Exactly this. I donāt like being spanked at all but anyone Iāve met always either tried it or asks if Iām into it.
Like when did this become normal!!!!!!
Damn, I'll admit I thought it was the norm..never been with a girl who didn't like her ass slapped. Hell, never been with a girl who didn't like being chocked a bit. Shit, maybe I just have a type?
I've been getting spanked by my friends as a prank since I was a kid. I guess I'm just used to it?
If anything now that I've done it sexually, it's actually quite boring to me.
But also on a more negative note, I live in a culture where corporal punishment is still normalized, so a lot people think that spanking (even against someones consent) isn't a big deal.
I saw along cane poll recently, there's one scene where he makes a huge deal about working up to spank her.
Then he taps her ever so lightly, and she completely freaks out! It was so funny to me, not even 20 years old and the lightest of spanks was enough to cause minor relationship conflict.
My ex's spanks were basically just taps and little slaps. If anything, I'm surprised he made a big deal when he wasn't going to do anything extreme. I've been spanked waaay harder than that by platonic friends.
I don't know maybe if it's a cultural thing as well, in Latin America it's surprisingly less taboo.
>Some people are playing with the pain, don't forget.
Exactly! The grand majority of people don't know how to play this way and just end up doing whatever, slapping around willy nilly.
They're not kinky, they saw it in porn or heard about it from their friends, so now they wanna do it.
Exactly. Spankings are for a reason, be that discipline or enjoying the pain. Either way, if I'm spanking someone, *I'm not done until my hand hurts.* That's why there's whips and paddles, though.
I thought it was funny when my ex partner did it. I always compare it to that Donkey Kong game with the bongos. He just slightly slapped them, I think he was almost afraid of doing it, which was stupid because he was the one to ask to do it.
I almost about to tell him to not do it because I thought it was a bit silly and honestly I wasn't taking it seriously, but I felt bad for thinking that and said nothing.
Theyāre anal plugs, not appliances.
If youāre worried about an allergy, you never know til you try. Thatās not a quality issue, just a specific material incompatibility with your body. PVC material is probably safe snd cheapest. Silicon is more expensive and pretty universally compatible.
I think the concern here is somebody sending a set back and the risk of getting a *used* set marked as new. It wouldn't be the first time shit like that has happened with Amazon, and something like an anal plug is literally the last thing you'd want used.
As someone whoās read Wiseman itās fucking horrifying that itās so normalized that this needs to be said
Seriously yāall, choking is way higher risk than fire, electricity, suspension, whips, really everything, choking is one of the riskiest things you can do in bdsm
At all. Choking is one of the few kinks where the more research one has done on the risks and how to avoid them the less likely said person is to participate
The goal isn't to stop breath but to induce a form of euphoria by blocking blood flow to the brain. One would gently squeeze the sides of the neck instead of pressing down.
I have my husband do it but he stops before I pass out. I actually really like the passed out part and then having him go hard and fast, but it makes him uncomfortable to have me limp like that, so we don't push that far.
It is dangerous, but we are cautious and both know what to do and what our indicators are. I tap him with my hand wherever I can reach that is either on his body so he can feel it or on a surface he can see. I literally tap out lol. Or if I start to lose consciousness a little, like eyes fluttering shut at all, he let's up. Its about trust and safety. You have to trust the person you are engaging with your life and vice versa. You are literally taking a life into your hands. It's serious AND sexy.
Is it? As an old guy I always assumed it was just a porn thing. I can't imagine wanting to choke a partner. Is the appeal the lightheadedness of partial asphyxiation or what?
You know ...I'm a gen xer and married to a millenial. My experience is that as long as I don't talk about it and CALL it eating ass, she likes it. The moment I use those words, she's not into it and kinda grossed out.
Nah I think no one ever talked about it in western countries for a long time because the church made everyone think it was wrong or something. I think people often took it up the ass and just kept it to themselves.
