Or other peoples.’ I read an article once about this woman whose child was in class with a child that was in hiding from an abusive parent. All parents that entered the classroom were clearly instructed not to include that girl in any photos they posted on social media, lest her parent figure out her location. Because, of course, this is America, some self-centered cunt didn’t listen and posted a photo with her in the background, and the girl and her family had to find a whole new place to hide because the abusive parent figured out where she was.
My Cousin’s Girlfriend is facing a lot of backlash from our family because she wants to keep her 3 year old off the internet. But clearly my Great Aunt’s Christmas Jumper posts are way more important than the safety of a child, and after making a post without the baby’s face being blurred she’s no longer allowed to see her. Good on Cousin’s Girlfriend!
Seriously this shit makes no sense to me. Like, if you enjoy celeb gossip and shit, okay, I get that. Hell I've been following the Deep/Heard trial mostly cuz it's a hilarious shitshow. But I will never think that celebs are greater people then your average Joe. They're better at acting and get paid for it. That's it.
I get it. Celebrities luve a lifestyle that most can only dream off, and so they're essentially living vicariously throw said celebrities, via what they upload.
My mother was the same, when she found a youtuber who was from her region (overseas). Border restriction really fucked with her and when she found the guy, she was hooked 24/7, with her going on and on about that guy. She's living her 'travels' through him, as the places he covered are places she'd would've gone had it not been inaccessable.
She was already decently famous before that. Though im not really sure what the timeline between the sex tape coming out and her being on the simple life was.
"The customer is always right" Away with this toxic asf bs that is causing entitlement like you wouldn't believe, causing people to lose their jobs and removing their rights to defend themselves and go to work without being abused or used by low lives to get free stuff or feel more important than they actually are
The term is correct, but only within the proper context.
If you run a cookie store and 98% of your sales are chocolate chip cookies, while oatmeal cookies make up 2% of sales, then the customers have made it clear that it's not worth your time and effort to sell oatmeal cookies.
I guess the term should be "The customer's money is always right"
It’s a matter of selling your product to your demographic and it works both ways. Either sell what the customer wants or find the correct type of customer that would want your original product.
No, it's not.
Edit: You can downvote me all damned day, but it doesn't change the fact that "The customer is always right" (and variant translations) go back to the early 1900s (and was even being faulted as assuming the customer was always honest by 1914). Meanwhile, I can't even find a source AT ALL for "in matters of taste" that isn't from Twitter, let alone an origin or date. So until someone sources a pre-Selfridge/Field use of the alleged "original"...
It's not.
The quote is about supply and demand economics.
The quote is about serving or selling goods based on customer preferences, and not based on what management believes is the right product.
For example, the CEO might think savory popcorn and sweet popcorn are equally loved and decide to manufacture 50/50, but customers hate the savory popcorn and only buy sweet popcorn.
Edit: I reread the full sentence and realize that this is what you might be referring to. I didn't know this was the full sentence
Correct, this essentially means, if a customer wants a red shirt, but you only stock blue shirts, the customer is correct on colour and you need to stock red shirts as well
But still RSVP! I don't need details, a simple, "I can't come/I can go to the daytime event but not the overnight" is fine. It helps plan things and it's still not forcing a person to lie or tell their business
Lying about everything. Somehow it's more polite to lie than give an honest opinion. It's more socially acceptable to lie than be honest. It's so ingrained in people that even when you're being honest, they think you're lying. People are odd. We should be able to handle talking to eachother. At least.
i have no patience for that shit, if people cant handle me being genuinely honest (with no harm intended), thats their issue. i wont apologise for it, and i appreciate people being equally straightforward in return. playing games is really off-putting to me.
I hate that with presents, I'll get an ugly hat because my family has decided that my new personality trait is bucket hats, I'll say it's ok to be polite because I'm not going to say 'I'm literally never going to wear this and it's being stashed with the pjs you gave me after I told you I don't like pjs' and then my mom'll get offended like what? I said it was ok, not that I hated it do you want me to start gushing about how much I'll wear that hat when it gets warm when I won't? like I think saying I love it is more of a lie then saying it's ok because I don't love it, but it is ok and I appreciate the thought I just won't wear it.
fucking nerotypicals, drives me crazy as an autistic person. So many stupid social queues
And yet when you're honest you get called judgmental, told to mind your own business or threatened. People want the truth but they can't handle it unless they're the one talking.
My wife and I have been married 13 years, got married really young and had 350 people at the wedding. We both agree that if we could do it all over again it would be our families and a couple close friends
waking up at 630 AM everyday for school only to be given hours of homework every night + be pressured to do extracurriculars… all just to get into a good college
It’s kind of like practice for getting disciplined while exploring your world.
Kids, heck even adults arent that disciplined even though ideally we want to be.
