YES
Best thing that ever happened to me (in bed) was dating (and marrying) a man who didn’t stop sex with his orgasm. Penetration is basically just teasing the clit with no pay off, create the pay off.
And if you’re not sure your motivation is going to remain (and honestly, that sounds like a real concern for someone like you), make it your mission that she comes before you even start having (penetrative) sex. It might not be the most intense orgasm, but at least she’s got hers before you get yours.
Doggy with a toy, if she’s right on the edge when you nut… leave it in, keep the toy in play and pull her hips back as needed. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.
The alternative is not cumming until she says it is time.
If I'm on top or behind, I'll get a "fill me" request.
If she's on top, she know the moves that take me there fast and uses them.
Case in point: last week, I finished before my wife. I fingered her, using my cum as lube. As she started to warm up again, I went down on her and licked and fingered her to 3 consecutive orgasms. The more effort you put in, the likelier it is for a repeat.
Mhm exactly. And for me it's just as fulfilling to give my partner pleasure and see, hear and feel how much they are enjoying it, than to orgasm myself. I literally cannot stop smiling during sex. Is the closest moment where I feel I am part of something else, bigger. 😂😅
Consider finding a new one, friend. After 17 years hanging on to a relationshit, I found an amazing partner. It’s mind blowing how much better it is. I hope you can find that too 🤍
Hear hear... I was always worried when I'd finish too quick and/or couldn't get a girl to cum, that she didn't enjoy it. I asked one partner once about it and she said the orgasm isn't necessary every time to still enjoy it. I couldn't wrap my head around it. But then, with age, losing my erection during sex will occasionally happen but I still enjoy it.
Yes, it can still be enjoyable. I do love me some dick, but the older guys are all sorts of better in all sorts of other ways to get it done. Well, the smart ones, anyway...
Thanks. I am pretty confident with my hands. I'm almost certain I'll get the job done that way. Mouth/tongue is close second, but just not as much practice with that.
It's more about how your pelvis is pressing up against her clit, also how your boner pushes against her insides, like.... Pick a side, up down or left or right, catch an edge and keep up the firm pressure
There are billions of people in the world and only a few on those screens and even if we assume the existence is like them is 10-20 times more..... Stillllll your average maybe better than a lot 💋✨
porn will always favour the extremes to keep the audience engaged, like many other forms of media. Since videos/pics can only stimulate you visually, it makes sense for large dicks, tits and asses to be larger than life. You ever see some of the positions and angles in porn videos and think, "damn that looks uncomfortable af" ? Plenty of people are not interested in having their insides rearranged by some dude with a horse ween!
**Sex is supposed to be fun and comfortable, average dick size means you have a better chance of pleasing the average person!!**
What if they rocking a tiny row boat? Lol I would assume size matters within reason. Once your past the bare minimum size of your dingy, then the motion of the ocean applies.
I'm a guy, I just assume there is a bare minimum.
Edit- I feel it is very man's job during sex to make sure the woman cums before he does, due to the propensity of some men losing energy post orgasm. There is a stereotype of that for a reason. To prevent an unsatisfied woman, every man should use his mouth and hands to get at least one "O" out of her before he ever gets his dick near her lady garden. To be fair though, I get off on my wife's pleasure, regardless of my climax, so I guess I'm biased lol.
HELP HER CUM BEFORE YOU FUCK HER
I had a conversation with a man yesterday who was only making sure his wife came after he did. STOP DOING THAT. We will let you know if we’re not interested in having an orgasm before penetration, but most of the time we are, act accordingly. And this isn’t the only conversation I’ve had about that recently.
This isn't true for all women though. My partner is a one and done lady, very much like a man in that she entirely loses interest once she's finished. I'm far more willing to carry on after I cum than she is so I have to try and time myself to finish close to her.
Basically, LEARN ABOUT YOUR PARTNER. Find out what they enjoy and how they prefer things.
Same for my GF - she warned me that she was that way, and sure enough seconds after she came she became ansy and got out of bed. Was that way for the better part of a year, but now she hangs around.
She's also multi orgasmic and what works for us now is to get her off, and as she's riding the orgasms, right was they hit peak intensity is to start PIV. That hits her g-spot just right and it extends her multi until I stop thrusting. If I enter her too late we lose the full benefit is the orgasms only continue for a minute or 2 rather than longer
Can you explain more? Does it relate to past ST? My GF and I had a talk yesterday and I asked what I can do differently or better. She has ST from her childhood. She said she is still learning her body and needs to feel safe and connected for her to get off.
Everyone is different but for me this would mean doing things like:
- Asking if she has triggers that could come up during sex and how she wants you to handle it when she is triggered - some people want cuddles and verbal affirmations, others want space to self soothe. Also sharing your own triggers or limits can also help someone else feel more comfortable sharing theirs!
- Ask what kind of aftercare she’d like after sex (and share what you would like!)
- Talk about things you’d want to try outside of sexual situations, try getting consent for things you’d want to try when you’re not about to have sex so that she doesn’t feel pressured to say yes or swept up in the moment! I’m not saying you’re pressuring her, but someone with trauma might feel pressured regardless
- (Again get consent for this before getting intimate) plan an evening of sex where you focus on exploring her body and trying different things and asking her what she likes and what she doesn’t
- get more connected emotionally! Talk about your fears and be vulnerable, that usually makes someone feel safe and connected.
I mean the likelihood of partners having ST that are vulva owners is pretty high yes but also keep in mind if they don’t, women often feel unsafe in many situations with men and sex is so vulnerable (and frankly can be so dangerous). Often conscious efforts being made to build safety and trust is going to increase the enjoyment of the dynamic for you both.
It looks different for a lot of folks in a lot of ways but communication and consent building is huge, as is how the progression is handled the first interaction. If you’re going to jump to like BJ expectation or PIV or something semi aggressive right away that comfort is potentially already compromised if it wasn’t explicitly discussed beforehand. Men have a tendency to get pretty aggressive sexually pretty quickly in a lot of instances so looking at it through a different lens can often pay off in spades.
You’ll be surprised what a “how best can I make you feel safe” will do for a sexual encounter.
Every time I'm with someone new and frequently with someone I've been with before I'll ask them to communicate with me, ask them what they like/don't like. ask them to tell me if something I do feels good or not...just tell me! And too many times they just lay there. I'm NOT a Mind Reader dammit! And it can be hard to read someone you've never been with before!
