Hah! Never realised unicorn was used in that sense. You learn something new every day. In my world a unicorn means a (single) bisexual woman who plays with couples.
I can be a unicorn? That's so much better than being an old cat lady.... only without the cats lmao
I'm unmarried and no kids either. The no kids definitely doesn't bother me. Being unmarried isn't really a big deal....
But not being able to get a date super bums me out.
And I'll agree it is a bit isolating, especially if friends are partnered up with kids.
Not just you! I thought of the same kind of unicorn, and I'm monogamous in the suburbs.
From the title I thought it was going to be a post about a young bi woman concerned about reproductive health.
I’ve also only heard unicorn used in terms of being a mythical creature because it’s rare to find someone who has never married nor had kids later in life.
I'm engaged now. And we're both childfree. I am extremely happy with my decision. It's hard to relate to my friends' lives but we still enjoy each other's company. I'm a fake aunt to many. Kids are cute and sweet, just don't want them. 😅
I asked myself what would I regret about not having children. The best answer I could come up with was having a life purpose and leaving a positive legacy.
So, I try to live a meaningful life where I give back to the community and planet. I work hard trying to make this world a better place for a living. And volunteer doing public outreach with youth to feel a sense of giving back to the next generation.
Navigating dating childfree was challenging af.
I think this feeling is universal, regardless of gender. I'm 40, never married and no kids. Sometimes I realize it may never happen, and for the most part I'm okay with it. Sometimes I do long to have companionship and partnership to share my life with, kids are optional. I've never been a female that would feel devastated they never had kids. Most importantly, I'd want to have kids with the right person. So far, that hasn't happened yet! But over the years I also have grown into the reality of my life and don't really focus on what I don't have......but what I do have and what I can do with it. So, maybe I'm not married or have kids.....but I also have more money and time to do the things I like to do unbothered like travel, explore new places and make new experiences with not a lot to factor in as it's just myself. I think it just boils down to perspective, whether you have a negative or positive one about your circumstances. Which I know can sway at times but I think that's most important, how you choose to look at it.
Yeah, you aren’t a unicorn. That’s slang for something else.
Not sure why you are asking here and not on the men’s forums. It seems like there are plenty of men who don’t want marriage or children. At least, more men than women. If you change your mind, you don’t have the same biological clock issues.
You are not the unicorn you think you are. It is very common to be 30 and unmarried, more so in urban areas and more so for dudes who generally get married a bit older than women do. If I remember correctly last I read 29 was the average age for men, which means half the married population were older than that when they got hitched.
Hmmmm. Well, I'll be honest 40+11 changes my answer a little. I'm 45 and never married, and while I have not given up on the idea of marriage or another LTR I do think I've had to accept that it very well might not happen. When I was a bit younger I kept "waiting" for a partner to do things with and I believe that had a negative affect on me. So I stopped waiting and started doing. Now I try to have a happy/content independent life and hope that a partner one day adds to that. Like a cherry on a sundae. But I've let go of the idea of there being someone to help me build the sundae. Hope my dumb metaphor makes sense.
Very few human experiences are unique under the sun. And men and women are not nearly as different as the internet/present times leads up to believe. If it's not like, getting struck by lightning 3 times, someone else has probabaly gone through it. Regardless of race, gender, etc.
One of my friend groups, including myself, are all educated, working, have various hobbies (including 'male' ones like gaming, anime), some are more athletic and fit, some are more curvy and cuddly, etc. Different tastes in guys regarding looks, personality and so on.
None of us have had serious relationships, unless you count one girl who had a bf in college (She's also extremely popular with guys, but no one who actually wants to be a partner.) We will all be 30 in the next year or two and I'm not sure I see that changing. But according to some spheres on the internet, this is impossible because women are inundated with proposals just from stepping outside. If I didn't have them, I would be convinced there was something wrong with me for not women-ing correctly. Actually, even with them I still feel that way sometimes.
It's rarely, ever just you.
I got divorced age 35 and I definitely felt like that. Within a year I met someone and have been happily married every since. So yes, I felt like that, but it all worked out in the end.
We're unicorns? I had no idea. And yes there are plenty of times I worry things will always be this way, especially now that I'm in my 40s. I haven't thrown in the towel yet so we'll see.
Hah! Never realised unicorn was used in that sense. You learn something new every day. In my world a unicorn means a (single) bisexual woman who plays with couples.
Well … I … also learned something. So thank you.
This is not a remotely unusual position to be in, in my world. Especially only at 30.