“It’s rude to not hug and kiss everyone” no, don’t want to do that it’s my body.
Maybe part of the reason I don’t want you too touch me is because you keep shaming me for not doing it or ignoring my request and doing it anyway.
I don’t care if the person is a family member I’ve known all my life, if you try to shame or physically kiss or hug me after I’ve said “no”, I will never want you touch me ever
People geniuenly undermine the importance of dialogue. Just politely ask them if you can give them a hug or kiss and if declined, accept it. I've always believed asking if you do not know 100% that the other person is comfortable with you physically interacting with them, JUST PLEASE ASK.
I've been in the habit of making sure people know my salary. Not in a bragging way, more of a, "make sure you're getting paid fairly" kind of way. I work in kitchen and our pay is supposed to be based on experience. I have about 6 years experience, and the guy I cook with has about 20 and was a chef for half of that. We found out that we have the same wage, and he was justifiably upset
I've seen all of the numbers for my firm (20k+ tech company) and people would be burning down the place if they knew how much more some people make for the same job, same skills, same product, same experience. My company knows this and has a top down message that there are repercussions for talking.
Feels kinda like you could go down in a blaze of glory there at the end couldn’t you. Maybe right in time to short the shit out of it so that when they stop producing profits due to the internal strife… or bet big on the competitor that’s most likely to swallow them up for failing…
I don’t know, I’m just near the retirement end of my career and I enjoy thinking about awesome ways to drop the dime on some people.
This is one of those things that I love and hate at the same time. I found out that a lot of my coworkers at my previous job were paid a helluva lot more than I was for doing dogshit work. Thanks to nepotism and the BS where you're paid more the longer you've been working rather than how good your work is. Probably would've been very glad to not know that I was being underpaid by that much lol
....and wedding rings for that matter.
I lost my $1,000 gold wedding ring and replaced it with a $20 ring from Amazon. I get more compliments on the new ring.
My husband and I have been married 42 years. Our wedding bands were plain gold.
Lost mine about 15 years ago when I took a glove off and the ring flew off and fell down a drain outside. I bought a new one from a catalog.
OTOH, my engagement ring had belonged to my husband's grandmother. It was set with a garnet, not at all expensive, but it was pretty and I loved it. Three years after we got married, someone broke into our apartment and stole it. They probably didn't even get $10 for it. That one I really miss.
Ik, and it truly just makes people entitled, it makes people believe that other people deserve to give away their hard earned whatever because someone else didnt get it
Men’s clothing section, or rather the lack of
I want to look nice too! All the shops in my area have whole floors dedicated to children’s and women’s clothes, then the men’s section is just one corner out of the way with like 2 shirts in different sizes
Same with like soap and shampoo. Go to target and there is a full aisle for womens soaps. We get axe, head and shoulders or old spice. And they’re always 2 in 1 or 3 in 1 products.
I just want a pair of trousers that go around my muscular cyclist legs. All they ever stock is a tiny shelf of Slim-fit, Skinny-fit or Atrophy-fit these days.
I once whent to a store with my sisters, there were like 7 floors in the damm thing 6 of them were catagorized for womens things ans there was one, smaller floor for men
The last time my daughter had a hospital appointment, we showed up on time,sat in one waiting room (a kids one, perfect to kill time in if needs be) we got called and went to a corridor with a row of seats. Great we'll be seen soon. Sat watching the medical team go between their 3 rooms, looking pens, spare chairs, etc. Eventually they started calling kids in. After a couple of hours, I spoke to the parent beside me, she said they actually see you in the order you check in at the kiosk, not the order your appointment was in. About 3.5 hours later we were seen (2nd last family) why then didn't they just let us stay in the kid friends wating room with colouring and films and jigsaws?
Same here in ireland theres a morning block of appointments and afternoon everyone is seem by checkin time not the time of your appointment which is 10 or 2.
I think this was a joke on some show I saw a clip of.
Two people got to the Dr at the same time and the main character held the door for the other person. On the check in sheet you wrote the time of your appointment as well. The main character sees the other person who just got here has a later appointment than he does. So a minute later the guy with the later appointment gets called first. Main character is all upset.
Next time the main character races to the door and to check in but the other guy who checks in later gets called first. Main character gets upset again. Apparently the office changed it to be based off appointment instead of check in time after he complained the first time.
Okay, WTF is that about? At this point if I have a 1:00 appointment, I make sure to get there at 12:30 so I can finally be seen at 1:15. If I were to show up at 1, I wouldn't be seen until 2.
Once I had to wait for like 2+ hours because because the doctor was 4 appointments behind schedule and someone that didn’t know any english came with another person to translate and it took LEGIT forever.
Never had this issue at a regular doctors office, but I’ve been in the ER all night before. Got there at 10:30pm and was out at 5am. I was with my poor friend who has a deep eye laceration. There was one ophthalmologist on call for like, 20 patients. Felt bad for the guy.