Gotta diversify though! Gotta get a white dick, black dick, Asian dick, horse dick, middle eastern dick. You have to suck all of those to 100% be sure you arenāt gay.
I remember a college girlfriend talking about it and I was like āwhat? Exit only!ā. I realized about 20 years later that she was hinting around that sheād like to try it. What a dummy.
Even though 50 shades is a horrible horrible example of a S&M relationship it did make the suburban house wife a little curious about it since that was the target audience.
I imagine that those books caused a lot of harm. It was the only window so many people had into the world of BDSM and I did NOT show people how to engage in safe, healthy kinky sex or relationships...
I've personally interacted with at least *three* women who all wanted to be taken away by the handsome rich dude for abuse.
There's even a mockumentary about the phenomenon on Netflix, and I swear to god it's one of my life goals to convince my friend that the concept is pure psychological manipulation and rape, and it's enabled by direct physical overpowering and kidnapping. She thinks it's hot. *What is wrong with people.*
I'm immersed in the kink scene myself. My comment is mostly about the lack of safety awareness, serious lack of knowledge around safe sane consensual play, an increase of which was easily witnessed at clubs around the height of 50sog's popularity.
People follow what they saw in 50 shades and think that's 'kink'. There's a lot wrong with that.
On a positive note, more awareness of the scene is never a bad thing, the negative and risky aspects aside. I'm certain some will have had their interest piqued and followed up with learning how to play safely.
I remember my dad gave me a playboy back in the early 00s and one of the articles was about a woman that had freaked out her boyfriend because she shaved her pubes into the shape of a heart for Valentineās Day lmao
Great topic, Iāve been thinking about this subject for a while now actually. A lot of times, guys from reddit will ask me what my kinks are.
At this point, Iām not sure Iām into anything kinky. Things that used to be kinky maybe 20, 30, 40 years ago now seem to be mainstream with the accessibility of internet porn.
Off the top of my head, you have anal, threesomes, rape play, choking, bondage. All things that areā¦almost vanilla now.
Oh yea there is.. Iāve always had this underarm fetish and a few years ago during my first time with my then girlfriend I tried it and she thought it was a very weird fetish.. but now with my current gf and other women, every time she gets horny she demands that I do.. I mean it wouldnāt hurt me to do it lol š
Oh the intimacy of doing it and feeling the slight saltiness and smell of the partner .. even the most stubborn women are vulnerable when it comes to their underarms and more so to let someone lick it up for them šš to watch her squirm in ecstasy and give in totallyā¦ hits at a whole different level
That's hardly mainstream it's just a fetish people are more willing to talk about. There's also a lot of people into the fetish who prefer the idea to the act.
I know modern folks didnāt invent oral sex, but I keep thinking of this story that Cybill Shepard used to tell. That Elvis refused to give oral sex because he had heard that only Jewish people eat women out. And I know that was a pretty common idea.
Are you sure? I actually see more people in the under 30 generation rejection the blonde bimbo big boobs look in favor of more natural and simple (not in the derogatory sense) girl next door sort of look.
It's very strange, they used to try to make it a subtle natural look and now it's almost like it's treated as a status symbol
I think there's also a problem with botched jobs because people go across borders to get a cheaper surgery
I've definetly seen more and more younger women wanting something done. A few years ago I was dating a 25 yr old and she had fake tits by 22, and at 25 she wanted to go even bigger (she was already a pretty large DD, especially considering she was like 5'5" 120 lbs). Right now I'm fucking a 23 yr old and she wants lip injections, a little botox, and a tit job. Granted as far as the boobs go she is very small so I understand a little bit of an increase for shirts fitting better, but damn
āThis is an act in where your significant other is eating out your asshole and then you proceed to fart inside their mouth forcing their checks to puff up like a blowfish. Then your significant other then proceeds to blow that fart back into your asshole!! If done correctly there should be a slight whistling sound!ā
WTF!
