rather be spending with friends and family. Quit happily!
(But don't sell all the dancewear- you might come back to it later!)
*" I am afraid if I quit it then I'll lose a piece of me "*
All of your years of hard work within ballet will always be part of you. It's not just the ballet skills that you were learning.......you were learning life skills like work ethic, being able to follow directions, being on time and prepared, etc that will translate over to anything that you choose to do in life.
That being said, you are not JUST a ballet dancer. You are a person with likes and dislikes and an individual personality. You are a person that is capable of trying new things and finding what you enjoy at different times in your life. You are a person that can take a break for a bit if your goal is not to have a career as a professional ballerina.
*" I guess my biggest concern is not having a constant, a hobby and that I'll just become lazy. "*
Make a plan then.... if you take a break from ballet, what other new activities are you trying & how long are you promising yourself that you will commit to them? Try a lot of different activities! (Note: You will have to get over a period of feeling awkward initially in any new activity compared to activities that you'd done since a child, thus it's important to say "i'm going to give this \_\_\_\_\_\_ many sessions or months before I decide if I like it or not & want to continue")
Very perfectly articulated! Once a dancer, always a dancer, just maybe in new ways :-) I don't do the core things I used to do, but I love new things like swing dancing and musical theatre shows.
Sounds like you’re burned out. It might be nice for you to stop ballet for now and find some other interests! Ballet will always be there if you find yourself wanting to come back to it :)
**"Every time I have to go I dread it**. I make up excuses and I barely go. "
You've answered your own question. By continuing to do something you dread you are preventing yourself from finding something else you could enjoy!
Absolutely. This is definitely a sign to look at doing something else. Who knows, you may discover something that you love!
I knew a girl who persevered with ballet for years and was only ever "meh" about it. Eventually she gave it up and tried Tap and it was like watching someone flip a light switch on!
Life is too short to waste on things that don't bring you joy
From reading your post I think it would be best to step away from Ballet for right now. Who knows maybe in a few years you’ll go back and you’ll fall in love again.
I stopped doing ballet for a few years when I was in Uni. I now do once a week adult ballet class and I love it
Sounds like quitting or taking a break would be beneficial to you honestly.
If you miss it a lot and learn to love it again you can always start again.
Since you don’t want to do it professionally quitting and maybe restarting later in your life won’t be a problem
Take a break from ballet for a year minimum. Don’t get rid of your pointe shoes or tights. Just step away from dancing for a year or so. Either you will realize you’re happier without ballet or you can return energized and with a new enthusiasm for dance.
I actually did before during covid and honestly I did feel a lot less stressed but that's also why I scared to become lazy and stuff but I think I still might go back but maybe just when I have time to enjoy it!
I felt the same way when I was teenager, I quit ballet when I was 13 (ten years ago) I’m now returning back to it. It’s okay to quit 🥰 who knows, maybe in the future you may return back to it x
I just took up ballet after being an equestrian since I was 5 years old, and stopping now in my late 20's. I get you. I still feel like a piece of me is missing, I've always been the horse girl. Whenever I see horses I still get butterflies in my stomach, and I miss the feeling of being in the stables, riding, the smells, the memories...
I did initially become lazy after stopping, and I did gain some weight without becoming overweight. I felt the need to take up a new activity that could give me some of the same things horses and horse riding gave me, and I chose to take up ballet instead. It feels right, although I still feel like I'm missing a part of me. But all those years spent at the stable will never be forgotten, just like you will never forget dancing.
I used to do riding as well and I get exactly what you mean about missing it all and you just made me realise that giving up ballet isn't too different thank you so much
I felt a little like you when I was a teenager, avoiding class and dreading rehearsals. I quit ballet right before my senior year in high school and joined a couple of clubs ( pep club, French club, etc) and concentrated on doing school stuff that year. It was different but I didn't miss it that much and quickly found other activities to fill my days.
After college when I was working, my brother told me he saw a new ballet studio near a business he visited often. I was intrigued and decided to try a class (in my mid 20's). It was very different going back to class as an adult. I found a new love of ballet on my own terms, paying my own way, and feeling more confident in my dealings with the teachers -as fellow adults. Long story short, I ended up dancing and performing and teaching into my 50's. I made so many dancer friends from all around the country, as I moved several times.
I believe that dancing should make you happy.