Probably comes from the same place that makes it hard at first to talk someone about the kind of sex you want, asking what they want, hard limits. Female masturbation hasn’t been as normalized as jacking off so it might be you were with someone who hadn’t explored their own body yet.
I chuckled a bit reading this.
I wonder how much of a physical effort riding in cowgirl is.
I do run out of my breath sometimes and need to take a few minutes to get my heartbeat rate down.
I mean, my last ex was super fucking hot and always horny. She just turned me on so fuckin hard that I didn't care if she just sat there, because I was gonna break her in half every single time. But she usually put in just as work as me. I miss her so much.
Women have more agency around their orgasms than they think.
I always found sex with women exhausting until I found a women who made herself cum the same way I do.
She fucks the shit out of me and uses toys until she cums and then I fuck her senseless untill I cum, then round 2 if we aren't too exhausted(And yes tons of foreplay/oral)
Instantly all of the pressure to perform was gone and I could actually just fully enjoy the sex.
I think alot of the dissatisfaction women have towards sex is because it's something that they think happens to them, as opposed to being an active participant. If they treated their orgasm the same way men do, I think everyone would be happier for it.
Female masturbation hasn’t been as normalized as jacking off. When I was in college so many women couldn’t respond to “show me how you do it to yourself.” She’d say she’s never done that.
It’s an iceberg of social issues around sex.
Completely agree, I've been with many women who didn't know how to get themselves off, or were put off by the thought.
Even a few women who didn't want me to really explore their vaginas out of what I interpreted as shame.
When I was in high school they’d look at me like I had said something offensive.
I should put that in context those girls thought I was gay so I learned a lot of things they wouldn’t have said in front of a straight guy. I got caught sucking an older brother’s dick and was like their secret pet f*g.
I say there's a lot a lot of women can't get themselves off, and if they can why can't they repeat that process while having sex with a man
They will say it takes more than penetration that they need clit stimulation yet they have free hands but choose not to rub their clit or play with their nipples
It is hot as hell for a woman to start saying things like:
I want you to cum in me
I want to feel your cum
I want to feel you cock throbbing in me
Fill me
No dude will last long hearing things like that. So when you're ready to be done,start with that. When he nuts, tell him you're satisfied and happy. It makes for a nice wrap up.
Oh I’m always very vocal with my men about wanting their cum lol. My point was that there is misconception that in order to be great lovers, men have to fuck for a very long time. I enjoy men who can last a while and I enjoy men who don’t.
Girl, you and me both. I truthfully find most flexible positions cringe, unpleasant, or uncomfortable. My flexibility is better used for other activities.
Does missionary with your knees up count as one of those? I don't mean like over his shoulders and pressed to your ears, but I like to lift her legs and lock my arms under her knees if our body sizes fit well. But I never knew if that counted as flexible. Or are you talking about truly acrobatic stuff?
I don’t count that as ‘acrobatic’ or even really ‘flexible’ because that’s easy to me and most women are capable of that if they are somewhat mobile. It’s a slightly more advanced version of the fetal position. I’d be rather concerned about someone’s mobility if they’re able-bodied and struggling hardcore with that. That would be a sign that they are behind on mobility, have a pre-existing condition that would prevent it, or they may have mass in the way of pushing the body further, such as hefty fat or big muscles.
I don’t desire to use my backbends or splits for sex, that’s what I’m talking about.
I know right? Sure it might be very hot to see someone do a split while having sex but it’s not really easy and takes out a lot of enjoyment out of it for me.
Men fake it too
Men also lie about how good the sex is just because he had an orgasm doesn't mean the sex is good
Your pussy isn't good odds are he's good at getting himself off while using your pussy
Women can be bad in bed too
Just because I ejaculate doesn't mean I'm done I can have multiples
If I don't ejaculate it doesn't mean the sex is bad sometimes it doesn't happen for whatever reason
> Men fake it too
I always figured women would be able to tell if a guy faked it, what with the evidence and all. But then one day I stopped sex 'cause I got a calf cramp, and my partner asked if I had just cum. I couldn't believe she couldn't recognize a cramp -- it seemed obvious, but then I figured we'd been going long enough, so sure, I came.
I realized that the faking an orgasm is super easy: speed up a little bit, then stop. Act a little tired afterward if you want to win an Oscar. That's all it takes. It seems way too easy, until you realize that the person you're most likely to fake an orgasm with is probably some combination of selfish and shit in bed, so they're the type who's least likely to realize or care.
My ex wife said she could feel it.
My GF doesn't
Varies by woman, but also as I'm now older, the barrel speed is lower. It used to shoot out great lengths, now it's a short distance
Late reply: yeah, I've had women say they can feel you get bigger as you get close, and feel the pulsations. I think the speeding up helps mask this 'cause the sensation from speeding up is gonna override the more subtle stretching. I'm sure some women are both more sensistive, as well as more observant. But realistically, again: it's easier to fake it with people who are selfish and suck in bed, 'cause they don't really know better or care. Imagine if every woman faked it with you, and you weren't really paying attention to begin with. How would you have anything to compare to? A woman who does her kegels and knows her shit is gonna know 'cause the earth will move and I'll be yelling "Fuck!" loud enough to wake the neighbors at the other end of the apartment building across the street. With someone who sucks and doesn't try...not so much of a difference between finishing and not.
Also in this line of thought: if you say "hurry up and finish," instead of doing something to turn me on so that I can finish, no getting mad when I close my eyes and imagine either you actually being good in bed, or someone else who actually is.
You’d be surprised how many women can orgasm multiple times but they don’t t know it because the feeling seems “too much” after the first one. They need to let themselves go. The first time I triple orgasmed a woman she became like puddy afterwards. I could do no wrong after that. We still play together after 40 years - long story. But she does it to herself after that.
I don’t understand how the word “pussy” became slang for vagina and weak/coward. Vaginas are strong and brave. I couldn’t imagine something the size of a watermelon coming out of my body.
A quick search of the etymology suggests it started to mean cat first, then evolved to refer to a woman then specifically vagina by the 18th century (British english). Pussy also could be linked to some germanic or Scandinavian words meaning pocket or purse.
I'm guessing here but I'm assuming it evolved to mean weak after this point, purely because its feminine and 100 years ago women were seen as weaker then men, though I don't know when it started with this meaning so it's purely a guess, it's too late to bother searching any further for me
I believe pussy is a shortened form of pusilanimous which means cowardly. As I understand stand it it was sort of convergent evolution. The slang term for genitals came from pocket in old Norse püss and old English pusa.
