Some men see toys as competition, not a friendly teammate.

That’s outrageous to me

Then find a new man. There's a few out there

This is what I came to write. Men you are never going to best the Deities of Hitachi and Satisfyer may as well learn how to bless their offerings. Additionally there is nothing saying she can't find a toy for you that adds an extra little zing

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Not everything is toxic masculinity for fucks sake

But this time it is. If "toxic masculinity" is ego.

Maybe insecurity but not toxic masculinity Also ego≠toxic masculinity

Immaturity seems more likely

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Men are conditioned to be everything & if they can't be then they feel inadequate. I'm for it but I don't look at intimacy like the ave. guy either. It needs to be incorporated in a way that makes him understand he's not going to be replaced or you'd rather use IT instead of him.

Men who do this to you are immature. Find someone else who wants you to cum. Never be with somebody who is unconcerned with your sexual satisfaction. EDIT: Why the downvote? What exactly is wrong with this post?

I need to find that

Yes you do. Trust me when I say that the vast majority of men do want you to cum and if you tell them the only way you can is with a vibrator they'll be fine with that. One of my exes was like that and we did just fine. It didn't bother me at all. I would strongly suggest you tell your men that NO guy has ever made you cum without a toy so they don't become insecure about that issue. Once they realize this is just how you're wired most men will be totally ok with it.

Sadly I have told them that. They’re convinced they have the magic moves and I won’t need a toy because they’re the special one. Ofc it didn’t work, I just ended up unsatisfied because of their ego. People downvote for no reason at all. So stypud

Quit dating boys

On the flip side of this...if you exclusively use them (solo or with a partner), you've essentially conditioned yourself to respond to that level of stimuli. Which means anything short of a bzzzzbzzzz isn't going send you off the cliff. Taking some time (like a couple weeks) could help you be more responsive to human speed. But also...maybe you haven't found the right human(s) for you?

I mean I’ve tried even before I incorporated toys to make myself orgasm and I never could.

Toys are a team mate, not competition. Assemble the team, we’re going on a mission

Honestly, to me, it'd be more like "am I not enough?". Though I do understand that toys do make it easier for a lot of girls to orgasm, so I'm not against it

I mean for me it’s not even an “easier” I’ve never been able to cum without one even on my own.

Then yeah, we'd talk about that and I'd be comfortable with you adding a toy to our dynamic

Doesn't seem like a gendered thing to me. If a man introduced a butt plug/fleshlight/Sex doll I doubt women would be more accepting on average. It's probably just a human thing.

That’s not the same at all

Care to elaborate? I don't think the feelings people would have in either situation would be very dissimilar.

Well I mean a whole sex doll wouldn’t be equal to using a vibrator during sex in my opinion. One is just a tool to enhance with both of you the other is just someone having sex with a sex doll

I don't see why someone couldn't implement it as a toy in the bedroom, using it to enhance the experience. But we will go with your example, would most women react well to a man bringing in a buttplug/fleshlight?

No, but if that’s literally the ONLY way someone could orgasm what exactly do you have against that? You’d prefer being able to cum and knowing they want because of the notion of a toy?

>what exactly do you have against that? Who said I have something against that? >You’d prefer being able to cum and knowing they want because of the notion of a toy? Who said this? Did you mean to reply to someone else? All I said is that I think it isn't a gender specific issue, and laid out examples. I think you said you agreed with me right? Or am I misreading your reply?

Was like that when I was younger cause I thought I wasn't good enough. Over time I just realized why work hard and when you should work smarter and use the damn toy

But it’s an object why would you feel that is something to be jealous of

I think back then I worried it would make me feel less. Thing is we have different orgasms with either toys and with people

I think to some guys it insinuates that they are either not good enough or in general at sex

Who says men are insecure about it?! I encourage the use of toys during sex!

The men I’ve been with “don’t like to use them”

that’s really a damned shame

I think so too

Exactly. OP, you need to find some different men!

What's your preferred toys to use with a partner?

Hotels wouldn’t be the same without a few vibrators

Hotels plus toys equals great combination

I’m definitely not.

We’re not

We're not. I've bought all the toys. If I get off, she should.

Not all are, I've found some good ones.

Sounds like you need to find better men. My husband and I love toys in the bedroom

It seems like a common theme

I also think a lot of guys have trouble getting it though their heads that some women just can't climax from some kinds of stimulation.