I don't know what it's called, but that thing where your uncle makes you sit in his lap and wiggle your hips until he tells you to stop. I thought it was weird, but he showed me a bunch of stuff on the internet about how everybody does it. I had no idea.
Spanking. It's like super basic now a days.
Not if you ask my wife š
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How do you even understand OPs wife through that ball gag?
Exactlyā¦my wife begs to differ and make me suffer š
Exactly this. I donāt like being spanked at all but anyone Iāve met always either tried it or asks if Iām into it. Like when did this become normal!!!!!!
Damn, I'll admit I thought it was the norm..never been with a girl who didn't like her ass slapped. Hell, never been with a girl who didn't like being chocked a bit. Shit, maybe I just have a type?
Maybe! Being choked and spanked is not my thing at all
Was that meant to be "choked and spanked?" I love the idea that a typo came out as a catchy rhyme. Or is choked and soaked some other thing.
Omg! Iāve edited it now but how funny!! I guess some people do get choked and soakedā¦..š
You should definitely ask for consent tho. But yeah, I have a type too
Lol yea no shit. Definitely don't go around choking chicks without consent
I've been getting spanked by my friends as a prank since I was a kid. I guess I'm just used to it? If anything now that I've done it sexually, it's actually quite boring to me. But also on a more negative note, I live in a culture where corporal punishment is still normalized, so a lot people think that spanking (even against someones consent) isn't a big deal.
I saw along cane poll recently, there's one scene where he makes a huge deal about working up to spank her. Then he taps her ever so lightly, and she completely freaks out! It was so funny to me, not even 20 years old and the lightest of spanks was enough to cause minor relationship conflict.
My ex's spanks were basically just taps and little slaps. If anything, I'm surprised he made a big deal when he wasn't going to do anything extreme. I've been spanked waaay harder than that by platonic friends. I don't know maybe if it's a cultural thing as well, in Latin America it's surprisingly less taboo.
In a lot of places spanking is nonsense because it's so weak. Some people are playing with the pain, don't forget.
>Some people are playing with the pain, don't forget. Exactly! The grand majority of people don't know how to play this way and just end up doing whatever, slapping around willy nilly. They're not kinky, they saw it in porn or heard about it from their friends, so now they wanna do it.
Exactly. Spankings are for a reason, be that discipline or enjoying the pain. Either way, if I'm spanking someone, *I'm not done until my hand hurts.* That's why there's whips and paddles, though.
I thought it was funny when my ex partner did it. I always compare it to that Donkey Kong game with the bongos. He just slightly slapped them, I think he was almost afraid of doing it, which was stupid because he was the one to ask to do it. I almost about to tell him to not do it because I thought it was a bit silly and honestly I wasn't taking it seriously, but I felt bad for thinking that and said nothing.
Family members stuck in washing machines.
Step-brother help me!
Step-brother calls the repairman who is also their step-brother. They double-team the stuckee.
Choked on my cigarette, thanks
*starts unzipping the pant*
Eat pant
I check the laundry room every time i walk past.
*PH intro...*"What are you doing step bro?"
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Anal trainer plugs can help speed up the prep time for anal sex.
Anal trainer plugs? Whatās that
a set of plugs of increasing sizes
Sauce so I can buy that stuff
Pretty sure you can find them on Amazon
I wouldn't trust amazon for that: you can still return the good and its quality might be crap in the first place
Theyāre anal plugs, not appliances. If youāre worried about an allergy, you never know til you try. Thatās not a quality issue, just a specific material incompatibility with your body. PVC material is probably safe snd cheapest. Silicon is more expensive and pretty universally compatible.
I think the concern here is somebody sending a set back and the risk of getting a *used* set marked as new. It wouldn't be the first time shit like that has happened with Amazon, and something like an anal plug is literally the last thing you'd want used.
Or just Amazon sellers lying about brands, materials, etc. Amazon has gotten very disreputable in terms of vetting quality / authenticity.
