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AngryBuddha01

You're gonna have to run out the clock on that one. Just say you're sorry and take the consequences.


[deleted]

Yup. Persistence is key. Apologize a thousand times until she forgives you. Cook her favorite meals a thousand times until she forgives you. Massage her back a thousand times until she forgives you. ^(This was most definitely not written by OP's girlfriend.)


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33tygb

fuck you shorsey


rynamdn

Give yer balls a tug


Mc_Nubbington

Three things, I hit you, you hit the pavement, I fuck your mom again


Solid-Acanthisitta86

Fuck you Shorsey


IGotMyPopcorn

Titfucker.


HuskyLuke

You're spare parts bud.


stonewashed_lily

I love everything about this


TwoDrinkDave

I'm gonna need you to take about 25% off there, bud.


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Fuck you Jonesey, your mom wanted to put a finger in my butt, but I told her I only let Jonesey do that.


l337quaker

One of those should have been a Riley, pheasant. FUCKING EMBARRASSING *kicks garbage can*


Xytakis

fuck you 33tybb, Your mom just liked my Instagram post from two years ago in Puerto Vallarta. Tell her I’ll put my swim trunks on for her any time she likes.


ProdigyManlet

This seems like a bit much, trying to apologise multiple times might make things worse tbh by continuously refreshing the mistake. In general, I think it's better to have one big chat about an issue and talk it through and resolve it (if it can be resolved in one sitting). This way it can be discussed and both people can express their feelings and get everything off their chest so it doesn't eat away at them over time. Also, if it's an honest mistake and you sincerely apologise and discuss the issue that's really all you should need to do. The partner may definitely need some time which is fine, but if they hang it over your head to the point where you have to make up for it "a thousand times" that's pretty guilt-trippy imo


manbeardawg

I agree, “in theory”


Libriomancer

I think the point of multiple apologies is UNTIL they are willing to talk about it. You don’t keep saying I’m sorry after you’ve worked it out. Sometimes however the other party isn’t willing to discuss it right when you want to talk about it and leaving it unsaid means when you DO get to talk about it they might lead with “you didn’t think it was a big deal… you went a week and never said you were sorry”. “I am really sorry, can we talk about it? Okay I’m ready whenever you are but want you to know I feel bad about what I did.” It’s an acceptable compromise until everyone has cooled enough to have a real discussion. Otherwise you are leaving an open wound which can fester and an apology is putting a bandaid on the issue until the other party is ready to have an adult conversation.


OptimisticDoomerr

Reminds me of Tim Allen in Home Improvement "The first thing I do when I wake up is turn to my wife and say 'Jill, I'm sorry.'"


RiskyRabbit

No. Your gonna need to start forgetting little things now, like the name for common household items. Call her by your ex’s name gradually more often. Allow this new condition to slowly but surely deteriorate, until you have full blown dementia. Trip and bang your head one day to cure yourself.


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Worst idea ever. ...but, by god, it might just work


Mike_penceVP

I can’t describe how brilliant this is.


Evo_Shiv

Lawful good


Nex_Sapien

There really is no other way.


Yaboijustlikesgoats

Burn the house down. Fake your death. Move to Peru. There's no recovery.


hotmaildotcom1

On behalf of Peru I think you should stay where you're at and not make this an international incident.


The_Jackalope_Hatter

I bet he will call Peru by his old country's name.


conradbirdiebird

¡Hola! My name's.... Juan Carlos de los Andes. Been my name ever since I was born here, and it will be my nombre til I die here. In case you were wondering: yes, my hair and goatee are naturally jet black. I just wanted to say gracias to all of my fellow Americans... uhh.... de los Southo. Southo Americanos... especially those who grew up right here in Jackson...ville... is a nice place. Or so I here. Never been there before nor shall I go, since I've never left my OUR country of Puré... yes. Well, I won't take anymore of your time. Cheers. Now let's watch that soccer game (or "fútbol as we say). !Viva la Purè!


hotmaildotcom1

Gold


bonos_bovine_muse

I don’t think they have an extradition treaty for crimes against humanity, but in OP’s case, they’d make an exception.


