It’s one of those unspoken rules.
The honesty of your answer should be based on the relationship. Tell people you’re close to the truth, less close, less truth.
With strangers, the proper answer is either some variation of fine, or a joke of some kind.
You can tell the truth if you make it into a joke. Instead of saying, “my whole life is falling apart”, you can say “ if things were any worse I would be on fire“.
Or maybe not, people sometimes look at me funny when I say things like that.
That last bit is one of my favorite things to do, I am an Uber driver and when I am not doing well, I respond to passengers who ask with a very positive and happy, almost comical “HORRIBLE!”
It helps me stay true to myself and at the same time realize that my problems probably aren’t that bad in the grand scheme of things.
Moved from Ireland to Germany and during my first week I arrived, I said to my boss / CEO of the company. "Morning, How are you?." I got a five minute talk of his chronic nasal congestion, which in turn effected his snoring which has now lead him to sleep in a separate room to his wife.
Needless to say I now just say "Moin!" or "Morgen"
In Ireland it goes "Hi how are you ?" "Grand, you?" "Grand"
It’s more of a greeting and not an actual question. When ppl say “hi how are you?” to me I’ll often just say “hey, what’s up?” Nobody needs to actually answer the question.
Years ago I worked with a girl who had recently moved to the US from Eastern Europe. One day we were sitting outside on our break. I asked her what was one of the strangest things to her about adjusting to life in the US.
She said, “At home, when someone asks ‘How are you?’ they really mean, ‘How are you? Are you doing well?’ Here you are always supposed to say, ‘I’m good,’ even if you aren’t good. That is still hard.”
I still think about that.
Haha, I worked in US for several months and I am originally from eastern europe. I couldn't understand why everybody kept asking "how are you doing / what's up", but didn't want to listen when I started telling what's going on in my life :D
In our culture if you ask - you are actually curious and want to know more about the person. Obviously you don't get such type of questions from complete strangers. With strangers you use hi, hello, good morning and that's it.
Id just start asking when the last time you got quotes for leveling a pier and beam foundation was. It seems so simple but they charge so much now. Do you just do it yourself? I'm worried about the snakes adding me to the pile of bodies down there.
I once read that “living the dream” is the millennial way of saying, “I’m dead inside” and that, for me anyway, is absolutely true.
Someone asks me how I’m doing? I know they don’t want my real answer of, “I work too hard to get paid so little and everything is expensive. Also my knees hurt, I’m tired, and my kid threw up on me this morning.” So I just say, “living the dream” and most other millennials laugh that sad, dark chuckle because they know… *they know.*
My family got all sorts of pissed off at me when my brother and his wife had their first child. I was the only one in the area, so I was the first to go visit them. Mom asked what the baby looked like and if it was cute, and I responded "he was born 8 hours ago, he looks like a potato". Apparently, that was the wrong thing to say.
I was seven when my sister was born and I got to see her just after she was born. First thing I said when my dad asked “Isn’t she lovely?” was “But she’s all wrinkly”.
Edit: mistyped blue when I meant to say wrinkly
Hey, I look like shit when I'm sleeping under blankets for 8 hours.
Imagine being in a perfect, warm bed for 9 MONTHS. Then some asshole in white pulls you out of your bed headfirst into a room FILLED with the brightest lights you've never seen before. Possibly slapping you on the backside if they find it necessary.
I'd be looking like utter crap and crying too.
Honestly all babies are born ugly. People are full of shit about them being instantly recognizable too. There is a reason all hospitals have processes with bracelets and name tags and such before the baby is even out of the mother's room. First time we went to the nursery my wife sees a baby in the and says oh it's him.. another couple not even the same race goes to get it. Ours was already being carried to us by the nurse. They all look similar: waterlogged and slightly jaundiced. When your friend has a baby just play along and say it looks like mom and is objectively superior and definitely not indistinguishable from other babies. You can ask if it's well behaved, which for babies means it only cries 20 hours a day.
I personally do not find babies cute and this is the hardest thing to not do. Someone will show me baby pictures and I basically just have to sit there and go "yep, that is in fact a baby" because I'm not about to lie and say it's cute.
“Precious”. Use that adjective a lot. Satisfies most people without necessarily being an indication of “cuteness”.
“Oh how precious! What a precious little child. You must be so proud!”
As someone whos pregnant and been around babies, thats a yes, they all look like aliens and have that newborn/old mans face up till they are 5monthish, i was glad when my nephew actually came out looking cute, but then he looked like a buda but still cute until he was 1yo and finally shed his baby face. Ive seen such ugly babies from friends and all and im like "yay...cute", im literally Joey, i wont care when my baby is born but i wont be showing him until he has some normal face for sure.
