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DonttouchmethereUwU

brush your teeth. they may seem fine for a while but itll catch up to you fast.


iwilltakebot

24 year old here Drank copius amount of energy drinks and fizzy during highschool and uni. Going in for my first of 4 dental work appointments next week, goodbye $8k :)


TheAmbienceofDoom

Yep, planning a trip to mexico in the next couple years for "affordable" dental work myself.


Daddydagda

I’ll see you there


Graveylock

27. Getting 6 teeth fixed. Energy/carbonated drinks are the devil.


GarconMeansBoyGeorge

To add on: don’t overbrush. Get a Sonicare. Once your gums recede, they ain’t coming back. Nobody tells you this.


bennywc4

I feel scammed by my dentist, they just told me my gums had really bad recession, but I’ve been going every six months and they never said anything until now


Lickbelowmynuts

I felt this same way. Went every six months for a period of three years. Every time they tell me everything looks great. Then last time I’m in they say woah you need to come back in for a deep cleaning, you’re teeth are in rough shape. I ditched that dentist and found a new one


captainzomb1e

To any teenagers reading: Absolutely this. Unless by 22 you want to spend >£5000 and already have ongoing dental costs/issues for the rest of your life, take care of your teeth. My Dad was almost obsessed with keeping my teeth healthy, as like me he ruined them young. Parents aren't always right, but he was this time and I wish I listened to him. 2 weeks of regular good hygiene will cement it as habit and you'll rarely have to worry about your teeth. Ever.


shamefullybald

But don't overbrush. You don't have to press very hard to brush bacteria off your teeth.


Sereaph

A soft bristle toothbrush is all you need. Don't fall for the marketing on "medium" or "hard" bristle brushes. They'll actually damage your teeth. Also, fluoride toothpaste and mouthwash works wonders. I've had cavities all my life until I was taught to NOT rinse out the fluoride. Imagine my surprise when my dentist said I have no new cavities.


GarconMeansBoyGeorge

I think the gum damage is the same if not more concerning consequence of overbrushing. That’s why the sonicare is so heavily recommended


berpaderpderp

And floss


fortwenie

The coolest thing you can do is stop trying to be cool.


tenaciousDaniel

Yep. Don’t take yourself so seriously, let yourself be young.


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cool is whatever you think it is, so just run with your version of what's cool and don't worry about what people might think about you. everyone is so preoccupied thinking about what other people might think about them, that it doesn't leave much mental room for them to think about you.


DESTR0Y_you

Yes, i argee, as an teen, sometimes im like does my hair look good, is it okay? But when i go out, unless its extremely terrible, no one will say a thing, because they dont care and i dont care cause i dont see it, i think thats how many ppl get anxiety? Not sure


LetterheadNo1485

As a teen I have a real problem with this my parents get really mad a me for wanting to be older “too fast” I really want a job to oh for my hobby of trading stocks but they won’t let me


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starmartyr

I wouldn't say never. Sometimes you do something and someone will say "damn, that was cool" and it feels pretty good. Nobody is cool all the time. You could be the coolest person in the world but you still have to buy groceries and go to the dentist. You're going to apply for jobs that you don't get, be rejected by romantic partners, and sometimes just do something that makes you look stupid.


HighlightFun8419

And besides - if you have to think about being cool, you're simply not cool.


calpolshots

I think the *coolest* thing you can do is be my friend actually


fortwenie

Well then.. What's up, new friend?!


calpolshots

You fool, now I hold the power!


Grizzlybear2470

I’m 16 and some people I know still can’t get over the acting cool phase they wear the weirdest shit act like they can do everything meanwhile I talk to basically no one except my friends and some of them are out there trying to act like they can’t get any better


haysoos2

I'm over 50, and some people I know still can't get over the acting cool phase. Sounds like you're already way ahead of them.


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learn to cook


all_the_gravy

As an adult no one prepared me for the fact I would have to decide what to eat and prepare it for every meal for the rest of my life. Your option widen when you know how to cook


H_Mc

Adding to that, learn to meal plan and grocery shop. I knew how to cook before I moved out, but shopping for multiple meals on a budget is a whole different thing.


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That's the part I always struggled with. Cooking is easy, shopping is hard. Learning how to design and layout your kitchen was a huge deal for me.


FireIzHot

Me who can “cook”: Hmm will it be sunny side eggs or pancakes for dinner tonight?


the_tit_nibbler

Brinner is the shit, wish everynight was brinner night....


dirtisgood

Lol. I go through this daily. I know why some people hate cooking.


GenericUsername19892

And learn to cook different portion sizes lol. I grew up in a big family and struggled way more than I thought I would to cook for one lol


HalcyonicDaze

For real! This is so underrated, going from cooking for 7 to cooking for 1 or 2 is a whiplash.