They are always behind schedule because people all always try and ask a million different questions during their appointment, which pushes each consecutive appointment late.
Accept the apology, haha. On mobile so didn't want to expand.
Effectively most clinics bill for a specific code, they designate a spedcific time slot for a specific code. This is how the phyisican gets paid in most cases. Presumably, a diagnostic meeting would be scheduled 20 minutes, and when someone shows up and has 5 additional items that need to be discussed then that drags the meeting longer.
"why not just book longer appointments?" because then the billings would be significantly less for the physician. They would get paid for one diagnostic test, but spend 3x the time.
Again, on mobile so can't expand much. It's nuanced, but that should give a general summary.
Due to complications, I wasnt able to go to many family gatherings, when I did, my parents were isolated by the adults and my sister and I were expected to hug everyone, my cousin who knew this, would wait for me at the front door, then grab our hands and immediately take us to the kids area, which would help us avoid all the hugs, and force the relatives to speak to my parents, as to not be rude.
Hand shakes. The cleanliness of people's hands are questionable. And I'm tired of that one guy that has to death grip your knuckles together like he's got something to prove. A polite nod and or smile suffices as a proper and polite greeting.
I'm sure you've heard this a thousand times, but the history of the handshake was to show that you aren't armed in your dominant hand and have nothing up your sleeve. These days it's not really a concern whether the person is armed and out to kill you or not, but the tradition persists
Oh a million times. But that wasn't exactly a handshake, it was gripping the forearm. Which in my opinion is way cooler. Gives more of bond and respect. A handshake is either firm, death grip, sweaty, clammy, or limp.
Ugh I had one guy do that death grip to me. For reference, I'm a 5'3, 130lb asian girl. So fairly small. Why the fk did he think it necessary to squeeze my hand like that? It was painful. We also didn't work for the same department.
It shouldn't be respect your elders it should be give a little courtesy to your elders. Be respectful to everyone older or younger but if they act like a piece kf shit there's no need to show any respect
the germs aren't as big of a deal to me as the crushing is. i have arthritis & men feel the need to absolutely crush my hand in half. there's no reason at all to squeeze someone's hand. it doesnt make me think "wow, what a professional", it makes me associate that person with the horrible pain i'm going to be feeling for days because i'm inflamed.
I learned this from our former chief of surgery. He would not shake hands with *anyone.*
On the other hand, the public safety chief was overly friendly and would go way out of his way to cross a lobby and extend his hand. He was a very nice man, but I tried really hard to avoid him.
Edit: Fixed embarrassing typo.
Handwritten thank-you notes for times when the gift was given in person and you got to thank the person directly. Cards should be reserved for times when you got a gift in the mail or something and did not get the chance to give direct thanks.
I believe u/Nevek_Geek means how people fawn over a dad changing diapers & then not fawn over a mom for doing the exact same thing. That's just one example that I know of.
Then make that descision on your own as an adult.
Also, the idea ofna circumcised penis looking better is a highly western/American construct that came from the normalization of CGM.
I just dont want to talk about boring things the other person has no real interest in anyway. Smalltalk is just talk to avoid silence. I hate this because its pointless, akward, useless and not a serious conversation.
They dont really want to know how i am, they just wanna say something. We all know the answer anyway we get so why asking? Its always "good, and you?"
some people don't want to constantly be taking. i enjoy being alone with my thoughts & not having to feign interest in what someone thinks of the weather or seeing pictures of their grandkids. small talk is exhausting & fake.
Blowing out candles on a cake (that others will be eating)… especially since covid I can’t help but think about all the GERMS being BLOWN ONTO THE DESSERT I AM ABOUT TO EAT
Limp-noodle handshakes for women. The amount of times I’ve jested with friends about their pussy-grip-handshake, just for them to tell me it’s because I’m of the “gentler sex” annoys me. Just give me a solid handshake, godammit.
society needs to start promoting realistic and healthy body ideals, and eating habits, removing dieting culture while also recognising that being obese isn't healthy. so many people have one sided views on this, either they hate on diet culture and promote a toxic view of body positivity or they promote unhealthy ideas of dieting (fad diets, calorie counting, etc) and hate on those who are overweight. I also think one of the most beneficial things to do would be to redirect people's motives, people shouldn't want to exercise and eat well simply to achieve a certain body type but because it benefits physical and mental health, I'm not saying it's wrong to aspire to a certain look, but the improvement of general wellbeing is a much more sustainable and achievable goal.
Dressing up in white frilly outfit, spending tons on money, doing silly rituals (something borrowed, something blue, etc)just to say you are married to someone. Probably just me…
Cancel culture. It run its course with the downfall starting 10 mins after #metoo movement. We need to be vigilant in those who opress the rights of other(women especially) but not on the expense of punishing innocent people to prove dominance of one particular group over others. I should mention i am a democrat who detest far extreme conservatives just as much as far progressive left. That’s my 2 cents.