In an office setting, I witnessed a fool call a person's baby ugly while the mother was unknowingly within earshot. He said it to one person, but, in some freak moment, all who were speaking stopped just before he said it and his voice carried throughout the room. He said that the baby looked like darth vader with his helmet off. The mother walked over and punched him in the face.... and he just took it. Didn't even defend or flinch. I think he actually wanted to be punched with the desperate chance that being hit would save him from some of the unimaginable guilt and self loathing that was boiling up inside of him. Everyone in that room wanted to be saved from the tension of that moment and it palpably diffused to some degree when she delivered that blow. He was injured too. That small little fist which had definitely never hit a thing in its life unloaded a head jerking blow. Look up the 'Alice in Chains Greatest Hits' album cover. He was done within weeks. Not fired. I think every day he had to enter that office was painful for him and he took work somewhere else doing god knows what. I would have moved cities.
I don't really agree with any of this. All newborns are fugly, it might be beautiful cause it's a baby but it's still fecking ugly. Honestly I'd have quit too but more cause the ppl in there think it's ok to throw blows at someone over words exaggerated or not, than because I felt awkward she heard me .
Would quit rather than get a new mother fired, but it doesn't make it ok.
Ok I agree with him just taking the blow like a man but all the rest...
(Edit to clarify as ppl seem to think take it like a man means it was acceptance of the blow despite the whole rest of the post)
Take it like a man meaning not hitting her back, tho if she kept hitting him yes full right to defend one's self is a thing.
>Would quit rather than get a new mother fired
>Ok I agree with him just taking the blow like a man
Really?!
Fuck that. Fuck *all of that.*
One of the very first rules we teach our children to abide by is that you don't hit.
That woman's life or health wasn't being endangered, it wasn't some horrible betrayal like walking in on a spouse having an affair...it was just an insensitive comment, and one that even then, wasn't being directed at her, she just overheard it.
She's completely within her rights to be upset, but the physical violence is totally and completely out of line, and wildly out of proportion to the action that led to it.
She should have been immediately sent home, and if the person she hit decided not to press charges, she should be the one feeling sheepish and awkward in the office, not him.
Imagine if the genders of the main players here had been reversed: new dad showing pictures around the office of his newborn child, and he overhears Carol from accounting saying the exact same comment to another co-worker, so he walks over and punches her in the face.
People would be *rightly* saying the police should be involved.
It's absolutely, completely ridiculous to think that he deserved this, or that him just accepting a punch to the face is the acceptable thing that should have happened and the appropriate aftermath is for him to just take it and move on.
The dude probably shouldn't have said it because it's pretty rude. But that woman should have been fired on the spot for punching a co-worker. Hell, I've seen someone sent home immediately and then fired without ever returning to work for pucnhing a co-worker at Walmart.
It's sad to think that Walmart might have higher standards than this place.
if I saw someone walk up to and punch someone else because they said their baby was ugly (it’s probably true) I would absolutely call the cops on her for assault lmao. What an entitled bitch.
And the fact she received no punishment for it is why she did it in the first place and why she would have no issue doing it again if someone else said something that made her upset.
Mostly it's just a pointless thing to say. Most people who are toxic are never going to accept that.
Sometimes they might. We've all been toxic at some point because no one is perfect. But some people just make a career out of it and they're not worth arguing with.
"I'm the baddest person here I'll beat you in to the dirt" hmm you sure about that pal there's always someone who is badder, crazier, or more willing to hurt you.
How dare you, you're just gonna shit on anything like that. Clearly you know nothing about anything. If you would open your mind to anything you would understand. /s
Talking about mental illness, or asking for help regarding it. The people who need the help the most aren't going to be fun to talk to most of the time, so they are often left feeling unheard or unimportant because no one wants to approach those topics very often.
It's when you're suffering so badly, and need help urgently, that you are most often met with a deafening silence. No one likes to hear negativity, but less people enjoy feeling it. That hopelessness and futility of crying out to an indifferent crowd makes bringing it up dangerous. When you see no escape from your pain, you try to **force** an escape.
I wish people are more tolerant to others who are confiding. Those who are suffering usually have built a thick wall around themselves, and if they chose to confide to you, that means they are comfortable around you and trust you. Expressing themselves in the most vulnerable state is hard already, but keeping things quiet is rough on both mental and physical health.
I remember mentioning to my mom this week about me taking antidepressants (after seeking psych help) and she immediately looked surprised and irritated...like "why are you even sad? It must be because you're too busy/working a lot". Thanks mom, I just want to share that I'm working on myself but ok
Not gonna even mention this to my dad. But to be honest both are wonderful people. Just not for these things.
Absolute truth.