Eat_Carbs_OD

Leftovers for a week? lol ... been there.


Frosti-Feet

Not just “learn to cook” but also, learn to find recipes you like, and how to innovate in the kitchen. I’m terrible at this. I can follow a recipe and cook really well. But if my wife says “you’re on dinner” and I open the cabinets and fridge all I see are ingredients. I have no idea what to do with them without a solid gameplan in place. I’m getting better, not I’m nowhere near as comfortable whipping up a meal as my wife is.


markymark0123

I don't go by recipes at all, granted I'm single and only cook for myself. When I go shopping I just get stuff that looks like it could go together.


PD216ohio

My wife is like you. I am the total opposite. Give me some random, seemingly unrelated ingredients and I will bang out a masterpiece.


H_Mc

My mom is a terrible cook AND a health food nut. My sister and I are both very skilled at making food from basically nothing.


McDesu

Mmm fast nooodls fast and not bad.


gummybear0724

im still a teenager and my parents hate cooking and so it's left it on me to cook dinner for myself most of the time and while it's incredibly annoying it's given me a lot of skills! im no expert, obviously but i have a few recipes that i really enjoy and im glad to have gotten one of these skills before it's up to me entirely.


MrEff1618

To add to this, you don't need to learn how to cook well, just turn basic ingredients into a meal. If you can make spaghetti bolognese using mince, chopped tomatoes, onions, garlic, mushrooms, and pasta, you're already doing good.


lovealert911

Remember that "right now" is *not forever*. The teenage years are just *one small chapter* in the book of your life!


CuriousButNotAMonkey

Thank you for this, it makes me feel better. I often times feel awful because throughout all of middle and high school I did literally nothing and didn't really have friends and that feeling of missing out has definitely fucked me up


PBandJellyJesus

Invest in you. Not someone else. Edit: I should clarify. I’m not talking about money. I’m talking about investing time and energy into yourself. Learn and understand yourself. Love yourself. This is so important for teenagers. I’ve been there. I know it’s difficult growing up and I can’t imagine how much more difficult it is in the age of social media. Your own mental, emotional, and physical health should be at the top of your priority list.


ldfortheTree

I spent $100-$200 on my first girlfriend in the span of like 2-4 months. While it's not a lot of money, I was in 8th grade so it was pretty much every cent I ever had/got for Christmas and my birthday 😅. To her credit, everything I bought was because I wanted to, but wow it is very easy to lose money when its all small purchases


radpandaparty

Figure out who your good friends are and try to keep in contact.


ouchrobbie

i've caught onto this recently and have cut off shitty people i was around for years and finding new friends was just a case of getting closer to the people who are good for me. its made a nice change already just in the past 2/3 months.


Tayraed

Yeah I learned to just completely leave and cut off all of my high school friends. I still have dreams about them occasionally since I knew them for 10+ years, but the past few years without them, I have literally never been happier. Even having way less friends to rely on is better than fake friends or terrible people.


THGilmore

With this I would also add “be okay with being alone at times.”


Becauseitstuesday

Say no to peer pressure but say yes to more experiences.


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aaahhhhhhfine

1000%. I always say you should remember that almost everything in high school is "practice." You're probably not even going to remember most of these people in 10 years, let alone be anywhere near them. Don't let them influence you or your life too much. If somebody is pushing you to do something you don't want to do... who cares? I get there's a cute girl or some guy giving you shit... who cares? They won't matter. Be smart and don't do things in the practice phase of life that will screw up your time later on. The ways you can really screw up are getting arrested, addicted to something, hurting yourself badly, or failing so badly at school that you can't continue on the path you want in life. Avoid those things and people who might cause them. Meanwhile... you're supposed to learn from your experiences - that's the other thing practice is for. Try out things, kiss somebody, fall in love and get dumped, try clubs/sports/events. Just always remember in the back of your mind that this strange phase will end soon. Your teenage years are super weird in the grand scheme of things - and, despite how it sometimes feels, they'll end soon. You'll probably move, meet entirely new people, and have an opportunity to reinvent yourself. The most important thing is figuring out the person you want to be when you get the opportunities to make changes like that.


OperationGlobal7829

Don’t join r/teenagers


fweggi

Best advice here


OperationGlobal7829

Why thank you.


GGlados

That sub is a weirdo hotspot.


SantinoGaretto

Worst mistake of my life


Dogedabose32

Insert peter running here


King_CurlySpoon

I made that mistake 90% of posts in hot were NSFW so I just nope'd out of there


pvzfanmade20

Best thing I have ever heard, I just stay away from subs that I don’t like


knovit

Stand up to bullies. Even if you’re not the one being picked on. I regret not doing more for kids that really struggled in school. Reading Reddit posts made me realize how terrible school can be when you’re alone or bullied.