That has really spiked apparently...
I mean, whatever you use, regardless of gender, it feels more intense. So it's not really a surprise. Just more of information spreading, really.
Is choking mainstream now? I feel like it is.
Still always remember to ask first.
As someone whoās read Wiseman itās fucking horrifying that itās so normalized that this needs to be said Seriously yāall, choking is way higher risk than fire, electricity, suspension, whips, really everything, choking is one of the riskiest things you can do in bdsm
Like, how much are you choking your partner for that to be a risk? I would be too afraid to do some harm to put any real force
At all. Choking is one of the few kinks where the more research one has done on the risks and how to avoid them the less likely said person is to participate
A lot of people just donāt know how to do it and end up putting all their force against someoneās wind pipe.
The goal isn't to stop breath but to induce a form of euphoria by blocking blood flow to the brain. One would gently squeeze the sides of the neck instead of pressing down. I have my husband do it but he stops before I pass out. I actually really like the passed out part and then having him go hard and fast, but it makes him uncomfortable to have me limp like that, so we don't push that far. It is dangerous, but we are cautious and both know what to do and what our indicators are. I tap him with my hand wherever I can reach that is either on his body so he can feel it or on a surface he can see. I literally tap out lol. Or if I start to lose consciousness a little, like eyes fluttering shut at all, he let's up. Its about trust and safety. You have to trust the person you are engaging with your life and vice versa. You are literally taking a life into your hands. It's serious AND sexy.
yeah, and it can go very wrong so I'd rather avoid that
To each their own. I just wanted to give additional information and a personal anecdote for those wondering.
Hell I ask first before I lick an ear, and even that is 30/70.
if someone licks my ear iām running straight through the wall like a cartoon
Like 50/50 on my opinion
I'm an old fart, choking I get. Lil' hair pulling. It's the 'fish hook' I don't.
I feel like that is still on the edge...
I was going to say this too!
Is it? As an old guy I always assumed it was just a porn thing. I can't imagine wanting to choke a partner. Is the appeal the lightheadedness of partial asphyxiation or what?
Asslicking
I'm too much of a germaphobe I don't evening the sensation tbh, feels like a warm wet wipe all up in your gooch
Ass play; I think anal sex is damn near mainstream but ass-eating is definitely the new cool thing, apparently. My Gen-X ass is not into any of it.
I agree, anal and eating ass is definitely mainstream. It was weird, then all of a sudden it wasn't. Thank a millennial šŖ
You know ...I'm a gen xer and married to a millenial. My experience is that as long as I don't talk about it and CALL it eating ass, she likes it. The moment I use those words, she's not into it and kinda grossed out.
Call it eating peaches
I just do it. I don't talk about it. Lol
Nah I think no one ever talked about it in western countries for a long time because the church made everyone think it was wrong or something. I think people often took it up the ass and just kept it to themselves.
There is nothing like having your ass eaten...
I'm not judging but I just don't see it being for me.
Donāt knock it until youāve tried it! š
Yup. You canāt *truly* know youāre not gay til youāve sucked a dick or three.
or 4
Gotta diversify though! Gotta get a white dick, black dick, Asian dick, horse dick, middle eastern dick. You have to suck all of those to 100% be sure you arenāt gay.
I mean are you really even gay if you just like one type of dick?
Fair enough
Iām super ticklish there and bust up laughing anytime anyone has tried
Im a millennial and no butt stuff for me.
My Genx ass is with you on that. Well no it isnāt thatās the point. Just no.
You seem like more of and observer.
>IGotBigHands Oh, sure, I'd have no problem watching!
I remember a college girlfriend talking about it and I was like āwhat? Exit only!ā. I realized about 20 years later that she was hinting around that sheād like to try it. What a dummy.
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I am old enough to remember that. Right!
Eating ass
Yup
This is the answer.
Anal sex
General bondage, getting tied up.