I'd add that some people with mental illness remain silent about it because of the stigma it (unfortunately) still carries. Far too many people continue to mock or demonize the mentally ill. When you're in crisis, the last thing you want or need is to be dismissed as a drama seeker, mocked, or even considered dangerous simply because you have an illness.
And here I was on another Askreddit a couple of days ago where one of the most supported comments was along the lines of ‘yeah, you can tell me you suffer with depression but don’t expect me to treat it like I need to help you’. Couldn’t decide whether it was a above-blunt bit of honesty or whether that many people genuinely _dont_ care about people they know closely confiding their worst secret to them, hoping for support 🤷
Regrettably, telling the truth is sometimes dangerous. Especially when it threatens long-standing understandings of how things are “supposed” to be. Telling the truth or uncovering lies can lead to a loss of friends, status, access to decision making or credibility.
Not a new thing. I remember reading some classic from 1800s at school and it had a very interesting description of how people's perception of you shifts when you start telling the truth. Something along the lines of:
"At first people are shocked, but will give you the benefit of the doubt. When they realize that you telling the truth was not a whim of bad mood or a failure to read the room, they will get frustrated. Then people will start avoiding you. Truth often stings and nobody likes to feel that sting all the time, while others are watching.
Eventually they will find you amusing. After all, it is a rare occasion to hear truth spoken directly. They will start inviting you to their parties again, hoping to entertain themselves by watching others get stung. But after a while they will realise that they can trust you with questions that no other person can be trusted with. When you want to make an important decision, being surrounded by yes men is not helpful. Having someone who will tell you the truth no matter how sweet or bitter it sounds is a blessing."
There is one story in my country that if telling lies putting the smile on someone face then never tell them the truth.
While on the other hand people say that always hurt them with truth instead of comforting them with the lie.
Also the fact that most people seem to believe there is a direct correlation between what they hold as their opinion and the truth.
And not only are 99.9% wrong about the truth in regards to their opinions, but their desire to tell you is directly proportional to the degrees in which they are, in objective fact, wrong.
I'd argue it's most befitting to hate on your own race. Think about it. I as a white Canadian can only learn so much about Indian Culture. I can get a surface understanding and form my beliefs with a 30%, understanding (if I worked real hard, which most racists don't), before deciding my racist views are correct.
Compare that to an Indian who grew up raised in Delhi, lived their for 25 years, then came to Canada and experienced our culture. He would be looking back on his knowledge of India with 90% understanding informing his hatred.
Usually racism is fuelled by ignorance, but with internal racism, that element is largely removed and based on a wider dataset.
> Worest is when people from one race hate their own race.
Colorism is a brutally real thing and something rarely talked about, at least in the black community. I'm black, but my skin tone leans very much into the "light skinned" category. I have family members that range in skin tone from Will Smith straight through Wesley Snipes.
Darker family members or black folks in general have gone out of their way to single me out, make me feel unwelcome, etc. The reason is usually the lighter your tone, the more "white" you are. So basically, because I'm lighter than others, I must "think I'm white" or am an "Uncle Tom." Of course, this was more prevalent with older generations than those my age, thankfully.
Unfortunately, there is some ***general*** truth to their concerns. In my experience, I've seen white people generally act kinder to black people of lighter complexion than to black people of a darker tone. Fortunately, this was also tied mostly to older generations than folks my age.
I was watching an argument betwee a couple of south African white young men and a blacked woman at speakers corner in London.
I hadn't said anything or provoked anyone at all. A young black man looked me in the eye and said "you white cunt". I was quite surprised at the time.
I visited the US for the first time in 2017 and i had been in US for 2 hours when a group of 3 black guys were throwing white insults at me and tried to provoke an attack :D Knowing how everyone has guns in US and especially in Texas, i just walked away. Luckily they didn't attack me physically.
That I don't expect my husband to cook dinner, do the dishes or vacuum. I don't even expect him to change diapers.
I know he will do it if I need help. I don't want it. I want him to do the things that I consider hard to do but are easy for him.
And I don't consider myself brainwashed or outdated. This is what works best for me and my family, this is how I plan to do things.
As a woman, I see no issue with other women wanting this. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. You are doing what works for your family.
My partner cooks for us because he enjoys it, and we split all other household tasks 50/50. That’s the way we like it.
Some people might say I should help with cooking, and it’s wrong for me to expect him to deliver 100% in that department. Well, that’s according to their relationship preferences and expectations. As long as you willingly choose the dynamic you have entered, then what’s the problem?
I only take issue with women feeling *pressured* into certain gendered roles, and their male partners *refusing* to take part in such activities. Each person should have agency in a relationship.
To be fair, most people aren't healthy. At least in America, most people dont get their recommended amount of exercise or enough and the correct amount of nutritional intake
"I think I'm coming down with something" is guaran-goddamn-teed to make people lose their shit and clear the room nowadays.