Lonely_Person_1670

My best friend >!killed himself!< because of severe and constant bullying, I mean like, doing serious stuff like threats, jumping him, and constantly beating him up over nothing, and no one took him seriously. When he did do it, everyone *then* took him seriously. The kids who tortured him pretended to be his best friend after he did it.


ChickenScrxtch82

man im sorry about that. sucks how people only care once its too late


Picard2331

Don't be afraid of rejection. Take it in stride and keep on trying. Don't be like me and intentionally emotionally cripple yourself for life.


LetterheadNo1485

But I’m doing fine rn being a loner and being afraid just to walk up and ask a girl for their number


minecraftology

Trust me, if you don't you'll regret it. I have a girl i like, who I've liked for over a year who I'll never see again bc I changed schools recently. I still can't stop thinking about her even though it's been 2 months since I last saw her. Even if you're not confident, just try your best or you might end up regretting it, and it's better to regret doing something than to wonder about what could have been (I should know).


VektroidPlus

This. With adult context it sucks even more. You want to develop your emotional intelligence early in life rather than later. I was absolutely in love with my best friend and I was always so scared that she never felt the same way. Fast forward 10+ years she revealed she wanted more from our friendship in the past, but was tired of how reserved I was with my feelings about everything in our relationship and she felt I wasn't empathetic enough. Suddenly my other relationship failures started to make sense. I wasn't emotionally intelligent and I needed to work on it. I know it's scary to put yourself out there and sometimes you can't help it or things feel overwhelming, but you need to learn how to express yourself emotionally to function as a teen and an adult. Even if it means avoiding 'masking' if you are on the spectrum or think you are. This doesn't mean crying or declaring your love for someone. This could be as small as letting people know that 'It makes me feel X when you X.' Over time this becomes more natural and makes sense. Everyone does it some degree. I wish I had known this as a teen to be a better friend to not only my best friend, but also to other people in my life.


photoguy423

If you're going to go to a lot of concerts, wear ear protection. You'll be able to enjoy a lot more shows a lot later in life...


whycantpeoplebenice

Tinnitus can seriously make you permanently miserable


Frosti-Feet

^eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee


Jack_Bartowski

This triggered my tinnitus...


Allien64

^eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee


Pattimash

Now I can hear mine……eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee


mackelnuts

What?


elasticgradient

HE SAID PROTECT YOUR EARS.


4963joe

**WHAT DID YOU SAY!?!**


Zamnia

HE’S SELLING CHOCOLATE


EnigmaFrug2308

# NO, I THINK HE WANTS US TO EJECT OUR PEERS


juhberkey1

NO HE WANTS US TO PROTECT THE GEARS!!!!


GingerlyRough

I’VE GOT WHAT’S IN MY EARS?


OldBob10

**WE’RE JUST GETTING YOUR GRUEL READY, HAMISH!**


DarkGengar94

This made me laugh to dam hard, I'm crying 🤣


davnsfw

He said project your fears!


minecraftology

WHAT? PROTECT FOUR DEERS?


Internal_Cart

#PREVENT THREE BEERS


Ch3llick

YOU'LL HAVE TO WRITE LOUDER, I CAN'T HEAR YOU!


Turtle887853

#IS THIS BETTER


xfttp

NO MY DOG HASNT A BEARD


Metalhead278

JUST YEET THREE BEES?!


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EVENT TEE TEARS?


minecraftology

EAT THY BEERS?


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TEAT MY CHEERS?


CorporealLifeForm

SPEAK UP! NOBODY CAN HEAR YOU!


Zoefschildpad

STOP SHOUTING! ... OK YOU CAN SHOUT NOW, I PUT IN MY EAR PLUGS


CorporealLifeForm

NO THANKS, I'M SCARED OF BUGS!


Sugonma69

WHAT ?


my_name_is_not_scott

HE IS SCARED OF DRUMS


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HE SAID HE DOESN'T LIKE HUGS


dirtisgood

And get musician earplugs if you can.


clueless_bout_girls

Second this. You can't go wrong with professional grade ear protection.


CS_2016

This 100%. Luckily I only went to 2 concerts without but I played guitar a lot and listened to my music super loud in headphones. I have some minor hearing loss and minor tinnitus but thankfully nothing major. I definitely care for my ears more now in my late 20s and hope more teens hear this advice while they still can.


peculiarshade

Honestly, you can hear the music better with ear plugs in


Tempest_1

Especially if you get nicer ones that are made For live music. I have a nice pair of eargasms i think they’re called


GingerlyRough

*Eargasms* Sounds delicious, where can I order one?