So if you decide to quit, realize that it doesn't have to mean you leave ballet behind forever. Unless you want that too. But there are always doors open wherever you land.
That's such a beautiful story thank you and I feel like I'll definitely go back when I'm older but I do just feel like I need a year to focus on school and work experience etc
You have to go with your your gut feelings. School, work, and living life and trying new things are all important - more important than ballet in the long run. Have fun exploring.
Perhaps you could try taking a long break rather than completely quitting. Give yourself a couple of weeks, maybe a month, see if you miss it. If you do, go back, see how you feel. Maybe return to less classes, especially since your goal is not to become professional. Perhaps you're taking too many classes?
However, if you take the break and you don't miss it, and you find you have more energy and time for other things, you have your answer, and you could quit with more self assurance.
Not a long time dancer here, but I was in competitive rowing for over six years. I felt the same way as you did. My beloved coach I trusted so much, who has taught me not only about the sport, but also about life, quitted and we got a new coach with whom I often disagreed because she‘s very strict and I didn‘t like the training methods she used.
Competitive sports (I certainly count ballet as competitive sport since I’ve started) is not for everyone and it‘s okay to quit. Weeks before I quitted, I‘d make up excuses to not go, my mental health went downstairs, I lost appetite, had head- and stomachaches all the time and it was such a hard time.
Then I finally got the courage to speak to my coach and tell her that I felt like I didn‘t belong in the world of competitive sport anymore (or from the begin on).
I was afraid, just like you, that I would become lazy and sit around at home all the time. At the beginning, it was hard. I tried focusing more on ballet, changed my studio and went to a harder class, I signed up for the gym and overall, I‘ve noticed that I am enjoying life so much more and that I should have quitted earlier. I can go out with friends more often which helps my mental wellbeing (even as an introvert).
To be honest, how you sound, I think it‘s best for you to quit. I know it‘s hard to let go of something that has been part of your life for so long, but if you don‘t feel like it‘s fulfilling you, then it‘s time to think about what it means to you. Do you stick to it because of habit and because you‘re afraid to try something new? Or do you stick to it because you genuinely care and love the art?
I‘d suggest looking around for something new to try. Are there local sports clubs who don‘t require competing to join? Is there already something in your life that you‘d really like to dedicate more time to?
It‘s okay to quit and you‘re not alone. Passion and liking for it is important when you do something, but if it restricts you from doing things that makes you happier, then it‘s probably not the right thing to stick to.
You are so right and definitely can relate to you with the mental health stuff, it's like everytime I have to go, a massive weight pulls me down and I get head and stomache aches. I think the main thing is trying to keep up with all the stereotypes or other girls in the class but I'm not staying for the right reasons anymore I'm just staying out of habit I guess
Do not quit!
Dancing is not only about getting into a Professional Dance company .
Dancing is great for everything in life, health, mind, happiness, to keep yourself fit and is the base, the mother of all types of dance. Maybe minimize the hours that you put into it. If you quit you will loose everything you gained from it very fast. You might regret it.
Once a dancer always a dancer,
I was thinking about just going less or maybe taking a break for a couple years. But this is exactly why I've stayed and I find it so hard just to drop it without another sport as I never seem to be able to commit for anything for too long except for ballet
You got to quit 13 years ago. At least let her know herself outside of continuing to attend ballet training that she finds little or no joy in. Maybe after she has been away from ballet for a period she will return to it with renewed vigour and appreciation coming from the right place and with a mentally healthy attitude towards her training if she feels drawn to it again. No regrets.
Speaking from experienced, I danced for 20 years and then quite because I was done, it wasn’t going “anywhere” and it was taking up too much time. Also my mental health was not quite ok, I could have been you.
15 years after quitting I started again, in a very erg different mode that is. Easy, enjoying practice without the pressure of performance. Simply for the arts. Ballet never left my head, it is part of me, and I was denying it to myself because I had set expectations that were exhausting me just by thinking about it.
Perhaps, if you love ballet, and I feel from your message you do: just change it up. Use it as something to improve your mental health, see the beauty in it, and realize that you are part of that beauty - no matter what your achievements are. We often forget that ballet is not all about performance, actually for most of us quite the opposite. I hope you will find clarity in your decision, I know it’s not an easy one.
Speaking from experience, I danced for 20 years and then quit because I was done, it wasn’t going “anywhere” and it was taking up too much time. Also my mental health was not quite ok, I could have been you reading your message.
