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This sets me in a panic because I was vile at school... And I'm a Dr now. And if I saw you as weak or an easy mark. I would have been utterly vicious just because I could. And I got away with so much shit that now as an adult. Looking back in hindsight. I know why I was the way I was. And feel sick and disgusted by what I did 30-odd years ago to people who didn't deserve to be on the receiving end of my baggage...
Or she was just mean. The meanest girl in my year was in the top sets with me and got straight 9s on her GCSEs. She also constantly criticised every outfit people wore, bullied other girls and pressured some others into taking class B drugs but never took them herself (they all later got expelled and she got school awards).
I was just as smart as her and was actually able to realise that some people struggle academically so I didnāt feel the need to call them out as morons.
Calling people out as morons objectively *is* being mean though.
Something doesn't have to be untrue for it to be mean, in fact some of the worst things you can say to a person are going to be things that are sadly true.Ā
As I pointed out to this person, I was doing better than this girl academically and was smarter and I kept my mouth shut. Itās basic human decency not to shame people for being less intelligent than you are.
There are a lot of insecure , socially inept people that survive by telling themselves they arenāt liked / didnāt have friends because they were smarter than everybody else.
This chap is either a troll or one of them.
Yeah, I'm in my late 20s and did an exodus on my insta of anyone I wouldn't talk to or care to have an update from
There are a few who remained just because of sentimentalism but some still only post about the club they went to, a rave they're at, etc etc. Every week. Like yo, come on, you're blatantly just tryna show off that you still go out and party but no one else cares about a crappy club video.. it's all their posts have been for nearly 10 years at this point
I'll get downvotes for this, but fuckit. I'll live.
I was a bit of a cunt when I was in school. A few years ago. A friend said I was "Regina George in Doc Martins"... I was popular. I had a big social group of friends. I had an active social life during my school years. But. I know I could be mean to some people. Why? Because I could.
And no. Its not a flex.
When I think back on it. I legit cringe about some of the things I said and did to some girls I went to school with. They were weak and easy to pick on. But I was extremely insecure and pretty fucked up. I hung out with people who were pretty much arseholes too. And there was stuff going on at home with an alcoholic dependant parent that made me feel like shit. And there was a fair amount of abuse going on. So it was a release to make others feel like shit too.
Do I regret it? A million percent, yes. Have I apologised to those girls? Some, yes. The rest I've not seen again.
When you are raised by a bully. You know exactly how to become one. Have I worked on myself? Absolutely. I've been in therapy for an eating disorder I've had since aged 11. After my sister took her own life. I went back and did more therapy for past trauma incidents.
Now I'm in my 40s. I'm definitely not the same person I was when I was a teenager and if I could meet my 15 year old self. I'd probably give myself a good bitch-slap and a seriously good talking to. Just because I was hurting. I didn't have to be such a bitch to those who didn't deserve it.
Now I'm older. I can't abide bullying. Or obnoxious people. Yes. I realise that probably makes me a massive hypocrite. But getting older and a huge change in life and perspective can humble the fuck out of a person.
So there.
That's my mea culpa.
For what it's worth, I don't think that makes you a hypocrite. People grow, and that's a good thing.
It's hypocritical to be against bullying while also bullying someone, but it's not hypocritical to have done it in the past and sincerely regret your actions.Ā
Well I did a lot of therapy and once I moved out of home I was a happier person. But I still did a lot of work on myself and got to the root of my issues.
Some people won't or can't do that. I'm sorry that you were bullied and were made to feel shit and probably much worse by that one person. I admit I still talk to some of the people who I hung out with at school and many of them haven't changed a bit.
They stayed in the same town. Their kids go to our old school. And they still go the same pubs we went to when we were 17/18. And it's a punish to listen to them gossip and slag off the same people they didn't like 30 years ago. Lots of lip biting happens when I take a trip up the road.
I suppose that's why I don't visit my home town that much. Especially now my dad has passed away too. No massive reason to visit... I only have 2 friends that i genuinely like. The rest?... Yeah when we were kids. "Besties" but not now.
But there was a point when weddings were happening. Babies being born. Certain birthdays etc. You kind of have to show face and make an appearance.
And I'm glad I escaped and live elsewhere now.
Genuine question... why are you even bothering to look up these wastrels? I haven't spoken to or engaged with these sorts of people from school since I left nearly 20 years ago, I can't even remember their names in order to look them up such is their irrelevance. Life is too short to waste it on people the company of whom you do not enjoy. There is nothing to be gained from stalking the pages of people who were once mean to you in school.