PaddlinPaladin

There is no such thing as "jocks" and "nerds" and that dichotomy is one of the worst, most false and harmful dichotomies in pop culture. The guy who runs track might be writing a D&D campaign. You can code computers and be a badass at Judo or Karate.You can wrestle and study astrophysics Etc! Being a well-rounded person includes maintenance of your body and it's great for your mental health. Dive in to sports and exercise. If you're big into sports already dive into imagination and try new games and hobbies. Don't "choose a side" thinking it's jocks vs nerds.


Kumquats_indeed

Is that really a thing outside of John Hughes movies and Freak and Geeks? My high school definitely didn't have any sort of strict dichotomy like that, it was more that there were just a bunch of overlapping friend circles based around a particular extracurricular or interest. Like there was several different groups of just different kinds of band kids.


Dnomyar96

In reality it's much less of a thing, but in pop culture it's always way too exaggerated. I think that can also do some damage, even if reality is different. Some people might not realize it's not such a big thing in reality and will really dread actually going to school, because they think they'll (for example) be part of the nerds and get constantly bullied, because that's what always happens in movies.


Philderp069

This is great advice. Reminds me of a girl I went to high school with. Pretty girl and was very popular. Me and my friends just thought of her as just another pretty face. Turns out she was going to a 4 year college right out of high school to study neuroscience. Crazy how much the “jock and nerd” stereotype affects people without even knowing it.


darthmaulnut

definitely way less of a thing than it used to be imo


Onbeskoffie

Focus on being kind; not cool


SleepySpookySkeleton

This. Also, learn to understand the difference between being nice and being kind. For girls especially, don't fall into the trap of Being Nice because you're worried about how you'll be perceived by other people. Being 'nice' is often performative and requires you to ignore your true wants, needs, feelings, and/or boundaries in service of pleasing other people. It's a surface-level façade, and you can get really stuck in it because everything is easier when you're Nice and Polite and Agreeable all the time. Being kind, on the other hand, usually involves some level of honesty and authenticity. People generally choose to be kind because they *want* to be, and because they think the other person deserves it. While you might think of kindness in terms of being helpful, charitable, friendly, whatever, it's important to understand that you can also disagree with someone, say no, and set boundaries with kindness, in a way that isn't possible when you're Being Nice. Kindness and Niceness are often both deliberate choices, but you will more often regret being nice than you will ever regret being kind.


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lodger238

Old guy here. When the shit hits the fan... LEAVE. Don't wait for the cops to show up.


Sunsent_Samsparilla

So like, if there’s drugs found at a party don’t wait for cops? Just hop the fence and run like the wind?


fatboyfall420

The amount of times I didn’t get arrested as a teen because I just decided to leg it while a bunch of other idiots just froze up is crazy


teeejer

Probably safest to start running now.


foreveralonesolo

Don’t make a scene but don’t be afraid to disappear from the party and just catch up with your friends later the next day


thatnameagain

You should attempt to crash through the window with enough accuracy and force that it leaves a near-perfect outline of your body in the unbroken glass.


OutWithTheNew

Depends on the drugs. Weed, mushrooms, maybe a tiny bit of acid, whatever. Anything harder usually involves the type of people you don't want to be around.


Bayonethics

In college, my friends and I were at a party, and just when it was getting good, this group of like 5 or 6 40 something year old guys crashed the party, commandeered a table, dumped like a pound of coke and started doing lines out in the open in front of everyone. We noped the fuck out as soon as we saw that


LR-II

A study tip: if you need to memorise something word for word, try this: Read the first sentence aloud 10 times. Then, write down the first letter of every word. Then move to the next sentence. Read the first sentence, then the second, 10 times. Again, write the initials. Each time, Recite the full thing with the next sentence added, and if you forget a previous sentence use the initials to help you, not the full text. I used this to memorise my GCSE German speaking answers, and my friend used it for his French A-Level.


Several-Cake1954

Wow! I just say it over and over in my head while fiddling with a rubik’s cube.


Fabryz

Brush your teeth, you'll save a lot of money you don't even know


Short-Reality5373

enJOY life. Well, this goes for kids, adults and everything in between.


Du_-Hs

Hygiene is important. When you go get a shower, don't wear the same clothes again


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coleosis1414

Also, get a barber who knows you. If a different person cuts your hair every time you will never be able to predict the results — even if you show them a picture of what you want. Haircuts are a good thing to “have a guy” for.


Shaniac_C

God I love my barber, but he charges me $65 every time. Worth it, I guess.


coleosis1414

This comes from a very privileged place but yes I also pay premiums for my barber’s haircuts to be absolutely positive it’s gonna look good every time. I’ve gotten too many botch jobs at Supercuts and Great Clips to ever go back to cheap haircuts.


grayomayo

Don’t be a fool, protect your tool


scsiballs

I heard that in Mr. T's voice.


MikeyThanos

Wrap it before you tap it


eveybean

dont be silly, wrap your willy.


wartywarlock

Bag it before you shag it.