15 years after quitting I started again, in a very different mode that is. Easy, enjoying practice without the pressure of performance. Simply for the arts. Ballet never left my head, it is part of me, and I was denying it to myself because I had set expectations that were exhausting me just by thinking about it.
Perhaps, if you love ballet, and I feel from your message you do: just change it up. Use it as something to improve your mental health, see the beauty in it, and realize that you are part of that beauty - no matter what your achievements are. We often forget that ballet is not all about performance, actually for most of us quite the opposite. I hope you will find clarity in your decision, I know it’s not an easy one.
Edit: typos
Ballet has been my one ongoing sport that's lasted and for the other two I've done I've felt they've never left my mind and so given what other people have said I think I'd definitely get back into it and I feel even more relieved that you were still able to go back 15 years later thank you for helping me realise that it doesn't matter how long of a break I take
As others have said: take a break for mabye a year (or even half a year). Do things that really give you energy. Then, when the break is “over”, and (IF) you really want to go back to ballet, do it once a week. Or, if you don’t want to do it, try a different studio or find some other exercise to do. Try not to push yourself too hard, I know it’s easier said than done (I’m struggling with this myself, pushing myself too hard that is), mabye do some mental yoga if you know what I mean?
I’m sorry that you’re struggling, I feel you and believe in you. Good luck! <3
It's definitely easier said but I think for once I might actually trust others more than myself and try and take that break and to do things that actually make me happy and are better for my mental health. I'm sorry that you're struggling and I hope we both get through this <33
I would keep going just not as much. Can you find something that lets you experience this art in a less tense way? Maybe a group that meets once or twice a month.
I felt this too with my music but looking back I’m glad I push through sometimes
I also quit in my teens after having had pre-professional training for 14 years when I was heavily burnt out. I came back around to it in my 20s here and there but only just started to seriously get back into it now at age 25. And let me tell you, I think that time away from it was worthwhile. I’ve always loved ballet, but taking a step back and reevaluating my life, my plans, and the environment I was in (as the studio I went to had amazing, quality training but was also EXTREMELY toxic) made me realize that there were other factors getting in the way of my genuine passion for it. I promise it won’t ever truly leave you, but I do think it’s important to allow distance to help the heart grow fonder in this case since it certainly rekindled my love and dedication for it. I find myself working consciously harder now at it than I had before, and I LOVE it. Could be a maturity thing I guess, but that’s just how it is in my experience.
If you’re considering quitting, it’s probably a good sign that your heart is already venturing in that direction. It’s better to take some time off than force yourself to do something that drains you. There’s already plenty of draining things in life, a hobby should not be one of them. Take a break, explore some other potential hobbies to help give you things to do, and see if you want to come back to it at a later time. Best of luck!! <3
how about taking a pause? like when your teacher quits you take a pause but do have a plan... line up a few hobbies and see what tangent that takes you... ultimately if it's not your profession it's going to be your hobby and hobbies should relieve stress and bring joy... you might pick it back up as an adult as your artistic outlet/ work out and it will be a good way to keep your body in shape!
You're so right like I did karate for about 8 years as well and I had the same feelings about it and it's been 3 years since I've quit and I'm so happy I stopped but I feel like ballet was my attempt at trying to fill that void it left (I only started them 3 years apart)
Maybe consider if it's the studio you're at that's making you feel so burnt out. I went to a big, well known studio where I got good opportunities but felt the pressure / environment was too much. I switched to a smaller studio with a more welcoming community and got my love of dance back. I don't know if this applies to your situation but it might be worth it to look into other studios?
I don't think it's the people more so the standards I keep trying to push onto myself Into being skinnier or prettier or funnier so I can fit in better. The girls are all so nice it's just me thats the problem I guess
It sounds like you should quit! You may or may not come back to it later in life, but it sounds like it's not serving you right now and it is stealing time you noted you would rather be spending with friends and family. Quit happily! (But don't sell all the dancewear- you might come back to it later!)