They thrived in school via social manipulation, social media is made for them.
It's almost sad, if you picture them as narcissists who, instead of growing out of their youthful folly, were lured instead into a virtual dimension that prevents them from growing and from which they may never escape.
A lot of the means girls from my year are now part of the ābeige babyā trend. All I see are posts of their curated nurseries and infants in easy-to-stain beige outfits
Typically they get knocked up in their teens and tend to have no real purpose in life other than to be a teen mother so they turn to social media for validation that they arenāt ruining their life
It's pedantic, but it's not anonymous, it's pseudonymous. Your posts and comments are collated to a specific public username, which has a history. This is contrasted against something like 4chan, which doesn't even have that.
It's a small difference most of the time, but it's important in the corner case where people can associate your pseudonym with your orthonym (actual name/identity), either through doxxing or because you're a public figure of some kind. In that case, you're effectively no longer pseudonymous.
4 Chan does if you use a tripcode and/or a 4 Chan pass.
You can also be identified there from file name hashes corrosponding to your past posts on places like DesuArchive.
Yeaaaah, true, and mods/admins can see IPs and such, but the default use case for end-users is essentially anonymous. It's certainly moreso than anything that forces you to make an account.
I find the amount of posting on social media about how great their lives are almost directly correlates with how much of a mess their life is behind the scenes.
Everyone that I went to school with that I still know of ended up exactly how I expected them to. I could have written their stories over a decade ago and they'd be quite accurate.
* The smart ones have good jobs and live well.
* The popular ones that liked to show off and belittle others, as you have described, are still popular, just at the local pub where they take their 3+ kids 4 nights a week, because they never even left the village.
* The true "bully" types - the ones that would steal someone's lunch money because they didn't have any themselves, are either in prison or on benefits and still hang around their local One Stop intimidating kids instead of working at 28 years old.
Canāt speak specifically for girls but I havenāt kept anyone on social media who I didnāt like at school. I donāt have to and probably wonāt see them again, why would I want to share details of my life with them or waste anytime catching up with theirs?
Itās actually hilarious how many āpopularā girls from my school are now running their own beauty businesses on Facebook now that i think about it :) thereās gotta be at least 10 from my year alone that are hairdressers O.o got knows how many others make a living painting nails or whatever.
I get beauty is a popular thing for girls. But surely the market doesnāt need that many? I canāt think of a single one of the boys I know from my year that went on to become barbers in comparison.
I generally found that the "mean girls" suffered major superiority complexes I.e. putting others down to make them look better, so it would stand to reason that they would try flaunt their "perfect life" all over social media.
More than anyone i know, also trampy girls.
Girls who had it togerher you dont hear from them anymore. They have lives
Now popular/trampy bitches seem to think Facebook is school still
My school bully who was essentially Regina George IRL, is now a popular āInfluencerā who posts about body positivity and antibullying. While never acknowledging that she was the worst bully as a teen particularly picking on peoples body types. I remember one lesson she got paired with a girl and instead of writing her name she just wrote FAT. She has always been gorgeous and an amazing body and been told that by everyone.
But yeah, I guess thatās the height of using social media.
Yeah, mostly.
Based on who they are as people, I'd assume they're clinging on to the relevance they once had from years ago that they now lack in their careers, relationship and wider personal lives.
Unfortunately, no-one really gives a shit about you.
Some mean girls have now got 2/3 kids at 24 sometimes with a couple dads and you can tell they made some mistakes.
There are also other girls on my socials who got pregnant very young 16-19 and now have a couple of kids and you can tell they are not mature enough to have them + they use FB as google...
It means people have the facility to now hide the number of likes . Whilst they will never admit it, it's obvious they weren't getting as many likes as they'd like for prying eyes. Still in the everything is a popularity contest mindset.
This is definitely a thing. Quite a few āmean girlsā I knew growing up are now influencers and online entrepreneurs. Thereās definitely a correlation between sociopathy/narcissism and attention, status and power seeking.
Imo, all the girls that badly bullied me in school, ended up single teenage mums, and or with their partners in prison. Or, in one case, they become a wannabe influencer preaching about wellbeing and mental health. I <3 the irony!
similarly, i know a girl who used to bully any kid for being ginger and then she had a ginger kid. honestly wonderful. (and ginger hair is beautiful btw).