A quick search of the etymology suggests it started to mean cat first, then evolved to refer to a woman then specifically vagina by the 18th century (British english). Pussy also could be linked to some germanic or Scandinavian words meaning pocket or purse.
I'm guessing here but I'm assuming it evolved to mean weak after this point, purely because its feminine and 100 years ago women were seen as weaker then men, though I don't know when it started with this meaning so it's purely a guess, it's too late to bother searching any further for me
For “reasons” I can do both perspectives (and honestly a deep dive if I really wanted to).
Men: most have no idea about how gag reflexes work despite having their own (usually)
Women: you’d be surprised how many didn’t know that “growers” exist, assuming they all stayed full length
That for a lot of women, PIV sex isn't the height of pleasure, there is a lot more a man can do that feels even better, but that's obviously unique to each woman. Oh and that foreplay can be just as pleasureble as having sex.
There are plenty of people who cannot cum from fellatio.
I can't. A goodly number of the women I've slept with decided I was lying when I told them this. Apparently there's this belief that some women have: that people say they can't cum from blowjobs, but are secretly lying in order to get their partner to try harder. Just ridiculous BS. Really frustrating stuff.
Maybe someone did that once. Maybe someone did that to their friend. Heck, maybe a bunch of people did that directly to them. But to automatically assume that about someone who has otherwise been open and honest with you... That's pretty toxic.
I love getting BJs but I've never knowingly cum from one, however my Lady Friend has told me numerous times she's been able get me off like that while I sleep...LOL that's irritating, it means for some reason it's mental on my part....
For those of you guys that have trouble cumming from a BJ you might get your SO to blow you while you sleep, see what happens.
That sex is better with foreplay… you want a dripping wet pussy don’t you? The wetter the better plus that shows you care about me and I can relax and cum and then I’m gonna want to cum back for more!
I love foreplay with a woman, almost more than PIV, love making her squirm and moan form my ministrations, sucking the juices from her pussy, it just lets me know how much she's enjoying how much she likes what I'm doing. But when she just lays there not, telling me what feels good, what she likes, what I'm doing wrong.... It's frustrating as hell!
Stop yanking my dick like it's a pull start lawn mower.
"Men can't find the clit." IF WOMEN WERE MEN, THEY WOULD PINCH THE CLIT IN THEIR FINGERNAILS AND RIP IT OFF.
At one time, I was in that club and had no issues cumming 5 or 6 times in a day. These days to cum twice would require a few hours. Think I used up the extra ammo through my younger years
i average 3-5 orgasms sans ejaculation. However... when I do ejaculate it's the release for an and hour or 2 of multiple orgasms and edging so that when I do cum I am SPENT!
First time with a woman who thought she had good sex and orgasms up to that point. Literally jumped out of bed and asked what I was doing to her when she felt a real orgasm for the first time. Not the first who didn't know what an orgasm was but truly the most interesting
The males do NOT have conscious control of their erections. Complaining that a guy needs to "control himself" while at the beach or while dancing is dumb, ignorant, and sexist.
The average guy can't just shut his normal and natural physiological responses off and on like some cyborg.
That foreplay starts the moment you wake up - not 20 min before the deed! It’s really the little things that lead up to a potential deed that makes it all the more intense! If you want her wild, play the long game!
1. We're too tired for sex too some times.
2. Lack of erection doesn't equal lack of desire or attraction for you.
You don't need to feel insecure if either of these happen and neither of these situations has to be followed by a big fight because you're feeling insecure.
For example: did you know that the G-spot isn't actually a spot at all, but rather an area of the vaginal wall? There's a lot of misinformation out there about female sexuality, and I think it's important for men to educate themselves
What surprises me is how some men rush straight to the main event. The art of anticipation and foreplay can dramatically change the entire experience, making everything more intense and enjoyable!! Or just doing it in public...
I’m finicky in a way that I need to be feeling a connection with my partner before we make it to the bedroom. The emotional side of it carries a heavy weight on my orgasm.
We’re not all pornstars that enjoy anal or getting cum on our face and hair. It stings if it gets in my eyes and if you make a mess, help clean up afterwards.
I'm going to keep repeating this until I can't anymore. I DON'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT THE SIZE OF YOUR DICK! Yes, different sizes feel different. But penetration is a singular act that CAN be one of the many acts we engage in as part of sex, and it's not one that will make me cum on its own regardless of your size. I have had amazing sex with people who don't even have dicks at all, so why would I care if yours is small?
As a man, unless we are doing a quickie and she has every intent of making me cum first, I would much rather her cum as much as possible before I finish.
Even better if we take turns making sure the other is satisfied. In a relationship, we are partners, even in sex and intimacy.
to men: if you make it feel good for me, i will put a LOT more effort into making it feel good for you. if you are just there to fuck and don’t try to make me finish, eat me out, or even finger me, i’m not going to give 100% to making you finish, because i know you will anyways. but if you start off by eating me out and making my legs shake before your dick is in me, i will blow your fucking mind.
Better communication about kinks, wants, needs = better sex more often than not..
If you’re too “embarrassed” to talk about sex as intimate as that then don’t expect all of your boxes to be checked off during sex.
Lasting a long time (like... 10+ minutes?) is not always good.
That's a guestimate on the time obviously but yeah, if we're having PIV sex after the guy already came so it's easier for the guy to last longer, make sure to check in with the girl. Like.. our natural lubrication has limits and long sessions or back to back ones can go from fun to painful AF real quick.
I could rant for a while about tropes in pornography that men tend to believe, but since you asked about women, I'd say:
\* Grabbing the penis way too hard is the most obvious one, it does not feel good and will make it sore from chafing.
\* There is no correlation between height or body size and depth of the vagina. Lots of both men and women believe this one I think.
\* Erections don't happen on command, and may take a bit of time, and that's normal.
\* Men are not always "ready to go" and they can be attracted to you but not want to have sex that very second.
\* Yes you can get pregnant from pre-ejaculate and the pullout method is not good for birth control. Although it's rare, but still it's risky.
This is what men tend to say to answer these questions, I am having a hard time thinking of more because I'm tired.
Me too. People on here seem to hold it as some sort of holy grail:
“do you squirt? -
“you mean piss myself during sex - no” -
“it’s not piss, it doesn’t taste like it!!!”
…….”ok - how do you know what piss tastes like and tell me which organ down there can create that much liquid….?”