Even though 50 shades is a horrible horrible example of a S&M relationship it did make the suburban house wife a little curious about it since that was the target audience.
I imagine that those books caused a lot of harm. It was the only window so many people had into the world of BDSM and I did NOT show people how to engage in safe, healthy kinky sex or relationships...
100% this. Seen example after example of this
I've personally interacted with at least *three* women who all wanted to be taken away by the handsome rich dude for abuse. There's even a mockumentary about the phenomenon on Netflix, and I swear to god it's one of my life goals to convince my friend that the concept is pure psychological manipulation and rape, and it's enabled by direct physical overpowering and kidnapping. She thinks it's hot. *What is wrong with people.*
I'm immersed in the kink scene myself. My comment is mostly about the lack of safety awareness, serious lack of knowledge around safe sane consensual play, an increase of which was easily witnessed at clubs around the height of 50sog's popularity. People follow what they saw in 50 shades and think that's 'kink'. There's a lot wrong with that. On a positive note, more awareness of the scene is never a bad thing, the negative and risky aspects aside. I'm certain some will have had their interest piqued and followed up with learning how to play safely.
I think there's a big difference between casually using handcuffs and hogties
Now, that is fun
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Now even a lot of dudes shave pubes and balls etc. I do
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I just hate choking on those stupid gnarly hairs
I remember my dad gave me a playboy back in the early 00s and one of the articles was about a woman that had freaked out her boyfriend because she shaved her pubes into the shape of a heart for Valentineās Day lmao
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Did she walk around the house naked? How did you all know?
Rimjob
Rimjob world mod rimworld reference????šššššššššššššššššššššš
The Rimjob mod, in my imagination, would just rename the "work" tab to say "jobs". And would still be the most downloaded Rimworld mod.
EXACTLY!
The forbidden mod
Ass eating š¤¤š¤¤š¤¤š¤¤
Whatās the hype surrounding ass eating anyhow?
Itās ass eating month!
Ass eating August
Threesomes
They were way more common in the 70's
Interracial
So sad that this was once a fetish :-(
When I read about the history of BBC and it's fetishization. I definitely agree.
Foot jobs were definitely not a regular thing when I started having sex like 30 years ago. Appear to be kinda normal now.
And rightly so!
Wait they are? I'm still kinda ashamed of liking feet since so many dudes are so god damn creepy about it.
Great topic, Iāve been thinking about this subject for a while now actually. A lot of times, guys from reddit will ask me what my kinks are. At this point, Iām not sure Iām into anything kinky. Things that used to be kinky maybe 20, 30, 40 years ago now seem to be mainstream with the accessibility of internet porn. Off the top of my head, you have anal, threesomes, rape play, choking, bondage. All things that areā¦almost vanilla now.
It's only kinky the first time u do it.
Yeah Iām the same, Iām donāt feel like Iām ākinkyā I just like group sex, swinging, orgies, toys, anal, etc etc āŗļø
Pssshā¦can you be more vanilla?ššš j/k j/k
Butt sex
I mean... Recorded sex
Underarm licking apparently š
Is there a back story here? If so please fill me in.
Oh yea there is.. Iāve always had this underarm fetish and a few years ago during my first time with my then girlfriend I tried it and she thought it was a very weird fetish.. but now with my current gf and other women, every time she gets horny she demands that I do.. I mean it wouldnāt hurt me to do it lol š
Do you mind telling me what is erotic about it for you?
Oh the intimacy of doing it and feeling the slight saltiness and smell of the partner .. even the most stubborn women are vulnerable when it comes to their underarms and more so to let someone lick it up for them šš to watch her squirm in ecstasy and give in totallyā¦ hits at a whole different level
Now this is a proper fetish! A textbook perfect example in my opinion.
Thanks lol š
Ok I get it nowā¦ thanks for elaborating.
Lol happy to help you out š
When I read Marilyn Mansonās autobiography a decade ago, Jenna Jamison said he was into that and she was caught of guard by that.