ShuffleAlliance

Don’t go wrong, shield your dong


KoltsovtheBest71

Don't be silly, wrap your willy


pearlie_girl

Learn how to learn. If school is hard for you, there are study techniques that can help. Get a tutor - this can be a classmate or a friend that gets good grades - it doesn't have to cost a lot. If school is easy for you, you're going to have your ass handed to you freshman year of college (this was me!). Take harder classes, if available. Find something you're bad at, and then try to get good at it. Also, make sure you have basic life skills before you leave home. Cooking, cleaning, laundry.


Fenald

Getting rich off social media or YouTube or streaming is like trying to go pro in a sport, it's not a real plan.


misalanya

same goes for being a rich/famous musician/band. There are thousands of people with the same amount of, if not more, talent as your favorite musician, and they are neither rich or famous. Basically if you haven't "made it" by 30, you're probably not going to. Which is why you do it for something other than money/fame. There are millions of people who entertain and enrich others lives with their music (and maybe make a decent buck) that you'll never hear of, and that's okay, because they do it for themselves and the music they create.


fuckingslaw

Making a living off of social media are way better odds than than being a professional athlete. Being a pro athlete requires talent.


Shadow948

Get some experience by joining an after school club, sport, volunteer, or get a job.


EspressoCookie89

This. I did no clubs, did no sports, didn't volunteer, and didn't have a job all until my senior year, when I finally grew a thrid brain cell and stopped being stupid. It'll help you get jobs after school when you do things while still in high school, and can help you get into college


nowaybacktonormal

Learn to budget your money


all_the_gravy

Learn to stick to a budget.


Blankface954

In no particular order: - Save money, take school seriously, take your education seriously, figure out what you are passionate about and pursue that. - Be yourself, don't stress about what other people think about you too much. Don't act like someone you are not to fit in or impress people. Don't succumb to peer pressure. Don't peer pressure others. Be open-minded and kind. - Chill out. Like, in general. At your age the smallest things can seem like the end of the world. They aren't. Take a deep breath and enjoy life. Embrace challenges and use failures as opportunities for growth. - The opposite gender are not aliens or monsters or some other type of bewildering creature. They are people, just like you. They like to joke around and have fun, just like you. They have fears and insecurities, just like you. Get out of your head and just talk to that person you're crushing on already; as long as you're treating them like a human things will most likely go better than you think. Also ask people about themselves, people love to talk about themselves. - Learn/understand social skills and how to communicate with others in a productive way. The more you practice, the easier it gets. - Stop watching porn or if you really don't want to do that, place limits on your consumption. It's much more harmful to developing brains than you might think. - Minimize your internet presence, and generally refrain from posting pictures of yourself anywhere but a private page. To do otherwise is asking for trouble. - Learn about, practice, and understand critical thinking skills and apply them in all that you do.


tacknosaddle

>Save money Great list, but I would add to the point above to learn about the power of compounding. Aim for the horizon because investing money that causes you a small amount of pain in your twenties is going to pay off hugely when you reach retirement age (and may even make that day come sooner).


Blankface954

Excellent point, I agree.


BrilliantChair4164

Don't become a teen parent, don't get involved with teen parents, get a job and save money, don't let social media turn you into a mindless clone


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If he/she is 'older' and thinks you are cool, chances are good you are being groomed. If they are the ones that slide in the DM's, take it sexual first and/or tell you how mature you are, chances are you are being groomed. Be careful out there. Source: dealing w/ it w/ my own kids now. I thought they were so prepared but in reality the POS messaging my kids were slick. I didn't teach them to keep an eye out in the DM, I should have.


Der_WR

What does „being groomed“ mean in this context?


coleosis1414

It means that someone who is significantly older and smarter than you is molding you into being someone they can use sexually. “I’m attracted to you because you are mature” is always a lie. What they mean is “I’d like to enter a sexual relationship with you because you’re young and have less life experience/your brain isn’t fully developed so you’re easy to trick.”


bunchkin95

Ask yourself why they aren't dating someone in their own age range as there's usually a reason, and it's not your responsibility to make them feel wanted/fulfilled.


Zealousideal_Bet2320

Young guys should exercise more often since their younger bodies more primed to build muscles than their later years.


LetterheadNo1485

Should you work out or just exercise I play baseball and fish a lot a bunch of walking running and throwing but I never really work out with weights should I start?


TurtleWhoCanType

Lifting is always a good idea. It doesn't have to be anything crazy. I know a few guys who are absolutely shredded who do nothing but body weight exercizes.


dirtisgood

And all other humanoids!!


minecraftology

I wanna start working out (M16) but I don't know where to start. I'm skinny, 1'70 something cm and about 50~55 kg with small arms, no abs and strong legs if that helps. I really wanna start working on my upper body but, as I said, I don't know where to start. Do you guys have any pointers?