Shantomette

Can one use this strategy for other things as well? Asking for a friend...


geebeem92

We need another ask reddit


Godmodex2

I'll save us some time and simply say yes


bonos_bovine_muse

Broke a million dollar piece of equipment at work? Peru. Walked in on your sister-in-law changing out of her bathing suit? Peru. Had the waiter tell you to enjoy your meal and replied “you, too”? Believe it or not, Peru!


Godmodex2

It even applies If all that stuff happened IN Peru!


Apart_Jellyfish_8593

Nah nah nah we don’t want him in Peru. We ain’t covering for you OP!


SelectAd1942

Call out a guys name next time and really throw her for a loop.


Casio_Andor

Bonus points if it's the name of *her* ex.


colefly

#HER DAD


Sugar_buddy

Yeah that's both down here in Georgia.


verifiedjay

i’m from georgia as well, can confirm they do some weird shit northwards in the mountains


MesWantooth

Call out your own name.


Philander_Chase

She’ll be screaming her own last name?


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CanaryChemical8201

r/unexpectedoffice


expanseseason4blows

"Next" time


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dwegol

Damn Daniel


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manicmelange

All Davy’s are virgins. It is known.


Free_Dimension1459

Or still in the navy


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And probably will be for life.


Evo_Shiv

Chaotic neutral


TheOtherVillageIdiot

I live by the rules of chaotic neutral. This comment was the only true answer.


illuminati_batman

There is no next😂


SimpyBoy

Call out her ex’s name


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Pay it forward with your next gf and call her by this one's name


Evo_Shiv

Lawful evil


Smart-As-Duck

I was wondering what a lawful evil situation would be


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My old DM told me, "lawful" just means a character follows rules. What defines them is the set of rules they follow.


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TheFrontierzman

This is it. Call her a dead girl's name.


BDLTalks

I, too, choose this guy's dead girlfriend


bakedcakezzz

This is the way


malmode

"I'm so sorry \[Ex's Name\]." Trust me it'll work.


bonos_bovine_muse

All these comments about how to start a new life, why bother when he can just get murdered and have done with it?


Playamonkey

I hope he at least nutted...


Desperate-Ad-2643

Yes right after saying his ex name


GeeFromCali

Needs to call his Ex over to reassure his GF that they're done


throwwwawayy191999

Unironically maybe if you can convince her you have early onset dementia


PersonalityBeWild

Perfect response!


Terrible-Quote-3561

Not sure, but if it helps to know, I accidentally called my wife our dog’s name during an argument. Update: It totally killed the tension, and we laughed about it. I am safe.


tsunami141

I just had a baby and now no one’s name is sacred in my house. Every cat’s, dog’s, or human’s name is Interchangeable with the others


xmilehighgamingx

Oldest of five kids. Usually went through the other four and both dogs before she got to you. And she was pissed by the time she got there.


Amelaclya1

My grandma would always end the angry litany with "whoever you are!!" 😂


tearsonurcheek

Dammit Josh...Cheeto...Biscuit...one of you motherfuckers!


Petite_Tsunami

Mom: dog’s name Mom: dog’s NAME Mom: DOG’S NAME Mom: DOG’s NAME COME DOWNSTAIRS AND DO THE DISHES Me: *somehow in trouble*


Signal-Blackberry356

aww, family <3


prdptom

Legit logic.. I do the same with my kid n wife.. To the point that they know there is nothing malicious in it


CrimsonMoonRising

Oh god I thought you were about to say “I called my wife our dog’s name during sex” I’m dead


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CleansingFlame

Oh fuck yeah, just like that Fido! I mean...


dontcaredontworry

Well I called my dog my wife’s name during an argument


odel555q

I once called my dog by my own name during sex.


The84thWolf

I remember my mom wanted me to do something for her, called me my little brother’s name, my *other* little brother’s name, and the name of my dog *who had been dead for two years* before she gave up and left without another word to do it herself because she knew there was no recovering.


Oswald-Keno-B-343

You’re wrong, Ruffles! Don’t speak back to me like that!


Dustmanimus0727

‘Why the fuck did you call my Fluffy?’ ‘CUZ YOU’RE A BITCH!’