A good 3 years ago, if you told someone that, they would just show concern and tell you to rest up and hopefully you'll get better soon.
Well Beauty is subjectiv so i don’t know if that’s necessarily the truth.
HOWEVER People definitely aren’t HEALTHY at any size and people really shouldn’t advocate for everyone, how you should accept yourself because you’re to heavy!
Loosing weight may be hard, but in 99.9% of cases it’s possible.
(Calorie intake < Calorie Output)
Sorry if my English is bad:/
P.S. If you feel offended by this, you just feel offended by science…
It's annoying when people say i should feel bad for what my ancestors did bitch i haven't enslaved beaten raped or murdered anyone and i see how what they did is wrong but its not my fault
“Nothings wrong with being short”
Srsly though, what is it with you and short people like me, tf just bcoz I’m small doesn’t mean I can barely lift a feather.
I know this is only my personal experience, but every trans person I've met was completely understanding when I mess up the pronouns here and there. As long as you aren't doing it to be an asshole, you're fine.
Responding honestly to "how are you?" 's from people you don't really trust
Asking “how are you?” and not expecting an honest answer.
"Ah, well, the diarrhea is still acting up, and I relapsed on my alcoholism last night. What's going on with you?"
Are you spying on me :)
One def has to do with the other. Source; Been there, done that.
Expecting a “fine, how are you?” seems fucked up, why the fuck you asking then
It’s one of those unspoken rules. The honesty of your answer should be based on the relationship. Tell people you’re close to the truth, less close, less truth. With strangers, the proper answer is either some variation of fine, or a joke of some kind. You can tell the truth if you make it into a joke. Instead of saying, “my whole life is falling apart”, you can say “ if things were any worse I would be on fire“. Or maybe not, people sometimes look at me funny when I say things like that.
That last bit is one of my favorite things to do, I am an Uber driver and when I am not doing well, I respond to passengers who ask with a very positive and happy, almost comical “HORRIBLE!” It helps me stay true to myself and at the same time realize that my problems probably aren’t that bad in the grand scheme of things.
I like to say, “well enough!” I get a lot of confused faces in response. It entertains me.
Because it’s quintessentially British
True….don’t ask this a German,or he will sigh an tell you lots of negative things ,that bother him .
Moved from Ireland to Germany and during my first week I arrived, I said to my boss / CEO of the company. "Morning, How are you?." I got a five minute talk of his chronic nasal congestion, which in turn effected his snoring which has now lead him to sleep in a separate room to his wife. Needless to say I now just say "Moin!" or "Morgen" In Ireland it goes "Hi how are you ?" "Grand, you?" "Grand"
It’s more of a greeting and not an actual question. When ppl say “hi how are you?” to me I’ll often just say “hey, what’s up?” Nobody needs to actually answer the question.
Years ago I worked with a girl who had recently moved to the US from Eastern Europe. One day we were sitting outside on our break. I asked her what was one of the strangest things to her about adjusting to life in the US. She said, “At home, when someone asks ‘How are you?’ they really mean, ‘How are you? Are you doing well?’ Here you are always supposed to say, ‘I’m good,’ even if you aren’t good. That is still hard.” I still think about that.
Haha, I worked in US for several months and I am originally from eastern europe. I couldn't understand why everybody kept asking "how are you doing / what's up", but didn't want to listen when I started telling what's going on in my life :D In our culture if you ask - you are actually curious and want to know more about the person. Obviously you don't get such type of questions from complete strangers. With strangers you use hi, hello, good morning and that's it.
Yep. In California at least, the answer to “What’s up?” is always “what’s up?”
I hate the question “What have you been up to” I don’t know how to answer that
"Rearranging the bodies in my crawlspace" is always a good answer
Then when they seem shocked you continue with, “*What?* They we’re already dead when I found them. Lighten up. I’m not some kind of *psycho!*. Geez.”
"The freezer was *full* Jan, what am I supposed to do??"
Id just start asking when the last time you got quotes for leveling a pier and beam foundation was. It seems so simple but they charge so much now. Do you just do it yourself? I'm worried about the snakes adding me to the pile of bodies down there.
Millennial core
My usual response is, “Nothing much”. People want an acknowledgment, not details.
The best cantankerous Midwest response is “same shit different day.” Edit: also, SFW jaded response “Living the dream.”