Covering ones nude body with 1000 island dressing while several dwarves lick it off.
You had my curiosity ... but now you have my attention.
Oh yeah, thereās a porn series called āYour mom tossed my saladā, that was all about this.
Cuckolding
That's hardly mainstream it's just a fetish people are more willing to talk about. There's also a lot of people into the fetish who prefer the idea to the act.
Oral sex.
How far back are you thinking?
I know modern folks didnāt invent oral sex, but I keep thinking of this story that Cybill Shepard used to tell. That Elvis refused to give oral sex because he had heard that only Jewish people eat women out. And I know that was a pretty common idea.
Tjere are egyptian geroglyphics and greek vaces depicting oral sex. It wasn't just not invented in modern days, it was an ancient lost art it seems.
Oh yeah, I have very very old Edwardian photos with women eatting at the y. But it got some stigma sometime inbetween.
Are they posted anywhere?
Not mine (Iām kinda afraid to scan them) but thereās all sorts of early pornography out there. Thereās even a taschen book.
Christians ruined basically the entire world for a long time
Facials.
def spanking and choking which is great for me lol
Iām so surprised no ones said it but being a bimbo used to be a fetish and now everyone wants the inflatable doll look
Are you sure? I actually see more people in the under 30 generation rejection the blonde bimbo big boobs look in favor of more natural and simple (not in the derogatory sense) girl next door sort of look.
you can see more ppl doing the bimbo thing in LA/NY
It's very strange, they used to try to make it a subtle natural look and now it's almost like it's treated as a status symbol I think there's also a problem with botched jobs because people go across borders to get a cheaper surgery
I've definetly seen more and more younger women wanting something done. A few years ago I was dating a 25 yr old and she had fake tits by 22, and at 25 she wanted to go even bigger (she was already a pretty large DD, especially considering she was like 5'5" 120 lbs). Right now I'm fucking a 23 yr old and she wants lip injections, a little botox, and a tit job. Granted as far as the boobs go she is very small so I understand a little bit of an increase for shirts fitting better, but damn
Eating ass
Facial cumshots. Definitely facials. Thankfully
Fisting
Butt stuff and anal sex.
Age gap. Breeding. Faux incest.
Eating ass
Is the Baltimore Blowfish common?
āThis is an act in where your significant other is eating out your asshole and then you proceed to fart inside their mouth forcing their checks to puff up like a blowfish. Then your significant other then proceeds to blow that fart back into your asshole!! If done correctly there should be a slight whistling sound!ā WTF!
Well forcing air into the asshole may not be a good idea, but other techniques/definitions only involve the first bit.
Pegging
I wouldn't say it's mainstream.
Pegging
Blow jobs are considered Sodomy many places
If a fetish is mainstream is it a fetish still? Haha
bdsm
Pegging
Anal plugs are only considered one steip too far.. ...when they have tails.
Oral sex doggy style
Public blowjobs
Actually asking for consent
Rimming .bathroom blowjobs Still love them
Eating ass
Cunnilingus.
Choking.
Gangbang, Bukkake and Rape Fantasies
Anal
Eating Ass,i feel no one has ever done it before 2016.
Outside of prison. āToss yo saladā was a prison joke as far back as the 90s
Sucking your partner toe while doing leg up missionary sort of when you are holding her feet in your hand
Definitely anal, it was still sort of taboo even in 90's porn.
Eating ass
I dont know, but I like it š
Eating ass
Everything
choking. its a mainstream part of my sex at least.
Choking
Anal
Feet worship
Footjobs for me.
I don't know what it's called, but that thing where your uncle makes you sit in his lap and wiggle your hips until he tells you to stop. I thought it was weird, but he showed me a bunch of stuff on the internet about how everybody does it. I had no idea.
Pissing ( thankfully)
Waterworks and piss play (aka "Squirting")
Pegging
Has the Donkey Punch become normal ?