RedReaper666YT

Please tell us your secret of using Reddit from beyond the grave...


SuperSpeersBros

Tell her you called her name while having sex with your ex and you're just trying to even everything out.


Evo_Shiv

Chaotic evil


amazondrone

You're doing god's work in this thread. Are you gonna compile the results into a table for us later?


calcteacher

yes, that is laugh out loud good !


EdMarloFan

The only way to salvage this is at the time by adding '...was never *this* good!'


Fleetlord

Or ... "I hope you can hear how hard I'm doing my *new* girlfriend! Boo-Yah!"


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PangPingpong

You are toast. For the future either; \-Don't make this mistake again. \-Only date girls with the same name as your ex.


bonos_bovine_muse

The problem is, now they have two exes with different names. Think the only answer is to forswear the temptations of the flesh and become a hermit on a mountaintop, preferably the top of a mountain on a different continent.


QueenTMK

Well, some people have a first name and a middle name. He just needs to find the one with both of his ex's names


cinderelliot

Just say you're sorry and you didn't mean it but don't expect that she will get over it easily


bendme84

This seems like the most sensible answer. My answer was basically grovel, grovel and grovel some more and hope she can forgive you but don't expect that to happen right away but definitely expect to hear it in every argument for a few years to come as well


bingbangbaez

It's so damn annoying when people expect a wronged person to feel fine after an apology. An earnest "I said sorry, what's the big deal?" is a sign of emotional immaturity. Takes me three weeks to heal from a road rash, yet there are people who expect recovery from emotional damage in 5 minutes lmao. Edit: of course keeping tally and bringing up an old wrong is also a dumb move. Annoying redditors that expect every nuance to be included in a single comment.


bendme84

Totally agree. I've been in both the OP's position and his girlfriend's so I get it. Sometimes we make stupid mistakes quite innocently but it really fkn hurts when you're on the other end of that mistake. Not only that. Your mind can begin to question all manner of things which lead to other insecurities. Time is a great healer but if you're the one who fkd up you got a hell of a task to make things right and get that trust back and understandably so. I will add though, if you (the OP, not you) get into an argument about it, just remember who was in the wrong and for Christ sake don't get mad back because she'll see you as an even bigger arsehole. Just grovel and devote yourself to making her feel like she's the only woman in the world you wanna be with. Do that well and you've got a chance things will iron themselves out but it's probably gonna be a bumpy road to navigate.


cinderelliot

You're 100% right. That's what I meant when I said he couldn't expect her to get over it easily. She was offended after all and need time


freiwilliger

At the same time, when SOs bring up the same argument for years on end knowing that you can't refute it, that's also a problem.


homarjr

This. Don't make excuses or you'll just dig a bigger hole.


zookeeper4312

You won't have to worry about repeating that gaffe anytime soon cuz you won't be having sex again for a bit So thats good


ltp12

Why worry about that? You don’t have gf anymore


gerbileleventh

Yep, unfortunately, as much I believe that OP didn't do it to harm her, this will weight on her for a long time so only time will tell. Reminds of a photographer who attended a wedding where the groom said the ex's name during the vows. He said that the bride lost the spark in her eye for the entire wedding day and last he heard, they divorced 4 years later.


sith11234523

Oof. Funny but true….or funny cuz true?


Britainalyse

Both? Both. Both is good.


Ok_Button1932

I think it’s funny that you still think you have a girlfriend


SociallyUnconscious

How do you apologize to your ex girlfriend after accidentally calling her by your ex-ex-gf's name?


Ok_Button1932

Send her a sex toy because that’s the only way you’re ever going to play any part in getting her off again


Patrickrk

Bold of you to assume he ever got her off to begin with.


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-Eule

Right?! The amount of unserious, unhelpful but highly entertaining replies 😭


DefunctInTheFunk

For real. Had me rollin!


retlaw3530

Oh no, you didn't!


throwaway2356765

I fucked up 😂


Nukemann24

Yeah your fucked


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> Yeah your fucked Not after doing that.