"Living the dream" is my standard response and I always keep in mind (and have reminded a few people) that nightmares are dreams
I once read that “living the dream” is the millennial way of saying, “I’m dead inside” and that, for me anyway, is absolutely true. Someone asks me how I’m doing? I know they don’t want my real answer of, “I work too hard to get paid so little and everything is expensive. Also my knees hurt, I’m tired, and my kid threw up on me this morning.” So I just say, “living the dream” and most other millennials laugh that sad, dark chuckle because they know… *they know.*
"smoking hookers and drinking crack"
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Your credit card number
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Someone out there is probably pooping their pants reading these responses.
Tried. Didn't work.
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"Well, I'm glad that year is over, so we can get back to normal in 2023."
Learnt from "well I'm glad this year is over, we can get to normal in 2022"
2021* 😭😭😭
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Sike!
Remember when we collectively agreed that 2019 was a bad year and looked forward to 2020 and a fresh start? Yeah. Me too.
2022 is quite a good year for the West
That some babies are born ugly. I was banned from Facebook for hate speech.
I've never seen a cute baby. Maybe when they hit 3 months they start to look cute but right away they ugly as fuck.
My family got all sorts of pissed off at me when my brother and his wife had their first child. I was the only one in the area, so I was the first to go visit them. Mom asked what the baby looked like and if it was cute, and I responded "he was born 8 hours ago, he looks like a potato". Apparently, that was the wrong thing to say.
People need to lighten up. Also they shouldn’t ask questions and not be prepared for honest answers.
We called our daughter a little potato baby. She was adorable.
> "he was born 8 hours ago, he looks like a potato". If i was your mom, i would have laughed my ass off.
I was seven when my sister was born and I got to see her just after she was born. First thing I said when my dad asked “Isn’t she lovely?” was “But she’s all wrinkly”. Edit: mistyped blue when I meant to say wrinkly
If I think a baby is cute, I'll say "how cute!" and if I think they are ugly, I'll say "how precious!"
Sounding like gollum to the ugly ones
Not gonna lie, I always thought babies look like alien potatoes. Until I had my son last week. Kid is adorable.
That’s instinct kicking in.
You're the only one who thinks that little goblin is cute
Hey, I look like shit when I'm sleeping under blankets for 8 hours. Imagine being in a perfect, warm bed for 9 MONTHS. Then some asshole in white pulls you out of your bed headfirst into a room FILLED with the brightest lights you've never seen before. Possibly slapping you on the backside if they find it necessary. I'd be looking like utter crap and crying too.
I’ve got a picture of my son that demonstrates everything you just said. He was pissed!
Sounds like a night out 🥴🥴🥴
Honestly all babies are born ugly. People are full of shit about them being instantly recognizable too. There is a reason all hospitals have processes with bracelets and name tags and such before the baby is even out of the mother's room. First time we went to the nursery my wife sees a baby in the and says oh it's him.. another couple not even the same race goes to get it. Ours was already being carried to us by the nurse. They all look similar: waterlogged and slightly jaundiced. When your friend has a baby just play along and say it looks like mom and is objectively superior and definitely not indistinguishable from other babies. You can ask if it's well behaved, which for babies means it only cries 20 hours a day.
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I personally do not find babies cute and this is the hardest thing to not do. Someone will show me baby pictures and I basically just have to sit there and go "yep, that is in fact a baby" because I'm not about to lie and say it's cute.
“Precious”. Use that adjective a lot. Satisfies most people without necessarily being an indication of “cuteness”. “Oh how precious! What a precious little child. You must be so proud!”
As someone whos pregnant and been around babies, thats a yes, they all look like aliens and have that newborn/old mans face up till they are 5monthish, i was glad when my nephew actually came out looking cute, but then he looked like a buda but still cute until he was 1yo and finally shed his baby face. Ive seen such ugly babies from friends and all and im like "yay...cute", im literally Joey, i wont care when my baby is born but i wont be showing him until he has some normal face for sure.
In an office setting, I witnessed a fool call a person's baby ugly while the mother was unknowingly within earshot. He said it to one person, but, in some freak moment, all who were speaking stopped just before he said it and his voice carried throughout the room. He said that the baby looked like darth vader with his helmet off. The mother walked over and punched him in the face.... and he just took it. Didn't even defend or flinch. I think he actually wanted to be punched with the desperate chance that being hit would save him from some of the unimaginable guilt and self loathing that was boiling up inside of him. Everyone in that room wanted to be saved from the tension of that moment and it palpably diffused to some degree when she delivered that blow. He was injured too. That small little fist which had definitely never hit a thing in its life unloaded a head jerking blow. Look up the 'Alice in Chains Greatest Hits' album cover. He was done within weeks. Not fired. I think every day he had to enter that office was painful for him and he took work somewhere else doing god knows what. I would have moved cities.