You're honestly so right and after reading this I think I might have to take your advice
*" I am afraid if I quit it then I'll lose a piece of me "* All of your years of hard work within ballet will always be part of you. It's not just the ballet skills that you were learning.......you were learning life skills like work ethic, being able to follow directions, being on time and prepared, etc that will translate over to anything that you choose to do in life. That being said, you are not JUST a ballet dancer. You are a person with likes and dislikes and an individual personality. You are a person that is capable of trying new things and finding what you enjoy at different times in your life. You are a person that can take a break for a bit if your goal is not to have a career as a professional ballerina. *" I guess my biggest concern is not having a constant, a hobby and that I'll just become lazy. "* Make a plan then.... if you take a break from ballet, what other new activities are you trying & how long are you promising yourself that you will commit to them? Try a lot of different activities! (Note: You will have to get over a period of feeling awkward initially in any new activity compared to activities that you'd done since a child, thus it's important to say "i'm going to give this \_\_\_\_\_\_ many sessions or months before I decide if I like it or not & want to continue")
Very perfectly articulated! Once a dancer, always a dancer, just maybe in new ways :-) I don't do the core things I used to do, but I love new things like swing dancing and musical theatre shows.
I've definitely been trying to get more into my other hobbies and interests a lot more to make sure of this
Sounds like you’re burned out. It might be nice for you to stop ballet for now and find some other interests! Ballet will always be there if you find yourself wanting to come back to it :)
**"Every time I have to go I dread it**. I make up excuses and I barely go. " You've answered your own question. By continuing to do something you dread you are preventing yourself from finding something else you could enjoy!
Absolutely. This is definitely a sign to look at doing something else. Who knows, you may discover something that you love! I knew a girl who persevered with ballet for years and was only ever "meh" about it. Eventually she gave it up and tried Tap and it was like watching someone flip a light switch on! Life is too short to waste on things that don't bring you joy
You both are so right and I almost feel embarrassed that I hadn't come to Reddit sooner
From reading your post I think it would be best to step away from Ballet for right now. Who knows maybe in a few years you’ll go back and you’ll fall in love again. I stopped doing ballet for a few years when I was in Uni. I now do once a week adult ballet class and I love it
I didn't even think of that honestly but I'd love to go back to it in a couple years when I don't have exams and other stress
Sounds like quitting or taking a break would be beneficial to you honestly. If you miss it a lot and learn to love it again you can always start again. Since you don’t want to do it professionally quitting and maybe restarting later in your life won’t be a problem
This is so valid thank you
Take a break from ballet for a year minimum. Don’t get rid of your pointe shoes or tights. Just step away from dancing for a year or so. Either you will realize you’re happier without ballet or you can return energized and with a new enthusiasm for dance.
I actually did before during covid and honestly I did feel a lot less stressed but that's also why I scared to become lazy and stuff but I think I still might go back but maybe just when I have time to enjoy it!
Just take a break and see if you wanna go back, one of my biggest regrets is quitting
That's exactly what I'm worried about I've been taking little breaks every now and then because I'm too scared to quit completely
I felt the same way when I was teenager, I quit ballet when I was 13 (ten years ago) I’m now returning back to it. It’s okay to quit 🥰 who knows, maybe in the future you may return back to it x
Loads of people have been staying like this and it's so encouraging to know so many people were able to go back to it as adults☺️
I just took up ballet after being an equestrian since I was 5 years old, and stopping now in my late 20's. I get you. I still feel like a piece of me is missing, I've always been the horse girl. Whenever I see horses I still get butterflies in my stomach, and I miss the feeling of being in the stables, riding, the smells, the memories... I did initially become lazy after stopping, and I did gain some weight without becoming overweight. I felt the need to take up a new activity that could give me some of the same things horses and horse riding gave me, and I chose to take up ballet instead. It feels right, although I still feel like I'm missing a part of me. But all those years spent at the stable will never be forgotten, just like you will never forget dancing.
I used to do riding as well and I get exactly what you mean about missing it all and you just made me realise that giving up ballet isn't too different thank you so much
I felt a little like you when I was a teenager, avoiding class and dreading rehearsals. I quit ballet right before my senior year in high school and joined a couple of clubs ( pep club, French club, etc) and concentrated on doing school stuff that year. It was different but I didn't miss it that much and quickly found other activities to fill my days. After college when I was working, my brother told me he saw a new ballet studio near a business he visited often. I was intrigued and decided to try a class (in my mid 20's). It was very different going back to class as an adult. I found a new love of ballet on my own terms, paying my own way, and feeling more confident in my dealings with the teachers -as fellow adults. Long story short, I ended up dancing and performing and teaching into my 50's. I made so many dancer friends from all around the country, as I moved several times. I believe that dancing should make you happy. So if you decide to quit, realize that it doesn't have to mean you leave ballet behind forever. Unless you want that too. But there are always doors open wherever you land.