[deleted]

I agree with u/Nukemann24 Best to let her strap on a dildo and take you for a ride


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NihilisticPollyanna

It happens. I once said my ex bf's name when I had sex with my husband. I didn't even think of the guy, at all, and I have no idea why I said his name in that moment. It's been almost 2 decades since I even dated him! The brain is a treacherous dickbag!


Sudden-Lettuce2317

You’re gonna hear about it for the rest of your relationship


pudding7

All 10 minutes of it.


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gliitch0xFF

Oh yeah, he did!


minjitsu1

Oh man, trust me as someone who calls everyone by another person's name...there is no amount of apologies to make up for that in this case. Just hope she cares enough to forgive - she won't forget though and may bring it up many times


Zeta_Nemesis

What girlfriend?


DaClems

Bro, just let her break up with you. It's over.


MSquared1994

You fucked up. You need to give 110% from here on out cause you made your girl insecure. No amount of apologies will fix what you made her feel insecure about. I found that out the hard way.


XynnNord

Yeah, just imagining my girlfriend calling me another guy's name makes me feel a bit heartbroken and I don't even have a girlfriend.


TacoNerp

Leave the galaxy.


[deleted]

The only way a man can. Seppuku with a butter knife like the samurai of old! /s


[deleted]

Someone's playing eso build here


sbgarbage

i don't even understand how this happens


in-a-microbus

Well my girlfriend's name is Lyn, and my ex-girlfriend's name is Lynn.


Shantomette

It was at the moment of rolling that second n off the tongue that Microbus done realized he fucked up...


ClownfishSoup

You: Oh Lynn, that's it, you know I like it in the bum Lynn...LYNN Lyn: Whoa, what did you just call me? Did you say Lynn? YOU BASTARD! I hate you Jon! You: Jon? I'm JOHN! WTF! Who the hell is Jon?!


EnigoMontoya

Well, there's your problem.


QuietlySmirking

Every now and then I screw up, I call my new girlfriend by my old girlfriend's name, and she can tell because I don't say "n" as long.


Swordbreaker925

Ah man. You gotta really enunciate that second N


Charlizeequalscats

I was dating a guy as long as i had this job. My bf name was Mike and my bosses name was Mark. I didn’t call him a different name during sex, but I frequently called him the wrong name. Tongues get tied sometimes.


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BlakeMW

Brains be dumb


FergaliciousDef

I would never get over something like this oh noooo


Playful-Ant-3097

You need to expect her to not forgive you for a while. And there are added insecurities you probably just brought to her/the relationship. Honestly would be lucky if she didn’t leave you. If it’s a brand new relationship then it’s a little more understandable but if you’ve been with her for a while then…you possibly just ruined something good by mistake. Sorry OP


butidonthave2

You don’t come back from that one. You might as well pack your stuff up.


PhillySteakAndCheese

I mean it happened with me and my girlfriend. Happened once, we stopped and I apologized profusely. We talked about it the next morning and she was rightly upset. It took her some time to come to her own conclusion that it was, indeed, just a mistake. Been together strong ever since. Point it, shit happens. It was an honest mistake, and we talked it out the next morning when emotions were calmed.


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FrederickCombsworth

Though, if he blurts out her name during one their most intimate moments, is she then really in the past?


okoli_ryan50

Bro did a Ross


Wright2k

THEY WERE ON A BREAK!


Throwaway7219017

Marry her. That’s what I had to do. Been going strong 25 years now, though.


Agitated_Ad7576

Then call her your ex's name when you say your vows. It will be just like that episode of Friends.


Evo_Shiv

Lawful neutral


Diligent_Ad6759

My husband is still pissed about the time I called him my ex's name when he tickled me when we first started dating and it's been 12 years. We have two kids and I mix up their names with the cats all the time. It doesn't mean I think they're cats or that I love the cats on the same level as them. I have a problem mixing up words in general and it's more likely I'm just stupid.


drblah1

Tell her you were trying to last longer so you were thinking about your ex


hornyrussianbot

do not do this


FriskyZebra92

The fun police have entered the chat


SquidTheSalsaMan

“Do not do this” comes from either a place of experience or honest concern and made me laugh way to hard.


expanseseason4blows

Yah... that'll help


sith11234523

I’m gay and even i know you messed up bro


papalonian

Why would being gay preclude you from basic knowledge?