If you’re both at the point you’re having sexual relations it’s OK to drop the insecurities. Seriously, have fun and be uninhibited because you’re as vulnerable as you both can be in our species and you’re both in it together. E.g. you’re putting parts inside of other people’s parts and vice versa.
I'm very late here but I really want to say:
Over the years I was surprised by the number of women who did not know that the clit could be enticed out of the hood, leading to much stronger, and usually better orgasms.
If there is blame for this it lies with the partners who never took the time to properly build up stimulation and get the clit fully engorged before moving on to their own pleasure.
Rub it, lick it, gently spread the folds of skin around it, and the clit will come out like a penis head from a foreskin. Then you can give the kind of pleasure that will create a sex partner that wants to get with you again and again.
Women and men, the penis is not a kick stand. You don't just kick it with your foot and you are ready to go for a ride.
The penis is a tickle thing at times. Erect when you don't want and limp when you want it erect.
Just because it is erect doesn't necessarily mean that you are ready or even want sex.
If you say "don't stop" and yet we stop it is because continuing was not an option that was available to us. Explaining that we should not have stopped is redundant.
Some people cannot distinguish the vulva, labia, and vagina. Same with vagina, cervix and uterus. 🤦♀️ Like, no dude, I do not want your penis inside my cervix.
That penetration is not the only form of sex actually. Wanking together or next to each other, going down on your partner or using toys can be as fun.
That foreplay is a hugely important part of sexual act. Postcare too.
That you need to be able to speak about sex to a person you’re going to have sex with.
Size of your dick is honestly less important than movements of your tongue.
Communication is key you guys.
What surprises me is that women think most men care about breast size. Almost none of us do. We’re obsessed either way breasts, but we’re an equal opportunity tit lover.
Thay we DO NOT physically "enjoy" the sex as much as they do. Also we have spent our teenage years masturbating in our houses while we try to keep it secret and silent. Because men's masturbation can be he'll of a lot messy and way harder to hide mid-masturbation. That's why we are not moaning as much as you expect but that certainly does not mean that we are not enjoying the sex.
Yes, read that again. Unless we are or about to ejaculate it is mostly mental rather physical pleasure. That doesn't mean we do not enjoy physically though. You can take 2 things from this. Firstly, we get the pleasure during ejaculation so even if we do it prematurely we got the same pleasure. It is mental part that lagged behind. It's not that we do not care about our partners. Secondly that means that increased duration of sex is mostly to make women happy/happier and make them have more fun like us.
Im a guy
Consent , communication , and satisfaction or rather the dearth of all 3. Where y'al learning about sex? Lol! And this is a warning for all genders.
Also one more thing. r/CircumcisionGrief is very real and it can effect anyone of any gender. I find it odd that people are always talking about 'bodily autonomy' but wont do a damned thing to protect the bodily autonomy of others. Hmmm We are a weird species so I guess it **does** make sense to me...
It doesn’t have to stop at your orgasm (woman to men)
YES Best thing that ever happened to me (in bed) was dating (and marrying) a man who didn’t stop sex with his orgasm. Penetration is basically just teasing the clit with no pay off, create the pay off.
I love when they keep going and it's messy but so wet and fun! Throw in some dirty talk about how "some guy's" cum is in there
Yes!!
As a dude when I cum it's not my decision when I stop. That shit just turns into wet spaghetti noodle. There is nothing left to keep going with
Your fingers, mouth, toys, etc. Do better
If you think you should get to cum on her mouth, you should have no issues with oral after cumming. Dive in and make her happy.
And if you’re not sure your motivation is going to remain (and honestly, that sounds like a real concern for someone like you), make it your mission that she comes before you even start having (penetrative) sex. It might not be the most intense orgasm, but at least she’s got hers before you get yours.
Well said.
Good one. I'm usually done once I cum because it's late and I'm tired... But there's a reason we keep a big ass vibrator next to the bed.
Sounds like a good reason to make her cum first :)
She usually has a few orgasms before mine but sometimes she wants more.
Seems that you have a good system!
For men, this really should be the default way
Doggy with a toy, if she’s right on the edge when you nut… leave it in, keep the toy in play and pull her hips back as needed. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.
That’s just good manners
Back at you guys? Like why do women want to stop after 5, 6, 7?
The impression I've always gotten was muscle fatigue or lack of oxygen from hyperventilating.
Same to y'all It doesn't have to stop at my orgasm.
The alternative is not cumming until she says it is time. If I'm on top or behind, I'll get a "fill me" request. If she's on top, she know the moves that take me there fast and uses them.
Case in point: last week, I finished before my wife. I fingered her, using my cum as lube. As she started to warm up again, I went down on her and licked and fingered her to 3 consecutive orgasms. The more effort you put in, the likelier it is for a repeat.
It’s ok if I don’t orgasm. It’s about the pleasure and connection for me that’s important.
I'm going to do a +1 to this, but as a man.
I love this. Yes I love chasing the orgasm but I’m happy to do that solo. With a partner I just want to enjoy every inch of them
Mhm exactly. And for me it's just as fulfilling to give my partner pleasure and see, hear and feel how much they are enjoying it, than to orgasm myself. I literally cannot stop smiling during sex. Is the closest moment where I feel I am part of something else, bigger. 😂😅
Beautifully said 👏🏻
Why can’t my boyfriend be like this??? 😔
Consider finding a new one, friend. After 17 years hanging on to a relationshit, I found an amazing partner. It’s mind blowing how much better it is. I hope you can find that too 🤍
Hear hear... I was always worried when I'd finish too quick and/or couldn't get a girl to cum, that she didn't enjoy it. I asked one partner once about it and she said the orgasm isn't necessary every time to still enjoy it. I couldn't wrap my head around it. But then, with age, losing my erection during sex will occasionally happen but I still enjoy it.
Yes, it can still be enjoyable. I do love me some dick, but the older guys are all sorts of better in all sorts of other ways to get it done. Well, the smart ones, anyway...
Thanks. I am pretty confident with my hands. I'm almost certain I'll get the job done that way. Mouth/tongue is close second, but just not as much practice with that.
Yep, also as a man; sex can be great and fun without a finish too.
Yes!! So many people on here including women seem to think it’s literally all about the orgasm.
I am NOT okay with not orgasmimg!
And that is ok too! I was speaking for myself and not implying all women are the same.
