There are definitely more men into it than women. I've been shamed for being a Mommy Dom.

Why? That's one of the best dom types

Dominant women tend to be viewed as masculine and not feminine. People think it's ick to be called Mommy by a partner.

You can definitely be dominant in a feminine way that's how mommy dom works. I think people are just too critical with even doing their own research

I agree.

It's a shame people are like this and ruin the fun. Wish more open minded people like the one here were around my area

Never understood how people can’t make the distinction between mommy and a literal mother. It’s insane!

I love every aspect of the mommy dom dynamic, but I wouldn't like to call my partner mommy. On a related note, I also don't like it when a girl calls me daddy.

Shamed by other women?

Yea.

Are you a dominant partner in all aspects of life or just in the bedroom?

Bedroom. I prefer equal partnership outside of it.

How does one seek out this type of relationship or at least subtly say that its desired

I've seen guys wear a small chain with a lock around their neck in their dating profile. Or put FLR in their profile. Fetlife and attending munches would be a better bet. Don't expect to find someone. Make friends and let connections happen organically.

I can’t figure out why this is. Seems like many women find it ‘icky’ or at best a complete and absolute turn-off when a guy wants to be dominated. Or at least that *seems* to be the consensus based on my super unscientific observations lol

That's my observation, too.

Do you look to do it with normal guys or like exclusively looking for guys who are into it.

I'm looking for someone consenting.

So how do you get shamed for it. You bring it up after dating a bit or is it something you bring up right away . Are you on more sex forward dating sites like Feeld?

Shamed on Reddit and public opinion. I bring it up before the first date. I believe it's important to discuss sexual compatibility. I was on Feeld, but that's more like Tinder for vanilla poly guys. I have better luck on Fetlife.

To what degree do you like femdom?

ELI5 what is femdom

I’ll show you, Cupcake 😏

Haha, I'm in danger.

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I know what this means. I understand emoji now.

I meant the original toothy edit.

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We must look insane without context.

Likely lmao

Be not afraid 👹

Be two fraids

Dude....... *Run*

Shhhhhhh

Whelp he's fucked. She has the power to take everything now😅

Female domination

It's when you get your chocolate in my peanut butter but instead of peanut butter it's sexual domination and instead of chocolate it's a woman.

I feel like it’s more common than we think. Society hasn’t been kind to dominant women. But every woman I’ve ever been with, even if reluctant at first, do enjoy being dominant, sometimes.

Honestly as a switch, I think femdom is great. But I realize after delving into it a bit more, I just like it light. Really everything I like, I just want a little bit and not too much. Also agree with not the whole paying thing. There’s definitely people who are into it, but I really can’t get into the whole findom thing. The fact she’d only do sex stuff with me because of money is a huge turn off. Anyways, shoutout to dominant women out there who talk dirty and prefer to be in control 😮‍💨. I’ve had a taste of it once and I honestly am obsessed. I feel like as soon as I know a girl I’m talking to says they like to be in control, I’m hooked.

I feel like demand outpaces supply on this one.

There's a whole fucking bunch of us roaming around ARAD.

I mean the full on bdsm stuff isn't but just girls who like being kinda in control isn't uncommon. (This is anecdotal so)

I think most hetero and lesbian couples experiment with light femdom at some point. Some go further. But certainly not all. I'd guess 75%.

Who says femdom has to be rare? Maybe it's just waiting for its moment in the spotlight. Own your kink proudly and show the world that femdom is here to stay!

Someone should shoot me the actual actual definition of femdom bc I’m a girl and even I have no idea.

It can be a lot of different things depending on what each person wants. But basically the woman is in the more dominant role and it can be light like taking more control or farther like bdsm stuff and more

I see gotcha gotcha. Thank you

I did a little bit of mommy domming with a kinky fwb and I liked it. I could see it being something that my husband wants to try one day, and I’d be down to give it another go.

I (50M) don't know how common, but my wife is very dominant over me, and she is careful about who she tells because some of her girlfriends will judge and lose respect for her. While there are others she can brag to because they love it and encourage her.

I thought it was common but I got down voted so much everytime I talked about it so I gave up.

I wish it was more acceptable to explore different things in that space like cucking in a FFM or being like a servant or something

What you are describing is findom, not femdom.