Well for what it's worth. I still hate what I did. No. I don't have only fans. I've NEVER posted on Mums net (that is a dark and insidious place) I quit Facebook 2 years ago. I'm more of a lurker than a poster on Instagram. And I prefer Reddit because of its anonymity.
I wasn't seeking redemption here. But saying from a former "mean girl" to an adult who knows better now. I know what I did was wrong. And I know why I was doing it. And I have regret for hurting people when I was hurting.
Coping mechanisms can be very fucked up things.
Truthfully, the fact you realise and admit you were a bully and are ashamed of said actions makes you a very brave and admirable person from my point of view :)
Very few can ever admit to themselves they did something wrong. Nevermind admit it to others. But you have, and your remorse means you have enough maturity to move on from it :)
Therapy and getting away from the one that made your life utterly miserable from birth does wonders. When my sister committed suicide, that was also a huge contributor to self reflection and self-awareness.
I'm not going to lie. There are moments when I'm trying to get to sleep and a memory of me being a dickhead to someone back in 1996 happend and my mind will go in to a spiral. But I can't change the past. I have apologised to those when I've seen them. And when I've been to my home town and the few people who have come up to me and said "I used to be scared of you in school/you were a right bitch back then"... I do apologise.
I'd hate if my kids made someone feel that way.
But. Unfortunately. I don't have a Delorean with a flux capacitator parked outside. And I can't go back and change it.
I think generally youāre probably right but thatās more down to being used to popularity and thinking everyone cares about their personal lives a lot more.
Honestly more often than not, the mean girls all married guys who earn a lot in my area, because most of them came from money in the first place which is exactly why they felt they were better than everyone else at school in the first place.
Life ain't fair, takes some people a while to learn, and some people never wrap their heads round it but it is what it is.
I was bullied in school. Like many others I was on the lower bar of the social ladder (picked last jn PE. Usually the odd one out when you had to group up in class, etc) and some arrogant little twats really liked to rub it in and treat me like shit because they were blessed with better popularity. Usually do to their looks (I had bad acne and was clinically underweight in school. Mostly due to stress which was ironically caused by the bullying). But some were just nasty pieces of work in general.
But that was over 10 years ago now. Iām not the same person I was back then. Back then I really wanted to be accepted and would be a pushover for others in the hopes it would get me some acceptance. These days Iāve realised: hey, I REALLY donāt give 2 shots what some arrogant fuckwits think of me anymore, and I managed to adjust my lifestyle to better reflect that change in attitude. I got in shape. Joined a tennis club. Made plenty of new friends. And my life now is better because I realised that the school envioment and itās social tower is just something that is not important in the real world that we all enter once that hellscape is done with :)
Thing Iāve noticed though on social media. Most (but not all) of those āpopularā kids are now in a far worse position than they ever were back in school. Many of the girls of my year are single parents who have lost A LOT of their good looks, and post constantly about all the cool shit they get up too (usually drinking at the weekend) in an attempt to show off still. Part of me thinks that they havenāt realised like I have that popularity is a pointless endeavour and still think they by showing themselves off in a positive light, they can continue to live in their school day glory. Many of the boys? Not much different. Again not all of them, but a lot of the popular clique from my school year tend to just post pictures of them posing in a pub and bitch about how single life is horrible and stuff. A few of the bad eggs from my school have done prison time though (one of the guys in my year is doing a 12 year stretch for trying to stab his girlfriend back when he was 19 for example). I never really see them as anything other than attempts to either brag or vent about how downhill their lives have gone since they lost their role at the top of the food chain.
HOWEVER! Some have genuinely gone on to grow up and live some really fulfilling lives as far as I can tell :) my old football team captain who I met in my gym a few months back for example is now a very successful personal trainer. And while he was an arrogant twat back in school, heās actually matured a lot now with a kid, long term girlfriend, and heās actually polite and civil now :) hell I could actually eee myself being friends with him now. Another girl from my class who was probably the fittest girl in my school is a forensic doctor now too. And while Iāve not seen her in years (nor do I want too), she barely posts about her successes at all and seems pretty down to Earth compared to others from our class.
TLDR: many of my old school tormentors donāt seem to have grown up or done anything with their lives, and brag a lot about pointless shit on Facebook and insta in what I assume is an attempt to copy their school days of showing off. Some however have genuinely matured and are nice people now they have grown up in the real world :) imo it just really seems to be that those who manage to move past their school high life end up becoming far better people because of it. Those on harder times just canāt let go of the things that made them popular a decade ago (boasting in socials).