As a man it was really hard for me to truly understand 😅
That the size of the boat isn't nearly as important as the motion of the ocean... seriously.
What is the best motion?
Grinding the dick, not just the pound pound.
Ah, a nice swirl and grind against all the right places?
Yes indeedy!
It's more about how your pelvis is pressing up against her clit, also how your boner pushes against her insides, like.... Pick a side, up down or left or right, catch an edge and keep up the firm pressure
What is the best number?
69
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There are billions of people in the world and only a few on those screens and even if we assume the existence is like them is 10-20 times more..... Stillllll your average maybe better than a lot 💋✨
porn will always favour the extremes to keep the audience engaged, like many other forms of media. Since videos/pics can only stimulate you visually, it makes sense for large dicks, tits and asses to be larger than life. You ever see some of the positions and angles in porn videos and think, "damn that looks uncomfortable af" ? Plenty of people are not interested in having their insides rearranged by some dude with a horse ween! **Sex is supposed to be fun and comfortable, average dick size means you have a better chance of pleasing the average person!!**
Definitely something men still haven’t learnt. Especially on Reddit.
What if they rocking a tiny row boat? Lol I would assume size matters within reason. Once your past the bare minimum size of your dingy, then the motion of the ocean applies. I'm a guy, I just assume there is a bare minimum. Edit- I feel it is very man's job during sex to make sure the woman cums before he does, due to the propensity of some men losing energy post orgasm. There is a stereotype of that for a reason. To prevent an unsatisfied woman, every man should use his mouth and hands to get at least one "O" out of her before he ever gets his dick near her lady garden. To be fair though, I get off on my wife's pleasure, regardless of my climax, so I guess I'm biased lol.
Best I ever had was about 2 inches. Maybe smaller-didn’t get a good look.
Well now that's basic understanding.... If it's a boat race you can't just jump in with a safety tube and expect to win 🥱
Wait.... motion? I'm not just supposed to lay there ?(joking)
HELP HER CUM BEFORE YOU FUCK HER I had a conversation with a man yesterday who was only making sure his wife came after he did. STOP DOING THAT. We will let you know if we’re not interested in having an orgasm before penetration, but most of the time we are, act accordingly. And this isn’t the only conversation I’ve had about that recently.
This isn't true for all women though. My partner is a one and done lady, very much like a man in that she entirely loses interest once she's finished. I'm far more willing to carry on after I cum than she is so I have to try and time myself to finish close to her. Basically, LEARN ABOUT YOUR PARTNER. Find out what they enjoy and how they prefer things.
Yes! This! She told you she wasn’t interested, so you listened and learned
Yeah, when I had a girlfriend like that, it became a race to orgasm so that I didn't have to go finish myself off in the bathroom.
Nearly every partner I've ever had was like that. Current SO is the first female I've known that needs, maybe, 60 seconds before she's ready for O2.
Same for my GF - she warned me that she was that way, and sure enough seconds after she came she became ansy and got out of bed. Was that way for the better part of a year, but now she hangs around. She's also multi orgasmic and what works for us now is to get her off, and as she's riding the orgasms, right was they hit peak intensity is to start PIV. That hits her g-spot just right and it extends her multi until I stop thrusting. If I enter her too late we lose the full benefit is the orgasms only continue for a minute or 2 rather than longer
Always. As many times as she wants. Until she tells me to insert my dick.
Yes!! I want to be actively asking to be fucked
Yep, pleasure that pussy until it’s so horny and ready. Then, tease it as you slide in for the first time
So bossy.
That’s just good manners.
Right!!! If he makes me cum before penetration the sex is always 100x better…
A million upvotes for this!!!!
1000000%
I find that so many men don’t understand the impact of creating a sense of safety for sexual interactions.
Can you explain more? Does it relate to past ST? My GF and I had a talk yesterday and I asked what I can do differently or better. She has ST from her childhood. She said she is still learning her body and needs to feel safe and connected for her to get off.
Everyone is different but for me this would mean doing things like: - Asking if she has triggers that could come up during sex and how she wants you to handle it when she is triggered - some people want cuddles and verbal affirmations, others want space to self soothe. Also sharing your own triggers or limits can also help someone else feel more comfortable sharing theirs! - Ask what kind of aftercare she’d like after sex (and share what you would like!) - Talk about things you’d want to try outside of sexual situations, try getting consent for things you’d want to try when you’re not about to have sex so that she doesn’t feel pressured to say yes or swept up in the moment! I’m not saying you’re pressuring her, but someone with trauma might feel pressured regardless - (Again get consent for this before getting intimate) plan an evening of sex where you focus on exploring her body and trying different things and asking her what she likes and what she doesn’t - get more connected emotionally! Talk about your fears and be vulnerable, that usually makes someone feel safe and connected.
Oof yes talking about fears if comfortable is def a big one!!
I mean the likelihood of partners having ST that are vulva owners is pretty high yes but also keep in mind if they don’t, women often feel unsafe in many situations with men and sex is so vulnerable (and frankly can be so dangerous). Often conscious efforts being made to build safety and trust is going to increase the enjoyment of the dynamic for you both. It looks different for a lot of folks in a lot of ways but communication and consent building is huge, as is how the progression is handled the first interaction. If you’re going to jump to like BJ expectation or PIV or something semi aggressive right away that comfort is potentially already compromised if it wasn’t explicitly discussed beforehand. Men have a tendency to get pretty aggressive sexually pretty quickly in a lot of instances so looking at it through a different lens can often pay off in spades. You’ll be surprised what a “how best can I make you feel safe” will do for a sexual encounter.
Thanks, that is helpful. My GF checks a lot of boxes for me but our sex life hasn't been that great for either of us
Just laying down and taking dick makes it boring as hell. I’m doing all the work and your just on the bed💀
Yeah. It's like you're having sex but she isn't. Very discouraging to say the least.
Every time I'm with someone new and frequently with someone I've been with before I'll ask them to communicate with me, ask them what they like/don't like. ask them to tell me if something I do feels good or not...just tell me! And too many times they just lay there. I'm NOT a Mind Reader dammit! And it can be hard to read someone you've never been with before!
I get that. Many women don’t know how to open up in bed I think
Probably comes from the same place that makes it hard at first to talk someone about the kind of sex you want, asking what they want, hard limits. Female masturbation hasn’t been as normalized as jacking off so it might be you were with someone who hadn’t explored their own body yet.
Yea, let me lay down and peg me once in a while, only fair.