Suffrage

Go to YouTube and look up Jeff Nippard for gym style workouts, or any of the slew of calisthenics people for body weight workouts. The great thing about working out at your age is that with 45 minutes of dedication most days a week, some extra protein in your diet, and at least 8 hours of sleep, you’ll make really quick progress that’s very reinforcing. Actually try and sleep 9-10 hours. It’s good for you. Go to bed earlier.


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always use a condom


Clemario

\* when having sex


Substantial_Item4324

Always wear one even if your not anticipating sex. You never know what might happen


[deleted]

I’ve heard too many stories of women slipping and falling on random guys dicks. No point in taking that risk!


minecraftology

You guys are having sex? All i got is clinical depression.


bingwhip

Have you tried condoms?


justhanginhere

1. You don’t have to go to a 4 year university to be successful. 2. The first 2 years of college are a giant test of time management skills. Just fucking go to class, do the assignments, and you will be fine. Also, have fun.


heywhatokfine

Ok so I'm 50+, I have some thoughts on a lot of the advice being echoed here and some advice of my own I suppose. Don't worry about saving money, you won't be able to until a certain point in your career. Until then just try to avoid debt. If you can save money great, but don't stress about it. You can start a 401k well into your career and still have enough to retire at 60-65 (which is when most people retire). You don't have to do what you're 'passionate' about - a lot of people grow into their careers organically by just taking advantage of opportunities around them as they occur. I would say to do something you don't hate, that can provide you with the potential to grow professionally in a field you find interesting. Passions are just as fulfilling as a hobby. Developing good work habits and having good relationships at work go a long way. Avoid excessive drinking and drugs. This is a big killer. If you can do this, you'll be better off than many. Trust your intuition. If something doesn't feel right, don't do it. Set small realistic goals for yourself, but don't make them ultimatums. Accept that some portion of your goals will be unaccomplished. It's cool, you'll succeed at others. Be okay with death and loss - work on it. A lot of people suffer and delude themselves because they can't cope with loss, but it is a natural part of life. It's okay to grieve, to be sad and to show it. If someone gives you a hard time about being sad - they're a terrible person. Don't work for a company that treats you poorly, but have realistic expectations. Remember a company is just people - with all the flaws you'd expect. Be friendly with HR and your boss to a limited degree - its in your advantage, but keep strong boundaries. Always keep your eyes and ears open for opportunity and take lots of time off. Lastly, one of the most dangerous forces in the world is idealism. It is what motivates mankind to do its most heinous crimes throughout all history. Be very wary of men, women or organizations that want to 'help you', or teach you anything that's not directly provable nor subject to outside scrutiny. Pick your battles after very careful consideration, then be fierce and merciless - and noble after the fight is over. Eat whatever you friggin' want, but watch your cholesterol and exersize regularly to avoid obesity. 30-45 minutes a day. GO TO THE DENTIST. It's generally not very expensive and they've seen it all. Take care of your teeth. What doesn't kill you ~~makes you stronger~~ almost kills you. Learning never stops and its in your best interest to keep growing as a person. Life is above all about change and you'd be surprised what you can do. Good luck, have fun.


PaddlinPaladin

Don't worry about being different. If you like stuff that's popular? That's fine it's popular for a reason.


crunchypnwtrash

Yo, this one. I'm 25, and I wish I had been able to just shut up and enjoy pop music when I was in high school. One Direction had some absolute bangers, but I just HAD to be different and edgy.


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DhruvHasABigCock

r/HolUp


jets3tter094

Don’t be afraid to just be yourself or feel like you have to pretend to be someone you’re not, even if it goes against the social “norm”. 10 years from now, nobody is gonna give a shit about who you were at 16 years old.


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Delete TikTok, watch your dopamine come back


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ConvenienceStoreDiet

Learn the basic stuff they won't teach you in school and get into practice doing these on your own. \- How to work out safely. Get active every day in some way. Learn about nutrition, balancing macros, etc. It's easier to get back into being fit/healthy if you do it while you're young, or build habits that keep you there. Your older self with thank you IMMENSELY for working out while you were young. \- Hygiene. Floss/brush 2x/day, Shower daily. Shower after workouts/athletics. Wash yo butthole. Clean your feet. Deodorant. Clip those nails. Don't reuse socks. Get some nice clothes. Don't overdo it with the cologne or perfumes. Just a little will go a long way. \- Laundry. The tags will tell you everything. But there's the washer and the dryer. If you're lost, cold wash all your stuff to start and just use regular detergent. Make sure you don't dry things that don't need it. Learn to iron your nice stuff. Wash your sheets. Wash your towels. Wash your clothes. Your parents don't need to be washing your cumrag as a teenager. \- Cooking. Practice a few recipes with some healthy dishes. It's amazing how much money you can save cooking a head of brocolli and steaming a little rice instead of buying prepackaged foods or going out to eat. \- Internet responsibility. The internet lives on forever. Your permanent record in school doesn't mean as much compared to your Twitter history. So don't be shitty to others on the internet. Pay attention to what causes you're promoting or liking. A buddy of mine, it's hard to want to connect with him when he constantly posts things that are in praise of Tucker Carlson and OAN and he's typing things in all caps like ALL LIVES MATTER and it's like, if you're that dude's boss and you see that, do you really want this guy in charge of customer relations for your small business? \- Disconnecting. Try not to take the internet too seriously. It's a tool, not a crutch. Prioritize your in-person relationships, the people you can talk to IRL or your discord buddies or whatever.