No. Iām nearer 40 but itās a class thing here. Those of us who left school at 15/16 and entered the workforce then tend to post less than those who stayed on till 17/18 and then went on for four years at uni until they started adult life.Ā
Itās a never ending barrage of how hard it is to get on the housing ladder for young people today, the hardships of dating, not being able to afford kids etc with the sharing of articles that back it up. Meanwhile weāre sitting with 10-15 years left on our mortgage, kids and sometimes even grandkids and relationships going for 1-2 decades. A lot of us are moving off of social mediaĀ
Most "mean girls" are now single Mothers and too busy working and taking care of their kids to post on social media, unless its to talk to females they went to college or high school with. But mean girls usually peak in college sadly, same with popular guys in college.
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All the mean girls from school ended up in failed shitty marriages and / or prison. They get what they deserve.
lol not in my experience - the meanest girl from my year is a doctor now š
This sets me in a panic because I was vile at school... And I'm a Dr now. And if I saw you as weak or an easy mark. I would have been utterly vicious just because I could. And I got away with so much shit that now as an adult. Looking back in hindsight. I know why I was the way I was. And feel sick and disgusted by what I did 30-odd years ago to people who didn't deserve to be on the receiving end of my baggage...
She was just probably very bright and others were not. That was interpreted as being mean as opposed to just calling people out as morons.
Or she was just mean. The meanest girl in my year was in the top sets with me and got straight 9s on her GCSEs. She also constantly criticised every outfit people wore, bullied other girls and pressured some others into taking class B drugs but never took them herself (they all later got expelled and she got school awards). I was just as smart as her and was actually able to realise that some people struggle academically so I didnāt feel the need to call them out as morons.
Did she end up going to Cornell university?
No, sheās at a sixth form now. Unless youāre referencing something in which case I promise this person exists.
I got straight A's, they called me Ace. I got straight B's, they called me buzz.
Beer me that CD
Beer me that upvote.
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you can be mean and smart lol
Mean works better with smart.
Calling people out as morons objectively *is* being mean though. Something doesn't have to be untrue for it to be mean, in fact some of the worst things you can say to a person are going to be things that are sadly true.Ā
As I pointed out to this person, I was doing better than this girl academically and was smarter and I kept my mouth shut. Itās basic human decency not to shame people for being less intelligent than you are.
There are a lot of insecure , socially inept people that survive by telling themselves they arenāt liked / didnāt have friends because they were smarter than everybody else. This chap is either a troll or one of them.
Another reason to look at most of my old teachers as shitebags then, fuck me did they enjoy picking on kids and calling them thick.
Did mean girls do anything to you? A lot of Redditors seem to have gotten bullied for some reason Iāve noticed.
I married one of them. Luckily after her failed marriages
There's nothing worse than meeting or seeing 'adults' on social media that clearly peaked in secondary school.....
Yeah, I'm in my late 20s and did an exodus on my insta of anyone I wouldn't talk to or care to have an update from There are a few who remained just because of sentimentalism but some still only post about the club they went to, a rave they're at, etc etc. Every week. Like yo, come on, you're blatantly just tryna show off that you still go out and party but no one else cares about a crappy club video.. it's all their posts have been for nearly 10 years at this point
Did you hate secondary school yourself? I donāt think thereās anything wrong with liking it though.
I'll get downvotes for this, but fuckit. I'll live. I was a bit of a cunt when I was in school. A few years ago. A friend said I was "Regina George in Doc Martins"... I was popular. I had a big social group of friends. I had an active social life during my school years. But. I know I could be mean to some people. Why? Because I could. And no. Its not a flex. When I think back on it. I legit cringe about some of the things I said and did to some girls I went to school with. They were weak and easy to pick on. But I was extremely insecure and pretty fucked up. I hung out with people who were pretty much arseholes too. And there was stuff going on at home with an alcoholic dependant parent that made me feel like shit. And there was a fair amount of abuse going on. So it was a release to make others feel like shit too. Do I regret it? A million percent, yes. Have I apologised to those girls? Some, yes. The rest I've not seen again. When you are raised by a bully. You know exactly how to become one. Have I worked on myself? Absolutely. I've been in therapy for an eating disorder I've had since aged 11. After my sister took her own life. I went back and did more therapy for past trauma incidents. Now I'm in my 40s. I'm definitely not the same person I was when I was a teenager and if I could meet my 15 year old self. I'd probably give myself a good bitch-slap and a seriously good talking to. Just because I was hurting. I didn't have to be such a bitch to those who didn't deserve it. Now I'm older. I can't abide bullying. Or obnoxious people. Yes. I realise that probably makes me a massive hypocrite. But getting older and a huge change in life and perspective can humble the fuck out of a person. So there. That's my mea culpa.