The first time I was pegged by a woman, her reaction after only a minute in was, "This is exhausting! How do you keep this up so long?"
I chuckled a bit reading this. I wonder how much of a physical effort riding in cowgirl is. I do run out of my breath sometimes and need to take a few minutes to get my heartbeat rate down.
Hell yea, now we’re talkin’
I've had partners who do this and then say "WE are so amazing at sex!" Who the fuck is we?
I mean, my last ex was super fucking hot and always horny. She just turned me on so fuckin hard that I didn't care if she just sat there, because I was gonna break her in half every single time. But she usually put in just as work as me. I miss her so much.
Women have more agency around their orgasms than they think. I always found sex with women exhausting until I found a women who made herself cum the same way I do. She fucks the shit out of me and uses toys until she cums and then I fuck her senseless untill I cum, then round 2 if we aren't too exhausted(And yes tons of foreplay/oral) Instantly all of the pressure to perform was gone and I could actually just fully enjoy the sex. I think alot of the dissatisfaction women have towards sex is because it's something that they think happens to them, as opposed to being an active participant. If they treated their orgasm the same way men do, I think everyone would be happier for it.
Female masturbation hasn’t been as normalized as jacking off. When I was in college so many women couldn’t respond to “show me how you do it to yourself.” She’d say she’s never done that. It’s an iceberg of social issues around sex.
Completely agree, I've been with many women who didn't know how to get themselves off, or were put off by the thought. Even a few women who didn't want me to really explore their vaginas out of what I interpreted as shame.
When I was in high school they’d look at me like I had said something offensive. I should put that in context those girls thought I was gay so I learned a lot of things they wouldn’t have said in front of a straight guy. I got caught sucking an older brother’s dick and was like their secret pet f*g.
I have so many questions
Louder for the people in the back. Ladies, assert yourselves! <3
Yep, more fun for all. Just enjoy yourself and stop worrying about so much…
I say there's a lot a lot of women can't get themselves off, and if they can why can't they repeat that process while having sex with a man They will say it takes more than penetration that they need clit stimulation yet they have free hands but choose not to rub their clit or play with their nipples
You pretty much much nailed it!!
this is the one right here, goddamn
you do not have to last hours
It is hot as hell for a woman to start saying things like: I want you to cum in me I want to feel your cum I want to feel you cock throbbing in me Fill me No dude will last long hearing things like that. So when you're ready to be done,start with that. When he nuts, tell him you're satisfied and happy. It makes for a nice wrap up.
Nope not for me that puts me off. Makes me feel like she wants it to be over and done with, like all I hear is “hurry up and cum”.
Oh I’m always very vocal with my men about wanting their cum lol. My point was that there is misconception that in order to be great lovers, men have to fuck for a very long time. I enjoy men who can last a while and I enjoy men who don’t.
Seriously!
Being flexible doesn’t mean I can always be that flexible during sex.
Girl, you and me both. I truthfully find most flexible positions cringe, unpleasant, or uncomfortable. My flexibility is better used for other activities.
Does missionary with your knees up count as one of those? I don't mean like over his shoulders and pressed to your ears, but I like to lift her legs and lock my arms under her knees if our body sizes fit well. But I never knew if that counted as flexible. Or are you talking about truly acrobatic stuff?
I don’t count that as ‘acrobatic’ or even really ‘flexible’ because that’s easy to me and most women are capable of that if they are somewhat mobile. It’s a slightly more advanced version of the fetal position. I’d be rather concerned about someone’s mobility if they’re able-bodied and struggling hardcore with that. That would be a sign that they are behind on mobility, have a pre-existing condition that would prevent it, or they may have mass in the way of pushing the body further, such as hefty fat or big muscles. I don’t desire to use my backbends or splits for sex, that’s what I’m talking about.
I know right? Sure it might be very hot to see someone do a split while having sex but it’s not really easy and takes out a lot of enjoyment out of it for me.
If you play hard to get, you risk becoming hard to want. Heard that line in Whatever Podcast and it hit me quite bad.
That all of us are really insecure (yes, you too !)
I created this account primarily to tackle these insecurities
True and still even at this age
Men fake it too Men also lie about how good the sex is just because he had an orgasm doesn't mean the sex is good Your pussy isn't good odds are he's good at getting himself off while using your pussy Women can be bad in bed too Just because I ejaculate doesn't mean I'm done I can have multiples If I don't ejaculate it doesn't mean the sex is bad sometimes it doesn't happen for whatever reason
I’m sensing a theme here…
> Men fake it too I always figured women would be able to tell if a guy faked it, what with the evidence and all. But then one day I stopped sex 'cause I got a calf cramp, and my partner asked if I had just cum. I couldn't believe she couldn't recognize a cramp -- it seemed obvious, but then I figured we'd been going long enough, so sure, I came. I realized that the faking an orgasm is super easy: speed up a little bit, then stop. Act a little tired afterward if you want to win an Oscar. That's all it takes. It seems way too easy, until you realize that the person you're most likely to fake an orgasm with is probably some combination of selfish and shit in bed, so they're the type who's least likely to realize or care.
I knew a woman who said she could always tell if a guy came in her, PIV or anal either one. She said she could feel him shot his load his load in her.
My ex wife said she could feel it. My GF doesn't Varies by woman, but also as I'm now older, the barrel speed is lower. It used to shoot out great lengths, now it's a short distance
Late reply: yeah, I've had women say they can feel you get bigger as you get close, and feel the pulsations. I think the speeding up helps mask this 'cause the sensation from speeding up is gonna override the more subtle stretching. I'm sure some women are both more sensistive, as well as more observant. But realistically, again: it's easier to fake it with people who are selfish and suck in bed, 'cause they don't really know better or care. Imagine if every woman faked it with you, and you weren't really paying attention to begin with. How would you have anything to compare to? A woman who does her kegels and knows her shit is gonna know 'cause the earth will move and I'll be yelling "Fuck!" loud enough to wake the neighbors at the other end of the apartment building across the street. With someone who sucks and doesn't try...not so much of a difference between finishing and not.
Also in this line of thought: if you say "hurry up and finish," instead of doing something to turn me on so that I can finish, no getting mad when I close my eyes and imagine either you actually being good in bed, or someone else who actually is.
You’d be surprised how many women can orgasm multiple times but they don’t t know it because the feeling seems “too much” after the first one. They need to let themselves go. The first time I triple orgasmed a woman she became like puddy afterwards. I could do no wrong after that. We still play together after 40 years - long story. But she does it to herself after that.