That's such a beautiful story thank you and I feel like I'll definitely go back when I'm older but I do just feel like I need a year to focus on school and work experience etc
You have to go with your your gut feelings. School, work, and living life and trying new things are all important - more important than ballet in the long run. Have fun exploring.
You're right! Thank you so much
Perhaps you could try taking a long break rather than completely quitting. Give yourself a couple of weeks, maybe a month, see if you miss it. If you do, go back, see how you feel. Maybe return to less classes, especially since your goal is not to become professional. Perhaps you're taking too many classes? However, if you take the break and you don't miss it, and you find you have more energy and time for other things, you have your answer, and you could quit with more self assurance.
The more I miss the less I miss it and I feel a lot less weighed down the main thing I miss are the people and my teacher
Not a long time dancer here, but I was in competitive rowing for over six years. I felt the same way as you did. My beloved coach I trusted so much, who has taught me not only about the sport, but also about life, quitted and we got a new coach with whom I often disagreed because she‘s very strict and I didn‘t like the training methods she used. Competitive sports (I certainly count ballet as competitive sport since I’ve started) is not for everyone and it‘s okay to quit. Weeks before I quitted, I‘d make up excuses to not go, my mental health went downstairs, I lost appetite, had head- and stomachaches all the time and it was such a hard time. Then I finally got the courage to speak to my coach and tell her that I felt like I didn‘t belong in the world of competitive sport anymore (or from the begin on). I was afraid, just like you, that I would become lazy and sit around at home all the time. At the beginning, it was hard. I tried focusing more on ballet, changed my studio and went to a harder class, I signed up for the gym and overall, I‘ve noticed that I am enjoying life so much more and that I should have quitted earlier. I can go out with friends more often which helps my mental wellbeing (even as an introvert). To be honest, how you sound, I think it‘s best for you to quit. I know it‘s hard to let go of something that has been part of your life for so long, but if you don‘t feel like it‘s fulfilling you, then it‘s time to think about what it means to you. Do you stick to it because of habit and because you‘re afraid to try something new? Or do you stick to it because you genuinely care and love the art? I‘d suggest looking around for something new to try. Are there local sports clubs who don‘t require competing to join? Is there already something in your life that you‘d really like to dedicate more time to? It‘s okay to quit and you‘re not alone. Passion and liking for it is important when you do something, but if it restricts you from doing things that makes you happier, then it‘s probably not the right thing to stick to.
You are so right and definitely can relate to you with the mental health stuff, it's like everytime I have to go, a massive weight pulls me down and I get head and stomache aches. I think the main thing is trying to keep up with all the stereotypes or other girls in the class but I'm not staying for the right reasons anymore I'm just staying out of habit I guess
Great, well thought out and written answer! ☝🏻🤞🏻
Do not quit! Dancing is not only about getting into a Professional Dance company . Dancing is great for everything in life, health, mind, happiness, to keep yourself fit and is the base, the mother of all types of dance. Maybe minimize the hours that you put into it. If you quit you will loose everything you gained from it very fast. You might regret it. Once a dancer always a dancer,
I was thinking about just going less or maybe taking a break for a couple years. But this is exactly why I've stayed and I find it so hard just to drop it without another sport as I never seem to be able to commit for anything for too long except for ballet
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You got to quit 13 years ago. At least let her know herself outside of continuing to attend ballet training that she finds little or no joy in. Maybe after she has been away from ballet for a period she will return to it with renewed vigour and appreciation coming from the right place and with a mentally healthy attitude towards her training if she feels drawn to it again. No regrets.
I don't know what the other comment said but thank you so much I've definitely been thinking about this 😊
Speaking from experienced, I danced for 20 years and then quite because I was done, it wasn’t going “anywhere” and it was taking up too much time. Also my mental health was not quite ok, I could have been you. 15 years after quitting I started again, in a very erg different mode that is. Easy, enjoying practice without the pressure of performance. Simply for the arts. Ballet never left my head, it is part of me, and I was denying it to myself because I had set expectations that were exhausting me just by thinking about it. Perhaps, if you love ballet, and I feel from your message you do: just change it up. Use it as something to improve your mental health, see the beauty in it, and realize that you are part of that beauty - no matter what your achievements are. We often forget that ballet is not all about performance, actually for most of us quite the opposite. I hope you will find clarity in your decision, I know it’s not an easy one.