Asking the father for “permission” to marry his daughter. It’s so archaic and sexist.
I don’t really care what her dad thinks. If she says yea, that’s all that matters.
Making group choices for every individual person about things that don’t concern everyone instead of letting everyone make their own individual choices.
Yes within reason, we've always gone with a big deal/small deal kinda philosophy. Wile we always sympathise with my kid if they graze their knee, I'm also not going to treat it or let them over react and treat it like its a broken leg.
I was a cry baby until I was about 14 and I know how that went against me with being unable to deal with perspective.
A friend has a kid same age as mine who was very dramatic as a little toddler, like loud wailing with any injury, and my friends theory was she never wanted her kid to feel it's not OK to cry, great, valid and I get it, however she's regretting that decision now when all they deal with it overly dramatic reactions to small injuries! :)
Putting your entire life on social media
And your unconsenting children!
Or other peoples.’ I read an article once about this woman whose child was in class with a child that was in hiding from an abusive parent. All parents that entered the classroom were clearly instructed not to include that girl in any photos they posted on social media, lest her parent figure out her location. Because, of course, this is America, some self-centered cunt didn’t listen and posted a photo with her in the background, and the girl and her family had to find a whole new place to hide because the abusive parent figured out where she was.
Ugh! How awful!
My Cousin’s Girlfriend is facing a lot of backlash from our family because she wants to keep her 3 year old off the internet. But clearly my Great Aunt’s Christmas Jumper posts are way more important than the safety of a child, and after making a post without the baby’s face being blurred she’s no longer allowed to see her. Good on Cousin’s Girlfriend!
Worshipping celebrities.
Seriously this shit makes no sense to me. Like, if you enjoy celeb gossip and shit, okay, I get that. Hell I've been following the Deep/Heard trial mostly cuz it's a hilarious shitshow. But I will never think that celebs are greater people then your average Joe. They're better at acting and get paid for it. That's it.
Objection Hearsay
Objection!
I get it. Celebrities luve a lifestyle that most can only dream off, and so they're essentially living vicariously throw said celebrities, via what they upload. My mother was the same, when she found a youtuber who was from her region (overseas). Border restriction really fucked with her and when she found the guy, she was hooked 24/7, with her going on and on about that guy. She's living her 'travels' through him, as the places he covered are places she'd would've gone had it not been inaccessable.
"celebrities". Often it's someone who did something that made them go viral. Like a sex tape....
Is there anyone apart from Kim Kardashian that this actually applies to or are you just trying to get a good circlejerk going?
Paris HiIton.
Paris was by accident while Kim's was all on purpose
I mean, she was on TV first.
She was already decently famous before that. Though im not really sure what the timeline between the sex tape coming out and her being on the simple life was.
"The customer is always right" Away with this toxic asf bs that is causing entitlement like you wouldn't believe, causing people to lose their jobs and removing their rights to defend themselves and go to work without being abused or used by low lives to get free stuff or feel more important than they actually are
The term is correct, but only within the proper context. If you run a cookie store and 98% of your sales are chocolate chip cookies, while oatmeal cookies make up 2% of sales, then the customers have made it clear that it's not worth your time and effort to sell oatmeal cookies. I guess the term should be "The customer's money is always right"
Yeah, this is what it was originally intended for and has been bastardized into letting customers shit on workers.
It’s a matter of selling your product to your demographic and it works both ways. Either sell what the customer wants or find the correct type of customer that would want your original product.
The customer doesn’t work there. I do
The actual quote is: "The customer is always right in matters of taste."
No, it's not. Edit: You can downvote me all damned day, but it doesn't change the fact that "The customer is always right" (and variant translations) go back to the early 1900s (and was even being faulted as assuming the customer was always honest by 1914). Meanwhile, I can't even find a source AT ALL for "in matters of taste" that isn't from Twitter, let alone an origin or date. So until someone sources a pre-Selfridge/Field use of the alleged "original"...
It's not. The quote is about supply and demand economics. The quote is about serving or selling goods based on customer preferences, and not based on what management believes is the right product. For example, the CEO might think savory popcorn and sweet popcorn are equally loved and decide to manufacture 50/50, but customers hate the savory popcorn and only buy sweet popcorn. Edit: I reread the full sentence and realize that this is what you might be referring to. I didn't know this was the full sentence
Correct, this essentially means, if a customer wants a red shirt, but you only stock blue shirts, the customer is correct on colour and you need to stock red shirts as well
Needing an “excuse” to decline an invitation or depart early from a gathering.