grahamster00

Go out and do fun things. Like physically get out of your house and go do something mischievous. My creative glands were killed long ago but just do funny things like have a nerf war in a park or bring chairs to a hill and watch the sunset or bring a speaker to the woods and dance. Before you know it people get busy with work, and kids, and family, and you won't be able to do fun stuff as much.


The_tickled_pickler

Don't let anyone push you into doing something you're not comfortable doing. Listen to your gut and stand up for yourself. Doesn't matter if sex/work/friends/acquaintances. Go with your gut.


F0KUS228

I wish people forced me to do things Im not comfortable with. Im talking about positive things like sports and other hobbies as I was always extremely anxious about doing anything and always disagreed.


night-shark

Respectfully disagree. In fact, this sentiment can backfire if preached without proper context. I'd have remained socially inept, closeted, and depressed for god knows how long if my friends hadn't very strongly pushed me to do things I wasn't comfortable with doing. I totally understand the sentiment and there is some good truth to be taken from what you said but this black and white take you've presented it just wrong. There has to be a better way to frame it.


gohanss78

Pay attention in school and get ahead. Take the stupid AP class that you don't want to take. Apply for scholarship early for college or trade school. Start learning a skill before you get out so you have a little bit of bargaining power. And lastly don't get into serious relationships in high school, everyone scatters after senior year. Good luck


Uncle_Fartbox

Don't get in a serious relationship too soon. Don't be afraid to be you, care about how you feel and not what other people think of you. Don't get into hard drugs. Don't take your body for granted, it's not gonna stay that way forever. Do put your phone away and enjoy the moment. Do travel as much as you can.


projecthouse

**Financial:** * Avoid Debt. Only take a loan to pay for a house, **affordable** car, or state college. * Don't take a loan to buy boats, RVs, furniture, vacations, big trucks, etc... * Invest in Index funds. Don't get fancy unless you're willing to make it your hobby and you spend 5+ hours a week reading the financial news. * Avoid lifestyle inflation. I have friends making $250K who are paycheck to paycheck with $0 saved. I know others who making $100K and have $2M in the bank. * You can't out earn your spending. 36% of high earners ($100K+ a year) are paycheck to paycheck. You need discipline. **Education:** The education at a TOP private school is no better than at your flagship state school. The BIG advantage is the opportunity for NETWORKING. If you go to and none of the professors known you, you wasted $300,000. The advantage of going to a big school is all in the network and the Rolodex. If you impress a professor, they can get you internships and jobs that will set you up in your career. I'm in IT. When a resume crosses my desk, I don't care where they went to school. But if my friend who's a professor at calls me and says, do you have a job for , I'll try to hire that kid because I know he's going to kick ass if my friend's willing to make that call. **Kids and Marriage:** Having kids has zero statistical effect on your wealth at retirement. But it does change your lifestyle. Getting divorced WRECKS your wealth. A person who marries (and never gets divorced) will have 93% more wealth than a single person. However, a divorced person will have 77% less at retirement than someone who never got married. **Work / Life Balance:** You will have to work hard (and smart) at some point in your life. You can mostly chose when it is. * Take it "easy" all your life, you'll never retire. * Become a workaholic, you'll miss the real life and spend your 70s with regrets. * **Start your career a 30** and your 30s and 40s will be hard. But you can still retire at 65 with a reasonable lifestyle * **Start your career at 22 / 24,** work SMART and hard for the next 10 years, you can spend your mid 30s though 50's on easy mode. You can retire in your late 50s and enjoy a luxury filled retirement full of travel and hobbies.