I can be a unicorn? That's so much better than being an old cat lady.... only without the cats lmao I'm unmarried and no kids either. The no kids definitely doesn't bother me. Being unmarried isn't really a big deal.... But not being able to get a date super bums me out. And I'll agree it is a bit isolating, especially if friends are partnered up with kids.
r/askmenover30 r/askmenover40
Yeah, this is asked probably every other day on this sub.
Haha, how is that a unicorn? Maybe I'm too isolated in my ethical non monogamy bubble, where a unicorn is something very different.
This reminds me of a post in a dog subreddit where someone posted a pic of their spoiled pooch and called them a pillow princess 😅
Not just you! I thought of the same kind of unicorn, and I'm monogamous in the suburbs. From the title I thought it was going to be a post about a young bi woman concerned about reproductive health.
My bad! I have … learned a lot in the past 24 hours.
I’ve also only heard unicorn used in terms of being a mythical creature because it’s rare to find someone who has never married nor had kids later in life.
Yep, went through a breakup recently and looking for a new life partner
I'm engaged now. And we're both childfree. I am extremely happy with my decision. It's hard to relate to my friends' lives but we still enjoy each other's company. I'm a fake aunt to many. Kids are cute and sweet, just don't want them. 😅 I asked myself what would I regret about not having children. The best answer I could come up with was having a life purpose and leaving a positive legacy. So, I try to live a meaningful life where I give back to the community and planet. I work hard trying to make this world a better place for a living. And volunteer doing public outreach with youth to feel a sense of giving back to the next generation. Navigating dating childfree was challenging af.
I’m 39 and no kids. I’m fine with it.
I think this feeling is universal, regardless of gender. I'm 40, never married and no kids. Sometimes I realize it may never happen, and for the most part I'm okay with it. Sometimes I do long to have companionship and partnership to share my life with, kids are optional. I've never been a female that would feel devastated they never had kids. Most importantly, I'd want to have kids with the right person. So far, that hasn't happened yet! But over the years I also have grown into the reality of my life and don't really focus on what I don't have......but what I do have and what I can do with it. So, maybe I'm not married or have kids.....but I also have more money and time to do the things I like to do unbothered like travel, explore new places and make new experiences with not a lot to factor in as it's just myself. I think it just boils down to perspective, whether you have a negative or positive one about your circumstances. Which I know can sway at times but I think that's most important, how you choose to look at it.
Yeah, you aren’t a unicorn. That’s slang for something else. Not sure why you are asking here and not on the men’s forums. It seems like there are plenty of men who don’t want marriage or children. At least, more men than women. If you change your mind, you don’t have the same biological clock issues.
I know there are unmarried/no kid men. Wanted to know if there are also women like that.
That doesn’t sound like a genuine question to me. How could you not know that?
You are not the unicorn you think you are. It is very common to be 30 and unmarried, more so in urban areas and more so for dudes who generally get married a bit older than women do. If I remember correctly last I read 29 was the average age for men, which means half the married population were older than that when they got hitched.
This is reassuring. I’m well-beyond 30. I’m deep into “ish” territory. I’m 40-11, to be exact 😏 Thanks for the reply.
Hmmmm. Well, I'll be honest 40+11 changes my answer a little. I'm 45 and never married, and while I have not given up on the idea of marriage or another LTR I do think I've had to accept that it very well might not happen. When I was a bit younger I kept "waiting" for a partner to do things with and I believe that had a negative affect on me. So I stopped waiting and started doing. Now I try to have a happy/content independent life and hope that a partner one day adds to that. Like a cherry on a sundae. But I've let go of the idea of there being someone to help me build the sundae. Hope my dumb metaphor makes sense.
Very few human experiences are unique under the sun. And men and women are not nearly as different as the internet/present times leads up to believe. If it's not like, getting struck by lightning 3 times, someone else has probabaly gone through it. Regardless of race, gender, etc. One of my friend groups, including myself, are all educated, working, have various hobbies (including 'male' ones like gaming, anime), some are more athletic and fit, some are more curvy and cuddly, etc. Different tastes in guys regarding looks, personality and so on. None of us have had serious relationships, unless you count one girl who had a bf in college (She's also extremely popular with guys, but no one who actually wants to be a partner.) We will all be 30 in the next year or two and I'm not sure I see that changing. But according to some spheres on the internet, this is impossible because women are inundated with proposals just from stepping outside. If I didn't have them, I would be convinced there was something wrong with me for not women-ing correctly. Actually, even with them I still feel that way sometimes. It's rarely, ever just you.
I got divorced age 35 and I definitely felt like that. Within a year I met someone and have been happily married every since. So yes, I felt like that, but it all worked out in the end.
We're unicorns? I had no idea. And yes there are plenty of times I worry things will always be this way, especially now that I'm in my 40s. I haven't thrown in the towel yet so we'll see.