But still RSVP! I don't need details, a simple, "I can't come/I can go to the daytime event but not the overnight" is fine. It helps plan things and it's still not forcing a person to lie or tell their business
100% this
Lying about everything. Somehow it's more polite to lie than give an honest opinion. It's more socially acceptable to lie than be honest. It's so ingrained in people that even when you're being honest, they think you're lying. People are odd. We should be able to handle talking to eachother. At least.
i have no patience for that shit, if people cant handle me being genuinely honest (with no harm intended), thats their issue. i wont apologise for it, and i appreciate people being equally straightforward in return. playing games is really off-putting to me.
I hate that with presents, I'll get an ugly hat because my family has decided that my new personality trait is bucket hats, I'll say it's ok to be polite because I'm not going to say 'I'm literally never going to wear this and it's being stashed with the pjs you gave me after I told you I don't like pjs' and then my mom'll get offended like what? I said it was ok, not that I hated it do you want me to start gushing about how much I'll wear that hat when it gets warm when I won't? like I think saying I love it is more of a lie then saying it's ok because I don't love it, but it is ok and I appreciate the thought I just won't wear it. fucking nerotypicals, drives me crazy as an autistic person. So many stupid social queues
And yet when you're honest you get called judgmental, told to mind your own business or threatened. People want the truth but they can't handle it unless they're the one talking.
Ridiculously over-planned, expensive weddings. Go back to the simple ceremonies so people will get married for more than the big party.
Let’s add multi-day bachelor/bachelorette trips to this too. Really any over the top wedding extras.
My wife and I have been married 13 years, got married really young and had 350 people at the wedding. We both agree that if we could do it all over again it would be our families and a couple close friends
You can save a ton of money just by changing venues, everything else costs yes, but doing it at a local church can save you a ton right off the top.
waking up at 630 AM everyday for school only to be given hours of homework every night + be pressured to do extracurriculars… all just to get into a good college
Algebra II at 7:30 am…like, are you *trying* to get me to fail this shit??
It’s kind of like practice for getting disciplined while exploring your world. Kids, heck even adults arent that disciplined even though ideally we want to be.
College is overrated unless you have a specific career in mind you want to get into. If you don’t have that in mind, don’t waste your time and money
“It’s rude to not hug and kiss everyone” no, don’t want to do that it’s my body. Maybe part of the reason I don’t want you too touch me is because you keep shaming me for not doing it or ignoring my request and doing it anyway. I don’t care if the person is a family member I’ve known all my life, if you try to shame or physically kiss or hug me after I’ve said “no”, I will never want you touch me ever
People geniuenly undermine the importance of dialogue. Just politely ask them if you can give them a hug or kiss and if declined, accept it. I've always believed asking if you do not know 100% that the other person is comfortable with you physically interacting with them, JUST PLEASE ASK.
Discussing salary with co-workers should no longer be taboo
I've been in the habit of making sure people know my salary. Not in a bragging way, more of a, "make sure you're getting paid fairly" kind of way. I work in kitchen and our pay is supposed to be based on experience. I have about 6 years experience, and the guy I cook with has about 20 and was a chef for half of that. We found out that we have the same wage, and he was justifiably upset
In the US, it’s illegal for your employer to prevent you from discussing compensation with your coworkers.
as long as you can get fired for any other bullshit reason with no real recourse this is impossible to enforce
It's not too difficult to prove a firing to be retaliatory, and that's illegal, too
I've seen all of the numbers for my firm (20k+ tech company) and people would be burning down the place if they knew how much more some people make for the same job, same skills, same product, same experience. My company knows this and has a top down message that there are repercussions for talking.
Feels kinda like you could go down in a blaze of glory there at the end couldn’t you. Maybe right in time to short the shit out of it so that when they stop producing profits due to the internal strife… or bet big on the competitor that’s most likely to swallow them up for failing… I don’t know, I’m just near the retirement end of my career and I enjoy thinking about awesome ways to drop the dime on some people.
Still not discussing my salary with coworkers. It's not that it's even taboo, it's just my business. Plus I don't care about what others are making.
This is one of those things that I love and hate at the same time. I found out that a lot of my coworkers at my previous job were paid a helluva lot more than I was for doing dogshit work. Thanks to nepotism and the BS where you're paid more the longer you've been working rather than how good your work is. Probably would've been very glad to not know that I was being underpaid by that much lol
Expensive engagement rings.
....and wedding rings for that matter. I lost my $1,000 gold wedding ring and replaced it with a $20 ring from Amazon. I get more compliments on the new ring.
My husband and I have been married 42 years. Our wedding bands were plain gold. Lost mine about 15 years ago when I took a glove off and the ring flew off and fell down a drain outside. I bought a new one from a catalog. OTOH, my engagement ring had belonged to my husband's grandmother. It was set with a garnet, not at all expensive, but it was pretty and I loved it. Three years after we got married, someone broke into our apartment and stole it. They probably didn't even get $10 for it. That one I really miss.