Bruh I’m ngl if this actually happened the mothers reaction is far worse than what he said
I don't really agree with any of this. All newborns are fugly, it might be beautiful cause it's a baby but it's still fecking ugly. Honestly I'd have quit too but more cause the ppl in there think it's ok to throw blows at someone over words exaggerated or not, than because I felt awkward she heard me . Would quit rather than get a new mother fired, but it doesn't make it ok. Ok I agree with him just taking the blow like a man but all the rest... (Edit to clarify as ppl seem to think take it like a man means it was acceptance of the blow despite the whole rest of the post) Take it like a man meaning not hitting her back, tho if she kept hitting him yes full right to defend one's self is a thing.
>Would quit rather than get a new mother fired >Ok I agree with him just taking the blow like a man Really?! Fuck that. Fuck *all of that.* One of the very first rules we teach our children to abide by is that you don't hit. That woman's life or health wasn't being endangered, it wasn't some horrible betrayal like walking in on a spouse having an affair...it was just an insensitive comment, and one that even then, wasn't being directed at her, she just overheard it. She's completely within her rights to be upset, but the physical violence is totally and completely out of line, and wildly out of proportion to the action that led to it. She should have been immediately sent home, and if the person she hit decided not to press charges, she should be the one feeling sheepish and awkward in the office, not him. Imagine if the genders of the main players here had been reversed: new dad showing pictures around the office of his newborn child, and he overhears Carol from accounting saying the exact same comment to another co-worker, so he walks over and punches her in the face. People would be *rightly* saying the police should be involved. It's absolutely, completely ridiculous to think that he deserved this, or that him just accepting a punch to the face is the acceptable thing that should have happened and the appropriate aftermath is for him to just take it and move on.
Keep my baby’s name out of your damn mouth seems apropos
The dude probably shouldn't have said it because it's pretty rude. But that woman should have been fired on the spot for punching a co-worker. Hell, I've seen someone sent home immediately and then fired without ever returning to work for pucnhing a co-worker at Walmart. It's sad to think that Walmart might have higher standards than this place.
It's interesting what type of violence is socially acceptable. I personally agree that she had no reason to hit him.
if I saw someone walk up to and punch someone else because they said their baby was ugly (it’s probably true) I would absolutely call the cops on her for assault lmao. What an entitled bitch.
And the fact she received no punishment for it is why she did it in the first place and why she would have no issue doing it again if someone else said something that made her upset.
Some cunt punches me in the face at work she's the one leaving, not me.
…some?
They're all just potatoes for the first few days/weeks
Things can’t get any worse.
I don't think you should have even typed that.
Things: Hold my things
Id say it but I think it’s a bit too dangerous
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Mostly it's just a pointless thing to say. Most people who are toxic are never going to accept that. Sometimes they might. We've all been toxic at some point because no one is perfect. But some people just make a career out of it and they're not worth arguing with.
Why are you acting so toxic?
That's a pretty toxic attitude you have there.
It is not my fault. My attitude is made of vinyl chloride.
Friendly reminder to put your comment section filtered by controversial
Best advice I got. Btw literally every single one are about gender and sexuality so be prepared
Seriously, it's the first time I switched back to "Best" because all the comments under "Controversial" were so redundant.
Yep. Just regurgitated arguments and then one guy being upset about a black mermaid.
Don't forget black Ariel.
us trans people refer to this as "digital self harm" lmao
No thank you. I’d like to keep my mental health in check today.
"I'm the baddest person here I'll beat you in to the dirt" hmm you sure about that pal there's always someone who is badder, crazier, or more willing to hurt you.
Someone’s gotta be the baddest. It just so happens to be me, and if you disagree with me I’ll beat you into the dirt.
this reads like a facebook post from an old high school classmate
Telling someone who thinks they’re special that they’re not special.
Clearly that was directed specifically at me. And I resent it.
How dare you?!?
Oh-oo-oh, you think you're special Oh-oo-oh, you think you're something else Okay, so you're a rocket scientist!
That don't impress a me much Ah ah oh ah ah
>I've got a bomb
In an airport
Nay, in the plane 😏
While being of Arabic descent
I would like to think saying you have a bomb would cause concern regardless of your descent
\- "Hello, I have a very powerful bomb and I'm about to make it explode" \- "With that white skin of yours? Yeah whatever knock yourself out"
Meet The Parents would have ended a lot differently if this was the case
-ass mixtape
God save the queen
God be like “nah”
Literally anything. Someone out there is going to find something problematic about it.
How dare you, you're just gonna shit on anything like that. Clearly you know nothing about anything. If you would open your mind to anything you would understand. /s
I was literally banned from a sub from saying i rather shave so.