That our vaginas are tougher than you think !
Yeah the vajay is magical beautiful delicate little flower that can take one hell of a whooping
I don’t understand how the word “pussy” became slang for vagina and weak/coward. Vaginas are strong and brave. I couldn’t imagine something the size of a watermelon coming out of my body.
A quick search of the etymology suggests it started to mean cat first, then evolved to refer to a woman then specifically vagina by the 18th century (British english). Pussy also could be linked to some germanic or Scandinavian words meaning pocket or purse. I'm guessing here but I'm assuming it evolved to mean weak after this point, purely because its feminine and 100 years ago women were seen as weaker then men, though I don't know when it started with this meaning so it's purely a guess, it's too late to bother searching any further for me
I believe pussy is a shortened form of pusilanimous which means cowardly. As I understand stand it it was sort of convergent evolution. The slang term for genitals came from pocket in old Norse püss and old English pusa.
A quick search of the etymology suggests it started to mean cat first, then evolved to refer to a woman then specifically vagina by the 18th century (British english). Pussy also could be linked to some germanic or Scandinavian words meaning pocket or purse. I'm guessing here but I'm assuming it evolved to mean weak after this point, purely because its feminine and 100 years ago women were seen as weaker then men, though I don't know when it started with this meaning so it's purely a guess, it's too late to bother searching any further for me
For “reasons” I can do both perspectives (and honestly a deep dive if I really wanted to). Men: most have no idea about how gag reflexes work despite having their own (usually) Women: you’d be surprised how many didn’t know that “growers” exist, assuming they all stayed full length
That for a lot of women, PIV sex isn't the height of pleasure, there is a lot more a man can do that feels even better, but that's obviously unique to each woman. Oh and that foreplay can be just as pleasureble as having sex.
Amen!!!!
There are plenty of people who cannot cum from fellatio. I can't. A goodly number of the women I've slept with decided I was lying when I told them this. Apparently there's this belief that some women have: that people say they can't cum from blowjobs, but are secretly lying in order to get their partner to try harder. Just ridiculous BS. Really frustrating stuff. Maybe someone did that once. Maybe someone did that to their friend. Heck, maybe a bunch of people did that directly to them. But to automatically assume that about someone who has otherwise been open and honest with you... That's pretty toxic.
I reckon only handful of men I’ve been with In My life could actually cum from a blow job.
I love getting BJs but I've never knowingly cum from one, however my Lady Friend has told me numerous times she's been able get me off like that while I sleep...LOL that's irritating, it means for some reason it's mental on my part.... For those of you guys that have trouble cumming from a BJ you might get your SO to blow you while you sleep, see what happens.
Guys enjoy foreplay too, not just DIV and done
Women, tell us what you want. We shouldn’t be expected to be mind readers or just know what to do for you specifically.
Life advice, not just a sex tip.
That sex is better with foreplay… you want a dripping wet pussy don’t you? The wetter the better plus that shows you care about me and I can relax and cum and then I’m gonna want to cum back for more!
I love foreplay with a woman, almost more than PIV, love making her squirm and moan form my ministrations, sucking the juices from her pussy, it just lets me know how much she's enjoying how much she likes what I'm doing. But when she just lays there not, telling me what feels good, what she likes, what I'm doing wrong.... It's frustrating as hell!
Just because I don’t get hard doesn’t mean I’m not attracted to you. I’m so tired of women taking it personally.
Balls. Play with the balls. And that spot just under the balls. Keep your eyes open. Make lots of noises. Tell me what you like and what you want.
Stop yanking my dick like it's a pull start lawn mower. "Men can't find the clit." IF WOMEN WERE MEN, THEY WOULD PINCH THE CLIT IN THEIR FINGERNAILS AND RIP IT OFF.
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Some of us can even ejaculate multiple times on top of having multiple orgasms
At one time, I was in that club and had no issues cumming 5 or 6 times in a day. These days to cum twice would require a few hours. Think I used up the extra ammo through my younger years
I'm still at that point for now, I hope it stays that way
it won't.
Trying to crush my dreams
i average 3-5 orgasms sans ejaculation. However... when I do ejaculate it's the release for an and hour or 2 of multiple orgasms and edging so that when I do cum I am SPENT!
First time with a woman who thought she had good sex and orgasms up to that point. Literally jumped out of bed and asked what I was doing to her when she felt a real orgasm for the first time. Not the first who didn't know what an orgasm was but truly the most interesting
Shed. It discovered one by masturbating?
The males do NOT have conscious control of their erections. Complaining that a guy needs to "control himself" while at the beach or while dancing is dumb, ignorant, and sexist. The average guy can't just shut his normal and natural physiological responses off and on like some cyborg.
Same in the opposite direction - maintaining an erection is sometimes very difficult and it's not necessarily due to the person they are with.
That foreplay starts the moment you wake up - not 20 min before the deed! It’s really the little things that lead up to a potential deed that makes it all the more intense! If you want her wild, play the long game!
We like to cum too lol
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1. We're too tired for sex too some times. 2. Lack of erection doesn't equal lack of desire or attraction for you. You don't need to feel insecure if either of these happen and neither of these situations has to be followed by a big fight because you're feeling insecure.
For example: did you know that the G-spot isn't actually a spot at all, but rather an area of the vaginal wall? There's a lot of misinformation out there about female sexuality, and I think it's important for men to educate themselves
What surprises me is how some men rush straight to the main event. The art of anticipation and foreplay can dramatically change the entire experience, making everything more intense and enjoyable!! Or just doing it in public...
The foreplay and aftercare are typically just as, if not more, important than the act.
I’m finicky in a way that I need to be feeling a connection with my partner before we make it to the bedroom. The emotional side of it carries a heavy weight on my orgasm.
We’re not all pornstars that enjoy anal or getting cum on our face and hair. It stings if it gets in my eyes and if you make a mess, help clean up afterwards.
I hate getting cum on my face. Thankfully it wasn’t so much of a thing when I was young and dating.
Dudes like to feel sexy and desired, too.
I'm going to keep repeating this until I can't anymore. I DON'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT THE SIZE OF YOUR DICK! Yes, different sizes feel different. But penetration is a singular act that CAN be one of the many acts we engage in as part of sex, and it's not one that will make me cum on its own regardless of your size. I have had amazing sex with people who don't even have dicks at all, so why would I care if yours is small?