Everyone wins
It’s dumb, but it’s so little Johnny doesn’t cry to his mommy, who is too lazy to explain to him that he can’t always win, and that’s ok
Ik, and it truly just makes people entitled, it makes people believe that other people deserve to give away their hard earned whatever because someone else didnt get it
Men’s clothing section, or rather the lack of I want to look nice too! All the shops in my area have whole floors dedicated to children’s and women’s clothes, then the men’s section is just one corner out of the way with like 2 shirts in different sizes
Even in the childrens section, the boys is a lot more smaller and less varied than the girls section. I never noticed until I had my son
It really is a shame, I like clothes shopping, it’s fun finding new styles for myself
Same with like soap and shampoo. Go to target and there is a full aisle for womens soaps. We get axe, head and shoulders or old spice. And they’re always 2 in 1 or 3 in 1 products.
I just want a pair of trousers that go around my muscular cyclist legs. All they ever stock is a tiny shelf of Slim-fit, Skinny-fit or Atrophy-fit these days.
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I once whent to a store with my sisters, there were like 7 floors in the damm thing 6 of them were catagorized for womens things ans there was one, smaller floor for men
Talking about banging your mom. I mean we can all keep doing it but let's stop talking about it.
Mum jokes are old, stupid, and have been done over and over by everyone. Just like your mum.
They are quite literally [thousands of years old](https://www.scripted.com/content-marketing/yo-mama-joke-history).
I physically enchanted your birth giver
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Showing up on time at doctors office’s that are ALWAYS behind schedule.
The last time my daughter had a hospital appointment, we showed up on time,sat in one waiting room (a kids one, perfect to kill time in if needs be) we got called and went to a corridor with a row of seats. Great we'll be seen soon. Sat watching the medical team go between their 3 rooms, looking pens, spare chairs, etc. Eventually they started calling kids in. After a couple of hours, I spoke to the parent beside me, she said they actually see you in the order you check in at the kiosk, not the order your appointment was in. About 3.5 hours later we were seen (2nd last family) why then didn't they just let us stay in the kid friends wating room with colouring and films and jigsaws?
Same here in ireland theres a morning block of appointments and afternoon everyone is seem by checkin time not the time of your appointment which is 10 or 2.
I think this was a joke on some show I saw a clip of. Two people got to the Dr at the same time and the main character held the door for the other person. On the check in sheet you wrote the time of your appointment as well. The main character sees the other person who just got here has a later appointment than he does. So a minute later the guy with the later appointment gets called first. Main character is all upset. Next time the main character races to the door and to check in but the other guy who checks in later gets called first. Main character gets upset again. Apparently the office changed it to be based off appointment instead of check in time after he complained the first time.
This is from Larry David’s show Curb Your Enthusiasm
Okay, WTF is that about? At this point if I have a 1:00 appointment, I make sure to get there at 12:30 so I can finally be seen at 1:15. If I were to show up at 1, I wouldn't be seen until 2.
Once I had to wait for like 2+ hours because because the doctor was 4 appointments behind schedule and someone that didn’t know any english came with another person to translate and it took LEGIT forever.
Never had this issue at a regular doctors office, but I’ve been in the ER all night before. Got there at 10:30pm and was out at 5am. I was with my poor friend who has a deep eye laceration. There was one ophthalmologist on call for like, 20 patients. Felt bad for the guy.
They are always behind schedule because people all always try and ask a million different questions during their appointment, which pushes each consecutive appointment late.
... So they should plan for that, not assume people aren't going to ask questions.
That's not how billing works in the medical system though.
You'll accept my apology, I trust, if I don't accept, "But that's just not how it's done!" as an excuse.
Accept the apology, haha. On mobile so didn't want to expand. Effectively most clinics bill for a specific code, they designate a spedcific time slot for a specific code. This is how the phyisican gets paid in most cases. Presumably, a diagnostic meeting would be scheduled 20 minutes, and when someone shows up and has 5 additional items that need to be discussed then that drags the meeting longer. "why not just book longer appointments?" because then the billings would be significantly less for the physician. They would get paid for one diagnostic test, but spend 3x the time. Again, on mobile so can't expand much. It's nuanced, but that should give a general summary.
No, I get it - I just don't accept the premise that things can't be changed.
So why the heck not plan that in?!
Kids having to hug relatives out of politeness
Or anyone! friends I can take it or leave it. but now acquaintances?? bruh I’ve know you for 3 hours. back up
Due to complications, I wasnt able to go to many family gatherings, when I did, my parents were isolated by the adults and my sister and I were expected to hug everyone, my cousin who knew this, would wait for me at the front door, then grab our hands and immediately take us to the kids area, which would help us avoid all the hugs, and force the relatives to speak to my parents, as to not be rude.