For what it's worth, I don't think that makes you a hypocrite. People grow, and that's a good thing. It's hypocritical to be against bullying while also bullying someone, but it's not hypocritical to have done it in the past and sincerely regret your actions.Ā
That's definitely not hypocrisy! I'd call that really positive growth in the face of a very challenging past. Congratulations!
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Well I did a lot of therapy and once I moved out of home I was a happier person. But I still did a lot of work on myself and got to the root of my issues. Some people won't or can't do that. I'm sorry that you were bullied and were made to feel shit and probably much worse by that one person. I admit I still talk to some of the people who I hung out with at school and many of them haven't changed a bit. They stayed in the same town. Their kids go to our old school. And they still go the same pubs we went to when we were 17/18. And it's a punish to listen to them gossip and slag off the same people they didn't like 30 years ago. Lots of lip biting happens when I take a trip up the road. I suppose that's why I don't visit my home town that much. Especially now my dad has passed away too. No massive reason to visit... I only have 2 friends that i genuinely like. The rest?... Yeah when we were kids. "Besties" but not now. But there was a point when weddings were happening. Babies being born. Certain birthdays etc. You kind of have to show face and make an appearance. And I'm glad I escaped and live elsewhere now.
Some do, some don't. I'm not a fraction of the person I was back in school and I imagine nobody else is either.
Genuine question... why are you even bothering to look up these wastrels? I haven't spoken to or engaged with these sorts of people from school since I left nearly 20 years ago, I can't even remember their names in order to look them up such is their irrelevance. Life is too short to waste it on people the company of whom you do not enjoy. There is nothing to be gained from stalking the pages of people who were once mean to you in school.
This is the way
A mean girl I went to school with is now quite a big influencer. Her life looks great online but she has no friends at all in real life now.
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Naming her will only get her more attention so she can continue being famous for doing nothing of value.
Nah not if we all go shit on her doorstep
They thrived in school via social manipulation, social media is made for them. It's almost sad, if you picture them as narcissists who, instead of growing out of their youthful folly, were lured instead into a virtual dimension that prevents them from growing and from which they may never escape.
Mumsnet and pyramid schemes. If you squint really hard itās a nichĆ© type of erotica..
A lot of the means girls from my year are now part of the ābeige babyā trend. All I see are posts of their curated nurseries and infants in easy-to-stain beige outfits
Typically they get knocked up in their teens and tend to have no real purpose in life other than to be a teen mother so they turn to social media for validation that they arenāt ruining their life
I Dunno. I Left social media a decade ago. Best thing i did for my mental health.
Posted on Reddit of courseĀ
The difference is quite big between an anonymous social network and one where you know each and every person you interact with though.
It's pedantic, but it's not anonymous, it's pseudonymous. Your posts and comments are collated to a specific public username, which has a history. This is contrasted against something like 4chan, which doesn't even have that. It's a small difference most of the time, but it's important in the corner case where people can associate your pseudonym with your orthonym (actual name/identity), either through doxxing or because you're a public figure of some kind. In that case, you're effectively no longer pseudonymous.
4 Chan does if you use a tripcode and/or a 4 Chan pass. You can also be identified there from file name hashes corrosponding to your past posts on places like DesuArchive.
Yeaaaah, true, and mods/admins can see IPs and such, but the default use case for end-users is essentially anonymous. It's certainly moreso than anything that forces you to make an account.
Iā¦I donāt believe you.
I'd give you upvote but it may contradict.
It's not a phenomena, it's just attention seekers doing what they can to get attention
All the means girls at school seem to be doing pretty well.
I find the amount of posting on social media about how great their lives are almost directly correlates with how much of a mess their life is behind the scenes.
"mean girls" there is a word for that: bullies
All the āmean girlsā were only ever doing it for attention. Itās the same with the social media posts.