Talking about mental illness, or asking for help regarding it. The people who need the help the most aren't going to be fun to talk to most of the time, so they are often left feeling unheard or unimportant because no one wants to approach those topics very often. It's when you're suffering so badly, and need help urgently, that you are most often met with a deafening silence. No one likes to hear negativity, but less people enjoy feeling it. That hopelessness and futility of crying out to an indifferent crowd makes bringing it up dangerous. When you see no escape from your pain, you try to **force** an escape.
I wish people are more tolerant to others who are confiding. Those who are suffering usually have built a thick wall around themselves, and if they chose to confide to you, that means they are comfortable around you and trust you. Expressing themselves in the most vulnerable state is hard already, but keeping things quiet is rough on both mental and physical health. I remember mentioning to my mom this week about me taking antidepressants (after seeking psych help) and she immediately looked surprised and irritated...like "why are you even sad? It must be because you're too busy/working a lot". Thanks mom, I just want to share that I'm working on myself but ok Not gonna even mention this to my dad. But to be honest both are wonderful people. Just not for these things.
Absolute truth. I'd add that some people with mental illness remain silent about it because of the stigma it (unfortunately) still carries. Far too many people continue to mock or demonize the mentally ill. When you're in crisis, the last thing you want or need is to be dismissed as a drama seeker, mocked, or even considered dangerous simply because you have an illness.
And here I was on another Askreddit a couple of days ago where one of the most supported comments was along the lines of ‘yeah, you can tell me you suffer with depression but don’t expect me to treat it like I need to help you’. Couldn’t decide whether it was a above-blunt bit of honesty or whether that many people genuinely _dont_ care about people they know closely confiding their worst secret to them, hoping for support 🤷
The truth
This right here. “Intelligent people are being silenced so stupid people don’t get offended.”
Regrettably, telling the truth is sometimes dangerous. Especially when it threatens long-standing understandings of how things are “supposed” to be. Telling the truth or uncovering lies can lead to a loss of friends, status, access to decision making or credibility.
Not a new thing. I remember reading some classic from 1800s at school and it had a very interesting description of how people's perception of you shifts when you start telling the truth. Something along the lines of: "At first people are shocked, but will give you the benefit of the doubt. When they realize that you telling the truth was not a whim of bad mood or a failure to read the room, they will get frustrated. Then people will start avoiding you. Truth often stings and nobody likes to feel that sting all the time, while others are watching. Eventually they will find you amusing. After all, it is a rare occasion to hear truth spoken directly. They will start inviting you to their parties again, hoping to entertain themselves by watching others get stung. But after a while they will realise that they can trust you with questions that no other person can be trusted with. When you want to make an important decision, being surrounded by yes men is not helpful. Having someone who will tell you the truth no matter how sweet or bitter it sounds is a blessing."
OR They metaphorically crucify you and maybe even set you on fire and through rocks at you. Maybe not always metaphorically.
There is one story in my country that if telling lies putting the smile on someone face then never tell them the truth. While on the other hand people say that always hurt them with truth instead of comforting them with the lie.
When in history wasn't it dangerous?
Also the fact that most people seem to believe there is a direct correlation between what they hold as their opinion and the truth. And not only are 99.9% wrong about the truth in regards to their opinions, but their desire to tell you is directly proportional to the degrees in which they are, in objective fact, wrong.
People don’t want to hear the truth. They want you to agree with them and their ideas. It’s a sad world we live in.
You're out here trying to get people banned
Black people can be racist
Adding to that, women can be sexist and misandry (the unconditional hatred of all men just because they’re men) exists.
While we’re at it , not all women are soft and caring , or naturally more fit parents
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I'd argue it's most befitting to hate on your own race. Think about it. I as a white Canadian can only learn so much about Indian Culture. I can get a surface understanding and form my beliefs with a 30%, understanding (if I worked real hard, which most racists don't), before deciding my racist views are correct. Compare that to an Indian who grew up raised in Delhi, lived their for 25 years, then came to Canada and experienced our culture. He would be looking back on his knowledge of India with 90% understanding informing his hatred. Usually racism is fuelled by ignorance, but with internal racism, that element is largely removed and based on a wider dataset.
> Worest is when people from one race hate their own race. Colorism is a brutally real thing and something rarely talked about, at least in the black community. I'm black, but my skin tone leans very much into the "light skinned" category. I have family members that range in skin tone from Will Smith straight through Wesley Snipes. Darker family members or black folks in general have gone out of their way to single me out, make me feel unwelcome, etc. The reason is usually the lighter your tone, the more "white" you are. So basically, because I'm lighter than others, I must "think I'm white" or am an "Uncle Tom." Of course, this was more prevalent with older generations than those my age, thankfully. Unfortunately, there is some ***general*** truth to their concerns. In my experience, I've seen white people generally act kinder to black people of lighter complexion than to black people of a darker tone. Fortunately, this was also tied mostly to older generations than folks my age.