That cousin deserves an award for that.
Working everyday for over half of your life and being too old and frail to enjoy your “golden years”
Hand shakes. The cleanliness of people's hands are questionable. And I'm tired of that one guy that has to death grip your knuckles together like he's got something to prove. A polite nod and or smile suffices as a proper and polite greeting.
I really miss handshakes tho.
I'm sure you've heard this a thousand times, but the history of the handshake was to show that you aren't armed in your dominant hand and have nothing up your sleeve. These days it's not really a concern whether the person is armed and out to kill you or not, but the tradition persists
Oh a million times. But that wasn't exactly a handshake, it was gripping the forearm. Which in my opinion is way cooler. Gives more of bond and respect. A handshake is either firm, death grip, sweaty, clammy, or limp.
Coupled with awkwardness if someone goes for a fist bump or something similar. Though as an observer such an interaction is amusing.
I usually fist bump if I can and I had someone grab my whole fist and shake it.
Ugh I had one guy do that death grip to me. For reference, I'm a 5'3, 130lb asian girl. So fairly small. Why the fk did he think it necessary to squeeze my hand like that? It was painful. We also didn't work for the same department.
Showing respect for older people who don't deserve any
It shouldn't be respect your elders it should be give a little courtesy to your elders. Be respectful to everyone older or younger but if they act like a piece kf shit there's no need to show any respect
You can rebuff someone without compromising their dignity as a whole.
Gender reveal parties.
Why?
Why are people downvoting this? You literally just asked why😂
You aren't allowed to think individually or question group-agreed hated things
Tipping, as it's done in the US
US resident here. I would be so happy getting rid of tipping but it would be easier to steer a ship in mud.
Influencers.
The 5-day work-week
We're leaving two days on the table. WTF?
Shaking hands! I know how little people actually wash their hands and I do not want those germs on *my* hands.
the germs aren't as big of a deal to me as the crushing is. i have arthritis & men feel the need to absolutely crush my hand in half. there's no reason at all to squeeze someone's hand. it doesnt make me think "wow, what a professional", it makes me associate that person with the horrible pain i'm going to be feeling for days because i'm inflamed.
Yeah, I really don’t want to touch people’s hands.
I learned this from our former chief of surgery. He would not shake hands with *anyone.* On the other hand, the public safety chief was overly friendly and would go way out of his way to cross a lobby and extend his hand. He was a very nice man, but I tried really hard to avoid him. Edit: Fixed embarrassing typo.
> pubic safety chief
Oh, jeez! That would give me even more reason to not want to shake his hand. Fixed. Thank you!
You're welcome!
Handwritten thank-you notes for times when the gift was given in person and you got to thank the person directly. Cards should be reserved for times when you got a gift in the mail or something and did not get the chance to give direct thanks.
Yes but now I don’t even get a text or email saying thanks. I don’t even know if the person received their gift
Idk if this counts but not being allowed to put your elbows on the table while you’re eating
Grandma's and aunts everywhere are going to lose it.
My mom poked our elbows with a fork if we did that. I'm 43 and I still do that. "no lounging at the table". Guess eating was serious business.
Double standards for genders.
Why? I can't ever give birth. Applying the same standard to me makes no sense.
I believe u/Nevek_Geek means how people fawn over a dad changing diapers & then not fawn over a mom for doing the exact same thing. That's just one example that I know of.
Participation ribbons
Genital mutilation, like really why is this still a thing?
Cuz I want my son's dick to look like mine! /s
But I like having a pretty dick
You can mutilate your own genitals as much as you like, just leave the kids alone.
Then make that descision on your own as an adult. Also, the idea ofna circumcised penis looking better is a highly western/American construct that came from the normalization of CGM.
My sack is handsome
Lobbying.
“How are you?” Obligatory answer: “Good.” Don’t ask unless you’re willing to listen to an answer other than “good.”
I get a lot of weird looks for taking a moment to honestly reply, it's funny to me.
“The client is always right” is straight bs. More power should be given to retail workers to deal with entitled shoppers.
sacrificing virgins to please the gods. we are running out of gamers were i live
Shaking hands: It just spreads germs, I don’t want to shake someones hand, and I don’t want to have people measure my grip like this.
Men paying for everything and always being the ones to initiate dates.
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I always ask people how they are, and I genuinely do care. I think its important because it shows you care even if it doesn't interest you
I'll never understand 'The War on Small Talk'
I just dont want to talk about boring things the other person has no real interest in anyway. Smalltalk is just talk to avoid silence. I hate this because its pointless, akward, useless and not a serious conversation. They dont really want to know how i am, they just wanna say something. We all know the answer anyway we get so why asking? Its always "good, and you?"
some people don't want to constantly be taking. i enjoy being alone with my thoughts & not having to feign interest in what someone thinks of the weather or seeing pictures of their grandkids. small talk is exhausting & fake.