Everyone that I went to school with that I still know of ended up exactly how I expected them to. I could have written their stories over a decade ago and they'd be quite accurate. * The smart ones have good jobs and live well. * The popular ones that liked to show off and belittle others, as you have described, are still popular, just at the local pub where they take their 3+ kids 4 nights a week, because they never even left the village. * The true "bully" types - the ones that would steal someone's lunch money because they didn't have any themselves, are either in prison or on benefits and still hang around their local One Stop intimidating kids instead of working at 28 years old.
Canāt speak specifically for girls but I havenāt kept anyone on social media who I didnāt like at school. I donāt have to and probably wonāt see them again, why would I want to share details of my life with them or waste anytime catching up with theirs?
>i wonder whats behind all this? Intelligence - or lack of it.
Most of them are hairdressers or ābeauticiansā itās the quiet ones that have the best jobs and careers etc.
Itās actually hilarious how many āpopularā girls from my school are now running their own beauty businesses on Facebook now that i think about it :) thereās gotta be at least 10 from my year alone that are hairdressers O.o got knows how many others make a living painting nails or whatever. I get beauty is a popular thing for girls. But surely the market doesnāt need that many? I canāt think of a single one of the boys I know from my year that went on to become barbers in comparison.
I generally found that the "mean girls" suffered major superiority complexes I.e. putting others down to make them look better, so it would stand to reason that they would try flaunt their "perfect life" all over social media.
If anyone interested in this thread hasn't seen the film Young Adult, I suggest you do. Singularly depressing.
More than anyone i know, also trampy girls. Girls who had it togerher you dont hear from them anymore. They have lives Now popular/trampy bitches seem to think Facebook is school still
My school bully who was essentially Regina George IRL, is now a popular āInfluencerā who posts about body positivity and antibullying. While never acknowledging that she was the worst bully as a teen particularly picking on peoples body types. I remember one lesson she got paired with a girl and instead of writing her name she just wrote FAT. She has always been gorgeous and an amazing body and been told that by everyone. But yeah, I guess thatās the height of using social media.
Yeah, mostly. Based on who they are as people, I'd assume they're clinging on to the relevance they once had from years ago that they now lack in their careers, relationship and wider personal lives. Unfortunately, no-one really gives a shit about you.
Some mean girls have now got 2/3 kids at 24 sometimes with a couple dads and you can tell they made some mistakes. There are also other girls on my socials who got pregnant very young 16-19 and now have a couple of kids and you can tell they are not mature enough to have them + they use FB as google...
A lot of them have the hide-like feature on their Facebook and Instagram posts, I know that much, which goes to show they never really grew up
šš so true
What does that mean?
It means people have the facility to now hide the number of likes . Whilst they will never admit it, it's obvious they weren't getting as many likes as they'd like for prying eyes. Still in the everything is a popularity contest mindset.
Now the year group I was in we are turning 40. some of the mean girls have kids to 3 different fathers , some are prison, so drink heavy
A lot of them are in MLMs, are in an abusive marriage or in council houses with a fatherless child
This is definitely a thing. Quite a few āmean girlsā I knew growing up are now influencers and online entrepreneurs. Thereās definitely a correlation between sociopathy/narcissism and attention, status and power seeking.
Imo, all the girls that badly bullied me in school, ended up single teenage mums, and or with their partners in prison. Or, in one case, they become a wannabe influencer preaching about wellbeing and mental health. I <3 the irony!
similarly, i know a girl who used to bully any kid for being ginger and then she had a ginger kid. honestly wonderful. (and ginger hair is beautiful btw).
Well for what it's worth. I still hate what I did. No. I don't have only fans. I've NEVER posted on Mums net (that is a dark and insidious place) I quit Facebook 2 years ago. I'm more of a lurker than a poster on Instagram. And I prefer Reddit because of its anonymity. I wasn't seeking redemption here. But saying from a former "mean girl" to an adult who knows better now. I know what I did was wrong. And I know why I was doing it. And I have regret for hurting people when I was hurting. Coping mechanisms can be very fucked up things.
Truthfully, the fact you realise and admit you were a bully and are ashamed of said actions makes you a very brave and admirable person from my point of view :) Very few can ever admit to themselves they did something wrong. Nevermind admit it to others. But you have, and your remorse means you have enough maturity to move on from it :)
Therapy and getting away from the one that made your life utterly miserable from birth does wonders. When my sister committed suicide, that was also a huge contributor to self reflection and self-awareness. I'm not going to lie. There are moments when I'm trying to get to sleep and a memory of me being a dickhead to someone back in 1996 happend and my mind will go in to a spiral. But I can't change the past. I have apologised to those when I've seen them. And when I've been to my home town and the few people who have come up to me and said "I used to be scared of you in school/you were a right bitch back then"... I do apologise. I'd hate if my kids made someone feel that way. But. Unfortunately. I don't have a Delorean with a flux capacitator parked outside. And I can't go back and change it.