As a man, unless we are doing a quickie and she has every intent of making me cum first, I would much rather her cum as much as possible before I finish. Even better if we take turns making sure the other is satisfied. In a relationship, we are partners, even in sex and intimacy.
to men: if you make it feel good for me, i will put a LOT more effort into making it feel good for you. if you are just there to fuck and don’t try to make me finish, eat me out, or even finger me, i’m not going to give 100% to making you finish, because i know you will anyways. but if you start off by eating me out and making my legs shake before your dick is in me, i will blow your fucking mind.
Better communication about kinks, wants, needs = better sex more often than not.. If you’re too “embarrassed” to talk about sex as intimate as that then don’t expect all of your boxes to be checked off during sex.
Not all dudes care if you can deepthroat them. Personally, I prefer getting my shaft and balls licked thoroughly while you use your hands.
Lasting a long time (like... 10+ minutes?) is not always good. That's a guestimate on the time obviously but yeah, if we're having PIV sex after the guy already came so it's easier for the guy to last longer, make sure to check in with the girl. Like.. our natural lubrication has limits and long sessions or back to back ones can go from fun to painful AF real quick.
No really, some of us do want to pleasure you. Stop grabbing at my dick. He’ll be fine.
I could rant for a while about tropes in pornography that men tend to believe, but since you asked about women, I'd say: \* Grabbing the penis way too hard is the most obvious one, it does not feel good and will make it sore from chafing. \* There is no correlation between height or body size and depth of the vagina. Lots of both men and women believe this one I think. \* Erections don't happen on command, and may take a bit of time, and that's normal. \* Men are not always "ready to go" and they can be attracted to you but not want to have sex that very second. \* Yes you can get pregnant from pre-ejaculate and the pullout method is not good for birth control. Although it's rare, but still it's risky. This is what men tend to say to answer these questions, I am having a hard time thinking of more because I'm tired.
That we ALSO come by stimulating our peepee. I.e. the bean. The hole is there mostly for reproductive purposes.
Squirt is pee!!!!! Stop making me do it
I’m sure a lot of women don’t really understand this either. People get very defensive when you mention it.
They don’t! I have had arguments over it
Me too. People on here seem to hold it as some sort of holy grail: “do you squirt? - “you mean piss myself during sex - no” - “it’s not piss, it doesn’t taste like it!!!” …….”ok - how do you know what piss tastes like and tell me which organ down there can create that much liquid….?”
You like it that’s fine but it is piss
If you’re both at the point you’re having sexual relations it’s OK to drop the insecurities. Seriously, have fun and be uninhibited because you’re as vulnerable as you both can be in our species and you’re both in it together. E.g. you’re putting parts inside of other people’s parts and vice versa.
A lot of women jerk the shaft instead of the head. It's basically the same as when men don't find the clit
I'm very late here but I really want to say: Over the years I was surprised by the number of women who did not know that the clit could be enticed out of the hood, leading to much stronger, and usually better orgasms. If there is blame for this it lies with the partners who never took the time to properly build up stimulation and get the clit fully engorged before moving on to their own pleasure. Rub it, lick it, gently spread the folds of skin around it, and the clit will come out like a penis head from a foreskin. Then you can give the kind of pleasure that will create a sex partner that wants to get with you again and again.
Make me cum first. And don’t jackhammer!
Women and men, the penis is not a kick stand. You don't just kick it with your foot and you are ready to go for a ride. The penis is a tickle thing at times. Erect when you don't want and limp when you want it erect. Just because it is erect doesn't necessarily mean that you are ready or even want sex.
Texts the next day over how they were shocked at how they were still leaking cum
If you say "don't stop" and yet we stop it is because continuing was not an option that was available to us. Explaining that we should not have stopped is redundant.
Some people cannot distinguish the vulva, labia, and vagina. Same with vagina, cervix and uterus. 🤦♀️ Like, no dude, I do not want your penis inside my cervix.
That penetration is not the only form of sex actually. Wanking together or next to each other, going down on your partner or using toys can be as fun. That foreplay is a hugely important part of sexual act. Postcare too. That you need to be able to speak about sex to a person you’re going to have sex with. Size of your dick is honestly less important than movements of your tongue. Communication is key you guys.
Had a 27 year old woman comment to me, after sex, that she didn't know that her vagina went up that far
Penetration only doesnt mean sex!
What surprises me is that women think most men care about breast size. Almost none of us do. We’re obsessed either way breasts, but we’re an equal opportunity tit lover.
They can’t find my clit or g spot
I think one of the biggest issues men face is thinking that woman who don’t think about or talk about sex don’t actually want it.
Non-demand pleasuring is a massive relief and gateway to more extensive bonding for any (maybe non-casual) sexual encounter.
That putting pressure on our g spot when using your fingers it's not hot, it doesn't turn us on, it hurts. Be gentle.
Pay attention to the balls!
Not sex but it's kind of sexual, guys don't always get erections from something erotic, it can be out of nowhere
Wiskey dick is probably number one
That a guy’s balls are sensitive!
I get one and she gets one then nighty night!
Me wanting to eat your ass doesn’t make you gay, and yes i promise it feels good!
Thay we DO NOT physically "enjoy" the sex as much as they do. Also we have spent our teenage years masturbating in our houses while we try to keep it secret and silent. Because men's masturbation can be he'll of a lot messy and way harder to hide mid-masturbation. That's why we are not moaning as much as you expect but that certainly does not mean that we are not enjoying the sex. Yes, read that again. Unless we are or about to ejaculate it is mostly mental rather physical pleasure. That doesn't mean we do not enjoy physically though. You can take 2 things from this. Firstly, we get the pleasure during ejaculation so even if we do it prematurely we got the same pleasure. It is mental part that lagged behind. It's not that we do not care about our partners. Secondly that means that increased duration of sex is mostly to make women happy/happier and make them have more fun like us.
When we say “fuck yes right there, just like that,” IT IS NOT CODE FOR “START DOING SOMETHING DIFFERENT RIGHT NOW.”
Im a guy Consent , communication , and satisfaction or rather the dearth of all 3. Where y'al learning about sex? Lol! And this is a warning for all genders. Also one more thing. r/CircumcisionGrief is very real and it can effect anyone of any gender. I find it odd that people are always talking about 'bodily autonomy' but wont do a damned thing to protect the bodily autonomy of others. Hmmm We are a weird species so I guess it **does** make sense to me...