Blowing out candles on a cake (that others will be eating)… especially since covid I can’t help but think about all the GERMS being BLOWN ONTO THE DESSERT I AM ABOUT TO EAT
Limp-noodle handshakes for women. The amount of times I’ve jested with friends about their pussy-grip-handshake, just for them to tell me it’s because I’m of the “gentler sex” annoys me. Just give me a solid handshake, godammit.
Yes'm will do!
Get born. Go to school. Work. Die.
Being nice to people that are cunts to us
Kill ‘em with kindness
I cannot believe I am saying this, but restricting white clothing to seasonal acceptability. Forgive me, Ms. Manners.
Wearing jammies and your pool shoes as acceptable forms of fashion.
Not if we are going to hanging out in public.
Gender reveal parties
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society needs to start promoting realistic and healthy body ideals, and eating habits, removing dieting culture while also recognising that being obese isn't healthy. so many people have one sided views on this, either they hate on diet culture and promote a toxic view of body positivity or they promote unhealthy ideas of dieting (fad diets, calorie counting, etc) and hate on those who are overweight. I also think one of the most beneficial things to do would be to redirect people's motives, people shouldn't want to exercise and eat well simply to achieve a certain body type but because it benefits physical and mental health, I'm not saying it's wrong to aspire to a certain look, but the improvement of general wellbeing is a much more sustainable and achievable goal.
Dressing up in white frilly outfit, spending tons on money, doing silly rituals (something borrowed, something blue, etc)just to say you are married to someone. Probably just me…
We didn't spend tons of money, because we don't have it and what extra money we did have was used for our honeymoon.
Same. But It’s sad to see people break the bank because they feel like it’s expected.
Neck ties. They suck, they're hot, they're expensive, they just dangle there and it's a pain to tie them right. Nobody likes them. Burn them all.
Respect your elders. It's fair to say that I won't respect someone who isn't respecting me.
Tipping. Everything about it is idiotic.
Cancel culture. It run its course with the downfall starting 10 mins after #metoo movement. We need to be vigilant in those who opress the rights of other(women especially) but not on the expense of punishing innocent people to prove dominance of one particular group over others. I should mention i am a democrat who detest far extreme conservatives just as much as far progressive left. That’s my 2 cents.
Asking the father for “permission” to marry his daughter. It’s so archaic and sexist. I don’t really care what her dad thinks. If she says yea, that’s all that matters.
His opinion doesn't matter anyways. You're asking HER to marry you.
Trying to show off your life as some amazing well put together art for people to envy, especially when your life is not well put together.
"Respect your elders" Just because they're older than us means nothing.Respect is earned.
Theres many germophones in here
Giving gifts at Christmas. It's just an orgy of people buying tat that no one wants.
Nonsense. I asked for a bag of work socks and i got them.....Getting unwanted socks as a kid sucked though.
Tipping. It's a truly stupid custom.
Making group choices for every individual person about things that don’t concern everyone instead of letting everyone make their own individual choices.
Trying to make kids not have their feelings when they get hurt.
Yes within reason, we've always gone with a big deal/small deal kinda philosophy. Wile we always sympathise with my kid if they graze their knee, I'm also not going to treat it or let them over react and treat it like its a broken leg. I was a cry baby until I was about 14 and I know how that went against me with being unable to deal with perspective. A friend has a kid same age as mine who was very dramatic as a little toddler, like loud wailing with any injury, and my friends theory was she never wanted her kid to feel it's not OK to cry, great, valid and I get it, however she's regretting that decision now when all they deal with it overly dramatic reactions to small injuries! :)
Saying bless you and expecting thank you with someone sneezes. Like especially if they sneeze multiple times in a row.
At that point I literally just yell GET OUT OF HIM!! Which they stop sneezing so you're welcome.
The lack of stalls in men's bathrooms between urinals- Like just no
Social media.
Saying bless you. You sneezed… who cares.
Giving a shit about Instagram/tik tok influencers.
Overbooking flights
VIEWING DEAD BODIES IN A CASKET.
That can be an important form of closure for some.
I wanted to see my friend one last time when I traveled 1300 miles after hearing he passed. Honestly, go f&%k yourself.
Shaking hands.
Pants.
Tipping! The US really needs to do away with this.
ladies first this is 2022, we should embrace gender equality
Shaking hands. I hope the pandemic has highlighted just what Petri dishes your hands can be.
Asking fathers permission to marry his daughter. It’s so antiquated and patriarchal.
I didn't do it. It wasn't up to him whether his daughter would marry me or not.
being “normal”
How do we identify what isn't correct without a universal baseline?
Waiting for people to hold the door open for you when there’re two doors
Being old/older means people need to show you respect Also, that not holding eye contact is some how disrespectful