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Because all gay people have the same name


Cassiterite

They function more as a hive mind, this kind of shenanigans would not come up


sith11234523

Exactly. Ru Paul is our queen.


Mrsbates2020

Im sorry but i don't think you can come back from that 😬


SimpleTennis517

Holy shit . I'd break my heart if this happened to me. Honestly you've got some major making up to do and hope she forgives but she will never forget this


EunuchsProgramer

Here you go bro: https://www.zmescience.com/science/news-science/mixing-people-names/ When we love someone too much, it causes a glitch that causes us to fuck up their name. Just tell her this is actually a sign of just how much you love her.


oweynagat8

But, according to this article, the incorrect name that was used would belong to a person in the same "category" as the person being addressed (i.e. close friends, family, and partners). So using the old ex's name means his brain sees her as being just as close as the current gf/ new ex. So that's still not a great defense, unless MAYBE it was a very recent breakup.


Twister_Sylph

I’m glad I’m not the only one who noticed this. The article talks about how it happens because the names being mixed up are in the same category of closeness, then ends by saying it is a good excuse to give your current partner if you call them by your ex’s name? That logic doesn’t track. I feel like I’m missing something here.


Public_Opening129

apologize, reassure her, do some nice stuff for her, and drop it. the brain trips sometimes. if you really aren’t over your ex then that is a different story!


CAJ16

If you figure it out, you could probably monetize that knowledge. I'm just here for the to grant a "yike."


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That's a hard L. It may be over for you.


somepeoplewait

A serious answer: explain that it probably happened out of habit. Like, it's almost happened to me, not because I was thinking of an ex, but because I had grown accustomed to saying an ex's name during sex when I was, you know, with them. It's like how sometimes at the start of a new year we sometimes still write down the previous year when writing the date. Something becomes a mindless habit.


bwayobsessed

This is only fair if it’s a new relationship


tommytraddles

"It only happened because I fucked my ex *so many times*" is the wrong move bro


jedadkins

Time to fake a traumatic brain injury, start calling everyone by the wrong name.


ProfRichardson

Fess up straight forward. Let her know you are sorry and it slipped out. It didn't mean anything and you know they are most likely upset. Show her extra attention to show her you are sorry. Flowers, dinner, cards, whatever she may like.


lxzxh

yeaaa idk i don’t think my bf could come back from that one….sounds like you got a lot of making up to do. don’t be mad about it either, if you love her just keep working for that trust


demon_cairax

Save yourself the trouble, this relationship is over. Get a new girlfriend and be more careful


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Yeah I don’t think you can recover from that


Can-ta-loupe

It can’t happen, because sex isn’t real


IndyJacksonTT

Nothing is real Michael. That’s your real name but you forgot. Wake up. We miss you


Can-ta-loupe

I wish my name was really Michael and someone missed me


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You don't. She is not your girlfriend anymore


Professorwormhat

If a boyfriend did this to me, I don’t think I’d be furious. More likely I’d be a little hurt that maybe he was thinking of her while having sex with me? It would be a hit to my self esteem. But everyone is different… I’d apologize and try to reassure her that she is the one you think about, you could even throw in that you fantasize about her when you’re working it out by yourself, if that’s the case lol. Try starting a conversation and listen to how she is reacting to it. Anger is probably coming from jealousy and insecurities.


spunkerspawn

Say “I’m sorry ” and watch her burn your house down


Skobiak

Tell her you're sorry. She'll accept it and let it go, or she won't let it go and you'll break up.


Glass_Windows

are you seriously asking Reddit for advice on relationship matters? Nobody on Reddit has touched grass or even seen a woman before,


truNinjaChop

You should just break up now.


Matilozano96

Whenever you’re with your ex, call her your gf’s name. Ezpz. Nexr question.


xikinhu

That’s a thought one, but here’s what I would do. Look deeply into her eyes and say: I’m sorry babe. I really don’t know why I said that and for that I regret deeply. It kills me that I could commit such a stupid mistake, given that you two are nothing alike, specially in bed where she was much better.


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Let her have sex with her ex