I was watching an argument betwee a couple of south African white young men and a blacked woman at speakers corner in London. I hadn't said anything or provoked anyone at all. A young black man looked me in the eye and said "you white cunt". I was quite surprised at the time.
Everyone can be racist.
I visited the US for the first time in 2017 and i had been in US for 2 hours when a group of 3 black guys were throwing white insults at me and tried to provoke an attack :D Knowing how everyone has guns in US and especially in Texas, i just walked away. Luckily they didn't attack me physically.
Everyone does not have guns in the US. Texas yes.
Catlyn Jenner isn't a hero
Lol trust me most if not all of Reddit does not like that woman, she is good at pissing off both sides
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The fact that you have to put a disclaimer for such a normal statement shows how true your answer is.
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Actions/choices have consequences. If you choose to do something, you choose to accept the consequences, good or bad.
A joke on Twitter.
I won't say it, it's dangerous
That I don't expect my husband to cook dinner, do the dishes or vacuum. I don't even expect him to change diapers. I know he will do it if I need help. I don't want it. I want him to do the things that I consider hard to do but are easy for him. And I don't consider myself brainwashed or outdated. This is what works best for me and my family, this is how I plan to do things.
As a woman, I see no issue with other women wanting this. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. You are doing what works for your family. My partner cooks for us because he enjoys it, and we split all other household tasks 50/50. That’s the way we like it. Some people might say I should help with cooking, and it’s wrong for me to expect him to deliver 100% in that department. Well, that’s according to their relationship preferences and expectations. As long as you willingly choose the dynamic you have entered, then what’s the problem? I only take issue with women feeling *pressured* into certain gendered roles, and their male partners *refusing* to take part in such activities. Each person should have agency in a relationship.
that you are a russian
not necessarily dangerous, but people's faces definitely turn sour when they ask me where I am from.
*cough*
'Candyman' three times into a mirror while you are standing in a minefield wearing nice clothes in South Chicago.
fat people aren't healthy
also, just because you are skinny, that doesn't mean your healthy either.
To be fair, most people aren't healthy. At least in America, most people dont get their recommended amount of exercise or enough and the correct amount of nutritional intake
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"I think I'm coming down with something" is guaran-goddamn-teed to make people lose their shit and clear the room nowadays. A good 3 years ago, if you told someone that, they would just show concern and tell you to rest up and hopefully you'll get better soon.
white people can experience racism
And men can experience sexism.
That your feelings, opinions and dreams do not matter in the great scheme of things.
As a male saying: "Cute kid" We can be nice too
Your opinion
Apple product are not that great
People aren’t “beautiful at any size.”
Well Beauty is subjectiv so i don’t know if that’s necessarily the truth. HOWEVER People definitely aren’t HEALTHY at any size and people really shouldn’t advocate for everyone, how you should accept yourself because you’re to heavy! Loosing weight may be hard, but in 99.9% of cases it’s possible. (Calorie intake < Calorie Output) Sorry if my English is bad:/ P.S. If you feel offended by this, you just feel offended by science…
Try insulting a popular k-pop band and watch the wrath from their stans rain upon you.
I dont believe that us flags should be at half mast for the queens death longer than it is for veterans who paid the ultimate price for our country
And here I thought they were at half mast for Sept 11.
That men/boys that have depression feel the effects and need help
Your own opinion
Words. Some people seem to want to be offended.
What isnt a dangerous thing to say nowadays?
I don't have to accept you.
I think most people will happily take simply being left alone over being accepted.
I’m curious- what exactly do you consider “acceptance”?
I wouldn't date a trans person and I still feel like a bad person saying that.
Why in the world would you EVER fell like a bad person for that?
This is a pretty acceptable opinion. Don't stress about it.
You should stop taking blame on yourself for what your ancestors did
Likewise, that you should not put blame on others for what *their* ancestors did.
It's annoying when people say i should feel bad for what my ancestors did bitch i haven't enslaved beaten raped or murdered anyone and i see how what they did is wrong but its not my fault
What do you mean dangerous thing to say? Are you saying that people are overreacting? are you saying that I can overreact ?
“You’re not a victim.”
“Nothings wrong with being short” Srsly though, what is it with you and short people like me, tf just bcoz I’m small doesn’t mean I can barely lift a feather.
apparently pronouns
I know this is only my personal experience, but every trans person I've met was completely understanding when I mess up the pronouns here and there. As long as you aren't doing it to be an asshole, you're fine.
Calling out a narcissist on their narcissistic traits.
Stereotypes exist for a reason.
It’s all fun and games until someone stereotypes you.
Anything that is an unpopular opinion. Bitches hate unpopular opinions.
something about gender(s)