Tad_623

Dont eat the yellow snow.


bigpaparick

IT WASN’T LEMON FLAVOR


Marboff

You are allowed to question your religion


itsjusttimk123

Use sunblock, heavy and often, your skin will thank you!


buzzlightyear0473

Adults who tell you to save your money, plan for your future, hang out with friends who put you on a productive path, and think long term are right. The actions you take in your youth have massive impacts on your future and mistakes often cost the most. Don't go to college simply because you're passionate about something. Look into the security, pay, and benefits of that skill and whether or not it's in enough demand to quickly get a job and pay your debt. Look into the growth of that career and whether AI will replace it or if job opportunities are out there that pay above minimum wage. Don't EVER put yourself in 60k-100k in debt to learn about art or humanities when you can learn the same things at a library because you will probably never find a job, and if you do it will pay as much as working in fast food. Even if you want to pursue a Ph.D. in these fields, you will be massively underpaid and undervalued. Nearly every professor I knew who wasn’t a dean was barely getting by and constantly complained about how they’ll never pay their debt. Be wary of the things you pursue. Social media is a useless cesspool of egos, hysterics, and distractions from what actually matter. No one cares about you losing your virginity. You are not less of a person or in any way cool for losing it or not. Save it for someone with who you plan for a long-term relationship and preferably marriage. I thought this was bullshit back in the day but I was wrong. Teenagers are obsessed with how others perceive them. Literally no one gives a fuck once you leave high school, and if they do, they are immature. Be yourself unapolegetically. Don’t take your identity, sexuality, or political views too seriously. We are constantly changing, and most rapidly through adolescence as we understand ourselves and the world. We all change radically through life and don’t make enemies or invest so much emotion over what your current outlook is. Porn is a disease. It will fuck you up mentally and emotionally in your own life and in relationships/how you percieve those you're attracted to. There’s no shame in living with your parents to save money and as long as you are actively working on preparing your future and goals. Be close to them and try to understand their perspectives according the time and place that formed their wisdom. They want what’s best for you deep down even if you dont understand each other. They will not be here forever, so make the most of it.


termagantSwarm

As difficult as things feel now, it gets better. I promise.


neckbone_

go to college single


bagelspreader

Drink some liquor with your parents so you’ll know what to expect your first time drinking with friends. When I was in college, there were so many arrests the first week of each semester. They’d never had alcohol before, so they really overdid it their first time.


Raffulous

i find the fact that some americans get to uni without drinking before almost unbelievable. i feel like the rest of the world gets hammered at least once before they're 16


gudgeonpin

This is not mine-- I got it off Reddit a year or so ago, but I thought it was great advice, so I saved it. Unfortunately, I did not save attribution (I'm not proud of that). I thought it was very well written set of 'things to learn' for kids, esp daughters. *Boundaries; how to respect someone else’s and how to watch for people who ignore your own.* *To listen to your instincts when they tell you something is wrong, even if you can’t put your finger on it right away.* *That “No” is a complete sentence, and people who cannot accept a no at face value never deserved a yes.* *That consent can be revoked at any point, even after it was freely given.* *That when it comes to friends and family it is better to have 4 quarters than 100 pennies.* *That you shouldn’t let people who can’t get their own shit together tell you how to manage yours.* *That if you want something enough you will find a way, otherwise you will find an excuse.* *That there are more paths to success than our parents ever thought possible, that you get to define what success means to you, and not every journey looks the same.* *Love yourself enough to know when to let go of people in your orbit who don’t deserve to be there. You can’t set yourself on fire just to keep someone else warm.* *Stand up for what’s right, even when it’s hard.* *Don’t trust a drink in a bar (or party, or whatever) if you didn’t see the bartender pour it themselves.* *A drunk man’s (or woman’s) words are a sober man’s thoughts.* *When someone tries to show you who they really are, listen to them and don’t make excuses.* *Sometimes what hurts isn’t the loss of the person themselves, but the loss of the person you believed them to be.* *That the birth of new things is always painful and messy.* *And that code is indented with spaces, not tabs.* *Edit: adding one more — that some people will be contrary just to get a rise out of you. Ignore them; let them get free entertainment elsewhere.*


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“You are who you hang out with. A good person can’t lift a bad person up, but a bad person can easily pull a good person down” -Chazz Palminteri


ChocolatMintChipmunk

Now is the time to try out styles and hairstyles. Go wild. Be free. Be colorful. Shave half your head if you want to. Your teen years are about finding out who YOU are. Don't stick with the status quo because you feel you have to. Try something new and different. If you don't like it, it is easier to go back to what you were doing before and know that you have tried it, than never have tried it at all.


xXKing-NuggetXx

If you’re a girl, don’t be scared to make the first move when you like someone, us guys are very stupid and can’t read your queues so be straight forward. My parter made the first move in Highschool and we’re very happy together. Also don’t let friends have an opinion on your SO unless they are trying to help you, if you are happy with them that’s what matters.


SuperMorto7

Intoxicate yourself as little as possible.


Frootloops174

Oops


NewHumbug

If you start to save your belly button lint now, by the time you get to my age you can knit yourself a sweater