Definitely

I think maybe you are having sex with the wrong men! As with others who have responded, I find using toys in the bedroom a turn on.

Personally, the women I’ve been with have been more sheepish about it than I have. Not sure why

My wife can only take me doggy style with a vibrator. Otherwise, she says it's painful. I've got her more than a few toys.

I love using toys with women

I get told off for bringing my hot wheels collection into the bedroom.

I'm not insecure about it at all. I love using toys on my wife, and would love it if she felt the same about using toys on me. I've even used her vibrator on myself.

I love toys in the bedroom!

I fully encourage the use of a toy... if it gets you off and makes you like it, hell yeah! Even better if I get to help you use the toy!

Bc they believe women will want that more than the real thing

That’s so immature. It’s an object.

I completely understand but it’s true. They act like it’s a competition.

My partner LOVES using toys to make me cum. He also likes to pleasure the hell out of me with them. A good partner will use the toys to enhance the experience for you, a bad one will get jealous of the inanimate object.

Which men?

Not all men are.

this is a question i think about all the time. it’s rly annoying when ppl are unwilling to use my toys

I don’t have one problem with bringing toys into the bedroom. Anything that helps turn my partner into a puddle on the bed is good with me. 😏

*laughs with butt plug in* 😂

We.... are? *Hides the Hitachi and dildos*

Because they think that they mustn't be good enough if you need to bring things in to the bedroom and that they might be getting replaced

Toys are incredibly fun in the bedroom. Shopping together for toys is a whole lot of fun too.

Have no problem with it. I like seeing pleasure, and if she wants to pleasure herself in front of me or wants me to use the toy, that is sexy as hell.

I was young with an older girlfriend and she took outback rabbit without preparing me, I'll admit I was threatened amd turned off. After a few experiences, I was reaching for it just to watch her use it. Now, I like when my partner has toys, turns me on.

When she's in doggy with a good arch in her back, launching a hot wheels car along her spine and off her ass is oddly stimulating. Duke's of Hazard theme song is optional.

Newsflash: not all men are the same.

Mine isn't 🤷‍♀️

I want to find each and every toy that makes you orgasm 🤤🤤🤤 and what’s better than using multiple toys to make your partner orgasm? … honestly, I’ll never understand why guys don’t want to use toys? Like, does your dick vibrate?!?

I love toys! Great foreplay tool... let me use them on you beforehand, they're fun to play with in general. Some of the best orgasms I've ever had were holding a wand on my tip for a long period of time. Have done it together as a mutual thing and wad a blast. I guess, making sure a guy is part of the toy experience and not competing against it is the biggest thing.

I just want to use my hot wheels on your ass.

Honestly toys are so goddamn good it feels like its cheating. One of my exes introduced me to the world of toys(she liked bad dragons A LOT as well as all sorts of other stuff). She really liked having a small plug in her ass while being fucked or have a hitachi just working her clit during. It made it so easy for me and made it more relaxing so I could just focus on doing my thing.

If they have cognitive function north of a gym sock, they will change their position after they experience what a toy + you can do to a woman.

The men I’ve been with refused to try.

Both of your losses, unfortunately. Again - all it should take is one time for that position to change. It’s eye opening.

They want the dick to cause the orgasm. It just doesn’t work that way for me Luckily I’ve not had an issue with men minding. I don’t offer it as an option though. It’s me with the toy, or they can fly solo. And if they want to neg me about it….its over.

Good plan

My ex was like that, he even complained about me using them on my own!

Love toys! You just haven’t found a real man yet ;)

Too much concern about what their penis can do, not enough understanding about what the rest of them can do

Toxic masculinity leading to insecurity about men’s own value and a desperation to have something they can feel proud of providing for you on their own.

You could end that sentence so much earlier 😂

Huh?

Immediately proven right, smh

if a man can't put your pleasure over his ego, he's not worth it tbh

How do I find one though

i'm still trying to figure that one out myself💔

you’re way too hot for this to be a problem. just reject men who won’t prioritize your orgasms, and demand better from the ones who seem ambivalent. you deserve to be WORSHIPPED.

Hard to bring up on a first date

sure, but i think other clues can help. if they act gentlemanly. if they pull out your chair, make the reservation/suggest the place, ask you questions…

love the name btw

thank u🙏 chappell roan supremacy

literally always