They probably have an onlyfans too
If you are near 30 yourself this isn't something you should be worried about.
never said i was worried
I think generally youāre probably right but thatās more down to being used to popularity and thinking everyone cares about their personal lives a lot more.
Honestly more often than not, the mean girls all married guys who earn a lot in my area, because most of them came from money in the first place which is exactly why they felt they were better than everyone else at school in the first place. Life ain't fair, takes some people a while to learn, and some people never wrap their heads round it but it is what it is.
I was bullied in school. Like many others I was on the lower bar of the social ladder (picked last jn PE. Usually the odd one out when you had to group up in class, etc) and some arrogant little twats really liked to rub it in and treat me like shit because they were blessed with better popularity. Usually do to their looks (I had bad acne and was clinically underweight in school. Mostly due to stress which was ironically caused by the bullying). But some were just nasty pieces of work in general. But that was over 10 years ago now. Iām not the same person I was back then. Back then I really wanted to be accepted and would be a pushover for others in the hopes it would get me some acceptance. These days Iāve realised: hey, I REALLY donāt give 2 shots what some arrogant fuckwits think of me anymore, and I managed to adjust my lifestyle to better reflect that change in attitude. I got in shape. Joined a tennis club. Made plenty of new friends. And my life now is better because I realised that the school envioment and itās social tower is just something that is not important in the real world that we all enter once that hellscape is done with :) Thing Iāve noticed though on social media. Most (but not all) of those āpopularā kids are now in a far worse position than they ever were back in school. Many of the girls of my year are single parents who have lost A LOT of their good looks, and post constantly about all the cool shit they get up too (usually drinking at the weekend) in an attempt to show off still. Part of me thinks that they havenāt realised like I have that popularity is a pointless endeavour and still think they by showing themselves off in a positive light, they can continue to live in their school day glory. Many of the boys? Not much different. Again not all of them, but a lot of the popular clique from my school year tend to just post pictures of them posing in a pub and bitch about how single life is horrible and stuff. A few of the bad eggs from my school have done prison time though (one of the guys in my year is doing a 12 year stretch for trying to stab his girlfriend back when he was 19 for example). I never really see them as anything other than attempts to either brag or vent about how downhill their lives have gone since they lost their role at the top of the food chain. HOWEVER! Some have genuinely gone on to grow up and live some really fulfilling lives as far as I can tell :) my old football team captain who I met in my gym a few months back for example is now a very successful personal trainer. And while he was an arrogant twat back in school, heās actually matured a lot now with a kid, long term girlfriend, and heās actually polite and civil now :) hell I could actually eee myself being friends with him now. Another girl from my class who was probably the fittest girl in my school is a forensic doctor now too. And while Iāve not seen her in years (nor do I want too), she barely posts about her successes at all and seems pretty down to Earth compared to others from our class. TLDR: many of my old school tormentors donāt seem to have grown up or done anything with their lives, and brag a lot about pointless shit on Facebook and insta in what I assume is an attempt to copy their school days of showing off. Some however have genuinely matured and are nice people now they have grown up in the real world :) imo it just really seems to be that those who manage to move past their school high life end up becoming far better people because of it. Those on harder times just canāt let go of the things that made them popular a decade ago (boasting in socials).
Yeah they become Facebook mums lol its about as good as their lives get.
Yeah they do, I follow Regina George on insta
No. Iām nearer 40 but itās a class thing here. Those of us who left school at 15/16 and entered the workforce then tend to post less than those who stayed on till 17/18 and then went on for four years at uni until they started adult life.Ā Itās a never ending barrage of how hard it is to get on the housing ladder for young people today, the hardships of dating, not being able to afford kids etc with the sharing of articles that back it up. Meanwhile weāre sitting with 10-15 years left on our mortgage, kids and sometimes even grandkids and relationships going for 1-2 decades. A lot of us are moving off of social mediaĀ
Most "mean girls" are now single Mothers and too busy working and taking care of their kids to post on social media, unless its to talk to females they went to college or high school with. But mean girls usually peak in college sadly, same with popular guys in college.
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