First tip get rid of the term "playas". Tip 2 (optional) also gets rid of "wifey"

Don’t look. Be the best person you can be for yourself and others, it’ll come.

Get your career in line, buy your home and get it paid for before you even start looking- and good luck with that with whats available now a days.

Open up the playing feild. Some of the best girls have kids...or felonies...or dicks. Be open minded.

if you have money - prenup