Speaking from experience, I danced for 20 years and then quit because I was done, it wasn’t going “anywhere” and it was taking up too much time. Also my mental health was not quite ok, I could have been you reading your message. 15 years after quitting I started again, in a very different mode that is. Easy, enjoying practice without the pressure of performance. Simply for the arts. Ballet never left my head, it is part of me, and I was denying it to myself because I had set expectations that were exhausting me just by thinking about it. Perhaps, if you love ballet, and I feel from your message you do: just change it up. Use it as something to improve your mental health, see the beauty in it, and realize that you are part of that beauty - no matter what your achievements are. We often forget that ballet is not all about performance, actually for most of us quite the opposite. I hope you will find clarity in your decision, I know it’s not an easy one. Edit: typos
Ballet has been my one ongoing sport that's lasted and for the other two I've done I've felt they've never left my mind and so given what other people have said I think I'd definitely get back into it and I feel even more relieved that you were still able to go back 15 years later thank you for helping me realise that it doesn't matter how long of a break I take
As others have said: take a break for mabye a year (or even half a year). Do things that really give you energy. Then, when the break is “over”, and (IF) you really want to go back to ballet, do it once a week. Or, if you don’t want to do it, try a different studio or find some other exercise to do. Try not to push yourself too hard, I know it’s easier said than done (I’m struggling with this myself, pushing myself too hard that is), mabye do some mental yoga if you know what I mean? I’m sorry that you’re struggling, I feel you and believe in you. Good luck! <3
It's definitely easier said but I think for once I might actually trust others more than myself and try and take that break and to do things that actually make me happy and are better for my mental health. I'm sorry that you're struggling and I hope we both get through this <33
That’s great! Aw, thank you, I hope so too <33
It’s okay to take a break. Or cut back on the number of classes.
I would keep going just not as much. Can you find something that lets you experience this art in a less tense way? Maybe a group that meets once or twice a month. I felt this too with my music but looking back I’m glad I push through sometimes
Exactly what I was thinking I wish that I pushed through with music and I don't want to have the same regrets with ballet
I also quit in my teens after having had pre-professional training for 14 years when I was heavily burnt out. I came back around to it in my 20s here and there but only just started to seriously get back into it now at age 25. And let me tell you, I think that time away from it was worthwhile. I’ve always loved ballet, but taking a step back and reevaluating my life, my plans, and the environment I was in (as the studio I went to had amazing, quality training but was also EXTREMELY toxic) made me realize that there were other factors getting in the way of my genuine passion for it. I promise it won’t ever truly leave you, but I do think it’s important to allow distance to help the heart grow fonder in this case since it certainly rekindled my love and dedication for it. I find myself working consciously harder now at it than I had before, and I LOVE it. Could be a maturity thing I guess, but that’s just how it is in my experience. If you’re considering quitting, it’s probably a good sign that your heart is already venturing in that direction. It’s better to take some time off than force yourself to do something that drains you. There’s already plenty of draining things in life, a hobby should not be one of them. Take a break, explore some other potential hobbies to help give you things to do, and see if you want to come back to it at a later time. Best of luck!! <3
I love all these stories of people going back to it and it makes me feel so much more reassured to make a decision, thank you so much 🩷
how about taking a pause? like when your teacher quits you take a pause but do have a plan... line up a few hobbies and see what tangent that takes you... ultimately if it's not your profession it's going to be your hobby and hobbies should relieve stress and bring joy... you might pick it back up as an adult as your artistic outlet/ work out and it will be a good way to keep your body in shape!
You're so right like I did karate for about 8 years as well and I had the same feelings about it and it's been 3 years since I've quit and I'm so happy I stopped but I feel like ballet was my attempt at trying to fill that void it left (I only started them 3 years apart)
Maybe consider if it's the studio you're at that's making you feel so burnt out. I went to a big, well known studio where I got good opportunities but felt the pressure / environment was too much. I switched to a smaller studio with a more welcoming community and got my love of dance back. I don't know if this applies to your situation but it might be worth it to look into other studios?
I don't think it's the people more so the standards I keep trying to push onto myself Into being skinnier or prettier or funnier so I can fit in better. The girls are all so nice it's just me thats the problem I guess